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Have a Lovely Weekend.

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What are you up to this weekend? We’re having our neighbors over tonight for Greek food, and tomorrow the boys and I are watching the original Parent Trap. It makes me feel so nostalgic! Hope you have a good one, and here are a few links from around the web…

I finally found the perfect white T-shirt.

The tallest man I ever loved.” (NYT)

How to read more books. “Get used to carrying a book around with you wherever you go and reaching for it in all the spare moments you’d usually pull out your phone. (Commutes, lunch breaks, grocery store lines, etc.)”

How cool is this astronaut?

Also, new stamps celebrating the moon landing.

Thumbs up for this two-ingredient appetizer.

Food prints for your kitchen.

The Jane Austen approach to wellness.

10 things that are great in theory, disappointing in practice, haha.

Love this mother/daughter exchange.

Three magical phrases to comfort a dying person. (Content warning: This tells the story of a child.)

Plus, two reader comments:

Says Moriah on personal wedding style: “I wore a pink dress embroidered with flowers! I had no intention of wearing a pink dress, but when I saw it I knew it was the one. The best part was when a woman at our wedding venue asked if she could take a picture of my dress to show her daughter, because she wanted her to know she could wear anything she wanted. I was teased by girls in junior high for how I dressed, so I hope my dress could inspire a girl to be bold with her fashion. I wish all brides could be themselves and wear whatever they want.”

Says Hazle on four fun things: “I used to babysit a little boy, and once he was trying to resist going to bed and said IT WASN’T FAIR his mum and dad had loads of fun when he was asleep. I assured him that they did boring grown-up things like washing the dishes, watching the news, etc, but he swore that they were ‘eating sweets and playing on my Nintendo DS.’ Sure enough, that evening when his parents got home, his dad went straight to the kitchen to grab some chocolates and the Nintendo DS!”

(Photo by Lindsay Meyer Harley.)

  1. Amanda M says...

    I also just watched the original Parent Trap with my 7 year old daughter and 4 year old son. About 30 minutes into the movie, my son asked, “But where are the parrots?” He thought it was called “The Parrot Trap”!

  2. Despite of the warning, I clicked “three magical phrase.” Yes, my chest became so tight, and I could not hold my tears. It brought me back the days I was working on the pediatric oncology department. It is truly hardest to see the child is in the pain and has the limited lifespan. Reading this type of story is not easy, but this is a good reminder how to live the life and to appreciate any moments with your child.

  3. Amanda says...

    An upgraded version of the kielbasa app- roll puff pastry around the sausage before you slice and bake them. It’s fancy pigs in a blanket.

  4. Emma says...

    My 9 year-old son has just begun the Harry Potter books. I’ll think of Ewan, who sounds like such a delightful and kind soul, when I’m reading with my son. Sending lots of love and healing energy to Jenny and her family.

    • Thank you, Emma. Read your son an extra chapter this week and give him a hug from us.

  5. Beth says...

    Jenny, thank you for sharing your story. Sending love to your family.

  6. Gina says...

    When I was in Kindergarten, I was obsessed with the Hailey Mills version of The Parent Trap. I especially loved the scene at the Camp Dance when Sharon and friends cut off the back of Susan’s dress, revealing her undies to everyone and embarrassing her horribly. One day at school, I was jealous of a classmate playing with my friend and decided I would cut her uniform skirt, just like in the movie. I tried to distract her by giving her a pretend haircut, but another kid me going for the skirt, and ratted me out before I could do any damage! Still, I got punished and the teacher told my mom. The movie was banned for a couple weeks as a punishment.

  7. Rachel says...

    Oh, Jenny. Thank you for sharing your family’s story. I sobbed reading it and thinking of my young son- but I also thought what a gift to have your mother usher you out of this life. I can’t think of anything more painful than having to do that for your child but I also can’t think of anyone I would prefer to love me in my last moments. A mother’s love is so precious and I am sure he felt that. I will never forget your story or Ewan. Sending so much love to your family.

