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Have a Lovely Weekend.

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What are you up to this weekend? We have been making our own pizza with dough from the neighborhood pizzeria. We always choose pineapple as a topping, and it tastes perfectly sweet with the salty cheese. (Who’s with me?) Hope you have a good one, and here are a few great links from around the web…

New York is not dead, says Jerry Seinfeld. “Real, live, inspiring human energy exists when we coagulate together in crazy places like New York City. Feeling sorry for yourself because you can’t go to the theater for a while is not the essential element of character that made New York the brilliant diamond of activity it will one day be again.” (New York Times)

New York is gone forever, according to a baby with no object permanence.

Wallpaper love.

This art print is a balm.

We’re longtime fans of Dame’s amazing vibrators. Get 15% off your first order with code CUPOFJO15.

The Met’s beautiful new roof installation. (New York Times)

The easiest shirt to wear year-round.

Vanity Fair’s cover features Breonna Taylor.

Funny socks.

Our house, every day.

Emily Henderson is launching a design blog mentorship program, if you’re interested!

Plus, a reader comment:

Says J. on 14 readers swan around in their best dresses: “Hopefully this does not sound too peculiar, but I get the same feeling seeing these pics as when someone I love shows me a picture of their mom or sister or friend who I’ve heard a lot about — like, I don’t know you, but I know because we are friends with the same person (Joanna & team!) we will probably get along so swimmingly! This is the most special place and I love the idea of being part of this beautiful, warm, funny and exceptionally well-dressed (!!) COJ family.”

(Photo by Pigsty.)

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  1. Mary says...

    I love your content! Because you’re so good at roundups and finding gems – I would love to learn more about how readers can volunteer to make a difference in the election over the next two months. xoxo

  2. I *love* that print. Ordering it for my home office ASAP. What a great mantra for these weird WFH times.

  3. Katie says...

    Hi Joanna,

    Would you ever do a post about the grief that goes along with a dying parent/loved one? Most grief posts I see deal with grief post-death, but I’m experiencing likely losing my dad to cancer right now, and I can barely breathe. Any ideas would be deeply welcomed. Thank you.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      Yes that is a great idea for a post/discussion. And I’m so so sorry to hear about your dad. Thinking of you xoxo

  4. Anna says...

    Hey Carole,

    My family lost our home and everything else in a hurricane when Hillary was running against Trump. There was little to no nationwide coverage on the national news cycles. My heart goes out to the people who are walking that heart wrenching path. I appreciate that you would like to bring awareness to the devistation caused by the recent hurricane. I was glad to read Joaquina’s response as I felt similarly. Its always helpful to kindly highlight issues and point people in a direction to action because maybe people haven’t heard news about the hurricanes just like a large majority of our nation
    didn’t hear about the 2016 Louisiana flood that my family suffered.

    • CS says...

      Anna, I’m so sorry you and your family went through such a tragedy. I can’t imagine. Thank you for reminding us of others who are suffering now. Sending love and healing xo

  5. Calla says...

    Oh my gosh that Seinfeld article is EVERYTHING. I live in San Francisco but have a very similar feeling. A lot of people are heading out (which is totally fine) and dumping on the city as they do so (not so fine). So refreshing to have someone voice what I am feeling about sticking it out in the place I love.

  6. Kay L. says...

    Team pineapple woohoo! So I grew up in California eating Hawaiian pineapple pizza my whole life and loved it. Then I moved to NYC for grad school and was absolutely SHOCKED by the vitriol I encountered when I told my classmates from the east coast (NY, CT, etc) that it was my favorite. They even told me I didn’t know what real pizza was! Did I miss something big that happened to make some people react sooo negatively to pineapple on pizza?! Lol

    • Emily says...

      Just saying, I was born and raised in NYC w/ some roots from a tropical island and I think pineapple on pizza is perfectly fine. Pretty good, even! My family’s go to order is pineapple w/ chicken plus a mushroom-pepperoni. I think it’s great that pizza is versatile that way.

  7. Lizzie says...

    Here to say TEAM PINEAPPLE FOREVER!!!

