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Have a Lovely Weekend.

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What are you up to this weekend? We are taking it easy. I want to hang out with the boys and take some walks around the neighborhood. Honestly, that’s it! Hope you have a good one, and here are a few fun links from around the web…

The top 25 news photos of 2018.

Catastrophe released the season 4 trailer!!!

How fun is the idea of a personality cheese board?

The unifying theory of alcohol.

Recently, I’ve been getting into watching videos of professional mentalists, where they’ll accurately guess what people are thinking. Seriously, HOW DO THEY DO IT? I’m totally fascinated and totally stumped.

Have you tried Care/of? They figure out your ideal vitamins based on a fun little quiz. (Cup of Jo readers get a special discount.)

Three couples on how they make financial decisions together.

The prettiest shower curtains.

Anton helped make chocolate banana bread for his class, and it was delicious.

Stocking up on this miracle beauty product.

New Year’s Resolutions, based on your Myers-Briggs personality type.

Or should we all just get bangs? :)

Plus, three reader comments:

Says Lib on 10 things to keep in your kitchen: “I’ve started paying close attention (not in a creepy way, but in a present and interested way) to other people’s grocery items while I wait in line. Makes the time actually enjoyable, and seeing how other people choose to fill their carts and homes feels so intimate to me, like a glimpse into their solo weeknight creativities or kids’ favorites.”

Says Lauren on New Year’s resolutions: “I’ve found monthly resolutions to be much better for me. Having just 30 days to accomplish a goal gets me going more than a yearly, ‘Okay, THIS is the year I stop eating so much chocolate.’ January’s resolution is to not use my phone in bed. Small, but I’ve already gotten through most of a novel! At the end of the month, I can stop and move on to the next one. However, I’ve found that a month is enough to make something a habit.”

Says Jen on New Year’s resolutions: “My snarky goal one year was to replace all of my small, silly underwear with huge panties and just BE OK WITH IT, and it is still the best resolution I’ve ever made! My life seriously changed when I bought undies two sizes too big. So comfy! No wedgies! I am a hardcore big panty evangelist now.”

P.S. We have a partnerships job opening, if you’re looking!

(Photo from my Instagram. Drinking essay via Swissmiss.)

  1. Llama says...

    Big panties for the win. I buy black, high(ish) waste, cotton panties in bulk, and it’s the best. Comfy, stays in place (I’m plus size and some panties roll around when I move/sit) and I was wash them all at once AND I can put them in the dryer. I still own a few pair of fancy undies for special occasions, but no more tiny lace panties that pinch and get destroys in the wash.

  2. Celeste says...

    I’ve just cut bangs for the first time in about 3 years. I’ve had bangs on and off since I was in my teens and I always come back to them. They suit my face, my hair type makes styling them easy and I always feel extra stylish when I have them. I paired my most recent bangs with a cute, choppy bob and I love it! Let’s just say, I’m a huge bangs advocate :)

  3. Ro says...

    I wanted bangs for a good ten to 15 years before I actually got them.

    For whatever reason, everyone in my life was keen on talking me out of it, acting like it was the scariest thing, warning me of all the maintenance, and sharing grow-out horror stories. So inevitably, whenever I sat in a salon chair to finally do the deed, their stories would fill my head and I’d end up with wimpy “side bangs” at the last second. Every. Single. Time.

    Finally in my late 20s I’d had enough, and decided to go for it. I marched into a “cool” salon, told the stylist I wanted thick straight across bangs, and then held my breath as she drew the scissors to my face. I cringed, but when I opened my eyes a new me was staring back in the mirror. I’ve had bangs for a few years now and will probably keep them forever.

    I know it’s not everyone’s experience, but I’ve had zero problems. They air dry perfectly, lay just where I want them to, and actually look *better* on rainy days — no flat iron or serums needed.

    I have wavy hair, and have never once styled them. They just are what they are, which is a mindset I believe is necessary in order to truly enjoy bangs. I even trim them myself now, so they’re never “perfect.” And I like them that way.

    It also helps I have a big forehead, so there’s lot of real estate up there for them to exist on. They suit my face and definitely take me from “average gal” to someone with “style.” For someone who doesn’t put much effort into their look, that’s a godsend.

    I say, get bangs! Just do it.

