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My Beauty Uniform: Anjali Pinto

Chicago-based photographer Anjali Pinto is one of my favorite people to follow on Instagram. I discovered her after the story of losing her husband Jacob went viral. On New Year’s Eve 2016, Jacob died suddenly of an aortic dissection — a rare heart condition. I’ve come to admire her grounded outlook on life and loss, and the way she uses her platform to uplift marginalized voices. Here she shares her no-fuss morning routine and her favorite way to relax…

Did your relationship to your beauty change after Jacob passed away?
Definitely. After three and a half years, the shock of his death has worn down, and I’ve tried to figure out what it was about our relationship that made me feel so loved and admired… in large part, it was just acceptance. And if I don’t have his acceptance to rely on, how could I build that feeling up for myself? It ebbs and flows, but having the reality check that health is not a guarantee and to be grateful for what your body is capable of — that has allowed me to view my own fat as a gift. I get to enjoy food and enjoy life. I’ve been chubby since I hit puberty and if I don’t accept it I’m going to die hating my body, and I don’t want to be in that position.

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What do your mornings look like?
I hate getting ready in the morning, so I always shower before bed — I’ve done that since I was a teenager. My morning routine is clearing the sleep out of my eyes, splashing my face with water and getting coffee as soon as possible.

Do you have a favorite evening moisturizer?
My former studiomate makes beauty products, and I use her facial oil in the lemon clove scent, as well as this facial toner — they’re both very hydrating. Then I use Nuxe Huile Prodigieuse body oil on my neck, chest and arms, and it makes my skin satiny soft. My friend gave it to me as a gift from Paris. It adds gloss to your hair, too, so I spray it all over. I use it both as a moisturizer and a fragrance — of fresh orange blossom and vanilla.

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Tell me about your tattoos! They’re gorgeous.
I started getting tattooed at 25, by Esther Garcia. Her craftsmanship is otherworldly! Since my husband’s passing, I’ve added a lot to my collection, mostly from memories or symbols of our life together. They make me feel more myself.

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I love your hair. What products do you use to take care of it?
I used to try all sorts of fancy shampoos, but have settled on TRESemmé $4 shampoo and conditioner because they leave my hair softer and less frizzy. Then I almost always air dry it — but I also like to French braid and can do that on my own. 

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Let’s talk makeup. Do you have a go-to routine?
I start with Laura Mercier tinted moisturizer on my face and neck, which is pretty sheer, but it evens out whatever redness I might have. I sometimes use an under-eye concealer, to cover the dark circles under my eyes; then I use Ecobrow in Penelope on my brows. I apply a matte lipstick — I love a matte lip! My cheaper go-tos are Smashbox in Primrose and Fenty Beauty in Single.

Do you have any personal rituals to help you feel beautiful?
I wasn’t deemed ‘athletic’ when I was young, and was told that exercising wasn’t for me because I was ‘bad at it.’ I have found in adulthood, however, that I love anything that is low and slow. I love biking and swimming and walking. I don’t like sprinting or long-term strenuous endurance but I can ride my bike or swim at a slow pace for a very long time. As far as self-care goes — does masturbation count?

Masturbation? Absolutely!
Going from a loving relationship where we both had our sexual needs fulfilled, to being suddenly alone, I relied a lot on masturbation to feel connected to myself, to soothe myself to sleep, and to feel alive. It reminded me that I could access pleasure even in the darkest parts of my emotional struggle. That’s been huge for me, and I try to be open about that because there’s still a taboo around masturbation.

Have any of your beauty routines shifted being in quarantine?
Well, I rarely put on makeup, my nails are unpainted, and I’ve shaved my legs once in three months. Frequent baths have become a way I relax.

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You started a photo project on Instagram, fielding questions from your followers about their relationships to their bodies, and ended up turning it into a zine called Body Talk. It had an amazing impact on many people, including me. How did you decide to start this project?
I wanted to make nude photography, but didn’t want it to be inherently sexual. I wanted to foster conversations around existing in a body — the good, the bad and the mundane. There are many experiences that we endure alone because of the shame surrounding our bodies, and in opening up people’s eyes to how other people look naked, I can remove some of that shame.

