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Have a Wonderful Weekend.

Have a Wonderful Weekend.

What are you up to this weekend? Alex’s mom is visiting, and the boys are excited to show off their new tricks. Thank you so, so much for the heartfelt comments on this post. They were really incredible, thoughtful and important. Meanwhile, here are a few fun things from around the web…

California is on fire; here’s how to help.

YES! “It’s time for there to be roles in ballet where two men fall in love.”

How to read aloud to children. Such sweet tips.

I’d like to make this my work uniform. (You could also pair it with dressier pants.)

What an adorable vase!

Elevator etiquette in Japan.

Six outfits I’m stealing from When Harry Met Sally.

Impressive but easy cookies for Halloween.

Ten great books to give as gifts.

And who else is excited to try this?

Also, a big thank you to Forbes for naming us one of the Top 10 Parenting Influencers. We are so honored to be on the list.

Plus, two amazing comments:

Says Maggie on travel beauty: “For taking tiny bits of creams (or even liquids or powders!), contact lens cases are amazing. You can put just a few days’ worth of something in each side, they take up hardly any room in your bag, and you don’t feel like you’re wasting a lot of product by putting it in a 3 oz. bottle if you only use a dab every day.”

Nikki on a Seattle house tour: “Twin advice from a twin: Don’t tell them who is older until they are 18! My parents did this with my sister and me. Man, we thought they were soooo lame but we NEVER fought about it, never held it over each other’s head and then a few months before college we had a big party and they told us and got us engraved necklaces with our birth times. It was beautiful and perfect and secretly I think I always knew I was baby B. I tell all twin parents this. It was so lovely and is still something my twin and I talk about.”

(Elevator etiquette via Kottke. Photo by Bettmann.)

  1. Cynthia says...

    Cup of Jo is one of the highlights of my day, as I’ve learned a lot and gained some different perspectives on various matters.

  2. Kate says...

    I also want to steal basically everything that Jane Fonda wears in “Barefoot in the Park!”
    Kate

  3. Heather D. says...

    Ok the contact lens case comment… GENIUS.

  4. Cristina says...

    The Nort West region in Spain has 143 fires actives since last week! I am saddened to see how men can cause such devastation! Courage to all Californians all the way from across the world :)

  5. I don’t have children yet, but recently I’ve started reading to my boyfriend as he falls asleep. We’ve been doing a bit of long distance as he finishes up his away rotations for med school, and sometimes we’re in different time zones, or he’s just gotten off a night shift at the hospital as I’m getting my day started. So instead of telling him things he’s bound to forget as he dozes off, I read to him and it’s one of our favorite things. We are loving pretty much any short story by Jhumpa Lahiri!

    Also, congrats on the Forbes recognition, Joanna and team. You guys are the happiest, most sane, and supportive corner of the Internet!

  6. Sarah McLaughlin says...

    Thank you so much for including the California Wildfires in your post. It really means a lot. The Northern California community is amazing, and the outpouring of support has been unbelievable, so much compassion and selflessness. What the relief efforts are really in need of is financial donations. Every little bit adds up… And pray that our heroes are able to get control of these fires asap <3

  7. Sarah says...

    You all richly deserve your Forbes shout out. I can’t tell you how many articles and comments sections I’ve rolled through as a new parent, and I find the pieces and discussions on CoJ 1) reasonable, which is rare on the Internet 2) insightful and 3) uplifting. I’m mostly a lurker and rarely comment, but on behalf of those lurkers I say THANK YOU!

    Also, bummed that Corrigan book doesn’t come out until January. I was thinking it’s be the *PERFECT* gift for my mom. Oh well–guess I’ll have to wait around for your annual Christmas guides! :)

  8. Meghan says...

    Congratulations, Jo and team. I have loved seeing the blog grow, change and evolve over the last 9 years as a reader. We love you!

  9. Always love reading your weekly round up posts – especially appreciated the “ten great books to gift” link.
    Congratulations on the well deserved Forbes ranking!

  10. Love that twin advice! Kids can tend to hold those sort of things against one another when they’re young, and the younger one can really be hurt and feel belittled because of it. It would be amazing to finally find out after so along as well!

    Indya || tinyurl.com/thesmalladventurer

  11. Kailey says...

    I love and appreciate all of the twin comments. I have identical 2 year old boys and would have never thought to keep their birth order a secret, what a wonderful idea!

    Also, I love to hear advice from other twins and twin parents—routinely I feel like I’m not qualified for them and hearing from others gives me great comfort!

  12. kathryn says...

    On elevator etiquette: I’m Canadian…….thought everyone more or less did this!

