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14 Great Reader Comments on Beauty

14 Great Reader Comments on Beauty

How do you think about beauty? What have you been into lately? We loved these 14 smart comments from readers, including a trick for ‘soap brows’ and the #1 face mask for glowing skin…

On holy grail products:

“I was on a crowded stinky underground commuter train to work one morning and a woman walked by me smelling of life, liberty and happiness. I begged her to tell me what she was wearing and it was Santal 33. I ran to the store and bought it. Now people stop me everywhere I go asking me what I am wearing. Worth every penny.” — Emma

“Not sure if lipstick counts here, but I have been wearing Clinique Black Honey Almost Lipstick since I was in the seventh grade. (I’m 38 now.) It is literally perfect.” — Ann

“I bought the Tata Harper Resurfacing Mask in December, and it was worth the splurge for the tiny jar. I’ve tried tons of masks and it’s the only one that leaves my face feeling so clean and glowing. Absolute FAVORITE.” — Angela

Everyday Oil is my go-to product for everything. Softens dry skin. Smooths frizzy hair. Removes make up at the end of the day. Helps heal a sunburn. Smells amazing. It’s the only beauty product that I consistently finish and reorder.” — Alyssa

On seeing yourself through a child’s eyes:

“I’ve thought of the view my daughter sees as lovingly gazes at me while she’s breastfeeding — where you can see all the chins. I think of what I see when I accidentally have my phone camera turned on my face and cringe. But she loves her view and I should learn to love it, too.” — Rebecca

On the power of lipstick:

“I once watched an interview with Rashida Jones where she said she loved wearing bright lipstick because ‘it feels like I’m asking to be seen.’ I loved that. I can be pretty self-conscious, but I’ve always felt comfortable wearing lip color. It’s like the one bold choice I’m always willing to make.” — Emily

On smart tips:

“I read this tip recently from a French blogger, and it would work especially well when trying not to look too ‘made up’ on vacations: after applying your foundation, use a tissue to rub a bit off on your nose. Apparently, it’s a visual illusion to look like you aren’t wearing foundation at all! It adds to that ‘done but undone’ look.” — Melissa

“Have you heard of soap brows? It’s stupid simple, effective and best of all cheap. You take a clean mascara wand (aka a spoolie), wet it, run it across a bar of soap, and then fluff, brush and smooth your eyebrows. It creates AMAZING volume, they hold literally all day (without flaking or getting crunchy). If you need to refresh them, wet that same spoolie and give them a brush. Life. Freakin’. Changing.” — Kate

“Thigh chafing is the worst! This solution is super easy, though: Mix equal parts coconut oil and corn starch. Put in a jar and apply in the morning. Lasts all day, and I find the skin gets softer.” — Trish

On a signature scent:

“Scent is such a powerful reminder of a person or place. My mom has worn the same perfume since I was born, and when my brothers and I were little, we would get upset when she didn’t smell like ‘our mom.’ When I moved away from home, she gave me a little bottle of her perfume so I could smell it if I missed her. I’m almost 30 and I still smell that bottle when I’m homesick.” — Katie

On hair:

“I’ve been going gray since my early teens and now at 30, it’s picking up the pace. But I love it! One of my old hairdressers called them my ‘sparkles,’ which really helped me embrace the beauty of gray.” — Rebecca

“My senior year of high school, I told my parents that I wanted to dye my hair something colorful. My dad was like, ‘I don’t know if I like this idea,’ but my mom said, ‘That sounds so fun! I’ll do it with you!’ So, my mom and I went to the mall and picked out semi-permanent hair dyes. She got bright red and I got pretty purple. We each dyed a chunk of each other’s hair in the bathroom sink! We kept it up until I started college.” — Em

“Hands down, the best thing I’ve ever done is find a stylist who knows curly hair inside and out (Naturally Curly is a great resource) because not only can they give you a great cut, but they can also educate you on products and techniques. My favorite is the Shea Moisture line at Target, which is light but hydrating — perfect for my curls.” — Jessica

On beauty for everyone:

“I like beauty stuff, and I’m not a shallow person. Beauty stuff isn’t fundamentally frivolous. Women are asked to make themselves beautiful, so they learn about beauty and, being resilient and resourceful creatures, turn it into something creative and enjoyable. Then the same people who demanded they make themselves beautiful sometimes mock them for being interested in making themselves beautiful! Can’t win! Lots of cool, smart women have elevated the beauty routine into something meaningful, nurturing or artistic, and I think we should celebrate that. Beauty stuff is fun as hell!” — Christy

What are your biggest beauty secrets? We’d love to hear…

P.S. Wise words, and four women on going gray.

(Photo of Rashida Jones and Amy Poehler in Parks & Recreation.)

  1. rach says...

    santal 33 is HEAVEN ON EARTH

  2. AyJ says...

    Thinking about this post and all the perfume comments – had to share:

    Isis perfume roll-on – spicy rose scent. Usually rose or spice is so not my thing, but the rose wears off to a beautiful, feminine, spicy (I think) floral. I have only seen it on Amazon, but I’m sure it must be available elsewhere. It’s my go to winter fragrance. Only a few dots on neck and wrist needed. Scent stays on all day and bottle will last years.
    https://www.amazon.com/Isis-Fragrance-Goddess-Fertility-Roll/dp/B00BGFQ0RK

    So many readers comment on wanting beauty products that are natural. I recently heard about a natural perfume company called Skylar. They offer a perfume sampler kit for $20 that offers a sample of each of their 6 perfumes. They can be mixed or worn alone. I haven’t had a chance to try them myself, but they sound amazing and I am planning on trying the sampler kit myself! skylar.com

    Lastly, my usual fragrance for all the rest of the seasons is Jo Malone Orange Blossom – a light citrus, floral. Jo Malone is an investment, but luckily you can ask for a sample where ever they are sold and can make sure it is the right choice for you. This is the one I wish I had on my wedding day!

    I just received my Santal 33 sample, I can see why some don’t like it upon first smell. However, I found applying a few dots to bare skin and letting it breathe and combine with your body’s chemistry for a few hours lets the true scent develop into what it is meant to be. Happy to add another to my perfume library!

  3. Scarlett says...

    I think I’m one of the only people in the world who doesn’t like Santal 33.

    • Liz says...

      nope, I’m there with you! It’s fine, but didn’t work for me.

  4. Nigerian Girl says...

    My beauty ‘secret’: When you run out of your favourite mascara, wash, disinfect and dry the wand. Then use it to brush your lashes before applying a fresh coat of mascara.

    • Ne says...

      This is great!!!

