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Mother’s Day-Adjacent Things to Do This Weekend

Mother's Day Comic

This Friday’s cartoon is by Grace Farris. Sending a hug to anyone who needs one. Mother’s Day isn’t always easy.

And if you’d like to donate this Mother’s Day, here are three worthy causes:

* National Bail Out reunites families all over the country on Mother’s Day by bailing out as many black mothers and caregivers as possible, providing supportive services and fellowship opportunities, and organizing to transform harmful systems (like money bail and pretrial detention).

* Restore helps raise funds and awareness on challenges faced by sex-trafficking survivors with children.

* Without Mom brings together organizations around the world — like Every Mother Counts and Black Mamas Matter — that help end preventable deaths related to pregnancy and childbirth, and ensure access to high-quality maternal care. xoxo

  1. Those are such great causes! Glad you included those in this post. Thanks for sharing, hope you’re having a great day.

    -Kate

  2. What a beautiful way to celebrate all moms

  3. Maria says...

    LOVE this. Lost my mom in 2017, and my husband’s mother passed away when we first started dating! We don’t have children, so yes – SO many holidays are just regular days for us, or days we absolutely AVOID going to brunch (such as today) or out for dinner (Christmas Eve – made that mistake the first year without my mother and almost burst into tears in the restaurant due to the hole in my heart). We have a truly blessed and wonderful life in OH so many ways, but we have no parents left and while we have siblings, no one close-by – so we really are IT for each other.

  4. Sarah says...

    Just awesome.

  5. Anonymous 2 says...

    Donate to Moms Demand Action. Become a member. Guns are killing machines and they are killing children. MDA is working tirelessly to change laws to protect everyone from gun violence, gun terrorism, and gun accidents.

  6. G to the J says...

    Just when I thought I couldn’t love you more. Sending love and solidarity to all those in the trenches, no matter what your trench looks like. I muddled my way through something like 10 Mothers’ Days while struggling with infertility and now find myself as an exhausted yet happy mom of three young boys. Life, you just never know :)

  7. Emily says...

    What about moms who’ve lost children? Think they are most definetly worth mentioning in this illustration.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      yes, for sure. and also women with complicated relationships with their mothers. thinking of all women this weekend and sending love and strength to all those who need it. xoxo

    • Meredith says...

      Yes, definitely. A close family member of mine is going to face her first Mother’s Day without one of her kids this weekend, due to a completely senseless act of gun violence. This feels like its own particular kind of grief on the holiday, different from complicated relationships or having lost a parent (not less or more than, but definitely unique). Thanks for pointing this out, Emily. And thanks COJ for the ideas; donations to causes that can make a difference seems helpful, too. Whew.

  8. Carrie says...

    Another year and I’m still not a mom. Honestly, I’ve kind of been dreading this day.

    • T says...

      That’s hard. My sister is triggered by Christmas and it helps her to look forward to Boxing Day. So in that vein, on Monday you’ll be the furtherest away from this day in the whole year. Look towards Monday. Monday is yours. Xx

  9. Danielle says...

    One of our good friends passed away this year. He was an only child. I’ve been thinking of his mom so much. I decided to send her a mother’s day card to let her know. I felt so nervous about it somehow being the wrong thing to do but I felt like it can never hurt to let someone know you’re thinking of them. I can’t imagine being on that side of the holiday.

    • T says...

      You did a good thing.

  10. Mel says...

    This is for Anon., who asked about what to say to a grieving friend in a text–just a simple, “I know this time of year is hard for you; please know you are in my heart.” The important thing is to just acknowledge it, to “see” it and not ignore it. My mother passed suddenly in early May (her funeral was the day before Mother’s Day) and I cannot have children. Early May is an especially difficult time for me but I have lovely friends and family members who send me sweet, simple messages and it helps so very much <3

  11. Claire says...

    Thank you so much for these compassionate mother’s day ideas! This is why COJ is the best – thinking of that one extra thing I wouldn’t necessarily have remembered myself.

  12. sadie says...

    just donated to the mother’s day bailout group. thank you for pointing my attention in the right direction.

  13. Maywyn says...

    I keep forgetting its Mother’s Day weekend. That means I can have 1 small bag of cheese puffs to celebrate! Any holiday next weekend?

