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“What Do I Wear to a Winter Wedding?” and Other Reader Questions

Reader Fashion Questions

We’ve featured reader questions on everything from avoiding panty lines to being a good house guest. Today, with some help from Nordstrom, we’re excited to discuss six fashion queries…

Q. Where can I find a party top as an adult? I always wear black jeans and boots, but I need a top! — Jenny
A. Look for a flowy wrap top in a pattern or floral, or choose something with a fun sleeve or lace detail. Another party outfit idea: Keep your top simple, and opt for a pretty skirt, instead.

Q. I’m in search of the perfect bootcut cords. Advice appreciated! — Carrie
A. Who doesn’t love a good pair of cords? The versatility of jeans, the look of pants and the coziness of PJ’s all wrapped into one. When it comes to a great boot cut style, this pair comes in a bunch of colors. And if you’re a fan of cropped silhouettes, this butterscotch pair is adorable (not to mention comfortable).

Q. Why oh why is it so hard to find a simple cardigan? I swear I look for one every year and am without much luck. — Suzanne
A. We hear you and we feel your struggle. But the perfect cardigan is out there. If you’re going for a cozy, chunky, librarian-in-the-best-way cardigan, look no further than this middle number. For a classic cardigan (great for layering or wearing with a dress), we love this black one. Last but not least, this side button blue number adds a fun detail.

Q. I’m a guest at a wedding in a few weeks. What are some good winter wedding looks? — Lee
A. Winter weddings are a great time to lean into romance and drama. Think: dark florals, pretty patterns, velvet, sumptuous fabrics… You’re making us wish we could come along. (Need a plus one?;) The best part is, after the wedding is over, all these looks can do double duty for dates or nights out. Have a wonderful time!

Q. I have Converse and LOVE them but I feel like I need the right no-show sock?! — Bren
A. Ah yes, the age old “socks with Converse” question. For those who prefer the sockless look (of which Caroline counts herself a die-hard fan) these no-show socks are the best we’ve found. In the colder months, Joanna is known to pair hers with socks in all different colors.

Q. Wondering if anyone has any recommendations for winter shoes during pregnancy? Planning for when I will be trudging through snow with a belly. — RMA
A. Congratulations! These cozy boots are great for winter time — with a sturdy tread for walking down wintry sidewalks. These faux-fur-lined sneakers are warm and easy to walk in. When you want to dress up, durable, go-with-anything black booties are a great choice. Update: For a slip-on option, these are great!

Thoughts? Do you agree, or would you have different answers? Please let us know…

(In the top photo, Lily is wearing this top, jeans, and sneakers. Photo by Christine Han for Cup of Jo. This post is sponsored by Nordstrom, where shipping and returns are always free. Thank you for supporting the sponsors that keep Cup of Jo running.)

  1. Elissa says...
  2. Claire says...

    I have to admit, I like to have one item about my wardrobe each day that makes me feel different from everyone else. I like to dress vintage/50’s flare, and I have found really great stuff on Ebay – it’s so handy for gifts too, and I’ve found a pretty good rang eof stuff there! My latest favorite is a great site called Pickers Junktion (https://www.ebay.com/str/pickersjunktion?LH_BIN=1) because I can find stuff for father’s day and the occasional gem for myself!

  3. Anaïs Marquette says...

    For the winter wedding look, highly recommend a jumpsuit! In dark or jewel tones (Asos has tons of them). It’s cute and sexy and your legs won’t freeze and it’ll work great with heels but also with the sneakers you’ll pack for when your feet get tired but you don’t want to stop dancing yet. Paired with cute accessories/purse, you’ll look great AND will be super comfortable.

    • liz says...

      Yes!! Also – very important, they are super easy to wear thermals under <3

    • liz says...

      whoops didnt realize you said winter weddings — i just meant for general winter xD

      BUT if you can pull off thermals at a wedding, i support that fully

  4. jess says...

    Ha! Perfection :-)

  5. Jane says...

    Uniqlo has well priced pure cashmere crew neck cardigans in basic colours (black, navy, grey) plus one special colour each year. Last winter I bought one in a fabulous red wine colour.

  6. Caitlin says...

    I just wanted to say thank you for solving my grammatical curiosity about how to end parentheses with an emoticon.

  7. Jill says...

    Re: pregnancy winter options, I vote zippers allllll the way! There were so many frustrating elements to getting out in the world during that period. The last step to getting out the door was trying to logistically orchestrate my body to be able to tie winter boots. I finally chucked them (literally) across the room and got Blondo motorcycle boots and mini heeled booties. Waterproof, cute, available at Nordstrom Rack and ZIPPERS!