  5. accepting and loving myself for exactly who i am has been the best beauty ‘trick’ i’ve learned in my 30 years. as for products, making sure it doesn’t harm the environment or people and is natural without creepy, scary chemicals is zeee most important thing! i finally nailed a zero waste haircare routine which you can check out here: https://tps-steph.blogspot.com/2019/02/0029-tps-low-waste-haircare.html
    it makes me so happy to know exactly what im putting on my body! also, facial oil instead of creams and raw shea butter is the best moisturizer!

    • Yulia says...

      Thanks so much for sharing! I try to wash my hair infrequently as well, so it’s going to take me a while to run through my many impulse-purchased bottles of shampoo and conditioner. But after that I am completely on board with making my own! I like the bonus vinegar rinse recipe you included–thanks!

  6. Kaitlin says...

    Santal 33 is such a great scent with a well-earned cult following. If you don’t have $200 to spend on a bottle, Book by Commodity is a very similar, if slightly fresher, scent that will still turn heads.

  7. Abby Nottage says...

    The Santal 33 really is wonderful.

  8. Al says...

    Echoing the love for Shea Moisture -I have naturally very curly hair too and it’s the best product line I’ve found for my hair and I’ve tried everything over the years!

  9. Jess says...

    Oils! I live in the upper Midwest and the winters are bone dry. I use a few drops of avocado oil or almond oil or grape seed oil and work it into the ends of my hair in the evenings, then put my hair into a bun. I’ll do this after dinner and let it soak in overnight. Just a few drops is enough to nourish without having an oily mop. I wash my hair in the morning like normal. The result over time is healthier hair through the winter.

  10. I love this SO much. Beautiful read – and the comments too!

  11. Judy says...

    When I was 14 my dad took me on a trip to New York City without my mom or siblings. It was a lovely weekend filled with museums, wandering, shopping, and eating… but the most memorable part was when he took me to Sephora and bought me a bottle of Chanel No. 5. I felt so grown up.

  12. KL says...

    The best thing I ever did for myself was tune in to my natural features. I wanted black eyeliner to work for me for so long (in any form- cat eye, thick line, thin line, the horrible total inner line of my top and bottom lids *shudder*) as well as black mascara because everyone uses black and looks good, don’t they? I wanted thick eyebrows to work for me forEVER because everyone has thick Cara eyebrows, right? But I never felt like I got the look I was trying to achieve. Then, I turned 30 and I stopped trying to make black happen and got my first brown mascara from Aveda. It’s changed my life. I don’t wear eyeliner anymore. It’s changed my life. I now fill in my own brow shape and size instead of making them bigger. It’s changed my life. I have always been very self-conscious about how I looked, and now (with a little bit of age) I’m realizing that just using what I already have works best. May not be for everyone (because damn, don’t some ladies just look killer with a dramatic cat eye), but for me, me is best.

    • Katie H says...

      Love this!

    • Em says...

      This. This right here is why I love doing people’s makeup for free. I’m a fine artist living in L.A. and while I’m not technically a makeup artist, I give free makeup lessons and advice to anyone who will let me come near them because I love teaching about colors and features and what might be aesthetically pleasing to complement their features instead of the trends. I can’t tell you the joy that comes from seeing someone look at themselves in the mirror and see an enhanced version of themselves instead of a trend trying to morph them into something they’re not. I love your comment!

    • Christina says...

      Em- I would love to have you help me with my makeup! I’m 45 years old and am still figuring out what looks good on me…

  13. Elle says...

    One morning my four-year-old daughter walked in my room and saw my scale on the floor. She stepped right on it and said, “I want to see how strong I am.” Ever since then, whenever I step on the scale, I say to myself, “Let’s see how strong I am.”

    • Bonnie says...

      THIS is a gem. Thank you! I need to reframe my exceedingly negative outlook on the scale/my weight. In fact, my next comment was going to be, “I’m very strong today.” ugh

    • Carrie says...

      Okay that is just perfect. Thank you for sharing!!

    • meg says...

      the best. thank you for sharing this!

    • alexis says...

      I love this so much!

    • rachel says...

      this is so wonderful.

  14. Rosa says...

    I’m 42 years old and I still suffer from periodic acne breakouts. Right now I’m using Rodan and Fields Unblemish exfoliating acne wash and I find that it has really helped my skin. I’m also enjoying my natural silver highlights and my naturally curly hair. I have some pretty awesome streaks going on. I’m growing out a pixie cut and it’s finally down to my shoulders though I get the urge to chop it all off again periodically. . Really, at the moment I’m just about embracing myself and welcoming the changes that aging brings and also about using moisturizer religiously.

  15. Paige says...

    When I was 12, I begged my parents for a bottle of Chanel No. 5. Pleaded. Pestered. Harassed. All my friends were wearing body sprays, but I had to have $200 perfume. My mother scoffed. One random weekday, I came home to a note from my father on the front door with a wild goose chase of instructions sending me all over the house, hither and yon, up and down flights of stairs, into rooms and under beds with clue after clue leading me to the prize. Finally, sitting underneath my own pillow was a bottle of what I would wear for the rest of my life. I’m 41 now. It’s been almost 30 years. My fiancé just bought me my most recent bottle and it felt so meaningful…like my father walking me down the aisle and giving me away. The most important men in my life making me feel beautiful, luxurious, and fine. Shoot, I’m going to mess my mascara now…

    • Beth says...

      This is really moving. Go, dad!

    • Lindsey says...

      This makes me so happy!

    • Celine says...

      This is so beautiful it brought tears to my eyes!

  16. Rebecca says...

    Oh my gosh I am screaming! My comment in 14 Great Reader Comments on BEAUTY!?!??! My family pokes fun at my greys all the time and I feel vindicated that Cup of Jo loves my ‘sparkles’ as much as I do! THANK YOU!

    • Keli says...

      This! This is great! :D

      Plus: your comment helps me embrace my sparkles. :)

  17. Laura C. says...

    Loving your comments. The thing that I love most is that I feel like I know you all. Some names start to sound familiar to me.
    Cup of Jo, you have created a new family!
    My best new trick has been change foundation for Korean BB cream. It’s easier to apply tha foundation, leaves my skin perfectly even, it has high spf, and people tell me I look 5-10 years younger. I use Missha Perfect Cover. Try out ladies!

  18. Eliza says...

    I LOVE makeup and beauty as a form of self-care, health-care and art, but I resent it when women are told by industries that they would “be better” if they would add something (ie. Makeup, hair/lash extensions, injections) or to hide or take something away (ie. Wrinkles, weight, grey hair) from themselves. I’m caught in a trap where I don’t feel quite AS beautiful when I don’t have blush or faux lashes…. but I want to believe that I am most beautiful how I naturally am without any additions or subtractions. Mantras and forcing positive thinking (with a touch of too-much-blush or bold lipstick…) are my best tricks for feeling beautiful.

