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Have a Lovely Weekend.

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What are you up to this weekend? We are watching spooky movies to get ready for Halloween and making homemade pizza with dough from the neighborhood pizzeria. Hope you have a good one, and here are a few fun links from around the web…

The trailer for Save Yourselves looks weird/great.

An interview with the wonderful Ina Garten. (And how gorgeous is her garden?)

Can’t stop watching this!

Toby is a leggings EXPERT. He’s tried them all, and these are our favorite, without question. Lots of colors and patterns, soft material, comfortable fit and no scratchy tags. (How cute are these dots?) Bonus: Primary is offering 20% off your whole first order with code COJ.

I let my girlfriend style me for a week.”

How cities can make the most of a pandemic winter.

The neck of this sweater is so good.

The status of the sh*ts women have left to give, hahaha.

This simple pasta looks delicious.

I think we all need this feel-good planner.

Made me laugh.

Plus, two reader comments:

Says Emily on words that should exist in English: “My friend and I have always wished for a word to describe overly annoying errands or chores (e.g., going to the DMV, calling about an incorrect medical bill). We refer to them as farfignugens.”

Says Bee on what do you do when no one’s watching: “I’m an introvert, and I live in a New York City apartment with my husband and toddler. Before COVID, my husband and I would take turns going out with friends. Now, we have a scheduled ‘alone night’ once a week. I get the living room; he gets the bedroom. I usualy make my favorite pasta (Amatriciana with cream), take a bath, watch trash on TV, light a candle, etc. I look forward to it so much and plan my night all week.”

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  1. Deana says...

    I made this with both green and white parts of the scallions and it was good! I turned up the heat – needed to cook the peas and reduce the liquid, then I added the pasta. Also did not use lemon zest, only the juice and lemon pepper.

  2. RM says...

    Alright, I tried the pasta recipe. Here’s what I discovered:
    -why chop up the scallions, separate the white from green, and never use the green? There are green ones in the picture. I kept re-reading the recipe to find out when to add the green. No idea. Did I miss something?
    – juice of 1 lemon works fine.
    -Waiting for the liquid to reduce takes a good 10 minutes. (I was certain that my pasta would be over-cooked/mushy.)
    – Lastly, and most importantly, my family loved it.
    The flavor was hearty, the pasta wasn’t mushy, and I used cheap Kraft Parmesan, non-organic peas, and I never added the green scallions. I’ve added it to our rotation, and I highly recommend it!

  3. B says...

    Years ago, my friend K and I made up a word for a person that you’ve never met but you like solely based on stories you’ve heard about them. We called this being “Helen-ed,” because a nice person I was friends with, whom K had never met but had heard about through me, was named Helen. The opposite was Lucy-ed, for a person neither of us had met but had heard horror stories about. After a few years Helen turned out to be a nut job, at which point K said to me, “Dare I say it? I think Helen’s been Lucy-ed!”

    • CS says...

      Haha! This is hilarious!

  4. Those flowers are breathtaking. If I could redo my wedding, I’d choose pale/ballet pink and shades of dusty rose and coral. I love it!

    • Angela says...

      Blush and Bashful?!?

  5. Natalie Sopic says...

    Sh*$s Left to Give. ???

  6. Huge thanks for sharing my McSweeney’s FAQ! What an honor! :)

  7. Sue says...

    I think you can publish the word “shits” when it’s the title of an article and it’s relevant enough that you’re featuring it.

  8. Sarah K says...

    Regarding winter activities and covid, Norway has been doing this all along. They love their outdoor Christmas markets too.
    Also, it’s socially acceptable to host a kids’ party outside, even in the dead of winter. You usually have a bonfire to roast hot dogs, maybe some sledding activities, and lots of hot drinks. You sit on reindeer or sheepskins for warmth and it feels quite festive.

  9. Karen says...

    Not a real word about a feeling, but a funny word story none-the-less: Back in the day, during my early 30s when life was about seeing friends/going out/imbibing, my group of girlfriends and I were really into a beverage that was half sav blanc / half sparkling water (with ice). We called it “vicevonsherla”, SWEARING that was a “real” drink name. To date, we still call it that but not a single google search over the years has verified that we didn’t make that shXt up (probably while drinking said vicevonsherlas, LOL).

    • Nicki says...

