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Have a Lovely Weekend.

photo by Natasja Sadi

What are you up to this weekend? I’ve been reading Everything I Never Told You by Celeste Ng and really enjoying it. (Staying up way too late to finish chapters!) Hope you have a good one — stay warm — and here are a few links from around the web…

Love the sleeve on this pretty sweater.

Scandinavian trends to make life feel good. (New Yorker)

What it’s like to sleep with a baby.

How pretty is this living room arch?

Chicken rice looks delicious.

A new Reese’s Peanut Butter Cup.

Will you be watching Oprah’s interview of Meghan and Harry this Sunday?

The advice my parents gave me vs. the advice I’ll give my kids. (New Yorker)

Cool candles.

Mom, the vacation of your dreams awaits you in this dentist chair. (I have to admit, I kind of relate to this!)

Oh my gosh, nature is beautiful.

And great news: Primary Kids is running a 30% off sale on their signature styles to celebrate their sixth birthday. Use the code COJ for 20% off everything else, plus free shipping, for new customers. (We LOVE these!!!)

Plus, three reader comments:

Say SP on what’s missing from a pandemic marriage: “I broke up with my long-term partner around Christmas, so while I very much do not have this experience, I love reading y’all’s love stories! I’ve been reading COJ since I was a lonely teenager in a tiny southern town, and I feel like I’ve grown up looking up to the writers and commenters here. So this is how you love, so this is how you live. What a kind, funny, open group of folks we have here!”

Says Mallory on what’s missing from a pandemic marriage: “The other day, my husband and I were jokingly arguing over who is funnier, me or him. I texted my friends being like, it’s definitely me, right?? My friend texted back saying, ‘Well, remember that time I broke one of your wine glasses and I felt so bad, and his response was to casually toss his wine glass at the wall to break his, too? That was HILARIOUS.’ I’d forgotten all about how funny he is with other people! I laughed so hard at the memory and can’t wait until I can see him through other people’s eyes again.”

Says J on 7 things that surprised me about breastfeeding: “Breastfeeding is amazing! And so is not breastfeeding! For any parent who is struggling with being unable to breastfeed or chooses not to, take comfort in knowing that your baby will still look at you doe-eyed when you come to them with a bottle of their beloved formula or pumped breast milk. They will still stare deep into your eyes as they take their bottle, as you memorize one another’s faces. Your breasts/chest will still provide the safest and most comfortable place in the world where they will curl up and fall asleep to the sound of your heart beat. They’ll never remember how they were fed, but they’ll know deep inside them that they were loved beyond measure and that their tummies were always full.”

(Photo by Natasja Sadi. Reese’s link via Kottke.)

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  1. Vanessa says...

    Oh, my god! Sleeping with a baby! Our son used to make the crossbar in the letter H between both parents and push as hard as he could. Rotten kid.

  2. mimi says...

    Ok you intrigued me by mentioning the book you were reading.
    I quickly got it from my library & finished it in 3 days….it kept me hooked & like you, I stayed up way too late one night because I couldn’t put it down.
    Thank you mentioning it. It definitely got me thinking about my own parenting– hopefully, it’s not too late to correct some wrongs I’ve made.

  3. Alright, I love that story about throwing a wine glass against the wall casually, to make a guest not feel so bad. I miss having people over!!!

  4. Saddened says...

    Re Harry and Meghan’s interview, ppl are showing their true colors in this corner of the internet that is supposed to be a safe space or at least has been on other issues. Shameful treatment of Meghan disguised as concern about family members who have proved to be untrustworthy to put it mildly. Harry’s willingness to walk away is all the proof you need that something isn’t quite right with that “family”. The hounding never stopped once they crossed the Atlantic. CoJ team, I hope you can help provide nuance that is so desperately needed.

    • Sasha L says...

      Absolutely agree. Thank you for saying this.

    • Amber says...

      If it’s a safe space why can’t people air views that don’t support Harry and Meghan? Not in a nasty way of course but this being a safe space doesn’t mean we all have to be on their side. We should be safe to air our views, whatever they are, in a respectful way and not be judged if we don’t agree with H&M.

    • Saddened says...

      Thank you Sasha L. Agree with all YOU said!

    • Whitney says...

      I agree Saddened. I think people need to look at these two as human beings with feelings.

