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Have a Great Weekend.

What are you up to this weekend? We’re going to the Botanic Gardens, if it doesn’t rain, and I’m also getting our last few holiday treats. (For example, I just stopped by the bodega to get Maltesers for Alex.:) Hope you have a good one, and here are a few links from around the web…

A very happy Hanukkah to everyone who celebrates! (I’m so sorry I didn’t say this sooner!)

Our man Timothée is on SNL this weekend.

Plus, Timothée laughing for one minute straight.

Do you have a doppelgänger?

The loveliest stocking stuffer. (Bonus: L’Occitane is offering 10% off with code COJ10, good through 12/13.)

Joe Biden with a beard needs to be a thing.

One dad’s smart strategy for teenager gifts.

Woman Takes Short Half-Hour Break From Being Feminist To Enjoy TV Show, haha.

A spoof of Emily in Paris. (New Yorker)

These flower prints and this calendar are beautiful.

Max Wanger goes Christmas tree spotting.

Everyone looks great in a half zip.

And, finally, here’s our full 2020 gift guide, if you’d like to see.

Plus, three reader comments:

Says Jane on what smells do you love: “Microwave popcorn. totally makes me feel like I’m about to watch a movie in someone’s deeply carpeted basement in the Midwest.”

Easy Kathleen on what smells do you love: “When I had my son, I intentionally only used one lotion — Burts Bee’s classic. I thought of it as a gift to my future self, so for the rest of my life that smell would take me back to those early years. He’s only six, but the smell already makes me tear up.”

Says Lori on what smells do you love: “On a podcast I was listening to recently, the hosts were talking about how they missed the smells of their friends’ homes as they aren’t visiting people during the pandemic. It made me stop and think about what my friends’ homes smell like, if anything. Tuna fish was a family favorite in my house growing up – Sunday was often a day for the ‘super duper tuna salad’ my dad would make. I do still remember being hugely embarrassed when a childhood friend said my house always smelled like tuna. Nothing worse than that to a 10-year-old!”

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  1. Savannah says...

    There was a girl a year behind me in high school for whom I would often get mistaken, people would run up to me and say her name. She also shared the name of my sister, who I still get mistaken for, so when people would call me her name, I would just respond out of habit as I was so used to being called Molly!

  2. Claire says...

    the doppleganger stories are mesmerizing, and speaking of that, while I don’t have one of my own to share- this brought to mind the series “Orphan Black” and I wanted to recommend it. It’s a fabulous series – well written, funny, suspenseful, creative, with a riveting story (sci-fi, and can be dark -trigger warning), but also an opportunity to be astounded and delighted by the gift of Tatiana Maslany’s enormous talent.

  3. Jaclyn Webb says...

    I am so obsessed with Timothee Chalamet. I literally cannot stop myself from staring at his photos. And I’m almost 40! He is so adorable!

  4. Alice says...

    On doppelgangers- I’ve recently been “Marleyed” a couple of times (ex-boyfriends/ flames reappearing out of the blue around the holidays), and one was my university boyfriend telling me he’d seen my doppelganger in a shop in the tiny place where he lives. I kind of hope it’s true- I’d love to have a proper doppelganger- but also, why did this guy decide he needed to message me after years and years and years to tell me this?! People are strange.

  5. G says...

    Oh my, Kathleen’s comment. I happened to purchase a new lotion for my hospital bag two years ago (Burt’s Bees Radiance body lotion). I continued using it daily when I brought my daughter home. Early on while nursing her in bed, with just my comfy shorts on, I noticed how it made my legs shimmer when the sun hit it. I’m not an overly glamorous girl. I can count on one hand how many times a year I wear mascara. But it made me feel special. The scent is very gentle and sometimes I would get it on her forehead and it always made me giggle when she sparkled. Well, I picked up a second bottle when I was packing my second hospital bag back in July and have been using it for months with my son as part of my daily beauty routine. I hope they always make this lotion so that I too, can find a bottle when I am holding my grandbabies. Funny how little things can light us up.