      The actual German word for that drink would be « Weissweinschorle » (which translates as white wine spritzer).

    • Nadja says...

      Well, actually you didn’t make that up… but the spelling is Weißweinschorle (or Weissweinschorle)! That’s German for white wine spritzer.. ;)

    • K says...

      We Germans love to mix things with sparkling water – it‘s called Schorle.

      Mixing with white wine (Weißwein) you get a Weißweinschorle.
      So maybe try googling „Weißweinschorle“ and look at the pronounciation ;)

    • Claudia says...

      Sounds like “Weissweinschorle”, which IS a real drink name in german :)

    • Tess says...

      Weiss wein schorle – all written together is how the Germans call a white wine spritzer. Ws in German are pronounced like Vs in English.

      You and your fun gals may have heard it somewhere and then tried to spell it.
      https://en.langenscheidt.com/german-english/weissweinschorle

    • Tess says...

      Hmm… maybe my comment didn’t go through.

      Weiss wein schorle IS a real thing. This is a German word (written as one long word).
      Weisswein is white wine. Schorle (final e is never silent in German) and it denotes a white wine spritzer. So you and your friends may have heard this sometime and are now trying to spell it in English. :)

      https://en.langenscheidt.com/german-english/weissweinschorle

    • Anni says...

      That is German!!! :)
      Weißweinschorle!
      Weißwein (white wine) with sparkling water!
      Anything mixed with sparkling water is „Schorle“. Apfelschorle (applejuice), Orangenschorle,…

      I live in southern Germany and I guess Schorle ist dialect from here – funny to read that ob CuJ :)

    • Anni says...

      Weißweinschorle!
      It is an actual German word :)

      Schorle ist a word in southern Germany for a mixer with anything plus sparkling water. Also works with applejuice etc!

      Would love to know how that word made its way to you :)

    • Jane says...

      I think you’re looking for the German word Weissweinschorle?

  10. M says...

    Am I the only one who wishes Primary carried adult sizes? Shopping would be so simple then!

    • Celeste says...

      Anything rainbow striped, I would snap up.

    • Elizabeth says...

      You are not the only one.

    • Nora says...

      They do!

    • Emily Laclau says...

      That’s what uniqlo is!

    • Amy says...

      That, and also please please please ship to Canada! My daughter has been wishing for their solid-coloured basics for years and she’s almost aged out of their sizing now :( Also how easy would it make Halloween?! I can’t find a black long sleeve (that’s nice enough to wear afterward too) anywhere.

  11. K says...

    “prejudice against parkas” i did not know this was a thing!

    the hello my baby link reminded me of the old WB frog my brother showed me: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bkjsN-J27aU

    realized that even the words “simple pasta” or “amatriciana with cream” makes me crave pasta again.

    that planner is actually really quite sweet.

    hope everyone is hanging in there and continues to find pockets of heart-swelling moments!

  12. Sally says...

    Just wanted to comment on a post this week and say thank you COJ!

    I got married/eloped in my backyard last weekend and had to do my own hair and makeup because of covid. I’m truly horrible at hair and makeup (not my strong suits!) so it was daunting and I worried it was going to look so bad – but to help, I decided to splurge on a few items COJ has recommended over the years.

    I got the Georgio Armani Luminous Silk foundation, a BeautyBlender sponge, Dior Lash Extension mascara, and the T3 singlepass curling iron. Honestly, they made all of the difference. My hair and makeup looked so professional! I know they’re just beauty products but they were great investments and made me feel beautiful on my big day. Thank you for being genuine in recommendations and being a place I can trust!!

    • Mariana says...

      Congratulations! :)

    • Lisa says...

      Congratulations, Sally!! :) All the best for your future together!

    • Leah Wiseman Fink says...

      this is so sweet. congrats, sally!

    • Amy says...

      awwww :) congrats, and also, i can relate so hard to the lack of skills in those areas.

    • Lauren says...

      What an endorsement for CoJ and those products!

      I hardly ever wear makeup these days (TIL – Zoom has a preset filter on it to make our skin look better!) but after reading your comment I feel like treating myself to some Armani foundation for the special occasions when I really want to step it up

    • Daniela says...

