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Have a Great Weekend.

Barack and Michelle Obama

What are you up to this weekend? We just started the TV show Succession, at long last (everyone I knew seemed to be raving about it). And I just started this book, and it’s really gripping. Hope you have a good one, and here are a few fun links from around the web…

The simplest spaghetti al limone.

Life hack: Leave your headphones at home.

LOVE these black pants.

The best romantic comedy you probably haven’t seen.

Design mistake: Painting a small, dark room white.

25 words that are their own opposites. Weird!

How to get your kids to eat a giant tray of vegetables. (Plus, 8 more ways to get kids to eat greens.)

A marriage trick. “Successful marriages are defined not by improvement, but by avoiding decline.”

Impossible pork is here!

How to help those affected by the Australian wildfires.

Plus, two reader comments:

Says Elizabeth on a Prince Harry and Meghan Markle question: “I’m 60. When I turned 58, I started getting a master’s degree in history. It won’t help me with work, my agency isn’t paying for it, when school is in session I have absolutely no free time, and I’m an oddity to the professors and my fellow grad students. My husband and a few friends are supportive, but everyone else says, ‘Is this really worth it?’ ‘You have to use vacation time for reading and writing? That sucks!’ and ‘You could just read the books yourself.’ I can’t explain to myself why I’m doing this, but I am so grateful for this experience. To feel your mind expand is so exhilarating. To watch the perspectives of students shift before your eyes is life-affirming. To bang out the right sentence, to read a passage that brings the past to life, to pick up a letter written a hundred years ago from a source you’ve been researching is absolutely glorious. Sometimes you have to have faith that your inner voice will steer you toward the right path, even if you don’t know why you hear that voice.”

Says Rose on a Prince Harry and Meghan Markle question: “In the fifth grade, I had two options: be a hot girl or be a cool girl. I decided I wanted to be warm, not as in mediocre but as in: loving and kind. I think it’s worked pretty well — I’ve never been either cool, or hot, lol, but would like to think I’ve succeeded in sharing as much warmth and kindness as possible.”

(Photo of the Obamas by Pete Souza.)

  1. MJ says...

    Elizabeth, I’m 37 and just started grad school. While my friends do support me, they don’t seem to comprehend that I will have no life or time outside of school and my full-time job. It’s a two-year sacrifice that I’m hoping I’ll still have friends at the end of!

    • cc says...

      this is so great!! 2 years will fly by and you’ll be so much more enriched by the end of it, so as my dad always always reminds me “keep your eye on the prize.” and your true friends will understand and support you. sure you’ll also meet lots of ppl in your grad program. side note: i’m 30 and just starting to study for the LSAT. Some negative thoughts told me i should’ve done it all in my 20s and maybe it’s too late now which i KNOW is just nonsense and i need to quiet that part of my mind. anyway it makes me happy to see people continuing to strive towards educational and career goals beyond their 20s.

    • Meredith says...

      Thank you, MJ and Elizabeth, for this. I’m almost 33 and considering going back to school for ANOTHER bachelor’s degree for interior design. I’m terrified of the work load (working full time and part-time student), but it’s three years of hard work to do what I want for the rest of my life. I have to remember that perspective when I start feeling overwhelmed. Good luck to both of you!

  2. Keira says...

    Thank you so much for sharing info on how to support those affected by the bushfires in Australia — I’d like to put wildlifevictoria.org.au on readers’ radars as well. The state is suffering from extensive (and continuing) fire damage, and the toll on the wildlife is catastrophic — over 1,000,000,000 animals dead across the nation. Victoria has not received as much attention from celebrities directing fans where to support and is comparatively lagging behind states such as New South Wales in desperately needed funds. If anyone is considering donating, please keep Wildlife Victoria in mind.

  3. Inna Cross says...

    Watched long shot this weekend–before seeing this post! 100% agree, it went way beyond my mediocre expectations!

  4. Ceridwen says...

    Made spaghetti al limone last night and it was so good! Ive used these flavours before but always just squeezed the lemon on top and added the cheese but like this…creamy and delicious and easy. Winner!

  5. lauren says...

    I wish you would give a heads up on the nymag articles as well as the nytimes. They also have a paywall after a certain number of articles, want to save my views for the articles I really want to read!

