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Have a Good Weekend.

I heart New York

What are you up to this weekend? We’re holding our city close on September 11th, especially during this difficult year. “So many times, New York has really been on the verge of destruction, says Louise Mirrer, the president of the New-York Historical Society. “It’s remarkable to see the city’s resiliency over time.” We’re also baking Toby’s famous cookies and getting the boys set up for school, which starts next week. Hope you have a safe one, and here are a few links from around the web…

How to help the victims of the west coast fires. Sending so much love.

Frog and Toad are quarantine friends.

Now that’s a cute wedding dress!

Hahaha.

“I tried every frozen pizza at Trader Joe’s — these are the very best ones.”

My new favorite Instagrammer.

Tennis champion Naomi Osaka’s masks.

Makes me want a dog. (Anton has been begging.)

5 great Ikea pieces for any home.

Ooh, a delicious dinner salad.

This headline.

Plus, two reader comments:

Says Kelly on let’s find this reader a wedding dress: “I had a simple, intimate wedding this summer and LOVED wearing this long-sleeved backless silk dress. I think it looked even better IRL than on the website, and it was affordable! Here are my wedding photos.”

Says Alexis on let’s find this reader a wedding dress: “We had so much fun with City Hall! Highly recommend going for your wildest dreams – I wore white jeans, velvet heels, a peachy blouse underneath a white cape, my mom’s burgundy silk scarf, and a vintage fur from the flea market. [Here’s a photo.]”

And I loved every comment on this post and wishlisted so many books! Thank you so much for being here and for being so wonderful. xoxo

(Photo via Bunny Williams Inc./Instagram.)

  1. Rachel Trimble says...

    Now is the perfect time- get the dog.

  2. Mina says...

    When I was a teenager, we had a cairn terrier name Nico who was obsessed with tennis balls. He hardly ever came home from a walk without one (and had a long-running feud with the tennis coach at the community centre). My dad ended up making two huge pieces of artwork – basically big white square “paintings” with like 36 tennis balls on each, in perfect neat rows of 6 – that he put up in our stairwell. Nico was always so proud of that tennis ball “art”.

  3. Cathy says...

    Just a caution on Trader Joe’s products for vegetarians. I still eat dairy because I have some bone loss and really need food sources of calcium in addition to supplements. I’ve found that many Trader Joe’s items, including the pizza and fresh ravioli, have cheese made with rennet and some of their yogurt has bovine gelatin. I have to make sure to read all of the ingredients before I buy anything with dairy. Most cheese is made with vegetable enzymes so it’s not hard to find.

    • Rocky says...

      I agree with you. Being green means getting rid of the unnecessary. Owning a pet is more a whim than anything else except for certain cases.

  4. Absolutely love your weekly links!! There are some real gems in this weeks post, thank you so much for sharing!

  5. E says...

    No one ever discusses this, but pets are hugely detrimental to the environment. From the horrific carbon footprint of pet food production from CAFO animals, to the number of songbirds and other animals slaughtered by “outdoor cats,” to the incessant noise pollution they create, to the tons and tons of solid waste and methane produced – there is simply no environmentally-friendly way to justify owning a pet.

    • Carol Y Yu says...

      E, you make dogs sound like yelling, murdering, fart machines. (Gave me a good laugh really!)
      Unless you’re keeping a carnivorous singing cow, I’ll have to disagree…

      30 years of dog ownership – sure the occasional howl and sweetest toots, but nobody has been slaughtered, and there are certainly ethical brands of pet food, proper ways to get rid of waste. Also – adopting a pet means providing a home for an Earth’s creature who is already here.

    • Jodi says...

      E, with that sort of perspective how can we justify living as humans, let alone owning pets?