  8. Liz says...

    I second the comment about the everlane t not lasting more than a single wash. After the first wash it gets shruken AND mishapen, After more washes, it gets holes. It’s a shame the company started mass producing their clothes in China in recent years (they started out by making smaller batches in the US and keeping costs low by “cutting out the middle man”) Sadly, Everlane is no longer as environmentally friendly as they like to pretend they are. (Although, again still sadly, they still prob do a better job than 99 percent of other fashion designers…)

  9. Lisa T says...

    Yes to carrying a book with you at all times. I love to read on my Kindle at night but I always have an actual book with me in my car or my bag and I read so much during down times. It is so enjoyable and so much better than staring at my phone!

    • Alex says...

      Hello. It’s 2019. You can READ ON YOUR PHONE. My entire library is on my phone, and on my Kindle and on any device I sign in on.
      Paper books are not the only way to read.

    • annie says...

      nothing wrong with loving reading on your phone, alex! some people stare at screens all day and a paper book is simply a welcome break. i personally read and write for 8+ hours on a computer every weekday, and let me tell you, climbing into bed with a book is a cherished, savored, beautiful-to-me moment. and has been ever since i was small. :)

      also, books + trains = old-fashioned magic.

  10. Anna says...

    “Three Magical Phrases” … I don’t have words…. so incredibly heartbreaking. Thank you so much Jenny for sharing your story and I hope it helps to share it in some small way.

  11. Loved the article on how to read more! Wandering solo through libraries and book shops and having a giant stack of borrowed and recently purchased, switching from light and fun to serious and dramatic, fiction to non-fiction and throwing in a few poems here and there is my favorite way to read!

  12. Melissa says...

    I also have that everlane shirt- so cozy and cute but the quality is pretty low and it develops holes (and shrinks) after a few washes. I stopped buying it but would love if anybody has found a better quality, ethically produced, similar shirt

  13. Gitta says...

    Hi,
    i’d like to post one small correction here:
    The “original” version of the movie “The Parent Trap” was not the original at all – but only the original American version. The real original was the 1950s movie “Das Doppelte Lottchen”. The script was written by Erich Kästner, the great German author who also wrote the childrens book of the same name.
    Since then there were 2 or 3 new German versions and of course the American ones…

    But THIS is the real and first movie:
    https://www.dailymotion.com/video/x5rrl35

    For anyone who speaks or understands German, this is a lovely walk down memory lane…

    • Oh wow! I grew up watching the Hailey Mills version and loving it (especially because my parents are divorced and I fantasized back then about getting them back together:) So cool- I want to watch the German one…maybe I can find a subtitled edition ;)

  14. Julia says...

    I like the link about books. I think downloading and reading books on your phone is another great way to read more. Overdrive from the library is great because I can listen to audiobooks while I drive to work and read books on my phone when I have downtime. I know that a lot of people are into reading actual paper books (myself included) but also being open to reading on your phone definitely makes it more likely to read more. Plus it is one less thing to carry. :) When I am home though my first choice would be a paperbook ;)

    • Heather D says...

      I agree. I used to be a “real book only” snob, but after having a little one, I embrace the joys of my kindle/ kindle app in a dark nursery waiting on him to go to sleep.

    • b says...

      This is how I feel, too. I am rarely without a book, but don’t necessarily want to carry an actual book with me. I use the Kindle app on my phone; although it is by far my least favorite way to read, I’d rather read that way than not at all.

  15. Tori says...

    I have been humming “Let’s Get Together” all weekend. :)

  16. Lou C says...

    To Jenny, thank you for sharing your story, and with all my heart I am sorry for the loss of your bright shining boy. I worked many years as a pediatric nurse, and too many times loved and lost alongside families who were on a journey similar to yours. It’s clear that the love between you and Ewan guided you to the perfect words. Not all families can find those words, so for you to share them is an immeasurable gift and legacy. Thank you to you, Ewan, and all your family. Much love ❤️

  17. Sasha L says...

    Thank you for Three Magical Phrases. Helpful, because we will all be leaving here, someday. Also unfathomably heartbreaking. I’m so sorry Jenny.