  8. I have to laugh at the pregnancy boots recommendation- Ummmm…she said “trudging through snow” and all of those recommendations will leave you with wet feet, or sore feet (that last one with the heel). I’m not pregnant now but I have been 4 times and live in the midwest and my fav’s are a cool lace-up boot that has the zipper up the back. Or I’d suggest a lined Hunter boot or something you can slip your foot into without having to bend down.

  9. RMA says...

    Yay, that was my winter pregnancy footwear inquiry. Thank you all for the amazing recs!! I’ve been wearing Doc Martens but at 28 weeks, I agree that the laces are quickly becoming prohibitive. Will definitely be looking for a new winter boot!

    • janine says...

      When I was pregnant, a friend recommended I get a pair of Frye boots – I had a January due date. :) The trusty Fryes were amazing and comfortable, I STILL WEAR THEM and my child just turned 9!!!

    • shade says...

      Yes! Chelsea boots (pull on boots) are a must for pregnancy in the winter!

  10. Gilly says...

    I found the perfect pair of cold-weather boots that are warm, *waterproof* and extremely comfortable, with a thick 3 inch block heel and a textured rubber sole to keep your feet dry and provide traction in rain, ice, whatever. The combat style makes me feel like a badass, and looks great with a floral dress. On sale!
    https://www.nordstromrack.com/events/346806/products/2921937/naturalizer-madalynn-combat-boot-wide-width-available?color=BLACK%20TUMBLED

  11. Jessica says...

    My best accessory to my pregnancy boots (a shorter height slip on pair by Skechers, sooo comfortable) were my very thoughtful co-workers. We walk outside to a coffee shop for coffee break and it was an exceptionally icy, snowy winter. The second we stepped outside, without fail, someone was offering me an arm to cling to until we got back inside. Good people are priceless!

  12. Dani says...

    no show sock- liner by happy socks… funny and affordable

    • Stefanie says...

      Agree from Ohio!

    • Courtney says...

      Yes! As a Minnesotan, I was thinking, “There’s no way you could wear any of those in the winter!” (No idea where the person asking is enjoying winter).

      Big snow boots are a must for trudging through snow, ice, and slush. For more everyday walking, I love Sven clog boots! They’re durable and so cute (especially because you can always customize them to get the style and leather you want exactly)!

  13. My fav simple cardigans are from Lands’ End. Their Fine-Gauge Cotton Cardi comes in tons of colors and is not expensive for the years I get from each one. I also appreciate the Tall size for my extra-long arms :)

    • Marika says...

      Came here to say exactly this.

  14. Julie says...

    These are some fun questions!

    For winter weddings, (and even summer weddings) I think black slim pants with a black top paired with a super fun purse and earrings can be a fun look. Warm because your legs won’t freeze, comfortable, and different from usual wedding attire!

  15. Adrianna says...

    Thank you for sharing this!! These look perfect.

  16. Anna says...

    Cardigans: British brand Brora does a cropped cashmere cardigan. They’re pricey but I’ve been wearing mine regularly for 4+ years; it’s a wardrobe superstar (plus they’re made in Scotland). I like its fitted shape and narrow waist, which works well with work outfits or high-waisted trousers, etc.

    • MJ says...

      oh my GOSH, Sam, this looks like a GENIUS product. So beautiful and flowy without all the tuck-in slippage! I’m pregnant right now but putting this on my list for later… thanks for sharing.

    • Robyn says...

      OH MY GOD. Gamechanger – like MJ, thanks for sharing! I love the look of flowy, pretty blouses but could never figure out how to tuck them in so they look normal.

    • Caz says...

      ASOS is also a good source for blousy bodysuits! I got a lovely blue velvet one a few months ago :)

  17. Michaela says...

    Highly recommend Baltic Born and their dresses that appear to be velvet but are pleated. Just wore the navy long sleeve one for a wedding I was in and it was so comfortable!

    Ordered it as a back up and was afraid it was a scammer company but was amazed at the quality and great customer service. I received so many compliments!

    • Jess says...

      So glad you recommend them!! I window shop on their site but am always afraid the fabric will be super weird on arrival.

  18. CB says...

    I always like COJ fashion posts but this one really missed the mark for me. None of these options seemed worth spending the money on– just a little blah and the tops suggested were all the same style which definitely does NOT suit a variety of body types! As for the shoes for pregnancy and winter– laces? heels? no thank you! I live in a very cold place and none of those would work for me even when not pregnant! I have some slip on Sorels that I love and highly recommend that brand for winter commuting.

  19. Nathalie says...

    I really love the CofJ community, we are funny and caring and intelligent and diverse. However I find there’s been quite a judgemental tone to the comment section lately. There are complaints about price and the implication that people buying pricey products could be spending their money more wisely. When affordable products are featured, there are complaints about sustainability with the implication that people buying those products don’t care about the environment. There are vegans who shop at walmart. There are frequent flyers who only wear sustainable clothes. I think we’re all doing our best within our circumstances. May we accept our differences and find harmony.