  4. Lorna Diwa says...

    Just wanted to say I made that chocolate banana bread (Deb never fails!) – it was such a hit and so easy to make! Going into the rotation for sure – thank you (and chef Anton) for the rec!

  5. Dienesa says...

    I just got bangs before I moved to NYC recently! The power of a fresh haircut is real.

  6. Alexis says...

    I LOVE checking out other people’s groceries! I actually have an old Tumblr (not updated anymore) called…Other People’s Groceries in which I’d post just a photo of the groceries and where I saw them (store, neighborhood). It’s so interesting and like Deb said, a glimpse into other people’s lives. This is giving me inspiration to start posting to it again.

    • Rosie says...

      Creepy

    • Sarah says...

      I do this too. It feels so INTIMATE. (Btw don’t think it’s creepy)

  7. Courtney says...

    I usually have a word for the new year instead of a resolution. Last year’s word was Faith, the year before was Strength. Anyhow, I have been thinking about my word, and I am 8 months pregnant right now…the only thing that kept coming to me were words like “relax” “recover” or “calm” and I kept trying to put it into words but couldn’t really describe what I am thinking besides “take a chill pill” in 2019. ANYHOW, the ManRepeller article was my solution! My personality type’s resolution is “Enjoy the ride.” It was like a light bulb just went off in my head so thank you!

    • Laura C. says...

      Same for me! I liked the Man Repeller suggestion too 😊 and I want to do it.

  8. So many anti-bangs comments! As someone who considers bangs a part of my signature look, I’m just here to defend them a little bit! Of course they are not for everyone. You really have to think about your face shape, your hair texture, and your personal style. I have tons of thick, straight, fine hair and I couldn’t do anything with it (but your hair doesn’t have to be straight…a curly haired friend just cut fringe and she looks GORGEOUS). My hair doesn’t hold curl or volume, and thick bangs were the only thing I could figure out to make it work. I’ve had long hair (think Jameela Jamil) and it’s currently short (like Jenny Cipoletti), but I think I’ll keep the bangs forever. In Haley Boyd’s “Week of Outfits” she talked about how much easier it was to get dressed when she found her cut. That’s how I feel too!

    A few tips if you decide to go for it:
    1: Don’t fall for the lie of wispy bangs to ease in. You have bangs or you don’t. Go for thick, full fringe or you will definitely hate them.
    2. Gather some inspo photos, don’t just show up and ask for bangs! They come in a million different forms, so you really need to communicate what kind of look you’re after.
    3: Invest in a good pair of shears and learn to trim them yourself. It’s easier than you think!
    4. Watch youtube videos on styling and trimming them.
    5. Invest in some cute headbands and clips, for days you’re not feeling them.

  9. Jaidy says...

    Can you please do more articles about dating after divorce (w kids). Thanks

  10. Mims says...

    If you are looking for some fun videos I highly recommend these two youtube channels: Pasta Grannies https://www.youtube.com/user/pastagrannies
    and Japanese grandma recipes https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeiPqmB7Cs8V_DRiiqwkiZg.

    I don’t even eat wheat, eggs and dairy but love watching these women turn out fancy pasta shapes by hand.

    And the Japanese grandmas! BE still my beating heart. The 99 year old still helping to make pickled turnip tops….

  11. Lindsey says...

    Monthly resolutions are a genius idea!

  12. Browsing through your reader comments will always be one of my favourite things to do! I swear your readers are all secretly geniuses, and I’m not sure if they know it or not. Also a big YES to buying underwear that actually fits! I love the look of lace and frills as much as anyone, but NOTHING beats comfort 🙌

  13. Sarah says...

    Not drinking alcohol is one very personal thing that people expect you to disclose over and over. My husband and i are 6 months sober, something I’m thrilled about and he’s adjusting to. People always ask why we aren’t drinking, but not everyone deserves to know our path to getting to this point. I just find myself saying quite regularly, “alcohol no longer serves our family’s goals.” And then i order my sparkling water with bitters. I wish sobriety was more normal in our society.

    • Laura C. says...

      Good for you Sarah, and you’re totally right!

    • cg says...

      Your quote is beautiful.