    May I suggest a couple more reads, just in case there is someone out that wants to touch that sadness some more? Other mothers who have lost children maybe, who are seeking kinship in that lonely club.
    http://www.literarymama.com/creativenonfiction/archives/2017/03/the-carry-home.html
    This little piece is from Adrienne Lindholm, who wrote a beautiful memoir of life in Alaska, which ends so hopefully, with the birth of her precious little girl, after so much heartbreak. Sadly, there is even greater sorrow. I hope she will find the strength to write another memoir and finish Avery’s story.

    https://conglomerationofjoy.com/
    And this blog, from a kind and beautiful woman named Jai, who taught the most helpful parenting class in my town, and continues to give so generously, even as she finds a way to live after her losses.

    • Jai’s daughter was treated at the same institute and by the same medical team as my son. The pediatric oncology world is a small yet unfathomable trench of pain. Even for suurvivors— the scars seen and unseen, cut into aphotic places in the soul. In the fall, I attended a retreat for bereaved moms. I’ve never surrounded myself with such sorrows as the stories shared by other moms on our first night. No matter how unique the situation, there is a kinship and community always to be found. No one is alone in their grief. Thank you for the reminder. http://www.teamewan.com

    • Sasha L says...

      I’m so glad you have found community Jenny. I think that must be comforting. A rotten club to be in, but a reminder that you are not alone. Thank you for sharing about Jai. I think it’s beautiful that so many survivors have funneled their sorrow into works to make the world better. I’m not sure I could be that brave or strong or generous of spirit. You are all warriors and I admire you.

  18. Cory says...

    I haven’t even clicked on the magical phrases link yet and I am crying. I am a cancer survivor, and I remember being in the hospital over 30 years ago as a child. There were so many other kids who didn’t make it, and I think about them a lot. I’m so sorry for your loss, Jenny.

    • Gemma says...

      Oh gosh. I was saving Three Magical Phrases until today (Saturday) and then watched the Rob Delaney interview. Thank you for posting that. Aching.
      x

    • Cheryl says...

      That was so profound and necessary. It isn’t until you’re ripped from the comfort of pleasant day-to-day life and plunged into the real fear and chaos that is your child being close to death or dying that wakes you up, shapes you, hones you…eventually you come out the other side haunted and experienced and yet incredibly more and empathetic and sensitive. I had to experience this myself to truly understand it. Great interview!

  19. Sarah says...

    Jenny I lost my 5yo daughter to cancer after pulling her through an entire course of surgery, chemo, and a stem cell transplant. It was like a horror movie. I just wanted to comment and acknowledge how exceptionally brave you are to write about your experience. I havent found the words for mine yet and don’t think I ever will. But it always helps to know we are not alone.

    • Laura C. says...

      Sarah and Jenny, I am SO sorry for your losses. I have not read the article due to my current state right now but I have read the comments. I have an 8 yo and a 5 yo and I can only imagine your deep pain. Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers tonight, and so are your wonderful kids.

  20. Shannon says...

    Wow.

    I don’t comment often, but I’m always reading your blog. The “three magic phrases” article hit me hard today (maybe because I have a nine year old son). It was so beautifully written but oh-so heartbreaking. I cannot even imagine having to endure something so tragic, but I have a deep appreciation for people who are able to share their struggles and advice about moments in our lives that no one wants to think about or even accept.

    THANK YOU FOR SHARING THIS.

  21. Danna says...

    Regarding three magical phrases, years ago after my dad had a massive stroke he was nearly but not quite brain dead. He wasn’t on life support so his body needed to go through the process of organs shutting down. We stayed with him day and night for a week, telling him we loved him and we were there for him but it just seemed that somehow he was hanging on despite his body’s fading away. Finally, when we could sense that the end was very close, I kissed him on the forehead and told him, “Dad, it’s R. Me, D. (Brother) and C. (My husband) are here. We want you to know we love you and we’ll miss you but we’ll be ok. You can go and be with mom.” And with that he took one long deep breath, held it, and then gave a long sigh to exhale. And that was it, he was gone. I truly believe that he was hanging on and giving him an ok to go let him go freely.

    • C. says...