      Congratulations! Cup of Jo helped me choose my wedding dress, we need a Cup of Jo readers post for weddings influenced by this blog :)

  13. Kelly says...

    I want to love the Primary leggings (I love everything else they make!) but they’re just way too tight for my 4 year old, even when we size up. Do you have to be super skinny for these to work?

    • Emily Laclau says...

      Yes, apparently you do. we have the same problem with fit, and honestly, they don’t last any longer than target $5 ones. The shirts are better quality though and last more than one season.

    • Sara says...

      Same here. The waistband is too thick and strong. My girls (4 and 6) refuse to wear them – similar issue with the pajamas. Love their dresses, though!

      Also, If anyone has any suggestions for kid clothes for a young girl with an ample bootie, I would love to hear it. My 4 year old is height/weight proportionate, but is tall. She still has little kid pudge, but is in big kid clothes – which are made for long and thin kiddos. It’s so hard to find things that fit her well!

  14. jane says...

    Cannot wait to see that movie. Looks summery and fun. Also. Seeing the lead actress Sunita Mani as lead in a US movie was actually and literally physically a-breath-of-fresh-air. The feeling of relief of seeing ANYONE quirky and different from the hollywood standard is just a freaking, amazingly, refreshing feeling. Finally.

    • jane says...

      But I will wait for it to stream because I think it is nuts to go to a theater just as flu season is about to kick in. Why theaters are open for business is baffling. They should all set up streaming options like my local indie playhouse.

    • Elisabeth says...

      Wait, movie theaters are OPEN in some places? I’m in Los Angeles and can’t fathom this. May I ask where you’re located?

  15. This is truly my favorite place to come to for when I want some comfort in the form of content. Also, spending the weekend brainstorming Halloween costumes + activities with my daughter while trying to manage her expectations lol…

  16. Jamie says...

    We had a coffee table book growing up called “Sniglets” words that aren’t in the dictionary but should be!

  17. Hannah says...

    The word “fahrvergnuegen” (pronounced farfignugen) was in the VW commercials of my childhood! Fahr means driving and vernuegen means pleasure – so it’s kind of like taking a lot of pleasure in the mundane activities of the day, and I loved how Emily and her friend have been using it!

    • Megan says...

      THANK YOU I have been wracking my brain as to how I knew that word!! Ha, loved those commercials and that word when I was a kid!

    • Tess says...

      I was just going to say the same… here it one of the commercials. There was another one in German where the woman would say Fahrvergnügen like she was climaxing… so exhilarating was driving that VW!

      This one is not as funny, but it was totally a thing- Target even had it on a t-shirt a couple of years ago!
      https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CESVgaeD-nI&ab_channel=Goosio999

  18. liz says...

    I just did a quick mental skim of my romance history and I don’t think I have tender feelings for a single one of my former loves. lol Is that weird?

    • Mar says...

      I thought exactly the same ??‍♀️…. haha

  19. Daniela says...

    One of my favorite lazy meals to make for myself is a similar pasta. I just cook up pasta then mix in in butter, peas, parmesan, lemkn juice, flaky salt, and freshly ground black pepper.

    • Daniela says...

      Okay clearly I shouldn’t be writing while multitasking at work, please ignore my typos!

  20. jdp says...

    i realize this comment is on the wrong post, but i have to credit some smart friends in college who came up with the word “fontrom” to describe the feeling of embarrassment you get for someone else. like when you see someone mess up a speech, or fall on the ice during a skating performance, or whenever you experience so much empa-sympathy for someone else’s unfortunate moment that you want to hide. it’s like the opposite of schadenfreude. it’s a word i’ve used now for more than 20 years.

    • Ashley says...

      I’ve always called that “second-hand embarrassment.” I love that someone else has considered that feeling enough to create a word for it!

    • Hanna says...

      We actually have a German word for that as well! It’s called Fremdschämen – when you feel embarrassed and cringy (and really sorry for!) someone who is going through something really embarrassing.

    • jdp says...

      i wonder if “fontrom” is somehow derived from fremdschamen! (which sounds appropriately like “friend shamed!”). love it.

    • Andrea says...

      Who knew I had such a bad case of Fremdschamen!?! It gives me such mental terror that I can’t watch politicians speak. I always have to read about it later.

    • courtney says...

      Hanna – of course Germans have a word for this! Haha. The German language seems to be so good at having all of the nuanced feeling words.

    • Sarah says...

