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Fleabag Season 2

If you take anything away from the past twelve years (!) of Cup of Jo, let it be the Grand Canyon trick and to immediately watch Fleabag Season 2. Phoebe Waller-Bridge’s six-episode masterpiece follows our thirtysomething hero, as she navigates grief, work and family — and meets a “cool, swear-y” priest. It’s hilarious, honest and utterly human; and I’ve thought deeply about it more over the past week than I have any other movie or show perhaps ever. Said Joss Whedon on Twitter: “Okay, I finally watched Fleabag, it was fine I guess but I have an issue — at the end, how do I watch anything else or make anything else or live my life or breathe or feel or care or walk or fly did I fly am I here is it me do I live through this now what how but.” Agreed.

Sesame Street New Character, Karli foster kid

The newest muppet on Sesame Street is green-haired Karli, a kid in foster care who lives with her “for now” parents. In her debut, Karli appeared in a YouTube video titled “You Belong,” along with her foster parents, Dalia and Clem. “Sometimes even mommies and daddies need help taking care of their children,” they explain to Elmo. “Karli’s mommy has been having a hard time, so we will keep her safe until her mommy can take care of her again.” The team behind Sesame Workshop says they want the 440,000 kids currently in foster care to know there is a place for them, giving us all one more reason to love the show.

Davelle Japanese cafe toasts

Do you ever go out to eat alone? Eric Kim, from Food52, rounded up the 16 best places to dine solo in New York City — including Japanese café Davelle for its lovely toasts. Plus, he shares his favorite places to hang out alone, like the Washington Square Park dog run and Bed Bath & Beyond. What would you add to the list?

Dôen tote bag

Recently, I’ve been carrying a large bag around with picnic snacks, books, whatever the boys need. Tthis pretty number or denim tote would fit the bill — and also have room for all the sticks and rocks five-year-old Anton finds along the way.

P.S. Thoughts on aging, traveling alone and 8 fun Instagram accounts.

(Davelle photo by June Holmes.)

  1. Elizabeth says...

    I would love it if you highlighted foster parents in one of your posts. We’re new-ish to the foster world (having had our little guy for only a year) and it’s been an incredible journey that’s both rewarding and heartbreaking all at the same time. Going into it we had so many misconceptions and we’ve been blown away by all the wonderful families we’ve met through the program (most of which are fostering with the hope of adopting). I was thrilled to hear about the new addition to Sesame St. I always worry that foster kids never get to feel normal because there are so few examples depicting foster families in books, tv or movies. They never get to see someone like them represented and as a result there friends and classmates have a hard time wrapping their head around what being a foster kid means. In many ways the same thing goes for foster moms and dads. We live in a strange limbo world of parenting that friends or family often have a hard time comprehending. It would be great to have this highlighted (similar to your posts on parenting in other countries) on a site that isn’t just for foster parents.

  2. This show slayed me, particularly season 2. Poignant in all the right ways, lingering in a beautiful melancholy. I loved both the redemption story in the second season, the circuitousness of it, and the ambiguity, all at the same time. That’s real life, the good stuff and the hard stuff. So heartbreaking, so moving.

  3. I’ve also spent a shocking amount of time thinking about Fleabag, and a shocking amount of time thinking about why I’m thinking about Fleabag. I finally thought that sitting down and writing a big fat comment about it might help me get over it. *Might*.

    First, it’s just a beautiful piece of art. It’s smart, funny, touching. Fleabag is as witty and tall as I’ve ever dreamed of being. She’s also quite messy – and in truth we’re all a bit messy, aren’t we? But why is the show so haunting?
    When it comes to love, our culture mythologizes the act of finding or meeting someone: if we can only meet the right person, true love will be ours forever. We generally gloss over all of the other parts of love – you know, making it work day in and day out, year after year, the struggles of living with someone, raising children, etc. (Alain de Botton is brilliant on this.) Fleabag breaks the myth. The most crushing moment of the series is when the priest says I love you back to Fleabag. Why? Because love isn’t enough! These two people have totally fallen for each other, but there are other, more important things in their lives (at least his). It’s absolutely crushing, and breaks our whole (misguided) vision of what love is. (I say the series is less devastating if he doesn’t love her back).

    There is also the not insignificant matter of Andrew Scott giving an absolutely electric performance as the Priest. He’s not the most handsome actor ever, but in this role he is unpredictable and incredibly sexy; he’s also, clearly, dealing with some heavy personal stuff (anyone else think he was a sex addict before becoming a priest, and that’s perhaps something that led him to becoming a priest?) and you can see him struggling with it in each scene. He is magnetic. And the way he sees her disappear when she does an aside into the camera – you feel that she’s being seen in that way we all want to be seen.

    There’s something in Fleabag breaking the fourth wall; it makes the show more personal for the viewer and more intense. It invites you in in such an intimate way. I too found it chafing at the beginning of the first season, but suspended disbelief and got into it within a few episodes.

