Have a Lovely Weekend.

Your channel is awesome! And you have an edge over David Chang, because you’re doing SECOND breakfast, too. The most important meal of the day! ;)

We’ve been using Weleda Skin Food since Caroline rec’d it in an article last year! Soooo much love for this product! I’m like the dad in my big fat Greek wedding with the window spray – I put skin food on everything my kids have and it always makes it better! They sell it in a tub, too – it’s a thicker texture and I slather it on my daughter’s hands at night in the winter so they don’t get chapped. Caroline’s rec’s are the best!!

Agreed. We have got to stop putting actors on a pedestal. They aren’t superior to us just because they star in movies.

100% agree Madeline.

…and so very much room for guests! It’s almost like they are planning ahead for those “The Real World” style moments where people are set up to be eavesdropping on each other.

I realize that maybe you don’t know where to find the longer clip. Warren shared it herself on twitter: https://twitter.com/ewarren/status/1182482749661368320

The entire clip is just wonderful.

I love her all ways, sharp and suffering no fools, and heartfelt too.

That’s good to know and I’m going to watch the longer clip. Because I would NOT describe the “assuming he can find one” answer in the short-clip as a “brilliant answer”. I find it reflects the whole problem in America right now… that the country can’t seem to sit with their differences without mocking / belittling those who have differing views, opinions or beliefs. It implies that people of faith are unable to find partners because of their personality or views, which is entirely untrue. And amounts to nothing more than a very childish dig. Both Liberal and Conservative America seem to have forgotten that a society with differing views and opinions is richer than a uniform one. But the key to such a society thriving is a foundation of mutual respect and civility, with adherence to the constitutional rights guaranteed to all. Until the cheap digs stop and educated debate / dialogue returns, you are going to be in a situation where the orange nightmares of the world continue to be elected into power by people who feel belittled.

S* I absolutely agree.

That’s great. I don’t know if my experience is typical for those in the IF/recurrent miscarriage trenches, but I focused so intensely on being able to have a baby over the three-plus years of trying, failing, trying again that I devoted absolutely NO TIME to the question of actually parenting the child when he arrived. Crazy!! would love to hear from others.

I know everyone handles every experience differently, but as someone who didn’t have any younger cousins and never babysat or helped care for little kids, and then spent 2.5 years having 3 miscarriages before giving birth my daughter (and being terrified of something happening to her because of that), I would think that your spending your whole life helping care for babies probably hugely helped your ability to easily care for your own child.

I do agree with you about ignorance being bliss. Both of my successful pregnancies I had some test done that wasn’t done decades ago and there was some questionable result that had to be retested. It ended up being fine but caused a week of worry and I don’t think that anxiety just disappeared. I think, at least for me, I would have been better off with less information.

I had my daughter at 29 weeks after 51 days on hospital bedrest. Then she came home from the NICU two months later. I was still not quite recovered from my emergency c-section and infection. When my daughter came home all she did was cry and eat. She did not sleep unless she was held. Being a preemie she came home before her due date. We could not let her cry without holding her. She cried for 4 months straight. During that time my father died. I didn’t sleep. I had help during the day so I could nap but other than that I was awake with a screaming baby who only stopped screaming when she was eating. She weighed 25 pounds at 10 months! So yeah, being a new mom can be super effing hard. My good friend had a magical unicorn baby that slept 12 hours from the get go and never cried. She didn’t feel that motherhood was that difficult. It’s all relative.

Oh Lisa! Consider yourself hugged. Your new momhood sounds brutal.

Sounds like you also had a happy, healthy baby. Not everyone is as lucky. I don’t think this comment reflected that the mother was “intimidated” – she was exhausted.

I appreciate your comment and at first had the same thought in terms of her response not opening the door to further conversation. But then I sat with it a bit longer and decided it doesn’t need further conversation because it is as simple as that! “Good for them, not for me” is a legit way to end this discussion and accept that everyone can hold their own beliefs.

Also, I don’t see how it was snide? Maybe you are referencing the “assuming you can find one” remark at the end. I took that to not be an insult to Christians but rather a way of blatantly expressing women’s equality (a man can’t just go find a wife; it is a mutual decision).

You really should look at – and Cup of Jo really should link to – the longer clip.
She goes on to discuss her Christian upbringing, literally singing the song she learned in childhood – “They are yellow, black and white. They are precious in his sight. Jesus loves all the children of the world.” – as an explanation of how her Christian faith taught her to love people as they are. It kinda made me tear up, and I’m sad to see that the longer clip isn’t being shared – because the shorter one is open to this criticism from people who don’t see it.

Agreed. Thank you.

CE, thank you for sharing this perspective… I echo many of your sentiments and appreciated reading your kind and thoughtful response to her remarks.