      I stopped drinking soon after I turned 21. Most people (who I meet for the first time, or are acquaintances) assume. They don’t say anything, but there is always this very brief moment when they hesitate after I tell them I don’t drink alcohol, and I can see the gears turning. Sometimes I let it hang in the air, sometimes I tell them the truth, it depends on my mood. But I resent it each time because why should there have ever been a questioned moment to begin with? It should be normal to choose to drink alcohol or not, not something that pauses people if you don’t.

      BTW, I don’t drink bc I am allergic to it. I turn red, like many Asians, and I mean I turn RED, and my whole body looks like a tomato, and drink enough I start to get itchy. That has never felt good, and it never made feeling tipsy any better. So I stopped, bc why would I ingest something that makes me feel uncomfortable?

      Fizzy water drinkers unite!

    • Sobriety has been the greatest thing EVER for me and my husband. We are coming up on two years in March. :) But I’ve found it makes people very uncomfortable, basically defensive. I don’t bring up sobriety around people unless they ask or whatever, but it still turns into a “thing.” I love your answer!

  14. JM says...

    Wow that article about the Unifying Theory of Alcohol was really good. I love his writing voice, and I am exactly on the same page as his story. Good one ;)

  15. Clare says...

    Bummed you’re promoting Care/of vitamins. There is a huge plastic waste problem in the world & their individual packaging, while cute, is so needlessly wasteful. Please consider buying vitamins in recyclable glass bottles instead.

    • Joaquina says...

      YES! There is way too much use of plastic by Care/of, Glossier,
      and all food home delivery services. Thank you a million times over
      for mentioning this. The earth is choking in plastic, we must
      take better care in minimizing our use of this awful product!

  16. Kate says...

    OMG the big undies thing, YES! I buy Bonds hipster boyleg briefs (Amazing Australian Brand), a 2-3 sizes too big and they’re PERFECT! (I pick the black ones and they’re so basic and simple, they’re not ugly at all) They sit beautifully under gym tights without having to worry about see through tights or uncomfortable thongs and you can also wander about the house with them on and feel cute too. Love it!

  17. Lauren Arends says...

    I grew out my bangs in 2018 after having them for about 10 years because they got wonky after my 2nd pregnancy. I was just thinking yesterday that maybe that was a bad decision and I should try them again when I get my hair cut next week.

  18. Rosie says...

    To be honest, I only wear two types of underwear, mens boxer briefs under skirts and looser pants, sleeker skimpier black panties for under tighter pants and when I want to impress someone.

  19. shannon says...

    Thrilled to read the article about alcohol. I don’t drink and never have. A huge reason is the effects it has on your self presentation. I am uncomfortable that it changes decision making and how you act toward others, and that I would not be in control of those things if I was drinking. With my strong family history of addiction, plus the support of my teetotaling spouse, I have no reason to drink. I love tea, coffee, ginger beer, carbonated fruit juices, and sparkling water; it’s never been an issue to order/bring those instead of alcohol at events.

    I encourage anyone to experiment with a period of sobriety and see what happens.

    • Matilda says...

      I also don’t drink and never have. I don’t want to make decisions that I normally wouldn’t and the idea that I wouldn’t have normal control of my body freaks me out. The taste of alcohol is disgusting to me too. People always say ‘you’ll get used to it’, well, I don’t want to. I prefer to eat my calories in dessert rather than drink them. My mom also doesn’t drink and neither of us like coffee either.

      It was particularly difficult to make friends in college. No one wanted to invite me to go out because they didn’t think I’d have fun. Thankfully, my boyfriend (now husband) wasn’t bothered that I didn’t drink. You can have loads of fun without drinking!

  20. Shelley says...

    Yessss to big panties !!!

    Ever since I was at the end of my pregnancy and bought some giant ones to be comfy in I have been rocking them! Even after I lost the baby weight plus a little extra.

  21. Lula says...

    I am so here for big pants! (Not panties, that word makes me feel the same as the word ‘moist’ – ewwww!) BUT I am confused by some of the comments about buying pants that are a few sizes too large. Why not just buy ‘big pants’ – ie a full brief (also an ewww name!) in your own size?! They are comfy, big, but not baggy, which surely pants several sizes too big would be?

    • Anne St.Jean says...

