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15 Valentine’s Day Gifts for Every Type of Relationship

15 Valentine’s Day Gifts for Every Type of Relationship

If you’re newly dating someone sweet, but you’re not exactly sure what’s up, go for something simple, like a heartfelt card or dinner at the bar of a restaurant (what it is that’s so sexy about sitting at the bar?). Or you could challenge them to a game of Chinese checkers or our all-time favorite Codenames, which I’ve played six times this week already.


15 Valentine’s Day Gifts for Every Type of Relationship

For those in long-distance relationships, who wish they were together, send something cute like the epic cookies from Levain Bakery in New York, a bouquet of ranunculus flowers (Urban Stems always nails it), or a retro baseball cap featuring their favorite team (bonus: everyone looks cuter in a baseball cap).


15 Valentine’s Day Gifts for Every Type of Relationship

Happy Galentine’s! If you’d like to treat your best friend to a little surprise, go for this book of chocolates, which comes in the most incredible flavors. (My friend Erin gave these to me recently, and I was blown away.) Or consider a beauty treatment to do together, like a moon mask or mani/pedi date at your neighborhood salon.


15 Valentine’s Day Gifts for Every Type of Relationship

If you’re married with young kids and craving romance, go for a cheerful red sweater (for men, too), a necklace with their pet name, or the all-time best caramel to pour over ice cream after the kids are in bed.


Valentine's Day Gift Guide

For the person who doesn’t believe in Valentine’s but still wants to be cute, consider copies of the new novel Dear Edward for a two-person book club. You could take a hand-holding walk around town and just enjoy each other’s company. Or curate a cheese tower or mini cheese plate. Says a reader named Escondista: “Every year for Valentine’s Day, I buy my husband four of five nice tiny portions of cheese. I go to Central Market’s cheese area and ask for recommendations and tell them I want $3 worth of each. Bonus: I get to sample.”


Thoughts? Any other surprises and delights that you would add?

P.S. How to keep the spark alive, and my sister’s awesome dating tip. Plus, Valentine’s Day, three ways.

(Illustrations by Elizabeth Graeber for Cup of Jo.)

  1. Sandra says...

    I don’t believe in valentines and now I want a cheese tower… 😫
    Better get one for the husband just to eat myself. True valentine love ♥️

  2. Umm, what about long-term partners, unmarried, no kids? Pragmatic romantics in fact. We’re not going to be sweeping each other off for dinner in Paris but we love and understand each other very deeply. Apart from over Valentines Day – I never get this right!

    • Alyssa says...

      I agree :)

    • Nikki says...

      Sometimes I read a blog post and I think to myself… “I don’t see myself represented here, but that’s okay I know it wasn’t intentional and that’s a great idea regardless.” Then I move on with my day. We can’t always represent every single person and every single group every single time. Shrug.

  3. Sasha L says...

    Last year right before Valentine’s day I found a cute state shaped cutting board at a thrift store. I refinished it, bought goodies for a cheese board, cheeses, chocolates, fancy jam, crackers, berries, etc. We had fancy cheese board for dinner. My husband loved it and we’ve made it a tradition. This year he’s getting the cheese board goodies and I’m making the dessert. Fun, inexpensive, low key and I love that we don’t have to think too hard to come up with something from now on.

  4. rachel says...

    a funny gift would be the whimsical, vintage, Taylor and Ng mugs that, if you look closely, are of animals being, ahem, “frisky”! you can find them on etsy.

  5. Nicole says...

    My husband & I make each other Valentine’s Day Playlists on Spotify. We limit it to 15 songs & not all the songs are sappy – sometimes we just want to introduce them to someone new we’ve been listening to. We swap our playlists on Valentine’s Day, along with a card & a favorite snack item or something small. I get SO MUCH joy out of listening to the playlist my husband made me while I’m at work, throughout the rest of the year. It makes me think of him & reminds me of when you first start dating someone & you swap musical tastes :)

    • Amanda says...

      Totally doing this one!

  6. I was in a long distance relationship with a dude who sent me a box of “famous cookies” and a handwritten note saying he’d met a stripper and wanted to date her instead. So……. had to laugh when I read that suggestion!

