A Snowy Marriage Proposal

A Snowy Marriage Proposal

Last winter, Bailey and Spencer got engaged in the mountains with the help of their friends and family. How cute is that? Here’s how it went down…

Says Bailey:

I woke up right before we were leaving for the ski resort, so I just pulled on my ski clothes. My mom, who knew about the proposal, was like, ‘Don’t you want to put makeup on?’ And I was like, ‘Mom, I’m just going skiing!’

All day, I noticed that Spencer kept touching his ski jacket pocket, which was weird, but I didn’t think much of it. That evening, he suggested we go to the top of the ski lodge to watch the sunset. He walked to the edge of the balcony and said, ‘This is really cool, look down.’ And I saw all these people lying in the snow, and I was like, ‘Wait, that’s my dad! Those are my friends!’ I was so confused. Then I realized they were spelling out the words, ‘Will you marry me?’ It took me a second!

Says Spencer:

All day, I felt nervous — not that she would say no, but that she would find out what was going on or that people wouldn’t be lying down the right way or that I would lose the ring. I had spent weeks and weeks planning it.

My mom was in charge of coordinating the letters, and I helped get everyone there. All Bailey’s family and friends came to surprise her — one person from as far away as Thailand!

My dad texted and said, ‘Come see the view, it’s pretty amazing,’ which was our code for making our way over there. We went 10 stories up on a ski resort, and I told her to look over the balcony. She started laughing when she realized what was going on and I got down on one knee.

Our friends all complained later about how cold the snow was — they had to wait for us to get there and they were freezing and getting wet! But afterward we all met at the bottom of the lodge for donuts and hot chocolate.

Bailey’s dad kept saying how much he hates snow, but he was willing to do that for his daughter. It was really cute. He was the ‘I’ in the ‘will.’

A Snowy Marriage Proposal

A Snowy Marriage Proposal

A Snowy Marriage Proposal

Congratulations, Bailey and Spencer! How sweet is that? If you’re engaged, how did it go down? I also love the idea of just talking about it.

P.S. A double marriage proposal, a photo booth proposal and 11 wedding dos and don’ts.

  1. Alyssa says...

    This is so fun and sweet!

  2. My husband proposed to me in Grand Central Terminal after performing a crazy amazing dance (which naturally attracted a crowd). 2016.

  3. Heather says...

    I’m don’t mean to sound rude, but who are Bailey and Spencer? Is one of them a contributor to CoJ? Or are they readers?

  4. Meghann says...

    My brother is traveling with his girlfriend from South Dakota to NYC this week to propose. I’m over the moon for them. He had been so anxiously sweet trying to think of all the details and has had the ring for months. One big concern he has is the moment being captured… Crossing my heart and fingers that NYC brings him a sweet stranger to take all the photos.

  5. Marci says...

    My husband proposed on a flight in 2008. Despite the fact that it was after 9/11, he still charmed the flight attendant into letting him get on the PA. He told me he was going to the bathroom and I was already nose deep in a book so I wasn’t listening to the beginning when he started his speech. It wasn’t until he mentioned the “women in row 5” that I noticed the flight attendant looking at me, with my camera pointed at me that I even realized he was talking. It was a complete surprise and the entire plane applauded when I stood up (or tried to without banging my head on the overhead bin). I was so surprised and shaking, I didn’t take the ring out of the box and held it carefully instead of putting it on. It was perfectly awkward. The even bumped us up to first class and gave us Champagne.

  6. Kate says...

    That is adorable!

  7. Em says...

    I love these engagement posts! Makes me feel all warm and fuzzy. So so sweet!

    • Jamie Thiel says...

      Right? Even though I’m at the tail end of a heartbreaking divorce this post still makes my heart so happy. I will always believe in love.

  8. Elaine says...

    I love this story – including the part about how they made you work on the plane!

  9. ker says...