  6. Lindsey says...

    Rose the warm girl — love this! Thank you for surfacing poignant comments each week that I otherwise might miss.

  7. Kalli says...

    I actually saw Long Shot early in its run and found myself texting my brother after to tell him “I think maybe it was delightful?”… surprising myself because I never use that word! It was nice to see Seth Rogan in a role that’s slightly more mature and Charlize relaxed after playing so many ice queens.

    If you enjoyed Long Shot and want to see another modern rom-com that appeals equally to men and women, I recommend Plus One, starring Maya Erskine and Jack Quaid (Meg Ryan’s son).

  8. Ariella says...

    Joanna I’ve been a reader for a long time. I come mostly for the week of outfits feature but I’ve always found the articles to be interesting, thought provoking, and mostly inclusive. I’m an Orthodox Jew and even though there’s generally very little jewish representation here, I have come to consider that normal in the world. But over the past few weeks Orthodox Jews in your own city have been brutally killed. Where is the support? How is there zero content? Did you attend the march last Sunday? How could you not have been there and covered it for this site? I waited and made excuses for why you would not have been giving this issue attention, and I don’t understand it. I’ll no longer be reading here and unfollowed on ig as well. You have actual readers who are scared for their lives, your own city is struggling with anti semitism and you are quiet. It is hurtful and unbelievable and wrong.

    • B says...

      Amen, Ariella. I am also observant and live in New York. But her silence isn’t too surprising: most people who are otherwise very vocal about politicsand prejudice have a big big blind spot when it comes to Jews. Hate against a minority is a big deal, unless it’s us. I was so resistant to this idea for so long, but as evidence mounts you can’t unsee it.

    • Allison says...

      As another Jewish reader who is also used to my favorite (generally progressive) bloggers not mentioning regional Jewish-American issues, thanks for posting. I live near Pittsburgh and send the Jewish communities in New York love and support. Cup of Jo did include an Israeli Jewish mother in the motherhood around the world series way back when, but the feedback was so critical that perhaps it steered the blog away from any Jewish content?

    • Karen says...

      Going to add to this. I’m Jewish— though not observant at all. But I live in Brooklyn and have been shaken by what’s been happening here to the Jewish community. No mention of it here— and other places. It certainly feels like if another minority group had been targeted there would be a much greater focus. I remember when the terrible incident in the New Zealand mosque happened it was definitely discussed here…
      A bizarre phenomenon to be sure. Jews are one of the world’s tiniest minorities, clocking in at less than half of a percent of the world’s population. In NYC this year they made up over 50% of hate crime victims. If there are other Jewish readers of this site— or those who love them!— please add your voice. If not now, when.
      Joanna— I will continue to read— there’s so much I love here and so much I relate to as a creative mom of two in Brooklyn— but please do take note. These are big serious issues that have historically gone unnoticed until it was too late. Thank you xo

    • Annie says...

      Hi- I’m pretty shaken up by these comments. I am Jewish, and what I’d most like to see here is a response from Joanna. Sending much love and understanding to everyone.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      Thank you so much for this feedback. I’m going to think deeply about this. We weigh covering each news story versus providing a place of uplifting escape for people during difficult times. But I hear you that you want more. Thank you so much xo

    • Anna says...

      Thank you ladies. I converted to Judaism when I got married and my daughters now go to a Jewish preschool.

      Now, I worry for a moment every day when they go ‘what if…’ because the world is at least 50% terrible, as the poem goes. And then I choose to release the worry, because I am trying to sell them – and myself – the world. The news in New York and elsewhere in the Western world makes it increasingly hard not to worry longer than that moment each day.

      I am so glad you are thinking about this, Joanna. Despite never having met I think of you as a dear, wise friend and your support would mean so much. Thank you.

    • Lindsay says...

      Another Jewish reader chiming in here. I absolutely adore this blog, but have been increasingly troubled as well by the lack of coverage of all things Jewish–from breaking news to even basic representation in beauty/style or parenting posts. I’m glad to see that Joanna responded and I will be paying attention to see if our feedback is taken seriously.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      lindsay, i’d love to reassure you that we have covered many, many jewish women and readers in our parenting and beauty/style posts. and we’ve had (and continue to have) jewish writers and editors on our team, as well. inclusion of all kinds is really important to us. thank you so much!