    The final thing I’ve come to about why this show is so moving is that it’s terrifically melancholy. That’s another thing our culture doesn’t do so well, melancholy (again, Alain de Botton is brilliant on this). The Priest and Fleabag had this electric connection, but the affair ends. (He has to choose between God and this woman!) Fleabag really started to deal with her grief about her mother and her best friend passing, feeling both the immense love she has for them and the immense sadness in their loss (and her role in her friend’s death). Even Fleabag’s dad knows his new wife is batshit crazy, but he wants to be loved. And he struggles with the love he feels for Fleabag because she is so similar to her mother, his lost wife. Claire had a miscarriage and is actually relieved, and she leaves her husband even though she’s always striving for perfection. Claire doesn’t speak with her sister for a whole year and then says she’s the only person she’d run through an airport for. The whole show is about love and loss and how they’re bound up together. We generally don’t admit how much loss comes with love, but this show gives us a lot of both.

    Also, everyone is funny. That helps.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      “I’ve also spent a shocking amount of time thinking about Fleabag, and a shocking amount of time thinking about why I’m thinking about Fleabag.” = me too!

    • Sara says...

      That line – when her sister says she’s the only person she’d run through an airport for, absolutely gutted me. It was so beautiful and so perfect.

    • Katy says...

      You just verbalized my entire brain. Are you me? This comment is so insightful and really hits at *exactly* how I feel. I have no one to talk to about this yet except Twitter and CoJ comments!

      “And the way he sees her disappear when she does an aside into the camera – you feel that she’s being seen in that way we all want to be seen.”

      *gutted*

    • Paige Bradley says...

      Yes — all of this! I’ve re-watched it twice and I keep bringing it up in conversations – I feel like I have a crush on it! 😂 —– I also really loved Kristen Scott Thomas’ character – especially her monologue about women and pain and that perfect quip about knowing just a little bit of self-defense. ♥️

    • AMK says...

      I just finished season 2 last night and now I’m watching it again. I love your analysis. I woke up thinking about Fleabag and the priest. Their connection is so electric and deep that it brought up the feeling I felt for my husband when I started to fall deeply and slowly in love with him. We have two little kids and it has been a while since I thought or felt that initial pull of gravity to him…so profound it aches.

      “What do I do with all this love that has no place to go.” I’m going to give it to you, Boo.

    • Shannon says...

      Yes, yes, and yes! I’ve been literally obsessed & devastated (like cry myself to sleep devastated) since watching Season 2. Your comments have helped so much. Perhaps it is just the messy, unassuming realness of it all that stopped me in my tracks. The part that killed me most is when The Priest responds “It’ll pass” to Fleabag’s “I love you.” Does love pass, really, ever? It dims, it dulls, it may not hurt anymore. But does it pass? Are we ever the same?

  4. Joyce says...

    COJ Blog Post idea: Solo hang out spots in NYC, but in Brooklyn rather than Manhattan. :) Let me know if you’d like me to write it. ;)

  5. Karli says...

    I found Season 1 of Fleabag hard to take but Season 2 was incredible and I watched it in a night.
    Also, as a Karli, it is so nice to read my name somewhere. I have only met 2 other girls whose name is spelt like mine. Very exciting to have a name buddy in such a sweet character!

  6. Katie says...

    Fleabag! WOW! Yes! Thank goodness for all of these comments…I’m devouring each and every one of them.

    One thing that stands out about the show to me is how different the “sexy” scenes are, particularly with the priest. Completely different from main-stream movies, which typically contain your standard flawless people and bodies, shot more titillatingly, perhaps in a scenic location etc etc. And yet those scenes do nothing for me. Usually I am so turned off by movie sex scenes…just sitting there uncomfortable and cringing if I’m honest.

    But something about the scenes between Fleabag and the priest?! Whoa. Maybe the hottest thing I’ve seen on screen. Anyone else!? Perhaps the fact that PWB has written and created it from woman’s perspective (and not your typical Michael Bay-style female objectification which usually seems be in most movies)…

    • Gabriella says...

      Thank you COJ family for all these comments – just watched and I need to TALK. I completely agree it’s one of the hottest things I’ve seen onscreen and, to echo Jodi’s wonderfully insightful commenter on here, “I’ve also spent a shocking amount of time thinking about Fleabag, and a shocking amount of time thinking about why I’m thinking about Fleabag.”

      When they finally had sex was hot, but the scene in the confession booth – whoa. Probably because I’m a lapsed Catholic who went to Catholic school and all the trappings of Catholicism are lodged in me forever, I just found the flirtation with the forbidden fruit in a church, at night, in a confession booth, with a priest in an undone collar, overlaid with ecclesiastical music just absolutely delicious. No disrespect to anyone who feels differently, but any fellow Catholics on here who think the irreverence toward a priest as a “man of God” above us lowly lay people felt irresistibly naughty?

      Sexiness aside, it was also a display of utterly raw vulnerability and surrender to another person that I think many of us crave, but won’t admit. I loved to see it displayed on screen.

      Again, coming from the point of view of a lapsed Catholic, it also made me think about priestly celibacy and how utterly tragic and unnecessary it seems. The idea that God does not want this man to pursue the ultimate act of human closeness with a person he loves is JUST. DEVASTATING. to me. A heavy, extremely complicated topic, I know, but did the show prompt anyone else, especially Catholics, to wrestle (again) with this?

