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Four Women on Going Gray

Rachel

A few weeks ago, while I was washing my hands in a fluorescent-lit bathroom, I spied with my little eye…a rogue gray hair. At 24 years old, I did a double take, and much to my surprise, the more closely I looked, the more grays I saw. Curious to hear more about going gray, I spoke with four women of different ages. Here are their stories…

Rachel

Rachel, research coordinator at UC San Diego
Age: 25; started graying at 12

On rocking it: When I was in middle and high school, I was insecure about the rate at which my hair was turning gray. I looked different from my peers and didn’t want to stand out, and was terrified that I’d reach key life events, like getting married, and be fully gray. I’ve considered coloring, but as I’ve gotten older and grown into my hair more, I’ve realized that this is what I am supposed to look like. This gray is part of me, and I shouldn’t try to cover it up. I get compliments from strangers every day, whether I’m at the pharmacy or running around my neighborhood, and I can’t tell you how much they make me smile.

On go-to products: My favorite products are Provoke Touch of Silver shampoo and conditioner. Sometimes, gray hair can adopt yellow or green undertones, and purple or blue shampoos like Provoke can neutralize those pigments. They’ve worked magic for me. I also use Aveda Light Elements Smoothing Fluid to keep my hair sleek.

On family genes: My parents also grayed early in life, so I joke that this trait is so deep in my family genes that one day our next generation will be born gray. I’ve known my entire life that I was destined to go gray early, and at this point, I’m proud to walk around with this big head of beautiful hair on my shoulders.

Christan

Christan, founder of Tula
Age: 34; started graying in early 20s

On role models: My mom went gray in her early twenties. She has the most striking silver hair, so I never had a negative affiliation with it. I colored my hair with henna in middle school (such a ’90s thing to do!) and then colored it through college for fun, but I never colored it to hide my gray.

On evolving style: My style and beauty routine have changed drastically over the last few years, not only since going gray, but also after starting Tula, a mobile plant shop, and diving deeper into horticulture. Nowadays I don’t wear any makeup and I’m very picky about what I use on my skin and hair. I seek out natural products and shy away from stuff with ingredients I don’t recognize. I like Goodtype pomade. It doesn’t weigh my hair down and gives nice texture to my curls without making them greasy.

On aging gracefully: Silver hair is a rite of passage. Gray doesn’t mean you have lost your youthfulness; rather, it says, ‘Look at me, I’ve lived, I’m living and I’m owning the natural progression of my life.’ How great would it be if this were celebrated?

Ty

Ty, author and blogger
Age: 41; started graying at 14

On insecurities: In the past, I would wear my hair to one side and never show underneath, because that’s where all the grays were. And just like everyone else, I still have insecurities to overcome. Going gray was always cool to me, but I never envisioned a whole head of WHITE hair. I’m practicing the art of being grateful, though, so here’s to the fact that I have super healthy hair.

On go-to products: To brighten my grays, I use Clairol Shimmer Lights shampoo at least once a month.

On changing perspectives: I’m elated that going gray is becoming more of a trend. Over the years, I’ve realized how much women are advertised to and how we’re told to believe certain things about our bodies and appearances. Every commercial on TV exploits the narrative that going gray means you’re old and that you should dye your hair. It’s important to challenge that idea with images of women who look amazing sporting it.

Suzie

Suzie, second-grade teacher
Age: 58; started graying in late 20s

On taking the plunge: When gray hairs showed up in my twenties, I wasn’t happy. I dyed it blonde for years. Then at 40, I cut my hair really short and had to color it every four weeks — there is no hiding gray roots when the length of your hair isn’t much longer than the roots themselves! In my mid 40s, I finally let it go to see how white it was, but didn’t feel ready to fully embrace it until I turned 50.

On go-to products: I use Clairol Shimmer Lights shampoo, which keeps my hair from looking dull. Gray hair can have a different texture, and I’ve never been good at styling, so keeping it short has kept me from worrying about all of that.