    • Ariella says...

      Thank you all so much for adding your voices here. I didn’t expect any responses and certainly not such positive ones.

      Joanna thank you for responding. I must take issue with hiding behind the concept of wanting to create an ‘uplifting space.’ You cover a lot of difficult topics: the wildfires alone are not an uplifting topic but you give people a way to help and it feels less hopeless. Talking about anti semitism isn’t any different- there is real work that people can do to help and you can highlight that (I would be happy to help direct you to resources and influencers you could feature). There’s a way to write about anything that will fit with your brand, you just have to care to find it.

      I’m feeling very hopeful from all of these amazing women who chimed in here and hope to see our feedback reflected in your content very soon.

    • Esther says...

      Arielle, I commented something similar two months ago and my comment was not approved. Her anti-Semitism is truly unsettling to me and I’ve been a reader for years! Her excuse a few comments down is fuel to the flame.

      I remember when she posted the day after the election, acting as if she was better than those who voted for Trump. But now readers ask that she at least own up to what’s happening in her own backyard and she can’t muster the strength to write about it

    • Karen says...

      Not to make this a huge thread but I find it important to respond to Ariella. I do not think that calling this site or Joanna antisemitic is appropriate at all. And I’m speaking as a Jewish reader who commented above about the lack of attention to the recent spate of hate crimes against Jews. There’s a big difference between a possible oversight and antisemitism— and I think that using that word at inappropriate moments makes it lose its meaning. There is a huge systemic issue of antisemitism in this country and around the world. But this site and Joanna’s content is not an example of it. Let’s stay with love, light, and trust. This is what this community is about.

    • Ariella says...

      Thanks Karen. I didn’t call her anti Semitic in any of my comments, I said she was ignoring a surge of anti semitism in her city. But in support of the commenter who said it, I think that acknowledging hate crimes in churches and mosques but specifically not synagogues could easily be misconstrued as antisemitic and that commenter has a right to feel how she feels. Silence is rarely condemned but it does fuel the fire of people who are looking for validation to hate us. If she continues to choose silence knowing its consequence then I don’t know what else it could be called. But we’ll see, hopefully she’ll react in a meaningful way despite her response being pretty meh.

  9. Jessika says...

    Have to agree with Long Shot. Really enjoyed that movie!

  10. Jen says...

    I just finished watching Long Shot. It was a really fun romantic comedy. Thanks for the recommendation.

  11. Laura says...

    I’m always baffled by your obsession with the Obamas! You seem to adore them, even though their administration was deeply corrupt.

    I understand culturally they were interesting (Hamilton at the White House, for example) but it’s surprising that there are those out there soooooo enamored by them years later.

    If Trump is corrupt, by those same standards, Obama would be as well.

    • Lori LEahy says...

      A. show me proof that that administration was corrupt
      B. The Obamas are symbolic of our evolution as a culture and that is why they are so, so important to us.

    • Elizabeth R says...

      Disagreed. Also, as a blog reader, this is probably not the blog for you.

    • Celeste says...

      It’s a beautiful photo and they did nothing close to 15000 lies and refusing to work with anyone. They helped children through nutrition and Let’s Move, something I will always be grateful for. Plus this pic is not a push your hand away.

    • Michelle says...

      I hope Joanna continues to post pictures of the Obama’s. Count me amongst the enamored! :-)

    • Jen says...

      In what way was the Obama administration corrupt?

    • Anne Gilbane says...

      Wow, WTF????

    • M says...

      With your above comment you have pretty much ensured that pictures of the Obama’s will be used for future topics of discussion. :-)

    • DR says...

      Stop it.

    • Wink says...

      Hahahahahahahahahahaha. Thanks for the laugh, Laura!

    • ann says...

      I also feel uncomfortable with this idealization of Obama. I voted for him and he gave me so much hope in those 8 years, and his family is beautiful, but at the same time he and his administration ordered drone strikes on people in my home country… so yeah, I am torn and I have learned into my adulthood to not idealize anyone, especially not a politician.

    • C. says...

      BOT?

    • Laura says...

      Funny that someone assumed I was a “bot”. I’m actually a thirtysomething woman who thinks for herself, thank you very much.