    • Sasha L says...

      🥺
      At least you got cookies.

  7. I love these gift lists. Also love the heart/vegetable shaped Valentine pillows in this web site, they would be good for all types of relationships. https://www.rosegreenberg.com/

  8. Trish O says...

    You need a married with teens who will be starting college soon…and it needs to be free because you are broke and all your money is going to tuition, SAT prep class, winter dance flowers….

  9. Julie says...

    My husband and I don’t exchange gifts or cards for Valentine’s Day, we usually cook a big steak dinner with creamed spinach and baked potatoes, open a bottle of red wine so full-bodied you could chew it, and watch a silly movie for one of our podcasts (usually How Did This Get Made?).

    BUT, one year I did surprise him with perhaps the dumbest gift I could imagine. I donated money to a zoo here in the U.S., which gave me the right to adopt and name a Madagascar hissing cockroach. I named it Maverick, since Top Gun is my husband’s favorite movie. He received an emailed certificate that day notifying him of his new friend and he laughed his head off. Nora Ephron couldn’t write romance this pure. :p

  10. Sam says...

    Thank you for always being so inclusive of all types of relationships. As someone in a same-sex relationship, I can’t tell you how much it means to me to see us represented in your posts. <3

  11. Nina says...

    Love that the gifts mostly work for all genders <3

  12. Alice says...

    My boyfriend is going to be in Japan on Valentines this year, and I’ll be spending the weekend at home with my mum and my cute 1 year old nephew while my brother and sister-in-law go for a fancy Valentines date. I’m going to buy some posh chocolates for my mum and I to share after we put my nephew to bed. Yay!

    Last year, my (now!) boyfriend and I been out on maybe three dates, and he text to say “happy valentine’s from your not-so-secret admirer” and I just about collapsed into a puddle. I showed my affection by sending back a picture of a rose a coworker had bought me and said “you’ve got competition, buddy!”. I quickly clarified that the coworker had bought them for EVERYONE and that I was also his not-so-secret admirer. We’re celebrating the anniversary of our first date today!

    • A says...

      Happy anniversary!
      Your valentines date with your mom and nephew sounds so sweet.

    • Alice says...

      Thanks so much A, that’s so kind of you!! :) Hope you have a wonderful weekend.

  13. Tess says...

    Restaurants are such a NIGHTMARE on Valentine’s day- the crowds, the pre-fix menus, the feeling that you are just another couple being churned in and out!
    I’m a big fan of just cooking a nice meal at home- spaghetti and meatballs, steak and mashed potatoes, homemade pizza- and settling down with some wine or bubbly. Or order some takeout and watch a good movie while working your way through a box of chocolates!

  14. Claire says...

    Thank you for this sweet, uplifting post. It reminds me of one day at work a few years back when a man walked through the front door of our office loaded down with flowers, candy, chocolate, a stuffed animal- every Valentine’s type gift you can think of. He was delivering them to one of my colleagues, who told me later that they had been friends for a long time. On the day he showed up at our office his father was in hospice and the end of his life was imminent. It was a difficult day for the family, and they were having to make some hard decisions. This man decided that to try to feel a little better he would do a kindness for someone else, which inspired him to bring those gifts to his friend. Bearing witness to his gesture, and their friendship, permanently re-framed Valentine’s Day for me. Now instead of cynically seeing it as a day driven by commercial interests and marketing, focused on couples and romance, I see it as a day driven by appreciation, kindness, and thoughtfulness- not just for my husband, but my son, the neighbors, the clerk in the grocery store, my sisters, my parents, my dear friends. Spread the love around. We need it, right? and it does make me feel happy. (Epilogue: within the following year these two friends were married.)

    • Celeste says...

      Love this.

    • Brooke says...

      Claire! Ah this really touched me. How dear that on a very hard day he wanted to show someone else care and at that time – a friend! And your words, ” I see it as a day driven by appreciation, kindness, and thoughtfulness” so resonate. Growing up, my reserved, strategic, logical dad was also was always endearlingly sentimental on Valentines. Buying not just my mom but also my sister and I thoughtful gifts and funny cards. My mom too would decorate in the morning with red plates and little hershey kisses at breakfast. I have friends now, even who are partnered, and we do Galentine’s Day shout outs (Leslie Knope forever!) So funnily enough Valentines now feels like a “love for all” holiday to me. Even though I am not in a romantic partnership – it is so good to give and receive love and celebration any time we like. “Spread the love around and it does make me feel happy [too]”!