    • Tiffany says...

      BRAVO! This space shouldn’t be a lose-lose situation. Perhaps we can all work on giving others the benefit of the doubt!

    • K says...

      YES! A million times, yes. Thank you so much for putting into words what I’ve been thinking / feeling re: the CoJ community lately.

    • Rebecca says...

      I totally agree with this comment. I love the COJ community, but the responses to this article just made me feel… tired. Joanna, I think you and your team do an amazing job of bringing attention to so many important issues facing our world today (climate change, diversity, gun violence – just to name a few). If this post doesn’t jive with your ideals or values, that’s OK! We can’t be perfect all the time (that would be so boring). Also, I’d like to point out that Nordstrom has a pretty robust Corporate Social Responsibility program detailed at the link below. It includes information on how they, as a corporation, are addressing many of the concerns raised here in these comments: https://shop.nordstrom.com/c/nordstrom-cares-sop-archive?breadcrumb=Home%2FNordstrom%20Cares%2FSharing%20Our%20Progress

    • Katie says...

      Same! The Cup of Jo team obviously tries so hard to listen to its readers and create posts accordingly, and it’s hard to please such a diverse audience! It pains me to see this turn in the comment section, that for the most part has always been a delightful safe space.

    • Anna says...

      Couldn’t agree more. Thank you for phrasing it so nicely. I loved reading the comments for many years, but there seems to be a new negative judgy harshness in recent months. Let’s try not ruining this space…

    • Keep it Constructive! says...

      Thank you for saying this! Well put. Joanna, you and your team are amazing! You raise awareness and create a space for important dialogues on everything from peri menopause to diversity. So just a thought: Don’t feel bad if you decide to stop replying to altogether to those negative judgy comments. People like that are rarely pleased. They are often just looking for a platform, but they don’t necessarily deserve your attention. Xo

    • Laura says...

      👏👏👏

    • Tess says...

      Agreed 100% Nathalie, well said!! Keep up the good work CoJ, I appreciate the thoughtfulness you bring to everything you do.

    • Kate says...

      Agreed! Everyone can try a little harder to be nicer and more understanding. There is this expectation that CofJ is suppose to cater to everyone’s budgets and lifestyles. If you find the items in the article not suiting your liking, make recommendations without the snarky comments.

    • Heather says...

      Yes to this – it’s a bummer to open up to comments in anticipation of finding some gems and instead see snarky comments. It’s impossible to please everyone and exhausting to try.

    • Joaquina says...

      Human beings are judgmental by nature and even more so on the internet.
      I don’t see anything wrong with airing our constructive feedback (“judgmental tone”) as long as it is using polite language.
      Jo has shown graciousness and respect in her replies to such
      comments so maybe we should not underestimate how she perceives “judgments”.

    • Alyssa says...

      Very well said, Nathalie!

    • Claire says...

      Thanks, Nathalie. Well said. I’m tired too.

    • Jenny says...

      Thanks for sharing this. I agree that the tone of comments could be friendlier and more respectful, but I do actually appreciate that people are chiming in a bit more lately with different perspectives. I love CoJ, but for a very long time it has felt to me that the only comments that were welcome were ones that nodded along with the posts. But I’m with you that it would be great if we could assume good intent, think of the person on the other end, and look for common ground when sharing opinions.

  20. Nathalie says...

    Hands down, best pregnancy boots are “peu” by Camper. (I think the winter version is called peu pista.) They are pull-on and warmly lined, the leather is super soft so they’ll still fit if your feet swell. They are pricey but I bought mine on sale and I’ve had them for 3 years now – worn daily in the winter – and they still look great.
    Love the wrap tops!

  21. Em says...

    Although I have never been pregnant, I think Blundstones would be perfect for pregnancy in the winter. Easy to slip on and take off and waterproof. I put a sherpa lining in mine for the winter, and they are so warm! The footbed is also very roomy, although with the sherpa lining the amount of space has been reduced some.

    • Judy Sommer says...

      Was literally about to post the exact same comment! Also, I’ve had my Blundstones for 9+ years and aside from switching out the insole once, they are still is excellent condition and look cute with plenty of outfits.

      The winter versions are really warm and you never have to worry about wet feet, even in slushy puddles.

  22. Danielle says...

    The best shoes I bought during my Brooklyn winter pregnancy were a pair of Blundstone boots. They slide on so easily with the tabs so when I couldn’t bend over I could still get them on, lol. Also so warm and comfy and great for every day. They are expensive for me (~$185 or so) but I’ve worn them basically every day from October – April for three years running now and they are still holding up perfectly. And I usually wear my shoes HARD!

    • RMA says...

      Would you say they are true to size?