      Regarding scandals in his administration: his secretary of state’s private email server, the Fast and Furious fiasco, abusing the IRS to punish political opponents….it goes on and on.

      p.s. 47 of Obama’s 73 inspectors general signed an open letter in 2014 due to his lack of transparency.

  12. Alisha says...

    The marriage article was so great and really timely for me. Lately, I’ve been noticing how negativity is almost a given in so many social interactions: parenthood, work, politics. There will always be frustrations in life and things we’d like to change that we have no real control over. How we approach these things and let them affect us determines our outlook and overall mental health. While it may be an easy default, the rewards in pushing past the negative thought or comment are immediate and so good for our well being. After a particularly trying year, I’ve challenged myself to push past any knee-jerk negative reactions and reach for the gratitude and grace to keep things on track. So far, so good!

    • Ann says...

      Lately I’ve been feeling enveloped in negativity at work and life. I read your comment on my lunch break and it was much needed; I’ll remember it going forward. Thanks:)

  13. Elizabeth R says...

    I finished ‘Such a Fun Age’ a few days ago. Wow, the characters are vivid and the stories and perspectives are interesting and incredibly written. I am about to being ‘Long Bright River’.

  14. sierra says...

    Joanna, can you please also make a post or provide some links about why war with Iran would be bad and possibly reputable charities that assist the everyday civilians against sanctions and other effects of the US policies against them?

  15. Rusty says...

    Thank you, thank yku, for putting the link to help the suffering caused by Australia’s Climate Change Fires.
    It means a lot. xx

    In reality, the most we all can do is vote for MINDFUL MANAGERS OF OUR PLANET, OUR HOME.

    Our Prime Minister was shamed in the UK today and rightly so. He’s trying to fob off so-called “credits” to meet the Paris agreements… that is NOT meeting anything. Itisanother broken promise and we have years until the next election! :(
    The UK is on theright track in a BIG way on emissions reduction, while Australia is set to open another coal mine, destroyingpristine habitat and wetlands.

    Gah! Whyyyyyyyyyyy do they do it? And then Australia burns … since September 2019 … and at least 3 months more before they’re out. It kills me inside. I CAN understand young people questioning whether to have children … but then, China is exploding their population!?!?! 🙄

    As an aside:
    Vegetables are best.
    Meat is not good.
    Fake meat is ridiculously unnecessary and resource wasteful.

  16. Charlotte says...

    Yes! The article about Long shot is so true. I saw it on the plane flying to NYC from Amsterdam. And I watched it AGAIN on the way back, just because it made me laugh so much and feel good. I loved it and it is so funny.

  17. Jo says...

    I feel sad that 5th graders have an awareness of “hot” and “cool” girls. But agree that warm is best.

    • Elizabeth R says...

      Interesting, the hot/cool girl always was the same to me. I have always been the warm one but I find that it is easy to be any of those if you are traditionally pretty. Warm is not as appreciated unless you are also the hot/cool girl

  18. Neha says...

    Hi there was this pretty excellent comment on the climate change post (by someone who actually works in the industry, I think) listing all the different things we could do… would it be possible to highlight that comment in one of your posts please?
    Thx

  19. So many good links this week! Words that are their own opposites? How am I 41 and just learning of such things? I find them nearly as fascinating as palindromes! And that tray of vegetables with pita and halloumi looks so tasty! We went to Australia a couple years ago (https://feedingthesoil.com/2018/01/10/traveling-with-kids-australia/) and ate halloumi everywhere we went. I haven’t eaten it much since. I’m eager to try this! (Holding Australia close to my heart during this difficult time.)

    • Mims says...

      I just made the tray of veggies…we don’t eat dairy or wheat, so did not make the salad, but the veggies where amazing and I upcycled the leftovers by adding them to some white navy beans, veggie stock, more spices and whole sorghum to make an incredible soup. Tray roasts are the best! I love recipes where you can make a second meal from extras.

  20. Kim says...

    Thank you for featuring my favorites, Barack and Michelle Obama. It means so much to me to see heir loving faces in the mess of the horrible recent news from DT.

    • Cece says...

      They’re gone…get over it.

    • gail c says...

      Agree 100% Kim. Thank you. ❤️

    • Amy says...