  6. E says...

    Hi Joanna,
    I greatly appreciate all the posts you have done over the years surrounding grief and I was wondering if you would consider doing one on the grief that comes from suicide, particularly as September is Suicide Awareness Month. This is a topic close to my heart and one that gives September 11 a different meaning for me – on September 11, 2017 a close family friend died of suicide and none of us ever saw it coming. He did not seem regularly depressed, he had a wonderful support group of family and friends, he was outgoing and kind and I considered him more family than friend. I was overwhelmed by grief and didn’t know how to handle it or have “normal” conversations with people. I also felt guilty because it seemed like perhaps I wasn’t close enough to him to grieve in this way. It took 6 months for me to be able to say the word “suicide” and a full year before I began to feel “normal” again.

    While I know others who have lost loved ones to suicide, it’s not something that is regularly discussed and feels awkward to bring up. But once I did, I found that many many people had also been affected by this.

    I’d love to see a discussion of resources for those who may need support, from whatever side they are on.

    • Connor says...

      Hi E –

      I’m so sorry for the loss of your dear friend. I don’t think grief has any rules and being overwhelmed with grief for him is okay. Thank you for bringing up the topic and I second your idea that a discussion/resources would be helpful.

    • Michelle says...

      Hi E,
      Death by suicide brings up many complex emotions. I also had a college friend who died by suicide and the feelings I had were very complex, as I too felt I wasn’t close enough to the person to grieve in this way. Sending love to all of those who know someone who has died by suicide. It’s a very difficult thing to navigate. Xo!

  7. A says...

    I always look forward to checking in on cup of jo. Thank you for being here – through marriage & kids & now all of this.
    If you could put together some favorite clothing picks for fall and how to put together easy/comfy/put together looks, I could use it! Feeling a bit frumpy. I’ve seen moms who look so effortlessly put together and I could use a lesson in how they do it!
    Thank you!

    • CS says...

      I second this! :)

  8. Sarah says...

    Oh my god, KELLY! Thank you for sharing your dress and photos––the happiest, most gorgeous photos I’ve seen all week. Weird that I want to be your friend based solely on your wedding aesthetic?

    • Anne St.Jean says...

      same here!! she looks incredible and also short, and I am always here for short girl inspiration. also jealous because I had a tiny covid wedding and wasn’t able to have a photographer to capture the day.

  9. CS says...

    It is so sweet that people are so pro-dog. I love animals and have had pets throughout different periods of my life. But! Please, everyone reading these comments, before you run out and get a dog, please consider:

    1) Dogs are potentially dangerous. When I was a kid, I was attacked viciously by our family dog. She bit me hard, and could have done a lot more harm had help not been nearby. While I still enjoy dogs (even though I was quite traumatized and was injured – still have a scar 40 years later), I think people need to be aware that dogs can be potentially dangerous. I cringe when I see pictures of babies playing with the dog’s food. Dogs are still animals, and can react jealously or irrationally, even when if they are usually cute and nice.

    2) Remember that a dog is basically like having another toddler that never grows up. They depend on you so much. When we all get busy with going back to work (physically), will the poor dog wind up by itself for hours at a time? Hopefully not, because this is really unfair to the animal, and I have seen it happen to well-meaning dog owners. They get a dog and then it winds up by itself a huge portion of the day, which is horrible for the dog because they are pack animals and need to be around their people all the time. The dog then begins to act out and exhibits problem behaviours.

    3) Also, if you have other interests, keep in mind that the dog will take much of your time and energy.

    I am not saying not to get a dog, but I am weary of telling people that they should! It is a huge commitment, and each person has to make that decision based on their own needs and personality.

    Sorry to play the devil’s advocate on this one, but it’s important to be real when talking about accepting responsibility for another living being.

    Joanna… Having said that, if you do decide to get a dog, I am sure it would be the luckiest pup ever!

  10. Kelly Varian says...

    Awe, thanks Lea. So sweet :)

  11. Audrey says...

    Alexis, you are simply glowing in your wedding photos. Glowing!! Thank you for sharing with us all. The heels are my favorite part — I think I need to find me a pair of velvet heels with a marabou trim, those are AMAZING!