What did you do before photography?
I used to work for a corporation which was highly lacking in inclusivity and awareness; I felt like my political beliefs or ideas of what equality really looks like were not welcome there. When Ferguson happened and I was at work, I didn’t even feel like I could talk about it with anyone because nobody understood or seemed affected by it — it was a really isolating experience. I realize the discomfort I felt at work was minuscule compared to the microaggressions and racism that others likely felt there. Looking back, I wish I had done more to speak up and advocate for others, and not allowed my discomfort to silence me. In leaving that job, and working for myself, it was a load off my shoulders to speak freely. A lot of times if people don’t know a Black photographer they’ll hire me, because I identify as a woman of color. I started thinking, ‘Am I the best person to do x, y, or z job?’ and made it my prerogative to be connected with creatives in Chicago who are Black, so I can pass along those jobs to them.

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Tell me about your boyfriend, Uche. You guys seem so sweet and funny together!
We met two years ago through OkCupid. I knew he was handsome from the photos, but I had no idea how open and tenderhearted he would be. He is incredibly patient, which is required for loving someone that has lost a spouse.

How have you and Uche been doing in quarantine?
Quarantine has been pretty challenging for us. The pandemic meant that our Airbnb went dry, and we ended up having to move unexpectedly. I was a ball of stress and tears. Uche’s trucking away at school, which has all been moved online, meaning some days he’s at the computer for 12 hours at a time. I felt really alone at times, at home listening to the news and getting more and more anxious. But now, I have found a way to fundraise and contribute to some local organizations, and I’ve been grocery shopping for families that don’t have easy access to stores right now. Getting out of the house and contributing to my community has made all the difference in my overall mood and wellbeing.

You’re having a baby soon! How are you feeling about everything as a first time mom?
I am so excited to meet our child. When I feel her kick, I imagine her little limbs and how nice it will feel to hold her on my chest. We are still unpacking from the move, but I look forward to decorating the nursery and getting ready to nest. With the world’s focus and amplification of Black voices, I am in a process of learning and listening. I’m bringing a Black child into the world, and with that gift, there is also a responsibility to self-reflect and examine my own biases and the ways I have benefited from white supremacy. Having an African partner or Black child does not absolve me of racism, and motivates me more to having difficult conversations with friends and family about how to be actively anti-racist.

What is your beauty philosophy?
Getting older and experiencing loss have helped me to feel more accepting. I dream of a world where every person sees and appreciates their own beauty. I want to help other women feel beautiful, just by their existing.

Thank you so much, Anjali! You are incredible.

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(Photos courtesy of Anjali Pinto/Instagram.)

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  1. Tara says...

    Wow, such beauty and resilience. ❤️

  2. Amy says...

    What a beautiful and inspiring woman. Inside and out. x

  3. Caroline says...

    Thank You so much for this.
    It was refreshing to see a woman who is very candid about her body. I share a lot of the same traits as Anjali, from being pudgy since I was younger to having tattoos. It did my heart good to hear her speak about her self and life as well as share her personal photographs.

  4. DeeDee says...

    Thank you for this beautiful story!

    I have been following her tattoo artist, Esther, on social media for a while – I knew I’d seen that ink somewhere!
    LOVE IT

  5. I think this one was my favorite! I read just the beginning last week and looked at the pictures, then went over and read her story on Medium about losing her husband. I’ve been thinking about her ever since, and came back to read the full interview now. I feel so inspired! I’d love to hear more from Anjali! (also omg so beautiful!)

  6. Sarah says...

    Wow this was so much more than a beauty uniform. Unless a beauty uniform just means all the things that make a person beautiful like love, loss, heart, humility, joy, honesty… I especially love her words about working at a company after Ferguson and not knowing how to speak and realizing that is just a small taste of all the microaggressions that others experience. My boyfriend is African and our children will be black and as a non-black person, I have many questions and much to learn. I am definitely following Anjali on instagram and watching her journey. So much wisdom!

  7. Silver says...

    No wonder there is so much love in her life – she’s amazing. The story of her first loss just rips out my heart, but then, it is no surprise someone else understands her and loves her = love is, it just is.
    Then this – you know it’s something to listen to when tears prick your eyes and this was it for me “I’ve been chubby since I hit puberty and if I don’t accept it I’m going to die hating my body, and I don’t want to be in that position.” When I look at her pictures I don’t see anything ugly about the chubby bodies, but when I look at myself the loathing I feel is out of all proportion. Anjali is a far far wiser woman that I am, but hopefully not for always.