You say you are against alienating people with different views, but you are not acknowledging that people who fight against gay marriage are attempting to alienate gay people. Her quote makes perfect sense – if you don’t believe in gay marriage, don’t enter a gay marriage. But don’t ask people who have been oppressed and alienated to agree with and coddle the people who are inflicting those things on them. Gay people are not asking those people to live a certain way or attempting to take away peoples rights. There is no excuse for attempting to take away people’s rights that have no bearing on your own life.

Her quip was not pro-gay or anti-christian, it was pro do your own thing. Believe what you believe. She quipped at the idea that someone would want to impede on someone else’s rights. Practice what you wanna practice. Sounds healthy and productive to me.

“We can disagree and still love each other, unless your disagreement is rooted in my oppression and denial of my humanity and right to exist.” ~James Baldwin

This isn’t a “two sides” issue. This is about recognizing the humanity of others, which shouldn’t ever be up for debate. When people are fighting for equal rights, we must believe them and support them. I don’t have any sympathy for people who haven’t caught up yet.

Why should we coddle those “good people” who have views, even if they were raised with those views, that aim to bash and diminish the existence of other groups of people? On another topic, I’m sure lots of racists were raised to think that way, but then you grow up and ideally go out in the world and educate yourself and open up your mind and maybe even have the tough discussion with your family that they’re views are abhorrent. I can’t stand it when anyone says we people of color should love and respect racists into loving and respecting us.

Similarly, I understand my own straight privilege- I don’t have to think twice about walking down the street as a woman holding my husband’s hand. I wasn’t raised to think this; I was raised in a conservative religion and culture where being gay is just wrong but I always spoke out against gay-bashing anyway when I heard it amongst my family. I didn’t know all the facts as I was a teen at the time, but despite what I was taught, my moral compass told me it’s wrong to wanting another human being to suffer and be treated second class for loving someone of the same sex.

I liked Elizabeth Warren’s response ok. I did not find it snide, although I can see how someone would have. I agree that it is a huge mistake to lump Christians into any one demographic. These days there are some really interesting, progressive, positive and dynamic changes happening in Christianity. I also think when high profile religious leaders use their platform to advance destructive politics using Christian language and ideology the damage they do has fallout for other Christians. And it does seems a lot to ask of a candidate to adequately address all aspects of LGBTQ concerns, and Christianity, in a response to one question at a town hall. I think she is smart, and I am always impressed with how articulate and quick on her feet she is. I am leaning heavily toward supporting her. But for myself I have made the mistake in the past of thinking I know a candidate from clips like this. I was a Hillary Clinton supporter in 2016, and considered myself an informed voter, but I was dismayed with myself after she lost to realize that I hadn’t been clear on where she stood on a lot of issues- I just simply liked her best. Which is a shame because she had some strong, constructive policies, and I would have been a better voter and citizen if I had been able to talk about those. I had good intentions, but I’ve made the mistake of being pulled into viewing the campaign as a reality tv show instead of a election with serious consequences. Character is so important, of course, but I feel a responsibility for this coming election to be a better voter, to focus on issues and policy, and to not ever allow my choices to be spoon-fed to me (there seem to be a lot of destructive interests that count on us being easily manipulated). Other commenters here have shared that the extended clip of Elizabeth Warren’s response is actually more thoughtful and insightful, and gives better context, and I intend to take some time to watch that (thank you to those who pointed this out!). It’s so easy to view the candidates through the same lens that we view entertainers and tv shows and sporting events. I guess it comes with the territory, and candidates have to market themselves, and this is how the machine seems to work. But I think the burden is on us to look beyond it, put our reactions and emotions aside, avoid dualistic thinking, and give calm, clear, serious thought and analysis to what is being discussed. She may not give the appearance of having done so from this clip, but there is probably more to learn. And I feel a need to dig deeper, take a broader perspective, examine concerns from other points of view, talk to people, turn on my brain and engage in critical thinking. We are such a complex divided country, and the issues now are so dire and urgent. What we’ve been doing in the past isn’t working now. I just don’t think we can move forward unless we change. If we want to get better then we have to engage better.

CE, I don’t think the work today is in convincing those that remain bigoted to give up their views. I don’t think Elizabeth’s response was meant to reach out to them, or further a conversation with them. She’s declaring herself an ally, and I completely respect that. If by 2019 one hasn’t come around to respecting all people in who they love, then too bad. You’re going to be marginalized and poked at and made to feel uncomfortable, and it’s 100% your choice. It’s not anyone’s job to try and win you over. I’m going to spend my energy on supporting the people who are still being oppressed. This issue doesn’t have two sides. I was raised to be racist and bigoted…..I gave all that up because it’s wrong, zero sympathy for anyone unwilling to do the same.