      Honestly, I didn’t get this either until I stole a pair of my mom’s underpants out of sheer desperation. She’s undoubtedly a few sizes bigger than me, yet her underpants fit me amazingly and I made her buy me some for myself. I think because they’re made to hug you SO tightly, having a bigger pair doesn’t make a difference in the fit, just in how much they squeeze your cheeks. And my cheeks are appreciating some room to breathe.

    • Hani says...

      I thought the same thing? I mean…is everyone just wearing underwear they hate/that does not fit in the first place?
      I feel like maybe we do that a lot with clothes? Get attached to a certain size or style and not notice that our bodies change and shift and maybe it’s time for our clothing to serve us a little differently?

  22. As always, lovely start to the weekend–my favorite Friyay roundup, for sure! We have a Quiet Town shower curtain and we absolutely love it!

  23. Annie says...

    Ok my Stomach flipped when he guessed her card because I was ALSO THINKING 3 OF HEARTS.

    I was like Iknow my phone is listening to me but this is another level.

  24. Nina says...

    YES to monthly resolutions! (or quarterly in my case).

  25. Hannah says...

    No matter how cool bangs look, they are the WORST to grow out when you’re finally over them. I had bangs for like 15 years for this very reason. I finally ended up growing them out when, 1) I received an awful haircut that required a chin-length bob to fix it, and 2) I moved to a tropical climate where having bangs = sweaty hair stuck to my forehead at all times. Both those things were the kick in the butt I needed to get rid of the bangs and I will NEVER have them again. I will just admire them on everyone else. :)

  26. Robin says...

    Thanks for the sign from my son, Will. Chamomile flowers always remind me of him. Dec 26th would have been his 3rd birthday so i’m Missing him extra this time of year.

    • Sarah Malcom says...

      Very sorry for your loss, sending you lots of love

    • M says...

      I’m so sorry for your loss. xo

    • Laura C. says...

      I send you a big hug, Robin.

    • Rebecca says...

      Oh Robin, I’m thinking of you and your precious Will. What a hard time of year for you. With love and warmth from a stranger, Rebecca x

    • Julie says...

      So sweet, Robin. Thinking of you.

    • Nora says...

      I’m so very sorry. peace and love to you.

    • Kim says...

      Sending love and blessings to you as you think of your sweet son. xxoo

    • Jessica says...

      I don’t know what to say but I didn’t just want to read your comment and run. Sending you love from London.

  27. That article on drinking was very interesting! I feel some of the same concepts he wrote about can also be applied, personally, to my eatting habits…the way others respond to how i choose to eat healthy or not…the discovery of breaking out of the norm and making healthier choice for yourself and realizing the benefits. Ya know?!

    ~Lilly @ http://www.theoccupiedoptimist.com

  28. Lena says...

    Not really understanding how the mentalist trick is at all convincing and there’s any indication that Kelly and Ryan were not just in on it and said things that were agreed upon prior? Their acting is not very convincing.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      But I’m sure not? That would be unethical for TV hosts to lie to their viewers like that, and he has done the same thing for parties, events, etc. Of course, there must be a trick involved because he’s not actually reading minds, but I don’t think they’re in on it. Thoughts from others?

    • Jo says...

      Lena, I did check out a couple of other videos featuring Oz Pearlman, another famous mentalist and to me they didn’t look staged at all/all the “tricks” were quite impressive! Perhaps you give a few more videos a try and see for yourself? Of course I would never know how to describe what it is that he is doing exactly, but then again, how does one explain all things that David Blaine does… (By the way, I personally have stopped watching anything David Blaine because they’re borderline disturbing. Haha.)

      At any rate, thanks, Joanna and the CoJ Team, as always, for yet another fab roundup of all things cool and fun. Happy New Year and all the best to everyone!

      PS) Yes, big undies rule! When in doubt, go for high-waist anything. I’ve been a big proponent myself for years now. :^)

    • Sarah Malcom says...

      Sure Joanna, TV never lies ;) I applaud your innocence though!

    • Isabelle says...

      I went to a french mentalist show once with friends and one girlfriend got picked for an experiment. What really blew our minds was that he guessed her mother’s name (Laurence), I mean, how can that be possible??

  29. Mandy says...

    A couple of years ago I developed a medical issue that is worsened when I drink. It was a hard transition since that is how I was used to having “fun.” Now I look back and wish I had been forced to stop drinking sooner so I could spend that time doing other things! Thank you for sharing this article!