  6. Lauren Roy says...

    Would Leslie Knope die for Joe in a beard or would she DIEEEEEE 😂

  7. Clara says...

    Oh my goodness! So fascinating!

  8. L says...

    My parents and older sisters found my doppelgänger on a bus in Paris! They were there on a graduation trip and my little sister and I were staying with my grandparents. They were confused for a minute when they saw a girl about my age who looked like my twin in Paris when I was supposed to be in Omaha :)

  9. HH says...

    Re: Doppelgängers. I have an identical twin sister so it never occurred to me that there might be another doppelgänger out there. But… after I boarded a bus in Helena, MT that was departing for a field trip from the work-related conference I was attending, other people on the bus were strangely friendly. Without fail almost everyone who boarded the bus nodded at me and said, “nice to see you again!” I started to feel like I might have boarded a bus in the Twilight Zone rather than Montana when one said, “that was a great party last night!” (I had spent the previous night not at a party but on a rather alarming flight over the mountains from Salt Lake City.) Once the conversation on the bus really started going, I had to admit that they must have mistaken me for someone else. I saw the same startled look that I always met when running into someone who knew my sister in college and started to wonder if Em had secretly traveled to Montana for a conference also. Had she arrived at the conference a day earlier? And why would she have attended?! It wasn’t her field. By the end of the field trip I was eager to meet my doppelgänger and find out if I was the butt of a huge practical joke organized by my sister (which seemed highly unlikely because she’s just not the type). Back at the conference center that evening, I saw “me” across the room, from behind. She was petite–half the height of the other people here–had dark hair, and was about my height. I approached her. She turned around and looked like… my sister! I awkwardly introduced myself and told her that I had been mistaken for her all day. To which she responded, “‘I’m used to that! I have an identical twin sister.”

    (!?!)

    • Stacey DeWitt says...

      Whoa!

    • ml says...

      Chills! wow!

    • Nadine says...

      Wow! That’s twilight zone for real! Did you get to find out more? It sounds like the beginning of a movie/book.

    • CS says...

      I actually gasped! That is amazing.

    • HH says...

      Nadine: I found out that she and her sister lived across the country from each other and that they both “randomly” called their mother at the same time. We laughed about that because my sister and I do exactly the same thing. I can’t remember her name so if you’re on here, museum employee-who-is-a-twin-and-was-at-the-MPMA-conference-in-Helena, MT-around-eight-years-ago, hello again!!

    • nadine says...

      Amazing!! Imagine if it turned out that the four of you were calling their mother at the SAME time!

    • Claire says...

      fascinating story!

  10. Ally says...

    In regards to gifting off a list… I have to disagree. I come from a family where everything comes off a list. I love finding that perfect gift for someone, listening throughout the year for things they find exciting, picking something that reminds me of them. I feel much more ‘seen’ when someone gets me something that reminds them of me and that they had put thought into, then if they just pick something off a list. Grateful regardless to be having this discussion of gift giving/receiving, it it just seems like the easy way out to me when all I want out of a gift is to know someone is thinking of me.

  11. Just a note from a rabbi’s wife over here in N. California. It wouldn’t even occur to me for CupofJo to post about Hanukkah. I can celebrate the lights and small miracles in my life (and my family’s) during this dark time (WTF 2020?) without having EVERY single person/blogger comment about it. I love this blog, because I can learn about culture, design, fashion, motherhood and SO MANY THINGS that don’t follow me around on a daily basis. I hope that everyone reading can find some “light and small miracles” during this season. Happy Holidays! XOXO

    • Angela says...

      So beautifully said! Happy holidays!

    • agree agree agree, Rachel! xoxo

    • L says...

      Lovely sentiment :)

  12. K says...

    We’re on episode 6 of The Queen’s Gambit and I don’t know what to think of it! I will say it always does just enough to keep me curious about what they’re trying to do.

    The mother looked familiar and I found out she was the director you guys interviewed before–Marielle Heller! It wasn’t who I thought it was, but thought that was interesting! Especially since she looked completely different in your interview (of course, in real life style and garb!)