Lol! I thought this the moment I saw the price on the link! Even Whole Foods has it cheaper…

I am so sorry for your loss. Your words do not go unnoticed. You have reminded me to call my dad, who has cancer, to tell him I love him.
Take care xo

I also have Caroline to thank for Weleda and I purchase online from Target. It really is the best.

Me too! I shared the one about the Call Me By Your Name sequel and then the candles and then the cake to the same person as the candles. It was a busy lunch hour….sharing, crying (Mindy K quote).

Thanks for this. I was thinking about the history of Charleston when it was referenced earlier and wasn’t sure exactly how to raise it. Your comment is such a thoughtful way to address this issue. Thank you.

The BBC just covered a story on this issue in the South- namely Charleston. https://www.bbc.com/news/world-us-canada-49842601

Thank you for this comment <3

Thank you for this.

Hi Laura. I don’t know what you’re going through, but I’m thinking of you and saying a prayer that things get better!

Big hugs, Laura. Thanks for being part of this community, too.

Sorry, Laura. Read a wonderful quote recently about patience and acceptance being key to getting through problems. Patience because everything passes and acceptance because so much of life is totally out of our control. Hope things improve soon.

Let’s be kind to gays as Christians.

I only see it as mocking fundamentalist Christians that insist everyone else must believe what they do or they’re going to hell. Everyone is entitled to their own faith and beliefs, but it crosses a line when you use that faith to justify discrimination against other humans.

I am both a Christian and a supporter of same-sex marriage.

Interestingly, I found Pete Buttigieg’s answer (a few weeks ago) more compassionate to all. He admitted that people of a certain generation have seen a lot of social change in their lifetime. And was empathetic to that experience. It was much more nuanced and less “gotcha”/click-baity than Warren’s response. (Though, to be fair, marriage has been defined in the Bible differently at different periods.)

Buttigieg consistently speaks respectfully on this topic.

https://www.cnn.com/videos/politics/2019/10/11/pete-buttigieg-religious-liberty-lgbtq-town-hall-vpx.cnn/video/playlists/cnn-lgbtq-town-hall/

(I’m not american and not interested in american politics); I think the answer is clever, not mean. Why would you think it’s mean? equal rights are exactly here to protect your faith, as long as your faith doesn’t limit my rights… The fact that Jo published your comment is quite remarkable. Bravo Jo.

Respectfully, I don’t believe that she was mocking Christians. The question is worded in such a way as to suggest that, just because the hypothetical supporter believes that marriage is between one man and one woman, it provides shelter to deny marriage equality to people who do not believe that. What she was saying, in an elegant – and yes, slightly tart – way is that she’s ok with you holding that belief and practicing that belief for yourself. But she’s not ok with you trying to impose that belief on others.

I do not think she was mocking Christians, she rather was mocking people who think their personal beliefs should inform public policy.
I am a Christian, and I do not think that the moral choices I make for myself based on my faith should be made law.

Errr, many, if not most, Christians I know don’t define marriage that way, so you may wish to reconsider your use of the term “Christians” as an umbrella one referring to those who define marriage that way. Thanks.

As a Christian, I didn’t find the comment mocking. Rather, pointed. Who are we, as Christians, to judge? We are to be a walking example of love.

By the same means, it is well documented throughout recent history, that Christian Missionaries in the name of converting others to their beliefs went about totally altering the local practices/faith system/ destroying local religious relics because it did not confirm with their faith or was too erotic. So let’s just live and let live.

“Shame on you” is a rather unkind thing to say. And just a note to others who didn’t watch the clip, there is no mention of Christians specifically.

I see at as mocking fundamentalist Christians (not all Christians) that espouse homophobic views and believe that anyone who doesn’t share their beliefs is going to hell. Everyone is entitled to their own faith and beliefs, but it crosses an unacceptable line when people use that faith as a justification to hate and discriminate against others. We’re all human beings.

This podcast (the hosts are former Evangelicals) has taught me so much about white Evangelical Christians. Much of it is disturbing but also fascinating: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/straight-white-american-jesus/id1441649707

I thought her comment was wonderful, and not at all mocking to Christians. It is disrespectful to homophobes, which to be honest, I can live with.

Depriving someone from having a right you have because of your personal beliefs is not a valid opinion, and frankly does not need to be responded to with kindness.

A valid opinion is “I don’t like the idea of two men or two women marrying.” I disagree strongly, but of course we are all entitled to our views. What we are not entitled to is to demand that our specific beliefs translate into laws which give others fewer rights than we have.

I would say exactly the same if someone were suggesting the removal of your right, as a Christian, to worship or to marry the person you love for any reason.

I loved Warren’s response. It really honed in on the issue – marriage is personal. Do what you choose, but don’t expect your homophobic views to be given any weight. And maybe realise that if you don’t believe every American is equal under the law, you may have a lack of empathy which members of the opposite sex may find troubling and unattractive.