    Kelly: I’m eloping this year, and we’ve been searching for the right place to host a celebration next year in honor of our marriage. Thank you for sharing your photos so I could learn about Slide Ranch; I just reached out to them because they look like they could be the perfect venue for us (and I’m from the East Bay so Mt. Tam was one of my favorite places to hike growing up!). You looked so joyous on your wedding day, too!

  12. Kate says...

    Great roundup, as always. I so look forward to these (and really, every) post.

    Everyone should make their own decisions, but I just wanted to say I’ve stopped shopping at Trader Joe’s because they went back on their promise to change the names of the products with ethnic names. TBH, I have questioned whether those names are truly offensive, but then I have to remember that they clearly are offensive to some people, as the young teen who created the initial petition that requested a name change felt, and the more than 5,000 people who signed it must feel as well. And to remember that impact > intent, so even though TJ’s means no offense, that’s not the effect they’re having.

    This is just a small thing when there’s many more tangible ways to support and make change for racial justice, and is clearly very low on the list of important stands to take. But I just thought others might want to know, because it got buried in the headlines.

  13. M. Holloway says...

    I’m not recommending pandemic life by any stretch of the imagination, but the photos of the pandemic weddings cut straight to my emotions unlike any massive 500 person wedding ever has. Something about distilling life’s biggest moments to their essence makes these moments so much more poignant and stirring for me.

  14. Kathryn says...

    Dogs! Rock!
    I know I used to worry about being able to take them on enough walks, etc. But think about this– you could provide some income for someone who NEEDS it during this season if you ever need some help taking care of your dog while you’re out!

    Dogs just add so much to a home, and kids learn so much from them! (So do adults!) They rock.

  15. Sarah says...

    Oh, how I love the CoJ community. You’re all so witty, wise, interesting and creative. I wish we could all meet up and drink cappuccinos. Much love from Australia.

  16. Michelle says...

    Joanna,
    Please just foster a dog first! Toby can handle it, I promise, and the shelter will appreciate you testing the waters before taking on the full responsibility.
    I grew up in a house without dogs and always wanted one, as did my husband. We adopted one when we married and for the first year we really loved being dog owners (we had plenty of time before we had kids). 11 Years later we still have her and love her, and she is in perfect health but… I find that I think of her as a complete burden and don’t enjoy have her :(
    I HATE having dog hair in my house, and it is there no matter how much I vacuum. Our kids do love her, but like most kids, they will only really walk/feed/exercise her if asked first. Most dogs (even our small one) really need to be walked for 30-45 minutes at least, twice a day. I would be wary of any dog owner who says “Just get one!” A responsible dog-lover will tell you it’s right for them, but it requires a lot of work. It’s a huge undertaking to do it the right way, and it’s definitely not for everyone. I feel like this is an emperor’s new clothes situation sometimes, because I know multiple people who dislike owning their dog, but post tons of pictures and only admitted to me that they don’t actually like having a dog after I confessed to them, ha. Maybe it also has to do with how much domestic help you have? If you have a cleaner and dog-walker, it’s probably not a lot of work.
    People treat you like you’re a serial killer if you say you don’t like owning a dog, so us regret-our-dog people are a quiet group. If you are wary of fostering, ask a friend if you and Toby can take their dog for walks twice a day (everyday), brush it 3 times a week, etc. for a month. Factor in the cost of a pet-sitter or boarding ($30-70 a night) for any family getaways you might make, plus the cost of vet bills. Consider that at least one of you will need to be at home or back home at particular times twice a day. At the end of the month you might be relieved or you might be sad, and that will give you a better idea. You can love dogs but not love owning one, and that’s okay!

    • JoJo says...

      I really appreciate this comment. We also have and love our dog and I don’t regret him, but I don’t like (or think it is responsible) when people say to just get one. What will you do if you want to go to England for one or two weeks? Some dogs will do great in a kennel, others, like ours, will have severe anxiety and I don’t like the thought of torturing him like that. A dog is a family member just like a human and is a lot of responsibility. The advice to foster is also great because you can experience for yourself what it will be like!

    • Shelley says...