    • Betsy says...

      Ahhh…made me a little teary. Love this.

      My love language is giving presents. All the presents. Thoughtful presents. But Valentine’s Day is the one day I can skip. I definitely feel it is a commercialized day. Love shouldn’t be expressed on just this one day. But we cook a nice meal together, and usually work a puzzle. I usually find a little something to give. Because giving is my gig after all. I can not help myself. I haven’t received anything in our years together, and I’m totally OK with it.

    • Robin says...

      My mom always gives me and my sisters pretty underwear for valentines. Even though we’re all adults, and I’ve been married for years (and they have less reliable partners). I love that she sees it as a day for love and pretty presents, no matter who you are or aren’t with.

  15. shopgirl says...

    I am in favor of spending at least one holiday without material gifts, forgetting about consumerism and instead giving loved one a kind word, a phone call or just simple more attention. So the hand-holding walk around town would be just the kind of gift I would prefer….

  16. Marsa Musha says...

    My partner has never been big on Valentine’s Day. We’ve done the typical go out for dinner, one year we went to a concert. I will usually buy him a funny card and maybe a little gift but nothing major. One year he noticed that I was a little bummed about his lack of enthusiasm surrounding the day and surprised me by replacing my shower head. Mine was broken and hanging by a thread (literally). When I noticed it the next day I about peed my pants laughing so hard. From then on he has kept on the tradition of surprising me with very practical, home improvement type gifts that always makes me laugh. Last year he spent the whole day hanging bistro lights in our backyard and we sat outside and had cocktails admiring the view. It may not be traditional or even overtly romantic, but it’s our thing and I love it. Happy Valentine’s Day!

    • Meg says...

      Acts of service is my #1 love language, so this really resonates. These kinds of things would bring me to tears (in a grateful/feel seen kind of way).

  17. Jolanda says...

    I am in the ‘married with young children’ category and I bought my husband socks with my face on it as a pattern. He has a white collar job and always wears funny socks under his suits and though random, I am so pleased with my gift…

    And the children and me are going to make love letters and some decoration tomorrow. My parents did not enjoy holidays (only Chirstmas ‘light’ with just a tree) but now I have children myself I have a newfound love for it!

    • Anonymom says...

      Whoa where did you get them?

    • Kara says...

      I also need to know where to get these socks!

  18. M says...

    A tradition we did while my two were still at home, was an annual family taste test on Valentine’s day. We’ve tried various chocolate & mint combos, salsas, bbq sauce, milk vs dark choc, hot chocolate, etc. We would score silently then announce our favorites at the end. You could do this with cheeses, apples, etc. Our chocolate mint combos were: Junior MInts, See’s Mint Krispys, Ande’s mints, Peppermint Patties.

    • Meg says...

      LOVE this idea. I’m always trying to devise family time that we can all enjoy.

  19. Denise says...

    I bake a chocolate layer cake in a heart shaped pan with raspberry filling and chocolate ganache icing every year for my husband on Valentine’s Day. I like it because it’s not buying into the commercial part of the holiday. It takes a while to make and while I’m making it I like to think of all the things I like about him. The best part is eating it together at home. We’ve been married for 31 years. When we were younger I always thought we should be escaping for a romantic weekend or going out for a lavish dinner. Now I’ll take tea and cake thank you.

    • A says...

      Oh my gosh, this sounds so lovely.

  20. Grace says...

    Perfect list!

  21. I work at a flower shop and my husband works at a wine shop, so although we don’t get to celebrate Valentine’s Day – the busiest day of the year – together, I kind of love that we are helping others celebrate theirs :)

    • J says...

      Romantic indeed!!

  22. Kate says...

    Valentine’s Day is my favorite holiday, and I’m proud to say I’ve convinced a few naysayers to look at it with new eyes! I’m get so excited for it every year! These are very sweet ideas. <3 <3 <3

    • CB says...