  23. Madeline says...

    36 weeks pregnant and I am loving my Sperry side-zip duck boots. Luckily they almost count as fashionable here in Boston. :) They make a winter version that is lined with Thinsulate. And don’t let the front laces fool you – they are very easy to slip on and off.

  24. Constance Beck-Treadway says...

    Living in Paris at the moment and I have a local friend who wears sparkly dark grey socks with her Converse. Love that look.

    • Joaquina says...

      Here in San Diego it’s common to see patterned or argyle socks with Vans, which I love!

    • Hannah says...

      Loving all the boot feedback! I’m just looking for winter boots in general, but I do have a toddler and 1 on the way and I’m going to check out all these slip on options. Anything to shorten the already long process to get out the door in the winter 😂

  25. cm says...

    ok but who is “trudging through snow and ice”…in suede footwear? pregnant or not!

    • NH observer says...

      Believe it or not, Aquatalia suede wedge booties with a shearling lining will work for ice and snow — I live in NH, walk everywhere, and couldn’t live without them. Sadly, they no longer seem to be available, so I’m praying that the three pairs I bought a year ago will last!

  26. Heidi says...

    Pregnant in the winter? Get some yak trax or studded slip on cleats. You can wear almost any shoe with them and you won’t slip. Even a little fall while pregnant means a trip to the hospital. 100% worth it to wear the ugly cleats!

    • Christine says...

      Very pretty!!

  27. Maggie says...

    I wouldn’t buy lace up winter boots for pregnancy. Choose slip on whenever you can!

  28. RS says...

    Would love to see a librarian who can afford to spend $88 on a cardigan 🙄. For some reason, none of the pieces really appealed to me in this post, though I usually love COJ’s fashion posts. I think I’m at the point where if I’m gonna spend a significant amount of money (and to this public librarian, $88 is SIGNIFICANT) I will be doing so on sustainably sourced items.

  29. K says...

    I wouldn’t consider those cardigans simple. I’ve found classic, simple cardigans at Banana republic and Garnet hill.

  30. Robin says...

    So love these except lace up boots are not something I’d recommend when you need to reach around a baby! Not to mention once you have to hold the baby while putting on your boots. I wore a pair of lined bogs the first two winters with my youngest. My SIL has a pair of back zip Merrill winter boots which I have sought to replicate for years but haven’t found. I don’t know why there aren’t more in the style available. Way better than side zip for balance! But both have a serious advantage on laces. My kids are now six and three and I still only buy footwear I can zip or slip on. Getting out of the house does not need to take ANY longer around here.

  31. Riley says...

    It’s actually really important not to wear heels in pregnancy — it can cause a chain reaction in your musculature that can lead to tightened hips and low back, which can in turn impact baby’s ability to get in position. Please consider not recommending high heeled booties to pregnant women!!

    • A says...

      Also – the relaxin-induced ankle instability! I ended up breaking my foot from a turned ankle while wearing Sandgrens clogs that I’d practically hiked in pre-pregnancy. Next time, flats ONLY. :)

  32. Rachel says...

    For a stylish, comfortable, waterproof winter boot, give Blondos a try! A nordstrom shoe guy talked me into trying them a couple of years ago and they are my go-to shoe from fall through winter. They pair with everything, I can be on my feet ALL day long at events and they trudge through snowy wet streets like a champ!

    • Adrianna says...

      I love Blondos too!! Such a revelation to have cute waterproof shoes!

  33. Cali says...

    Bogs puffy insulated waterproof boots from Nordies are my pick for pregnancy and baby wearing cold weather shoes! Not gorgeous but I can get them on without a hassle (no laces!) and they keep my feet warm and dry.

  34. S says...

    Do not suggest a heel for a pregnant person! If she doesn’t hurt herself by falling on icy sidewalks, she will hurt her already strained back.

    • Audrey says...

      Well to each their own! I wore heeled boots and sometimes pumps when I was pregnant and never got close to falling. Just throwing it out there!

  35. Amanda says...

    Okay. It’s been a tough week, so my fun time has been really spending time with the Winter Wedding question. Might I suggest a Frida Kahlo-inspired look? A simple Cashmere long-sleeve tee (neckline of your choice) tucked into a gorgeous maxi skirt (such as https://francisandbenedict.com/). Brighter colors for day, darker colors and more sparkly accessories for evening.

    Benefits:
    -The high waist means you can eat
    -You can wear fleece-lined leggings underneath
    -You can also wear almost any sock/shoe.

    This is a look I return to often when I’m not sure what to wear to a wedding. It allows me to be warm and comfortable, honors most dress codes/cultural traditions, and it can look really super glam and pretty, especially with attention to hair and makeup.

    • Becky says...

      Love those skirts!

    • AJ says...

