Motherhood

How Old Are Your Kids?

Toby and Anton Goddard-Williams

If you have a child or children, how old are they? Mine have me perplexed…

Toby technically just turned 10 and Anton technically just turned 7, but that can’t be right? In my mind and heart, they’re still babies. I wonder if it will always feel that way? I wonder if Marian Shields Robinson still looks at Michelle Obama and sees her toddler face?

Here’s a video of Anton naming the Beatles, when he was two years old.

And their photos from their very first days of life.

Says Maya Angelou: “Most people don’t grow up. Most people age. They find parking spaces, honor their credit cards, get married, have children, and call that maturity. What that is, is aging.”

So, I’m curious, how old are your kids? And how old are they really?

P.S. Slamdunk birthday presents for kids (of all ages) and how many children do you hope to have?

  1. Kami says...

    How does that newborn Anton have the exact same face as 7 year old Anton??

  2. Kiley says...

    My son is a year and a half, and I already feel the pull to scroll through his first year of life pictures. I’ll show them to my husband and say, “Look how tiny he was!” It has been a joy to watch him learn, grow, and his personality come through, but I can’t believe he got so big so quickly!

  3. Keri says...

    Two weeks old! Though when I was just talking about her growing up I started to cry. So I am trying to enjoy every minute of this baby while I can.

  4. Martha Patterson says...

    19 and 23! It seems the years from 6 or so go by in a quick flash…and suddenly you have young adults living in your home.

  5. Katie Porter says...

    I have 4 kids ranging in ages from 7 months to 12 years old!
    (Sophie 12, Henry 7, Audrey 3 and Baby James is 7 months) but I also had a stillborn little girl called Grace and 3 miscarriages in between so I’ve been pregnant 8 times and given birth 5 times. I was desperate for another baby after number 3 but I feel well and truly done now after number 4!

  6. Angela B says...

    My b/g twins are 10 and my youngest is a 4 yr old boy. We always say the twins were a breeze compared to our 4 yr old….he’s a wild man. The twins were always logical even when small they wouldn’t do anything too scary, but this guy jumps, literally face first, into anything. He’s had many fat lips to prove it.
    Example of the logical twins…While on vacation we bought a pie and my husband was like, why don’t we just have a pie day…breakfast, lunch, and dinner, PIE! My oldest, Roman was about 8, he said, you guys can do that but I won’t, it sounds irresponsible. We just looked at eachother and died laughing.
    My favorite part of all of them is how creative they are, they have fun together but after many days of lockdown, they will each go into a room, and draw, write stories, or build a town out of legos. I love hearing them talk to themselves as they play.

    • Catie says...

      I have a 3 year old Roman and he is basically an 87 years old adult.

  7. Kasia says...

    My boys are 28, 23 and 6 :) One of them is bearded, some get their first grey hair. One plays drums like wild, one is damn serious about life, and one knows every eight-legged creature by its Latin name. Life treats them good so far, so I just wonder and wait how it will unfurl. I try to remember everything, have hope and no expectations.

    • Ash Stalford says...

      This is beautiful

  8. jennyg says...

    I have a 17 yr old son and a 15 yr old daughter, both typical teenagers with a tendency to be awkward, easily embarrassed, reserved except when around friends…they have a long way to go and I’m here for it!

  9. Petra says...

    My daughters are 6 and 3.5 and I find myself thinking that time can stand still now, these are wonderful ages. Our eldest started ‘big school’ this year and has become so independent and grown-up which is great, but also a bit heartbreaking and bittersweet. Every time I pick her up I wonder for how long I will still be able to do that.

  10. Katy says...

    7 and 10 here, too. And my 10yo comes up to my shoulders now, which causes me to do a double-take every dang time. Parenting is such an incredible string of adjustments.

  11. Martha. says...

    My girl is 7, and the baby boy has just made 5

  12. Gretta says...

    My babies are 21, 19, 17 and our lovely surprise has just turned 1. After my eldest moved out I had been adjusting to the idea of the empty nest phase I had thought I would be entering over these next few years as I approach forty and so the baby was not the plan but I have learnt so much. I have been amazed how everything I do with our baby brings back incredibly strong memories of her brothers at the same age and feel like I have a little insight into the joy of grandchildren that people speak of. But I still have no idea what the collective noun for children of 21,19,17 and 1 is. I tell people ‘I have three teenagers (which still shocks me because surely only yesterday they were babies)…but the I remember my eldest is 21 and that is not a teenager! It’s very odd

  13. Heather D says...

    My son is 5 1/2. We adopted him from foster care and he’s been with us for two years. His past trauma sometimes causes him to play more at the caliber of a smaller child, but his brain – wow. I swear he’s a 30 year old man in there.