      I feel this SO INTENSELY! I can’t enjoy anything awkward or embarrassing. Just thinking of the Scott’s Tots episode of The Office makes me lightheaded. I can’t watch any of the Meet the Parents movies because the embarrassing moments overwhelm me. I’m so glad there is a German word for it!!!

    • Bunkster says...

      I can’t watch The Office or other similar shows because I don’t find them funny. I just think they’re cringey. It’s how I react to the movie Bridesmaids, too.

  21. Em says...

    Loved the Kottke article, I think it’s important to start planning for how we can survive this upcoming winter. I’ve been thinking about it for myself, it feels daunting to be even *more* stuck inside the house than we are now, so I’m brainstorming little things I can do to improve that.

    I already bought new, cozy house clothes. (Two pairs of sweatpants doesn’t cut it when I’m wearing sweatpants 7 days per week. Allow me to recommend LLBean lounge clothes and Uniqlo pile-lined sweatpants!) My SAD sun lamp is dusted off and ready to go and I’ll commit to using it every morning. I also am planning to invest in a new raincoat that’s warm and feels cozy, so I’m more likely to continue daily walks outside even in a drizzle. Last night I lit some candles and did a Zoom restorative yoga class and I think that will become a weekly tradition, felt very hygge :)

    • Caroline says...

      Thank you for these lovely ideas, Em! I’m nervous about the winter but your comment made me feel more in control.

      COJ team – it would be neat to have a post on how others are preparing to make the most of this most unusual of winters.
      xoxo

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      Great idea ,Caroline!

    • Emily B says...

      I would love reader recommendations on cozy and warm raincoats. My current raincoat feels cold and clammy when I wear it.

  22. Julie says...

    Felt like leaving a comment of gratitude on this week’s Friday roundup! While much of regular life has gone belly-up this year, I’m so thankful for Cup of Jo for continuing to be a homey place to count on and visit. Thank you, you guys. <3

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      That means so much to me, Julie! Thank you for your kind words.

    • Rachel says...

      I 200% agree!
      I actually save looking at Cup of Jo for a time in my day when I know I won’t be interrupted (working mom, virtual schooling ADHD 2nd grader & 4 year old) because it brightens my day so! Thank you very much for all that each of you do- it so especially appreciated during these trying times! You are loved & appreciated!

  23. Tania says...

    I love that Toby loves leggings. My 5-year old son won’t wear any other pants, and I think it’s a bit strange to some people (I confess that I was one of those people at first). Long live leggings!

    • Court says...

      My son won’t wear pants AT ALL. #shortsforlife Thank goodness we live in Texas where we can heavily rely on warm weather year round.

    • Kelly says...

      My 4 yr old daughter is the same! We received a bag of lovely hand me downs that included jeans and corduroy pants that looked great for fall/winter and she looked at it like a bag of dirt. She combed through, found one pair of leggings, and left the rest for donation.
      In addition to Primary, she likes the Hanna Andersson leggings too. I have found those to last a bit longer (size-wise and quality), but both still great.

  24. joy says...

    Razbliuto is not actually a word in Russian. There is a verb, razlyubit, meaning to fall out of love, but razbliuto just doesn’t exist.

  25. Harmony says...

    Primary is basically the ONLY source for boys leggings. We love them!

    • Claire says...

      Do boys actually wear leggings?

    • Christina says...

      Yes Claire, why not? Soft comfortable pants, especially for skinnier boys, since sweatpants meant for boys often are huge. My sons can’t wear sweatpants since they fall off (yes, really!) unless they’re several sizes too small and then they’re too short…

    • Sasha L says...

      I was thinking maybe Claire wondered because boys have such great alternatives to leggings, whereas girls have dresses and jeans.

      I notice the little boys I care for have joggers (super soft, with pockets, warm), cargo pants (usually with elastic waist, again, all the pockets), sweats, usually with pockets. And all of the above often have reinforced knees and are more sturdy than girls’ leggings – which are so thin and flimsy and not durable, and no pockets. Ever.

      When my girls were little they often wore overalls, comfy+ pockets + durable and fit for a long time and can be passed on. They liked leggings too, if it wasn’t cold, but they’d never make it past one season. Outdoor play just destroys them.

  26. Bre says...

    Bee is a genius! Thanks for sharing such a great idea!