      Love this answer! ✨

    • Liz says...

      Wow, I love everything on the Francis & Benedict site. Thanks for the tip!

    • Megan says...

      Beautiful! Love this idea!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      love this, amanda!

  36. Lenae C says...

    Those Stance no-show socks are the best. I’m wearing them right now…with Converse!

  37. liz says...

    love the long sleeve dresses, but i think they look a bit more balanced with shorter lengths. I **think** you have to be pretty skinny/not curvy up top or in the hips to pull off the longer dress styles

    • Boerumama says...

      totally. as a short, curvy person, i think i’d be swallowed in fabric. i like 3/4 length sleeves partly for that reason.

  38. riye says...

    I’m always wearing jeans and flats so for nights out I still wear a black t-shirt but combine it with bigger/flashier jewelry and a fancier cardigan or jacket. Oh and red lipstick. :-D

  39. A Librarian says...

    “Librarian-in-the-best-way”? But we’re all awesome!! ;)
    I get what you’re driving at with the description, but using dated professional stereotypes seems a bit…off-colour given the overall inclusivity and positivity of this blog.

    • A librarian says...

      you aren’t oppressed, friend.

    • Elizabeth says...

      Seriously?! too am a librarian and think this comment is super indicative of people being wayyyy tooooo much about everything on the internet.

    • Elissa says...

      So with you on this. It could’ve been worded like “a cosy sweater to copy the look of your favourite librarian” – because let’s be honest, so many of us had a favourite librarian growing up whom we would STILL love to emulate.

      p.s. I have yet to meet a librarian who ISN’T awesome!

  40. Christina says...

    I see Lily’s name in the photo credits, but I need to know who Lily’s doggo is. CRITICAL INFORMATION. What a cutie! :)

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      that dog is the SWEETEST! he’s actually one of the dogs in our office that we “borrowed” for the shoot :)

  41. Wendy says...

    Hey Joanna,

    I’m a long-time reader and fan of this blog. I know that you rely on sponsored posts to run your business, and as a working woman, I also totally support that!

    You’ve posted a lot about climate change issues recently, which I think is wonderful, however, I would love for your team to consider the impact that many of the brands featured at Nordstrom have on the climate crisis.

    Right now, the fashion industry is responsible for 10% of the world’s carbon emissions (which is more than international flights and maritime shipping combined). Clothing production has doubled since 2000, and a study just a few years ago showed that while people spent 60% more on clothing than in 2000, they only kept those clothes for half as long. 85% of clothing gets dumped in landfills every year, which is enough to fill the entire Sydney harbor annually. Washing clothes, meanwhile, dumps 500,000 tons of microfibers into the ocean each year. Over half of all clothing waste is made up of polyester, which does not break down in the ocean. At the rate the fashion industry is headed, it could bump their share of carbon emissions up to 26% by 2050. Not to mention that the fashion industry is the second-largest consumer of water worldwide. A single pair of jeans uses 2,000 gallons of water to produce (which is equivalent to one person drinking 8 cups of water a day for ten years). Cotton farming is hugely water intensive and wasteful. The fashion industry is also responsible for 20% of all industrial water pollution worldwide. Our consumer habits largely effect women and children (and most of them are living in rural Asia).

    I hate to hijack any of your posts, and that is not my intention here at all. I just think that it would be wonderful if you could highlight some of these issues a little more, and maybe feature more content that includes some of these facts. For a very consumer-focused blog, this would have a huge impact on your readership and the brands they choose to support, and we all know that our collective buying power has the ability to send a powerful message to the fashion industry: My hope is that it’s a message that promotes more sustainable practices and demands more market transparency. I know that you also do a great job of promoting ethical brands on here, but I wonder if there is any way you can tie that into the sponsored posts from companies like Nordstrom/other fast-fashion brands.

    I appreciate your time in reading this and I thank you again for continuing to speak up about climate change!

    • Raquel says...

      Hi Wendy,
      I appreciate your comment as this is something I’m interested in. I wanted to share a couple resources and brands I rely on for sustainable clothing.

      https://goodonyou.eco/
      https://www.thegoodtrade.com/
      Brands: Outerknown and Reformation

    • Ann says...

      Thank you so much for this thoughtful post.

    • Emma says...

      Incredibly tiny thing, but I’ve been on the hunt for a good CREW NECK cardigan for ages and am seriously struggling. I have one that I love and have worn since high school–over a decade of serious use. Very happy it has held up that long but it’s starting to show its age and it seems that cardigans these days (this year?) are nearly always V necks! I think V neck sweaters look weird over many necklines and are not generally as warm. Plus I wear scarves a lot and there’s often a weird gap between the V and the scarf. And if you wear them open, they tend to ‘hang’ more off to the sides. At least on me. Anyway, thought it was funny that all of your cardigan suggestions are, of course, V necks.