  19. Olivia K says...

    I find the best stuff here, from women of all types and it’s always inspiring and makes me cry the good tears.

  20. Maggie says...

    I need some inspiration/acceptance articles on adult acne. Jo, I feel like your blog is the place for creating beauty and empowering women. Next beauty article, please!

    • Charlie says...

      Tea Tree oil! It’s the miracle product, and it’s natural. Trader Joe’s used to sell Tea Tree oil soap, which cleared my acne up amazingly well – but they discontinued it. I’m sure any stronger tea tree oil soap will do. I haven’t yet tried mixing pure tea tree oil with water in a spray mister, but I want to, and I’m sure it works great. Apparently it’s good for bacteria + anti-fungal. (Be careful not to use it on sensitive parts down there – it can dry out skin. I only use it on my chest, neck, back, and face).

    • Maggie says...

      Agreed. It’s such a struggle and most beauty writing acts as though if you can find the right routine all will be well. Some people have acne forever.

    • Chris says...

      Sending you a virtual hug from one adult acne sufferer to another!

    • KL says...

      Hate to be the one saying, “did you try this?!” but because it helped me tons with my adult acne I guess I’ll do it anyway. Have you tried taking a zinc supplement? I can tell when I’ve skipped on taking mine because after a couple days, my skin starts with the cystic acne on my chin/cheeks. Worth looking into if you haven’t.

    • Lauren E. says...

      The only thing that has ever TRULY cleared my skin up is Kiehl’s Midnight Recovery Serum. It is a freaking miracle worker, and my friends of all skin types use it. Everyone swears by it for whatever issue they have with their skin – mine just happens to be adult acne.

      ALSO while the tiny bottle is expensive, it lasts forever. 3 drops at night is all you need. You won’t be sorry.

    • Mo says...

      I have always struggled with adult acneeven though I’m not sure I even had one pimple as a teenager! But, after I had my second son I had to give up dairy while breastfeeding and my skin cleared up almost immediately and I’ve never had a problem again. Although I can’t say wether or not it is worth it. Now if I eat pizza it is a guaranteed breakout (and tummy ache) but I still do it ALL THE TIME. Because…. pizza… mmmm

    • elizabeth says...

      I ended up going to my derm and she gave me a prescription retinol. It was the ONLY thing that worked – not any diet changes, facials, topical serums, OTC retinol, vitamins, skin pills. So much money wasted. I will say, the first few weeks are AWFUL but after that you’re golden.

    • Noreen says...

      Love all the comments and tips! I did an oral antibiotic and a topical retinoid from my dermatologist and it was AWFUL. Felt so dizzy from one and my hair has been DESTROYED from both. I was so happy when the 3 months were over (my poor poor hair). Ordered the Kiehls! Trying a tea tree oil mist next! Love the comments on CoJ!

    • M Laila says...

      I struggled with acne for years and years. I got every anti-acne product I could find and nothing worked, not even natural stuff ie tea tree. All of it just made my face drier but still breaking out. Seemed like everything was based on the idea that acne was caused by oily skin. But my skin has never been oily, yet still breaking out. It wasn’t until years later that I went to a doctor who tested me for allergies, that I had some success. He found that I had an allergy to corn and soy products, particularly aggravated by soybean oil, fructose corn syrup, and corn chips. I stopped eating anything with those products and my acne went completely away within a week or two. Now I think it’s a misconception that acne is a surface level problem. It makes sense to me that it is coming from the inside much of the time. I still break out when I accidentally eat a large portion of something with these ingredients. Interestingly non-gmo corn doesn’t bother me. Anyway, it’s something that could help those suffering from acne.

    • Sasha L says...

      Maggie, I know there’s many different reasons for acne so no one size fits all cure here, but two things you might think about. Oil cleansing. It goes against the idea that drying out is the key. Warm oil dissolves the oil clogged deep in pores. It also feels comforting and nourishing and gentle. You aren’t waging battle against your skin, you are lovingly massaging and pampering it. I think that makes a big difference. The second one is hormones. You can suppress your menstrual cycle with oral contraceptives so that your hormones are completely steady day in and day out. The other obvious benefit is no period. Many woman report a dramatic decrease in acne (also decreases in headaches, mood swings, anemia, sleep disturbances, fatigue, anxiety). If you are having trouble with your period or hormones + have acne it might be just the ticket. Your Dr can help make sure it’s a safe idea for you. Best of luck.

    • Nigerian Girl says...

      Sorry to hear you’re struggling with adult acne. I’ve been there. Urban Skin RX Even Tone Cleansing Bar and Oxy 10 helped. I wish you all the best.

    • i am currently on my journey to clearing out adult acne too. i have zit scars from december still.
      went to the dermatologist last week and been taking oral anti-biotics (Seysara) and a topical ointment (Differin Adapalene) that is drying me out so badly i’m flaking everywhere. i look like i’m 15 again.

    • Yulia says...

      This will be super long because I think understanding the reason behind every act you take to care for your skin is important. I still get occasional minor acne, but mine has cleared up dramatically ever since I started doing the following things regularly. (I list the reasons why I think each step works.)

      But first, acne can form when bacteria gets in your pores, so to decrease the introduction of bacteria to your face it’s a good idea to stop touching your face and to change your pillowcase every other day. When you do touch your face, do so with clean hands.

      Skin naturally makes its own oils. When skin is dehydrated it will double down on oil production to compensate for missing moisture, which can make you think you are too oily. Your pores can clog with all that excess oil, which can lead to acne, and to skincare routines that “fight oil.” What I did was to stop stripping away the oil and to double down on hydration… with oil. My skin stopped overproducing oil and was able to soak in the moisturizers I’d been using all along.

      My routine:

      1. WASH/MEDICATE: Wash my face with just warm water in the morning to open pores. If washing my at night, I use warm water and a gentle cleanser that doesn’t strip oil away. If I wore makeup that day I use a balm or oil cleanser to remove the makeup, then my regular gentle cleanser to wash my face. Then when my face is clean but while it is still damp, I apply any acne medication or acne balm if I need to. A damp face helps it absorb better. For me, benzyl peroxide works because it penetrates the skin and fights acne from within. It will vary for everyone!

      2. TONE: If I’m not using medication, I blot my face dry and then spritz on toner. If I AM using medication, my face will get almost entirely dry on its own by the time I’m done applying medication and rinsing my hands, so after applying medication I then spritz with toner. Toner closes the pores that you just opened up and cleaned—that’s a good thing!

      3. OIL: While your face is damp is the best time to apply an oil because it will absorb better. Like others, I have found that Kiehls works for me. I use 4-5 drops of the Daily Reviving Concentrate in the morning and 4-5 drops of the Midnight Recovery Concentrate at night. A damp face helps the oil glide easily, and you can certainly use a less expensive oil like rosehip oil. (The ACURE brand seems to be the cheapest.) Your skin will dry as you massage the oil into it.