    • Joy says...

      Girl I feel the exact same away. I see other women’s bodies and just think they look beautiful and happy and alive, but I can’t extend the same grace to my own. My 85-year-old grandmother still makes little disparaging comments about her “chubbiness”–I don’t want that to be me! It’s such a process.

  8. Rebecca Seaman says...

    A beautiful story. I loved it. Thank you

  9. What an amazing woman and story! I didn’t expect to be so emotionally taken away when I first started reading. Whew! Glad to have found Anjali and now I’m following her on Instagram.

  10. Nancy says...

    Gorgeous woman, beautiful story. Thank you for sharing and congrats on being a mama!! She’s so lucky to have you!

  11. Christie Chase says...

    I found Anjali’s life story so moving, thoughtful and hopeful in both her words and stories. Thank you for sharing her with us : )

  12. Janice says...

    Such a beautiful story, beautiful pictures, beautiful person. LOVE, LOVE, LOVE! <3

  13. Amy says...

    Loved reading this beauty uniform post! It might be light on products but the body positivity is so appreciated and welcomed. The pictures are just lovely, and the tatoos are amazingly gorgeous (not usually a tatoo fan here- terrified of all forms of needles). Anjali was an immediate new Insta follow for me.

  14. Quinn says...

    I’ve come back to read this a second time – just love it all.

  15. Faith says...

    What a powerful, beautiful, resilient woman. Thank you for publishing this wonderful interview.

  16. Sophia says...

    I loved this. Anjali is beautiful, inside and out, and is so strong. Also, it doesn’t look like the link to her medium post is working FYI.

  17. China says...

    Loved this – I had also been feeling a lot of anxiety during Covid stay-at-home. After George Floyd’s murder I decided that it was worth the risk to attend protests, and I was really surprised that protesting actually decreased my anxiety so much. Being part of a collective action to advocate for positive change made me feel so much better about myself and the state of our world right now. It was the reminder I needed that connecting with and supporting others is so important to my personal mental health.

  18. Emily says...

    “I want to help other women feel beautiful, just by their existing.” Boom. So much this. My new favorite beauty uniform.

  19. Issie says...

    This just blew me away, time after time after time.
    Grief, boom.
    Wanking, boom.
    New love, boom.
    BABY!!, boom.

    You are a true bad ass, Mama 💪🏻

    • Mon says...

      This comment made me laugh. Seriously – what a roller coaster of emotions!

  20. MyHanh says...

    Yes, more love in all different ways. Thank you!

  21. Rachel Hauge says...

    Best beauty uniform yet. Thank you.

  22. Michelle says...

    She takes my breath away. What a stunningly beautiful human. Her strength/softness and patience is profound.

  23. Claire says...

    Lovely, strong lady.
    Life sure throws some wicked curve balls, and we carry on.
    Here’s to survival skills and perseverance.

  24. Terri says...

    This is my favorite one ever! What a beautiful person. What a gift to share her story and her philosophy. I love it. It also made me feel so much better as a woman in my 40s who has been chubby for decades, too, and never felt very athletic. I recently started exercising regularly for my mental health, and I have made peace with the fact that if I never reach what I think of as a “normal” weight, I can still feel strong and beautiful.

  25. erin says...

    To echo others, how beautiful!! Not only her own personal (internal and external) beauty, but how the journey of her story was told in this way. I didn’t realize how much I was connecting with it until the section about Anjali being pregnant, when happy tears popped into my eyes!

    • Adrienne says...

      Agree – I gasped out loud with joy when I got to that part. So happy for Anjalie and Uche and their coming daughter. Much love to them!

  26. Mirela says...

    This is tremendous. Thank you.

    • Definitely one of the most inspiring people I’ve read about in a long time. Her attitude really made me shift my view of my body, in a take-charge kind of way. It made me want to be grateful and fight against all of the stigma of being overweight. I will probably never be my “skinny” self again, but my body has birthed two beautiful children, healed from surgeries, and it’s been a strong and healthy body for 45 years. It’s time for me to thank my body & be proud for all it’s done for me.