  7. Natalie says...

    first of all, Joanna you are the PWB of bloggers…how can I truly enjoy another blog after discovering Cup of Jo years ago? I can’t. You set the bar too high!
    I watched season one of Fleabag after you first recommended it and then made my sisters and friends all watch it! Then just a few months ago when PWB went to NYC to perform the play version, my husband encouraged me to look for tickets everyday (it was sold it) and one became available for the next night! So I found childcare, got a hotel room and took a 6 hr bus from Maine to see it 🤣 it was so worth it. Cultural highlight of my life.

    • Kate says...

      So happy to hear you did that! It’s so easy to get into ruts, especially with kids. Glad you chose the “bigger life” as someone said here the other day.

  8. Julie says...

    My husband is in Chicago for work and I took yesterday off, so since it was storming all day I am (NOT SORRY) to say that I marathoned the entire series of Fleabag in one sitting. I can’t gush about it enough. Phoebe Waller-Bridge’s ability to convey so much with a look. The inherent decency and tragedy of Boo. Everything that Claire says ever, but especially her reaction to her haircut. Olivia Coleman being the best narcissist in the universe. And oooooooh hot priest. “His NECK.” WE KNOW, GIRL.

  9. Janey says...

    Totally bereft now I’ve finished series 2 of Fleabag! Hot priest! Swoon! Saw phoebe a few years back at the Edinburgh festival and loved her show. How can there not be a series 3 of Fleabag though?!?

  10. Tricia M says...

    My “dearly beloved” got me into watching “Fleabag” and it took me some time to get into it. I watched series 2 first, then watched series 1 so eventually it made sense. My favourite character had to be the sister- so lovably neurotic! However one of the things I loved best was the Hot Priest’s words at the wedding ceremony. It was so very moving and true: “When you find someone to love, it feels like hope”.Phoebe Waller-Bridge is definitely having a moment here in the UK. Seemingly she has been approached to have a look at script writing for the next Bond film!

  11. Lori says...

    Fleabag season two episodes 5 & 6 = SO SO SO SO GOOD!!!

    I was going to watch but your recommendation earlier was the push I needed. So glad I did.

  12. Liz says...

    dumb question about Fleabag: Does anyone in the show actually call her Flea or Fleabag? I don’t remember how we all know that’s her name or nickname aside from it being the name of the show. Apologies if that was something that was made clear in the first season or something, it’s been a while!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      i don’t think anyone calls her by that name, now that you point it out! i just read this online: “Fleabag”, the nickname of the central character, is in real life the nickname given to Phoebe Waller-Bridge by her family. The television show is adapted from Phoebe Waller-Bridge’s one-woman play of the same name. The award-winning play was performed in Edinburgh in 2013.”

    • Liz says...

      haha ok thanks! I thought I was going crazy or missed something. I couldn’t figure out how everyone knew that was her nickname (and also jeez what a cruel nickname!)

    • Angela says...

      Her name is never once mentioned – nor is the priest’s!

    • liz says...

      or the godmother’s too, I think!

    • If you turn on the subtitles they always refer to her as fleabag! I don’t remember anyone referring to her out loud that way, but that it is the name they refer to her as in the subtitles.

  13. P says...

    Pro tip: when grocery shopping-anywhere-be in different state, but preferably country-get a shopping tote from the local grocery store. I have some fun ones from California (with the raisins), from Paris (understated one and one with a giant Eiffel Tower, and one with just some french writing), I get them with random names of cities in their alphabet (София – for Sofia) – you get the gist.

    • Ohhh I love this idea! What a great memento – and so easy to bring home with you!

  14. agnes says...

    Fleabag sound exciting, don’t know how I could watch it from France.
    I love to hang out alone! At the cinema, mostly. A café, especially in a big city. And in my favourite place of all in Paris: Le Fumoir.

    • Claire says...

      It is streaming on Amazon. If you have an Amazon Prime membership you can see it.

    • agnes says...

      I dont but I can ask around, thanks Claire!

  15. Anni says...

    Dear CupOfJo Team, thank you for suggesting to watch fleabag!! I am in the middle of Season 2 now, watching with my husband, as soon as our kids are asleep in the evenings. Like complices in crime we whisper „Fleabag tonight?“ during family dinner :)
    He thinks I am the coolest wife for suggesting to watch such amazing shows (You deserve the credit for that, so thank you!)

  16. Sunny says...

    Oh my gosh dear Joanna (and CoJ team), 12 years!! Congratulations from Germany! I am „on“ since 8 years when we were both pregnant with our kids. For me, CoJ is my happy place to find inspiration and see all this incredible women thousands of miles apart handling motherhood, love, work and life, often facing the same struggle like myself. Thank you for sharing your passion and beautiful attitude towards life. You contribute much more to international understanding than our political leadership! xoxo

    • Katherine says...

      I watched all of Fleabag season two last night and it feels as if I went through another relationship. She is amazing.

  17. Deb says...

    The solo dining in NY article is so timely, thank you! I’m coming for work on Saturday and have 2.5 days to explore the city before I actually start work. SO EXCITED!! Highline, here I come! (I’ll be jet lagged and up early to miss the crowds!)

  18. jade lees says...