On second thoughts: I’ve been asked if I qualify for the 65 and older discount at places — that’s a rough one. Every now and then I look in the mirror and think, ‘Should I color again?’ But it takes about 30 seconds to realize it’s not worth the money, chemicals or upkeep. If you Google ‘gray hair,’ you get lots of hits for ‘cures,’ which is so extreme; I’d rather think of it as a sign of maturity and acceptance.

Thank you so much, Rachel, Christan, Ty and Suzie! What are your thoughts on gray hair? I’d love to hear…

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(Top photo of Rachel by Ray Photography Co. All other photos provided by Rachel, Christan, Ty and Suzie.)

  1. Jo Bay says...

    I am 58 and just starting to get grey hairs. I guess I’m lucky genetically. But I don’t intend to do anything at all. No chemicals for me. I’m impressed by women who went grey much earlier and just accepted Nature. It’s only hair!

  2. JP says...

    Ever since the classic feminist “Witch” episode on, “Broad City,” I’ve been looking forward to my future as a white-haired unicorn.

  3. Rebecca says...

    I’ve been going gray since my early teens and now at 30 it’s really picking up the pace. But now I love it! (probably because I secretly wish I were a wise old woman) One of my old hairdressers called them my “sparkles” which really helped me embrace the beauty of gray.

  4. Catherine says...

    I’m an architect, and in my profession, it’s rather common for women to have grey hair. So when I started to notice grey hair in my late twenties, I embraced it and didn’t consider dying it.

  5. Jessica says...

    Loved this! As someone who is going grey, I’m so excited to see this. Since I have dark brown hair and a fair amount of grey, the maintenance seems like too much work to color it. And as I watch my mother color her roots every 2-3 weeks I know I couldn’t handle it. I’m grateful I can just let my curly hair get some “natural highlights,” as my stylist says. ;)

  6. Kate says...

    I started greying at 16 but my little sister, Lizzie, started at 8. It runs in our family but my mom and most of her 5 sisters dye their hair (or waited until they had grandkids to stop). My sister just owns it. She calls the grey her “wisdom.” She’s the most badass, hard working, cool college student I know. Makes me wish I had more greys <3

  7. Liana says...

    I’m about 50% grey at 36, started going grey in my early 20’s, but I do like to do a demi coloring every now and then, just because I want to change my hair up without cutting it.

  8. Sarah says...

    I generally keep a low maintenance beauty routine, and never colored my hair in my 20s and early 30s. But early graying runs in my family, and when I started graying A LOT in my early 30s, after 2 babies and in a stressful season of life, I opted to color my hair rather than embrace the gray. For me, coloring my hair was a way to take back a bit of my own agency, when it seemed like a lot of my life and choices were being driven by my role as a caregiver. The beauty industry offers us as women lots of ways to feel good about ourselves . I think it makes sense to leave coloring our gray on the table as a shame-free option, if we wish to do it.

  9. Beth says...

    I had colored my hair since my teens so I had no idea what my true hair color was. Finally at age 53 we moved to Arizona, far away from anyone I knew so I decided that was the time to stop coloring. It’s the BEST thing I’ve ever done! No more worrying about roots showing, paying big money to have my hair colored, and just a sense of “calm” about doing so. I’ve even had women see my hair and tell me I’ve inspired them to stop coloring. Now I know my true hair color and I LOVE it.

  10. Katrin says...

    Would love to see the beauty uniform of these four. Great article- made me re-think my urge to dye my greying hair 😊

  11. Cecília says...

    Only when I smile looking at how bright and nice my bangs are, I realize that’s due to my grays. I’ve started graying in my mid thirties, slowly, and and happily. :)

  12. I am 31 and discovered my first gray hairs on my 18th birthday. I never died my hair and I am so relieved to see that finally, it has become more of a trend to show off your grays :) So beautiful! And I recently got a hair cut and for the first time in my life, my hair dresser told me NOT to dye my hair! (Previous hair dressers always suggested I do dye my hair.) My mom used to dye her hair for the longest time, too, but now, at 54, she has started to embrace her grays.
    Thanks for sharing these wonderful and important stories!