      Couldn’t agree more! We have two cats that we got pre-marriage and babies. I still love my cats of course but they are very high maintenance. My girl cat requires medicine three times daily (6am, 2pm, 10pm) for epilepsy and my male cat requires daily medicine for his gallbladder. Along with long cat fur everywhere and trying our best to make sure they are happy, healthy, and played with. I would personally think very hard before ever having another pet. It is hard to get people to watch them due to their medical needs. Of course when you say this people treat you like you have no heart. I have a big heart for my fur babies but going into it I was naive and thought loving animals was all that mattered…I could have never guessed they would have such extensive medical needs. Everyone says “cats are easy! You can just leave them for a weekend trip!” Nope nope nope haha not my cats! Just remember no one ever says dogs are easy…they are very much like a two year old.

    • AB says...

      I appreciate you for sharing this honest take about your experience! :) I grew up in a home with three cats and two dogs. Couldn’t imagine life any other way. That is, until I realized my mother shouldered 100% of the burden. Today, married and 33, I still adore animals but don’t feel ready for one myself.

    • Emily R says...

      Thanks for telling your experience from the other side. I like my friend’s dogs, but I would never get one, and that is okay too!

    • Emily L says...

      Shelley – I appreciate your comments about cats! Even before our cat got older and required specific food and then meds twice a day she still needed regular interaction. She is incredibly friendly and curious and would not handle being left alone for several days alone very well. It drives me nuts when people say you can just leave a cat while you are gone. Maybe some cats, but definitely not all!

  17. Rusty says...

    Joanna…GET THE SCRUFFY DAWG!!!
    Have you seen the two new additions to the Emily and Brian Henderson Tribe??
    Rescues and your heart will melt when you see them!
    The boys are the perfect age and the shelter should match you with your furkid family member.
    I take my Rosie for a walk every day so she can “read the postcards” and it’s such a bonding, wonderful time.
    Yes, even on the odd occasion she loses it and banshee screams at some big hairy git that looks too scary to comprehend!
    The neighborhood knows her and she is loved snd adored by many.
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    • Caitlin says...

      Omg is this the same Rusty that comments on StylebyEmilyHenderson posts?! I love your comments!!

    • Sarah says...

      It has to be, right?? What a cross over!!!

  18. Alexis says...

    Thank you, everyone! Your words are so kind – I was in month 3 of chemo for breast cancer and just a few months out from a double mastectomy when we got married at City Hall so putting that outfit together was a great creative outlet!

    Also, do self-breast exams, please xx

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      thank you so much, Alexis xoxoxoxo

    • Karin says...

      You truly did look absolutely stunning Alexis and what a great, super stylish outfit. I didn’t know your story until now but all I saw was a beautiful young couple who looked so in love. Wishing you a lifetime of love and fun and ever lasting health and happiness xxx

  19. Kelley says...

    We made Toby’s cookies last night and they are awesome!!! So good I snuck 1 (maybe 2) as the kids ate breakfast this morning.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      haha we had them for breakfast today, too!

    • Katie says...

      I’m making them tonight to bring to a friend tomorrow! Hope we don’t eat them all first!

  20. Eleanor Frances says...

    Get a dog!!!!!!!!

  21. Phoebe says...

    Kelly’s wedding looks like an absolute dream! What an elegant dress. xx

  22. Jill says...

    Alexis…DROP THE MIC! You win at the wedding game. Plus velvet tux… just WOW! I keep looking at the picture of you and just realized that there are two more pics… I’m obviously new to Instagram. haha

    • Alexis says...

      jajaja! Thank you!!! We have a bunch with the hashtag #rugintero – we took pics at Augustine (so sad it is closing due to the pandemic) and it was a lot of fun to go with that vibe! When you start looking at wedding dresses they all feel so cookie-cutter so quickly – life is too short for that!

  23. Agnès says...

    Now I am thinking of getting a dog! I’ve always been a cat person, but I think my son (who is 6), would be so thrilled. A dof during lockdown would have made him happier for sure.
    These links were really nice, I laughed so much with the instagram account, and loved the wedding comments. Thank you so much, have a peaceful week-end every one, we’re thinking of you with much solidarity, from Paris.