      I had a similar experience w/ my father in law. He was near the end, but hanging on, and I sat by his bedside to speak with him. I said, “Hi, Jim, it’s C. We are here to help.” and amazingly, given his state, he reached out and took my hand. I said, “We don’t want you to worry. We are going to take good care of K. (mother in law), and good care of Justice (his beloved cat). We will stick together and help each other out.” He held my hand for a long minute, and a great stillness came over the room. He passed the next day. My friend who is a hospice nurse said that people absolutely can hear you, regardless of what their physical condition may be.

  22. Alanna says...

    Goodness, I wasn’t ready for Three Magical Phrases… but I don’t know if you can ever be ready for a story like that. I had to sneak in and kiss my sleeping baby after reading it.

  23. Kirsten says...

    The original Parent Trap is the BEST! I still sing “Let’s Get Together…”

  24. Andrea says...

    I have to offer an alternative perfect T-shirt. I discovered the brand For Days a few months ago and have been LIVING in the shirt I got from my subscription (Modern LT Classic Crew). So soft, and the fit is beautiful. But what convinced me to buy is their mission. They were founded out of a desire to change the disgusting statistics around clothing that end up in landfills (over 99% of all clothing!, with some fabrics taking over 200 years to break down!). Their shirts are made 100% from recycled fibers, and when a For Days shirt gets too worn, you send it back to them, and it will be recycled, and they send a fresh one! This company gives me so much hope for the future.
    Also, they anticipated so well that this system would bring up some confusion among customers and prepared accordingly; they have the best customer service I’ve ever seen!
    Anyone + everyone reading, go check out their company! Demand was so great, they are currently on a waitlist for subscriptions, but you can add your name! I don’t work for them in any way, I will just be shamelessly plugging them forever. xo

  25. Lauren B says...

    Regarding the two ingredient appetizer: swap the mustard for horseradish.
    My uncle makes it every year at the holidays, and it is amazing. Just a kielbasa sliced in coins, with a small bowl of horseradish.

  26. Libbynan says...

    I have been taking a book with me everywhere since I was eight (63 years). About 30 years ago I read that Diana Vreeland’s greatest fear was “getting caught with nothing to read.” And I said “YES!” This is the key to reading more, whether it is a reader or an actual book. Also, a book may never be right for you. I have tried to read ” The Thorn Birds ” at least five times since it was published. I’ve never gotten past the first 150 pages. I’m also the only female I know who fell asleep during ” Sleepless In Seattle “…twice.

  27. C says...

    Here is my #1 tip for reading more books (I have read 30 books so far in 2019 despite a full time job and a toddler): give it 50 pages and if you’re not into it, move on to something new. Don’t slog your way through books out of some sense of obligation. Sometimes a book just isn’t for you and sometimes is just isn’t the right time for a particular book. There are so many books in the world, you’ll never read them all so why dedicate your time and effort to one that isn’t pulling you in? The book will always be there, you can come back to it again later and see if captures your interest better at a different time. But for now, release yourself from it and give yourself permission to move on to something new. Doing this has allowed me to read so many more books, all of which I’ve enjoyed immensely.

    • Elizabeth says...

      I wholeheartedly agree with this! Giving myself permission to ditch a book was the best adult decision I’ve made in recent years. Also, I gave myself permission to stop using the library and just buy books. I was always HORRIBLE at returning books and having overdue books and fines would keep me from getting any more books out so I just stopped reading for a few years. I loved reading but I hated the logistical planning of trying to fit a visit to a library into my already-packed day. Now I just buy books and the Free Little Library in my neighborhood has a great selection of current, read once books.

    • Sally says...

      OH YES, THIS.
      I’m a first grade teacher, and I tell it to my class All The Time. “Life is too short for boring books.”
      Whenever I read with them, one-on-one, I ask them, “Are you enjoying this book?” And I’ve trained them to be honest in their response. And if they say “no” or hum and ahh for ages, I tell them they can choose a different one if they want to.
      For new/early readers, it’s so vital we teach, and show them, how to love books. And how damaging and pointless is it for a little kid to have to plow on with a book they don’t like?! Urgh. They should be loving everything they read, and if they aren’t, we – as the adults – need to give them the skills to fix it.