    I thought we were going out for brunch so I was in the bathroom getting ready.
    When I came out of the bathroom my boyfriend and dog were nowhere to be found. The laptop was set up with a slideshow of pictures from our 10 years together. At the end, there was a note that said “come find us”
    I went on a little scavenger hunt that took me to a local cafe, my work, a favourite restaurant and had me call both my mom and dad for clues. We live overseas so it was such a nice way for them to be involved.
    I finally found my way to a beautiful park overlooking the river.
    My boyfriend and puppy were sitting there waiting for me with a picnic.
    He had the camera all set up and caught it all on video when he got down on one knee and asked me to marry him.
    I barely let him finish before I blurted out “of course” and then told him how sneaky he is!!
    Just over a year later we got married on a beach in Hawaii surrounded by our families.

  10. Julie says...

    We were walking to my apartment after I’d been away for a few days and he insisted on carrying all of my bags… I had A LOT of bags, so I thought that was weird but didn’t protest. Still suspecting nothing, I got the mail and started the climb to my second floor apartment with him trailing behind with all my bags HA! I was flipping through the mail while opening the door and I immediately thought I’d been robbed until I then realized what was happening. He “broke into” my apartment earlier that day and scattered hundreds of printed 4×6 photos of us everywhere and also spelled out “Will you marry me” in photos. He then got down on one knee and I have no idea what he said (oops)! We had champagne and went to our favorite Italian restaurant to celebrate… where unbeknownst to me our immediate families were there waiting for us! I’m a hard person to surprise but he pulled it off and it is such a wonderful memory!

  11. Mac says...

    I love the snow-hating Dad as the “i”.

  12. Sara Gwin-Lenth says...

    This made me cry – amazing job, Spencer, family, & friends! Congratulations! xo

  13. Liz says...

    ARE YOU FREAKING KIDDING ME this is the best thing I have ever read in my entire life!!!! So sweet and special!!!! I can’t handle it omg.

  14. Allie says...

    I interrupted my partner’s marriage proposal with “ARE YOU ASKING ME TO MARRY YOU?!?!” It was pure unbridled stokage on my part and I couldn’t help the timing. But I did say yes once I let him get the words out! Just minutes before I was thinking to myself, “What a lovely moment; this is the kind of time that would be so nice for eventually getting engaged.”

  15. Amanda says...

    The least romantic thing ever, but apt for me and my partner: We’ve been together consistently since we were young teenagers, and moved in together at 18 (we were too poor for dorms and rent on our own, ha!). This year he had to move a state away for an internship to finish his PhD, and for a number of reasons it made sense for me to stay in our current city, where he’ll be returning when the year ends. I was 29 approaching 30 in early October this year, and I realized we should probably get married at 30 because it’s a nice round number and I guess it’s time. Next, a friend pointed out that 10/10/2020 is on a Saturday, and I liked those numbers, too. Never one to wait, I texted him, “We should get married when we’re 30, and 10/10/2020 is a Saturday so I think we should do that day.” His response, “We can talk about it, but yeah, that sounds good to me!”. My friends were like, “Wait, are y’all engaged?” Our answer is still “Guess so!”. Guess its time to actually plan a wedding now?!

    • Alice says...

      This is really sweet :) I will just say, as a word of advice from the wedding industry perspective, 10/10/2020 is an *incredibly* popular date, so if you are thinking to plan an event, make sure you have vendors and your core people on board soon!

  16. Alice says...

    On a day where the world feels like it’s going to hell in a handcart (I’m in the UK and am completely baffled and heartbroken and just plain angry by what happened in our election), this whole post, and all the stories, are reminding me that love wins, every time. Thank you.

    • Denise says...

      We feel your pain Alice . . . not sure what is up with the world right now. Maybe the last blowout before progress? Hang tough!

  17. Joanna says...

    so sweet.

    I got engaged this past summer and it was the best best best. We were hiking in the Yukon and I didn’t know it at the time, but my now fiance, was so nervous and trying to find the right moment all day. He built up his nerves at the last possible moment of the day… in our teeny tiny pup tent. I had just popped in my retainer and had my eye mask propped on my forehead (so sexy) ready to sack out for another big day of hiking when he asked. I was laughing and screaming and shrieking (in the best kind of way). The next morning the hikers who were camping next to us asked if there was a mouse in our tent!

    • elly says...

      wow i would NEVER bring my retainer on a hiking trip. you must have great teeth.

    • Jamie says...

      OMGosh, I’m dying with laughter. “Was there a mouse in your tent?” that’s the best. Such a fun story, Joanna.