    • Naaz says...

      This is so sweet

  14. Rosie says...

    When I was younger I remember reading a poem and it talked about how you are all of the ages inside you, so you’re made up out of 1 year old, 2 year old, 3 year old you, all the way up to your present age. And sometimes, in moments, your different age emerges – like when you stub your toe and burst into tears that’s the 4 year old in you, or when you want to just eat ice cream for dinner that’s the 15 year old you etc. I love that idea. So I will say my daughter is 4 years old, but she’s actually a 1 year old, 2 year old, 3 year old and 4 year old rolled into one. And that helps me sometimes deal with the fact that I think she’s growing up too quickly because sometimes she’ll do a funny walk or say a cute phrase and I know that has come from her younger self which is still part of her present self.

    • Lauren says...

      I love this. Thank you for sharing ❤️ If you remember what poem it is, please post it!

    • Jennifer says...

      Are you thinking of “Eleven” by Sandra Cisneros?

    • Rosie says...

      Thank you Jennifer for finding it! I had read it years ago and could never remember the title or author, just that it had touched me deeply. I’m so happy to have found it again. Bookmarking that for sure.

  15. Leah says...

    My sons are 3 years and 3 hours apart- age 4.5 and 18 months. I struggled terribly when they were babies – the tedium, endless anxiety and “slave to a stranger” feeling really wore me down. Age 2 was a dream, age 3 was a nightmare and now they are at such a sweet spot, tho my 1.5 year old is HELL ON WHEELS. Yesterday at the pediatrician, he licked the garbage can!

    • Jamie says...

      I relate to this SO much. My 4 year old has settled into pandemic life pretty nicely and my 18 month old drinks from puddles….

  16. Catherine says...

    I’ve said more than once that I’m a one and done (my lovely, spunky daughter is now 13 months), but these comments are making me reconsider having a second! ;)

    Also, to the COJ team… Could you please, please, please have a post where readers submit favorite year-round rituals or traditions from their childhood… or ones that they’ve started doing for their children? My daughter is at the age where we’d like to create some fun rituals or traditions (I’ve scoured the comments on the holiday ritual/traditions posts- so many great ideas!) and I know the COJ community would be a gold mine.

    Weekly, annual, mundane, extravagant… I want ALL the ideas. Example: I remember one commenter saying that they made nachos when their son had a bad day… nacho (not your) day. This is the kind of mom I want to be!

    • Pui says...

      Yes! I would second this idea as well. I love traditions and would love to incorporate them more in my family life :)

      One tradition that I can’t wait to start is to bake a cake for my daughter to celebrate the beginning of every school year. We still have ways to go cos she is currently 15 months, lol

    • YES PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  17. Emily Crowder says...

    My one and only somehow turns four next Wednesday. Four lifetimes have passed, everything has changed, and it’s only been a blip. It was yesterday, it was this morning, it was a universe ago. Children twist time so beautifully!

  18. Meg says...

    My girls are 10, (almost)8, (almost) 7, and 5. Yea, I had 4 in 5 years 😱
    No, we are not adding anymore to the mix!

  19. MK says...

    Mine just turned 4, and her recent maturity has astounded me — wearing a mask, using hand sanitizer, taking calming breaths when she’s upset, and letting me know she’s not afraid to go to the doctor anymore (which she was when she was younger). In many ways I think she’s more mature than me — I stay up way too late, eats cookies when I shouldn’t, and don’t always floss.

    • Laura says...

      I don’t have kids but this made me laugh so much. I also stay up way too late, eat all the cookies, and don’t always floss. There is hope for the future! Xoxo

  20. Diana says...

    My daughter is 3 months old, and the time before her feels like a different lifetime. While everything is in flux right now, her smiles and chirps keep me grounded – I am so grateful to be home with her during these early months!

    • Katy says...

      I have a 4 month old and I feel the same way. We went into lockdown right after she was born and so many things have changed in our world that I am having trouble deciphering what has changed because of the pandemic and what has changed because I am now a mother. It feels scary like things will never be the same (they won’t, I know!), but I am so grateful to be home with my daughter and the state of the world reminds me to be present for her.

  21. Mina says...

    Mine are 9.5, almost 8, and a bit past 6. It’s beyond my comprehension how there are suddenly these three full people walking around, using big words, feeling big feelings, making me laugh, do double-takes and cry, getting through life.
    My eldest is definitely an old soul, but it’s my youngest, my only daughter, who makes me believe in reincarnation. She’s done yoga since before she could walk, she talks about things she was “born knowing about”, and sometimes, she speaks with an American accent. We live in Sweden and her first language is Swedish. She makes me think she had a whole previous life as a yogi in California or something.