      Barack Obama might not be the president anymore, but they are not “gone” – they continue to be a wonderful, classy example for Americans, and I personally love seeing them featured! I am saddened to see rude comments about them by other readers.

    • DR says...

      Yes! I completely agree, they were such a wonderful example of love and faith.

    • Sarah says...

      Yes, I agree. I sometimes watch Barack Obama singing Amazing Grace at the funeral after the church shooting when I need my spirits lifted. It gives me chills every time. Such a deeply caring and wonderful man.

  21. JP says...

    Puhahaha!! My husband LOVES Long Shot – he watches it on repeat. I bet he didn’t think of this movie as a romantic comedy. By the way, have you seen that episode of David Chang’s show on Netflix with Seth Rogan as a guest? Hilarious!!

    • Valentina says...

      Oh yes! The best of the season!

  22. Angela says...

    I loved Long Shot so much, I bought it. I rarely do that. Such a fun movie for these bleak times!

    • kara says...

      The scene where Charlize Theron handles a terrorist negotiation while high on Molly is SO FUNNY.

  23. Ava says...

    Productivity Tip: I stopped bringing headphones to work a few months ago, when I realized I was much less productive when I had the option of listening to something distracting instead of working. When you can’t click on episodes of a show you’re binging, random Youtube videos, or music without your whole office hearing it, you’re much less tempted to click.

  24. D Tiz says...

    Perfect timing on the painting post. We have one room left to paint in our fixer upper and I’ve been stumped on any design inspiration for years. Emily’s post made me realize it definitely doesn’t get enough light to be painted white. I <3 Emily Henderson and her team. I wonder if she has any updates on colors since that post is 5 years old…

  25. Fay says...

    So, so curious to hear your thoughts on this book. Been reading about it everywhere. I’m #53 on our library’s waitlist! Love Cup of Jo’s book reviews.

    • Elizabeth R says...

      It is so good (not Cup of Jo, just a person who read it). It did not let anybody get off easy and the characters are so well written and real.

  26. MacleanNash says...

    Wow!
    The list of words that are their own opposites is BLOWING MY MIND!

  27. Maggie says...

    Oh man, I tried to get into Succession. I too, heard so many good things about it. I couldn’t get connected to any of the characters. I didn’t care about them. Couldn’t even finish season one. Maybe I’ll blame the IVF, right now I can only watch comedy and over the top action movies.

    • Jax says...

      I felt the same way, Maggie. Like life is too short to spend on these characters.
      And I’m usually into dark characters and stories — Shakespearean tragedy, Machiavellian doings, nefarious plotting.

    • Danielle says...

      I totally get it and also drop many popular shows because they are just not doing it for me BUT I did absolutely love succession — my only tip for you and others: for me personally, it really gets going mid-first season. I think episode 5 or 6. After that, I was a goner and so excited to watch!

  28. Jenna C says...

    ROSE !!!! I hope my daughters are exactly like that. Trying not to cry, that was just beautiful.

    • Becky says...

      Agreed!

  29. Lynn says...

    That it’s a life hack or a revelation that not wearing headphones opens you to more just makes me sad. Escaping has a time and place but I generally want people to dial it back, listen, observe, see, and basically just be. What a time we’re in.

    • Lauren says...

      I had the same thought :) I’d like to think it’s meant to do that, to get an easy reaction?

      Another thought: running into strangers used to happen much less often; maybe knowing most everyone around you is the natural state, and headphones and such just help get people through those ‘stranger’ parts of the day! I do sometimes like chatting to people in line and so on, but I’ve never made friends that way: to me, the nicest way to talk to strangers is when you’re introduced to them so that you have some connection already!

    • Anna says...

      Agreed, this article was so depressing and made me feel ancient ( I am in my 30s!). I can’t believe this ‘hack’ would come as a revelation to anyone with half a brain. Wait… you mean, not cocooning yourself away from society and nature with brain-deadening artificial noise is likely to make you more attuned to the rich interconnected world of sound that’s all around us, all of us, in town, cities, the countryside, every moment? Heavens above! What a revelation!

    • Anonygirl says...

      On the flip side, if you’re in a public space (gym, library, market, bookstore, cafe), for the love of all that is still good in this world, use headphones. The free world doesn’t want to hear your music/podcast/mom on speaker.