      Meghan’s experience shows (again) that no matter how much money or privilege you have as a BIPOC not only can you not escape racism, you can’t escape people imputing wrong motives as to why you are sharing your perspective and defending yourself, you can’t escape people who try to gaslight you by saying you’re being oversensitive, a whiner and a narcissist and you can’t escape people who will gladly gloss over the fact racism is a daily damaging struggle that many people face because acknowledging it would be too awkward for them.

      Even though Harry is Caucasian he’s faced and is continuing to face bad press and be called horrible things as well because he is determined to stand up for his wife and son. I bet if Meghan looked like a quintessential English Rose this would be a non-issue.

      Sad. Just. Sad

    • Patricia says...

      “Two millionaires complaining to a billionaire how hard their life is”…. please…. And during a global pandemic.

    • Saddened says...

      Thank you Whitney. You nailed exactly how it feels!

  5. K says...

    Holy cow, that comment from J about breastfeeding must be the kindest, most profound thing I’ve ever read on the internet. Thanks for sharing.

  6. Florrie Fiennes says...

    I hope that the Oprah interview will finally stop people glorifying the colonial racism that is the British Royal Family once and for all. Believe people not fairy tales.

  7. Michelle says...

    To who finds themselves fascinated by Meghan and Harry, I highly recommend Tina Brown’s book, “The Diana Chronicles”… it covers an earlier era (it’s Diana’s story after all) but there’s lots of information about tabloid culture and the inner workings of the royal family.

  8. K says...

    i wrote a joke once that going to the dentist was my version of a manicure–leaning back in an ergonomic chair while someone else polishes my nubs

  9. Emily says...

    Yes to the dentist and YES to the Scandinavian satire! :D

  10. Ddtiz says...

    I scheduled dentist appts for my 3 year old and myself to be back to back. Then I realized instead of a relaxing lounge I would be stressed about what he was touching and how much longer he would be able to sit (if he was chill at all) and rescheduled to two separate days! 😆

  11. Julia says...

    When I went to the dentist at the start of the school year, the dental hygienist was asking me how I’m doing, how’s teaching, empathizing over the sudden, unannounced increase in our daycare expenses. It was the first time a person had asked how I was in such a very long time, I was tearing up from the first question. One of those personal interactions that I used to take for granted in normal times.

  12. Jung says...

    Oh that featured comment about breastfeeding was so wonderfully written and made me tear up. What a wonderful community there is here.

  13. Megan says...

    I can so relate to the vacation of your dreams piece. Today after a long year of parenting and teaching 4th grade virtually and in person I got my second vaccine. Afterward I was asked to sit for 15 minutes and be sure I wouldn’t have an allergic reaction. Those 15 minutes we’re as close to a day spa as I will get this year. The most rest I’ve had in months. The nurse told me I was fine and asked me to leave (I was wearing a sticker with my release time). Back to the relentless day…but grateful for the protection.

  14. Kate says...

    The video of the baby and mother sharing a bed: Whywouldyouwhywouldyouwhywouldyou?

    • Claire says...

      So the baby feels safe? So you wake when they need you? Close proximity to a boob? Normal in most of the world, healthy especially if talked about and done safely.

    • NM says...

      Because, as we say here,
      Goodforhergoodforhergoodforher
      Notformenotformenotformenotforme

      :-)

    • Becky says...

      Kate, I’m with ya. I can’t tell how old the child is, but academy of american pediatrics does not endorse co sleeping with infants. It should be a separate surface but can be in the same room.

    • Sasha L says...

      Here’s why I did: I had read Dr Nils Bergen and Dr James McKenna’s work on mother baby attachment and mother baby safe sleep and it was the best choice for us. I experienced good sleep (most of the time I was very well rested as a new mom), a great experience breastfeeding (never had supply issues or any problems whatsoever), a strong and secure bond with my babies, who were great sleepers and never cried at night. Plus so many wonderful loving moments together.

      I was careful to follow guidelines about safely bedsharing with infants: no alcohol or drugs, no smoking, healthy babies, no covers, no obesity or very long hair. I felt much safer being right there with my babies, especially knowing the science of how babies bodies become in synch with mother’s bodies – their hearts and breathing are cued by ours. The science is fascinating and very reassuring.

    • Sasha L says...