    I loved the New York solo dinners article. I am taking my Mum and Dad to New York in October (it will be their first trip to the USA) to celebrate my 30th and would love any other New York recommendations. The COJ New York Guide is a few years old here now and so much changes so quickly!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      We are on it!

    • Jade says...

      SO So excited! I always trust COJ recommendations as if they were coming from a friend.
      P.S we have already booked a Schooner Cruise!

  19. Leila says...

    I had the exact same reaction, what can I do, how can my life go on after Fleabag? So wonderful, so sexy( and the priest thing is my least favourite thing because I love the character but am not really down with the catholic church but somehow, it works here and is part of the impossible love thing). I especially love the sister, at first she comes of as so mean and harsh but after a while, you start to really love her.

  20. M says...

    I have a baby. As all parents know, sleep is everything. Well, I watched Season 1 and Season 2 of Fleabag in one night when my husband was on a business trip. After Season 1 I thought to watch episode 1 of season 2 and I couldn’t stop watching. Fleabag is everything. Didn’t get much sleep, but drank tons of coffee the next day to power through. Then I watched season 2 again and tell everyone I know to watch. Tonight once my husband finishes putting our son to bed he will watch for the first time. Will be exciting to see through someone else’s eyes. I started watching it because of COJ, so thank you for introducing something so special to me. As a new mom it has been difficult at times, but this show made me laugh, cry, and feel all the feelings. Thank you!

    • J says...

      Sending you love as a new mom <3.

    • Sarah says...

      I relate to this so hard! I have a 6 week old and I put her to bed at night and hop in my own bed to watch Fleabag. Started it three nights ago and just finished it. Gutted. And hoping my babe gives me a few hours of sleep!

  21. Claire says...

    I am watching Fleabag now – slowly, so as to wallow in the wonderfulness. Also, Josh Whedon is brilliant and quote-worthy.
    I have been looking for a good swim bag to take with me when I go swim laps and that doesn’t look just boring athletic, and I’ve been eyeing the duck bag from Baggu.
    My fun places to go alone are the pool, the walking trail, yoga, a book store, and a movie at Alamo Drafthouse.

  22. Gloria Lord-King says...

    I cannot stop thinking about Fleabag season 2. It’s just…I can’t. I watch TV constantly (Black Mirror, Game of Thrones, Killing Eve, Catastrophe, etc.) and I seriously think FS2 might be the best 6 episodes of TV I’ve ever seen. I worship Phoebe Waller-Bridge – a fellow hyphenate! – and I cannot even with the MAGNETIC Andrew Scott. I feel lucky to have seen this. MUST. WATCH.

    • Eliza Only-one-last-name says...

      Lord-King is the most powerful hyphenate I’ve ever seen. All hail Gloria!

  23. Aimee Colyer says...

    OMG! Fleabag. Was. So. Good! I want more!

  24. Mouse says...

    My favorite day is to have an espresso by myself and then go to a museum by myself and then have dinner by myself. Just me and my overactive brain….blisses me out.

  25. Jill says...

    THE SONG AT THE WEDDING – “WHERE’S CLAIRE?” My husband and I could not. Stop. Laughing.

    PWB is the greatest and I will never recover.

  26. Jemma says...

    Back when my little girl was a little bubba I decided to forgo a traditional diaper bag and used a lovely tote from Winter Water Factory which could fit all her diapers and wipes and change of clothes and one million toys. We still love to use it for trips to the beach or picnic. Having said that, I can see the appeal of using it even now for all her “discoveries” on our “nature walks” (we live in the concrete jungles of Brooklyn!) and her one million snacks and books!

  27. I felt the same way about One Mississippi (Tig Notaro’s show.)
    I’m on episode three of the first season of Fleabag and am totally invested. Did you watch Catastrophe?!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      I love love loved catastrophe too.

    • Beverly Something says...

      Ah! I’ve finally found a fellow One Mississippi fan! I’m still heartbroken over it’s cancellation. I was so giddy over Tig and Kate’s relationship. It at least gives me some consolation to know that Tig and Stephanie are still out there being adorable and raising cute kids.

  28. Jen Smith says...

    Which ‘actual’ tote have you been using Joanna?
    I love the floral…but im so nosey and would love to know what you’re carrying all those wee sticks in! X

    • Meghan says...

      Oh I have been eyeing the Lewis totes. My son got a Lewis kid size tote in his Easter basket and I might be the one who is using it the most!! The turnip design is sooooo cute!!

  29. Cece says...

    I’m in the UK so had a head start of a couple of months on Fleabag. I *liked* season 1 when it came out, but season 2 blew my mind and broke my heart. The sister! The hot priest! Kristen Scott-Thomas! The amount of work Fleabag puts into turning her life around. And that final episode, wow.

    I used to live near the actor who plays Fleabag’s ex when I lived in south London and see him all the time. If only I’d tried to befriend him to meet PWB…

    I start mat leave in 2 weeks, 100% I’ll be rewatching the whole thing!

  30. Shannon says...

    Foster parent here and I get so excited when fostering gets brought up on any blog that is not focused primarily on fostering. It needs to be mentioned more and brought in to people’s awareness. Thanks for mentioning it and sharing the sesame street story :)

    • Heather D says...