  30. Jan says...

    Thank you for using links that open, sans subscribing. Also week 1 of 2020 for cup of jo completed, yay!! New year, new decade…hopeful the road ahead is a great ride

  31. My Two Cents says...

    Impossible products are processed foods and heavily reliant on large-scale, destructive industrial agricultural farms. Impossible sources their ingredients from giant farms that don’t give AF about soil, the local ecosystem of bugs, animals. Sorry, they should not be supported. BUT YES to plant-based diets that support smaller scale farms with emphasis on local healthy ecosystems. Support food that’s grown on smaller scale (10 acres or less) farms that can be located near cities, that incorporate regenerative soil practices.

    Reading the New Yorker piece on the Impossible Burger’s founder and CEO made me realize he’s an extremist who wants to completely eradicate the relationship between humans and animals, namely humans keeping cows, ducks, chickens, sheep, etc. Swapping poor animal husbandry (drug-laden CAFO cow beef, tortured pigs, chickens, etc), with another highly processed meat-like veggie-product is not going to save us from climate change.

    • Melanie says...

      Can someone add a link to that article? Something about “fake” meat feels wrong to me. I understand the benefits to a plant-based diet, but maybe not a plant-only diet for everyone. I know people who genuinely feel better when they consume animal proteins. They buy small quantities from small ranches when possible. You make an excellent point, My Two Cents. It’s so important to understand the background and practices of this company.

    • jane says...

      Tbh, I can’t think of Impossible Products without thinking of the movie Snowpiercer and I am vegan. And how ironic that it’s been re-released because of all the ‘Parasite’ hype.

      I think carnivores should just re-think their relationship to meat and realize that, as ever, it is quality over quantity that will change things for the better. Cattle need to be free-range for both their own health and human health as well as for the health of the prairie’s they roam. Protein comes from amino acids – just eat enough greens and supplement concentrated proteins in small regular quantities – just like gorilla’s and every other big strong wild animal and you will more than cover your protein requirements. All this fake “meat” is just more of what we don’t need: processed “food”. Eating whole foods in the right ratio’s = a win/win/win for humanity/animals/earth.

    • Claire says...

      Agreed! And I’m so sad to see so many restaurants dropping their whole food plant based veggie patty options for one of these fake processed items. The other thing I don’t understand is how I see the new fake burgers everywhere yet I know no one who has tried one yet?

    • Melkorka says...

      Thank you for this comment “My two Cents”. Yay to people trying to make positive, informed, impactful choices with their food budgets – boo to corporate food ‘products’ that rely on trendy marketing buzz and don’t make a positive difference ecologically.

    • Holly says...

      let’s not make the perfect the enemy of the good, it’s exhausting. Responding to the comments below, sometimes it’s good to have an option that’s not CAFO beef, even if
      It involves *gasp* a GMO or a “processed food.” Also Mark Hyman shills goop-style wellness supplements and dietsso let’s not take advice from him or provide a greater platform for his quackery. Yes we should support regenerative agriculture when we can but most of the time that’s not an option.

  32. t says...

    Love these reader comments. So much wisdom. Thank you.

  33. LJG says...

    I travel to Southeast Asia from the east coast regularly for work, so have a lot of time on planes to watch movies. I’ve recently realized that my plane movies tend to fall into a few categories: superhero movies, romantic comedies, badass Charlize Theron (sometimes expanded just to badass women), Lily James (she’s in a LOT of plane movies). So I watched Long Shot on a recent flight (categories 2 and 3). And was surprised at how enjoyable it was. I don’t know that I’d make the same argument as the link above, but definitely WAY more enjoyable than I expected.

  34. Heather says...

    25 words that are the opposite of themselves… Or: How to write an Amelia Bedilia story.

    • Melanie says...

      Yes! I just read one of her books to my kids recently.

    • Ha, ha, ha, ha! So true!

    • Becky says...

      Haha! I said that to my husband when they got to dust!

    • Lisa Z says...

      I thought of exactly this! Especially the dust example. Thanks for giving me a reason to actually comment about it too. Makes me smile.

  35. agnes says...