      Also, important to some people, especially those who may be struggling financially: you need way less stuff when you bedshare. We’re didn’t have a baby room/nursery, crib, bassinet, pack n play, monitor, special things to sleep like merlin suits or swaddles or sleep sacks or Snoos or rock n plays or cradles. Truly we could’ve gotten by with a car seat and some clothes that’s it. It’s not a small thing for those without the means to outfit a baby to a middle class standard, or for those in a tiny space, or for those who just don’t want to devote a whole room to an infant.

  15. TMM says...

    I just picked up The Particulars of Peter on your recommendation and I’m excited!! And I am No Thank You Not Interested in Meghan Markle peddling her victim sob story to Oprah and I am so disappointed in Oprah for falling for this. The Queen served in World War II, is an incredible icon and role model and this attack on her feels vengeful and hateful. With all the serious problems in the world I cannot spent two hours watching two wealthy, Privileged, entitled narcissists whining about having to run an interview past the palace gate keeper for approval when people are starving, being murders, losing their homes, a pandemic and racial divide is tearing apart my country and my family is thousands of miles away and who knows when I will see them. A great big fat Thanks but No Thanks.

    • Naseem says...

      Such strong feelings about this Oprah interview.

      I’m surprised by people’s reactions.

      We live in a world where almost everyone tells their own stories. We follow/subscribe to some, and not others.

      The need to take such a strong stance about something and someone we know very little about is weird to me. If it doesn’t concern you, you don’t need to follow it.

      Meghan and Harry seem like they want to tell their story (instead of other people telling it for them). They are allowed to do that. Why you feel like you have to be team queen or team H/M (and before the interview even comes out) is beyond me.

      A side note, as a biracial black woman myself, I think it’s important for Meghan to have the opportunity to tell her own story herself. Racism and oppression are real, and the narrative around her since the beginning has been racist. I don’t care how much Team Elizabeth anyone is. A black woman (who was subject to that much racism) should be allowed to talk, and people who are trying to be anti-racist, ought to listen.

    • Julie says...

      Well said. It seems completely disingenuous to me that Harry and Meghan have moved to the US to escape the (actually vile) media scrutiny in the UK and live privately only to agree to an interview with Oprah.

    • Maya says...

      Woooow the misogyny and imperialism is strong with this one!

    • Becky says...

      Well I do think your queen has some flaws. Role model? I’m not so sure. Are you aware of Aberfan? Her reaction was pretty stunning to that disaster. She delayed recognition and couldn’t even go to see it for herself. 116 children and 28 adults died from that disaster. Are you aware of her position on placing Harry and William behind their mothers casket for the walk to her service. They were children. It has clearly impacted them to this day. Elizabeth’s reaction to Diana’s passing was pretty cold as well. Not British, just cold.
      I agree in that I don’t need to watch the interview. There are way bigger issues in the world going on. Their issues are a family matter. Every family has them. As someone who has split off from my family I say good for them. Clearly there was a reason, a build up of ongoing issues not appropriately addressed. They felt it was healthier to leave and I applaud them. Is it ever one sided? No, of course not. I’m sure they have some responsibility in it and so does the queen.

    • Sue Gardner says...

      I SO agree. I ( obviously like millions of others) am losing precious years of not being able to see my family or traveling to places I had hoped to go before I died.
      They swan all over on a whim and we all chip in for the privilege of having them grace our space. I’m sure glad they ended up in L.A and not Canada.

    • Sasha L says...

      So well said Naseem.

    • Amber says...

      Same here. I find it fascinating that all those who gush over Harry and Meghan are acceptable but those who don’t are not and are accused of misogyny or imperialism. I come from a country that got rid of the imperial yoke after 200 years of it but I still have very little time for this pair. I am brown and have experienced racism and agree that Meghan experienced it and wrongly but I still find the couple’s need for publicity annoying. Let’s all agree to disagree, respectfully of course.

  16. Susan Gardner says...

    I’m so happy to have found you again!🤗
    Things have gone off in all directions this past year but stumbling upon your page again, made me laugh and gave me a great recipe( strangely, I had bought chicken thighs yesterday!) comforting to know we’re all a bit adrift and longing for our former ability to simply hang out with friends and loved ones.
    Looking forward so much to more posts….with affection,
    Sue G

  17. Lesley Porcelli says...

    re: dental chair; I have thought that–about what a relaxing break it was– during a ROOT CANAL!

    • Vanessa says...