    • y says...

      Mina, this made me laugh so hard. We live in California and my daughter walks around talking with a British accent and says she used to live in London. Freaks me out! Maybe reincarnation is real!

  22. Felice says...

    My sweet son will be 4 months old next week. He is already growing so fast and I am trying to soak up all these moments. His whole life has been spent in our house and he has really only been held by my husband and I. I get sad sometimes thinking that he hasn’t gotten to meet his grandparents or anyone really and they are all missing out on this precious baby time. I’m grateful for video calls but it isn’t the same.

  23. My 6-year-old, James, is really such an old soul … I’d say approximately 65. The other day, my oldest son mentioned how much he likes to sleep in, to which James replied, “Not me. I like to wake up early, make mom a cup of coffee, turn on the lights and get the day started.” 😆🤷🏼‍♀️

    • Sarz says...

      So cute! He sounds like a character from a Wes Anderson movie.

  24. Margaret says...

    My daughter turns 18 this month, my son turns 21 in November. Yup!! And yes, they are still my babies, and I can not believe they are that old. Of course that means I’m old, but I feel perpetually 20…enjoy these years with your adorable boys, in the blink of an eye you will be where I am… Love your blog and love you!! Have been a devoted follower for years and years…xoxo

  25. Liz says...

    Joanna, I’m so glad you posted this question because it gives me the perfect opening to thank you.

    My son is almost two now, but a little over a year and a half ago, when he was a tiny baby and I was deep, deep, deep in throes of post-partum depression, I had managed to drag myself and him out of the apartment to take a walk around the neighborhood. The truth is that I hated being the mother of a tiny baby (even though I loved that baby so so so much), I was pretty sure I was doing a terrible job, and as preposterous as it seems now, I couldn’t see that any of it was ever going to change.

    So I was walking down Court Street, greasy haired, blinking back tears, with a little baby in a carrier, and I saw you and Toby, deep in conversation. I’ve lived in the neighborhood for years, and I’m a longtime reader, but that was the only time I’ve ever seen you. And something about the way the two of you were engaged in whatever the subject was, nodding along, interjecting, all very serious (but not somber!), gave me just the jolt I needed. Oh my god, I realized, it’s not always going to be this. I’m not always going to be struggling to care for a tiny person who can’t tell me what he needs. He’s going to grow and learn and we’re going to have CONVERSATIONS. Of course! It helped me in a moment when I needed help, so thank you.

    I really hope this isn’t creepy! But from a few feet away on the same sidewalk, you appear to have pretty wonderful, engaged, respectful relationship with your kid.

    • Mina says...

      This is so lovely. Isn’t it amazing the things that can suddenly jolt us back into ourselves?

    • Sarz says...

      I’m not a mom myself, but gosh, I felt this! I have such boundless respect for every parent who’s doing the best they can, so this strikes me as the Best Compliment. <3

    • Emily says...

      this is such a sweet story

  26. Shannon says...

    My boys are 11 years old and 6 weeks old, and seeing them together fills my heart with such peace and joy. My older son has wanted a sibling since he could talk, and he is so proud and thrilled to be big brother. My first pregnancy with my older son was a cakewalk, but then I had 13 unexplained miscarriages trying to have a second child. We finally were able to do it with the help of an amazing gestational surrogate, and I thank my lucky stars every day.

    • Amelia says...

      THIRTEEN! Your comment almost knocked me out of my chair. I am so glad your family got your happy ending.

  27. Kaitlin says...

    I completely understand that this is a normal question to ask, but seeing it as the blog title made my stomach drop, hurting for my mother who lost a child. How does she answer this?

    I love the COJ community and the way it’s broadened my perspective. Just wanted to speak up for my mom and any other women who this post may cause pain: you’re loved and seen.

    • So sorry for your mother, Kaitlyn. And for you. Sending love!

      A few years ago I was exploring a new neighborhood of LA where’d I’d just moved, looking for the farmer’s market, and I asked a women along the way if she could point me in the direction. We ended up walking the few blocks together, and she told me her son was my age. It felt like she was trying to set me up with him until she mentioned that he had passed away at age 4. I’m sure each parent has a different way of coping, but I could see how helpful (albeit painful) that was for her to keep counting the years, to keep connecting with people “his age” as a way of keeping him alive. <3

    • Anya says...

      …A Mom, who lost her child told me that she has a daughter, who is an angel now, and told me her age she would be today, adding in “angel years.”