    Best friday links and picture! Love the marriage trick, the design mistake and the readers’ comments… Thank you for this great week! Have a good week-end, everyone. And thank you, readers and Joanna who answered a comment a few months ago, where I mentioned my family was moving and I was worried about the change for my 6 year old. You said anticipation was worse than the actual move, so true! It really helped me prepare my son by getting things more real (we went to visit the school, the library, etc a month and a half before the move). New life is good so far! Love, from Paris.

  36. Alison says...

    I just started that book yesterday too! So good!

  37. June says...

    Oh, Obama. WHERE IS HE?? The world is on fire, we’re on the brink of yet another war, and he remains silent. I’m not sure if I can forgive him.

    • Sara says...

      Forgive him for what, June? What can he do? Hasn’t he given us enough?

      I understand missing him, but I don’t understand being angry with him. His words won’t put out the fires or save us from war.

    • Colleen S says...

      Honestly (and I say this as someone who voted for him), but what can he do? Everything that comes out of his mouth or he tweets will be twisted in some way to make him the bad guy. All of this stuff happening in the Middle East Trump managed to turn into a “if Obama hadn’t done this, none of this would be happening” thing. I also think he’s on vacation, so he’s probably not watching the news. Our current administration is going to do what they want, for little regard for what we and the rest of the world, want. Obama saying “this is bad” won’t help.

    • swan says...

      I would ask instead – where are the American people? Democracy only works so well with apathetic participation.

      Is anyone writing their Senators and legislators on the issues that matter to them throughout their time as a citizen of a major world “democracy”? Is anyone whose job is not in politics actually participating in democracy? THIS is why we are in this position.

      People need to start contacting their local leaders on a regular basis about EVERYTHING. Like digital “terms and conditions” and “permissions” policies. This foreign drama is distracting people from the fact that the golden Democracy we take entirely for granted is being usurped by Silicon Valley as we speak. WRITE. Our nation is about 4 minutes away from a complete takeover by digital fascism. OUTLAW DATA BROKERS NOW.

    • Sg says...

      Obama wasn’t isnt and won’t be our savior people. Trump is a train wreck to be sure. Things are bad. But Obama is no innocent. If you want things to change do something. Turning people into idols is bad politics.

  38. Sarah says...

    That list of words that are their own opposites is fascinating. I love language! But it also reminds me of the question I ask myself at the turn of every season: when you’d like the temperature to be cooler, do you turn up the AC, or do you turn down the AC? Or, when you go to bed at 2 AM, did you stay up late, or did you sleep late?

  39. Christine says...

    That EXACT Emily Henderson post has stuck in my head for years!!! And I pass it on to everyone. I painted my small dark bathroom dark grey and it WORKS!

  40. Amy says...

    We just saw Long Shot this past week! And yes, also pleasantly surprised by it. We also finally got to see Book Smart, so it was a good movie week :)

  41. Amanda says...

    I actually did see The Long Shot while on my last long plane trip. I wanted SO BADLY to like it, because I actually really enjoy Seth Rogen, but…I honestly did not enjoy it.

    Charlize Theron is a goddess, and I loved her character. But Seth’s character is so unnecessarily crude and foul-mouthed. I’m not a prude by any means, but after adoring him in things like Knocked Up, this is a complete 180. I understand he was playing a part, but it was a part I definitely didn’t like, and it didn’t take too long for me to feel that he didn’t deserve Charlize’s character. Also, their chemistry just seemed so ridiculously awkward! I ended up watching it all the way through, but in the end I just felt smarmy and wished I hadn’t wasted 2 hours on it :(

    • Michaela says...

      Same! My husband and I tried to watch it and couldn’t get through it.

  42. Allyson says...

    Oooh I love the opt out of hot girl/cool girl false dichotomy instead choosing to be a warm person. “Warm” is the supreme descriptor of someone who is great to be around. I’m going to explain this to my daughter someday.

  43. Ruth says...

    BEST PHOTO EVER! OMG come back Obamas!!!

    • Joaquina says...

      Obamas do not nor should not come back. He served two terms and both wrote books illustrating their values and stories. We are in this mess because of ignorance, fear, and xenophobia. Those of us sickened by the current administration and climate change, must use our voices, actions, and money to support worthwhile causes and politicians.
      Pres. Barack and Michelle Obama are not beholden to us,
      let’s stop this ridiculous expectation of them.