      I agree! I love Valentine’s Day. I use it as an excuse to let all my friends know how much I love them and bake heart shaped dog biscuits for my dog.

  23. Angela says...

    Just a note that the phrase “his or her” can be replaced with “their”, which is much more inclusive since not everyone identifies as a “his or her” :)

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      Happy to, thank you!

  24. kristin says...

    My tradition (going on eleven years, now) has always been a nice bottle of wine, a big bowl of spaghetti and meatballs, and a classic Michael Douglas double feature: Fatal Attraction and Basic Instinct.

    • Adrienne says...

      Awesome!

    • Kristen says...

      Amazing! Yes.

    • Emily says...

      Um this sounds like the most perfect Valentines Day. Just texted it to my husband and now we have the same plans as you!

  25. Em says...

    I wonder if COJ could consider utilizing “they/them” pronouns – what about readers or partners that use different pronouns than she or he?
    It’s a simple, inclusive switch that sounds a lot less clunky.

    “featuring his or her favorite team” –> “featuring their favorite team”
    “you could challenge him or her to a game” –> “you could challenge them to a game”

  26. Cindy says...

    I just bought myself a new raw crystal ring and aries necklace in rose gold to celebrate Valentine’s Day. My boyfriend doesn’t like the whole “made-up” holiday so I decided to treat myself <3<3<3

    • Ana D says...

      Those jewelry choices sound fabulous. You have great taste.

      Also, I can’t wait until your boyfriend finds out ALL holidays are made up…

  27. Great gift ideas. I want that moon mask. :)
    Thank you though.

  28. JW says...

    We’re not big Valentine’s people AND we have young children, so our solution the last few years has been a family celebration. We decorate the kitchen table with some cheesy heart-shaped decor. My husband buys flowers for both of our girls and me. The girls and I make special treats for my husband (5 year old requested chocolate covered strawberries this year). We all make/write cards for each other. Then we do a fun family dinner. Some years we’ve done all red food (i.e. pasta with tomato sauce, salad with red lettuce, and red fruit salad), others we’ve incorporated heart-shaped food (egg muffins baked in a heart-shaped muffin tin, heart-shaped pancakes, pink smoothies). Then we eat our dinner by candlelight, listen to soft piano music, and tell each person around the table why we love them. It’s pretty simple but our whole family LOVES it. It makes our kids feel so special and it’s a great reminder about all the different kinds of love. Then after the kids are in bed, hubby and I try to enjoy a little at home date night with drinks and a romantic comedy by the fire. After 15 years of marriage, this is by far my favorite Valentine’s Day tradition we’ve tried. Not too much effort but very meaningful, not too expensive, and I can be in my stretchy pants by 8:30 pm. Perfection!

    • Mary says...

      This is so cute, JW. I’m only 23, but I hope someday if I get married and have kids my family can do something like this. It’s low-key but still makes the holiday special and everybody gets to celebrate regardless of age/relationship status!

    • jane says...

      What a beautiful tradition! It is just as important to celebrate love as it is gratitude. Love this.

    • Eva says...

      Sounds so lovely!

    • Angela says...

      This is so sweet! Thanks for sharing!

    • Alice says...

      I LOVE THIS SO MUCH!! Sorry for the all caps, but this is genuinely seriously lovely, and I really am not into Valentines day at ALL. Bravo!

    • Tess says...

      I LOVE this! My dad is a huge romantic who loves celebrations, so when we were kids we always got to the dinner table on Valentine’s day and found a little something there for us- a light-up heart ring, some chocolates- just something little and goofy. I love the approach of including the whole family in a little celebration, and making it a fun excuse to bake treats and make the day special.

    • jones says...

      That is so sweet. I remember my dad buying me flowers a few times in middle school/early high school (along with flowers for my mom) b/c I didn’t have a boyfriend and was cranky about Valentine’s Day.

    • Robin says...

      This is so lovely.

  29. Hannah says...

    I have to say, I’m a bit disappointed that the title says “every type of relationship” and yet the post only covers 5 types of relationships. It’s totally understandable that you can’t cover everything in one post but please write titles that reflect the actual content!