      I’m so sorry for everyone who’s gone through this…

  28. Monica says...

    My son is 12, which is shocking to me: First, how? Second, how? Third, because he’s already taller than me, but still seems so small you know? 12 is weird… nobody prepared me for this age (or any age to be honest)! Seeing our kids grow up is such a mix of feelings… I completely understand why our hearts live outside our bodies once we have kids! ♡

    • Kelly says...

      i think this all the time – we spend so much time and money preparing for the infancy phase and it’s over so fast! and then there’s all those years that follow…and academics and sports and friendships and talking back and the first time they can walk to the store by themselves or make a peanut butter and jelly sandwich without you and you’re praying for those steps to independence and then they shatter your heart at the same time…

    • Monica says...

      That’s exactly it!

  29. Kylee says...

    My boy is almost 6 and my girl is 3.5. These days I find myself just staring at them, trying to memorize everything about their little faces, mannerisms and the way they say certain things. I imagine what it’s going to be like when they’re grown and I don’t see them everyday, when they aren’t really mine anymore… It seems heartbreaking right now but deep down I can’t wait to see what passions they follow and what they will do with their lives.

  30. Lisa says...

    I’m expecting my first baby in December, but just had to comment and say bringing my little girl to Frankie’s (her mom and dad’s wedding venue!) is at the top of my list of things I want to do with her. I got so nostalgic seeing that picture of of Toby and Anton there. Sadly we are no longer in NYC but we are in Boston, so close enough for yearly trips to our very favorite city with Frankie’s as our first stop!

  31. Sharon says...

    My children are middle-aged. Older son is 45, younger son is 42. This is incredible to me…I recently turned 69, which is also shocking. My grandchildren are 15 and 12…my granddaughter turned 15 the day I turned 69. She was born on my birthday, and I was overjoyed to be in the room when it happened.

    I just can’t get it through my head that the past 50 years have gone by so quickly…

  32. Yeji says...

    My son is 8 days old.
    He was born on the anniversary of my mom’s death three years ago.
    He is both 8 days old and 57 years old: the age of my mom when she passed away too soon.

    • MD says...

      Yeji, I went through the same thing, my daughter (6 months) was born on the 5 anniversary of my dad’s death (when he was 59). It is such a crazy mix of emotions. Sending love

    • Sarz says...

      Oh gosh, that’s so bittersweet, Yeji! I hope he grows up loving the stories about her, and realizing the things they have in common. <3

  33. Sarah says...

    My daughter turned one on Friday and this post is making my heart ache and swell!! This first big milestone came so quickly and I’m trying to savor every moment with her because I know it all goes so fast. She just learned how to say mama and it feels better than anything I could have imagined.

  34. H says...

    I’m pregnant! 13 weeks tomorrow! We saw the baby wave and kick and swallow yesterday so after months of feeling extremely apprehensive and nervous about it, it’s starting to feel real. I’ve been reading this blog for what, 10 years? Since well before Toby! I’ve always loved your motherhood content, your miscarriage content helped me through my own miscarriages, and now all this maternity wear content is speaking to me for the first time because oh my god my pants DON’T FIT. I’m currently laying on my bed with a hair tie through my denim button just processing it all. I guess, knock on wood, you could say my child is 13 weeks old tomorrow? I‘ve hardly told my friends… but the comments section on this blog is kind of my imaginary friend group! I can’t believe it’s happening! And no, there’s no way Toby and Anton are that old, you’re very right. In my head Toby still struts around the city toting a violin. 💕

    • Katho says...

      Congratulation and all the best on your pregnancy!

    • Regina Mareglia says...

      Congratulations!!!
      Also try the violin days!!! ❤️

    • Colleen says...

      Congrats! I really understand waiting to tell friends after multiple miscarriages. Get yourself some Blanqi leggings—so supportive! And the first time I tried on maternity jeans, I could’ve slapped myself “why did I wait so long!?” Lol. Enjoy the journey!

  35. Cece says...

    My kids have just gone into the 3 months of the year when they have a 3 year age gap :)

    My daughter is 4, she’ll be 5 in October. And my sweet baby boy just turned 1 at the weekend. I’m so emotional that I’ll never go through the tiny baby stage again – but also looking forward to a little bit more sleep in the next few years ;)

  36. ale says...

    i have a 5 year old boy, and a 1.5 year old girl. how old are they really? the first one is “i must talk at all hours of the day, with no breaths in between, and learn all there is to learn about superheroes and their powers, as well as be the funniest human ever” years old. and the latter is “i must be attached to mom at all times, preferably on her left hip, and eat snacks 8 times a day, while learning 3 new words per day” years old. they’re rowdy and loud and hilarious and goofy.