      Face it – root canals are such an utter relief from the pain of a bad tooth that they are marvelous, just marvelous things to have done. And I have always liked going to the dentist, I like the squeaky clean teeth I leave with.

  18. Karen says...

    Wow, that Parental Advice article – #1 is 100% me!

    Advice My Parents Gave Me: Go to college and major in what you love.
    Advice I Will Give My Kids: Go to college only if you’ll major in science, engineering, or money. It’s a bleak job market, and majoring in English literature or anything with the word “English” in it has been useless since the Taft Administration.

    I went to Tufts in the late 90s, and back then it was $30k/year. I majored in English Lit, and never pursued a post-grad education (actually, I moved back home to CA to take over the family biz). Part of me carries guilt about how much money was spent on my college tuition, only to have me circle back home. But my husband reminds me that those years in college also helped form me into the CEO HBIC business owner that I am today. And it’s true. When I took over the family biz, I had to figure it all out – there was no one around to hold my hand or lead the way. And also, college was one the BEST phases of my life – so much fun and learning and growing…..

    But still – when my girls go to undergrad (right now they’re in grades 2 and 3), I hope they can be more focused on where it’s leading them, as opposed to it being a time to start exploring.

    • Kate says...

      For what it is worth, my English-major best friend graduated college into a job paying her 100k a year, now much higher. Another Chemistry-major friend’s first job was at 40k a year as a research coordinator. English majors get a bad rep, but college and post-grad opportunities are really what you make of it!

    • Celeste says...

      Love this, Kate!

    • K says...

      @Kate was your friend’s job related to her English major?
      I also have a friend that was an English major that makes over 150K now, but the job was via college classmate connections, and while I think her grasp of language is no doubt helpful, I’m sure she could have also majored in nearly any other department and been hired for the job. As in, the skills she learned to be competent on the job had nothing to do with academia.

      The only perk of college these days seems to be the chance to socialize with a horde of other young adults for an extended period time without any “supervision.” Otherwise, there’s many degrees these days that are just expensive certificates to say you are a college graduate. And then they saddle you with student loans.

    • Dee says...

      @Karen Gotta agree with Kate. I’m an English major who makes double what my biomedical-engineer sister makes—while writing for a living, I should add—so I think this advice is a little misguided.

    • I majored in English and though I’m not doing a traditionally “English” job now I do credit a lot of my successes in and out of my career to my education! It’s a gift I’ll never take for granted. I was also very fortunate to have several family members chip in for tuition (the times being a child of divorced parents comes in handy!), so the financial burden wasn’t mine alone to bear. Still, I’m so glad I did it!

    • Emily says...

      I’m confused by your logic. If your daughters don’t want to major in something that will have immediate financial benefits for them, you’d prefer that they graduate high school, not go to college, and then do what? What alternatives do you envision them having at age 18 besides having to get a minimum-wage job? How is that better than going to college and majoring in something non-STEM/business/engineering?

    • Emily says...

      I just want to chime in.. my friends who took hard sciences..biology, or chemistry etc. who didn’t get into medical school or a post grad degree, had the hardest time finding jobs after university. Some of them did research assistant jobs which are often precarious and low paid. Agree with Kate, it’s what you make of post-grad opportunities. A degree in science won’t guarantee you a good job.

    • SR says...

      The idea that STEM majors give you amazing high-paying jobs out of the gate is a complete myth. For most sciences, you need to get a PhD to make any money, and even then there is such an oversaturation of science PhDs that many can’t find jobs (particularly in academia). I’m a chemistry major and if I wasn’t going into k-12 teaching I would have to find some low-paying lab assistant job in pharmaceuticals. Even most engineering majors need to go to graduate school. The only STEM major that delivers in the high-paying job front these days is maybe computer science.

  19. Juana says...

    Oh! I love your book recommendations and I’ve got one for you! The link on Swedish words to get us through the winter also reminded me of this book. I’m currently listening to the audio version of it and between her soothing voice and her poetic writing I’m really enjoying it. Especially while living through a global pandemic! I also plan on buying it and can see myself going back to it every winter. It’s called “Wintering – the power of rest and retreat in difficult times” by Katherine May

    • Florrie Fiennes says...

      I love that book. She also has her own podcast and it is equally wonderful.

    • Juana says...

      I didn’t know she had a podcast as well. Thank you for the info! I’ll definitely check it out.

