Have a Lovely Weekend.

Absolutely agree. Thank you for saying this.

If it’s a safe space why can’t people air views that don’t support Harry and Meghan? Not in a nasty way of course but this being a safe space doesn’t mean we all have to be on their side. We should be safe to air our views, whatever they are, in a respectful way and not be judged if we don’t agree with H&M.

Thank you Sasha L. Agree with all YOU said!

I agree Saddened. I think people need to look at these two as human beings with feelings.

Meghan’s experience shows (again) that no matter how much money or privilege you have as a BIPOC not only can you not escape racism, you can’t escape people imputing wrong motives as to why you are sharing your perspective and defending yourself, you can’t escape people who try to gaslight you by saying you’re being oversensitive, a whiner and a narcissist and you can’t escape people who will gladly gloss over the fact racism is a daily damaging struggle that many people face because acknowledging it would be too awkward for them.

Even though Harry is Caucasian he’s faced and is continuing to face bad press and be called horrible things as well because he is determined to stand up for his wife and son. I bet if Meghan looked like a quintessential English Rose this would be a non-issue.

Sad. Just. Sad

“Two millionaires complaining to a billionaire how hard their life is”…. please…. And during a global pandemic.

Thank you Whitney. You nailed exactly how it feels!

So the baby feels safe? So you wake when they need you? Close proximity to a boob? Normal in most of the world, healthy especially if talked about and done safely.

Because, as we say here,
Goodforhergoodforhergoodforher
Notformenotformenotformenotforme

:-)

Kate, I’m with ya. I can’t tell how old the child is, but academy of american pediatrics does not endorse co sleeping with infants. It should be a separate surface but can be in the same room.

Here’s why I did: I had read Dr Nils Bergen and Dr James McKenna’s work on mother baby attachment and mother baby safe sleep and it was the best choice for us. I experienced good sleep (most of the time I was very well rested as a new mom), a great experience breastfeeding (never had supply issues or any problems whatsoever), a strong and secure bond with my babies, who were great sleepers and never cried at night. Plus so many wonderful loving moments together.

I was careful to follow guidelines about safely bedsharing with infants: no alcohol or drugs, no smoking, healthy babies, no covers, no obesity or very long hair. I felt much safer being right there with my babies, especially knowing the science of how babies bodies become in synch with mother’s bodies – their hearts and breathing are cued by ours. The science is fascinating and very reassuring.

Also, important to some people, especially those who may be struggling financially: you need way less stuff when you bedshare. We’re didn’t have a baby room/nursery, crib, bassinet, pack n play, monitor, special things to sleep like merlin suits or swaddles or sleep sacks or Snoos or rock n plays or cradles. Truly we could’ve gotten by with a car seat and some clothes that’s it. It’s not a small thing for those without the means to outfit a baby to a middle class standard, or for those in a tiny space, or for those who just don’t want to devote a whole room to an infant.

Such strong feelings about this Oprah interview.

I’m surprised by people’s reactions.

We live in a world where almost everyone tells their own stories. We follow/subscribe to some, and not others.

The need to take such a strong stance about something and someone we know very little about is weird to me. If it doesn’t concern you, you don’t need to follow it.

Meghan and Harry seem like they want to tell their story (instead of other people telling it for them). They are allowed to do that. Why you feel like you have to be team queen or team H/M (and before the interview even comes out) is beyond me.

A side note, as a biracial black woman myself, I think it’s important for Meghan to have the opportunity to tell her own story herself. Racism and oppression are real, and the narrative around her since the beginning has been racist. I don’t care how much Team Elizabeth anyone is. A black woman (who was subject to that much racism) should be allowed to talk, and people who are trying to be anti-racist, ought to listen.

Well said. It seems completely disingenuous to me that Harry and Meghan have moved to the US to escape the (actually vile) media scrutiny in the UK and live privately only to agree to an interview with Oprah.

Woooow the misogyny and imperialism is strong with this one!

Well I do think your queen has some flaws. Role model? I’m not so sure. Are you aware of Aberfan? Her reaction was pretty stunning to that disaster. She delayed recognition and couldn’t even go to see it for herself. 116 children and 28 adults died from that disaster. Are you aware of her position on placing Harry and William behind their mothers casket for the walk to her service. They were children. It has clearly impacted them to this day. Elizabeth’s reaction to Diana’s passing was pretty cold as well. Not British, just cold.
I agree in that I don’t need to watch the interview. There are way bigger issues in the world going on. Their issues are a family matter. Every family has them. As someone who has split off from my family I say good for them. Clearly there was a reason, a build up of ongoing issues not appropriately addressed. They felt it was healthier to leave and I applaud them. Is it ever one sided? No, of course not. I’m sure they have some responsibility in it and so does the queen.