  30. Heidi Schiller says...

    I just read (and recommend) the book The Immortalists, by Chloe Benjamin. One of the main characters is a magician/mentalist and there are several descriptions of the techniques she used.

    • Karyn says...

      Seconding this — I thought of the same book immediately when I saw the link about mentalists.

  31. Jodi says...

    Can I talk anyone out of bangs? No, really. I loved them for about 6 months and then had them for over 8 years because…. growing them out. Ugh. I am now 1 year and 5 months into the process and am happy to report they are now about an inch past my chin. My biggest achievement of 2018 was surviving the worst of the grow out. It’s such a drag, I seriously think there could be a support group! Please don’t make the decision lightly or on a whim, it’s a loooong haul when you decide you’re over them.

    • Johanna says...

      To counterpoint: I tried bangs and they really did not work with my fine, wavy/curly hair. So I grew them out and the process was a bit awkward.

      But I definitely don’t regret getting them! If I hadn’t, I’d still be wondering about them. So I’m pretty much happy about every doubtful haircut I’ve ever gotten. And had I not taken those chances, I also wouldn’t have discovered cuts that work surprisingly well for me.

      So perhaps if depends a little on how you can or can’t tolerate awkward hair stages? Because you’re right, Jodi, there’s no guarantee anyone will want to keep their bangs, but I also think it’s worthwhile to take the risk sometimes

    • Denise says...

      My daughter and I have a “safe word” that she will use when she’s considering bangs, yet again. It doesn’t always stop her, but if I text a picture of a previous cut to her she usually remembers how she loved them for two days and then wished she hadn’t done it!

    • liz says...

      I’ve decided to get a bangs a few times, mostly out of boredom with my hair and envy of a few people with adorable bang-ed haircut ( and also despite substantial evidence that they wouldn’t look good on me , particularly numerous cowlicks on my hair line) and each time my hair dressers (different people each time!) have talked me out of it. I think it’s fair to recognize that there’s hardly anything that looks good everybody (no matter how trendy) and that’s ok.

    • Nora says...

      I’m right behind Jodi, ready to talk people out of bangs. I had them in high school and feel like I spent my 20s figuring out how to grow them out. Not for everyone!

      I would love an analysis by a good stylist who could explain why bangs look amazing on some people and like crap on others. Hairline, face shape, and prominence of jawline all seem to come into play but I can’t figure out the formula.

  32. Cynthia says...

    My youngest daughter, age 33, just got bangs and she looks fantastic. They really bring out her eyes. I have side swept bangs. Full bangs tend to separate in the middle of my forehead.

  33. Kim says...

    YES to the big panties (except I hate that word — ugh) so let’s just say big undies.

    I have recently lost 113 pounds (woot woot!) and have gone from a size 22 to a 10. I have switched out ALL my clothes…except my underwear. I’m still rocking the 18/20 undies and won’t be getting rid of them anytime soon! Big undies for-eva!

    • Rachel Adrianna says...

      That is a FANTASTIC accomplishment… Congratulations! :)

  34. jeanne netherwood says...

    I am a proponent of comfy panties. I like them to sit at the waist but I like the French cut sides.

  35. Anne says...

    Interesting – my theory of alcohol is pretty different! Last year I did dry January for the first time, and realized that so much of my drinking is just out of habit. I usually have a drink with dinner even if I don’t really want one, just because it’s there. I take the second beer if it’s offered, because I feel obligated to do the fun thing. But most of the time, if it hadn’t been offered, I wouldn’t have noticed the loss.

    So I came to the conclusion that I should only drink if it was the absolute perfect time for a drink, and if I really wanted one. Date night after a grueling week? A glass of red wine. Curled up in front of the fireplace, watching the snow fall? Spiked hot cocoa. A loud evening with good friends? Beer beer beer. But if I didn’t really want it, then no!

    I think my drinking was reduced over the first part of 2018, but definitely slid back to normal in the second half. Honestly, after the holidays I’m kind of relieved that it’s dry January again. It’s a good time for another habit reset I think.

  36. Ellen says...

    Thank you SO much for including the piece about drinking. As someone who’s been sober for 4 years, it is wonderful to see a mention of drinking/sobriety on one of my favorite blogs. :)

    • Alexis says...