  20. Jordan Smith says...

    Wow, maybe you should do a tell all since you seem to know so much about what the Royal Family felt.

    The fact that you have to insult Will and Kate to defend Harry and Meghan says a lot about you as a person.

  21. Mallory says...

    Oh my gosh my comment featured on the Friday link up?? This is definitely my 15 minutes of fame! But if I show my husband he’ll definitely think he won the “who’s funnier” battle… decisions, decisions… ;)

    • Susan Young says...

      Hilarious!

  22. Marielle Harrington says...

    Those birds!! Those beautiful beautiful birds. Thank you for sharing.

  23. Mila says...

    That video of the baby “sleeping” is basically my life but with a tossing turning 6 yr old in the mix as well!!! I have gotten exactly zero hours of sleep since welcoming my now rolling second baby 4 months ago! I loveeee co sleeping but also … it can be a sloppy mess

  24. Catherine says...

    I lost a filling in October, and it caused a domino effect for the next two teeth, so three fillings in three months! Pandemic stress? After the first one, I looked forward to the second and third appointments. Once you’re numb, it’s super relaxing and you get to watch TV, any show you want!

  25. Monica says...

    Having braved oddball late-pandemic IKEA today, I was definitely in the mood for Scandi satire!

    Do they have a word for the way headphones get tangled up in the drawer all by themselves and the accompanying frustration of using half my sanity walk NOT listening to a podcast because of it?

    Asking for a friend…

    • NH observer says...

      I totally sympathize! If it makes you feel better, I got wireless earbuds that were touted as fitting EVERYONE — even people with hard-to-fit ears! — and I, out of whose ears a staggering succession of earbuds has tumbled, took the bait, and sallied out for a walk, only to find within five minutes that my earbuds had fallen into my hood, and thence, along with my phone, into an icy puddle. Sanity 0, earbuds 1.

    • suchia says...

      This is a type of drugstore ear plug that is made of wax – horrible as an earplug for me but perhaps useful if you roll a little snake of it around your earbuds to help snug the fit? Cheap and easily refreshed as it sees wear,

  26. Shannon Levesque says...

    Oh – “everything I never told you”is such an incredible book. What a great shout out to your community. Have you read “All You can ever know?” It’s such a fantastic memoir that focuses on the transracial adoption experience in America.

  27. Jane I. says...

    Omg the sleeping with. Baby had me crying of laughter!!! I can so relate! 🤣

  28. Sarah says...

    That second reader comment is *chefs kiss*.

  29. Cheryl says...

    My eight year old daughter and I were crying with laughter watching the baby sleeping (?) with mom. Hilarious!

  30. Monica says...

    I love J’s comment on breast feeding. I was determined to breastfeed both my babies for a full year, and with my second child, I somehow dried up after 10 months, due to stress, diet, whatever. But knowing I had a nutritious formula there for her, and that my husband could take part in her feeding satisfaction, made me feel OK. Both my kids are super smart and healthy (11 and 9!) and I am so thankful for it.

    • Andrea says...

      Breastfeeding=smart kids?!? No pressure there. How did any of us turn out smart before breastfeeding was a thing?

    • jane says...

      “before breastfeeding was a thing”, we were all amoeba’s swimming in the primordial pond and then for the next few millennia were living in harmony with nature and NOT killing ourselves and the planet with chemical stupidity so . . .

    • Cathy says...

      Yes! I was so upset when it didn’t work out for me. But my four year old is attached to my hip all the time, smart as can be (reading), strong and healthy. (And yes, Andrea – there is a big myth about breastfeeding making kids smarter! Part of the reason I was so distraught when it didn’t work for us)

    • Tina Crisas says...

      Regarding the breastfeeding=smarter kids, i too had fretted over this when my daughter was born. But, my sister never breastfed, and her daughter was always an honour student and this year will be in her 4th year of medical school (after also being a very well known child model in Europe who had graced glossy magazines and travelled internationally) she is extremely smart. That example actually put my mind at ease when after four months of breastfeeding, i decided to stop as it was making me miserable.

  31. Sarah says...

    Love love love Everything I Never Told You! I often joke that I wish there was a book club exclusively to discuss it as I have SO MANY thoughts and feelings about it. I also listed it as one of my top 3 books in a Cup of Jo post a few months ago and it makes me very happy to think that there might be a slim possibility that you started reading it on my recommendation! I realise that many people may have recommended it to you Jo, but it makes me smile to think of us as book-buddies – not least because so many of my book recommendations come from you and your wonderful team! : )

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      Yes!!! Thank you for the rec!!!