    • blandine says...

      What a nitpicking thing to say! If you look around, Valentine’s day is usually approached in a very hetero-normative way. When a media outlet tries to go a more diverse and inclusive way, it should be supported in my views, not torn apart!

    • Any of the 5 can be used for all kinds of relationships…

    • Heidi says...

      Good God.

  30. Leanne says...

    We always do low-key Valentine’s Day – yummy wines and charcuterie at home. We’ve done this while we were dating, after we’ve put tiny kids to bed, and as a family with kids who stay up too late.

    Though we typically stick with exchanging cards with heartfelt notes, I bought him a subscription to a local “Secret Meat Club” this year – delicious local sausage/charcuterie to keep these little date nights going all year.

  31. shannon says...

    My beloved aunt just passed away a few days ago. Her birthday was Valentine’s Day. Any ideas on what to send my mom, who’s responsible for managing all the arrangements? I live out of state and just visited this past weekend, so another visit is out, but I’d love to send something.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      Oh, Shannon, I’m so sorry for your loss. Maybe you could send a framed photo of your mom and aunt together? Or a beautiful plant? I’m curious to hear other people’s ideas.

    • Sarah Ann says...

      Have you heard of glassy baby? Beautiful handmade glass votive holders that give money to cancer research and all have sweet names. They have one called remember that I love for this type of occasion. Or you could do a more valentine one— either way whenever they light it they can remember your aunt.

    • sukie says...

      The book “On Death and Dying” by Elizabeth Ross is something I always give. Some type of self care like a gift certificate package of 6 mani/pedi’s or 6 massages would be really nice. Also a tree planted in her memory is always lovely.

    • Agnes says...

      Anything that your aunt would have enjoyed as a birthday present? I sometimes buy a birthday present for my mom (she passed away 5 years ago), that I also like. I have never told anyone: that beautiful golden cup that has become my favorite? a secret birthday present to my mom that I’m the only one to know of. These moments are so painful and beautiful at the same time. Sending many thoughts your way…

    • M says...

      So sorry for your loss. How about a gift card to her favorite take-out spot? Something related to food/dinner for that evening was what popped into my head.

    • shannon says...

      These are all so thoughtful. Thank you for sharing these ideas. We took a photo with the three of us at Christmas that would frame nicely, and I think paired with one of the the other ideas mentioned it would be just the thing. Agnes, I particularly love your approach of choosing something for your loved one and using it yourself ❤️

    • Rita says...

      No ideas, but what a kind thought.
      And I just loved Agnes’ tradition.

    • Laura says...

      I used to give flowers and a nice candle – bc family or friends tend to gather to talk around kitchen counters, and through the sadness there can be a lot of joy in those conversations. I always thought a candle helped set that tone and add some light to the din.

    • Laura says...

      Something that your mom can use to pamper herself – a manicure, gift certificate to her hair dresser, massage gift certificate, or something else she may like. I also like Joanna’s idea of a framed photo.

      One other thought is to do a ‘virtual date’ with your mom – send her a bottle of wine and a DVD that you can watch “together” from miles apart (either on the phone – or same start time) so you can discuss afterwards. :)

      There’s nothing quite like self-care opportunities and being there for grieving loved ones. So sorry for your loss!

    • rachel says...

      in my family, we like to plant trees to honor those ones we’ve lost. when my weeping cherry blooms in the spring, I send a picture of it to my dad, who sends me a picture of his, and we talk about how we miss my sister. I wonder if you could contact her local nursery and arrange this for your mom?

    • Erin says...

      Shannon, when my favorite aunt died, I spent a lot of time just talking with my mom about the many decades of our best memories of her. My aunt had been very sick (pancreatic cancer) before she passed away, and talking about happy memories was an essential reminder for both of us that there was a lot more to her as a human being than just the awfulness of her death. Sending hugs to you and your mom.

    • J says...

      COJ’s ideas are very thoughtful. A locket with a photo of your mom and sister would be a special keepsake.