  27. Jill says...

    This is lovely. I went back and read Anjali’s impossibly beautiful/sad essay on Medium and I am at a loss for words. It’s great to see how things have changed for the better for you in the last three years. Thanks for sharing. And I also absolutely love your photo of the naked torso bent over. Humans are such lovely tender fragile beings. xx

  28. Ramya says...

    She is amazing! Thank you for sharing with us. Running to IG now to follow her ;-)

  29. Han says...

    I am so sorry for your loss Anjali. We lost a parent in the same way and it is just so sudden and heart-breaking. Sending love. xo

    That photo in the sequined inner tube…it just screams, ‘womanhood, beauty and joy’. Made my day!

  30. Sharon says...

    Such a beautiful post. I did not know Anjali; thank you for sharing her! I appreciate how she described feeling loved and accepted by her spouse. It’s exactly what makes the right relationship feel so good. Seeing ourselves through the eyes of a loved one. It’s such a gift.

    I also loved the cheap shampoo & conditioner recommendation! because her hair is thick and lovely and I’m forever on the search for the “best.”

  31. Christy says...

    Omg the photo of Anjali in Uche’s lap is so precious.

  32. Mrs N says...

    Phenomenal. This was so uplifting and the pictures are beautiful. Much love to Anjali and Uche as you look forward to welcoming your baby girl into the world!

  33. Alex says...

    Wow. That didn’t suck at all… what an angel.

  34. Ann Thompson says...

    I read the whole article aloud to my husband, who is also named Jacob. It made us both smile to read about another love similar to ours and the gritty feelings of me throwing projects his way but wanting to keep control. At the end, I was holding back tears as I think of how life is so precious and fast. That mixed with me working in heart surgery and seeing it play out from the other side is gut wrenching.

    I purchased the zine too. Finding my body after motherhood is challenging and I plan on replacing the generic art in my bathroom with bodies, and quite possibly remembering a great tribute of love, as I also beckon my Jacob to bring me my facewash by the sink. Beautiful, honest and raw story.

  35. Grace says...

    This was so beautiful. What a powerful reminder that life is filled with both joy and suffering. Best wishes to Anjali and Uche as they welcome their daughter!

  36. Liz says...

    So beautiful!

  37. Katie says...

    COJ this is beautiful, but NSFW. Please give a heads up (:

  38. Nectar says...

    “I’ve been chubby since I hit puberty and if I don’t accept it I’m going to die hating my body, and I don’t want to be in that position.”

    that got me right in the gut.

    • Leah says...

      Me, too.

    • Julie says...

      Same here! that really hit home. I went back to read the whole article an hour later… still thinking about that.

  39. Kat says...

    Amazing. Such a heartwarming conversation. Thank you Kim and Anjali!

  40. Shannon says...

    Wow, so raw and real. Just followed on Instagram <3

  41. Gemma says...

    Oh my goodness, I read your Medium article then read the above post – made me tear up. I’m so glad your husband gave you that gift of acceptance for yourself. What more could a person give? ❤️

  42. Elisa says...

    Oh my gosh, I love Anjali and have been following her story for a couple years, too. I LOVE this feature, definitely my favorite beauty routine ever. Her true beauty comes through, though I liked also hearing about the products she uses.

  43. Angeline says...

    And I love your braids too – suuuuper cute!

  44. Angeline says...

    I LOVE that short haircut on you – usually they’re only that good on British girls but yours rocks!

  45. Sally says...

    I’d never read Anjali’s story before today. How heartbreaking and beautiful. A lovely tribute.

  46. Angie says...

    Well, that was fabulous, wasn’t it?

  47. emily says...

    This was the sweetest and most beautiful story, while also devastating and hopeful. Thank you so much for sharing. All the best to Anjali, Uche and your new baby.

  48. Kim says...

    What a lovely post! Thank you.

  49. Meg says...

    This post was so intimate and affirming. All my wishes for peace and happiness to you both and the baby too. You are lovely and your words are lovely and I needed to read them.

  50. AJ says...

    Just lovely… ❤️

  51. Lauren H says...

    Wow. Beauty uniforms are usually my least favorite posts but this one was just lovely. Anjali, you are a beautiful person inside and out. Thank you for sharing yourself with us. Sending much love to you and your family right now.