    • Keri says...

      Ha, I had my retainer in when I got engaged too! My roommate at the time called me at 5 am to say she had been running and had sprained her ankle and could I pick her up. Ha, it was actually my boyfriend there, with coffee and our bikes on a scenic bridge. Of course I still had on my PJs and glasses and retainer in because I had been planning to go back to bed.

  18. Lauren says...

    I love proposal stories! I thought my now husband might propose to me on my birthday (2009) but then when I came home after work, my big surprise was that he had flown in my mom since I had been so homesick! Nothing happened that night – we all went out to dinner, had cake, etc. But then the next morning he planted the idea in my head that we should take her to our favorite brunch place that has an old photo booth. We take everyone when they come to town so it wasn’t anything unusual! My mom also kept saying “don’t you want to put on makeup or take a shower?” but I was like “for brunch?!” After we had eaten we went to take the standard strip of photos – my mom and I got in first, then the three of us, then just my husband and I. While he and I were in there, my mom planted a pre-taken strip from earlier in the week with him holding up signs that said “will – you – marry – me.” I didn’t think he could surprise me but BOY did he!

    • Lauren says...

      I should note – for the 4 months prior I KNEW a ring probably existed and kept turning every scenario into a proposal. Walking with the dog on the beach and he’s lagging? Turn around and he’s picking up dog poop, NOT proposing. Skipping class at night to go watch a hockey game? Nope…actually going to watch a hockey game. The anticipation was brutal!

    • Laura says...

      adorable :)

    • Emily says...

      We got engaged actually 6 months ago today! 6/14/19!
      We were doing long distance up until this summer when my fiancé moved to me. This particular weekend, I was driving up for his sister’s college graduation on Sunday. I drove up after work and a doctors appointment that ran late and I got lost twice getting myself to the highway and getting gas. So I arrived totally winded and had even considered just heading back home when I accidentally started driving south instead of north. But with the encouragement of a friend on Bluetooth I turned around instead of going home and waiting till the morning. I finally arrive, we have a delicious dinner of pasta and homemade sauce and I crash on the couch. He says “do I want to go get ice cream?” and I’m like “no,” but then he says we hadn’t been to this particular homemade ice cream place yet this season so I oblige because it’s ice cream :) We go and we have to pass where we went to college on our way and I aww because I love it there and he says “do you want to take a walk around?” (which is something we have been know to do). We get on campus and walk around a while and as we start to finish our walk he starts talking about how on this campus 8 years(!) he thought this girl was really neat and I want to spend my life with her and then he got on one knee and proposed! The SWEETEST public safety officer offered to take our picture and we actually were able to get in touch with him after via email to thank him. So sweet. We’re getting married this coming July. Upon my fiancé asking what I wanted for Christmas I said I literally have everything I could ever dream of. It’s worth the wait!!!

  19. bk says...

    this place looks familiar, is this Snowbird?! This is actually where I want my ashes to be spread

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      Yes!

    • Madison says...

      Just hopped into the comments to say hey! This is snowbird!

  20. Jan says...

    So sweet!!!

  21. emily says...

    <3 mid-day kid is napping cup-of-jo reading tears. Man, what is it about love that makes me cry? One commenter said "people love love" and it's so true. I just goddamn love love.

  22. APC says...

    My husband had planned to propose to me around Christmastime but my grandfather passed away and he said it just didn’t feel right. We had a trip planned to San Francisco in the spring for a wedding and added on a few says in Big Sur. While on the trip, I came down with a terrible cold and laryngitis (no voice!), it was such a bummer. One afternoon, we’re were cozying up in our Big Sur cabin, I was laying with my head on his chest and suddenly I could hear/feel that his heart had started racing. I knew something was up and then he popped the question. I let out a raspy but enthusiastic, “Yes!” I should also note, it was April Fool’s Day!

  23. Lorraine says...

    This was beyond sweet!!! And her Dad, awwww!
    I’m so happy for them!
    And wow, the engagement stories in the comment section are amazing, too!!!