    • J says...

      This is beautiful and just perfectly describes my kids as well, if you change “superheroes” to “garbage trucks”. Love the magic of these ages, or should I say stages.

  37. Sarah says...

    I have a 4 year old daughter, who asks such insightful questions and approaches life with such confidence and panache I sometimes I think is at least 12, until she has a total preschool-style meltdown. I also have a 2 year old who is suddenly a little boy – where did my chubby baby go? Now I have an independent, long-legged child who is confident that he can do everything himself (spoiler alert – he cannot do it all himself). How do I freeze time? I want to soak them in, tantrums and meltdowns and all!

  38. Helena says...

    My kids are 5 and 7. I always remember a post a read one day where a father said something like this: one day they will grow and you will find them having glass of water by themselves.
    Well today was that day for my baby boy, with 5 years old, at 2:00 AM I found him in the bathroom having a glass of water without saying nothing to no one!
    I couldn’t sleep the rest of the night….
    Can’t belief they are so big by now!

  39. My son is 9, so this is the last year of single digits. I find myself longing for cuddles when he was a softer toddler, now a slim athletic almost tween. I have to confess I always sneak into his room when he’s sleeping (if I can stay up that late) and this is when he seems the most precious and still my baby. Once awake, he’s his incredible person, but will always be my baby. Now I know why parents always (even at middle age) think of their children and their sweet babies.

  40. Alex says...

    My kids are 7, 5, and 2. They are so different from each other and they love each other so much! I hope that is always true, that they are able to see people for who they are -people- and love and care for them no matter how different.

  41. Amy says...

    My son is 14 and at 6 ft. 1 in. (and still growing), towers over me. But every time he grins at me, I can still see that happy baby face I would rock to sleep so long ago. Each age has had its own unique joys.

  42. Rosa says...

    I have two beautiful daughters Morgan age 18 and Georgia who will soon be turning 15. I like the ages that they’re at because of their growing independence. My youngest just started her first job and my eldest is going into her second year of university and currently works two jobs. The teenage years are so hard at time but it’s wonderful to see the women that they are becoming. Strong, smart and independent. I do love it when Facebook memories pop up pictures from when they were little though ❤️

  43. Sara S. says...

    I have 12 year old and 4 year old daughters, and I’m expecting a baby boy in Sept. My brother and I are 12 years apart and we’ve never been close and don’t get along, so I always said I wasn’t going to have a big gap between kids. BUT, now I think it was the best thing we could have done. We made a conscious choice to wait between kids. We had our firstborn when we’d been married 4 years, then decided to put off having more kids until we were more financially stable (my husband went back to school). With the kids spaced farther apart I felt we got to enjoy those early days so much more, and the older sibling was able to help a lot too. Now both girls are really excited to help with the new baby, and my oldest can’t wait to babysit soon. The only negative is all the dumb comments we get from people. I’ve heard everything from “Oh, I thought you were done having kids. Aren’t you getting too old?” to people making jokes about one of our kids being a “mistake” because of the big age difference. We did what worked best for our family, and I’m glad I didn’t listen to people’s unsolicited advice about when was the “best” time to have kids.

    • RRR says...

      I was 11 years old when my brother was born; my older sister was 14, my younger sister was 7. It may sound strange, but I’ve always felt that the age difference is actually one of the reasons we are all so close with him. We joke that he grew up with four mothers, but it truly felt that he was “our” baby. 38 years later, he has 3 beautiful children of his own, and watching him grow into the exceptional husband and father that he is fills me with indescribable pride. I wish the same for your daughters and “their” baby.

  44. Nathalie says...

    Last weekend my 15 year old and I were baking side by side in the kitchen and I glanced over at her and thought, “How is it possible that she’s adult-sized?” One of the strangest things about my kids getting older is how much more physical space they take up!

  45. Katie says...

    My babies are 3.5 and 18 months — and 30.* I feel like we’re already best friends, and their identities and personalities are so strong, I feel like I’ve known them forever (and, no matter what, they’ll be with me forever).

    *30 with the caveat that at times they have extreme personality disorders, no filters, crazy emotional highs/lows, boss me around, exhibitionist tendencies, and are the worst. roommates. ever. Also sometimes pee on stuff.

  46. txilibrin says...

    My boys are 1 (just now!) and 2 (three in two weeks) and when I see photos of them as babies, i’m like, “What did just happen!!?”. I’m getting the baby fever, but I’m not sure I can handle another human being at the moment, it feels at time that I’m losing myself in the process of raising these human beings.
    But OHHH, I smell their heads every single day and take all the hugs I can get.

