Lindsey is a materials engineer based in Portland, Oregon. She also runs The Engineeress, an Instagram feed where she talks about life as a woman in STEM (Science, Technology, Engineering and Math) and hopes to encourage more women to join her. Here, she shares tips on tackling imposter syndrome and her (hilarious) secret to finding the perfect nude lipstick…
After 40 years on earth, I’ve finally figured it out…
Like a mother bird who pushes her squawky little teen-bird out of the nest so that it can learn to fly, I’m going to go out on a limb here and say that, in some way, all mother-daughter relationships are complicated…
What are your plans this weekend? I’m going to my friend Gemma‘s tonight for pizza, chatting and no children in sight. Hope you have a good one, and here are a few links from around the web…
How would you describe your birth story in two words? (“Rockstar vibes.” “What the.” “Forty hours.” “Husband bathtub.” “Best gift.” “Infertile. Adoption.” “Pizza Afterwards.”)
I’ve been spotting women around town wearing T-shirts + polka dot skirts.
Love this swimming print.
A letter to my late wife on Mother’s Day. (Heartbreak.)
How to notice new things. “One would be Get There The Hard Way. At least once during your trip, go to some destination without taking directions from your phone… The other is Eat Somewhere Dubious. Have one meal at a restaurant that you didn’t find on Yelp or through any sort of recommendation and that doesn’t even look trendy or hip. First, you’ll have fun keeping an eye out for it: ‘Is THAT our dubious restaurant?’ Second, even if you have a mediocre meal, you’ll have an unpredictable experience!”
How beautiful is this bedroom color?
Psst: Does anyone really like breakfast in bed?
Plus, two reader comments:
Says Ara on brownies taste test: “To my eternal shame, I’ve been baking and sharing box mix brownies for years – and lying about it out of embarrassment! Friends would gush and ask for the recipe, and I WOULD GIVE THEM A RANDOM RECIPE, knowing it wouldn’t come out like my brownies because mine came from a box. It’s my biggest secret. Shhh, don’t tell anyone!”
Says LS on advice for my younger self: “I would tell my younger self: You do not ever owe anyone an explanation for exiting a situation that makes you feel uncomfortable. No matter how big or small. Even if you’re unable to articulate it, as soon as you feel negativity in your gut, you are free to leave, and anyone who gives you a hard time about it does not deserve an explanation.”
(Photo by Stella Blackmon.)
This Friday’s cartoon is by Grace Farris. Sending a hug to anyone who needs one. Mother’s Day isn’t always easy.
And if you’d like to donate this Mother’s Day, here are three worthy causes:
* National Bail Out reunites families all over the country on Mother’s Day by bailing out as many black mothers and caregivers as possible, providing supportive services and fellowship opportunities, and organizing to transform harmful systems (like money bail and pretrial detention).
* Restore helps raise funds and awareness on challenges faced by sex-trafficking survivors with children.
* Without Mom brings together organizations around the world — like Every Mother Counts and Black Mamas Matter — that help end preventable deaths related to pregnancy and childbirth, and ensure access to high-quality maternal care. xoxo