  24. E says...

    I’d be willing to bet that these are close loved ones who were happy or honored or excited to be a part of this special day! It’s an exciting time for this couple and I’m sure they knew who would love to be a part of it. :)

  25. Julie says...

    My wife and I just talked about it and we don’t even remember the conversation…we know it happened in 2018 on our couch. We agreed we’d elope in 2019…and we did! This summer! No one knew till we called to tell them we were married. It was perfect! And I love that when we decided to tie the knot we were both involved and it was so casual and in a place we hang out every day, just a continuation of our lives together.

  26. Beth Collins says...

    I had almost the exact experience as Nora and Stan. We just talked about it. We actually talked for a few days before we decided to tell people. It was the perfect start to a marriage full of decisions amd struggles that we work out together.

  27. Justine says...

    To the naysayers posting here – this was obviously a joyful occasion for all parties involved; if it isn’t your cup of tea, move on. You don’t have to poop on things you can’t related to.

    Says the woman who’s been happily and deliberately unmarried to the same man for 28 years. My beliefs and needs are not other people’s beliefs and needs, but I sure can appreciate and celebrate those things on their behalf if it makes them happy and fulfilled!

  28. Kristin says...

    Marriage is a hard thing, and knowing you have a village around you is such a sweet way to begin the journey together.

  29. lisa says...

    LOVE. This couple seems very sweet!

  30. Nine years ago, my husband proposed to me on our favorite beach at sunset. He had his arms around me as we watched the sun sink below the ocean and when I felt him suddenly let go, I turned around to find him on one knee with a beautiful ring. He looked me in the eyes, and said, “Sarah my love, will you marry me?”.

    Fast forward seven years filled with some wild ups and downs in our relationship and I had been pretty hard on my engagement band with everyday life, dishes, and work. The band was broken and I kept meaning to take it into our jeweler and repair it but it had slipped my mind and before I knew it, months had gone by since I last thought of it.

    One night when my husband walked in the door from work, he casually suggested we go watch the sunset at our favorite beach. I was on the middle of making dinner and totally annoyed with the idea of dropping everything but told myself to be spontaneous for once and just go.

    We walked down to the spot where he proposed and he stood behind me, wrapping me in a bear hug. He let go and I turned, thinking we were leaving. Instead, I found him on one knee with my repaired ring and a twinkle in his eye. He said, “Sarah my love, will you marry me?” And I shrieked and burst into the loudest happy sobs. Being re-proposed to after almost a decade of marriage had incredible emotional depth and I’ll always cherish that moment.

    • jrg says...

      aw this is the sweetest story!

    • Carissa says...

      This made me tear up!!

    • Jamie says...

      More happy tears.

  31. I knew that my boyfriend had a ring and he was just waiting for the perfect moment. I also know that too much pressure can sometimes paralyze him. One night as we were making dinner together, I was gently ribbing him about not having done it even though we’d just had an incredible weekend getaway that was filled with great opportunities. He kept saying, “I know! I know! I just got nervous.”
    As we were walking to the living room with our plates of food (to eat while we watched reruns of the office as is our way), I said “Honestly, I don’t need anything special. I am not the kind of person who needs a fancy show.”

    He said, “So you’re telling me that I could just pull out a ring right here. Right now and you’d be fine with that.”
    “Yes! Of course I would be fine with that.”
    “So you mean to tell me… *puts his plate down* that if I just interrupted our conversation right now. *gets on a knee* and asked you to marry me. Even though we’re just having a normal day. *pulls out ring* You’d be fine with that?”
    I remember saying, “I am holding a plate of mashed potatoes right now!” Hahaha!!

    WHEN I TELL YOU IT WAS SO SMOOTH! UGH! I loved it. It really was perfect. A regular day. Making dinner together. Having a conversation. Just living our life together–making it official that we were gonna keep making our life together.

    • Nicole says...

      LOVE THIS! its the little things like this that make it sweet! love that he just happened to be carrying the ring with him just in case the moment arose!

    • Arial says...

      I LOVE this!!

    • Patricia A Perez says...

      I love this! My proposal story is similar. Just a normal day after work over wine and chocolate (that I just thought we had for no special reason at all).

    • Erin says...

      “I am holding a plate of mashed potatoes right now” just made me burst out laughing. This is a fantastic story. Congrats on getting engaged. I wish you every good thing for your marriage!