  13. Sharon in Scotland says...

    I started getting grey hairs in my twenties. I’m now 54, with a lot of grey hairs. My dad was completely white haired in his 70’s, this is what I aspire to as it looked fantastic. I could dye it, but I really can’t be arsed as I’m lazy and I like how it looks………..but I’m still holding out for a snow white crop when I’m 70.

  14. Chaitra Ramanathan says...

    Love. love. love. Thank you for highlighting these amazing women who are embracing themselves and their beauty. It’s societal expectations turn to catch up.

  15. Elizabeth Berezov says...

    Thanks so much for this. I am one of those who started going gray early (15 or so). Now at 35, I have occasionally thought of dyeing it, but I think I would find the upkeep irritating, plus I like the way it looks (on most days). I have to say though that I get more unsupportive comments than positive ones. The negative comments are usually something like “why don’t you color your hair?” or “you would look younger if you dyed your hair.” It’s funny that not dyeing sometimes feels like a rebellion!

  16. Jenna says...

    These women are BEAUTIFUL. Like, “tears in my eyes” kind of beauty. I’m almost 30 and not yet greying (or maybe I am and it mixes in with my natural blonde tones), but I still 100% loved this post! Also they make me wish I was greying ;)

    • Sasha L says...

      Blonde usually changes to silver or white, and you don’t see it until there’s lots, or if the light is just right. I’m 45 and have light blonde hair with big silvery streaks now but really it just makes my hair look cooler (in tone) and sparkly. I love it!

  17. Gina Dwyer says...

    I started to go grey in my mid 30’s; wasn’t a big deal, a few here and there. I remember one day at work this beautiful young woman came into my store, and I noticed she had the MOST BEAUTIFUL, long, wavy hair with a ton of silver in it. She was glowing! I complimented her, and thought to myself, THAT”S how I want to BE :) I’m in my late 40’s now, and still aspire to wear my now much more silvered hair in all it’s glory. Grey hair doesn’t have to mean you’re old and tired, but rather, shiny and beautiful!

  18. june2 says...

    I wanted to stop soaking myself in box color chemicals and couldn’t afford salon color (my hair is long and thick), so I wore it pulled back in an elegant knot for about 5 years and trimmed off the colored ends until one day they were all gone! It took real perseverance but I made it through to the end. Now, I can afford regular visits to a salon, (much much healthier color as the formula’s are advanced to protect the colorists as well as it is not running down your back, washing over your poor kidney’s in the shower every month. Now, I am accustomed to it and think it looks great, actually. I’ve made peace with being single but here in the pacific NW, there are a lot of very chic women who’ve gone natural so I don’t feel extreme.

  19. Claire says...

    Like others, I started to have silver hair in my 20’s, and now it’s mostly silver. I get compliments on it from strangers, but other than that I don’t think about it much, other than to try to make sure I have a good haircut. Living with silvery hair is like most other things in life, in that it comes down to a choice: am I going to worry about what others think about my hair, or am I going to have fun, and live my life to it’s richest and fullest? Then you just decide, and go do it.

  20. Lia says...

    While I personally really like a head of gray hairs (my grandmother had beautiful curly gray hair), I just wanted to bring up that sometimes grey hair can be a sign of a vitamin or mineral deficiency. Vit D, B 12 and specially copper deficiency can cause hair to go grey. So, if you don’t have genetics for going grey early, you may want to check your levels. Excessive Zinc intake can also cause copper deficiency.

    • Interesting!! I do have a B12 deficiency but no doctor ever made that connection…

  21. Jessie says...

    I started going gray in my mid-20s, pretty much in the middle of a stressful job situation. I started getting some teasing from friends but I’m refusing to dye it – partially out of pride because I “earned” these gray hairs, and partially to push back on arbitrary beauty standards. I’m choosing to embrace it but there’s a lot of people who don’t get it still.

  22. Patricia says...

    Have you seen Helen Mirren lately? She has grey hair (I’m from the UK) and looks fabulous. I am always on the lookout for women with great grey hair. I decided to go grey myself some years ago as it was becoming too expensive to keep having highlights. I think the grey goes better with my fair skin. You can really rock a bright lipstick with grey hair too, try a bold red or a strong pink. I feel more authentic and honest with my natural grey colouring. The only downside is that it is more of a challenge keeping on top of the frizz..