    • Alice says...

      Thanks so much for putting this so beautifully and respectfully Wendy! I was appalled to learn recently that many of the companies who offer “free returns” are actually sending most of their returns to the landfill since they don’t consider it worth their time/resources to restock the items. I recently reached out to Third Love (another COJ sponsor) to see what they do with their returned products but never received a response. I’d love to see COJ walk the walk and partner with more sustainable brands as well!

    • Hannah says...

      Agree. Given that climate change is such an issue, it would be wonderful if Cup of Jo could feature more posts on buying sustainability/buying less overall, wearing secondhand/recycled clothing, “re-mixing” your wardrobe aka wearing what you already have in news ways, and so on.

    • Yes this – we need to be thinking about options that aren’t always focused on buy more stuff.

    • Hilary says...

      Wendy-

      Thank you for so eloquently summing up my feelings on this topic! I’d love to see a bigger focus on sustainable fashion or even just reducing our clothing purchases. I would LOVE for Cup of Jo to feature more about sustainable fashion, but even better would be how to repurpose outfits, style a sweater multiple ways (for work and weekends!), etc. Whenever I’m tempted to buy new clothes, I just remind myself that we wear 15% of our clothes 85% of the time!

    • Robin says...

      Yes! I love the look of some of these options but about a year ago I committed to trying to make better choices – not to buy more if I can avoid it, and choose second hand or local/fair trade/better material dye etc choices when I do. Its more expensive for sure but that helps me think twice, and seek out secondhand/fix what I have, which is good!

      @45wears is an instagram account which I’ve found really inspiring. The photos aren’t flashy but they’re real and the writing is lovely. And she’s from Toronto, so lots of cancon for my canadian peeps. Joanna you might want to consider reaching out to Caroline for a week of outfits – she’s lovely, and has a lot to say, about miscarriage and running a small business and raising kids with special needs and other important things as well as better clothing choices.

    • Ash says...

      The Good On You resource rules!

      Thank you for sharing! We are facing unique times that will require different action.

    • C. says...

      I’m not commenting on the fashion industry or any of the issues mentioned- I don’t know enough about them to speak with any authority. And I don’t need for this blog to be the platform that answers all of those questions anyway. I can do my own research and form my own opinions. But so often the discussions here seem to bring up a lot of impassioned reactions and pleas like this one – which brings up this other thing that I’ve been meaning to ask of commenters for a while now: if you are going to quote statistics and facts, and you want to be taken seriously, please consider citing your sources. Remember nobody knows who you are, or where you get your information. There are a lot of words and ideas flying around all the time, everywhere, covering a broad spectrum of views and perspectives, a lot of it contradictory, most of it uncredited, to the point that it might as well just have been pulled out of thin air. As a reader it’s really hard to distinguish what is reliable and well-researched from what is just opinion or half truths fueled by emotion, cherry-picked to suit a particular agenda. I’m not saying you’re doing that here, I’m saying that I can’t really tell. It’s not that I think these issues are not important, or don’t have merit, but it’s exhausting to try to sort it all out. I end up automatically dismissing most comments because i can’t ascertain their accuracy. You’d be doing readers more of a favor if you could let us know how and when and where you came by your information.

    • Wendy says...

      Hi C,

      I appreciate your response to my original comment. You are absolutely right and I completely agree about data/information flying around all over the place and how difficult it has become to distinguish truth from fiction or even just trying to comb through truth that is stretched very thin. As a researcher, I also realized that I neglected to state my sources (which is the number one part of my job!). You are right that it does people a disservice when we neglect to share our sources.

      Thank you for calling me out and for the reminder. I hope other readers will also be aware of this.

      Here are some sources for the facts I shared earlier (based on research from several reputable agencies) for further reading if it interests you:
      https://www.mckinsey.com/business-functions/sustainability/our-insights/style-thats-sustainable-a-new-fast-fashion-formula

      https://www.ellenmacarthurfoundation.org/assets/downloads/publications/A-New-Textiles-Economy_Summary-of-Findings_Updated_1-12-17.pdf

      http://www.europarl.europa.eu/RegData/etudes/BRIE/2019/633143/EPRS_BRI(2019)633143_EN.pdf

      https://www.unenvironment.org/news-and-stories/story/putting-brakes-fast-fashion

      https://www.wri.org/blog/2019/01/numbers-economic-social-and-environmental-impacts-fast-fashion

      https://www.unece.org/fileadmin/DAM/RCM_Website/RFSD_2018_Side_event_sustainable_fashion.pdf

      https://www.wri.org/blog/2017/07/apparel-industrys-environmental-impact-6-graphics

      https://portals.iucn.org/library/node/46622

      https://www.nytimes.com/2013/07/15/world/asia/bangladesh-pollution-told-in-colors-and-smells.html

    • spark says...