    • Kat says...

      :) I love it

    • Sarah says...

      The mashed potatoes!! ahahahah!

    • Hannah says...

      This is my favorite.

  32. I loved our engagement and while it’s just a means to an ends it set the tone of love and appreciation. I was a lawyer then and my husband worked with several partners at my firm to plan a fake business trip to London. They had the firm travel agent in on it, as well as a real client who sent me emails regarding a fake issue and they even gave me work to do on the plane (they really got int it). When I opened the door to my hotel room in London, Ethan was in the room surrounded by roses. He looked over and said “oh, you’re here too?” He then proposed and said we leave for the Amalfi Coast tomorrow. I responded, “I can’t go to Italy, I have a lot of work to do!” He thought it was hilarious that I didn’t understand there was no work trip. One of the things I loved the most was how it brought out a romantic side in everyone – older jaded law partners, flight attendants who he showed the ring, the hotel staff – everyone loves love. I feel lucky and special that our life together started with this amazing over-the-top gesture.

    • Mika says...

      This is incredible :’) I love that he got so many people in on it…what an amazing surprise! Congratulations!

    • kate says...

      Your story is like a movie! I love it so much :):)

    • Kathy Hoang says...

      what a lovely story. Smiling ear to ear

  33. Eli says...

    So happy crying here at work! Gosh I love these and hope there are many happy endings in there! <3 #COJdeskcrying

    • Meghan says...

      that hashtag! yes!

  34. Just this week, my teenager and her BFF were hanging out at our house. They wanted to look through my jewelry box and then they started asking me how my husband proposed and I tossed off the story while I was making dinner and next thing I knew, they were acting out the proposal scene and making a video and sending it to their friends! So funny! And sweet. (It was a simple, sweet proposal: we bought the ring together with the idea that he would surprise me sometime later; he brought me breakfast in bed at the college apartment where I lived with 4 other women, and got down on one knee with the ring in hand)

  35. Bailey says...

    This is too surreal! My name is Bailey, my husband’s name is Spencer and he knelt down in the snow 9 years ago during our proposal😆

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      how sweet!!!!

  36. Lucy ♥ says...

    I just got engaged a week ago, in the sweetest way! My fiancee (!!!) suggested we go to our favorite local bookstore, Powell’s books, for some Christmas present shopping. I was perusing the books and he said “I have a surprise for you”. He had set up a scavenger hunt through all my favorite books with clues in each book, taking me from Harry Potter to Rupi Kaur to ‘An Absolutely Remarkable Thing’. The last book was ‘Commitment’, Elizabeth Gilbert’s book about marriage, and right there in the middle of the bookstore he got down on one knee. My favorite part: 2 of the clues were missing, meaning some lucky customers have little love notes / scavenger hunt clues in their copies of ‘The Sorcerer’s Stone’! (Luckily he had backups)

    • Lucy!! This is the sweetest thing I’ve ever heard!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      this is adorable!

    • Kathy Hoang says...

      AHHH SO WONDERFUL!!!

    • Sarah says...

      And in Powell’s – my heart!

    • anna says...

      My proposal was wonderful, but this sounds amazing! Powell’s is my favorite place.

  37. slf says...

    Hilarious 😂! Love it!

  38. Betsy says...

    I literally can’t imagine someone loving me so much that they would plan something like this for me. This is beyond sweet.

    • Sophie says...

      Hi Betsy, I hope the time comes at some point when you can look back on the time you wrote this comment and you can send yourself a hug back from a future where you feel so overwhelmed with love. I know everyone shows love in different ways, but I hope you feel completely and deeply loved. You deserve it.

  39. Lisa says...

    What a sweet proposal!

    My husband was able to only let the waitress in on his plan (lucky for him I went to the bathroom). We went for a walk on the outdoor portion of the cocktail bar we were at after dinner. After I was sufficiently cold, April in Chicago is still very cold, I was ready to go back inside. He wanted to step into a little cove “to see the chandelier.” The waitress had set champagne out for us earlier and he proposed. She gave us free champagne and we gave her a very nice tip!

    Not a big deal, but perfect for us.

  40. Amy says...

    I am obsessed with this! So cool and unique, and such a nice way to involve family members. I’d love to be asked to lay on the ground for something like this!