  23. I grayed at 30, on top. I keep trying to go gray at (just) 54. It never works. It washes my face out, my scalp shows. No. Can’t do it. I color it blond, because otherwise ….skunk part. Shaking my head. Maybe when I am actually a granny, and in a relationship. Who knows.

  24. I love this post! I found my first gray hairs at 15, and started coloring my hair my senior year of high school. I didn’t stop until age 32 (I’m 35 now), when I decided to let it grow out. I had reddish golden hair originally, but when it grew out it was white, and platinum. Now people tell me they thought I dyed it this way! It may not be everyone’s choice to go natural but for me it was incredibly freeing. I felt like I was showing my real self to the world for the first time.

  25. Rachel says...

    WOW i love this! I found my first gray hair in 6th grade, at my temple and promptly plucked it out. In college I developed a gray stripe about one inch in from my hair line, and have been going more and more gray ever since. I’ve been dyeing my hair since I turned 20 or so because I couldn’t stand the idea of going gray before i could legally drink! My hair is also curly and the textural differences are visually tamed by having a uniform color. As time went on I started to resent the upkeep, especially in that stripe… so three months ago i decided to start growing my stripe out and I love it so much. I’m still dyeing the rest of my grays but for now, this aspect of my vanity finally feels properly suited to where I am in life. I’m also urging every younger woman i know to never ever dye their hair haha. Live and learn! <3

  26. Josee-Desiree Corbeil says...

    I stopped dying my hair around 42-43. I just turned 45 and have graying, natural hair. It sorta just happened because I was busy with a new house reno and had my hair up in a knot most of the time. Then my husband encouraged me to just let it be and rock it. Every single woman I know colors their hair. So I felt like I was “letting myself go” but stuck to my guns. I figured I could continue fighting it with at-home dye like I always did (which wasn’t cutting it anymore) or start going to the salon. Not for me. I’m not particularly granola crunchy but I couldn’t feel it. Now I notice a lot of women who look great with gray(ing) hair and I’m happy to be a part of a new option for the younger generation of women for whom it will hopefully be not that scary/uncharted territory in their time.

  27. Jill says...

    My mom is 70 and started going gray in her twenties. She has dyed her hair ever since and looks amazing…no one would believe she is 70. Why can’t we enjoy makeup and hair dye, ladies?!? Don’t beat yourself up over it. If you want to go gray, that is great, but it does make you look older (does not mean you don’t still look AMAZING, but grey is a sign of aging…no getting around that).

    • Rachel says...

      I think we can enjoy makeup and hair dye, but since that is what the majority of people do, as well as the cultural standard for perceived attractiveness, it is always refreshing to hear from women who buck the trends. I read this post as wanting to send the message “you are beautiful as you are,” which we could all hear a little more often—gray or dyed, with or without makeup!

      Also, an interesting post about the benefits of going without make up and the complex issues of confidence surrounding it…https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-clarity/201707/why-more-women-are-happily-going-without-makeup?amp

    • Helen says...

      My mother, having a “Mediterranean” complexion and very dark hair, always coloured her hair (it was salt and pepper when she had me at 43). People were always shocked at her age because she looked so young! But last year, she let her colourist convince her to go gray. She’s 83, spends a lot of time in the garden (and sun), has super course hair, and won’t get it coloured more than every 8 weeks. So most of the time she had brassy hair with visible roots. She looked younger but not well-kept! Now she looks fantastic and more her age (she has great skin so still looks younger – early 70’s).
      I am 40 with 2 young children, and just don’t have the time to get my thick, long hair coloured to keep up. My colourist recently suggested colouring it as you would do highlight with foils. This way, some greys are left in place and everything looks more natural when my hair grows. Also, if you have young children (and nursed them) you’ll know the crazy hormonal regrowth that happens – having greys in the mix adds an extra challenge. I’m still adjusting to having a few greys but I’m glad I’m doing it now not when I’m 80!

    • Cate says...

      Think you missed the point of this post entirely.

