Relationships

Have a Wonderful Holiday!

Joanna Goddard family

Happy holidays! Hope you’re having a fun week. I wanted to thank you again for reading over the past year, whether you check in every day or now and again. I’m so grateful for all the smart, funny thoughts and comments. We’ll be visiting family in California over the next week — and posting photos on Instagram — but in meantime here’s a look back over the past year on Cup of Jo, if you’d like to see…

A Week of Outfits: Aminatou Sow and Ann Friedman From Call Your Girlfriend

Fashion posts, like our week of outfits series, including a shoe designer, biologist and the awesome hosts of the Call Your Girlfriend podcast. (Also, Toby:) Plus, the hunt for a wedding dress, five things I’ve worn a million times, a relaxed-but-sexy top, and six readers’ real-life work wardrobes. We also made shoes and threw a party!

Linda Rodin

Beauty posts, such as a perfume smell test, eyelash extensions, Stella’s trick for glowing skin, five travel beauty secrets, and our beauty uniform series — like the inspiring Clair Farley, vibrant Afzaa Motiwala, hilarious Julie O’Rourke and style icon Linda Rodin.

Tater Tots for Entertaining

Food posts, like five-ingredient dinners, what people actually eat for lunch (including Stella’s $2 salad), the joy of eating at a restaurant alone, throwing a simple dinner party, and a surprising appetizer. We also challenged Deb from Smitten Kitchen to show us the best things to grab at a New York deli. (She’s a genius!)

Kendra Smoot

Travel posts, including city guides, 16 tips for traveling with kids, a work trip to Paris and a family vacation in Italy, photos of the Women’s March, the funniest travel pillows, moving away from home, a treat for your houseguests and our winter guide to NYC.

Nina Cosford

Relationship posts, such as a secret to a happy marriage, figuring out female anatomy, the best part of weddings, running into an ex, when you weigh more than your partner, happy couples who sleep in separate bedrooms, what you’d do differently at your wedding and how to have an orgasm. Plus, a more serious post on sexual harassment. (The comments were incredible.)

Lucy and Ethel

Friendship posts, including making new friends as an adult, what to say when someone is grieving, talking to friends about money, thoughts on aging and Mari Andrew’s weekly cartoon. We also started two new series: readers’ pressing questions and the greatest reader comments.

Joanna Goddard's Brooklyn Apartment Home Tour

Design and decor posts, like our Brooklyn apartment, a treehouse in D.C., a colorful townhouse, and 15 more house tours from the past year. Plus, how to choose where to live, our 2017 holiday gift guide and, of course, lots of fun things.

Alfred Hitchcock reading a book

Culture posts, such as the best Instagram accounts (including seven women who just get it), the particular pleasure of rewatching TV series, swapping books with your partner, thrilling books and shows, five magazines we can’t put down, and six brilliant podcasts.

Toby and Anton in Conversation

Motherhood posts, including what surprised me most about parenting, a pep talk for pregnant women, what to register for your baby, how to teach kids consent, raising a transgender child, one couple’s infertility journey, Toby and Anton in conversation, and, of course, our annual Motherhood Around the World series — including Namibia and Italy.

Thank you again for everything! We’ll be back here on January 3rd with a hair tutorial, a post on having an only child, and soup-to-nuts exciting-not-scary finance guide to kick off 2018. (Please let us know if there’s anything else you’d like us to tackle.) Have a wonderful, relaxing holiday and a happy new year. Lots of love, as always. xoxoxo

(Fashion photo by Nicki Sebastian; Linda Rodin photo by Sasha Israel; tater tots photo by Yossi Arefi; travel photo by Kendra Smoot; wedding illustration by Nina Cosford; apartment photo by Alpha Smoot.)