      I would love it if there were some CoJ articles that reflected the growing concerns of climate change. I wish I could do more but being a mum of two energetic kids and working means that I often don’t have the time. I’ve come to the understanding is that I just need to make small every day changes to have an impact. One thing I am trying is to be careful with what my family consumes. I would love to read some articles that address mindful consumerism. I love the motherhood series and also what they wore for the week and would love something along the lines of articles discussing what individual women are doing in their everyday choices. I know this could be read cynically ie give me digestible tips for climate change but part of the appeal of those series is the focus on one individual and seeing how they see clothing/ motherhood. Most times it really isn’t the outfit or the custom but the curiosity of peeking into someone else’s thought process and influences. I would really enjoy being inspired to think about every day practice in new ways in a series like this.

    • Lisa says...

      Thank you for putting into words exactly how I feel. I understand that Cup of Jo is – besides being a wonderful community and provider of so much intelligent content – also a business, but I can’t help but feel disappointed when I read posts like these.

      Love, Lisa from Denmark

    • Heather says...

      There is actually a site that is address this right now – The Garment (http://www.thegarment.ca) – which is designed to highlight ethical makers using sustainable fabrics. Morgan, who started it, actually left her job because she felt so passionate about this topic – she would really be an interesting person to highlight on Cup of Jo, team!

      Anyways – she really does the work on all the makers to ensure she believes in them and then highlights them with discount codes. She has a really big presence on instagram (thegarmentlife) and encourages people to buy better, not more.

      Shopping and the instant gratification we get is a hard habit to break – when I was younger and had less money, I didn’t feel like I could manage it given I was still *buildng out my wardrobe* through pregnancies and new jobs, then the price point also tends to be higher.

      Now, I’m privileged to be in a spot where I can afford to concentrate my purchases on only a handful a year. One thing that has really helped me to cut down on spending is I force myself to go through a whole season without something I think I need, to make sure its not just something I want. I’ll actually think about all the times it would have filled a gap in my wardrobe and then the next season, I’m able to buy it knowing I’ll get tons use. This way I also tend to catch discounts that are offered as well since I don’t immediately need it.

      One more thing to shout out- Pyne and Smith Dresses which are ethically made in California – I love them!
      https://www.pyneandsmith.com

    • Samantha says...

      I totally agree!
      I think there are PLENTY of sustainable brands that would have plenty of options for all of the items in the post. (Everlane alone has multiple options for the cardigan question)

    • Erin says...

      YES!! Wendy thank you for this! I totally agree and now only have a clean conscience when I shop sustainably.

    • Hilary says...

      C.- I can’t reply directly to you but hopefully you see this! You’re exactly right that the burden of proof is on those making a claim. From an oversimplified logical level, I just think there’s no way fast fashion can be GOOD for the environment. However, if you’re interested in reading more:
      https://www.businessinsider.com/fast-fashion-environmental-impact-pollution-emissions-waste-water-2019-10

      https://www.latimes.com/business/story/2019-11-03/fast-fashion-sustainable

      https://www.nytimes.com/2019/09/03/books/review/how-fast-fashion-is-destroying-the-planet.html (NYT article)

      https://www.unenvironment.org/news-and-stories/story/putting-brakes-fast-fashion

    • Hanna says...

      Thank you all for these comments – would love for CoJ to take these onboard. We all need to find our individual ways of dealing with the climate crisis, but a few ideas and a little help regarding “fast fashion” from my favorite blog would be wonderful!!

  42. Ellen says...

    I feel like this article isn’t as well-written as a normal COJ article would be. Just like your writers are so good and not clunky and this is forced. I love the questions and would love to see this be regular if it was better written.

    • Amy says...

      I agree Ellen. There was something “off” about this sponsored post compared to others on CoJ. The “reader” questions seemed like they were written to promote specific products at Nordstrom.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      Oh, they’re real reader questions! They were mostly comments from past reader questions pests

  43. Alison says...

    I buy cardigans from J. Crew Factory nearly in bulk. I probably own 20.

    • Cynthia says...

      I like their cardigans too.

  44. Meg says...

    I have been pregnant TWICE in the winter. My number one recommendation for any kind of boot are yaktrax! I put them on my boots and never took them off. It was a lifesaver during these midwest winters where we always end up getting some form of freezing rain that coats everything in ice. There are videos of kids ice skating down our street – and I was stable and safe.

    • Heather says...

      Link for the amazon socks please! Love the 10$ price tag! 😉

  45. Tara says...

    Velvet is so awesome for a winter wedding!

  46. Jessica says...

    I feel like these winter wedding guest dresses run a bit close to the look I would categorize as “spinster aunt.” Well, maybe except for the velvet. Just me?