  28. Jen says...

    Just a quick ‘thank you’ for the content warning on the three magical phrases. I will bookmark for the future but I don’t know if my heart can handle that today. Thanks for being thoughtful!

    • Jody says...

      Me too. Thanks. I can’t bear the thought and I’m struggling enough.

  29. My own personal list of things that are good in theory, not in practice:

    1. Night Clubs – why?
    2. Corn Mazes – why?
    3. Scary Movies – why?
    4. Stilettos – why?

    :)

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      Corn mazes! Yes! Terrifying!

    • Eloise says...

      Going to pick out a Christmas tree. I love having one in the house, but picking it out….nope.

      New Year’s Eve.

  30. Anne says...

    After a completely shitty week at work, thank you for setting my priorities straight by posting Three Magical Phrases. Want to crawl right into my kid’s beds to give them a big hug!

  31. Virginia says...

    Such nostalgia for the original Parent Trap! My dad disclosed he had a crush on Hailey Mills when he was a boy (very unlike him). I even got an ill-advised bowl cut when I was too old for such a cut. Dreamed of being like her. I.was.not.

  32. Maggie says...

    Oh my goodness.
    3 Magic Words just wrecked me. I have a 9 year old and the thought of losing her, seeing her go through that. – it is more than the heart can bear.
    Sending so much love to that family.

    • Thank you. We are shattered but feel the pieces of love around us.

  33. TINA HRYSANTHA says...

    What!? I casually popped over to check out Moriah’s pink dress on her instagram and discovered it was the dress I had wanted to wear to my daughter’s christening but could never find it in my size every time I checked online! She looks radiant!
    My heart also broke for the family who lost their dear, dear son, Ewan.
    Does anyone else feel a bit divided about being truthful? I keep thinking if I would ever be able to be so brave or I think I might be too heartbroken to let my child face that reality? Of course I realise sitting on the sidelines, you will never know how to be unless you really are there.

    • Liz says...

      I felt the same way!

  34. Keely says...

    Oh my dear god that article about the dying little boy. I am gutted…

    • Jenny says...

      Keely, I understand that feeling of gutted. The other day, I asked that little boy’s big sister what her first memory of him was. She said, “It was of him pooping in the bathtub.”
      We laughed so hard at her memory. I share this to say that we can be crushed and we can have side-splitting laughter all in one. Kids are especially keen at coping with these dichotomous emotions. I know Ewan’s story is sad, but it is beautiful and celebratory, too. And many parts make me laugh if I allow myself to be open. I hope you stay open to stories that gut and find beauty in them.

  35. Bonny says...

    You might be tempted to think the best thing about Moriah is her excellent taste, but her kind heart wins. She is a gem!

  36. Liz says...

    I think it’s a magnolia tree! Beautiful.

  37. Sharon says...

    “Three Things” is written my my friend, Jenny, who lost her 8 year-old to leukemia last year. She writes openly and poingently about her experiences and about her beautiful boy. It means so much that you posted a link to her article.

    • Jenny says...

      Love you, Sharon. Thanks for introducing me to Cup of Jo and being a writing buddy!

  38. Gemma says...

    I LOVE THE ORIGINAL PARENT TRAP SO MUCH call me during the Let’s Get Together song and I’ll sing along. It’ll be amazing.
    xx
    PS No but seriously call me so I can sing along.

  39. Mariah says...

    I’ve never commented before, but felt the need to after reading the “Three Magical Phrases” article. So moving and beautiful – I won’t be able to stop thinking about that.

  40. Tovah says...

    Whoa– I have this exact kind of tree/bush in my yard! I just cut some blooms from it today! Does anyone happen to know what it is called?

    • Char says...

      It’s a camellia!

    • Anna Clarke says...

      I’v got this gorgeous bloom in my new house. Pretty sure it’s Camelia.

    • Tovah says...

      Thank you both so much!!!

  41. Kate says...

    Three magical phrases – so moving. What a wonderful testament to a Mother’s love.

    • Truth be told it’s a testament to the little boy and his love for us.

