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Have a Great Weekend.

Toby

What are you up to this weekend? We actually have zero plans. Maybe dinner at Brooklyn Crab? Maybe a pedicure? Maybe nothing at all? I’m excited to just chill. Hope you have a good one, and here are a few fun posts from around the web…

I became a mother in that chair.”

Photographer Jamie Beck is spending a year in Provence, and her self-portrait series is bananas. (Especially this and this.)

Made me laugh out loud.

A Reddit thread for In-N-Out questions.

Looking forward to watching The Incredible Jessica James.

Wishlisting this pretty top.

Why newborn babies smell so good.

“The 10 things I use to get that elusive no-makeup look.”

How to pick the juiciest rotisserie chicken at the grocery store.

Winners of the 2017 National Geographic Travel Photographer of the Year contest.

Plus, two great reader comments…

Says Emily on hosting overnight guests: “Recently my brother-in-law and his family came to stay. They arrived after dinner with three little kids. I put a G&T in his hand, a cup of herbal tea in hers and whisked their kids out for some ice cream so they could have some quiet time after a long day of driving. I got a many thank yous for that one… not only from the parents but the kids, too!”

Says Jessica on you’re already a perfect mother: “For those who have commented who say they aren’t sure they know how to love or that they never learned how from their parents, the mere fact that you have the awareness to ask that question means you are. An anecdote that keeps this in mind for me is that growing up, my absolute favorite dinner was ‘plate of little things.’ My single mom would slice cheese, apples, crackers, hot dogs, dry cereal, whatever and we would eat it in front of the TV. I told her that recently and she gasped, ‘What? those were the nights I failed. I didn’t cook a thing and was too tired to talk to you guys. That’s ridiculous.’ Goes to show, it may be JUST when we fail that our kids feel most happy.”

(Photo of Toby while we were on a bike ride. In-N-Out via Hither & Thither.)

  1. Rebecca Raith says...

    I used to make that type of supper for my son when he was little…we called them “funny little suppers”….fried hot dog slices, apple slices, crackers or toast,cheese, , carrot sticks, cookies….

  2. Kristin says...

    Seeing an article from Coffee and Crumbs on A Cup of Jo is such a “Worlds colliding” moment!!! I’ve read Joanna’s blog for YEARS now and haven’t been as devoted to any other blog/podcast until I heard my first c&c episode. I’m hooked- and best part, I’m not even a mom! Thank you for featuring them!

  3. It is true! Babies smell so good. When my water broke at my house with my first born it made my room smell like a new born baby. The smell alone brought me to tears or excitement, joy and a little fear that my baby was almost here! I will never forget that experience it was truly wonderful.

  4. Linda says...

    The $285 “no make-up” look!! LOL!! The model is beautiful, but that totally cracked me up!!

  5. Denise says...

    Gorgeous self portraits! So self-sexy.
    Also, I don’t get why anyone would spend the time and money to achieve a no-makeup look using 10 products when you can achieve a no-makeup look by not wearing makeup. All your face really needs is a non-toxic moisturizing sunscreen to look perfectly glowing and healthy.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      I see your point, haha. Personally, I do need makeup because my face is kind of ruddy and if I don’t wear anything, it looks a red/blotchy. I envy people who really don’t need anything! :)

  6. I’ve actually spent two, no three weekends now watching The World Games (this year in Poland) – have you heard of it? It’s a tournament of non-olympic sports including for example tug of war! Fascinating. And so funny! And since we loved the event so much, with my fiance and friends we made (hopefully) funny lip sync video about it – if any of these amazing readers would like to check it out I wouldn’t mind AT ALL haha :) The link to YouTube is here, enjoy! goo.gl/hhJnav

    • Emma says...

      I loved your video! I actually know one of the guys who coached the US American Football team – we met in Poland in the beginning of the year :)

  7. Jess says...

    Double family lunch date with friends and kids at Brooklyn Crab this weekend. We had a wonderful time! What a great place and the food was delicious. Thanks for the recommendation!

  8. I’ve just watched Jessica James and it’s amazing!

  9. Seems like a lot of time and money to spend to look like you’re not wearing makeup when you could just *not wear makeup*.

    • Debbie says...

      my thoughts exactly

    • Andrea says...

      that’s my strategy

  10. Jules says...

    “I became a mother in that chair”. Loved it.

    Five years ago when I was pregnant with my first, I remember being a bit frustrated that my mother-in-law had given us the wooden rocking chair that she had used to rock my husband in when he was a baby because I wanted a nice glider, dang it! But, I used it because it meant so much to her. I’m happy I did because it worked great for nursing and rocking my three boys. She passed away in March 2016 after a short battle with cancer. Now that she’s gone it makes it even more special to have that chair. I wonder what future daughter-in-law I’ll gift it to….