  52. Rebecca says...

    Beautiful woman. Moving story. Thanks so much for sharing Kim and Cup of Jo. ❤️

    • Sasha L says...

      Just beautiful. I’m struck speechless. Thank you ♥️

      If you haven’t followed in IG yet, there is the most beautiful little video of Uche kissing Anjali’s baby belly, it will melt your heart into a puddle.

  53. Stacey Rae says...

    beautiful woman. beautiful story.

  54. Barbara says...

    Thank you, Anjali and Kim for such a moving, wonderful, and wise post. Wishing Anjali, Uche, and your daughter a beautiful life together.

  55. Sarah says...

    Wow, this was such a lovely and interesting read. For all the tragedy and sadness, there is so much joy and pleasure. A great reflection of life. Thank you!

  56. leah says...

    What a beautiful post. Thank you Anjali for sharing and best of luck with the rest of your pregnancy :)

  57. Amy C says...

    What a lovely, interesting human. I am definitely showing my stylist the third photo when I finally go back to the salon.

  58. JP says...

    How were you successful on OkCupid?? Need to know the secrets!

    • J says...

      Kim, I read just the first paragraph and had an inkling, scrolled back up and saw your name, and was so pleased! I absolutely love your voice. Anjali’s story unfolded in such a graciously authentic way, keeping me engaged in every word. I love reading your work. <3
      Thank you, I needed to read this today.

  59. Abbey says...

    Anjali’s story here feels so intimate. I can’t wait to check out her photography. Thank you for sharing the beauty of you in the world ❤️

    I love how the Beauty Uniform posts have grown richer and deeper over time. The evolution of this blog is so satisfying and inspiring.

  60. Laura says...

    This is a really beautiful post and I appreciate it so much. Thank you to Kim, to Anjali, and to Cup of Jo. This was a very grounding and heart-ful interview to read. Much needed right now.

  61. avril says...

    I wish you both so much joy.

  62. Breanna says...

    This has been the most beautiful beauty uniform I’ve read on here. Thank you.

    B

  63. Leah says...

    I have followed Anjali on IG for a while and find her beautiful, thought provoking, and inspiring. Great choice CoJ!

  64. Kelsey says...

    Anjali is so, so stunning and honest! One of my favorite beauty uniforms to date.

  65. Cynthia says...

    Such a lovely post. Such a strong young woman! I’ve never been thin, and I’ve learned to accept my body.

  66. Kara says...

    I love how you think about your job offers and if they don’t feel like quite the right fit, pass it off to a friend and have made a network of Black photographers to help be sure that point of view is represented. I moved from Brooklyn and now live in a part of a city without much diversity and am wishing I had a more diverse circle of female friends like I did in NYC, but I don’t want to walk up to some random woman of color and say, “Hey will you be my friend?” or put an advertisement up at the local coffee shop. Anyway, cool story and made me think!

  67. Eva says...

    I’m dreaming of having a friend like Anjali. Beautiful, strong, inspiring.

  68. Dienesa says...

    wonderfully beautiful.

  69. Amanda H says...

    What a beautiful person, inside and out. I so appreciate her sharing her stories of loss, love, masturbation :)!, pregnancy, and the active work she is doing to create a more just, anti-racist world. I’m leaving this Beauty Uniform absolutely inspired.

  70. Nicole A. says...

    That photo of you all hugging at the table melts my heart! Such a tender moment. So lovely to be captured in a photo as a keepsake.

  71. Melissa says...

    so much wisdom in this post. incredible

  72. Lee says...

    So real and so beautiful.

  73. Anni says...

    Thank you, I know Anjali’s story and have followed her for awhile and was happy to see her here!!!

  74. Jojo says...

    What a Cool lady!!! Thank you for sharing your story

  75. Nicole Ledford says...

    I was moved to near tears multiple times throughout this post. Thank you for sharing your light, Anjali!!!

  76. Kate D. says...

    Wow! I loved this intimate piece about all aspects of beauty!

  77. Julie says...

    So powerful. Both her and her photos are gorgeous, and what a smile on Uche!

  78. Sara says...

    By far one of my favorite beauty uniform posts. She is inspiring, stylish and all around bad-ass!

  79. Kaye Berman says...

    Anjali and this post are absolutely beautiful! Thank you for introducing her to me, so to speak!