  42. Marcella says...

    Re: the mother daughter exchange, I’m 25 and just now realizing that my parents aren’t perfect humans and are actual people! This weekend I was chopping onions (of course) and started crying because it reminded me of my grandma who passed away when I was in 8th grade – for some reason she would always put onions in her salad. I talked to my mom about it and she mentioned how when she died my mom saw all these pictures that she had never seen before of my grandma and how it’s weird to think how our parents were real people before us! It’s so weird to me to think about my mom at my age and how different our lives are.

  43. Meg says...

    COCKTAILS are better than in theory than in practice???? Has this writer only been ordering drinks at Applebee’s? Lol girl needs to find a good cocktail bar. I’ve never found anything better in practice than a really good cocktail, lol.

    • Leigh says...

      RIGHT?! I went out for cocktails with my favorite work ladies on Wednesday and they (and the amazing company) were delightful.

      I unabashedly love all the things on that list.

    • Angie says...

      Haha!! Get that girl outta Applebee’s!

  44. Kate says...

    I haven’t clicked through to the links yet because I’ve been too busy googling trying to figure out what type of flower is in the header image! It’s not roses or peonies, right??

    • DI says...

      Camelias

    • Kenni says...

      Hi Kate,
      I’m thinking it’s a variety of magnolia tree judging by the foliage.

    • Meg says...

      I think it’s a particularly nice Camelia.

    • Sarah says...

      It is a camilla I think :)

    • Maggie says...

      I think they might be camellia. We have a bush with pink blossoms in our yard here in CA and they are going nuts right now. So pretty.

    • Abby Robson says...

      I believe those are magnolias :)

    • Sarah P. says...

      Camellias!

  45. Oversensitive? says...

    I was super excited a few months ago to re-watch the original Parent Trap with my husband as it was a big part of my childhood growing up and he had never seen it. It ended up being a conversation-provoking viewing experience — we were both taken aback at the casual depiction of domestic violence (both physical and verbal) between the mother character and father character. While it remains a favorite movie for me, I’m not sure it’s one I’ll show my kids. I would be interested to know if others who have re-watched it as adults feel similarly.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      oh? i’m so interested to see now — maybe i’ll watch it before the boys. i don’t remember anything about that (from watching as a child) but so often i’ll see new things as an adult. peter pan, cinderella, grease — all movies i loved but wouldn’t encourage my kids to watch now. thank you!

    • Mara says...

      I can see that. As my mom would say, “The movie is very dated.” Casual domestic violence, but hey folks it’s all ok because their passion for one another burns just as hot as their tempers. [groan] It’s still one of my favorite movies, but when I watch it as an adult I spend a fair amount of time wincing. Same goes for the original “Yours, Mine, and Ours” with Lucille Ball and Henry Folda. Dated!

    • Oversensitive? says...

      I know, right? I guess we all turned out all right despite those influences — but I do find it fascinating what my (relatively woke, for the 80s) parents accepted as fit for kid consumption. I’d love to see a post about movies you’ve enjoyed for family movie nights.

  46. Michelle Jensen says...

    Now as I sit here sobbing from reading the Three magical phrases, I need to tell you about the perfect t-shirt.

    $9.90 for the perfect short sleeved shirt that works with any outfit. Looks great under a blazer, tucks nicely into high-waisted pants, even looks great with activewear. It’s fitted, but the ribbing makes it work on any body and keeps it from showing every little bump or roll. Never stretches out and always shrinks back to size after a wash.

    https://www.uniqlo.com/us/en/women-ribbed-crew-neck-short-sleeve-t-shirt-413996.html?dwvar_413996_color=COL02&cgid=women-t-shirts-and-tops#start=6&cgid=women-t-shirts-and-tops

    • Jenny Harrington says...

      That’s really funny. I am sobbing, too and suddenly thinking I need to have one of those perfect shirts. It’s confusing to have both emotions sitting together in the same space.

  47. Amanda says...

    Obsessed with Moriah’s wedding gown! You can tell she is one of the brighter lights in this world.

  48. Mary W. says...

    Tater tots and cocktail sauce. And thanks for the warning on the three-phrases link.