      4 years is awesome, good for you!

  37. Ann-Marie says...

    Every single time I’ve cut bangs I’ve regretted it, because even though they look great, I just can’t deal with them tickling my forehead and cheekbones 24/7, or poking my eyeballs. Sadly. I now have a no-shorter-than-jaw-length rule.

    And, what am I missing — large underwear sound like they’ll bunch up and be uncomfortable under jeans, or at least cause wedgies?

    • Lena says...

      Dane feelings and questions about bangs and big underwear!

  38. Laura C. says...

    ‘Bring your own cheese’ os amazing. Joann you know what to do at the CoJ office for your birthday! Loving the lonks, the comments, the bangs, today is my birthday and I am happy to have you back!! And by you I mean CoJ team and community! I have missed you! 😙❤️

  39. Katie says...

    Whelp it looks like I have to get bangs.

  40. Francesca says...

    My 9-year-old daughter has been telling me over and over again that she wanted to try having bangs. I wasn’t quite sure because she has wavy hair and I thought it might not look good on her so I said: let’s wait. And she waited and waited, but always came back with the idea and even drew pictures of how her bangs should look like. So yesterday the big day came and she had her hair cut as she wanted it. It was so heartwarming to see how happy she was with the result and I have to say: she looks something between your sister Lucy and Hermione Granger which is for me sweet and hilarious at the same time.
    As for Lib’s comment. I was very surprised when one day, while waiting in line at the supermarket, the lady behind me suddenly spoke to me and said: by looking at your groceries I can tell that you are someone who really does cook. I found that very flattering because yes, I really do like cooking and it was nice to know that it shines through the things I buy. So I guess looking at other people’s groceries is quite a good idea and maybe even taking the courage to talk to them.
    Oh, and absolutely yes to big panties! :-)

  41. Olivia says...

    How do I watch catastrophe in the US? Will amazon have it right away?

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      They don’t have a release date for the U.S., but I can’t wait! :)

  42. Amanda says...

    Adding “big panty evangelist” to my resume.

  43. avril says...

    Hardcore Big Panty Evangelist should be a memoir title or a band name. :)

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      We should make t-shirts!

    • Laura C. says...

      Along with the Salmon Flip™

  44. Sadie says...

    I want to join a band called Big Panty Evangelist.

    • Jules says...

      Lol!

  45. Cathy says...

    I did the reverse on the big underwear – I’ve been feeling in a rut for quite some time now. As I age and reach a mid-life milestone, I feel more matronly and dowdy and out of touch with my body. So I threw out all my underwear and spent a small fortune on a few really expensive fancy tiny lingerie sets. Surprisingly I love it. Nothing is uncomfortable* and it’s added a little sizzle and pizzazz to my days. I feel reconnected to when I was younger and everything had to be cute and match.

    Since I literally threw everything out and replaced it with fewer pieces, it’s had the added benefit of Konmari-ing my underwear drawer; with bigger underwear I would just collect and collect and keep forever. Sure I could have done this and replaced with new-to-me bigger pairs (and bras), but this was a lot more fun!

    If I’m ever in an accident, the hospital might not know my name, but I won’t be mortified at being seen in some of the stretched out and holey pairs I use to have!

    *Policy for shoes too – I love adorable heels, but they all must be comfortable.

    • Francesca says...

      Cathy – I’m 26 and have done the same thing! For me, I find there is a time and place for big cotton panties (i.e. chore days, days spent in pajamas, getting my period). However as someone who has struggled with feeling unattractive, having sexy underwear often gives me the boost I need.

    • Kristen Kowalski says...

      What brand(s) did you go with that were not uncomfortable??

    • AB says...

      My husband looked at me last night and said, “are you ever going to wear sexy underwear again?” 😂 😂 😂 Might be time for a refresh.

    • Yes, Cathy! I agree with this so much. After having three babies in five years the last thing I want is to feel dowdy. Especially as I have just quit my job and am having to say goodbye to my beautiful corporate world wardrobe. I’m really struggling with feeling like myself and pretty underwear really helps! I agree that you don’t want to wear anything uncomfortable, and sizing up is a great way to improve comfort, but feeling sexy is really important to me!

    • Sasha L says...