      4. MOISTURIZE: Apply any creams now. Eye cream, serums if you use them, face cream, whatever. I massage these over skin still slightly glowy with oil. Moisturizing actually becomes effective when your skin’s oil production is balanced, and with this regular routine my skin FEELS hydrated, even if I couldn’t tell it was dehydrated before! Following this routine makes my skin feel like a plant that has been watered.
      That’s it! The only difference is that I use just water for washing in the morning, and a gentle cleanser to wash at night. And I use different oils for day and night too. Aside from the acne medication, you wouldn’t think this was an adult acne skin regimen. But what this routine does is care for the skin itself so that it is super healthy and doesn’t get crabby and irritated and acneic in response to dehydration. I follow this routine regardless of whether I have acne or not and my skin has been happy for the firs time in my life!

  21. dana says...

    You know what I’d love…? If Gemma Burgess would be a contributor to COJ. I constantly look at her blog to see what she has to say about products and beauty, but I want more. I like her recommendations and thoughts about life, plus she makes me laugh. It’d be nice to see more of her here, on my favorite blog. =)

    • Gemma says...

      YES TO THIS!

    • Michelle Bengson says...

      Seconding the Gemma request!

    • Fernanda Abreu says...

      Yes. PLEASE. I´m addicted to ger stories in Instagram. Kisses from Brazil :)

    • DAMLA says...

      Second to Gemma request! :) I also follow her instagram stories regularly and would love to see articles at CoJ.

    • Natalie says...

      I agree! After hearing from her on your blog a couple times I’m now a weird superfan … I follow her insta, blog etc. and have taken a lot of her recommendations on shows, products, etc. and love her real-ness and attitude : )

    • Robin says...

      7nded :)

    • sierra says...

      yesyesyes to this!!

  22. Nina says...

    On the topic of Santal 33: I’m getting married in a month and on the hunt for a perfume to wear (I don’t wear much perfume normally). But I’ve read a post in the past that people wear a scent and are taken back to the day in the future when they smell it and it sounds so lovely. Does anyone have tips for good/appropriate wedding day scent? Obviously it’s very personal but would Santal 33 be a good choice to try?

    • Molly says...

      My sister got me a few trial sizes from Le Labo so that I could pick one in particular for my wedding day. I myself went with Neroli 36, but that way I had some options!

    • michaela says...

      Just writing to say that I did this for my wedding (I also wore the perfume on the honeymoon) and it’s been so lovely to pull it out for special occasions and revisit this special scent. My husband always notices and it puts him in a good mood, too. :) I went with TokyoMilk’s Honey and the Moon because I liked that it was more affordable, so I could keep restocking. It’s very sweet and warm, with a faint woodsy undernote that keeps it interesting.
      https://www.tokyo-milk.com/products/honey-the-moon-no-10-parfum-boxed

    • Lacey says...

      Santal 33 is their most popular scent! I happen to really like Rose 31. I love your idea, I wish I had done the same for my wedding!

    • K says...

      I did this! I don’t wear fragrance often but bought one for the wedding/honeymoon.
      I would recommend going to Sephora or somewhere similar and testing a bunch out. Perfumes smell different on everyone.
      Here’s the one I picked…
      https://www.nestfragrances.com/black-tulip-eau-de-parfum

    • Mina says...

      I did this and it totally works. I chose a Chanel Mademoiselle body spray that worked perfectly for our wedding and honeymoon.

    • Marta says...

      I did it for my wedding and it was a mistake. I bought Issey Miyake L’eau D’issey a couple weeks before wedding and just a week before wedding found out I was pregnant. During the reception felt already a little nausea and new fregnance didn’t help. Long story short, every time I smell L’eau D’issey now, I feel a little nausea.

      Another thing is that after pregancy I’ve almost stopped wearing perfumes and also started to be much more sensitive to other people’s scents.

    • KL says...

      I wore Chloe while in Egypt with my now-husband (it was our first trip together when we started dating). I’ve worn other nice perfumes on other nice occasions, but whenever I wear Chloe, he stops in his tracks and says, “Egypt?” and I say “Egypt.” And then we usually smooch. We seriously considered naming our daughter Chloe (but it didn’t work well with his last name).

    • Sonia King says...

      I personally prefer Rose 31, its an amazing scent!

      Do it. i used J’adore for my wedding and every time I use it now its reminiscent of that day!

    • Lisa says...

      I did that – got a special perfume for my wedding that I also wore on honeymoon and lots of holidays subsequently. Every time I smell it it takes me back. The bottle is almost empty so I just keep it for the occasional whiff to take me back

    • Amanda says...

      I would recommend ordering up a handful of le labo (or any other perfume house) sample size scents, and see what works with your body. This is how i ended up with their Santal 33, as well as my favorite, Patchouli 24, which is like the best mix of the patchouli my teenage jam band loving self loved, mixed in with a brooding man at a whiskey bar, and a cold winter’s night (not sure that that’s a great sales pitch, but it’s heaven for me.) Also, reading all of the descriptions on the le labo site of the scents is such a great time, A+ to whomever does their copy.
      Another idea? When my husband and I were first married, I met up with him in NYC for a weekend when he was working there. We went to L’Artisan Parfumeur and tried a ridiculous amount of scents. It was so fun to do it together, to see what he reacted to and was drawn to vs what I loved. We ended up with a bottle each, his a red pepper and mine a white pepper (that’s dumbing it down to a scent profile I can understand), and together (and apart) they smell amazing. 10 years in we still have those bottles (what is the shelf life on perfumes anyway?) and its such a treat, and wink to each other, when we wear them.

    • Nigerian Girl says...

      Santal 33 is quite common in your part of your world. You could try another great but little known niche fragrance brand – especially if you don’t want to wear an overfamiliar scent on your wedding day. Try samples from V Canto and The Merchant of Venice (I particularly love La Fenice Pour Femme) if they’re available in the US. If not, Juliette Has a Gun and the Jo Malone Cologne Intense line are also worth a look. If you want an inexpensive, but still uncommon option, try Mauboussin. I just got Promise Me and it’s divine. I hope you find something you really like.

  23. Wendy says...

    So who has found a foundation that can last a full day??? Mine is gone by the time I walk out the front door, I swear it!!

    • dana says...

      just a thought, but do you use any kind of a primer? maybe that could help?

    • ALI says...

      Hi Wendy! My friend recently taught me not to blame the foundation! Do you wear a primer? If not, I highly recommend giving it a try. I also find spraying some setting spray really helps. Between these two my make-up lasts AT LEAST until lunchtime ;)

    • Sara says...