  1. Alexandra Paty Diaz says...

    Feliz Navidad, Fiestas y Año Nuevo Cup of Jo Team and community!
    I don’t know if you go back to read old post’s comments but I have been thinking what I will like to see more on my favorite blog which is already perfecto! I wouldn’t change a thing., but I think there is a room to add a series. A series about immigrant women. Regardless of age, race, level of education or job, mom or not, to be an woman immigrant is challenging and I believe in your blog, as you do the abroad maternity series or the style series, you can do amazing profiles/interviews/articles about how women overcome the challenge, motivation, what they learnt about themselves and there new home place, but also how are they finding there own space in a new society with it challenges. Also, we could learn from there hometowns and the new place they are calling home.
    !!!!!!
    Ale

  2. Thanks, Joanna and crew, for filling the pages of this blog each day–such a bright spot when I see a new post. Your content is fresh and the tune so respectful and yet playful. I’d always love more travel content, one of my favorite subjects! It might be fun to hear how different women plan trips at different budget levels!

    • tone*

  3. Carolynn says...

    Could you please review magnetic eye lashes? Thanks!

  4. Katey says...

    YES to the finance post — the more the better! Maybe after the nuts and bolts one you could dive deeper into topics like paying down debt, investing and saving for retirement, separate versus combined finances in a relationship, money saving hacks that add up over time, and everything in between (there is so much!).

    Also, two other topics on top of mind: 1) Divorce (personal essays with some practical tips for self-care and moving through the process with grace) and 2) Mental health (specifically dealing with a partner/family member’s mental health issues and how to take care of yourself and create boundaries in this kind of relationship).

    Also, another topic that I don’t think has ever been discussed here is domestic abuse (physical, verbal, emotional). It happens to more women (and men) than you’d like to think, including well educated, professional, financially stable ones (which is why I think it would be an interesting topic for this audience because I would wager a good portion of your readers fit this demographic).

    Thank you and very much look forward to reading here in 2018!

  5. Carrie says...

    I second the request for more inclusion of disability, whether it be in your fashion posts or standalone topics. Disability always seems to be shunned, forgotten or ignored when people talk about diversity or aim to be more diverse/inclusive. I’m a lawyer who is also blind and deaf, and there are a lot of other women like me out there who live with disability without shame.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      Absolutely, Carrie! Thank you so much for the feedback.

    • I love that idea, Carrie!

    • nadine says...

      Thank you Carrie!

  6. I love your photographs, especially the one of the beach

  7. Jessica says...

    Happy New Years! My suggestion is a post on adoption. I am an adoptive mom with an open adoption. We are very close to our sons’ birth mom and would like to hear from other adoptive families. Thanks!

  8. nadine says...

    Love the year round up! Thank you Jo and to all the team (and commenters) for creating this space! I come back almost every day and I love the gracious and mindful approach to light and important matters of life.

  9. Jessica says...

    Hope you all have a great holiday. Did we ever get to find out what dress the wedding dress picker picked?? I must have missed the post.

    I’d like a post on navigating old friendships when there are big money discrepancies–I have such close high school friends but some are in million dollar homes while others are scraping by. Money in general…the last frontier. Touchier than sex.

  10. Leah says...

    Thanks, Cup of Jo, for being a place of peace, love and joy for this reader. Wishing you all a very happy holiday season! As the mom of an only, I can’t wait for that piece next week.

    • Rosa says...

      My husband and I are deciding this at this very moment, whether we have another one or stay with an only child. I feel what’s right for our family but LOVE reading about other families with only one child

  11. Brenda from Ottawa, Ontario, Canada says...

    Thank you so much for another year of outstanding content. I read weekly and I would be lost without my Cup of Jo breaks. I hope that you are very very proud of what an accomplishment you have with Cup of Jo!!!

  12. I love how this blog touches on a little bit of everything! Can’t wait for the posts in 2018.

  13. Michelle says...

    I am weighing whether or not to undergo IVF treatments or begin the adoption process. Any insight on either from my favorite blog would be so appreciated. Thank you Cup of Jo team for everything you do and happy holidays!

    • Jessica says...

      Michelle, I was in your exact position a few years back. We chose adoption and are now parenting two sweet boys. Sending you my best and a small piece of advice. I trusted my intuition and instincts stronger than I ever had before in the many decisions that led to our family. Xo.