  24. Adrienne Rae says...

    Thank you for including info on our West Coast Fires. I live in Ashland, Oregon and our town suffered loss but even moreso were Talent and Phoenix, OR, just 2 and 5 miles away, and it’s not over. I know they’ll also appreciate your attention and EVERYONE VOTING!

  25. M says...

    Today my 10-year-old remarked, “Just imagine how much worse this pandemic would be if we didn’t have our pups!” (We’ve got two crazy-wonderful Australian Shepherds.) If you can swing it at all? Get Anton his pup. You’ll not believe the joy it will bring your family.

  26. Sarah says...

    Ooh, you linked to Shavonda Gardner’s blog- highly recommend following her on Instagram too! She has a really engaging and down to earth attitude, and her design work is AMAZING.

    • Sara says...

      Yes! Looooove Shavonda! Came for her gorgeous design aesthetic but have stayed for the wonderful community she has built. A must follow!

  27. Caitlin says...

    Feeling grateful today for the simple pleasure of coming to this website, seeing the links, reading the comments. Thanks CoJ team!

  28. Capucine says...

    At least there is still Cup of Jo Fridays to look forward to!

    (Hi from one of the places in flames in California. August feels like a hundred years ago.)

  29. Anna says...

    Hello from smoky California. Thanks for refreshing your link to wildfire assistance. The one from 2 weeks ago was a link to the 2018 fires in Ventura and outdated. Red Cross is one of the best bets for donations from afar. Amazing organization and volunteers working 24/7 to evacuate, feed, house people affected in any way.

  30. Annabelle says...

    Get the dog!! We also live in Brooklyn and gave in to my five year old daughter’s begging because why the F not — we ALL needed some more joy in our lives right now. Neither my husband nor I have ever had a dog before but it has absolutely been the right choice. The last two months she has been so much happier and less anxious with this (sweet, calm, just about perfect) rescue pup in our lives. We ended up working with The Sato Project and couldn’t recommend them enough. Get the dog.

    • Sof says...

      I’ve had 2 Sato’s in my life and they were the sweetest little things ever. I love seeing all the work the Sato Project does on their Instagram- makes me want all the dogs!

  31. Charlotte says...

    I adopted my dog within a week of getting my first place when I was 20. Everyone at the time thought it was crazy, because it WAS crazy. College was busy, roommates, work, shitty landlords and weird schedules. To then add in a dog that I was wholly responsible for was completely naïve. I genuinely had no idea how much work it would entail.

    That was ten years ago. She just had her check up this week and the vet was thrilled about how healthy she is, I think “obviously well loved and cared for” were his exact words. It made my heart burst. It feels so good to hear someone else acknowledge what I know in my heart to be true: that despite a decade of breakups, late night parties, cross country moves and everything else that comes in your twenties, I have always taken the utmost care of my girl. She’s taught me responsibility and given me stable, genuine comfort throughout all of the tribulations of young life. At 30, there is honestly no one else in this world I’ve spent more miles walking beside. I brace myself knowing that one day (hopefully many years down the road!) we’ll have to part. But even that—being grateful for every day, is just another thing she’s taught me. It’s really the most cliche thing, but dogs are just the best.

  32. I adopted a rescue puppy and he is the light of my life. I enjoy his adulthood even more than I enjoyed his puppyhood— but it has all been wonderful!

  33. Mary says...

    Joanna, have you considered fostering a dog? I started fostering about a year ago and have learned so much about myself and dog psychology. It’s a good way to test the realities of owning a dog without the commitment. If you do happen to fall in love, fosters usually get first dibs at adoption! I haven’t adopted any dogs yet due to financial reasons, but I’m learning about different breeds in the meantime.

    • I was coming to say the same thing! I’ve volunteered at a dog shelter for four years and fostering is the perfect way to start. Remember that you’re giving a dog a wonderful staycation and helping socialize it around children, which is so helpful.