      An alternative that fits both sexy/feel beautiful and comfy: no underwear at all. I gave them up 23 years ago and have never regretted for a moment. I used to be a *commando evangelist* but honestly, almost no one will actually try and until you do I think I just seem like a weirdo. It’s ok. I think I’ve saved about a million dollars and never had a yeast infection and just sit on the sidelines shaking my head at the seeming thousands of women not only wearing expensive undies they don’t like, but too small ones to boot.

  46. Catherine Pitfield says...

    We have 2 rules for money discussions:
    1 No money talk after 9pm.
    2. Twice annual reviews of spending, but the conversations take place in a restaurant – yes we bring our spreadsheets. Being on public view helps keep the tone of the occasion civil( one spender and one saver!)

    • Sarah says...

      This is brilliant!

    • Nicola says...

      oooh, I love this. I had scheduled a “finance date night” for last night to review our investments and spending over a bottle of champagne. But we both fell asleep with the kids when putting them to bed!!!

    • Whitney says...

      I feel like the after 9 pm rule would be helpful for any serious conversations with a spouse. We’re tired, the work day was long, the kids have tested our limits in the evening… my husband and I have had too many emotional conversations that could have been less dramatic if we didn’t begin the discussion after 9 pm. Planning a visit with the in-laws will never be tolerable when I am worn down from the day.

  47. Rachael says...

    Giant underwear really is the best, though.

    • B says...

      I second or third this! Even though I wear size 2/4 pants I only buy size large undies. Don’t pass judgement when you take them out of the laundry to fold! It is SO worth the comfort! I do still have some pretty pairs for special occasions, but on a recent trip to the ER I learned how sweet the staff there is, and I didn’t feel a bit judged when they took off my size L granny panties! :)

    • anna says...

      it really is the absolute best thing ever

  48. Grace says...

    I do the same thing Lib does! Not really at the grocery store (I go to TJ’s where I basically have tried and memorized every item) but at Costco where it’s huge and easy to miss a good buy.

  49. Jenifer says...

    You have to try the double chocolate banana bread that is also on the Smitten Kitchen website! It’s so sinful almost like eating fudge!

  50. Stef says...

    Regarding the alcohol article, as someone who quit drinking two years ago, this really resonated with me:

    When you home in on the absence of that grouchy feeling not drinking makes you feel like a superhero. You wake up every morning and feel good. And if you remember how you used to feel waking up hungover that feeling of waking up with a spring in your step becomes incredibly addictive. Like happiness even. Even when you haven’t slept because your new baby has kept you up all night you still feel ok. Because it turns out you can cope with not sleeping when you have a new baby. What you can’t cope with is having a hangover and not sleeping with a new baby. You also have more money. You lose weight. There is a kind of lightness to living when you are not regularly ingesting a depressant. I know how obvious this sounds but I had never thought of it in this way. Who knew? While enjoying this new frame of mind the thought of having a drink begins to feel a bit silly. Pointless even. Absolutely not worth the hassle.

    I’m glad to read an article about someone questioning WHY they drink. The social pressure is enormous to drink a poison/depressant that has ABSOLUTELY NO BENEFIT and just takes more from you than it can ever give.

    • Kirsten says...

      As someone who is not a non-drinker but has honestly just never really been into alcohol, not even as a teenager, I’m loving how often I’m seeing articles and posts like this one pop up recently. There seems to be more and more conversation like “why exactly are we doing this?” and I love it. “Boring,” one-drink college-age me feels so vindicated ;)

  51. Nadine says...

    Kinda new to watching stuff on Amazon, so really glad you mentioned Catastrophe. Just watched first season last nite & was bummed when it came to an end with no indication of there being anything else. Or maybe I forgot I saw separate listing for subsequent season(s.) Happy again!

    • joan says...

      Season 1 – 3 is on Amazon Prime. Loved that show!

  52. I have to tell you Joanna – I look forward to your weekend link lists so much! Thanks for always curating such a fun, useful, and quirky bunch of stuff to check out on a Friday afternoon with a cup of coffee. It’s an awesome way to wrap up the week and launch into the weekend. xx

  53. Emily R says...

    I’d love to do bangs (and have in the past!) but my hair is too fine and my forehead too oily. They look awful halfway through the day. So have fun with your bangs, but I’ll take a pass.