  11. Emily Ganzer says...

    Don’t mind me, I’ll just be in the back of the room crying over Jessica’s comment.

    • T says...

      Same!

  12. meli says...

    i dont even watch that much tv, but is there any show or movie that one actor (Chris O’Dowd) isnt getting busy in bed with someone.. GEEZ !! lollllll

    • KBM says...

      I’m not complaining! Do you have a list of all these movies and shows somewhere…? ;)

    • Andrea says...

      Approachable is sexy, apparently.

  13. Laura C. says...

    I’m going to copy those dinners, Jessica.

  14. ahh i love Jamie Beck and i remember when she used to shoot for Cup of Jo! long time ago! she’s amazing.

    • nicole b. says...

      I am loving her adventures in Provenance as well… the culinary workshop, the chateau, the sunflowers, the Ophelia inspired shoot. ALL OF IT. So dreamy.

  15. This morning I let myself stay in bed until early afternoon… Sometimes you just need to do nothing at all! Enjoy the rest of your weekend.

    Thank you for interesting articles!

    Best,
    Daria

  16. Hanna says...

    Thank you Jessica, from the bottom of my heart. This was just what I needed to read today.

  17. Angela says...

    Crying over that Coffee and Crumbs article.

  18. Loribeth says...

    I am a huge fan of Jamie Beck. I started following her way back in her Snapchat stories days and now I look forward to watching her instagram stories daily!

  19. I love babies. They are so innocent and are stress-buster. I love spending quality time with kids.

  20. Em says...

    This is my (much easier and cheaper) no makeup routine:

    1) sunscreen;
    2) mascara; and (sometimes)
    3) blush – specifically, the blush tip Joanna posted a while back about putting a tiny bit on the ridge of your nose to look like you’ve gotten a little sun.

    That’s it!

  21. Mimi says...

    Thank you for re-posting Jessica’s comment – I can totally relate to that being a favorite evening and good to remember when we are putting ourselves under so much pressure to be perfect!

    • I totally agree!

  22. Min says...

    Jessica’s comment is spot on! It leads me to think that maybe we prioritize the wrong things, in this case a well balanced prepared meal. Maybe a relaxed & happy mom is more valuable than the prep time. I’m not discounting that most meals need to be nutritious and well balanced, but I think we can do that without going through ours of preparation.

  23. Karli says...

    Oh Jessica my mum did the same thing – sliced apple, corn kernals, slices of beetroot and cheese (with tomato sauce for dipping). I loved those dinners and mum didn’t even remember them.

  24. Laura C. says...

    Hahahahaa, made men laugh hard too!
    The no makeup-make up is so difficult, I have a similar routine just to hear the other mums at school: “you never wear make up” followed by a “your skin is great”, haha.

  25. Laurel says...

    That chair. Great essay; it speaks to all mamas. That feeling of staying in the chair for as long as possible with my son sleeping on my chest….I ache for that. Both my boys aren’t grown yet but they certainly don’t do that anymore and I miss it. And that chair for me isn’t ugly but it’s also not practical (is any rocker?); it gets bounced around from room to room as our family changes and the spaces change to accommodate. But I can’t let it go for all the reasons all these other wonderful mamas have. It’s a sentimental connection for the change that happened in me in the chair and that incredibly new, tender time when my sons were tiny. Thanks for sharing, it’s a beautiful read.

  26. molly says...

    I looooove the two reader comments you shared. So brilliant! So beautiful! xoxo

  27. Elham Watson says...

    I loooove Coffee + Crumbs!

  28. Steph says...

    Omg! The “plate of little things” sounds just like the “mixed up plate” I had as a child. It really is the best, right!?

  29. Sasha says...

    The baby smell science is so fun!! As a birth doula I’ve been blessed to smell lots of sweet little newborns, and I can attest, they smell GOOD and it’s practically impossible, I’ve noticed, for a woman in the vicinity of a newborn to NOT take a deep long sniff.

    Funny bit, I was reading on a doula forum and someone posed the question “what does a new born smell like?” The answers were everywhere…peaches, vanilla, grass, the beach, puppies (I don’t think they smell like puppies at all). But the funniest answer was, “um, guys? VAGINA. Duh.”

    • Capa says...

      hahaha, love this!

  30. Sasha says...

    I wasn’t sure what we were going to get up to this weekend, but, ahem, I think starting the Jessica James show is definitely in order!!

    Thanks!!!

  31. Bets says...

    I like Emily’s thoughtfulness, but why not put a G&T in her hand as well!