    My fiance and I got engaged this summer. It was important to us that the moment of engagement be symbolic of our equal partnership, so we didn’t want a one-sided proposal, but we also wanted to have a special, memorable event to mark the engagement with. So we picked out two engagement rings and then one night we left the city around midnight, drove up to the mountains, hiked up in the dark, and got engaged at the summit of a mountain at sunrise. (Er…almost the summit. With only head lamps to guide us, we accidentally took the wrong trail and realized 30 minutes before sunrise that we definitely weren’t going to make it to the actual top in time.) It was close enough and we were able to set up a camera and tripod and get photos of him proposing to me, then me proposing to him, as the sun rose behind us around 4:30am. It was a magical day and planning it together, having this big secret between us as we hashed out the details and designed one piece of our future together, made it even more special for me.

  41. Laura says...

    My (now) husband was divorced before we met and I didn’t think he was interested in marriage at all, especially the traditional bits like a proposal and big wedding. He blew me away! We went on a road trip on the Irish coast for my 30th birthday and were staying at an airbnb cottage in the middle of nowhere by the sea. He asked me to come to the little sitting area which had a gorgeous view and he poured us some champagne and said he had one last birthday gift to give me and got down on one knee. I was so surprised I slid off the couch I was on and we were both on our knees when I said yes. Unbeknownst to me, he had had the ring designed months prior and secretly packed it for the trip.

  42. Rachel says...

    My husband and I had both the worst first date and best second date all in the same day. First date: awkward coffee date at a place that was vegan and I didn’t know he’d be hungry…it was before vegan food was good. Second date: he texted me asking if i’d go watch a meteor shower and then came and picked me up (I was in sweats with no makeup on). It was a completely cloudy night but we sat on a park bench that happened to have a clear spot right above it and watched a beautiful meteor shower, talked about everything, and drank wine out of a to-go thermos (that I packed).

    Three years later on a random wednesday he told me he had a work event at the Natural History museum during the day and asked if i’d pick him up since it’s on my way home and he was carpooling with coworkers. When I went to pick him up, he told me to park in the fire lane because he had something to show me quickly. He took me into the planetarium, we were the only people there, and they pulled up the night sky from our first date from our meteor shower. It was beautiful. Then he had them write “will you marry me” across the stars in the planetarium. I was so surprised that he had gotten on his knee, dropped the ring, and picked it back up before I even turned to look at him. Each year we either go out to dinner to celebrate “our” meteor shower (if it’s cloudy) or go try to watch it.

    • Whitney says...

      Swoooon! So sweet and romantic!

    • Em says...

      I love all of these stories – but this one, to me, is perfect. Planetarium (touch of nerdiness) on a random Wednesday, just the two of you, commemorating how you first began. Wishing you all of the happiness, Rachel (+ your sweet husband).

    • Emily says...

      That’s so beautiful!

    • Holy moly! This is AWESOME.

  43. jrg says...

    love this! those are good friends and family to lay in the snow for so long. my husband proposed to me at the end of a half marathon – he carried the ring in a fanny pack the whole 13.1 miles! i had zero idea, the finish line was a zoo, and one of my friends had to legit pin my arms to my side to get me to stand still to see him down on one knee, which he still ribs me about.

  44. Jamie says...

    We did the talk about it approach. My husband was in grad school and we had already been together six years and living together for three years, and our finances were pretty much combined. He received some sort of additional funding and was being weird about the money. I thought we needed to try and save it and he was insistent that we shouldn’t. We actually started to argue about it, and he finally blurted out “I want to use to to get married, ok?!” After that, we talked a bit and added marriage to our “to do” list. We ended up eloping later that year.

  45. Sarah says...

    My twin sister, Abby, just got engaged while I was home for Thanksgiving! She and Alex, her now-fiancé (eee!), went on a hike early morning after Thanksgiving. I had a hunch it was happening because Abby had mentioned at Thanksgiving table during desserts I should join them the following morning. Alex texted me, “not to be rude, but don’t join us tomorrow.” ha! They got engaged on their 10 year anniversary – to the day they went on their first date!