  32. M says...

    With young kids get a sitter and surprise your partner with a massage, dinner out, concert, something relaxing or something fun etc. at this point I don’t want stuff, I want experiences! You could also offer to watch them X afternoons or mornings so they can have alone time or go out with friends.

  33. Maggie says...

    This is a really sweet post – thank you for sharing! I love the inclusion of long-distance couples as a category :) It also reminded me that I have a family member who won’t be receiving a Valentine from their partner this year; I still have time to send one her way! Thanks for the nudge :)

  34. Jen says...

    Just love Elizabeth’s drawings! There is something very Bemelmans about her style.

  35. elinor says...

    My partner and I have been together for 5 years. For Valentine’s, we’ve always written each other notes instead of doing any kind of presents. That and takeout, since the restaurant we wanted to go to on our very first Valentine’s was all booked up!

  36. Rae says...

    I love to give a bag of lovely random affordable items unique to the recipient. They could be everyday items, such as a beautifully designed toothbrush, new chocolate bar in their favorite flavor, or a tiny plant for their desk. It’s a very fun way to create anticipation while opening it and then they’ll have a smile on their face. I gave one to my boyfriend and he said it was thoughtful and one of the best gifts he’s received.

    This works like a charm for any age or relationship, friend, etc.

  37. Mel says...

    I’m 20 weeks pregnant and crabby and wear sweats every day. We’ve got a spirited 3 year old, a new house we’re fixing up and you know, the usual life stuff. For Valentine’s Day, which is my husband’s Birthday, i’ll send him a pic of me in some sexy-ish lingerie (that he bought me years ago when he thought i’d wear that stuff (ha)) that covers my veiny belly and try to stay awake long enough to have sexy time after we finally get child #1 down (then roll over and watch New Girl while eating nachos). And that quite frankly is all he really wants. As a bonus we’re going out for great pasta the next night but let’s be real that’s for me and baby #2.

  38. Agnès says...

    Had to add that the drawings have something really sweet about them, poetic, funny and lovely at the same time.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      i’m so glad you like them! elizabeth graeber has such a great style.

  39. Lauren E. says...

    My husband is traveling this year for Valentine’s Day, so I invited a bunch of friends and fellow romance novelists in NYC to my apartment for a reading! I’m going to have chocolates and champagne and am asking everyone to bring their favorite love poem, book excerpt, or something they’ve written to read aloud. I can’t wait! It’s the first Valentine’s Day I’ve looked forward to in a long time.

    • agnes says...

      I find so hilarious that you’re excited to celebrate Valentine’s day without your husband! I completely understand and your party sounds so great, completely my type! Have fun!

    • cindy says...

      that sounds like such fun! I love that idea. Enjoy your V-Day!

    • Lauren E. says...

      Hahaha Agnes, I’m laughing over here. My husband is a Valentine’s Day grump (which admittedly, I usually am, too) so we never even really celebrate. This year I’m embracing the cheesiness!

    • agnes says...

      Absolutely! thinking of throwing a little poetry party aswell! thanks for the inspiration!

  40. kash says...

    When I was single, I’d make myself a small indulgent date for Valentines day: I’d get a bottle of wine, order pizza or curry, and watch a fully non-romantic movie (the Mission Impossible series is a reliable bet). One year I opened a bottle of fizzy wine, ate papadums on my couch, and watched the Silence of the Lambs. It was great.

    • Beata says...

      This is the best <3

    • Jenny says...

      A hero of the people!

  41. Lindsey says...

    I first knew I wanted to marry my husband on our first Valentine’s, only one month into dating, and now — 11 years in — he still gets me the same things: a funny, sexy card; six beautiful, local chocolates handpicked from the display case; and a huge vase of hydrangeas and tulips. Be still my heart <3

  42. melz says...

    **Anything Trader Joe’s! Plant, Ginger Beer, & hand spray sanitizer!
    Throw in a Gift Card.

  43. Nicole says...

    My boyfriend and I have been together for over 3 years, living together for about 7 months. He’s become Cat Dad to my cat, Gomez, and I tease him that he only moved in with me to have a cat around. We aren’t big Valentine’s Day people, but, I saw an ad for those socks where you can put your pet’s face on socks, so he’s getting a pair of Gomez socks for Valentine’s Day. I think he’s going to love them more than he loves me, so, about as much as he loves the cat!