  13. Em says...

    I went to college with my doppelganger! We were at a small school, and it was very confusing to seemingly the entire campus when she studied abroad junior year, spring semester :) Shout out to Megan! (Luckily she was very sweet!)

  14. cath says...

    Love those links!
    It’s just that Thimotée thing, I really don’t get it! Anyone else??

    • Angela says...

      I see you, Cath. That little-boy look is not my type either!

    • Shelley says...

      Yes completely agree! I don’t get it at all. Looks like he could be my son and I’m only 32.

    • Anna says...

      Same- I don’t get it at all! He’s even my age but I do not understand the obsession. He looks like my 12 year old cousin.

  15. MM says...

    It’s funny to me how so many people sound almost entitled to get their festival wishes here. I bet there are at least a few thousand Hindu, Muslim, others readership here and I bet from NYC alone.
    No-one else seems to be pouty about it. It’s a personal blog, chill out.

  16. Tina says...

    Sooo, I have an irreverent sense of humor (which has been helpful this year), so I’m not “that humorless person.” But I did not think “Woman Takes Short Half-Hour Break From Being Feminist To Enjoy TV Show,” was funny. I mean, isn’t that part of being a feminist — watching WTH I want while holding tight to the basic tenet that women are equal to men? I don’t regularly watch “Say Yes” but if I happen to catch I few minutes, I enjoy it because my late Aunt loved the show. It’s a few minutes to think about her. So, there are many reasons that many people watch TV shows. We’re all different, which is one of the points of Feminism. No apologies necessary!

    • Isabelle says...

      It kind of seems like you missed the point…

  17. Donnia says...

    A friend of mine spotted a woman who looked just like me one day on the métro ! She held her phone the same way I do, her hair was up in a bun exactly like I do, she had similar glasses, and wore clothes I could have worn. My friend snapped a picture and sent it to me saying “I thought you were out of town for the week”. It was so weird !

    Lately, several people have also texted me saying I looked like Emma Corrin in The Crown… I thought it was pretty hilarious because I spent the whole season thinking “my god she looks just like my mom!”. There must be something !

  18. Erica says...

    I was a fresh-out-of-college high school algebra teacher and had a student who looked enough like me that other teachers would yell at me to get back to class when I’d walk through the halls on my free period thinking I was her. We have the same initials too. I just googled her (20 years later) and turns out she’s an archaeologist now – I quit teaching high school and went on to become an anthropologist!

  19. Stefanie Plumley says...

    Ummm, anybody with a C cup or larger looks awful in a half zip.

  20. Leah says...

    Would love to see COJ be more overtly inclusive of us Jewish gals (hey, we make up a large portion of your neighborhood at least). Don’t worry though, I know for a fact that A LOT of us forget to light a candle at least one of the nights. Usually the first or second for me. Thanks for adding a mention, anyway.

    Others have noted that light and miracles are appropriate for this year especially, and I agree. But they all said it more eloquently.

    For those of you looking for contemporary Hanukkah stories and essays, NPR did a great roundup on their Hanukkah Lights special:
    https://www.npr.org/2020/12/10/943835074/hanukkah-lights-2020

    • Jean says...

      Agreed. Jewish reader of over a decade here and I feel strangely left out of all the inclusiveness you seem to value so highly with so many other minority groups. Makes me sad.

    • Jean says...

      Not *over a decade, *almost a decade* basically just trying to say , from the beginning!

  21. jane says...

    thanks COJ team for keeping this lovely space going each week.

    i’ve never felt as famous as i do right now – for microwave popcorn thoughts! the comments on that post are little poems.

  22. Emily says...

    A bit of a stretch, but I think of Call Me By Your Name as a Hanukkah movie because of the beautiful last scene.

  23. jules says...

    About 8 years ago, I saw a woman in her late teens walking her dog. She was a dead ringer for me at the same age, from hair color to her way of walking and holding her head. It was like a strange time machine.