  8. Nicole says...

    Pineapple and feta is my favorite pizza combination! x

  9. Jessica says...

    Oooh, I just thought of something that should totally make it into the roundup; Jessica Helgerson’s work on Portland Homeless Family Solutions. She’s this super high-end designer who put a huge effort into creating a trauma-informed design space for families transitioning through houselessness and, well, the whole thing makes me get all “People Can Be Good!” weapey in the way that I *know* COJ readers love. Check it out here:
    https://www.instagram.com/p/B6GexcvhN5Z/
    And here: https://www.instagram.com/p/B5vGQyQBm39/
    And there are a few more.
    And I thought you would love them.

    • Jessie says...

      Thank for sharing! This is so cool!

  10. Clara says...

    While we’re talking about New York being a vibrant city full of determined and resilient people, I’m also going to put a shout out for Washington, DC as the same – a city full of real people leading full lives of all sorts, and all kinds of jobs (service industry to teachers to, yes, federal employees who make necessary agencies go round, in addition to people who work in politics) but with no representatives in Congress (we have a single delegate who doesn’t have a vote). We’re heading back into the season where all you hear about is “the swamp,” so I just want to put in a plug for remembering we are so so so much more than that, even if we are disenfranchised (call your reps who DO have a vote, btw, and advocate for us if you would).

    • Rachel says...

      DC resident here who loves and agrees with everything in this comment!!!

    • GoldenMoon says...

      I have family there and was just distance visiting in DC. We walked away feeling so moved by the district community. Despite “the swamp” dominating the news the community there is strong, vibrant, and so resilient. I was so glad to feel the determined and passionate energy from the locals and to see all the signs of solidarity for racial justice all over the city. I came away yet again wishing for an end to the no representation nonsense for you all. DC citizens deserve voting rights!!! Your community’s voice matters just like any other.

    • Chloe says...

      Well, there’s a swamp. Evidence is coming out everyday that the previous administration tried to remove a duly-elected president in the days before and after the election. The swamp *is* real whether or not you’re a part of it.

      I’m sure Washington is full of wonderful people, but it’s also knee-deep in corruption.

    • El says...

      Lol @ Chloe’s swamp theory. Cool story!

      Clara, we love DC and y’all deserve full representation.

    • Calla says...

      Yes! I don’t live there anymore but the lack of representation frustrated me so much when I did! And even thought I live in another great city now I do miss some of the DC-specific energy!

  11. Julie says...

    Joanna! Pineapple on pizza is a culinary abomination! All the vomit emojis!!!!! I thought this was just an Australian desecration but clearly it has infiltrated the world. Oh no.

    • Denise says...

      My first job was at a pizza place 30+ years ago and pineapple was a popular ingredient even then. Especially with pepperoni! And as my mom would say, don’t yuck someone’s yum! :-)

    • ARC says...

      I grew up in Germany, and “Pizza Hawaii” with lots of cheese, pineapple and ham was a thing back then and still is. It’s yummy.

  12. EJ says...

    “Wipe your tears, wipe your butt and pull it together.” – Jerry Seinfeld

    My new life motto. For the rest of 2020, anyway!

  13. Maria says...

    HA! I saw the Jerry Seinfeld rebuttal opinion piece (and loved every single sentence) but the baby object permanence one is brilliant!

  14. carole yunker says...

    Hoping you all are aware of and concerned about all the people that have lost homes and everything else in the recent hurricane!

    • Joaquina says...

      Hurricanes, wildfires, layoffs from pandemic…
      This blog tends to draw very aware, knowledgeable, and sensitive readers. We can not expect Jo to cover every single current event, no matter how devastating,
      This blog offers a variety of references/insights/links/articles; some light and others heavy.
      It is why I come here!
      But yes…I certainly have much empathy for anyone displaced by recent events.

    • Olivia says...

      Yes Joaquina, I so agree!

    • ARC says...

      I don’t want to sound snarky (but I probably do): I live between two huge wildfires in California and it’s been catastrophic. People lost homes, 1 million acres of beautiful nature and redwood forrest down to the ocean were lost, we all were glued to the daily CalFire updates to see whether the evacuation zones were extended to where we live or where we know friends live, the air is terrible and my eyes are burning, it’s climate change right here and now – nobody really appears to care outside of CA, as there are so many disasters going on at the same time (plus Covid and the upcoming elections). I am terribly sorry for folks that lost homes etc. in the recent hurricane, I think we all have a limit, however, and CoJ is not a news organization.

  15. Jenny says...

    Does Jerry live in NYC now? 👀 I thought he lived in a giant mansion in an extremely wealthy suburb and didn’t spend the spring with refrigerator trucks as hold-over morgues outside his tiny apartment. New York will never be over, because the New Yorkers who make it great are working folks whose fates are intertwined.