      Don’t have a foundation suggestion since everyone is so different, but highly recommend primer pre-foundation, and if that isn’t enough, a light make up setting spray.

    • Lori says...

      Wendy,
      One thing that really helps foundation last all day is to prime with a good primer first. Laura Mercier primer is a great primer. It’s kind of pricey $35ish, but lasts a long time. I wear it daily and get 10-11 months out of it. I’ve tried many primers and I love this one for the staying power. I use and have tried many foundations. $-$$$$. My personal favorite is Make-up Forever HD. I put it on at 6:30 am and it still looks great at 8pm. I get asked almost daily if I’m wearing foundation, and then what brand. Also kinda pricey $48, but I easily get 5 months of daily use out of one bottle. I date my products to see what it costs to be me 😊 another tip for all day wear, lightly powder down your foundation with a good powder. I like derma-blend. Or something milled very fine. And let it set for a minute or two before you dust it off with a fluffy brush. Well Into my 40’s I feel I have a great makeup routine and solid products that work. I’ve done a lot of trying/experimenting over the years and I love helping someone find a product or technique that really works. Now I’m really curious, which foundation are you using?

    • Rosa says...

      I use Urban Decay’s Liquid All Nighter foundation. It’s full coverage and lasts all day. I switch up my foundation depending on the day though. On weekends and days off I use Rodan and Fields Radiant Defense because it’s moisturizing and lightly covers as well.

    • Wendy says...

      Wow, ladies, thanks for the suggestions! I’ve never been consistent with primer. I’ll go get some tomorrow when we dig out of our latest snowstorm!
      Lori, I’ve tried all different brands. Clinique, MAC, Benefit to name a few. I struggle to find one that doesn’t turn orange on me. I used to have one I loved from Origins, but haven’t been able to find it.

    • Laura C. says...

      Wendy,
      I use Korean BB creams. It’s not like a foundation but the best part is that is buildable and you can put on more quantity if you want more coverage, and it’s never orange on your skin. They just blend very well and you get your own skin color but so soft and even. I use Missha Perfect Cover but there are many other brands. Skin79 has great BB creams too.
      :)

    • Stacy says...

      Hi Wendy! I recently started using the Smashbox hydration primer (this one is geared toward dry skin, but they have multiple products in their primers line) and i feel like my makeup looks good all day! I was also introduced to a foundation brand at Ulta called Makeup Revolution. It’s has concealer like qualities to it but isn’t heavy. The salesperson at Ulta said people had been requesting it for months and it’s a top seller! A few months in and I’m happy with both purchases!

  24. Stella says...

    Yes to Shea Moisture!! They’re an amazing Black woman-owned company with great products (good ingredients, cruelty free, fair trade, etc.). But *please* link to their actual website and not corporate Target, let’s support them directly! (also they’re sold almost everywhere, not just Target)

    • KL says...

      I agree on linking directly to their website versus the monolith that is Target. Thank you for commenting, Stella.

  25. Kate says...

    WOW, I love that last comment by Christy! My mom is a natural beauty and while I was growing up, she shirked off nearly all beauty products. She splashed her face with hot water and a bar of soap, and used cheap drug store shampoo. When I started shaving my legs, she wouldn’t buy me expensive razors or shave gel- soap and water it was. I remember her raising her eyebrows at my buying a set of basics makeup at sephora after college- I think the whole set cost $65, which she found appalling.
    It has taken me years to make peace with the idea that beauty products are one of the ways I care for myself, and caring for myself isn’t high maintenance. It’s lovely. And my inclination is toward natural products- a better choice for my health, the environment, and it feels good! It may not be the cheapest option, but it’s OK to splurge on myself! xoxo

    • S. says...

      Kate, I relate to this so much! My mom was the same. Growing up, I always feared that she would think I was somehow stupider if I revealed that I longed for makeup. As an adult, I fully embraced it and love talking all things beauty related. Now here’s the twist— in her 60s, my mom hesitently started asking me to try my makeup, or why my lashes look so long, or how dry shampoo works. And lo and behold— she embraced it too! She needed time to give herself permission to enjoy these things. Now we enjoy them together :)

  26. Alice says...

    Santal 33 smells like pickles to me. Not necessarily a bad thing, it’s striking. But then my favourite is something called ‘dzongha’, which bears a distinct resemblance to celery, so what do I know.

    • KL says...

      Ha!

  27. Alanna says...

    I love Santal 33 too, but I wore it into the office once and someone kept sniffing the air asking what was burning. Pretty sure they were talking about the Santal!

  28. Katie says...

    I’m getting gray’s too at 35 and always felt crap about it. Recently I noticed 2020 presidential candidate, Tulsi Gabbard, has a thick gray streak she confidently wears and lets grow in the front of her hair … I think she is late thirties so now I’m all fired up to embrace my own grays!

  29. Taylor says...

    Speaking of beauty–does anyone have any good makeup artist recommendations for a low-key wedding on a Thursday night in the DC area? Everyone I’ve emailed does “group rates” (???? we’re having a ceremony and dinner with 30 people, no bridal party, just want to look pretty and pay an expert for just me!) or will stay during the event for “touch ups”?? I don’t want any of this and I’m finding the whole process really unnecessarily stressful.

    • Julie says...

      You could maybe just go to Sephora or a make-up counter in a department store or somewhere similar – usually they do them for free if you buy a certain amount of product, I think it’s $50 for Sephora. It’s a cheap option that might work and they have heaps of different products and different make-up artists so you could find one that suits.

    • MW says...

      I used to just make an appt at Sephora with someone who seemed like they had similar style to me. If you spend $50 on products the makeover is free! Enjoy the

    • Liz says...

      http://www.fyubi.com – I was pretty with my “natural” look for my wedding!

    • Katie says...

      I would try blue mercury if you have one of those, either getting your makeup done there or asking one of the staff members if you can hire them for an off site. Congrats!

    • Carolyn says...

      Please look into Joanna – she’s a friend and wonderful makeup artist. Can do that gorgeous “dewy” all natural look as well as va va voom glam. Based in Alexandria!

      https://www.thehighlightmakeupartistry.com

    • allison says...

      Victoria Kneip (https://www.victoriakneip.com/) did my hair and makeup for my wedding in DC – she was the only person I talked to that didn’t have a minimum number of people or dollar minimum attached to coming to me for hair and make up. So much more low key (and lower price) than the bigger companies I talked with! I’m not sure about her availability during the week, but I highly recommend contacting her. She’s also just lovely and very easy to be around. (Also – I was so surprised by how stressful this part of wedding planning was, so I totally empathize with you!)