  13. Love the contact lens case travel hack. Great idea! I’m definitely going to use that!

  14. Ashley S. says...

    The post on how to read to children made me cry! Jim Dale feels like my grandfather. I grew up listening to him read the Harry Potter series. I listened before I went to bed (with my boombox between my pillows since I didn’t have a portable CD player yet!), on roadtrips, in the car, and still listen frequently. He is a master at his craft, and now, as a children’s librarian, I cannot tell you how many people I meet who recommend his audiobooks over any others. What a joyful surprise to see that they asked him to share his tips. He is truly the best!

  15. Louis says...

    When I was young I went to see an all-male production of Swan Lake by Matthew Bourne, this is quite a famous and now standard version in the UK, do you have it in the US?

    • Louis says...

      Ps when I said all-male I mean the swans are all male, there are female dancers in other roles.

  16. Mel says...

    Yes! I do the contact lens case trick too! It’s so great!

  17. Andrea says...

    Congratulations on your Forbes ranking! I so appreciate that your work transcends millenials – this urban dwelling Gen-Xer, who got a very late start to motherhood (had my only child at age 43) also finds your online content relevant, useful, thoughtful and interesting! Wishing you the best for continued success!

    P.S. Still hoping you will do a series on successful women working in traditonally / predominately male professions. There’s a ton of great stories our there that touch on the challenges and what it takes to break through stereo types.

  18. Omg the Harry Met Sally list of outfits just gave me a huge dose of style inspo. (I should probably watch that movie soon, hahaha.) I always love the links you refer us to.
    Have a nice weekend! x

    Joanne

  19. Tara says...

    Such a well earned spot on the Forbes list.
    Love the growth I’ve seen in this blog!

  20. Angela says...

    Oregon Ballet Theater is debuting a new ballet set to Gershwin’s Rhapsody in Blue, this month, and it has all sorts of couples in love. Such a beautiful new ballet.

  21. Lea says...

    So happy about your Forbes recognition! So well deserved! Congrats!

    • Lily says...

      Agreed!

  22. Hannah Campbell says...

    I’m loving all the “Twin A/B” comments. I’ve always known I was Twin B and, now that we’re in our mid-30s, it’s nice to remind my Twin A that I’m 5 minutes younger (and that she has more gray hair)!

    The thing my twin sister and I have never known, however, is if we’re identical or fraternal. That’s another question people always ask upon finding out you’re a twin – and something we have to go into explanation about. We’ve gone this long not knowing but are starting to talk about whether or not we want to learn the truth!

    • Katha says...

      Honest question: do you not see if you‘re identical or not?

      I mean if you‘re identical twins then you look the same, no?
      Fraternal twins however are the same as „just“ siblings and not look-alikes.

      I don‘t want to offend anyone. I‘m just curious.

    • Mb says...

      In response to Kartha, I am not a twin but I have had trouble with the descrptor of identical versus fraternal!! I grew up with neighbors who were twins. I always thought they were identical but my mom insists they are fraternal. I see pics and I can barely see any difference between them and still think maybe they are identical!

    • Steph says...

      Katha, it’s possible for any siblings to look VERY similar. There are fraternal twins that can, and do, pass as identical. For example the Olsen twins are fraternal.

  23. Liz says...

    Darn It! 7 years too late for me on that twin tip, but I LOVE it!!!

  24. JO says...

    Nikki’s twin advice gave me a lump in my throat and I can’t figure out why…

  25. Robin says...

    My husband is a twin and his parents told them they didn’t know! Baby #2 was a surprise (it was the 70s) and they said in the confusion they didn’t know who was first. It took them until much later to realize of course they must know (one was quite a bit bigger than the other, even though they’re identical). But it was a great idea – it would definitely have shaped the relationship. They are both competitive and would have cared about the status of older/younger. As it is they are super close.

    Also, as a side note, can you imagine baby #2 as a SURPRISE? “Oh you thought you were done? So sorry, there’s another one in there!” Ever since I had my kids I’ve looked at my MIL a little differently ;).

  26. Lenae C says...

    The “twin” reader comment is so sweet!

  27. Congrats on the Forbes mention!

  28. Rose says...

    I love the twin advice above!
    I have commented a few times here and there, and recently wrote that I was about to have my first frozen embryo transfer (in the “How are you, really?” post). A few readers kindly replied with nice wishes which was so sweet to see. We were psyched and beside ourselves when the embryo split and we were told we’re expecting identical twins.
    Such a nice community of people you ladies bring around.

    • Lara says...

      Congratulations!

      I’m a twin and one of the coolest curiosities I have read about is that in some African cultures, a woman that gives birth to twins is admired and applauded – they believe that souls choose the families they want to belong to, and being chosen twice shows how blessed/special they are :)

    • Dana says...

      Ahhhhhh this is so exciting!!! A billion congrats to you and your growing family!

    • Ingrid says...

      So happy for you! All best wishes…

    • Sarah says...

      Twin moms, unite! I’m 18 weeks pregnant with twins (after transferring 2 frozen embryos) and loved the twin tip, and hearing this news. So exciting and terrifying! Best of luck to you!