  14. Merry Christmas to Jo and all the team! I have been reading and writing blogs for ten years, and this is still the only one I go to every single day no matter where I am or what device I have with me.
    In regards to upcoming posts – so glad you are doing some on money. Can one of those focus on coming back from a bankruptcy? Yes, there are tons of articles on the subject, but maybe some new ideas and fresh ways to rebuild credit?
    Thanks so much for always producing great content and seeing every point of view.
    xoxo
    Elizabeth

  15. Kate says...

    Happy Holidays CoJ Team! Thanks for sharing yourselves with us!

    I’d love to see some relationship posts focused on navigating significant cultural and religious differences.

  16. Celeste says...

    Happy new year. I’m completely rebuilding finances in 2018 using the 50-30-20 method. I can’t believe how I spent in 2017.

  17. Girl, you have the greatest website. Thank you so so so freaking much.

  18. Thank you for this roundup of articles! Looking forward to checking out quite a few while I have my morning coffee :)

  19. Tracey says...

    Something I think would be interesting is interviews with “the village”. I don’t feel called to be a mother but I am enamoured with being an Aunty. I only have one niece and one nephew biologically but I have 13 (soon to be 14) tiny humans that call me Aunty Tracey and I could not be happier about this. So I’m sure there’s some Grandmas, uncles, babysitters, teachers, shop assistants and neighbours for example that would have some pretty sweet connections to little people that might be lovely to hear about.

    • Laura says...

      Um, yes, mainly because I need and want a “village” and would love to know more about how to find/build one!

  20. Elle says...

    I would love to see more posts about people with disabilities. As I find myself spending more time with people that are candid about their (or a family member’s) disability it makes me curious & want to see them portrayed in mainstream media as well (e.g. the tv show speechless). I would love a peek into their quaint apartment or see who their role models are.

  21. Katrina says...

    A post about age-difference relationships would be great. My partner is significantly older than me. We’re extremely happy but we’ve hit some hurdles recently when discussing those big questions in life; marriage, children, living together. I would really love to hear from your readers who may be in similar relationships. Your posts are enlightening and my go-to place for help and advice from this amazing online community. Thank-you so much.

  22. Megan Lec says...

    I would love to read a post on the tug of war between being a new mom and finding yourself as a woman, wife, worker again. With so many aspirational mom bloggers on instagram, it can feel like you are the only woman in the world thinking, I love being a mom but i miss being me too.

  23. Stacie says...

    Yay! I love your end of the year round ups. And Can’t Wait for the finance post. It would also be great to see more about working moms (teachers, non-profit driven careers?). I don’t know where I’m going with this, really, but maybe I just always enjoy reading more about moms like me who are attachment parenting and working in a field where you don’t make a lot of money but find your job super rewarding and also love being a mom. My daughter is almost 1 and it’s hard to find a community on IG of moms who simply need to work because it’s not in the cards to stay at home (financially). Hmmm, there I go rambling again! Haha. Anyway, I’m looking forward to what you ladies are bringing in 2018! (:

    • Leni says...

      Would love to read about this as well! I just went back to work as a teacher after a year of maternity leave (I live in Germany).
      Happy new year to you all, I am looking forward to another year filled with great posts, I check your site every day and read everything :)

  24. Madi says...

    Merry Christmas & best wishes to the CoJ team! I’ve been thinking a lot about having FUN- spontaneous & silly- in my day-to-day life. I’d love to read out low-cost, low-planning ideas for how to make life an adventure.

  25. Merry Christmas! says...

    Am I the only one sad that Christmas isn’t mentioned but rather as a holiday? We wouldn’t want to offend anyone, of course! Late Merry Christmas everyone!! And have a Happy New Year !!

    • Elizabeth R says...

      I did not read the lack of Christmas as sad. I am not sure what Jo and her family and team believes personally. I know she did have a Christmas tree but those are pretty secular. Regardless of what she believes or does not believe, her readership base is a VERY diverse group who likely believes all sorts of different things. I don’t believe there was offense meant. I think Happy Holidays is a kind, inclusive statement backed with plenty of goodwill. That being said, Merry Belated Christmas and a Happy New Year.