I SO agree. I ( obviously like millions of others) am losing precious years of not being able to see my family or traveling to places I had hoped to go before I died.
They swan all over on a whim and we all chip in for the privilege of having them grace our space. I’m sure glad they ended up in L.A and not Canada.

So well said Naseem.

Same here. I find it fascinating that all those who gush over Harry and Meghan are acceptable but those who don’t are not and are accused of misogyny or imperialism. I come from a country that got rid of the imperial yoke after 200 years of it but I still have very little time for this pair. I am brown and have experienced racism and agree that Meghan experienced it and wrongly but I still find the couple’s need for publicity annoying. Let’s all agree to disagree, respectfully of course.

Face it – root canals are such an utter relief from the pain of a bad tooth that they are marvelous, just marvelous things to have done. And I have always liked going to the dentist, I like the squeaky clean teeth I leave with.

For what it is worth, my English-major best friend graduated college into a job paying her 100k a year, now much higher. Another Chemistry-major friend’s first job was at 40k a year as a research coordinator. English majors get a bad rep, but college and post-grad opportunities are really what you make of it!

Love this, Kate!

@Kate was your friend’s job related to her English major?
I also have a friend that was an English major that makes over 150K now, but the job was via college classmate connections, and while I think her grasp of language is no doubt helpful, I’m sure she could have also majored in nearly any other department and been hired for the job. As in, the skills she learned to be competent on the job had nothing to do with academia.

The only perk of college these days seems to be the chance to socialize with a horde of other young adults for an extended period time without any “supervision.” Otherwise, there’s many degrees these days that are just expensive certificates to say you are a college graduate. And then they saddle you with student loans.

@Karen Gotta agree with Kate. I’m an English major who makes double what my biomedical-engineer sister makes—while writing for a living, I should add—so I think this advice is a little misguided.

I majored in English and though I’m not doing a traditionally “English” job now I do credit a lot of my successes in and out of my career to my education! It’s a gift I’ll never take for granted. I was also very fortunate to have several family members chip in for tuition (the times being a child of divorced parents comes in handy!), so the financial burden wasn’t mine alone to bear. Still, I’m so glad I did it!

I’m confused by your logic. If your daughters don’t want to major in something that will have immediate financial benefits for them, you’d prefer that they graduate high school, not go to college, and then do what? What alternatives do you envision them having at age 18 besides having to get a minimum-wage job? How is that better than going to college and majoring in something non-STEM/business/engineering?

I just want to chime in.. my friends who took hard sciences..biology, or chemistry etc. who didn’t get into medical school or a post grad degree, had the hardest time finding jobs after university. Some of them did research assistant jobs which are often precarious and low paid. Agree with Kate, it’s what you make of post-grad opportunities. A degree in science won’t guarantee you a good job.

The idea that STEM majors give you amazing high-paying jobs out of the gate is a complete myth. For most sciences, you need to get a PhD to make any money, and even then there is such an oversaturation of science PhDs that many can’t find jobs (particularly in academia). I’m a chemistry major and if I wasn’t going into k-12 teaching I would have to find some low-paying lab assistant job in pharmaceuticals. Even most engineering majors need to go to graduate school. The only STEM major that delivers in the high-paying job front these days is maybe computer science.

I love that book. She also has her own podcast and it is equally wonderful.

I didn’t know she had a podcast as well. Thank you for the info! I’ll definitely check it out.

Hilarious!

I totally sympathize! If it makes you feel better, I got wireless earbuds that were touted as fitting EVERYONE — even people with hard-to-fit ears! — and I, out of whose ears a staggering succession of earbuds has tumbled, took the bait, and sallied out for a walk, only to find within five minutes that my earbuds had fallen into my hood, and thence, along with my phone, into an icy puddle. Sanity 0, earbuds 1.

This is a type of drugstore ear plug that is made of wax – horrible as an earplug for me but perhaps useful if you roll a little snake of it around your earbuds to help snug the fit? Cheap and easily refreshed as it sees wear,