  29. Isabella says...

    Thank you for including the California wildfires in your post. I’m currently evacuated with my toddler, and praying that our house survives the night. We fled in our pajamas Sunday night, something I’d never anticipated having to do given the seeming security of where we live (well within a town). The loss and shock and heartache in our county is ovewhelming, but kindness and warmth are everywhere. Please keep us in your thoughts and prayers even if you aren’t able to help otherwise. Take care, everyone.

    • xo says...

      It is so heartbreaking. I am so sorry that you have to go through this. Thinking of you.

    • Katie says...

      So glad you and your little one were able to get out safely. We are in SoCal and following it all closely….so heartbreaking and scary!
      Stay safe. Sending love! ❤️

    • Cristina says...

      So , so , so , so sorry to hear that! We are suffering evacuations in the northwest region of Spain. There are no words to describe what you are going through. All my energy and prayers are with you!!!

  30. Vicki says...

    Jim Trelease wrote the excellent Read-Aloud Handbook, which talks less about how to read aloud but more about why and what to read aloud. Plus he includes lists of good read alouds by age, topic, and interest.

    We listen to lots of audiobooks in the van, so I imagine Jim Dale is an old chum of ours :). Kate Winslet does an excellent Matilda by Roald Dahl (I’ve probably already posted about it here: I tell everybody!) and Stockard Channing *is* Ramona Quimby. Kenneth Branagh read The Magician’s Nephew, which is not my favorite book ever, but near the end, there is a whole crowd of animals talking excitedly over one another and he does all the voices, one right after the other, and each voice fits the animal it comes from, and it is jaw-dropping amazing. I’ve been reading to my kids using voices because of Mrs Doubtfire, but I am terrible. I do it anyway, but I am so, so terrible, haha! Isn’t parenthood humbling like that?

  31. Dana says...

    My SIL’s are identical twins and the youngest one always says she’s the original egg (to compensate for being the younger one) and the older twin always comments back “well your face was in my butt!” Haha. I think keeping birth order a secret is probably a good idea!

    • Hahaha, that is so funny!

  32. Maclean Nash says...

    LOVE that you are one of the Top 10 Parenting Influencers! Congratulations, that is fantastic.

    LOVE not telling your twins which one popped out first. Making it into something special like that is so sweet.

  33. Lori says...

    I have identical twin boys and didn’t tell them who was born first until their 17th birthday because growing up I had friends who were twins and the ‘older’ one always held it over her ‘younger’ twin. This the first time I have heard of someone doing it too. I didn’t think of making an occasion out of it— wish I had now.

    • t says...

      This is so funny. I have twins and twin A should have been born first if delivered vaginally but I needed an emergency c-section and twin b was on top so came out first. I tell them their birth order is of no consequence as the circumstances negates it. Didn’t realize it would have been a big deal.

  34. t says...

    I am so glad you are an influencer because you constantly exhibit kindness and acceptance through this blog. That’s the kind of influence the world needs. Thank you.

    • xo says...

      Couldn’t agree more!

    • kim says...

      Yes!

    • Summer says...

      Absolutely!

  35. R.S. says...

    Thank you for mentioning the California fire. Santa Rosa is my hometown and I know many people who lost everything in the blink of an eye. The fires continue to rage and destroy, and it will take a long time to recover once they are put out. <3

  36. Jane says...

    My parents also didn’t tell my twin and I who was older until we were adults! But they never said, we’ll tell you when you’re older. They always just said they didn’t know or that it was too close to call! It was a c-section, so they claimed that the doctor pulled us both out at the same time. That prevented my twin and I from begging that they tell us. When they finally did tell us, it was so inconsequential that I routinely forget which one I am.

    The only annoying thing is that one of the first questions people always ask is who’s older, and many people are taken aback by/confused by you not knowing. You end up having to do this whole explanation.

  37. MA says...

    Thank you for the link to the read aloud article. My son is 11 and we’ve been reading to him before bed since birth. This year, with the start of middle school, we thought that perhaps it was time to stop reading aloud to him. But we decided to keep going, and I’m so glad! I love that it ends our evenings on a good note. Even if I am super annoyed at him (or vice versa!), its hard to stay mad when you are snuggling down together and being drawn into a story. Also Jim Dale is the best narrator EVER!

    • Becca Lynn says...

      My parents read aloud to us as a family every night and it was such a sweet ritual I miss now as an adult; ending the night with netflix isn’t the same as a quiet conclusion to the day with a good story, loved ones near and no screens. Maybe i should talk my husband into trying doing read alouds with me :)

  38. Ginelle says...

    To Joanna & team,
    This website radiates love & light and I cannot thank you enough for everything. I have been reading your blog since the beginning of college and am now a first year special education kindergarten autism teacher. You all inspire me dearly and I can’t tell you how much I appreciate you!

    With love & gratitude,
    Ginelle-Marie