    • Leigh says...

      I thought this same thing! I’d never turn down a G&T!

    • Emily says...

      Ha! Good question! She’s not a drinker :)

    • Michele says...

      I assumed the thoughtfulness was the fact that she knew each of their drinks of choice.

    • Alice says...

      When I read it, I assumed that her brother-in-law’s wife didn’t drink, for whatever reason. I’m pretty sure she wouldn’t have just not given her a g&t for any other reason.

    • Liana says...

      Haha I wondered the same thing but I sure there’s a reason!

  32. alison says...

    Kind of LOL’ing at all the products that woman uses to make it look like she doesn’t wear any products. Though, I am interested in that boy-brow stuff.

    • Georgia says...

      Me too! And nothing under $20- that’s a lot of cash to shell out to look “natural.” I don’t wear any make up most days, so I guess I’m in that “conspiracy theorist” category she mentions but I’m ok with it :)

    • Helena says...

      And I found the article great! I’ve just become a mother of three under four and reading about the author’s make up routine made me feel less dread thinking about the years when my babies are grown and don’t need me like they do now. It reminded me of how much I love trying new makeup routines and how lovely it is to just lock oneself in the bathroom and experiment away! It’s so easy to forget silly interests like that when in the whirlwind of motherhood but I’m actually looking forward to a time when I can do that again.

    • Emily says...

      Boy brow is the bomb! So natural and not messy

  33. Anna says...

    Cried while reading “I Became A Mother In That Chair”, as I nursed my second baby in MY chair. I hadn’t really thought about all that’s happened in this particular spot over the last several years of being a mother. The NYTimes Op-Ed about motherhood being a privilege was also very poignant today. Such a wonderful thing we get to experience!

  34. Olivia says...

    I just got back from Whole Foods and, as I surveyed the rotisserie chickens, thought…I wonder if there’s an article out there that tells me which one is the best pick. And then I came on here to read and it was one of your links! Happy Friday indeed.

  35. Diana McNeill says...

    I love Jamie Beck’s Provence series. UGH. Seriously in love.

  36. Ahhh thank you so much for linking to my rocking chair essay! Super grateful for the mention.

  37. MelTown says...

    I’m sitting here nursing my three week old (and final) baby bawling my eyes out thanks to the chair article. My glider is a hideous monstrosity handed down from a former coworker who I didn’t really like, but I’ll be damned if I didn’t become a mother in that thing. It’s my most beloved piece of furniture, and I’m keeping it forever (don’t tell my husband).

  38. Kristin says...

    I actually have the Fauxtisserie Chicken and Potatoes referenced in the chicken article in my oven at this very moment. It’s a great recipe!

  39. Katie Erin says...

    Love, love, LOVE Jessica’s comment! I had a similar exchange with my mama about the nights she used to make pancakes for dinner when I was growing up.

  40. Kimberly Jewel says...

    Both reader’s comments are so good!

  41. Sara says...

    Jessica’s perfect mother comment made me burst into tears. I guess I needed to hear that today.

  42. Amy says...

    That reader comment about her mom feeling like failing with the plate of ‘little things’ but it was her favourite thing as a child…that brought tears to my eyes as a parent.
    I have a feeling though my kids won’t see the yelling I do at them as their favourite thing, lol!

    • t says...

      haha. i was thinking the same think.

    • Amy says...

      Maybe not, but I’ll be damned if it doesn’t make them empathetic – if you’re honest with them. I make a point to ALWAYS apologize when I yell, and explain why I snapped ( especially when it wasn’t really to do with them.) My 18, 13 and 6 year olds have ALL given me hugs in those moments, offered their help, and have apologized themselves in similar moments of their own. I give all the props in the world to parents who never let their kids see their struggles, but I think there’s value and courage in going in the other direction as well. They see that love doesn’t mean always being cheery, and success isn’t always easy or fulfilling. So when they hit their own bumps and dark spots they won’t feel defective – they’ll remember Mom, who lost it sometimes and was still amazing.

  43. I love this as always the In-an- out Reddit im done lol I hate napkins in bags. Five guys does it with their fries. I’m like they are peanut oiled with vinegar( i added a lot ) falling through the bag fries why add the napkins in there!!!!

  44. Trish Hart says...

    Thanks for continuing to deliver the best and most comforting daily posts. A Cup of Jo brings so much simple joy to my life! Happy Friday :)

  45. Mariana Lindsay says...

    A quick edit. It’s the Incredible Jessica James. Not Jones. Happy weekend!

    • Kimberly Jewel says...

      It’s not Jessica Jones!

    • Kimberly Jewel says...

      Oh gosh, I’m an idiot. I see what you did there.