  80. Julee says...

    So inspiring. I needed this today. Thank you Cup of Jo and Anjali. You get me.

  81. Maria says...

    I love this Beauty Uniform, thanks for sharing! And Anjali, you are strong and beautiful 💛

  82. Holly Warren says...

    Such a lovely and raw piece. I LOVED it. Anjali is an inspiration to us all.

    Thank you for sharing!

  83. Frédérique Poirier-Patenaude says...

    I have been a long time reader of this beautiful blog, but I rarely comments. Thank you so much for making me discover, like so many times before, an another amazing person. I to have lost a dear person at such a young age: my sister. I love the way she emphasize on seeing her body with a new regard. For someone who have been struggling with anorexia for many years, her words touched me so much. Thank you.

  84. Fernanda Abreu says...

    Oh My God, I am in happy tears right now. All the feeling at once. So happy for her and her new family. Her partner must be a special man…I guess it is difficult to deal with this kind of grieve. So happy for you <3

  85. Bailee says...

    Wow, what a beautiful story and beautiful person. The photo of Uche holding Anjali made my eyes immediately fill with tears. I’m excited to follow her on Instagram — Thank you for sharing!

    • Amy says...

      That really moved me, too. It’s such a tender, real image—unglamorous in the best and most intimate sense.

  86. Katie says...

    Well, this was wonderful! She is fantastic and this was exactly what I needed this week ❤❤❤

  87. jane says...

    She is amazing. I just spent an hour looking at her photography and reading her articles. I really liked that last picture of her at work. I’d love to see an entire post of women actively at work at their jobs when and if people ever return to jobs in the world – I suppose for many of us working from home will become the new normal. But a separate post on quarantine home offices/ work spaces would be super cool too actually.

    • Jessica says...

      This was by far my favourite beauty uniform post. She is so beautiful and compelling. And I love her openness about masturbation! It’s such an important form of self love and care.

  88. Lindsay says...

    Wow, I really loved this interview. Anjali comes across as so beautiful inside and out with confidence and vulnerability in equal parts. Thanks coj team.

  89. Shelley says...

    Absolutely loved reading this. Thank you for introducing us to her ❤️

  90. a.n. says...

    wow, this was great. i hadn’t read the story of her husband’s passing before, and it really moved me. i so appreciate her openness and honesty, and…damn girl, your hair is so shiny and beautiful, too!

  91. Kim says...

    what a great read and wonderful person!

  92. kim says...

    For some reason, this really affected me. That picture of her sitting on Uche’s lap makes me tear up.

  93. Lisa says...

    “Having an African partner or Black child does not absolve me of racism, and motivates me more to having difficult conversations with friends and family about how to be actively anti-racist.” 👏🏽👏🏼👏🏾👏🏿👏🏻

    • anonforthis says...

      That hit me so hard. My mother (white) definitely didn’t sit with her own biases in this way and it came out in some truly ugly ways when she was angry or scared. It’s taken a very long time for me to realize that and be OK with loving her anyway, even despite the racist parts that come out at me and my sisters, and despite her seeming inability to confront that trauma.

  94. Julia says...

    Thank you sooo much

  95. Jen says...

    Wow. I feel like this is one of the best things I have ever read or seen. So much inspiration and food for thought (and ideas for action!). Thank you, Anjali and COJ. <3

  96. Sarah says...

    I teared up at the photo of Anjali and her boyfriend! What a sweet surprise after reading the story of her huge loss.

  97. Arianne says...

    “I get to enjoy food and enjoy life. I’ve been chubby since I hit puberty and if I don’t accept it I’m going to die hating my body, and I don’t want to be in that position.”

    Wow, I needed that today (and most days)! I recently started thinking about all the hours I’ve lost to hating my body and wanting it to change, instead of enjoying living in it. Thank you for sharing such a beautiful, hopeful, honest story.

    • Katha says...

      Dito, Arianne.

    • Grace says...

      I would recommend the F*ck It Diet, the Intuitive Eating workbook, The Body is Not an Apology, and Anti-Diet. It is so liberating to think about other things.

    • Arianne says...