  47. Megan Johnson says...

    My step-daughter is eight. For the last few years, my husband and I have really struggled with her tantrums to the point that we were considering getting her into counseling, but that all recently–and suddenly–stopped, which left us thrilled, albeit totally perplexed. I now find myself sitting on the couch in the evening observing this little woman walking through the house, putting her dirty clothes in the hamper, filling the dogs’ water bowl, brushing her hair without having to be asked, and saying things like, “I think I’m gonna turn in for the night.” I know she’ll have her bad days (as we all do), but it’s so rewarding to watch her become more self-sufficient.

  48. Heather says...

    My children are 26, 22 and 12. I love raising them. I love seeing these baby birds grow up and fly on their own. Most fun for me is seeing the stronger character traits that they had even as babies shine through to serve them in their adult lives. There is something new and wonderful to each stage of watching your children grow.

  49. Ess says...

    I can not believe Toby is 10! When I first started reading your blog he was a baby. I guess that means I’ve aged 10 years too?!

  50. Beth says...

    My little guy is 9 weeks old. I already look back at pictures from those early, hazy days and can’t believe how much he’s changed!

  51. Susanne says...

    I have two daughters: E is nearly seven and when I look at her I see a little girl that to me will never grow up and at the very same time there’s this big girl talking to me like she was 10or maybe 12 and I wonder where the years went.
    My younger daughter A is two and a half and has Down’s Syndrome. Due to that everything takes more time. She’s a heartwarming little girl with a smile that lights up a room and who loves to crawl up in Mamas arms and I savor this time knowing that she, too will grow up to fast eventually, but right now I really enjoy her staying little , growing up and learning new things in her own timing. thats really a gift.

  52. Claire May says...

    My boys are nearly 10 and 6.5 and they both look nearly exactly the same way they did when they were 2 years old! Kind of. Same same but different.

  53. Lauren says...

    I read a comment on a past Cupofjo post (years ago?) from someone saying how it pulled at their heart when their daughter said they were her best friend, knowing that wouldn’t always be true. My daughter is 4 and into talking about when she grows up and moves out (I think grappling with that idea). She keeps saying how we’ll miss each other but it’ll be ok, and that she’ll want me to visit her every morning. It’s so sweet but a little heartbreaking. She says some things now that feel like glimpses into her future self.
    My son is 2 and it is hard to picture him older – so cuddly and still with a round baby belly!

  54. Maria Anagnostopoulou says...

    My son will be 40 this August and I still dream of him a a baby, unfortunately I treat him sometimes as a baby too and he gets furious (he is right!)

    • Julie says...

      I turned 40 in April and my mom still reminds me to say “thank you” and to call people on their birthdays. I laugh at her but knowing I’m sometimes still her little girl in her mind is honestly comforting, especially in these past few months. I still have a Mommy, you know?

  55. Marcia says...

    My daughter is 34 and a first time mom in May.
    My son is 30.
    How is this possible? They both live a state away and it kills me.
    Even now when they get together they tease and tell private jokes and get very silly, turning to 9 and 5 or 15 and 11 or 6 and 2….and back again.

  56. Mine are preteens and teen now.. how time flies and how I miss their cuteness when younger!

  57. Kristian Olson says...

    My son is 3, but also maybe 251 years old because he professes to be Napoleon. So. You know. There’s always that!

  58. lydia says...

    “To a parent, your child wasn’t just a person: your child was a place, a kind of Narnia, a vast eternal place where the present you were living and the past you remembered and the future you longed for all at the same time. You could see it every time you looked at her: layered in her face was the baby she’d been and the child she’d become and the adult she would grow up to be, and you saw them all simultaneously, like a 3-D image. It made your head spin. It was a place you could take refuge, if you knew how to get in. And each time you left it, each time your child passed out of your sight, you feared you might never be able to return to that place again.“
    Celeste Ng, Little Fires Everywhere

    • Gretta says...

      This is a very lovely description of all the ways watching your children grow is so baffling and beautiful

  59. umma says...

    14, 12, 10, 8… when they are sleeping, they look exactly like they did as babies– same exact sleeping mannerisms!

  60. Rachael says...

    Mine are 15, 13, 11, 9, 7 and 3. And the baby, who is no longer a baby, looks so much like his oldest sister that sometimes when I am holding him my heart catches and throws me back 15 years. Today I walked into the kitchen and the two of them were making cookies together, and my heart just ached with love for them and sadness for how quickly time is flying, and how the little girl who used to beg to lick the spoon is now taller than me and handing the spoon to her little brother.