  26. Maria says...

    Have a relaxing and refreshing break! I would love to read more posts about consumerism, buying less, minimalism, etc., when it comes to fashion and beauty, parenting, and whatever else. I just read the no-shopping for a year article you linked last Friday and I’m so inspired.

  27. Mia says...

    Thank you! A post on the different types of post partum mood disorders would be great. I had post partum anxiety (which is super normal, as it turns out, even more common than post partum depression), but didn’t diagnose it for ages because I couldn’t find the right resources). I’ve learned that there’s PPA, PTSD, PPD, OCD and other common and widespread disorders that occur after birth due to hormone fluctuations etc. Spreading the gospel via Cupofjo would really help other moms too!

    • Lana says...

      Hi, Mia! I just had my third baby on Dec 7th, and bc my midwife suggested an anti-anxiety medication it’s the first post pregnancy that I haven’t suffered from anxiety. It’s unreal how much better I feel and how I’m enjoying having a newborn for the first time! So, I agree that this would be an awesome post. So many women suffer in silence and it makes an unbelievably hard time even more challenging.

  28. Amanda says...

    As the mom of an only child I’m excited for the only child post! Thank you so much for bringing the conversation to topics that need more light shed on them. You ladies always do it with such grace and support! This blog is so thoughtful, intelligent and fun and never fails to lift my spirits. Thank you! Wishing you all a very happy and prosperous new year!

  29. Thank you Joanna, Stella, Megan, and Ashley for being my little happy place! I love that I can find you every day, no matter where I am, for something fun, pretty, or thoughtful to think about. I can’t say how many times this blog and the things I read about here has come up in conversation since I began reading ten years ago. I don’t know how you do it!

    That could be fun to read, actually… I know you touched on it a little in your Man Repeller interview, Joanna, but maybe each of you on the team could write a little on how you keep things fresh for yourself at work and in your careers. Some of you have been at COJ for years, others for a few months, but each of you have been in your line of work for a little while and I’d love to know what little work rituals you have at lunch time to take a break, how you celebrate small successes, who you go to for advice/support, how you come up with new ideas, etc. It could be a fun refresh of your work/life balance posts from after Toby was born!

    Happy holidays/new year and thanks for all you do!

    • I FORGOT LEXI! thank you, too!

  30. Savannah says...

    I am so ready for a series on money! Let’s normalize it already!

    • Alice says...

      me too!

  31. Kristen M says...

    My mom, sis and I were talking today about how perfect this blog is. Smart, full of heart and honest. We joked about how many things we eat/buy/do/read bc we read it here. Xo and Happy Holidays!

  32. Cody says...

    Have you ever heard of thr Korean drama “The Package” (as in package trip)? It’s a hilarious love story but the best part is that the entire series is filmed in France. So beautiful & romantic, but silly in the best K-drama style! I watched it on dramafever.

  33. Liz C says...

    Merry Christmas and Happy New Year! I check in every day to read your amazing blog!! I would love a post about anxiety – best ways to deal with it. Thank you!!!

  34. Merry Christmas to you and your family and the Cup of Jo Team. Thanks so much for another enjoyable read.

  35. Amelia says...

    Ahhhh I’m very excited about the only child post – a question very much on my mind right now! Happy New Year!

    • Stacie says...

      Me, too! My husband and I talk about this all the time as our daughter turns 1 soon. I’m excited to hear the perspective!

  36. Tara says...

    Happy holidays!!! Thank you for creating such awesome content it’s a place I go to visit(read) every day. Looking to next year it’d be nice to continue the conversation on not buying things for a year( or certain period of time) and interviews from those that have done this. Oh, I also love the home tours and week of outfits fashion posts.

  37. Maywyn says...

    Merry Holidays to You & Yours!
    Thank you for another wonderful blog reading year!

  38. Happy Holidays to the Cup of Jo team! Thankful this little space exists on the internet. xo

  39. Deborah says...

    Merry Christmas to you and your team and thank you for brightening each day! Have a wonderful holiday with your family. Xx