  24. Ashley says...

    I feel called out by that Onion article. Say Yes to the Dress is my guilty pleasure!

  25. Eliot says...

    I do have a doppelgänger! I used to live in Austin and I had people walk up to me all. the. time. and say, “Hi Natalie!” I always responded, “I’m not Natalie but she must be pretty cute!” I never actually saw her but sort of wish I had. I hope she’s having an easier time maintaining her pixie cut through quarantine than I am…

  26. NM says...

    Re: Hanukkah— I love coming to COJ for a combination of diverse and fascinating view points… and also to see myself reflected in a lot of the content (as a woman, a mother, a person who appreciates aesthetically pleasing things, a person who advocates for social justice, a creative person).
    But I know that Jo isn’t Jewish, so I don’t necessarily have the expectation that she will post about Jewish holidays.
    What I DO value so much and LOVE is the community that really is at the heart of COJ. Posts are usually short and sweet and wonderful.
    But the comments are looong. They’re looong y’all. Haha. And it’s there that I find community, learn new things, and laugh and cry.
    So all this to say:
    Thanks for all the Hanukkah shout outs in the comments!
    I’m not a religious Jew. But I am Jewish and love our traditions and values… so I am grateful for this light and shining it right back at all of you. Xoxo
    (And grateful to Jo’s generosity in her inclusiveness).

  27. Kelly says...

    In college, there was a girl who was my doppelgänger, but only from behind! Similar height and build, similar hair, similar clothing styles. From the front we didn’t really look alike at all, but many times I was walking across the quad and heard someone yell “Sarah!” at my back.

  28. Robyn says...

    My children are older than tweens but I remember sticking to their list and then a surprise. As boring as this is my kids loved gift cards. They both are and were avid readers, so a Barnes and Noble card was always part of the mix. After Christmas we’d go to B&N buy books and get a nice lunch then go home and read. Also a few well thought out gifts are better than a lot of random gifts. I like the four rule gift idea: something you want, something to read, something to wear and something you need.

    • Kristian Olson says...

      I love your description of the family outing to Barnes and Noble! ANd- Your comment made me consider gift cards in a different way because in some sense, for tweens and kids, it is giving a sense of independence and choice. They don’t normally have their own money, beyond perhaps an allowance, and don’t normally get final say over whether something is purchased or not. A giftcard is a taste of independence then, for a young person.

      And for an older teen or adult, I dunno, but isn’t always kind of nice to know you have a giftcard to use for when you need/want it. Especially for a college kid if something unexpected comes up.

    • Isabelle says...

      I like that idea too. I’m very picky and since I live in a small space I’m very stressed by clutter (and waste!) so I give my family a very specific list including things I need as well as a few fun things I want. As a kid I LOVED gift cards – it was the gift of shopping! Plus you could spread out your “treats” throughout the year. Depressed by never-ending winter in February? Use your Christmas gift card to treat yourself!

  29. Emie says...

    I think “Christmas tree spotting.” should become a thing!!!

  30. Rachel says...

    COJ, I love you, but like so many others here, it’s really weird and lonely to not have Hannukah even mentioned in this roundup. There are a lot of us out here celebrating, and you clearly care about representation in many other ways – it’s starting to feel strange to not have even a “happy Hannukah” once a year. I would love to know whether you just didn’t think of it? Again?

    Thank you for all the other good work you do. I admit this omission makes me feel less like an equal member of this community, though.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      I’m so sorry about this! I added it to the round-up right away — I am so sorry I didn’t mention it sooner. xo

    • Candy says...

      Joanna — Maybe a link to the video of the crazy popular new Hanukah song by the Hamilton star Daveed Diggs, “Puppy for Hanukah,” made for Disney and which celebrates the holiday and diversity among Jews of color.
      Here’s one link:
      https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=z8MkeIo2bUE

    • Rachel says...

      thank you!! I almost didn’t say anything because of course you can do as you like – but I love being here and this makes me happy. :)

    • NH observer says...