  44. Agnes says...

    A two person book-club ? Never thought of it before. Of course we share books but reading the same book at the same time?!! that’s genius! Thank you for the great idea.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      <3

    • Courtney says...

      My husband and I share an Audible account and do this!!! We also listen to the same podcast (Chicks in the Office!) if you don’t want to commit to books. The Chicks in the Office podcast is silly and fun so it’s an easy pick, nothing too serious :)

    • ann says...

      i love two-person bookclub between partners or spouses! i actually brought up this idea to my husband a while back and am working to make it a regular thing. it’s something great to share with each other and you’ll always have something to discuss. bet it’s a great way to get to know more about your partner too…perfect especially for newly dating or newlyweds.

    • Ari says...

      Yes! My husband and I have one and we are working through books one of us has read (and loved) and the other hasn’t, so we have essentially two books to talk about at a given time :)

    • Rita Dantas says...

      My boyfriend and I used to do it every year during our summer holidays, we bought two copies of a book we picked out together. They look quite funny on our shelves now that we live together :)

  45. Lily says...

    What about for singles?

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      Galentines gifts would be great for friends! Or any of these would be good “treat yourself” gifts ;)

    • K says...

      Agreed, Joanna! Long before “Galentines” was a thing, my best friend and I were both single for years and we’d buy each other flowers or a yummy treat on Valentines Day, and then we’d often go out for beers together. I look back on those Valentines Days so fondly. :)

  46. celeste says...

    I love all of these :) Where can I get a friend to buy me chocolate, lol?

  47. Jamie says...

    What about kids classroom gifts?? We’re new to this arena (last year was our first year in a formal classroom during valentines day and I panicked at the last minute about made a huge batch of cookies…) – but I want there to be a perfect option that isn’t full of too much sugar, isn’t just a store bought character-driven mass produced card, but also isn’t too “extra” (like my homemade cookies might have been). Thoughts??

    • celeste says...

      I saw someone had gathered up clementines in little tulle bags with a tag, “You’re a Cutie!” to hand out and thought they were adorable! Bonus: Vitamin C when everyone’s sick. My kids are too old to do valentines at school anymore though.

    • joss says...

      homemade cookies aren’t extra! How could that possibly be considered extra? You bake those cookies and they will be so appreciated by little cookie monsters!

    • rachel says...

      I second clementines! we tied a little string with a paper leaf on each one that said “orange you glad I choose you?” also, i once traced and cut out my kid’s hand and then we glued down the two middle fingers for the ASL “i love you” sign.

    • Kristian Olson says...

      Pencils and/or erasers are always a pretty good bet for kids for some reason. I’d hit up pinterest if you wanted to add a cute lil pun to them.

    • Andrea says...

      Omg who doesn’t love homemade cookies? I bet they were a hit. All the ideas in this string sound lovely.
      Sharing this idea I used a few years ago when I worked with kindergarteners – would probably fall under “extra” because the cutting and assembling does take time, but I didn’t care, it was worth it seeing their adorable little faces covered with big sparkly lips and bushy dark mustaches as they enjoyed a lollipop.
      https://pin.it/msbtoazgw26jo3 (Pinterest also has print outs you can use to trace the shapes. You could use sugar-free lollipops. And looking back, if I did it again, I’d make a couple extra of each to be gender sensitive and allow for students to choose whether they wanted lips or mustache.)

    • Amy says...

      I scour Pinterest, save some ideas to a board, and then let my kids choose from my pre-approved ideas (not a chance I’m letting the kids see the over-the-top craziness on Pinterest haha!).

      This year my 8yo is tying toy animals to cards with a zebra print that say “Wild About You” ( just printing them off at home from a free printable), 6yo son is attaching green lollipops to a card with a sloth on it so it looks like the sloth is hanging from a lollipop “branch” (he insisted on colouring every stick with a brown marker to further the branch theme), and 4yo daughter is taping a little round circle to the top of small play-doh containers that say, “you’re a-doh-able!”

    • cgw says...