  34. Get a dog!!! I was anti-pets for the longest time but I’ve had the best time with the goodest rescue girl since we got her… you and the boys will have so much fun!!! It truly makes a difference in the happiness of a home — dogs are just the best, they add so much joy and love. Never had a dog before and 2 years in I never wanna be without them!!!

  35. Annie Bigwood says...

    Ahhh I know Kelly & Keith, they are the best couple! So fun to stumble upon their wedding photos via Cup of Jo!

    (Kelly, if you see this, it’s Annie Bigwood! Congratulations to you two – I want to see the Maine photos, too!)

    • Lea says...

      Love this comment!

    • Kelly Varian says...

      Annie?! Oh, my goodness! How sweet to reconnect on Cup of Jo! Your note made my week. I hope you’re well! Keith and I are going to get your number from Flo and send you photos from our floating Maine social distance wedding too. I wore the same dress :) Hope to see you again one day soon! xoxo K

  36. Kari says...

    Alexis your wedding outfit!! I’m dead. It’s the outfit of my dreams. You look absolutely divine!

    • Alexis says...

      Thank you!! It took a long time of perusing all of the internet for inspiration! It was a bit Bianca Jagger at City Hall after I realized that Jenna Lyons in a feather skirt was not monetarily viable! Luckily this all came together pretty cheaply!

  37. Amelia says...

    Thank you so much for linking to a resource that makes explicit that what is happening on the west coast is climate change. Direct aid is great and is needed but to really help we need to take urgent, sustained, and LOUD action to tell people power they need to act NOW (Green New Deal!!!) on climate change. If not, within the next decade this level of catastrophe will become the new normal for our entire country and humanity as a whole. Check out How to Save a Planet podcast and Sunrise Movement for other ways to start.

    • Mims says...

      Agree 100% Amelia! I have been worried about climate change for at least 25 years, and worried it might be too late already, we have reached a tipping point and the positive feedback loops in play with melting permafrost releasing methane (more potent greenhouse gas than CO2), vanishing polar ice caps (And their sun reflecting albedo qualities) and now devastating wildfires turning forests into deserts will only accelerate things. We need to ACT NOW! Smaller families, eat vegan, limit air travel, spend money on super-insulating your home instead of that fancy new bathroom remodel. This is the magnitude of changes we need to see, bringing your cloth bag to the grocery store and eating meatless Mondays is not enough. Why cannot Elon Musk spend his money improving Earth? I don’t want to go to the moon or space….These efforts ignore we are turning our beautiful planet into a moonscape. Feeling like nuclear winter here ….the sky thick with smoke and casting an eery brownish yellow glow everwhere.

    • Riley says...

      Mims, while these changes you suggest are great, they are nowhere near the magnitude of change we need to see. Focusing on individual impact only distracts from the reality that corporations and governments are responsible for the VAST majority of carbon emissions and that policy is the path toward change. There are lots of little things we can all do, but don’t be fooled into thinking that our individual action is the answer to climate change.

    • Mims says...

      I respectfully disagree Riley. Corporations are big polluters because they are responding to the demand for their products (albeit they create alot of that demand via advertising) by the people who consume those products: US! If everyone suddenly used half the energy they use now to heat and cool their homes, the utilities would not need to generate so much electricity, produce natural gas. If everyone ate dramatically fewer animal products the huge CAFO feed lots would go out of business and those nitorgen polluting operations (And the corn and soy industry that support them) could be converted to tree farms, or pasture raised operations, etc. Not to mention people would likely be healthier and require less medical interventions. Corporations and governments are not polluting because they think it is a great idea, they are doing it provide goods and services for us, the folks who demand them. We do need to demand better government oversight for Corporate Average Fuel Economy (CAFE), for public transportation, for smart building, for more ecological managment of our forests; but at the same time we need to look at ourselves as part of the problem…..we simply cannot expect to have the same (or better) standard of living as the boomers with so many more people on the finite planet now. Becoming vegan, making your home modest sized and super energy efficient, stopping all air travel, limiting your family size, if done collectively by everyone would have a huge impact by decreasing energy demand. By waiting for the politicians and corporations to make changes you dodge personal responsibility.