      Agreed! It’s so weird to have an omission of a significant holiday (though I also appreciate the view that Hanukkah has been artificially elevated because of Christmas, and there are other Jewish holidays that are actually more important from a religious POV). CoJ is usually so thoughtful and it would help to have an explanation of how this lapse occurred. I say this as someone who married into a Jewish family, but as a Hindu, I would also love to see a mention of Diwali!

    • Jean says...

      Should have read through all the comments before replying because this one…this one is what I was really trying to say. It’s less about Hanukkah and more about the omission year over year of simple additions that make Jewish readers feel seem, as the hatred just grows and grows. You have such a powerful platform it’s truly disappointing. And I LOVE this blog and refer to it often.

  31. bella says...

    There are many reasons why I cut out obligatory gift giving and receving from my life, but an important one was to do away with the perpetual disappointment of getting terrible gifts from my family, especially my parents. On the one hand, it means that any gifts I get from them, I appreciate for the sentiment rather than for the gift itself. And yet the one time I thought my mom had finally nailed it with something that meant she understood me was not even with a gift, but with a silly card that read that if something cannot be fixed with duct tape or a cocktail, it is not worth fixing. That was a perfect combination of my mom still being a mom, but also relating to me as an adult.

  32. Lily says...

    In regards to not wishing a Happy Hanukkah to those celebrating, I have to say (as someone who has zero religious affiliation and does not celebrate either Hanukkah or Christmas) PLEASE UNDERSTAND WHAT THIS IS! Jo and her blog do not have the responsibility to be everything to everyone. She is allowed to post about things that she knows about and thinks about during the week. At the end of the day this is essentially a link round up on a personal blog. There are plenty of other places on the internet to find inspiration for decorating for Hanukkah, recipes for Hanukkah and as someone above me said, “gift guides” are non denominational, unless, of course, you are looking for a reason to make them so. Happy Hanukkah to those who celebrate, Merry Christmas to those who celebrate and Happy New Year to us all for making it (almost!) through 2020! xo

    • Jackie says...

      AMEN.

    • Rebecca says...

      My thoughts exactly. I am EXHAUSTED by some of the comments on this page. Thank you for what you do, Jo, and for how gracious you are. You are a much better person than I am.

    • T says...

      Agreed completely! Many people in this community celebrate holidays that are not mentioned in posts (Eid, Diwali, Chinese New Year, Armenian New Year…), myself included. And I have never once felt slighted or felt that Jo was obligated to mention my holiday.

      But maybe I should?

    • Emily says...

      Well said Lily! It’s not a diss at anyone. I have a good friend who is Jewish and the only people she expects to acknowledge her Judaism, Hanukkah and other Jewish holidays and rituals is her family and good friends. I guess everyone feels differently, and I respect that.

    • Anonymous says...

      Would you write this comment in response to a person of color who felt underrepresented and unwelcome in this blog and wrote a comment expressing this sentiment ? Or just to a jew who respectfully asked to be acknowledged in a blog lauded for its inclusivity and sensitivity? Just curious.

    • Lo says...

      Just curious, would you have this reaction of “stop trying to make Hanukkah happen” if it was another culture’s holiday? For example if someone asked Jo to acknowledge Ramadan in April? Just to be clear, Hanukkah started this week, so it’s not Merry Christmas yet, nor is it Happy Kwanzaa until the 26th. Always sad to see a backlash to a culture asking to be included.

    • Angela says...

      Anonymous, I think something to consider is that religion(while deeply rooted in origin) is still a choice/preference and the color of your skin is not.

    • Anon says...

      It is unfair to expect Joanna to recognize every holiday for every religion and in all fairness, she doesn’t. There are so many holidays celebrated by so many different cultures!! If she starts recognizing one holiday, then accidentally misses another, everyone takes it personally. It’s just too much to ask of a person running a lovely, free blog to be everything for everyone. If I remember correctly, she isn’t even religious… so maybe we need to respect her beliefs, too.