  28. Amanda says...

    Where are all these strangers stopping to admire others’ gray and silver?? I started turning gray in my early 20s, then turned platinum in my 30s. For every one compliment I receive, there are at least three ignorant comments to follow. (“Are you their grandmother?” ) Real talk: When you embrace your gray, you need to be prepared for these kinds of uninvited comments. It will happen at parties, at the grocery checkout, with coworkers. It hasn’t been fun or easy for me.

  29. lily says...

    I’m 39 and have been getting more and more gray hears over the past 3-4 years. Every summer, I let them grow out but they I feel like I start looking older and older so by September, I end up getting it dyed again. Maybe when I turn 40, I’ll embrace it more.

  30. shannon says...

    Ty’s lipstick game is ON.POINT. And I dig her braid! I vote for a full beauty uniform post!!!

  31. Lele says...

    I’m 61 today (yikes) and have colored my hair since my late 30’s – I started to go gray at 16 years of age. My hair was naturally dark and at this point I can tell that I’ll be mostly silver if I stop by the way my roots look. I go every 4 weeks and it’s expensive and time consuming. How the heck do I stop? I can’t imagine what it will look like growing out. I have shoulder length hair. Has anyone here done it?? I always admire others with beautiful gray hair and am looking for some inspiration!

    • Mollie says...

      On please do it! You could either start gradually by dying it lighter and lighter until the transition to silver isn’t so stark, or jump in head first by dying your whole head silver, then let the real silver grow in. My mother also started dying hers in her late 30’s. Finally at 58 she took the plunge and let the gray come in and she looks a thousand times better. It turns out her hair was bright white, and without the dye it’s so much healthier looking. She says her biggest hair related regret is waiting so long to stop dying.

    • Lisa says...

      I am 47 and took the plunge two years ago, it took a full day to dye it grey but it’s just my own hair now. I only ever have compliments about my hair and sometimes, people don’t believe that it’s natural now. I say, go for it! Good luck X

    • This book helped me…Silver Hair: Say Goodbye to the Dye and Let Your Natural Light Shine: A Handbook

    • hmmbrd says...

      I am also 61 and in my mid 50s decided to ‘let my grays out’. I had my hair cut very short and a few months later, cut it again. All the dye was gone at that point (my hair grows fast). I loved the result!
      It is a very hard decision to change and I wish you well!

  32. I love this post and all the ladies in it. I’ve always thought grey hair was so beautiful and am so happy to see the shift in people embracing it vs coloring it. My friend Mia recently stopped dying her hair and her color is this really icy silver. IT IS SO BEAUTIFUL! I love it. This gives me the confidence for when the greys come for me to embrace them and not feel bad.

  33. Kate P says...

    Yes!! Celebrate premature graying! I started going gray in my early 20’s. Now, as a 33 year old, I’m probably 1/3 gray and I like it more and more every day. My sisters and I call it my tinsel. Strangers stop me on the street to tell me how much they like my hair and teenagers (when gray hair was on trend a couple years ago) asked me who my colorist was (mother nature, I would reply). Who knew aging could be so trendy!

  34. KAT says...

    Everyone looks amazing with their gray hair. I’m turning 38 next week and cannot WAIT until I start getting my grays. I want to be sprinkled for a bit (I have black hair) and eventually completely silver!

  35. Emily L says...

    I’ve been BLONDE blonde my whole life, so at 34 I still have no idea if I have any grays! Both my parents were the same way – super blonde turning light brown and then just started lightening again in their 40s. It wasn’t until they were both over 50 that you could really tell they had gray hair. Because of that I honestly didn’t know that people could go gray so early!

    My husband is the opposite – black hair that started really graying mid-late 20s. No idea what to expect for our future kids!

  36. Dora says...

    I’ve been finding grey hairs since I was 16! They’re very silvery and twinkly against my dark brown, and I love it! It suits my personality so well.

    • I love the description of “twinkly”!