  38. Hope says...

    Classic Joanna, been about to get a dog for 11 years bahaha <3<3<3 love you

  39. Macauley says...

    Rooting so hard for Anton to get his dog. There’s a great rescue society in NYC called Muddy Paws you might consider. You could even dip your toe in the dog world by fostering first? https://www.muddypawsrescue.org/

    • christi says...

      I know I don’t know Anton, but I feel his heart would not be able to cope if he had to give up his dog after fostering.

  40. Rachel L Rodriguez says...

    Please get a dog. It is like inviting a new member to the family that you can’t ever be truly mad at.

  41. A says...

    Yes to Lily Allen’s wedding dress! I came straight here to add it to your post from during the week but then I saw you had spotted it already!

    • Rae says...

      Right? That dress is so cute and so perfect for her!

  42. Lea says...

    Alexis – So much incredible character shining through your photos, you guys look so happy!

    • Alexis says...

      Thank you so much, Lea – I was in the midst of undergoing chemo and the fact that you would pick up on that from a single foto means so much. In the midst of so much pain & fear we did manage to have a joyous day – City Hall is really great for that. There is nothing extraneous (catering, flowers, music, etc.) to worry about and you are in a pretty building surrounded by strangers celebrating love!

  43. Lea says...

    Kelly – I completely teared up at your photos. I know you’re a stranger but I’m so happy for you!

    • Same here! The love in those photos is so beautiful.

  44. Kate says...

    We get more comments on our Hemnes shoe cabinet than anything in our house or yard or lives aside from our cute dog. We have the shorter version and it takes up virtually no space yet holds so many things!

  45. Amy says...

    Joanna, for what it’s worth, I BEGGED my father to let me get a dog my entire childhood. I’d sneak notes onto his dresser promising to pick up the poop. He finally gave in when I was in high school when he found a stray, and let our family keep the dog. It was so fun and the dog was my dream come true, even though he passed away a few short years later. My dad later confessed that not getting me a dog earlier was a major regret he had! It is amazing how much joy and life a pet can bring into a household. Highly recommend!

  46. Emily says...

    I wish the news would cover more that the wildfires are the entire west coast. In less than a week Oregon has had a dozen fires pop up and over 500,000 people have been evacuated, which is 1/8 the entire population of our state.
    Thankfully my home is in a safe spot. We are hunkering down because you can’t go outside with all the smoke & trying to take in family/friends who are not so lucky and have had to evacuate.

    • Vava says...

      I totally agree. I don’t think the news media is showing the world how horrible things are right now in Oregon. I’m in Eugene, where are you? For the time being, our home is safe, but so many people are in dire straits. And Trump certainly took his sweet time signing the disaster relief. He’s such a loathsome creature.

  47. Jennie says...

    Alexis your look gives me goosebumps; the styling is so spot on and you are so beautiful! You look like the lead in an Martin Scorsese move like Casino and I mean that IN THE BEST WAY.

    • Alexis says...

      Jennie!! You are so kind! I’ll take the compliment gladly! <3 Thank you!

  48. serena says...

    omg I’ve been watching monty don’s gardener’s world thanks to a comment here and his golden retriever is just the most stunning dog – so fit and silky and constantly gazing up adoringly.

  49. katie says...

    The wedding links you posted today are lovely. It is incredibly sweet for the readers to share. They are making the best out of a shitty situation. If nothing else, it reminds you of what’s truly important and life must continue. I wish them a lifetime of happiness.

    I’m probably still on a high after finding out a good friend “eloped” in her neighbors yard over the weekend on the same day they planned (and then or course canceled) their bigger affair. She sent over a slideshow and I was in tears over the joy I felt for them. Their parents, officiant and a photographer attended.

    • SG says...