    • Rosie says...

      I think that if you are really tall and really thin without much of a chest those dresses probably look very chic with sparkly earrings, a cute shoe, and bold makeup. For those of us with big boobs, I think they might veer a bit Little House On The Prairie. I am Team Jumpsuit for winter weddings.

    • JRG says...

      lol me and my friend were joking that “farmer grandma” dresses are super in right now. with the right jewelry, hair, shoes, and makeup i think they can look cute but i’m with you, it’s a fine line.

    • Lorange says...

      I don’t disagree but I have this sinking feeling that “spinster aunt” is what’s in right now. Or on it’s way in.
      Love the velvet tho!

    • Mel says...

      I will be attending a winter wedding in a black sequin jumpsuit. I LOVE it and it can be dressed down with a denim jacket and sneakers for a cool dinner look

    • Erin says...

      I don’t have any winter weddings to attend, alas, but if I did I’d go for a very long pleated skirt, heels and a fitted or slinky top. (However, I have been frantically trying to drum up any plausible excuse to buy a very long pleated skirt, so I may be biased, LOL.)

    • Sarz says...

      Ha ha! Spinster aunt? Farmer grandma? Both seem applicable here. I love Nordstrom, but when a trend comes along that isn’t for me, I’m so grateful I can stick with the vintage clothes that I know suit my frame.

      This has been my plug for 1950s/early 1960s dress silhouettes, for those of us who aren’t tall and willowy. ;-)

    • shannon says...

      Try adding a layer or two to a dress you already have! We went to a wedding the weekend after Thanksgiving in a literal snowstorm in Minneapolis. I wore a floor length dress in a lightweight fabric that I’ve previously worn to summer weddings. Then, I layered leggings and wool socks underneath and a faux fur shrug on top. You could barely see my shoes, so I went the warmest route possible with low heeled ankle booties.

    • Danielle says...

      🤣 I’m going to my sister’s wedding in a little over a week, and aside from her childless state, I AM the “spinster aunt.” The dress I’m planning on is midi length with longer sleeves. Long live spinster aunts!

  47. Cate says...

    love uniqlo merino wool cardigans for simple work layers.

  48. Sal says...

    Winter weddings are so hard to dress for!

    My cousin got married in February a some years back, when I was still a poor student (and February in England is the worst month of the year – weather-wise), and I just COULD NOT find an outfit.
    Ended up in black office trousers, a patterned top, and a “smart winter coat” I borrowed from a friend, which was 2 sizes too big.
    I hated everything about the “look”, and hated it even more when one of my tall, willowy cousins turned up in a dress exactly like you’ve described above.
    Damn it.

  49. AR says...

    I’d have to suggest Blundstones for winter pregnancy boots. They’re pull on which is key with a big bump. And they last forever!

    • Joanna says...

      I second this, they’re currently getting me through this winter, and the lack of laces is a necessity (my 31 week belly ached just looking at all the laces in the above suggestions, and my lower back laughed at even the low heel of the bootie).

    • Mags says...

      I just got my first pair of Blundstones and I live them! They are a little hard to get on in the beginning (though won’t be as challenging as those laces) but are super comfortable. Also most don’t have a heel and have grips which are important. Finally I find them super comfortable after minimal break-in, which is also so important when you’re pregnant (or for me, all the time).

  50. El says...

    This is such a fun post! Everlane also has great simple cardigans– I wear their ribbed black wool cardigan as a top all the time.

  51. Elizabeth says...

    Going to disagree with the boot recommendation for the new mom – avoid laces! If you’re baby wearing or carrying a baby it’s nearly impossible to bend over, and it’s just so much faster and easier to have something that slips on.

    • Karyn says...

      Scrolled down here to the comments to say the same thing! Slip-ons are a MUST. When pregnant in winter in Chicago, I wore some fur-lined clogs with a big, treaded rubber heel from Crocs that I just stepped into without bending in the slightest. (And for years later with little ones in arms, too! Also very fast and handy for childcare dropoff when you need to take your shoes on and off very quickly.)

    • Thuy says...

      Agree! I also ended up getting fur lined crocs on Amazon since they were cheap and would fit my swollen feet (pre and postpartum) but almost ended up buying from this brand called Kizik after googling “hands free shoes” – apparently they are designed to just slip on without having to bend over! ( I suppose a long shoe horn could work too?)

    • Ari says...

      Totally agree. I just had mom friends over for brunch this weekend and I said it took me only two weeks to fully understand how important slip-ons are to moms. No more laces!!

    • Martha says...

      AMEN! It is impossible to tie shoes of any kind when baby wearing!!!!!! Everlane made the best pointy toe slip on sneakers a few years back. Once you break them in they are the BEST and easiest shoe to wear and they go with everything.