  30. Ellen W-W says...

    In college I started wearing my brightest, reddest lipstick whenever I needed to clean my room. A guy friend once asked why, I think because it seemed so odd to “dress up” my face for a menial chore like cleaning. Years later my answer still holds- lipstick helped me feel good just for myself, especially in the midst of doing something thankless and unglamorous like cleaning. Years and years later, as my cleaning responsibilities have only increased, I still reach for my favorite lipstick when I know things are about to get extra laborious- cleaning toilets, mopping floors, folding endless piles of laundry. Something about that ritual makes me feel as young, light and fun as when I actually was young and light(er), but hopefully not nearly as fun as I am now. Thank goodness for the small luxuries that transport us.

    • Anna says...

      I love this!

    • Rachel says...

      Yes! I always wear a bold red/pink when I go running. Sometimes it ends up smeared on my sleeve by the end, but I love to be that woman whizzing by everyone and looking like a million bucks doing it!

    • alexis says...

      I love this, and I’m totally stealing it the next time I have to clean the bathroom!

  31. Another Li says...

    I thought Shea Moisture was silicone-free??

    • Colleen S says...

      For me, I had to stop using it. It made my hair fall out in big clumps. It doesn’t happen to many people, but I just wanted it put out there.

  32. Rebecca says...

    Women, men! Use megababe for thigh chafe. I have tried ALL of the less than versions and DIYs out there. Its the first product that has really worked and I don’t care if people see it- in fact I pull it out to show everyone. Plus the owner of Megababe has a great internet presence (follow!).

  33. Lauren says...

    I first read about Drunk Elephant on Cup of Jo a few years ago in Jean Godfrey June’s terrific beauty uniform post and I’ve been using it ever since! I use more or less their whole line (except for the sunscreen which I don’t love the consistency of) and recommend it to everyone. It is an investment, but it’s my face so I think that’s worth investing in! Plus it keeps my skin in really good shape so I barely wear make-up and save there. If you want to dip you toe in, try the TLC Framboos night serum and wake up with incredibly soft skin :)

  34. Hannah says...

    Katie, that comment about your mom’s perfume took my breath away! It’s so, so sweet that you and your brothers have that memory. My mom has always smelled like the same sunscreen (not quite a “scent”, but hooray for SPF!), and I was quick to squirrel some of hers away when I went off to school.

  35. Haylee says...

    Oo, can we request a tip? Anyone got a good rec for a killer hand cream? As a nurse I wash my hands all day and in the wintertime they feel like they’re peeling off! Would love some direction, if anyone has a keeper :)

    • Laura says...

      I’ve been loving Skin Food from Weleda.

    • Alyssa says...

      Weleda skin food. Caroline had a post about it. Its great! Natural! Nourishing!

    • elinor says...

      I love Rose Comfrey Moisture Cream by Four Elements Herbals! It does wonders for my dry skin. It’s a bit oily so I usually only use before I go to bed, but it smells amazing:)

    • Gwen says...

      Weleda skin food!

    • Tammy says...

      I love Eucerin original healing creme. It is very thick and rich and is the only lotion I’ve found to keep my hands from being red and burning from dryness during winter!

    • Alexandra says...

      Try Weleda Skin Food. It takes a bit to absorb, so I prefer to do it at night before bed. For more “moisturize and go” type lotion, try CeraVe Moisturizing Lotion (the stuff in the tub).

    • Dana says...

      Aquaphor is the only thing that works for me. it is greasy, but it is worth it.

    • Leni says...

      I like the orange one by Weleda (Sanddorn in German) – while I was working in a lab, I was constantly wearing gloves or washing and disinfecting my hands and this hand cream was definitely helping against super dry and cracked skin. I don’t like the smell too much though, so I’m happy to hear other recs :) after the Antarctica beauty uniform, I have been using zinc oxide (Kaufmanns Kinder Creme, sorry it’s German!) at night, which also seems to help.

    • Erin says...

      I swear by O’Keeffe’s Working Hands. Not greasy and not too expensive.

    • Yael says...

      Neutrogena Norwegian formula hand cream is great – I have ezcema and it works for me to keep my hands hydrated and stave off flares. The best thing that I’ve found, though, is to slather your hands in Aquaphor before bed. It’s super greasy so you may need to put cotton gloves on (or just be prepared to have some slick spots on your linens!) but it’s super effective.

    • Alice says...

      I like weleda but it’s too greasy on your hands if you need to get straight back to doing something. Aveno (cheap oaty stuff) I’ve found good, and l’occitane’s Shea hand cream. Hear good things about the body shop’s hemp but I dislike the smell. You will likely find, from someone who was outdoors in all weathers filling water buckets and soaking hay nets, that rather than just a moisturiser what you really need is a good barrier cream. O’Keefe’s working hand cream is not pretty, but it works.

    • Hannah says...

      Weleda sea buckthorn hand cream is good and not greasy like skin food.

    • Danielle says...

      Trader Joe’s hand cream is really nice. I’ve heard it’s a L’Occitane dupe. There’s a regular one and at Christmas there is a ginger version. Right now there’s a special rose one. Well worth a try at $5.

    • Rachel says...

      My husband who hates lotion loves the Swedish dream sea salt hand cream, he says it’s not greasy at all. I can even get him to give me foot rubs now! He can’t do the greasy stuff.

    • Em says...

      I’ve found almost any lotion with a few extra drops of oil (jojoba or argan or olive even) does a wonderful job. If you want a product tip though- I’ve never found anything ANYthing (from $ weleda to $$$$ creme de la mer) to be as hydrating and softening as Jao brand! It’s a little pricey but the tube is large, you don’t need more than a pinch and it lasts forever. I highly highly recommend Jao.

    • Lori says...

      Haylee, I have tried SO many hand creams over the years. I wash my hands constantly working around students at school. Try: First Aid Beauty – Ultra Repair Cream -Intense Therapy. The unscented one is the best I’ve found. My mother-in-law is a hospice nurse and she was THRILLED that I gifted it to her and it worked. I’ve tried most of the ones in the comment section and the FAB Is my favorite.

    • Tara says...

      My hands are super sensitive and I swear by Vaseline Intensive Care (the yellow bottle). I’ve been using it for years now and don’t buy anything else!

    • Charlie says...

      Going against the grain here: I think Weleda is a rip off product for wealthy yuppies. I’ve tried it, and I don’t think it works any better than Eucerin skin cream, which is $5. My CEO has serious hand dryness and his secret on international plane rides is Eucerin in handgloves for the flight – haha. Nothing better. :) I’m also a fan of coconut oil straight from the jar – but that gets greasy.

    • Owl says...

      I love Aveeno. It’s helped my dry hands like no other cream.

    • rachel says...

      skinfix, sold on qvc, idk where else, AMAZING

    • Abby says...