      I’ll go ahead and fifth this comment re: puppies vs. older dogs. If you do get a dog I would just encourage you to do a lot of research beforehand on what kind of breed will work best with your family. I impulsively decided that we needed a puppy this winter (February! It wasn’t even a covid thing). I had visions of a really fat, fluffy puppy cuddling up with me to watch tv. Well, we told the kids about a possible puppy and then it was Game On. ; ) BUT, we rushed into it. We went to an adoption Saturday and found a really sweet pup and adopted him immediately. Now, he is a 60 lb, very lean, pit bull/shepherd/retriever mix that must walk/run 6 – 8 miles a day (exact opposite of what I was envisioning – ha!). Even with that he is pretty wild. Constantly sparring with our older lab, etc. We love him to death but it has made an intense year much more intense. I’m not trying to be a party pooper, but please just be more sensible than we were!! : ) It’s such a huge commitment. We will have him with us after our kids go to college. Good luck whichever way you go!!!

  50. Amy says...

    Anton wants a dog! I’m hopeful for dog pictures sometime fairly soon.

    And I’ll go ahead and post: Consider adopting an adult dog. Too many people get hung up on the idea of “little kids should have puppies,” when often puppies require more discipline and patience than most small children can muster. However, virtually any shelter in the country will have adult dogs that are already socialized to living in houses with humans, who need homes just as much, and who have just as much love to give. IMO, puppies are better left to experienced dog owners, or at least older teens and adults who have matured enough to really handle the greater responsibility.

    I may be prejudiced, as I have adopted two adult dogs (one a senior), each of whom has brought me endless love and joy.

    • Amy says...

      From one Amy to another, I can’t agree with this more! My first dog was a senior stray, and the absolute best addition to my family. I got my first puppy when I was in college, and definitely underestimated the work involved.

    • Tricia says...

      We adopted two senior dogs, three years ago. We knew they would not be with us for years and years, but we also knew that we could make these two “pups” as happy as can be, in the years they had left! Plus: they were fully trained! Such a win for us. Blind Teddy (we named him that because…) died peacefully at home with us last summer. Lucy German Shepherd is still with us, and we adore her.

      Consider adopting senior pets, people.

    • LS says...

      Seconded!! I’ve adopted (and fallen in love with) two older dogs. Both came housebroken and much better trained than I could have done on my own.

    • cherry says...

      100% agreed!! puppies are a lot of work and as much time as you put in, some parts of their temperament are still unpredictable. getting an older shelter dog, you know what you’re getting into! a good shelter can advise you on a dog who’s already good with kids, maybe one that is more on the couch potato side since he’ll be living in an apartment in a city, etc. etc.

  51. Fiona says...

    Love the Lilly Allen wedding post – especially the “Do Not feed the Birds” sign since that’s one of the names British people call women. Very cute!

  52. Sarah says...

    Kelly!!! Your wedding looks absolutely beautiful. You look absolutely beautiful!!! I love the dress. I love the setting. I love the faces of joy and happiness around you. What a bright spot in my week to see these. And I love the “love is not canceled” sentiment from your photographer. Thank you for sharing!

  53. AN says...

    The moment I finished this Cup of Jo story on 10.29.19, https://cupofjo.com/2019/10/kitten-story/, I went on Petfinder after not visiting it for months. Right then and there was the kind of mutt I’d been seeking for eons. Three days later, on 11.2, we adopted her. She has been the bestest muppet / rapscallion ever, not even counting how much of a lifesaver she’s been during the pandemic and the general FU-ness of everything. Who rescued whom, indeed! And we owe it all to Cup of Jo!!! DO IT, Jo and Alex!

  54. Shaina says...

    Thank you for these links. Every week I look forward to them! xoxo

  55. Abbey Nova says...

    I adored the wedding dress search post and all the loving comments. It was such a respite from everything hard and bad right now. Also, what a wonderful community here. It feels like the best group chat anyone could wish to be on.

  56. liz says...

    1) lol I’ve also tried every pizza at trader joes.
    2) I read an article today about the degree of devastation re those fires and stress cried for everyone. how could so much be going wrong at the same time?
    3) get a dog already! ;) but seriously, dogs are ranked high on my favorite things in life list.