      Foster (soon to be adoptive!) parent here, too. I felt the same way! Bring on the awareness! <3

  31. shannon says...

    The Doen bag in the photo is so pretty!! It’s out of stock now but I signed up to be notified when it comes back!

  32. Sasha L says...

    Olivia Colman deserves the best wicked stepmother ever award, doesn’t she?
    That painting 😂😂😂

    • Agreed! Season 2 was fantastic.
      Afterwards I re-watched Season 1 but 2 was so much greater/more intense/more awesome.

      I don’t generally care for PW-B (I prefer Micaela Coel, another brilliant British writer/director/actress), but this was something else.

  33. m says...

    Does anyone else feel like the priest from Fleabag is giving them a young Mark Ruffalo vibe?

    • Jen says...

      Oh my yes

    • Beverly Something says...

      Yes! I don’t even think they look that much alike, they just have that same easy going charm that’s just a little unsettling. Swoon!

    • Genevieve says...

      Yes, yes, yes!!!

    • MM says...

      YES! Right away — a little bit tousled hair, but mostly the way he talks? I HEART Mark Ruffalo (I call him my favorite brand of “dirty hot”) and the priest reminded me of him…

  34. My sister is a lawyer who represents foster kids AKA hero’s work.

  35. Christi says...

    The actor, Andrew Scott, who plays the Hot Priest , also plays Moriarity on Sherlock. I honestly thought I would have trouble distinguishing the two characters. But no, that was definitely not the case.

    And I feel like Pheobe Waller-Bridge creates likable and unlikable characters so well.

  36. TJ says...

    I watched both seasons of Fleabag this long weekend. Loved it. And of course had to immediately research and purchase her perfect lipstick. (it’s Dare You by MAC, in case you need it too)

    • Tania says...

      I need to know what lipstick she was wearing — thanks for doing the legwork!

    • Haylie says...

      But do you know how to find the jumpsuit she’s wearing in the first episode, LOL? I need it even though I suspect I might be too short to fully carry it off.

    • Claire says...

      HOW did you all find that lipstick and jumpsuit? Would you please also now do that with every single thing Sharon Horgan wears in Catastrophe?

    • Haylie says...

      1) Thanks, Joanna! BOUGHT. 2) Claire, right?! Every single thing Sharon wears is both completely bananas and perfect.

  37. Kelly says...

    If I like a show, I can watch it over and over and over – the same way other people listen to music over again. Fleabag will be one of those shows. I was skeptical – the title was a tough one to look up initially and that first sex scene….. Anyway, I’ve watched it twice already. Love the honesty so much. It’s just so True. And I’ve been a fan of the actor who plays the sweary priest since a bit he did on Foyle’s War. His beautiful neck indeed. Anyway, can’t thank you enough for that recommendation.

  38. Emily L says...

    I think I might be the only person not to like Fleabag. I watched 2-3 episodes of Season 1 and had zero desire to continue.

    • Tania says...

      My partner wanted me to watch it, and I was put off by the first few minutes — like, as soon as she started to talk to the camera (and then kept talking to it) I sort of groaned. I made him turn it off. But then I couldn’t get away from people insisting it was wonderful so I gave it another go. I think the fourth wall breaking works better as the show goes on, and like everyone else I pretty much love it now (I’ve only watched the first three episodes), but I guess what I’m saying is — I can get why someone might not like it.

    • MS says...

      Me too! I just couldn’t get into it. I think it was all the talking to the camera thing for me as well…

    • M says...

      then try season 2 first! one of my good friends couldnt get through season 1, so I told her to try season 2. She loved it and then rewatched season 1. Season 2 is EVERYTHING! Try season 2 and see what you think…

    • MM says...

      I can see why the Fourth Wall and certain elements could be off-putting, but it magically weaves itself into and becomes part of the story and part of being seen. And then is there a Fifth (the fox!), a Sixth (my God, am I Fleabag, are we all in this story?!?), and so many other wondrous elements of brokenness, humor, love and triumph. Maybe worth a re-try or a skip ahead to Season 2? Or, maybe you can use your Fleabag Ambivalence as an icebreaker?

  39. Abigail says...

    Fleabag. Must re-watch immediately.

    Totes. Tom Bihn totes are next level amazing. I prefer the Original Large Shop Bag, but it looks like they’ve released upgraded styles. The padded should straps and bottle pockets are the details that make the bag damn near perfect.

  40. Erica says...

    1. Love Fleabag!
    2. I have TOTE QUESTION: I have also been carrying around totes more lately, especially now that it’s warmer. It’s perfect for a book, sunblock, snacks, as a shopping bag, etc. But is this supplemental to THE PURSE, or while you wear a tote, does it simply become THE PURSE?

    Sometimes it feels too much to have my more valuable things like a wallet, keys, phone, etc. all willy-nilly in a tote as well. But then I’m carrying around multiple bags. Thoughts??

    • Lauren says...

      Tote becomes purse with valuable addition: zipper pouch of essentials!

    • Erica says...

      I have a cute zip-top pouch I put my smaller important stuff in, and switch it from bag to bag as needed!

    • agnes says...