  49. Elizabeth Monaco says...

    I just lost my dear and beloved mother to cancer. It’s been a little over two weeks. She was 85. I cannot imagine losing a child. I cannot fathom the pain of this mother losing her treasured little boy. I must say that her three magical phrases were almost on point when I said goodbye to my mom. “ I love you, you did a great job (she was a great mom), I will miss you but we will be ok , and you will have no more pain” .. mine were four. God bless this family, and may God bless all those suffering from cancer, especially the little ones. Thank you COJ

  50. E says...

    The link on “how to read more” reminded me of my friend’s post on “how to read better”.

    https://bit.ly/2HKtHDL

  51. Lisa says...

    Sitting at my desk trying to not start sobbing, oh my gosh that Three Magical Phrases article gutted me.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      same, i haven’t been able to stop thinking about it.

    • Anne St.Jean says...

      A family friend of my parents lost their son to cancer at 8 years old. Each year a family of birds would nest in their tree and leave in fall. When the son was taking his last breaths, his dad pointed out the window to the birds, preparing to leave, and told him “fly away with the birds, Noah”. That story makes me weep every time.

    • It’s all I do. Sit. And think. And cry. A cup of tea and a walk with a friend helps. I recommend it.

  52. Cynthia says...

    The magical phrases story left me teary-eyed. I can not imagine what it is like lose a child.

  53. There’s a weird tension between books as revered objects, books as a method to transfer information, and books as entertainment.

    Which is to say if more of what I wanted to read were available in disposable mass market paperback that’s designed to be consumed and then passed on (rather than read then lovingly placed on decorative shelving) then I’d have no problem always having a book on me.

    As it stands nowindays most things get put out in “nicer” large format paperback that are always the heaviest thing in my bag and the hardest thing to read on the train.

    Suddenly while typing this I get the appeal of owning an e-reader.

    • Andrea says...

      I love reading on my iPad. I mainly get books from the library, but sometimes purchase e content. I hate the waste of individuals owning books and the environmental impact (80% of books strike me as single use objects). I have always been a reader, but don’t like the fetishization of actual hard copy books. E content changed my life!

    • China says...

      That’s what finally converted me a few years ago, I like to travel as lightly as possible and if I’m reading digitally in a pinch all I need is my phone, and I’m absolutely never without a book! Plus, the phone app is ideal for reading while standing up on an NYC subway :)

  54. Janine says...

    Wow! Scrolled through Moriah’s Instagram, can we get a week of outfits from this lady? Her wedding dress is just the tip of the iceberg.

    • Cailin says...

      Agreed! Love her dress, her style, her photos!

  55. Renee says...

    The tallest man I ever loved was such a great article!

  56. Eloise says...

    I scrolled down to leave an innocuous comment about Everlane (I feel like I am the only one who hasn’t fallen under its spell – I just don’t get the attraction) and got sidetracked by the “magical phrases” story. Sob. What strength.

    • Taylor says...

      They make affordable basics and don’t employ slave laborers (see, Zara, H&M, Nike, etc etc). They have transparency around the pricing to make their goods and an effort to be green and energy conscientious. I wish they made more interesting things, designs! patterns!, etc. But they are my absolute go-to for basics because it feels good to support a company with its mission statement.

  57. Kate says...

    Thank you for the content warning on the magical phrases to comfort a dying person link… I’m a new mom with a touch of PPD and just can’t handle things like that right now. ILYSM, COJ! <3

    • Annie says...

      34 weeks pregnant gal in your same boat, Kate. However, against my better instincts I read the article, subsequently fell down the rabbit hole of his mother’s blog (https://teamewan.com/), and am now a puddle of tears. It’s all so hard to read but reminds me to be more grateful for the small things and less inconvenienced by fleeting annoyances.

    • Thank you for reading about Ewan, Annie. He has so much more to offer than sadness. He loved a good joke, books, friends and family. When your child is ready, you can read Harry Potter to them and tell them about another little boy who should have lived. In fact, read an extra chapter even though you might be really tired. And always stay in bed with your child for “one more minute.” I think you are going to be a brilliant mom.

    • Annie says...

      Wonderful advice, Jenny…I can’t wait to read Harry Potter with both of my little girls. We will read in honor of Ewan and keep following his and your story. Thank you so much for sharing it. <3