  61. My girl is 18 months. I like this age but it has its own hard things. I miss when she was a small baby but I find that I have been more relaxed as a parent since she has grown older. I hope if I have a second baby some day I won’t be so high strung.

  62. Ann says...

    My oldest is 18 and is an old man at heart, and is a late bloomer. My baby is 15, but acts like a 20 year old. I always knew the younger one would learn to drive before the older one and it turned out to be true. They are always your babies. Parenting is weird.

  63. Theresa says...

    My daughter is newly 6…she perplexes me daily! lol

  64. Katie says...

    My daughter will be 5 next month, and my son is 2. I still think of ourselves as being in “the hard years”. but I think we’re starting to edge into the really fun years. That said, for me, 2 is the perfect age. They’re so expressive and can really chat with us, but they’re still so squishy and cuddly and sweet and naive. I just love it, and I want to freeze time (except for the whole pandemic situation). I cried like a baby the day before our daughter turned 3 (and I’ve learned that 2 really was the best… haha).

    • Julia says...

      No, you definitely move in to the fun years!
      My kids are 8,6 and 4 and there are no more naps! They can hold an conversation! They can play and I can drink my warm!! Coffee and we read Harry Potter!
      Oh and no more peppa pig!

  65. Madeline says...

    My daughter just turned four and she is at this intense tipping point where in so many ways she is wildly grown – speaking clearly and confident making friends, asking for things politely, empathizing and understanding the impact her actions have on others. In so many others she is still my tiny baby who wants to snuggle all the time and for us to lay next to her as she falls asleep. My heart is breaking to see her at this point between toddler and child, I cannot wait to see who she will become and I’m morning my disappearing baby.

  66. She’s five and a half and was born a teenager. Independent in spirit, fierce in her behavior (heart wrenching feats of climbing included), sensitive of heart (How early we can doubt ourself!), and more complex/witty/crafty than I knew someone her age could be, at every age she has been. But she will be my baby forever in a series of taller body. 💘✨

  67. Sara Langan says...

    6 (boy, Evan), 4 (girl, Teagan), 2 (boy, Kieran), and a puppy (Daisy) who is 6 months. Our 6 year old keeps urging us to have a 4th baby. As much as I would love to fulfill his dreams of a 3rd younger sibling, I think I’m at capacity! I have worked remotely in Neurosurgery research since July 2019 and during Covid my attorney husband began working remotely as well. We finished our son’s Kindergarten year from home and gearing up for another round of homeschooling starting in August. It’s exhausting, amazing, humbling and terrifying. Thank god for vasectomies and screentime! :)

    • Sarah says...

      Vasectomies and screen time! 😂 I’ll drink to that!

  68. Carol says...

    My daughter is 12 and my son is 8. I thank them regularly for “being old”. I have enjoyed every age, but I’m loving where they are now. They are coming into their humor and personalities and they are such fun to be around. Their personalities are very different— and nothing could be better than when they spontaneously break into singing Hamilton songs – together.

  69. Ingrid says...

    My babies are 48, 35, and 30. They have babies from 17, 5, 2, and 3 months. It’s a wonderful thing. Love is unending and infinite. Each grandchild has reminded me how much I love their mother (my sweet baby.) And as each of my daughters held their firstborn, I would tell her that now she would know how much I love her.

    • Marcia says...

      Crying.

    • Lauren says...

      “And as each of my daughter held their firstborn, I would tell her that now she would know how much I love her.” What a beautiful thing. I remember holding my first baby in the hospital and fully understanding how much my mom loves me. <3

    • JR says...

      Ingrid, this is so sweet and so wise. I can tell you’re a wonderful mom and grandmother just from this comment. Your daughters and grandkids are so lucky to have you!

    • Loz says...

      This is what my parents mourned most when my brother chose not to have children. It didn’t make any sense but perhaps does s bit more now that I’m a parent.

    • Lisa says...

      Pregnant with my first and crying. Ugh I love my mom.

  70. jill says...

    22, 16, 15 and just turned 9. how?!?! i see old videos of them and think…why didn’t i savor that up more, but honestly i am also living those moments and its a reminder to savor up these too!!!

  71. Savannah says...

    6, almost 4, and 10 months. The older two are girls and the baby is a boy. I think 6 is the perfect age, even though she acts like she’s 12 alot of the time.