      Inside the tote: a smaller bag (a pouch), with the important and tiny things (keys, purse, money, ID, lipstick, fountain pen). Big tote user here. I also carry small cloth bags in the tote, to separate stuff !

    • SB says...

      Seconding the pouches, but I’m a woman of many tiny things I guess, because I have two that I carry in my bags :)

    • Faith says...

      I have a wristlet wallet for this very purpose! I typically carry it inside my large tote bag, but can easily remove it on days when I want to travel light. :) I bought mine from this adorable Etsy shop: https://www.etsy.com/shop/MaddieKayHandbags

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      i throw it all into the tote!

    • Douggie says...

      I use a vintage clutch/evening bag as my “purse” inside my giant tote and then only take that when I run out to grab lunch or whatever. Alternatively Baggu makes really great sized gusseted zipper pouches (their Go Pouch Set) that don’t add any extra weight. #totelife

  41. Sarah Beth says...

    I just now finished fleabag— I found myself rationing season 1 bc it was too intense, but rationing season 2 bc I didn’t want it to end. Such a beautiful show.
    Oh, and, I know everyone is talking about how hot Hot Priest is, but somehow everyone undersold it.

  42. escondista says...

    I LOOOOVE going to movies by myself….especially the ones with the recliner or fancier snacks and milkshakes/wine (lookin at you, Alamo). I have a toddler and it feels luxurious to drink wine and watch anything other than Daniel Tiger.
    OOOH also IKEA. It’s a good walk when it’s too hot/cold out and my husband says there should be a divorce attorney waiting at the end of IKEA since people tend to fight about things/get hangry/hate the winding road of patterned duvet covers.
    Yeah solo IKEA walks are a joy!

    • DI says...

      Lol !That divorce lawyer should come home with you too, at least when you buy the flat pack with ikea instructions .

  43. Charlotte K says...

    Sesame Street–is it really on HBO now? What about people who can’t afford HBO? Is there some other way for children to see it?

    • M says...

      It is still on PBS. HBO gets new episodes first for a certain period of time (I believe 9 months and through 2020 or until they have a new contract) and then the episodes go to your local PBS, but PBS still shows them. Sesame received a ton of money (I believe 20 mil a year) from HBO for this and it helps them as Sesame Workshop is a non-profit (with too many VPs in my opinion/ very executive heavy).

  44. Charlotte K says...

    Fleabag. Genius. I want to eat it up. I am still too shattered by the end to re-watch it though. Genuine bittersweet heart clutching pain. And I’m 61 but I had that impossible love and it still grabs me when someone gets it right.

  45. Colleen says...

    The last scene of Fleabag wrecked me. I watched both seasons over a few days after being intrigued by her NPR interview- great listen, btw.

    I was laughing while crying through that final episode. I remember thinking “Don’t go!” as she shook her head at the camera to not follow her. So bittersweet. </3

  46. Mary says...

    I loved Fleabag and now months later (it was screened earlier this year in the UK) I’m still thinking about it and re-watching it on iplayer. She’s a genius isn’t she. There’s just so much that is amazing. We could start with the end scene which I had to watch again for the umpteenth time a couple of nights ago but I loved the whole of episode 3, and 5 and 6 and 1,2 and 4 too haha. Yeah. Just sigh. And her wardrobe and her sister and the priest and, and, and… I wish I hadn’t seen it in a way just so I could watch again from the start and be re-awed.

    • Kate says...

      “I wish I hadn’t seen it in a way just so I could watch again from the start and be re-awed.” I totally feel this! There are certain things I’ve read/watched that I feel like I am grieving the experience of never being able to see it again for the first time.

  47. Emm says...

    I do Grand Canyon ALL THE TIME! xo 12 Years of Jo Cups!

  48. Sara says...

    Thank you for introducing me to Fleabag. I watched both seasons by myself and know not another person who has watched it. I AM DYING TO TALK ABOUT IT WITH SOMEONE! I keep reading various articles online because I can’t move on. So I am going to re-watch the whole thing with my husband. Can’t wait. I can not get the final scene out of my head. Perfection.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      i could have written this comment!!!

    • lydia says...

      yes!!!

    • Katy says...

      AGREE, NO ONE TO TALK TO! thankful for CoJ comments!

    • Sara says...

      Joanna, I feel like the coolest kid on the block because you have replied to two of my comments in as many weeks. Thank you, Queen of the Internet!

  49. Lydia says...

    sigh fleabag 2…what to say. after i finished it (the day it came out) i sat on my couch just crying, wondering who can i call, text or write so i can talk about this with them!! i went on facebook and looked up cup of jo and then i stopped myself. “don’t be stupid lydia! she doesn’t want to discuss a show.” then i went to your blog and almost wrote an email to you and again i thought “don’t be stupid lydia, she doesn’t want to discuss a show with you!” so then i just sat there crying and thinking. sitting with my own emotions. the show deals with grief unlike anything i’ve ever watched. every character is painfully honest and heartbreakingly real. phoebe is a genius! plain and simple. her ability to tell an intricate yet relatable story is unparalleled in my humble opinion.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      i will talk about this forever!!!!!! you’ve come to the right place! :) :) :)

    • Chandra says...