      Grace, thank you for the suggestions – I just started the anti-diet! I’ve been thinking a lot these days about this line, as the world’s injustices are more evident than ever and yet I can’t stop thinking about how I’d be happier in a smaller size: “Dieting is the potent political sedative in women’s history… It keeps us too hungry, too fixated on our bodies, and too caught up in the minutiae of our eating regimens to focus our energies on changing the world”

  98. Sarah says...

    This is my favourite “beauty uniform” post yet, and I’ve been following the blog for a long time. Excellent work <3

    • Julia says...

      I second this.

  99. Karen says...

    There is something so healing and beautiful about this interview. I love her honesty and self acceptance. What a joy to read this. So happy about the new baby to come.

  100. Lex says...

    Loved this. Thank you both!

  101. Claire says...

    I love this so much! I just want a few more details about the actual colors she wears, and where her amazing accessories are from (glasses in first photo, all earrings). She is so lovely!

  102. Agnès says...

    I love your tatoos, your hair and that photo in the pool is beautiful. I love that you talk about masturbation as a way to let yourself know that you can still find pleasure in life, even in dark times. Sending many good vibes your way. Thank you for sharing your self with us.

  103. celeste says...

    Inspired by the short haircut and will def try the shampoo! Thanks!

  104. ShoSho says...

    This has to be the best Beauty Uniform post yet. I don’t even know Anjali and I just cried so much reading her story. It also inspired me to look at my own relationship and hug my husband just a tad bit tighter! Never stop highlighting people and stories as beautiful as Anjali’s!

    • courtney says...

      Yes! It gets to a deeper meaning of and connection with beauty.

    • Mandy says...

      Agreed!!!

  105. jennyi says...

    I LOVE this! I especially love the nude photo. So beautiful & authentic. Thank you, from a fellow brown chubby woman.

  106. Tania says...

    Masturbation and baths! That’s self-care I can get behind. Thank you for this beautiful piece.

  107. TaraK says...

    I had the absolute pleasure of working with Anjali on a project for a Chicago education organization. Her photos of the students were so breathtaking, and she went beyond what was asked of her to invite a class into her studio to share the field of photography with them. It was truly special and important work, I am forever grateful to her generosity and openness.

  108. A says...

    This is by far my favourite beauty uniform yet!! Anjali’s honesty, openness and easy is amazing! Just beautiful! Wishing the happy couple and soon to be little one many years of happiness and love!

  109. Michelle Blam says...

    I’ve followed Anjali for several years and love her writing, photography and perspective on the world. Thank you for this beautiful piece!

  110. liz says...

    wow wow wow. love this so much. she seems so warm and like a really tender, cool, friendly person to be around. not to mention beautiful too!

  111. Elisabeth says...

    Favorite Beauty Uniform to date! And best wishes to Anjali, Uche, and their baby!

  112. Yvonne says...

    Anjali, you’re beautiful inside and out. I admire your strength and your positive outlook on life. I know what you mean by not standing up in front of racism for fear of reprisal or being misundertood … I have been there.
    As a person who dislike tattoes I have to tell you that you change my mind about them. Yours are so beautiful and I would like to know more about your beautiful earrings. En fait, I love everything about you. LOL. Thank you!

  113. Caitlin says...

    This was so, so beautiful. Thank you so much for this.

  114. Rebecca says...

    Lovely! Does anyone know where her flower-shaped tortoiseshell earring is from in her photo with the white shirt? I must know!

  115. Boerumama says...

    Lovely post! Where’s the bathing suit from?

    • Gara Seagraves says...

      I also want to know!

    • Neela says...

      Me three!

  116. Kate says...

    WOW wow wow wow. Absolutely astounding, every single line. So much love to Anjali and Uche and their baby! “I want to help other women feel beautiful, just by their existing.” I think you are doing just that. Thank you so much.

  117. AS says...

    So much beauty in the world, thank you for sharing!

  118. Amanda says...

    What a brave and resilient woman! I loved this beauty uniform so much. Also, some awesome links – I’d love to try that brow gel, and the tattoo artist is amazing! So many congratulations to this beautiful couple and their impending new arrival <3

  119. KA says...

    This is my favorite beauty uniform yet! I loved Anjali’s honesty and ease in the way she moves through her life. Her confidence comes through and she is just radiant.

  120. AMK says...

    👏🏽👏🏽🥰🥰🥰beautiful beautiful beautiful!!!