Have a Lovely Weekend.

Your channel is awesome! And you have an edge over David Chang, because you’re doing SECOND breakfast, too. The most important meal of the day! ;)

We’ve been using Weleda Skin Food since Caroline rec’d it in an article last year! Soooo much love for this product! I’m like the dad in my big fat Greek wedding with the window spray – I put skin food on everything my kids have and it always makes it better! They sell it in a tub, too – it’s a thicker texture and I slather it on my daughter’s hands at night in the winter so they don’t get chapped. Caroline’s rec’s are the best!!

Agreed. We have got to stop putting actors on a pedestal. They aren’t superior to us just because they star in movies.

100% agree Madeline.

…and so very much room for guests! It’s almost like they are planning ahead for those “The Real World” style moments where people are set up to be eavesdropping on each other.

I realize that maybe you don’t know where to find the longer clip. Warren shared it herself on twitter: https://twitter.com/ewarren/status/1182482749661368320

The entire clip is just wonderful.

I love her all ways, sharp and suffering no fools, and heartfelt too.

That’s good to know and I’m going to watch the longer clip. Because I would NOT describe the “assuming he can find one” answer in the short-clip as a “brilliant answer”. I find it reflects the whole problem in America right now… that the country can’t seem to sit with their differences without mocking / belittling those who have differing views, opinions or beliefs. It implies that people of faith are unable to find partners because of their personality or views, which is entirely untrue. And amounts to nothing more than a very childish dig. Both Liberal and Conservative America seem to have forgotten that a society with differing views and opinions is richer than a uniform one. But the key to such a society thriving is a foundation of mutual respect and civility, with adherence to the constitutional rights guaranteed to all. Until the cheap digs stop and educated debate / dialogue returns, you are going to be in a situation where the orange nightmares of the world continue to be elected into power by people who feel belittled.

S* I absolutely agree.

That’s great. I don’t know if my experience is typical for those in the IF/recurrent miscarriage trenches, but I focused so intensely on being able to have a baby over the three-plus years of trying, failing, trying again that I devoted absolutely NO TIME to the question of actually parenting the child when he arrived. Crazy!! would love to hear from others.

I know everyone handles every experience differently, but as someone who didn’t have any younger cousins and never babysat or helped care for little kids, and then spent 2.5 years having 3 miscarriages before giving birth my daughter (and being terrified of something happening to her because of that), I would think that your spending your whole life helping care for babies probably hugely helped your ability to easily care for your own child.

I do agree with you about ignorance being bliss. Both of my successful pregnancies I had some test done that wasn’t done decades ago and there was some questionable result that had to be retested. It ended up being fine but caused a week of worry and I don’t think that anxiety just disappeared. I think, at least for me, I would have been better off with less information.

I had my daughter at 29 weeks after 51 days on hospital bedrest. Then she came home from the NICU two months later. I was still not quite recovered from my emergency c-section and infection. When my daughter came home all she did was cry and eat. She did not sleep unless she was held. Being a preemie she came home before her due date. We could not let her cry without holding her. She cried for 4 months straight. During that time my father died. I didn’t sleep. I had help during the day so I could nap but other than that I was awake with a screaming baby who only stopped screaming when she was eating. She weighed 25 pounds at 10 months! So yeah, being a new mom can be super effing hard. My good friend had a magical unicorn baby that slept 12 hours from the get go and never cried. She didn’t feel that motherhood was that difficult. It’s all relative.

Oh Lisa! Consider yourself hugged. Your new momhood sounds brutal.

Sounds like you also had a happy, healthy baby. Not everyone is as lucky. I don’t think this comment reflected that the mother was “intimidated” – she was exhausted.

I appreciate your comment and at first had the same thought in terms of her response not opening the door to further conversation. But then I sat with it a bit longer and decided it doesn’t need further conversation because it is as simple as that! “Good for them, not for me” is a legit way to end this discussion and accept that everyone can hold their own beliefs.

Also, I don’t see how it was snide? Maybe you are referencing the “assuming you can find one” remark at the end. I took that to not be an insult to Christians but rather a way of blatantly expressing women’s equality (a man can’t just go find a wife; it is a mutual decision).

You really should look at – and Cup of Jo really should link to – the longer clip.
She goes on to discuss her Christian upbringing, literally singing the song she learned in childhood – “They are yellow, black and white. They are precious in his sight. Jesus loves all the children of the world.” – as an explanation of how her Christian faith taught her to love people as they are. It kinda made me tear up, and I’m sad to see that the longer clip isn’t being shared – because the shorter one is open to this criticism from people who don’t see it.

Agreed. Thank you.

CE, thank you for sharing this perspective… I echo many of your sentiments and appreciated reading your kind and thoughtful response to her remarks.

You say you are against alienating people with different views, but you are not acknowledging that people who fight against gay marriage are attempting to alienate gay people. Her quote makes perfect sense – if you don’t believe in gay marriage, don’t enter a gay marriage. But don’t ask people who have been oppressed and alienated to agree with and coddle the people who are inflicting those things on them. Gay people are not asking those people to live a certain way or attempting to take away peoples rights. There is no excuse for attempting to take away people’s rights that have no bearing on your own life.