  46. Alice says...

    Love this — one of the most creative, thoughtful, and fun wedding proposals I’ve ever heard of! And Bailey, what an incredible life partner you have — the amount of creativity, organization, and love Spencer showed bodes well for your future together.

  47. denisem says...

    I’m not big on public proposals and hoopla but this one is cute. Thanks for sharing the smiles.

  48. Nicki says...

    I did something similar to this when I proposed to my husband in 2010, under a waterfall in southern Thailand, spelling out “Marry Me” with dozens of candles.

    We had talked about getting married for some time and he often joked that since we are both feminists, I should propose. I happily accepted the challenge and planned not one but TWO surprises (I was certain he would suspect something and wanted to have a back-up for the real surprise effect – it proved unnecessary).

    On the night of the proposal, I suggested we bike from our hotel to go watch the sunset on a particularly idyllic beach (where I’d arranged sunset drinks and oysters on pillows in the sand). He was totally surprised and excited, though a bit confused after the sun eventually set and there was still no proposal…

    We then threw the bikes onto the back of a pick-up truck, ostensibly to head back to the hotel – but I had arranged for us to be dropped off at the bottom of a nearby path that leads up to the most incredible little waterfall. I had asked the staff at our hotel to set up a small table for dinner, surrounded by lots of candles (including of course the “Marry Me!” ones) They did an amazing job! As we approached to waterfall, we were literally surrounded by hundreds of small candles and totally blown away by the magic of it. He was so excited he started saying “Yes! Yes! Yes!” before I could say a single word.

    To this day, he teases me that technically he received an order, not a proposal.

    • anna says...

      That sounds amazing! I love that you threw him off a bit. What a great memory!

  49. Laura B says...

    I LOVE this!! My fiance proposed at Burning Man, one of our favorite places on Earth, with his brother, my brother and sister and law, and some of our closest friends (and a bunch of people we didn’t know who couldn’t have been happier for us!). The moment was magical and we celebrated as the Man burned that night. Because there is no cell service out there, we were able to savor the secret, quietly dreaming and planning for our long drive home before telling our families the following day.

  50. jeannie says...

    What an original proposal! And so nice to share the happiness and excitement with friends and family all there!

  51. Ejstro says...

    Love this! My husband wanted to propose at store where I would buy something with cc. It would get declined and receipt would have proposal printed out on it. Original but so not romantic. Glad he didn’t go that route!

    • Andrea says...

      LOL of all the ways to propose! gotta love it

  52. Divya says...

    This is one of the best proposals ever! So clever and well executed.

  53. OMG I LOVE THIS ITS TOO SWEET !!!

  54. vanessa says...

    strange hearing people say ‘congratulations!’ to a woman. as if marriage is some sort of criteria for success. and then they literally ask to see the ring to determine how much money this guy has spent. yikes.

    • El says...

      Old school WASP-y etiquette said that only men should be congratulated on an engagement, women are told “best wishes.” This is obvi super heteronormative and classicist. I find etiquette like this super interesting, though– it was explained to me that congratulating a woman implied essentially what you’re suggesting above. So maybe it unintentionally retains some relevance!

    • JR says...

      Getting engaged is a celebratory event and a major commitment for many people – I don’t see why congratulations are strange? Having a baby is not a criteria for success in life but congratulations are certainly in order in the event you birth one!

    • Emily says...

      Hmm, I see your point and agree that marriage should not be a measure of success, nor should the ring be the focus! When I say congratulations, it’s an expression of excitement that a friend (and their partner) has chosen to make such a big commitment and good wishes for them– like a sign that I support their choice. I also share congratulations on new jobs, etc! Adult life can be tough and it’s nice to celebrate the good stuff together.

    • jules says...

      I ask to see the ring, not because I care about how much he spent at all, but because I know my girlfriends are very excited about this and the ring is a physical piece of it that they can show and talk about their story. It can show you care and are genuinely interested in their moment… if you actually are. I say congratulations because of what the other reader said – its a huge commitment and decision – just like a job, baby, promotion, or buying a home (which all don’t measure success but we say it because we care and its something huge thing happening in their lives.)

  55. Susan says...

    Well, this made my day!

  56. talia says...

    People are so clever! This is an adorable way to propose! Wishing them the happiest life together!