    • Sequoia says...

      I forgot my actual birthday this year until 4 days before. I was washing dishes and needed to make a note in my phone and noticed the date. We’re in a “panoramic” guys. It’s hard out here for everyone.

      -Pandemically Sequoia

  33. Nicole says...

    I think I have one of those faces that looks similar to a lot of people because I often get called the wrong name and compared to other people. However, since I was 14 or so everyone has said that I look exactly like Mandy Moore (I’m 30 now). I stayed at a really cool hotel in New Orleans one time and all the baristas at the coffee shop were staring and then gave me my coffee on the house “because they loved my work”… considering I’d never been there before, I’m pretty sure they thought I was someone else. I wasn’t going to correct them though! Haha

  34. Katie says...

    AH, the doppleganger clip reminds me of my favorite Tana French book, “The Likeness”– it’s so.good.

    • Karyn says...

      ME TOO! The Likeness is one of my favorite books, and I immediately forwarded the article CoJ linked to two friends who have always objected to The Likeness because they can’t believe the premise :) Did you notice that the company doing the project is based in Dublin?! I was like, “Ah-HAH….”

  35. BLG says...

    My very aged, very adult heart says YES to “my” Timothee!
    What an adorable and terrific actor all in one package.

  36. Rae says...

    I went to school with my doppelganger! We were in the same class for years. People commented on our similarities, but it levelled up 1000% when I got glasses in the second year. And then we both had braces at the same time. Coupled with our school uniform, even my grandparents got us mixed up.

  37. Jen says...

    I do have a doppelganger. Her name is Amy. I know this because in the 90’s when I lived in Vancouver, at least a couple times a week, someone would call out ‘AMY!” and when I didn’t respond, would come running up to me. ‘Holy sh*t’ was all they could say when I explained I wasn’t her. I actually saw her once. We circled each other like wild animals. It was UNCANNY. My Mom swears she didn’t give away my twin. Amy, if you’re out there, how are you?

  38. Allyson says...

    I have a doppleganger and we took a photo together! I started working my first job out of college and I noticed right away a lot of people were very friendly and went out of their way to say hi to me in the halls. Finally one day someone said “Hey Jenny!” My name is Allyson. They were stunned I wasn’t Jenny and finally explained what had been going on; I looked exactly like someone else that had just transferred from that job to one in Chicago. A few months later she was back in town to see family for the Holidays and came in to say hi. I got drug from my cubicle to go meet her and we were both shocked at how alike we look and how we strangely had very similar mannerisms. Someone took a photo, and without posing or being intentional, we kind of did a weird mirror image pose right there among the cubicles. Eventually she moved back to Kansas City, I found out we had mutual friends, I used to do standup with her husband’s cousin. A decade later I ran into her and her husband at Target. We follow each other on Instagram now and sometimes I’ll post a photo of myself she’ll comment “thought that was me for a second.” Having a doppleganger is fun!

  39. Ash says...

    I can’t help to agree that Hanukkah might be the holiday of the year.

    Light in time of dark. Miracles when there seem to be none.

    Maybe an interview or one of those style pieces you do with a female rabbi. Now that would be appreciated and interesting.

    • Yelena Grant says...

      That would be so cool to see!

    • NM says...

      Love this idea!! and… I have a rabbi to nominate! Her name is Yael Rooks Rapport— she’s an awesome progressive feminist, social justice advocate— and is a rabbi at what I think was the first ever LGBTQ synagogues. Called CBST in ny.
      She also happens to be very stylish as I recall ;-)
      (we used to work together).

    • Belle says...

      Er, Deepavali, literally the festival of lights, happens every year. How narrow-minded!

    • R says...

      @Belle, Hanukkah is also the Festival of Lights (every year). How cool that this can be a thing in more than one culture!! Would love to see a post on the various festivals of light around this time of year :)

  40. Jo says...

    I don’t have a specific doppelgänger, but I have a face that people always recognize. It was a regular occurrence pre-pandemic for people to ask if they know me or to say “you look so much like this person I know!”. I always take it as a compliment because I think it means I have a friendly face if people feel like they know me :) Now that I’m always wearing a mask in public, I miss it!