      @Charlie yes Weleda is a little more expensive, but it is a natural skin care brand that sources almost all ingredients from organic resources. So really not comparable neither in price nor igredients with, let’s say Eucerin. The Skin Food has been around since 1927 (!) so I’d consider it a classic. Really no need to bash other people’s choices and compare apples with non-organic pears.
      Also this comes from someone whose preferred hand cream choice is the L’Occitane ;)

    • Rue says...

      I hate Weleda skin food and love Neutrogena Norwegian formula hand cream fragrance free. For me, something cheap and utilitarian but gentle is what I’m going to go for every time, and the Neutrogena hand cream is all of that. I also swear by Dr. Bronner’s naked organic lip balm (light blue tube), which I think is essentially the lip balm equivalent of the Neutrogena hand cream.

    • Fernanda says...

      Avène cold cream for hands!
      I also wash wash my hands all day and I am allergic to the powder in gloves. It totally saves my hands!
      Also like the Neutrogena Norwegian mentioned earlier! And sure Aquaphor is a life saver, but I find it hard to use due to the greasyness.

    • Haylee says...

      OH my goodness, thank you all so much! Your comments are like a little gold mine, looks like there are a lot of good options to sub in! Cheers to you all, thanks again :)

    • Jackie says...

      I wash my hands super often and easily get cracks and peeling skin. The best thing I’ve found is pure shea butter. It’s a solid but it melts when you rub it in your hands. I buy tubs of it at whole foods.

    • Tina says...

      I used to be an Aquaphor &/or Skin Food person, but became devoted to Waxelene a few years ago. It’s got a great balm texture, only a few ingredients and it’s so effective. It’s the only thing that truly heals my heels in Winter. It’s really great!!

  36. Chris says...

    Great tip, but just wanted to note for everyone that is .05 ounce, not a half ounce, although I’m sure most people would realize this by the price!

  37. Jordan says...

    Same here! I’m that person at work that has to ask people to stop wearing perfume because I get migraines. Honestly, some perfumes don’t bother me at all, some even smell good in my opinion. But there is always one person that wears one that I can literally TASTE in my mouth it’s so strong and potent. Those are the ones that make me actually sick.

  38. Anna says...

    I have a similar brow trick- spoolie brush them up, then dab with lip balm for thickness and hold. Also oil really does make the best eye makeup remover- I use the same coconut oil-lavender blend (All Good from Target) that I use as a body lotion and it feels (and smells!) so luxurious at the end of the day.

  39. I am Ann who has been wearing Clinique’s Black Honey since the 7th grade and I literally cannot stop crying tears of joy because my comment is featured in this post. Truth. I love you, Cup of Jo.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      we love you, ann!!! :)

    • Claire says...

      I too have been wearing black honey since high school. So did my friend Ann (Ann?! Is that you?!). We agreed it was a splurge, more than typical teenagers could afford but that we’d treat ourselves and but it for each other. On Valentine’s Day, in math class, we exchanged the little silver tubes and to this day it’s one of my best valentines memories, or gift!

    • KL says...

      If Claire and Ann reunite because of this post, please throw them a party and tell us all about it.

  40. Tiffany says...

    This tip is fire! Thanks a ton!

  41. Caitlin says...

    Hot tip alert: you can get a half ounce sample of Santal 33 on the Le Labo website (https://www.lelabofragrances.com/) for $6 and free shipping if you want to try before investing!

    • Keenda says...

      MUCH appreciated!

    • Blythe says...

      Ahh, thank you!! I was just wishing there was a way for me to try it out first!

    • Mary Barnett says...

      WHOA! Thank you!

    • Bets says...

      Just did this!! Thank you, Caitlin!

    • Jess says...

      thank you, just ordered!

    • Stephanie says...

      ORDERED!

    • elise says...

      I do not live near any BIG stores. Got online so I could try the $6.00 tiny Santal 33. Great idea. Thanks.

    • Tara says...

      Thank you !!! Ordered it right away !!

    • Kheira says...

      Just ordered! Thank you for sharing!

    • Lynn says...

      This is why the comments are sometimes as important as the posts. Thanks for the info – ordered!

    • Laura D. says...

      Caitlin, thank you for sharing this tip! I just ordered one. I’m sure Le Labo will be wondering why they have an uptick in sales of the $6 fragrance samples today. :)

    • Meg says...

      My beauty secret is that every 4 weeks or so, I wash my hair with cheap clarifying shampoo. It makes a huge difference. I use natural, sulfate-free shampoo regularly, and that stuff is great because it’s gentle on hair, but it doesn’t do well at removing hair product buildup. And I notice that when I have that build-up, my moisturizing products don’t penetrate my hair well any more. So once a month I use Suave clarifying shampoo (I think it’s $3. Any shampoo that gives you the squeaky-clean feeling is probably good.) and it’s like a re-set for my hair.

    • kelsey says...

      Thank you!! I was looking for this comment ;)

    • Caitlin says...

      Oh yay, glad to help! As someone pointed out it’s .05 ounces, not half an ounce! Yikes, sorry about that, half an ounce would be like a lot for $6.

    • Julie says...

      I’m getting married in a month and looking for a good perfume to wear. Would you say Santal 33 is appropriate/a good choice to try? Or any other recommendations??

    • rachel simmons says...

      ordered!

    • Tina says...

      That is a GREAT tip! Thank you — have always wanted to try some Le Labo. Just ordered a few samples.

  42. Andrea says...

    Grey hair—Rita Hazan Ultimate True Color Shine Gloss mutes the grey in salt and pepper hair. It’s amazing. It’s mousse you use every few weeks in the shower. I do very little in the beauty category, but this makes me happy.

  43. Di says...

    Popping into the comments just to say it made my heart happy that you chose this picture for this post. <3

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      :) :) :)

    • rachel says...

      i agree!!! I LOVE their friendship.

  44. Amy says...

    RE: Beauty for Everyone by Christy–girl PREACH. PREEEEAAACCCHHH.

    • Another Amy says...

      AMEN to this comment as well. Two Amys on the same beauty wavelength today.

  45. Marcella says...

    LOVE everyday oil, I put it on my legs when they’re still wet after the shower and it soaks in. Also washed my face with it, but it has coconut oil in it which made me break out a bit. Also not really a beauty tip but I finally caved and bought a Sonicare at Costco this weekend and it’s a game changer!!! My teeth feel so clean even in the morning when they would normally feel fuzzy and gross. Also it was only $120 for two toothbrushes compared to the $149 at my dentist office, a steal.

  46. kim says...

    had to laugh about the clinque Black honey for lips . I also have used it since jr. high or high school and I just turned 61!!!!!!!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      It has such a cult following!!

    • Sasha L says...