Her quip was not pro-gay or anti-christian, it was pro do your own thing. Believe what you believe. She quipped at the idea that someone would want to impede on someone else’s rights. Practice what you wanna practice. Sounds healthy and productive to me.

“We can disagree and still love each other, unless your disagreement is rooted in my oppression and denial of my humanity and right to exist.” ~James Baldwin

This isn’t a “two sides” issue. This is about recognizing the humanity of others, which shouldn’t ever be up for debate. When people are fighting for equal rights, we must believe them and support them. I don’t have any sympathy for people who haven’t caught up yet.

Why should we coddle those “good people” who have views, even if they were raised with those views, that aim to bash and diminish the existence of other groups of people? On another topic, I’m sure lots of racists were raised to think that way, but then you grow up and ideally go out in the world and educate yourself and open up your mind and maybe even have the tough discussion with your family that they’re views are abhorrent. I can’t stand it when anyone says we people of color should love and respect racists into loving and respecting us.

Similarly, I understand my own straight privilege- I don’t have to think twice about walking down the street as a woman holding my husband’s hand. I wasn’t raised to think this; I was raised in a conservative religion and culture where being gay is just wrong but I always spoke out against gay-bashing anyway when I heard it amongst my family. I didn’t know all the facts as I was a teen at the time, but despite what I was taught, my moral compass told me it’s wrong to wanting another human being to suffer and be treated second class for loving someone of the same sex.

I liked Elizabeth Warren’s response ok. I did not find it snide, although I can see how someone would have. I agree that it is a huge mistake to lump Christians into any one demographic. These days there are some really interesting, progressive, positive and dynamic changes happening in Christianity. I also think when high profile religious leaders use their platform to advance destructive politics using Christian language and ideology the damage they do has fallout for other Christians. And it does seems a lot to ask of a candidate to adequately address all aspects of LGBTQ concerns, and Christianity, in a response to one question at a town hall. I think she is smart, and I am always impressed with how articulate and quick on her feet she is. I am leaning heavily toward supporting her. But for myself I have made the mistake in the past of thinking I know a candidate from clips like this. I was a Hillary Clinton supporter in 2016, and considered myself an informed voter, but I was dismayed with myself after she lost to realize that I hadn’t been clear on where she stood on a lot of issues- I just simply liked her best. Which is a shame because she had some strong, constructive policies, and I would have been a better voter and citizen if I had been able to talk about those. I had good intentions, but I’ve made the mistake of being pulled into viewing the campaign as a reality tv show instead of a election with serious consequences. Character is so important, of course, but I feel a responsibility for this coming election to be a better voter, to focus on issues and policy, and to not ever allow my choices to be spoon-fed to me (there seem to be a lot of destructive interests that count on us being easily manipulated). Other commenters here have shared that the extended clip of Elizabeth Warren’s response is actually more thoughtful and insightful, and gives better context, and I intend to take some time to watch that (thank you to those who pointed this out!). It’s so easy to view the candidates through the same lens that we view entertainers and tv shows and sporting events. I guess it comes with the territory, and candidates have to market themselves, and this is how the machine seems to work. But I think the burden is on us to look beyond it, put our reactions and emotions aside, avoid dualistic thinking, and give calm, clear, serious thought and analysis to what is being discussed. She may not give the appearance of having done so from this clip, but there is probably more to learn. And I feel a need to dig deeper, take a broader perspective, examine concerns from other points of view, talk to people, turn on my brain and engage in critical thinking. We are such a complex divided country, and the issues now are so dire and urgent. What we’ve been doing in the past isn’t working now. I just don’t think we can move forward unless we change. If we want to get better then we have to engage better.

CE, I don’t think the work today is in convincing those that remain bigoted to give up their views. I don’t think Elizabeth’s response was meant to reach out to them, or further a conversation with them. She’s declaring herself an ally, and I completely respect that. If by 2019 one hasn’t come around to respecting all people in who they love, then too bad. You’re going to be marginalized and poked at and made to feel uncomfortable, and it’s 100% your choice. It’s not anyone’s job to try and win you over. I’m going to spend my energy on supporting the people who are still being oppressed. This issue doesn’t have two sides. I was raised to be racist and bigoted…..I gave all that up because it’s wrong, zero sympathy for anyone unwilling to do the same.

Lol! I thought this the moment I saw the price on the link! Even Whole Foods has it cheaper…

I am so sorry for your loss. Your words do not go unnoticed. You have reminded me to call my dad, who has cancer, to tell him I love him.
Take care xo

I also have Caroline to thank for Weleda and I purchase online from Target. It really is the best.

Me too! I shared the one about the Call Me By Your Name sequel and then the candles and then the cake to the same person as the candles. It was a busy lunch hour….sharing, crying (Mindy K quote).

Thanks for this. I was thinking about the history of Charleston when it was referenced earlier and wasn’t sure exactly how to raise it. Your comment is such a thoughtful way to address this issue. Thank you.

The BBC just covered a story on this issue in the South- namely Charleston. https://www.bbc.com/news/world-us-canada-49842601

Thank you for this comment <3

Thank you for this.