  41. Sarah says...

    I agree (although I LOVE the blog and so appreciate you, Jo). I know there’s probably just a lack of awareness because there’s no one Jewish on staff, but y’all are in NYC :). It feels like the major Jewish (and Muslim) holidays don’t get a shout out. Happy Hannukkah everyone!

  42. celeste says...

    I guess I have to see the “Call Me By Your Name” movie to get T.C. references. Hoping to check out ” Happiest Season” soon.

  43. Kim says...

    I really appreciated the article written by the dad about giving his teenager gifts. I, too, was often disappointed in the gifts my parents gave me and it made me feel very “unknown”. I LOVE getting gifts for our 17 year old daughter…she provides us with a very detailed list (links included! :)) that we then also supplement with a couple of “surprises”, always with the understanding that she can return anything that doesn’t work….I never want her to be in the position of pretending she likes something like I had to….and I also don’t see the value of unloved things lying around and making her feel guilty.

    • Anon says...

      Gifting teenagers, I think this counts for gifting anyone really, but especially your kids, whether teenagers or younger. I once encouraged my young girls in a certain direction with their Santa letters and while they still play with that gift a lot years later the excitement for them wasn’t the same Christmas day. This year I kept out of it. They asked for a gift with terrible reviews but they have longed after it. Let them have it! They are so excited and I think they were secretly thrilled that I didn’t get involved at all! As a kid I knew there were certain toys that I shouldn’t ask for but I always felt it was because they were just a bit too extravagant. As a teenager I remember making a big deal out of my mother’s resistance to buying me a particular brand of jeans. Again, it probably just came down to money, but I remember feeling like it was just cruel. I appreciate kids can’t have whatever and everything they want but I think dialogue is so important rather than trying to tell them what they do want. This article reminded me of other ways I felt and still feel unseen in my family. My mother likes to put her values on all of us, “we don’t like X” “that food doesn’t suit us” “we’re not into that”. It drives me mad. An important reminder not to fall into the same cycle with my own kids.

  44. Brittany says...

    I am from Connecticut and two years ago I was in Wisconsin for work (actually in my mom’s hometown, funny enough). I was washing my hands in the bathroom of a bar and a few girls walked in and said “Oh my god, you look just like our friend!! We said so when you walked in to the restaurant!” I laughed and hoped their friend was cute. Then my doppelganger walked in and everyone started screaming – she really did look like me! We hugged and laughed and then split up. Such an odd but fun memory.

  45. Libby says...

    I worked with a woman that had no sense of smell her whole life. I asked her the three things she wished she could smell. Rain, fresh baked cookies and her mom. HER MOM. I miss the smell of my mom too… a lot.

    • Robin says...

      Me too, Libby 😞 Hugs to you

    • katie says...

      Mom smells. I finally told my mom tonight that I wasn’t coming home for Christmas. We both started crying. I’m 40 and this is the first Christmas I’ll miss. It will also be the first one I spend with my husband. I guess that’s a small win.

      I always thought of myself as independent, but I feel like a five year old who needs her mommy. I said mommy tonight for the first time probably since I was a kid.

  46. Carlaw says...

    Bummer! The L’Occitane code doesn’t seem to work in Canada :(

  47. Yelena says...

    At the very least, short of a dedicated post, there could have been one item in the weekend roundup dedicated to Hanukkah

    • Ash says...

      Agreed.

      Happy Hanukkah to you ❤️. I don’t know where you live or who you are, but I’ll sing for you tonight

    • Yelena Grant says...

      Thanks Ash! From Southern California to wherever you are :)

    • SR says...

      you’re so right! Happy Hanukkah! <3

  48. Taylor says...

    Happy Hanukkah to my fellow Jewish COJ friends!! Hanukkah is often shit on because its a lower-importance festival inflated by its association with Christmas but this year I feel like Hanukkah is THE holiday of 2020. It’s all about acknowledging small miracles in the middle of the absolute worst times! I can’t think of a better time for a holiday about faith, resilience, small miracles….and deep frying :)

    I hope those of you celebrating are able to find the small miracles in this vey lonely and hard holiday season.