      What coloring does it look good on? (Always looking for fun gifts for my daughters, one is pale pink toned skin, blue eyes, dark blonde, the other is black hair, blue eyes, pink/olive skin). I already pinned the Everyday Oil!

    • Jodie says...

      I had forgotten about Clinique Black Honey!! While, I was 16 when I got my first tube. It is perfection. I am going to revisit…STAT.

    • So … I bought clinque Black Honey after reading these comments, and while I LOVE the color, it sadly only lasts about 30 minutes before fading into nothingness. And that’s just with me sitting at a desk writing, not eating or drinking or even talking. Tips?

  47. Lauren B says...

    The Santal 33 comment is SO TRUE!
    I went to the Le Labo store and tried every single scent because I refused to buy the “popular” one. Well, that was a waste of time because I too fell in love with Santal 33.
    Fast-forward a year and a half, and I am still CONSTANTLY being stopped by strangers asking what it is, because it smells so good. In fact, it happened just last night!

  48. Jodie says...

    Everyday Oil.Done.Purchased…it sounds like a dream product. Who wouldn’t purchase a product whose website “about” section ends with “we love you”. Can’t wait to try it!

    • Oh, how I love Everyday Oil! Every time I wear it, people ask me what the scent is. It makes me feel so lovely! The scent doesn’t stick around too long, but it’s still so beautiful and summery…even in the winter!

  49. Elle says...

    About grey hair: I’m 30 and have way more gray hair than I expected to at this age. I don’t mind the grey as much as I can’t stand when they are just tiny, wirey things that I can tame! I have one right now, at my hair line, that is literally about half an inch long – what do I do with that?!

    • liz says...

      lol i’m in the same boat and just tweeze the annoying ones (of which there are many). yes, i think it’s a big waste of time too but i think it’s better than dying at this point.

    • Pigeon says...

      I am the same–the grays stand up proudly in the middle of my forehead. I just sigh and look at the art I have hanging in my bathroom–a stick figure with errant hair that’s saying “I don’t want to be a hair, I want to be a DRAGON.”

    • I took the tip from @bethereinfive for cheapo (& extremely moisturizing) trick of using a smudge of Aquaphor from a drugstore as highlighter. One travel size tube will last a lifetime!

  50. Milou says...

    SOAP BROWS! That is a keeper. Thank you, Kate!!

  51. Krystyna says...

    Yes to parents allowing hair dye! When I was in high school and trying to define my own style, my parents told me to hold off on tattoos and piercings, but to go nuts with hair color — like they said, hair always grows back…. It was a gentle way of letting me experience my freedom and have the autonomy of making choices for myself, without any permanent damage. ;)

    • Amy says...

      Great perspective for me to keep with my preteen daughter! Thank you for sharing.

  52. Missy says...

    Oh wow! Tell me more! You mean you don’t shampoo, but still condition, or you don’t wet your hair at all for 2 weeks? I’m intrigued!

    • Yes still condition! Every morning I wet my hair, condition, rinse it out (sometimes hot but mostly cold) and squeeze out with a towel. Add product and dry! I seriously right now cannot remember the last time I shampoo-ed. Disclaimer: my hair is pink so the dryness from a double-process is REAL. I still stand by my recommendation even if your hair is natural color <3

  53. lesley says...

    Love my CUp of Jo ladies!!!

  54. Em says...

    Disheartened to see not one but TWO fragrance posts here. Where are my anti-cologne/ anti-perfume ladies??? Fragrance in public is like invisible terrorism. My throat gets irritated, I get a migraine that lasts just one day if I’m lucky and sometimes it forces you out of a restaurant, theater, store or public transit if you can’t tell who is the culprit. I won’t even broach how harmful it can be to your endocrine system.

    • Sasha L says...

      Hi Em. Same. I actually love beautiful smells (my husband’s neck, pine trees, peonies, warm chocolate chip cookies, fresh snow) but the artificial fragrances in laundry soap, fabric softener, hand soap, deodorant, shampoo, just everywhere make me feel awful. Sometimes I wonder, AM I really an introvert or am I just protecting myself from the onslaught of smells everytime I leave my house? It sucks. I wish I could convince everyone everywhere, you smell good, just you, you really do.

    • Alyssa says...

      Hey Em, i considered the purfumes mentioned then reconsidered after reading your comment. Thanks for sharing. Sorry you have to live with that day to day xx

    • Em says...

      Sasha L., you put it so much better than I did: “You smell good, just you, you really do”. Haha, it’s so true! Thanks for your thoughtful comment.

      Alyssa, your comment made me tear up. Thanks for the support for us sensitive people 🥰

    • Stephanie says...

      I’m with you! The onslaught can be really overwhelming, and always so artificial. I don’t inhale air freshener, so why would I want to smell perfume?

    • Madelyn says...

      A few years ago, I fell and got a concussion and lost my sense of smell. As a beauty lover, perfume posts simply make me jealous and yearn to smell again! Hopefully someday.

  55. Dienesa says...

    Ah man, Cup of Jo readers are the best.

  56. I want to encourage my fellow curly girls to NOT SHAMPOO! I know, I know. It’s sounds so scary but I tried it to protect my color. My hair is fine and I STILL can go at least 2 weeks without shampooing and I’m not greasy. And I use product too. Just choose the right products and I promise it will be ok and your hair will be so much happier. Shea Moisture stuff is really good for your curls ( as said above!) and rinse with cold!

    • Hannah says...

      Please tell me more!!!

    • Sara M says...

      Kristina – not shampooing has made all the difference with my curly hair! I shampoo probably once every 2-3 months, but I condition condition condition every time I shower and I wear my hair down more often now than I ever have. My hair is the ONLY thing I’m vain about and this tip has changed my life.
      Now I just need to find the perfect haircut! :)

    • Jessica says...

      Interestingly, my stylist said that Shea Moisture products are terrible for curly hair, I think because of the silicone?

    • liz says...

      need more details… also what if you do activities that make you sweat buckets many mornings?

    • Sasha L says...

      A hair stylist told me once that no one should be shampooing more than once a week at most. She advocates rinsing with water and conditioning ends every shower. I shampoo 2x a week mostly. My scalp starts to feel irritated if I do less, weird, but happens every time I go longer.

    • Hannah/Liz – I CrossFit every morning (so yeah the sweat is real) and my routine is the same: rinse out my hair, throw in conditioner, let it sit a few minutes, rinse with hot if I feel kinda icky but I try to do cold as much as I can. Squeeze out my hair and then product and dry! I wear my hair down every day. No dry shampoo.
      Sara – YAY!! Same!!
      Jess – Oh weird because Shea Moisture is pretty popular with the fantasy color crowd (mine is pink) because there’s no silicone! Maybe certain products have it? I guess just like with food, read the labels!