  37. L says...

    Oh how I love this post! I always thought I would start coloring my hair as soon as it saw the first gray hair. But then I read the interview you did with Linda Rodin and was struck when she said: “My hair turned gray at 35! But I never dyed it. Honestly, it never occurred to me; I thought it was nice. People would tell me I should dye it to look younger, but I said, so I’m going to dye it and I’ll look 39 instead of 40? It’s too much for me” It shifted my whole perspective. Now at 30, I have a few gray hairs here and there, but I’m not trying to hide them nor am I planning to color my hair in the future.

  38. Isabel Ibarra says...

    Hey Becca.
    My boyfriend said start a new trend. I called my hair cinnamon and sugar and he said I never heard that one. Blondes with gray can call themselves “lemon sugar icing”. How’s that one for original? You can tell I bake alot. How about red heads as “strawberry creams”?
    My dad went gray early and said “these are not gray hairs. They are threads of pure silver”. Go gray girls! It’s liberating.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      “threads of pure silver” “cinnamon sugar” = i love these!

    • Jenn M says...

      strands of glitter!!

  39. Amy says...

    This was a very important – dare I say *the* most important – blog post for me to read!

    I am 26, found my first gray at 15, and did not grow up in a “gray-positive” home. By the time I hit my late teens, my “glitter” was coming in fast and furious, so I would get my hair colored every month (religiously) for about eight years, and feel so down on myself when the roots would start to show. My mom has been dying her hair for decades to the point where it is it very damaged and unhealthy, and made me believe that’s just what you did when you went gray. In a major moment of self-control and self-love, I decided to stop dying my hair about two years ago, but have struggled with the idea of coloring it for my upcoming wedding despite my progress with accepting what I’ve been given (I feel like to color it now would be admitting defeat and can’t fathom starting over with this process). This post really helped me settle back into my peace with my grays as I continue to learn to love them. Thanks for this post and for helping us all to feel beautiful as we are!!!

    • Franny Eremin says...

      That’s so great to hear, Amy – I’m sure you have the most beautiful hair! Thanks so much for sharing your story. xx

    • My mother was the one who told me when i first began to go grey – oh it’s time for you to start coloring! Hers was the loudest voice, out loud and in my head, that kept me coloring. Ugh. If I was late getting my roots touched up, she was the first to remind me. It never stopped for twenty years, the merry go round of shame and constant upkeep. To this day, she has never said one positive or supportive word regarding my decision to let my greys show. Yeah, I’m a little bitter about it!

  40. Bliss says...

    Grey. Silver. White. It is all BEAUTIFUL. I started going gray at 21 and have never colored my hair (I’m now 45). I don’t even think about my hair color, it’s just me, but I get complimented on it daily. So, if you are considering letting your grey shine, GO FOR IT! #teamsilverfox

  41. Lindsay says...

    I can’t believe the timing of this post. I usually check this site everyday, but yesterday I was busy deciding if I would let my hair go grey (I turn 40 in a week). I found a great instagram account called grombe, which showcases beautiful women choosing to go grey. I am so tired of thinking about my roots, and I don’t want to spend anymore time or money on it. I want to style my hair in fun braids without worry about if my grey is peeking through. It’s going to be an ugly process growing it out, but I think I will be so happy in the end. Thanks for this article!

  42. Tiana says...

    I can’t tell you how amazing it is to see this post after I have been seriously fretting about my grey hair situation this past week. I am 31 and started noticing the greys around age 23. I usually pluck the ones that are most visible out (terrible, I know), but recently realized the number are growing and the plucked ones just grow back as baby grey hairs (so much worse). I was literally just googling the other day to see if I’m totally abnormal for having grey hair so young and I am so happy to see this post show up on COJ! I feel much better now and although I will probably still color my greys to hide them, I definitely feel more confident and accepting of them. Thank you.

  43. Amy McGrath says...

    I love how the universe sends you things to help! My husband started graying in his 20’s — I met him when he was 30 and it was one of the things that I loved about him. At 53 his hair is basically grey/white and I still love it. And then just this morning I noticed a patch of gray in my 12 year old son’s hair! My husband never loved his gray — and still doesn’t. I am going to try to help my son embrace it. He hasn’t noticed it yet – just my husband and I did!