      One year I had my daughter design a bookmark. She drew and colored a simple robot with a heart on it. I printed a bunch on card stock, punched a hole through it and tied a ribbon. She wrote each kid’s names (took so long but so worth it for customization and practice), and passed those out. Doubled as a Valentine and a little useful gift.

  48. Katie says...

    For more than 20 years my husband got a heart-shaped pizza delivered to my office for lunch (or when my daughter was little) delivered it himself with our kid in tow. It was brilliant–my co-workers thought it was very romantic, everyone got to enjoy it, and it was so inexpensive yet such a grand gesture all at once. You just have to find a pizza shop to make one but he found that our favorite place embraced the challenge.

    • anne says...

      This is adorable and I’m totally stealing this idea. Our anniversary is later in February so we don’t get to serious or splurgy anyway. Thank you!!! My toddler son is gonna flip! He can actually say “heart” now <3 *crying emoji*

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      I love this!!!

    • Andrea says...

      My heart!!!
      Totally going to try to copy this idea for my husband next week, he would freak out!

    • Margaret P says...

      My husband used to have heart pizza on Valentine’s Day as a kid. Every year we’ve been together we made one! It’s become a fun family thing to do with our toddlers now too.

  49. Eli says...

    I love the excuse to love on my friends and family, so Valentines Day is so fun! I try to always send a special card at the very least. I usually find something sweet/heart themed for my sisters and mom. For my gf’s I find something that is a favorite. Prosecco and a monogram wine stopper for one bestie this year, and an adorable Snoopy pillow for the other bestie. I also love to pick out a book with a love theme or bring coffee or favorite chocolates. Anything that lets someone know I am listening to you and I remember the little favorites you have dropped along the way. :)

  50. Sarah says...

    A handmade card with a good old-fashioned love note, since that’s all they really want anyway. (Couldn’t help myself! :)
    For real, though, Feb 15 caps off a month of celebrations including the birthdays of myself and my husband, my sister and her husband. And last night we celebrated eight years together with a chocolate ganache cake and candles. By Valentine’s Day I’m pretty tapped out– I just write a nice card and we’ll go out for burritos or something :)

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      A nice card + burritos sounds perfect. :)

  51. Sarah says...

    Our anniversary is close enough to Valentine’s day that we just celebrate somewhere in the middle. This year, I gifted Maude’s massage oil candle! Under $25 and makes for a relaxing or intimate experience, depending on your mood. I got the 2 oz one in scent no. 1 and it smells like smoky, woodsy apple pie to us. Feels great on your skin; I have UBER sensitive skin and didn’t have any redness, itchiness, etc.

    • Sam says...

      I just bought this for my husband! Thanks for the idea :)

    • Hannah says...

      Love this candle, too!

  52. MacleanNash says...

    Love Codenames!
    My family and I discovered the board game Sequence this Christmas and it was a RIOT! It’s also perfect for two people!
    Highly recommend!

    Thank you for all of these great suggestions!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      Ooh thanks for the rec!

  53. My best friend and I always give each other lipstick for Valentine’s Day! It is such a fun thing to look forward to in the middle of a dreary winter!

    • Lucia says...

      I love this! Winter pick-me-ups are so vital.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      Love that, Lexie!

  54. Maire says...

    I usually buy a little something for my husband and we usually cook a fancy dinner together to celebrate the day. This year, in addition, I bought cute I <3 U postcards this year to send out to all my aunties who live far away, and I also thought it would be fun to cheer up my office with some hologram animal Valentines that are supposed to be for kids + a pack of cheez-its and a pack of Milanos. I think Valentine's Day is a fun time to do something special for people.

  55. Emily says...

    Fat Toad Farm caramel sauce is the absolute best! I attended college in Vermont, where it is created, and my college roommate and I used to make brownie sundaes with it a little too frequently. The perfection of box brownies, vanilla ice cream, and goat’s milk caramel sauce is unbelievable!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      It’s so good! We discovered it at a dinner party and everyone was freaking out :)

  56. Jane says...

    Love the book of chocolates idea…TJ’s has a white cocolate raspberry bar molded after a rise that is gorgeous – I bought a stack to pass out!