  72. Lindsey says...

    My son is 5 going on 70. He’ll yell at his two your old sister “keep it down you’re keeping me up” and he has a penchant for using phrases I’ve only heard my grandparents use. For example instead of saying cool he’ll say, well isn’t that something? Yet the most miraculous thing is he still loves snuggles and construction trucks and my mama heart watches him in wonder as he shows me how feeble age is in defining us.

    • Keri says...

      My 5 year old son is also an old man! He’s so curmudgeonly. And yet he also daily dresses like a ninja and does karate moves around the house.

    • Andrea says...

      We always joke that our son came out of the womb at 55. I love an old soul.

  73. Christine says...

    7, 4, and 11 days! But…the older two Are really 5 and 2 right??? Trying to soak up this last newborn so much 🥺

  74. Leah says...

    My kids are almost 10 and almost 12, but to me they are almost 16 and almost 16. I see and feel the teenage years coming and and while I love who they are becoming I Also really miss my toddlers.

  75. Tara says...

    My children are 31 and 19. When my son left for college his sister was 6. She grew up with him being home on vacations and then, upon graduation, moving into Manhattan. But with COVID 19 he’s moved back home and her college closed early for safety. What has transpired here under our roof is two siblings who have come to really know each other in a way that before wasn’t possible. COVID oddly has provided them with the gift of time__ to paddle board together, go surfing, complete binge marathons, and tonight, go out for a bike ride so he can give her advice as her boy friend broke up with her. It has also provided them with time to talk about how they are worried about friends suffering from this illness and being contemplative about world events and how they can help implement change. This bridge of time will leave its imprint on both of them.

    • Maria says...

      Tara-this is beautiful. The gift of time, how very special indeed!

    • Jes says...

      Love this

    • Rosanne says...

      My brother is 12 year younger than me too! When he turned 19, he moved to where I was living to attend the university here and it was the best thing for our relationship. He even lived with us a couple of times when he was in transition. I have such fond memories of him and I marathon watching TV shows when I was on maternity leave and my husband was at work. We learned so much about each other during that time.

  76. Jo says...

    My son will be 1 in 10 days and I can’t wrap my head around it. Where did that tiny human being go?

  77. silly lily says...

    Two sons, one 39 (gasp) and the other almost 34.

    Once when I was rocking my first grandson to sleep, I nodded out briefly myself…..and when I startled awake a few moments later, I wasn’t sure if I was rocking MY baby, or HIS baby.

    I’m telling you, ladies, it DOES go that fast. There’s a saying: the days drag and the years fly. So true, so true. Try to enjoy these special moments, and if you are as lucky as me, you will enjoy your children’s children as well.

    • Kate Probst says...

      This is so sweet. My boys are 6 and 3. I try to picture their baby faces almost every day when I look at them to pause time. I love that a moment like that could happen when a grandma. Like a good dream.

    • Olivia says...

      Oh my gosh, your baby or his baby…wow. That’s amazing.

      This morning my 13 month old daughter was kissing her baby doll and I said to her what a nice mommy you are! You’ll be such a great mommy when you have your own baby! And mom and dad will be grandma and grandpa! My husband just said honey, settle down, she’s a baby. Lol

  78. alex says...

    I was just this evening looking at my almost 5 year old daughter and feeling a wave of sadness that she is not the 5 day/week/month old that she once was. The days of carrying her in my arms are ending – she’s too heavy now. And my 18 month old son is all personality and sass – my god – how did that happen??? He was a newborn just yesterday! Parenting is such sweet torture.

    • Rosie says...

      When I was younger I remember reading a poem and it talked about how you are all of the ages inside you, so you’re made up out of 1 year old, 2 year old, 3 year old you, all the way up to your present age. And sometimes, in moments, your different age emerges – like when you stub your toe and burst into tears that’s the 4 year old in you, or when you want to just eat ice cream for dinner that’s the 15 year old you etc. I love that idea. So I will say my daughter is 4 years old, but she’s actually a 1 year old, 2 year old, 3 year old and 4 year old rolled into one. And that helps me sometimes deal with the fact that I think she’s growing up too quickly because sometimes she’ll do a funny walk or say a cute phrase and I know that has come from her younger self which is still part of her present self.

  79. Meg says...

    Mine are four and almost two. Those squishy baby faces make me want to cry!!!

  80. Rachel Simmons says...

    MY oldest is almost 5… ( which makes me so SAD…I still need her to need me :(! ) and i am pregnant with our son, who is due in two months <3 so glad I'll have another baby to cuddle soon… I'm not a need to be needed person, I'm very independent and enjoy my solo time, but with my daughter, I see her becoming a school aged child in front of my eyes and it makes me tear up (pregnancy hormones in FULL force over here) plus realizing it won't just be her and my hubs anymore.