  44. Martha says...

    I started going grey at 18, and have an excellent grey streak now at 33. My partner at 34 has beautiful greys at his temples, god it’s hot. Silver all the way

  45. Barbara Jane says...

    i LOVE this! I’m 32 and have a few greys here and there. I don’t dye them, but I do have some bleached highlights that I cover with blue. as someone who has always had very dark hair, I’m kind of excited to go grey/silver. maybe i’ll keep the blue, and i’ll be one of those super-chic, blue-haired ladies :-)

  46. Jessica says...

    Love this, love this, love this! I have a patch of gray at the front of my head (not dense enough to be considered a cool streak, but definitely there), and when I point it out to people, they go out of their way to say they don’t see anything or it’s barely there. I don’t really mind the gray, so it bothers me when they do this, like they’re diminishing a part of me that’s, well… me.

  47. Hinky says...

    Just do it!….
    I’ve never regretted it. It’s very liberating.

  48. Karen says...

    I just decided to stop dying my hair. I have very short hair and I have received many compliments on my colour – some people have asked me did I have it dyed! Haha.

    Love that women are starting to embrace their natural colour. It’s a badge of honour.

  49. Denise says...

    I’m 53 and colored my hair for years because I didn’t like the blah brown color. I stopped about 10 years ago and just decided to see what happened. I was more worried about the blah color, but being more active outside has added lovely auburn highlights courtesy of my grandmother. I’m shocked that I’m just now seeing more gray strands. And I’m totally okay with that! The grays actually have more texture and curl, so I think it will be fun to have a head full of gray fluffy hair someday!

  50. Joanna Schuth says...

    Christian’s hair is serious goals. Look at that texture! That volume! I love it.

    Alas, at age 36 I have one. single. gray. hair. My father is 75 and still more pepper than salt, so I don’t think I will ever get the opportunity to embrace grays like these ladies.

  51. Lydia says...

    Love this post! I’ve been going grey since my early 20s and have never thought about coloring my hair to cover it up. Honestly, that’s due mostly to the fact that I’m fairly low maintenance and the idea of having to keep up with coloring never seemed worth it. My current hair stylist refers to my grey streaks as my “natural highlights”, which I love. Whenever I’m feeling self conscious about the amount of grey I have somehow reframing it/thinking of it that way always makes me feel better and proud.

    • Yulia says...

      Same here! I’ve never given much thought to coloring my hair and don’t plan to give it much thought in the future. However, I do amp up my brows with a pencil and brow gel. I guess I’ll have to change up my brow coloring as I get older–never thought of that before.

  52. Faye says...

    I’m 55, started to have a few sprinkling of white strands in my 30’s and colored to cover up until I turned 45, i went into an anaphylactic shock from PPD in hair dye. Since 2008 I just let it be. Shimmery white against dark brown hair stands out abd I get compliments. I rock my look.
    Once in a while when my white hair looks dingy, I reach for a bluing shank and conditioner by Rusk.

  53. Nikki says...

    I’m 33 and started going gray in my late teens/early 20s. I dyed it a few times in college and then stopped. As more and more of the hair near my face turns gray, I do find that I have more trouble with the makeup and hairstyles I’ve worn for years, because they make me feel washed out. I’d love some tips about how people transition their makeup and hair styling techniques to account for the gray!

    • Claire says...

      This makeup issue has been on my mind too. I wear gold jewelry because I think it shows up against my silver hair well, and adds some warmth. And I have a Tom Ford lipstick in a color called “Casablanca” on my wish list. It is a lot more colorful than the neutrals I used to wear, but it’s expensive so I am having to plan for it. Next I am going to research some eye makeup. I notice the women with gray hair whose appearance I admire often wear brow color, and sometimes liner as well. I am starting a folder on Pinterest for this!

  54. Helga says...

    I’m 55 and stopped dying my hair earlier this year. I wanted to stop for a long time but other women always convinced me that I’d regret it. My daughter was home for the summer and she strongly supported my decision and I saw it through her collegiate feminist eyes. Why are women expected to spend their lives trying to look younger?

    Thanks so much for this!