  32. Tovah says...

    Can’t wait to dive in to these! I think there’s a typo— the nature/starlings link is the one from Kottke, not the Reese’s :)

  33. Caro says...

    I made that Bon Appetit coconut chicken rice dish earlier this week and my husband and I agreed it was one of the tastiest meals we’ve had in a long time! Totally caught us off guard-So simple and SO delicious! Highly recommend. Happy Friday!

    • Cph says...

      Also made this last Monday :) So easy and delicious. And I love that it’s so easy to adapt.

  34. Catharine Cullen says...

    So great to see the photo of the murmuration reaching so far. Been all over the national news here in Ireland. Its definitely a thing of beauty.

  35. June says...

    Haha, when I was pregnant with my third child, I was in for a dental appointment. The office was running (very) late and when the hygienist apologized, I assured her this was the best day I’d had in a loooong time.

    A comfortable, reclined chair. Alone. Quiet. Ahhh-mazing.

  36. lauren says...

    Welp, just fell in love with Mallory’s husband.

  37. Kathy says...

    Thank you so much for sharing what happens when you feed your baby in today’s post: “They will still stare deep into your eyes as they take their bottle, as you memorize one another’s faces. ” I nursed and gave bottles to all three of my babies in the 1980’s and had the privilege of giving both of my granddaughters their bottle when they were wee ones. That eye to eye contact/lock is something you treasure at the moment and never forget.

  38. Julie says...

    Harry and Meghan: ‘Leave us alone to live our own lives. We have been hounded by the cruel media’
    Also Harry and Meghan: ‘Let’s do a tell all interview with Oprah’

    • jen says...

      yep, i am on team elizabeth II; maybe im the only one.

    • Tricia says...

      The women of Myanmar. The women/mothers of Rohingya. Mothers and children trying to cross our southern border to a new life. Migrant women in Greece and Libya.

      Oprah, instead of feeding at the easy trough of this non-story, how about getting in and doing your due-diligence about the women of the real world? Please?

    • Sloane says...

      Completely agree – team Elizabeth II here, as well!

    • Marianne says...

      I’m with you, Julie and Jen.

    • Jay says...

      I don’t see these things are remotely similar. Not wanting to constantly be ripped apart by tabloids and other media outlets doesn’t preclude them from being comfortable doing an interview where they have more control. None of us have been in their shoes so I figure we should give them some grace in figuring out what they want with their lives.

    • S says...

      I think you’re missing an important distinction here. They never said “leave us alone to live our own lives” and the issue, as they have pointed out, isn’t the media in general… it’s the British tabloid media that spreads falsehoods. They don’t have an issue with reporters, they have an issue with bullying, racism, and printing things that are untrue. They just wanted more control over how their lives are reported on, and by booking an interview with Oprah they are in control and they can choose to share what they want. Do not shame Meghan, it’s ugly and rooted in racism.

    • Becca says...

      There are so many examples of the media being absolutely terrible to them. No reason why they can’t have an interview on their terms.

    • Claire says...

      I liken it to my teenage diaries: I would be furious if my mother read them (even now!) but I was perfectly happy taking part in Mortified and reading excerpts to a live audience because I was in control of the narrative.

      That said, this Brit is in favour of abolishing the monarchy altogether. There is no need for us to have a royal family in the 21st century.

    • Madame says...

      So true… what hypocrisy. So inauthentic.

    • Eve says...

      Me too, Jen!
      But I admit, I may be heavily influenced by Olivia Colman‘s portrayal of her…

    • Jessi says...

      They want to TELL their own lives, with dignity, not with racist treatment and invasion of personal correspondence.

    • Alice says...

      It’s more about them being able to do things and say things on their own terms. Think of it like people posting pictures of you that you hate without your permission on their social media, vs posting your own selfies.

    • Katie says...

      The media making up stories about them and paparazzi following them is very different from them having a controlled interview where they are able to tell their own story.

    • Robin says...

      Ditto!!

    • TMM says...

      Julie, Jen, just yes yes and yes!!!! I agree wholeheartedly and just can’t fathom wasting two hours on this smearfest. No thanks.