  14. Kay says...

    To the “anon” poster above, who asks for recs about what to say in a text/note to a friend who has lost her mom: It depends on how well you know the friend, but if you knew her mom, it might be nice so say something like “thinking of you and your amazing mom today” and then maybe mentioning something specific about her mom? Or a “remember when your mom…..” anecdote? Or honestly, even just “thinking of you today” is so, so nice to hear.

  15. Jennie says...

    And to those Moms who wish to spend Mom’s Day indulging in whatever makes YOU happy: enjoy; you earned it.

  16. It’s beautiful that you posted this. A lot of people – including myself – tend to forget about the people who are going through tough times during the holidays. We should stop and think of ways to help them.

  17. Sandi says...

    That’s what Mother’s Day should be all about, Charlie Brown.

    Love you girls, keep up the great work –

  18. Kate says...

    Love this! Donated to baby2baby and (http://baby2baby.org) and Hope in a Suitcase (http://www.hopeinasuitcase.org) for Mother’s Day this year. The former “provides children living in poverty, ages 0-12 years, with diapers, clothing and all the basic necessities that every child deserves,” and the latter “provide[s] children and teens in foster care with a suitcase, along with basic essentials and comfort items, to make their transition into the foster care system and their circumstances just a little bit easier and more dignified” for children who are separated from their moms or might not have a stable parent-figure in their lives right now. Thank you CoJ for always being thoughtful!

  19. Lauren E. says...

    What a perfect post. My best friend lost her mom very suddenly six years ago and this is always a super difficult time for her. I always shoot her a text but maybe this year I’ll send her flowers. Thanks for the idea.

  20. Rachel says...

    Go to SoulCycle with Grace, a fellow mom… ;-)

  21. Jill says...

    I love to send Mother’s Day cards to all the women who have loved and supported me throughout my life – special aunts, my best friend’s mom, my son’s Godmother, the wonderful neighbor who gave me such motherly love growing up. I always end up tearing up in the card aisle as I choose meaningful cards for each of these amazing women. It fills my heart.

  22. Candace says...

    You guys are the best. x

  23. Angela says...

    This is wonderful!!! Thank you!

  24. Mary says...

    Thank you for this great image and your kind words. And happy mothers’ Day. 💗

  25. Andrea says...

    The Saturday before is Birth Mother’s Day :)

    • Anon. says...

      A friend of mine lost her mom a few years ago and I’d like to reach out on Sunday with a text just to let her know I’m thinking of her. But I honestly don’t know what I’d say – I’d appreciate any advice from folks who have sent or received messages like these. <3

    • Anonymous says...

      Just want to mention that my son’s birth mother did not want any contact because she found it too painful. Definitely make sure you know the situation before reaching out to a birth mom. You may be rubbing salt in a wound. (Obviously some many birth mom’s do not feel that way, but just food for thought.)

    • Kate says...

      ANON – we have a book that’s been released here in Australia called Any Ordinary Day, about extreme grief and loss – the ordinary day turning into the words. The journalist writer, Leigh Sales, found part of the grieving process was losing contact with friends who didn’t feel comfortable to express their sadness. So Leigh has said, just reach out in what ever way you can, and more often than not, it will be appreciated. I’m sure not everyone feels this way but you sound like a sensitive and thoughtful person who will hit the right note. Hope this helps x

      (PS link to book – https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/40637139-any-ordinary-day)

  26. Shannon says...

    This is great! In light of the many moms who have lost their kids to gun violence, can we also add gun control group:
    Moms Demand Action / Everytown for Gun Safety
    Link: https://everytown.org/moms/

  27. Ashley says...

    Grace, Jo, and the rest of the COJ team – THANK YOU for bringing attention to the Mother’s Day Bailout program. As a former public defender (the “former” part still breaks my hear) and a current civil rights attorney, we have toiled for years addressing bond reform and often feel like no one hears us. Most of the time our judges certainly don’t. It means the world that outlets like yours bring such simple and empathetic attention to causes like this one and encourage action. Love, love, love.

    • Caitlin says...

      Thanks for your former and current work, Ashley! Not all heroes wear capes (apologies if you do actually wear a cape;)!

  28. Marisa says...

    You ladies are the best! Thank you for the links and being so considerate <3

  29. liz says...

    love this too!

  30. NN says...

    I love this. <3