    • Sasha L says...

      👏👏👏

    • El says...

      Louder for the people in the back!!

    • Joyce says...

      I love Jerry Seinfeld. He’s hilarious. I once saw him in Central Park, and he was so nice to a fan talking to him! But according to his wife’s Instagram, his kitchen is bigger than most NYC apartments….so….

    • Liz Monaco says...

      I love NY and I mean LOVE NY… I grew up in that beautiful city through the worst of times.. back in the 70’s when Pres. Ford told NY to “drop dead” when the city needed a bailout after it went bankrupt, and my son lives there now. I thought the city Giuliani brought back to life was safe enough for my son to live there… no problem. I visited back in May and it was so sad to see it and this was before the protests, riots and looting. I thought then how will this city get back to normal? And not getting political but diblasio and Cuomo have placed nails on the coffin here. Seinfeld says what he says because he’s one of the elites. He can live in the hamptons and commute wherever he wants. He’s got loads of money. But not the mom and pop shops- they don’t have Seinfeld kinda money.. nor do the restaurants, I mean look at fifth ave! It’s boarded up. The 70’s Nyc with the fiscal crises and graffiti and crime was not boarded up! Not closed for business! It was gritty but it thrived! People are leaving the city in droves. Uhaul rental trucks have lines circling blocks of waiting people for trucks to move out. And the crime! It’s quadrupled ! Defund the police they say – it’s insane. My heart breaks and my mind is not at peace knowing my son lives there. You see I moved to Florida back in the mid 90’s and it’s good here .. businesses, restaurants and gyms give some sort of “normal” life during Covid pandemic. No protesters, rioters, looters to have harmed the local economies. NYC has always had a part of my heart… but it’s going to take years for it to be back to “normal”. The elites always downplay life because their lives are “easier “ compared to those who have to really work to eke out a living. The working man and woman have no 2nd home in the hamptons, private teachers/schooling.. and heck plain old hard disposable cash money for every day expenditures and then some. Again not to get political but the city that never sleeps is hibernating… until November.

    • Calla says...

      Even so, I don’t think his wealth and privilege negate the point entirely. In some ways I think its really important for high-profile people to publicly express their confidence and intention to stay when we hear so much of the opposite. I don’t think the point is that the bad things aren’t happening or that no one should leave, it’s more a criticism of the people that are leaving because it’s not “fun” anymore.

    • Trish says...

      Calla, why should residents be criticized for leaving “if it’s not fun anymore”? I’m not a New Yorker so maybe I’m missing something. What’s wrong with pointing out that the city is no longer a hospitable place for many people?

    • Liz says...

      Calla — Native nyers live in NY because that’s their homes. People move to NY because that’s where their community is. NY is magical (not “fun”) because of the great many and resilient communities. I think before this happened, almost everyone I know who lives NYC would agree that living in NY is and has for many decades been hard, not “fun”. As a native-NYer, I would venture to say that those who are no longer interested in living in the city because in the midst of a global crisis they no longer find it “fun” were never real NYers and would have left eventually anyway. But I also agree with the sentiment in Jerry’s piece that they are also very short sighted.

    • Calla says...

      Trish, certainly everyone is entitled to do what is best for them. I think for some city-dwellers such as myself, there are a lot of factors at play. One is that I feel invested in the city and its people and sometimes the complaints about it being “dead” or not fun anymore come across as though the city is there to serve someone, whereas I feel it goes both ways. I believe that investing in the people, culture and businesses where you live is how you create community, and leaving when some activities close runs counter to that effort.

      And I also think that it’s possible to choose to move somewhere else without insulting the place you are leaving. Maybe people feel the pull of rural areas or suburbs and that is great. But making a point about how “dead” a place on the way out can be a slap in the face to those who stay. When you are working to keep your city going in the face of adversity, it is demoralizing to have people imply that without some of the restaurants and museums there is no point to it anymore.

      What about the neighborhood standbys that are trying to hang in there? Or the elderly who have lived their whole lives here and now need help accessing the necessities? Or the people keeping local traditions alive and spirits up? Behind the trendy restaurants, the concerts, and the museums are real people, not faceless business that exist only to keep us constantly entertained, and I feel these people are well worth staying for.