      PWB (Phoebe Waller-Bridge, creator of Fleabag) is instant acronym status in my bag. Fun fact: she is also the creator of KILLING EVE. I know…it’s too much. Anyway, re-watching both seasons this week just to, I don’t know revisit my new friends? I loved every minute and line of this story and feel so deeply connected to the challenges grief management presents and the general messiness associated with being a 30 something who has nothing figured out.

    • Chandra says...

      Lydia, I’m so sorry I replied to your very heartfelt comment! I thought I was writing a general comment which is why the tone is so upbeat. This is literally something the main character from Fleabag would do, the original comment, probably not the apology part, oh gees…just in general sorry about that.

    • lydia says...

      Chandra its ok! everything you wrote is true too lol
      i loved killing eve too. this girl is unstoppable!

      and thank you jo! i knew you would get it. and I’m so glad that you’re talking about it here now!!

  50. Lisa says...

    OH thank you for the dining solo in NYC list. My fiancé just moved across the country for a job and I’m here, alone, until after summer travel and our wedding in September and it feels lonely but I also feel like I need to do everything I can to take advantage of this city before I leave it for good. It’s bittersweet, but this list helps!

  51. Kate says...

    Do I need to watch season 1 of Fleabag, or can I just start with season 2? Everyone is raving about it so much that I don’t know if I can wait to watch the first!

    • Amber says...

      Yes, season 2 picks up where season 1 left off. And season 1 is also brilliant. You’d be doing the show and yourself a huge disservice to not start at the beginning. Everyone raving about season 2 also raved about season 1!

    • AN says...

      It’s only 6 30-minute episodes, you MUST watch Season 1 first!

    • Kate says...

      Ok, I will start season 1 tonight!! Thanks, all!

  52. Sue says...

    I watched the first episode of Fleabag season 2 at the gym and knew I was a goner (esp. when I nearly fell off the elliptical during the dinner scene). I went home and told my boyfriend that I needed to watch the rest of the season, and even though he hadn’t seen season 1, we watched it in 2 nights. Then we watched season 1, so he could see that. Then we watched season 2 again, for continuity’s sake. And we haven’t watched anything since because how can we? (As a non-believer who had a habit for falling for religiously-minded men when I was younger, I especially identified!)

    I hated it to end, and yet the ending was perfect. PWB is a genius.

    The Guardian did a whole piece about how to survive after Fleabag:

    https://www.theguardian.com/tv-and-radio/2019/apr/09/how-to-survive-the-end-of-fleabag

  53. Roxana says...

    Oh, Sesame Street! I do a bit of work in adoption and foster care advocacy and seeing this new sweet Sesame Street character makes my heart sing. The song made me cry! What a thoughtful and gentle but firm way of acknowledging those precious kids who are in foster care. Thank you for sharing!

    Also, regarding canvas totes, I’ve been rotating between two I got at J. Crew (a camo one and a leopard print one) for the same reasons you. Also, sticks and rocks. Why so many sticks and rocks?? I don’t know why we bother buying actual toys, when sticks, gravel, and last fall’s leaves seem to be enough.

    • Kelly says...

      haha. my 3 year old gets super excited about random bits of garbage too…cigarette butts…candy wrappers…”Ooooh, mama LOOK!” sometimes when she spies a ‘treasure’ from afar but sometimes when already clutching it in her little hand…it’s horrifying and adorable all at once!

  54. Cat says...

    FLEABAG FLEABAG FLEABAG FLEABAG FLEABAG FLEABAG DID I REMEMBER TO TAKE OUT THE TRASH FLEABAG FLEABAG FLEABAG

    -my brain, lately

  55. ANDREA says...

    A dissenting opinion: Fleabag is OK. It seemed to me to be in the vein of Catastrophe where British woman who is pretty awful in many respects is nonetheless liked by many people. There is some subtlety, but not enough to make it terrific.

    I also am tired, as a Catholic, to see the stereotype of a hot priest who falls for a hot mess trotted out. Really, let’s talk about something that is not that believable. Priests deal every day with people who are this broken and know that brokenness. For him to see it as attractive or not a violation of her is so unrealistic.

    • gracemarie says...

      I couldn’t get through the first ten minutes. Catastrophe is my only cringe-watch and that’s plenty for me. It’s been everywhere on the interwebs these last few weeks though. Congrats to PWB and her brilliance but no, it’s not for me.

    • Emily L says...

      Could not agree more. Hard pass.

    • Sasha L says...

      So much in Fleabag is, well, offensive. I describe it as similar to Shameless, which, fair enough, is not everyone’s cup of tea.

      But just in case it is….. You’ll also probably love the irreverent Rake, Aussie show with a similarly brilliant knack at demolishing anything anyone holds dear (or sacred).

  56. Sasha L says...

    Can we just stop everything for a moment and talk about the Claire/Anthony hair fiasco???? I’ve never seen anything truer than when Anthony DEMANDS THE BIN!!!! and Claire and Flea respond 😂

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      hahahaha yes!!!! and then when the finnish guy is like “it’s so cute, it’s so chic.” every character on the show is pitch perfect.

    • MM says...

