Design

Have a Great (Long) Weekend.

What are you up to this weekend? We are actually flying to L.A. tomorrow! We’ll be visiting Alex’s mom and soaking up some California sunshine. I’m also packing this new book for the plane; I’ve read great reviews, so I’m excited to crack it. Hope you have a good one, and here are a few fun posts from around the web…

This illustrator drew on the walls of her apartment.

My grandmother’s rule for love.

Good news: Dermstore is having a huge sale on everything, including Meghan Markle’s beloved mascara.

25 awesome icebreaker questions.

Have you seen Be Right Back? I can’t stop thinking about it.

An Olympian’s techniques for staying calm under pressure. “I used to go out in competition and be like, ‘The weight of world is on my shoulders.’ To get a sense of reality and the things that actually matter in life, I’ll go to my coaches and ask how their family is doing. It reminds me that life is so much bigger than the arena I’m in.” (His Twitter feed is also amazing.)

Six delicious restaurants in New York City.

The sound of skating on thin ice. Yikes!

What a cute T-shirt.

Seven ways to break up with your cell phone. (Loved #1.)

Digging these napkins.

Plus, a great reader comment:

Says Kate on an accidental wedding dress: “I was married in a rose-colored dress, am now divorced but count my ex-husband among my closest family members, and am in a monogamous (unmarried) long-term relationship and full-time parent to my partner’s two step-kids. On the day I got married in that beautiful rose dress, I never, ever would have predicted that a decade later I would find myself here, living a completely different life. And so I offer you this: There will be many milestones but no conclusions. The feeling of being settled is a transient one — regardless of whether we remain married to one person ’til death do us part or spend our lives single, stability comes and goes, and any belief to the contrary is an illusion. There is at once no answer and always an answer: It exists right here, in this essay, inside yourself, in the people you love and places you go and the work you do. You are the answer, the one constant in the cornucopia of happily-ever-afters that will most likely exist within the span of your lifetime. So, let’s let go of the idea that there is one happy ending and celebrate the many happy endings, the shapes of each other’s lives and the many shapes of our own. And let’s do it in whatever damn dress (or jeans or pajamas) makes us feel most like ourselves.”

Have a good one. xoxo

(Photo by Teresa Yang Fung. Illustrator’s apartment via Sarah Jampel. Icebreakers via Jocelyn Glei.)

Relationships

A Moment of Silence

Joanna Goddard and Anton

After the school shooting in Parkland, Florida, yesterday, we want to take a day of silence on Cup of Jo.

Yesterday, a single person killed at least 17 people, including children and adults. As Jason Kottke pointed out, more than 33,000 people die from gun violence each year, and guns that can fire dozens of rounds a minute are legal.

It’s hard to know what to say after such a devastating tragedy. When I dropped Toby and Anton off at school this morning, and they scampered into their classrooms, my heart broke for the families of the victims. How would you even begin to survive the loss of your child? Sending so much love to everyone who was directly affected, and those in grief today.

And yet. Here are five ways to help, including giving blood (no matter where you live) and donating money to reputable organizations. We donated to the victims’ fund, as well as Everytown for Gun Safety to fight for common sense gun laws. Please let us know if you have other ideas of how to help.

Three articles worth reading:
The United States of Guns
How to Reduce Shootings
After Sandy Hook

“Let’s get started and save lives,” writes Nicholas Kristof. “Let’s not accept that school classrooms can turn any moment into war zones.”

Lots of love, as always. xoxo