    • Celeste says...

      That is beautiful Taylor.

    • Ash says...

      Happy Hanukkah to you! May the light be with you always

    • Yelena says...

      I love this! Happy Hanukkah to you!

    • NM says...

      Love this. Yes, light overcoming darkness, a fight for justice in the face of tyrannical oppression. Does feel apropos, haha. :-)
      Thank you COJ community for chiming in on this!

  49. Hannah says...

    I have a doppelganger! Random people on the street would stop and ask me if I was the “Dunkin Donuts girl” – there is a young woman who works long days at the Dunkin Donuts inside the big grocery store in our town. When my brother and my dad started telling me that she looks just like me, I decided to go check it out for myself. And OMG! Same face, same build, same height, even the same acne scars…..except not much like me now, but like me from 20 years ago! It was so nice to think that my family and people on the street thought I looked like this much younger woman. Of course, she thought that I looked just like her mom, hahaha!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      That’s fascinating!

  50. Em says...

    Did anyone else try the twin site?? I made an account and none of my matches looked anything like me!

  51. Emily says...

    I swear I found my long lost twin brother several years ago. While stopping at a tattoo parlor, I noticed the guy working the counter had similar features to me – fair, blonde, hair, blue eyes, medium height, etc. This alone wouldn’t mean much, but when he took my ID he laughed and pulled out his – same exact birthdays! I’ve never met someone with the exact birthday and year as me. I called my mom when I got home and joked that there must have been something she didn’t tell me!

  52. Megan Lec says...

    A few nights ago my three year old and I were out for a walk just before dinner time. He looked up to me and said, “Their tree is pretty.” I looked around expecting some outdoor decorations but then he pointed to the Christmas tree visible through the window. The rest of the walk we tried to spot our neighbors trees, he especially liked the ones with colorful lights. It was such a small but joyful thing.

    • Katy says...

      Isn’t it amazing how observant three year olds are!?

  53. Rachel says...

    Am I the only one who refreshes trying to get this weekend round-up sooner? It feels like the weekend is officially here when it is uploaded (although I still have to teach one more class ;-)

    • Lorena says...

      I also consider the Friday links to be the start of the weekend. It’s my end of week ritual.

  54. Ella says...

    It would be so nice if you could acknowledge Chanukah somewhere. It’s been weeks of Christmas posts and gift lists and it just feels funny to me that you can’t seem to include your Jewish readership. It comes up so often and every time it just never amounts to anything.

    • Yelena says...

      Yes to this!

    • S says...

      None of the gift guides are specific to Christmas!

    • b says...

      I second this, although I feel like the gift lists are neutral enough to serve any gift giving occasion – they just happen to produce new ones in November/December.

    • Hannah says...

      Chill out, the readership here is diverse and the gift lists aren’t specific to any one religion or culture

    • Lydia says...

      Agreed entirely, Ella. Even though the gift lists are not billed explicitly as Christmas lists, there are casual references to Christmas throughout posts (Joanna and her kids counting Christmas trees etc.) I personally adore Christmas, but I would love to see more inclusivity. Happy Hanukkah to all who celebrate!

    • Lauren says...

      Agreed! I’m not Jewish, but my boyfriend is. I’ve been trying to celebrate Hanukkah with him and his family, and I’ve been so surprised (though I guess I shouldn’t have been) that there is SO little mainstream coverage/presence of the holiday. I’m in Los Angeles and even the Targets on the west side only have a tiny section of Hanukkah candles/products. It’s disappointing.

    • Belle says...

      Does CoJ have to acknowledge every major festival in every religion around the world? What about other belief systems? This type of request is nonsense. You are on a lifestyle blog! If you want religious content, there are plenty of sources.