      So to the people who find that life here is not worth living, I sincerely hope they find what they are looking for wherever they are headed but would appreciate it if they let the rest of us support and rebuild our cities in peace.

  16. Mandy March says...

    This time of year I LOVE putting fresh peaches on pizza for that little bit of juicy sweetness.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      sounds so good!!

    • h says...

      Also, try red grapes. Yum!

    • Anna says...

      Omg you sick sick sickos! Pizza with sickly-sweet fruit toppings? What next, chocolate sauce? Toffee? Whipped cream? It’s official, the human race is done for. (I am only about 80% joking.)

  17. Sonia says...

    Hi Amy,
    I got married last fall and was in the same boat of struggling to find a wedding dress that wasn’t super fancy or expensive- I just wanted a nice dress that I could wear as a wedding dress. I ended up finding the perfect dress at Nordstrom (online)- it was perfect and less than $200. They had a huge selection of nice party dresses that I narrowed down by color, length, etc. Good luck!

    • Bonnie says...

      Agree with Sonia! Though my wedding was a decade ago, I was committed to a dress under $200 and found a gem at Nordstrom online.

  18. Sarah says...

    I would suggest keeping an eye out on TheRealReal consignment site. I obviously can’t say for sure, but I think they often have some different styles that are special and unique but more affordable.

  19. Mandy says...

    We are with you on the pineapple front! My son invented a pizza on a video game he was playing and it was super popular in the game so he shared that with us and in describing the pizza we all decided that it sounded so good we had to try it! The Veggiefru lol is double cheese, pineapple and green pepper. Try it you won’t be disappointed!

    • Karyn says...

      Yes! Pineapple and fresh green bell pepper has been my choice for 20+ years! Also acceptable with fresh red bell pepper, but the more widely available green is the most perfect sweet/crunchy combo imaginable :)

  20. Emma says...

    Dear Joanna, I’ve just read that you had been making pizza with pineapple topping and I got all emotional. Weird, but let me explain; I’m a secondary school teacher from Spain and these past months have really hard, same as everybody else I guess. I’m a single mum and my eldest just graduated from High school in June and he’s going to university to England next wednesday…I’m happy for him but just feel worried, anxious and teary.
    About the pizza! Just made pinapple pizza with him and my other so and while I’m waiting for it to be ready just poured myself a glass of wine and started to read my favourite blog in the world: A Cup of Jo. I just wanted to let you know that your blog is like a warm place where to find what I need to feel better and stronger. Not just the blog but also the amazing readers who comment. I feel grateful to belong to this Tribe.
    Love from Spain.
    Emma

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      oh my gosh, Emma, this means so much to me. I’m so happy to have you here. and I can’t imagine how hard it must be for your eldest to be leaving the nest. so many emotions, I’m sure. sending you so much love.

  21. Ann-Marie says...

    Always pineapple! Such a divisive question to many. ;)

  22. Sujata says...

    Brooklyn is bustling.

  23. Jeri says...

    Pineapple, hot pepper and chicken (or pepperoni) is my go to. Sweet + spicy + savory. It’s *chefs kiss*

    You’re welcome. 😉

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      that sounds so so good!

    • Shelley says...

      I was going to comment that this is our family’s favorite pizza! Pineapple, jalapeño, chicken. 👍🏼🤤

  24. Amy says...

    This is a weird place to post my question, yet it was the first place I thought of! I hope this is okay.

    Anyway, I’m getting married early next spring (or, if travel isn’t a thing by then, late fall). It’s an elopement, just the two of us. And I cannot find a dress for the life of me. I don’t want a floor-length frilly thing; I want something less fancy than that, but still something fancier than I’d wear to the office. I’m an older bride, so I want my arms covered, and I’d prefer a knee-length or midi hem. While I’m mostly looking at ivory/champagne/blush stuff, I am open to other colors, as long as they’re not too dark. And yet somehow there’s nothing out there! Of course, I’m trying to stay economical ($500-$600), but for a dress that’s not a Bridal Gown ™, that ought to be manageable.

    When I see weddings featured on Cup of Jo, I often see brides wearing colorful, joyful, non-Bridal Gown ™ dresses at their weddings–but where the heck are you guys finding those? Nothing quite right at BHLDN or Reformation. Any advice and tips on good sources for special dresses would be so greatly appreciated!

  25. Pam says...

    Your funny socks link won’t work for me!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      fixing now! xoxo