    • suki says...

      I cannot understand why people actually care one way or another?? All the comments on this here are just baffling. Get your own lives, people! I have never understood “celebrity”.

    • Shirley says...

      I used to respect the Royal Family but the hit pieces they have been leaking to the tabloids in the run up to this interview has turned me off them completely. No wonder Meghan and Harry needed to escape.

    • Kate says...

      Yeah Oprah won’t be publishing private letters, insulting their child, or spreading racist rumors. They would probably be more receptive to British media if they had not committed such gross invasions of privacy or had not called their CHILD an ape.

    • K says...

      I used to be on team Meghan & Harry. I felt it was so moving that they were stepping back. But listening to some people that live in England, it’s interesting that they have a different POV about the motives. Me too, after the evidence that H&M are still trying to pursue some sort of show business. And after my own “research,” (i.e. trying to read body language in interviews and alleged accounts on both sides lol) I’m now I’m on team mostly neither, but I’m riveted!

      -I don’t understand the monarchy and the ends it has gone to in order to uphold itself at the expense of their children’s happiness i.e., Charles and Diana, and clearly someone wasn’t paying enough attention to Andrew.

      -I do agree that the tabloid culture is really toxic. I can imagine Harry feeling really gaslighted if no one in the Royal family was saying anything about the unrelenting coverage.

      -But I do also think Meghan may be manipulative and opportunistic.

      All of these things can be true–fame is a helluva drug for these people after all, and of course everyone wants the version where they’re the good guy.

    • Sasha L says...

      The paparazzi killed Harry’s mother.

      Yeah. So super weird he’d be concerned about the racist hounding of his PREGNANT AND SUICIDAL WIFE.

      Nothing other than racism explains the hatred of Meghan, since day one.

  39. Amy says...

    While I appreciate the humor of the dentist chair essay, as someone with a dentist phobia all I can think is “noooooooooooooooooooo….pain is imminent!”. But I can understand the sentiment- in a different setting. ;)

    • silly lily says...

      Amy, two words for ya — NITROUS OXIDE. It takes your short vacation from Motel 6 to the Ritz. A real treat!

  40. Genevieve says...

    Thank you J for your comment on feeding babies. Breastfeeding didn’t work for my son and me. Sometimes I have been sad about it. You reminded that I still had a special and sweet time bottle feeding. I also have the bonus cute memories of my son rubbing his little feet up and down on my husband’s hairy arms when he fed him!

  41. Kara says...

    Very excited for the interview with Meghan and Harry. She has been, and continues to be, treated so horribly by all the racists who thought she didn’t know her place well enough. And the royal family were so scared they had another Diana on their hands whose popularity would take away from the boring Will and Kate, they drove Harry and Meghan away. Glad they’re healthy and thriving far away from that cesspool.

    • J says...

      While I agree with much of your sentiment, I do wish we could move the narrative away from it being about race. Camilla, Diana, Fergie, Kate M to name a few were all treated horribly by the press for what was viewed as non-conformist behaviour. Trying to oversimplify this as just racially motivated is missing the point and detracting from the bigger picture.

    • Julie says...

      Are Will and Kate boring or do they understand and respect the notion of duty in the context of monarchy? Yes the British tabloid media are vile and all power to Harry and Meghan as they forge a life together away from the royal family. But this interview seems completely self indulgent. I can’t help but think where is their dignity? Why on earth would they do it?

    • Sasha L says...

      J, why do you need it to not be about race? I find your logic just bizarre.

    • Whitney says...

      “Trying to oversimplify this as just racially motivated is missing the point and detracting from the bigger picture.”

      Wow. Sorry to break it to you but this perspective is destructive. The fact you are uneasy with it being about “just” race says enough about all the unlearning that society needs to do when it comes to POC telling their experiences of racism.

  42. Tania says...

    That New York spoof on Scandinavian trends slayed me. It was so funny and a little bit sad in the best way.

  43. liz says...

    omg do all babies sleep like this?!?! lolol

    • Shelley says...

      Haha I don’t know because I don’t co-sleep typically but when my babies have slept with us they just lay right on our chest/belly and stay perfectly still all night.

    • Anu says...

      That baby definitely seems like an outlier!

  44. liz says...

    Great comments <3

  45. Yelena says...

    Everything I never told you…Oh my goodness! That book broke my heart a little, especially as a mother now.