How is she mocking Christians, Gina? Isn’t what she said the truth?! If you don’t agree with same-sex marriage for ANY REASON, religious or not, don’t marry someone from the same sex. End of story.

I could see where you’d think it was a flippant response and perhaps wish that she would take beliefs of this nature more seriously. I could also see where you dismiss it as “click-baity.” As an American who is very interested in American politics and is tired of having to be tolerant of beliefs that literally strip whole groups of people of their rights and livelihoods (please Google the case that is currently in the Supreme Court re: the rights of LGBQT people in the workplace), I found it brilliant in that it shows that Elizabeth Warren is not going to waste time pandering to people who believe discrimination is right. By making it a “zinger” remark, she guarantees that her message will be shared over and over. Cup of Jo team, thank you for sharing this.

Anyone who feels hurt by her remark because of your beliefs (I refuse to label them Christian because I know many Christian people who support same sex marriage and are horrified that their religion is being co-opted for discrimination), imagine if someone could fire you for those beliefs. Imagine if that WAS UP FOR DEBATE IN THE SUPREME COURT RIGHT NOW.

This is why it’s irresponsible to only post the short clip.
Warren immediately goes on to discuss her Christian upbringing, literally *singing* the song she learned in childhood – “They are yellow, black and white. They are precious in his sight. Jesus loves all the children of the world.” – as an explanation of how her Christian faith taught her to love people as they are. It kinda made me tear up, and I’m sad to see that the longer clip isn’t being shared. Without the context, you think her comment is mocking Christians. With the context her comment is ABOUT being Christian.

She is not mocking Christians. I know many smart, thoughtful, loving Christians who would never be as entitled to assume that their personal beliefs should govern another person’s life and happiness. Especially in law. Her point was, if you don’t believe in gay marriage (Christian or not), don’t enter a gay marriage. But your PERSONAL belief is not law or fact or anything a gay person needs to live their life by.

People need to watch her entire response, not just the clip. Watch it. Then, the case will be closed.

I am a Christian and agree with the many who expressed that my beliefs and faith should not be made law. It frustrates me when other Christians believe this should be the case. if I lived in a country where they tried to impose a religion I didn’t believe I on me, would it make me want to believe it or like the religion? No way. There are so many other Christians who are like me, but those who aren’t can be so loud and disruptive that they give Christians a bad name. I like that Warren referenced that song… Truly one of the foundations of Christianity is to love all people. That is what Jesus strived to do and what he calls Christians to do too.

Thank you to all the Christians who are responding to this argument (and ironic judgment of Jo and Co) by pointing out that it’s only mocking to those particular Christians who believe that their beliefs should be enforced upon everyone, and for rightly pointing out that if you watch the entire clip, you’ll notice that Senator Warren is herself an open-minded, empathetic Christian who is actually living Jesus’ message of love without condition (and Jesus was also against the state enforcing religious beliefs on its citizens).

*forced, not enforced

She’s not mocking Christians; she’s mocking hateful Christians. If Christians themselves could begin to acknowledge the difference there, and own up to their immense and rarely-discussed “Christian privilege” in the US—-and OMFG why do we not talk more about this issue more!?!?!—-then we wouldn’t be having such a debate about what is essentially hate speech toward the LGBTQ community.

She isn’t mocking Christians – if can find and watch the entire clip, she goes on to explain how her Christian upbringing has influenced her to express kindness towards all people. Highly suggest watching the whole thing.

I’m Christian and I didn’t feel mocked at all, bc my faith tells me to love all people and I also know that the laws of this country shouldn’t be based in anyone’s faith. No one gets to speak for all Christians.

My daughter turns 3 in 3 weeks too!!
Congrats to us both for surviving, haha

The picture online makes it look plastic but I’m pretty sure it’s not

the one i ordered (on amazon, i think) was plastic!

P.S. how exactly is one supposed to use this “miracle” cream? i tried it for a week but wasn’t happy with it, so now im wondering if i was doing it wrong.

Yes, my last two bottles were also plastic. (Purchased in Greece) However, I still love it, I slather it on my face and hands every night, and a teensy tiny bit under the eye area before applying concealer.

Thank you for this; I was coming here to post the same. I’ve always loved Weleda’s Skin Food for my hands, but stopped using it when they switched to all plastic (yes, the screw-on top was plastic before). I now use Trader Joe’s Ultra Moisturizing Hand Cream, and love it just as much, if not more. Sometimes our dollars are the only thing that speak.

Write a letter or email and let Weleda know that you don’t want plastic. A few letters can make a big difference!

Thanks, I’ll try the TJ’s one AND write a letter. I adore Skin Food, and it used to always be in the aluminum tube, so I was confused and disappointed when they switched to plastic.

Adorable!