      YES! The hair business. This scene was perfection from ALL parties. There are many, many good bits on both seasons, but this one was outstanding. HAIR IS EVERYTHING! (Also the confessional “starting over” scene with the banker in the cafe — so dark, and then so buoyant)

    • Sasha L says...

      Oh that Finnish guy, so freaking funny. Didn’t you just want to slap him? Completely obnoxious, and of course Claire is in love with him.

      Also perfection, when the super creepy stepson whispers to Flea that she must tell Claire to leave his dad. I don’t know how they kept straight faces while filming. Oscar worthy.

    • Danielle says...

      Yes! I’ve been skimming the comments to see if anyone commented on this scene. The best! On so many levels. It made me want to call my sister.

  57. Kristen says...

    Every part of Fleabag is perfect, but her relationship with her sister might be the most perfect. I mean, the priest kept me awake for hours, but the sisters confronting their hairdresser will stay with me forever…

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      YES. and how she and her sister love each other so deeply but also can make each other insane with a single word or look.

    • Mary says...

      Oh that Hairdresser scene is beyond. Thank you for reminding me of it. Hair is everything haha. How they love each other still touches me so deeply. I don’t have a sister but I would love Clare, as neurotic and all as she is as a sister. That scene in the graveyard when she realizes ‘Fleabag’ jogs through there every day is so beautifullly poignant, the fact that she’s always willing to bail her out and maybe sweetest of all when she says the only person in the world she would run through an airport for is her… heartmelt. Yeah, Clare has got your back. Now, that’s love.

    • Sasha L says...

      Yep, that run through the airport comment!!! True love.

      I’m not glad at all that fleabag is over, but I am glad that the sisters mended their relationship. That was so heartwarming.

    • BV says...

      The scene at the wedding where Claire says the only person she would run through an airport for was her sister made me tear up more than any scene. After all her hard edged-ness and insistence that they are NOT friends. Is it wrong that I have rewatched every scene in which she and the hot swearey priest make out multiple times.????

  58. Jessica Camerata says...

    Marking the best places to dine solo in NYC. I’m all about that!

    xo Jessica

  59. Genevieve Martin says...

    Feel exactly the same way about fleabag. It was the best thing I’ve ever watched – every episode was just so absorbing and arresting. I LOVED the “best woman in business” monologue. And it was hands down the most accurate portrayal of two people falling quick and hard for each other. The way everything is exaggerated (sitting closer, laughing louder, being more silly and more serious) and the way you latch onto a specific thing to be your shared “thing” to banter about and bring you closer quicker. Maybe more so as I’m English too so it was even that bit more relatable. So many more thoughts but don’t want to write spoilers :)
    And yes to thinking about it for weeks :) Phoebe Waller Bridge is just incredible.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      “his beautiful neck” ahhhhhh

  60. Lori says...

    Watching that Sesame Street video with tears in my eyes. As a mom of three kids adopted from foster care, I’m so happy to see more light being brought to this very important issue of helping kids from hard places find belonging in their foster and forever families. Thanks so much for sharing!

    • Sasha L says...

      Thank you for fostering and adopting ❤️

  61. Yes to Fleabag Season 2! My husband and I can’t stop thinking/talking about it for so.many.reasons. We assigned animal nicknames to our boys when they were born and my younger one received “fox-kit”. Now I just picture him as an adult, trying to just “figure out what it is they want with me!” Can’t stop laughing about all the 4th wall scenes. They just pop into my head all day long.

  62. Lindsay says...

    Great, I need a new show. Just finished 2nd season of killing Eve, it was fantastic.
    I like to carry a lightweight roomy bag too for the kids stuff! I use baggu ones, such fun colors. I use them for groceries too and luggage organization.

  63. Liz says...

    I’ve been considering rewatching Fleabag Season 2, since I can’t stop thinking about it anyway. But I wasn’t sure how to tell/request my husband that we should watch it again, I thought he might think I’m silly since we just finished it last Friday. Then last night, I went to bed first but forgot to turn something off downstairs… and I found him watching it on his own! Ha, it’s really that good.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      oh my gosh, i love that.

  64. Lauren E. says...

    THOSE. TOASTS.

    I love to do things by myself in the city. My favorite is to get an early diner breakfast at Nectar Cafe and then go to the Met right when it opens. It’s such a magical place when it’s empty(ish…).

  65. Stephanie says...

    I feel the same way about Fleabag! I’ve decided I’m going to watch it all over again but what do I do after that?? Help!

    • AY says...

      Ha. Yes. Please write a “What to Watch/Do After Fleabag” post CoJ! :)

    • Anna says...

      Stephanie – If you haven’t watched Russian Doll yet, watch that.

  66. L says...

    I’ve been looking for something new to watch and Fleabag it will be. How have I not heard of this before?! I just laughed out loud at work at the trailer.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      oh my gosh, it’s PERFECT.

  67. Alison says...

    I have applied the canyon trick many times since I first read that post <3
    I also love that floral bag! I try and switch my bags up, but I always end up back with my Madewell Canvas tote, I just love that it can hold everything and its so durable!! I can't move on :)

  68. EC says...

    I just returned from Paris where I noticed EVERY chic woman had a canvass tote! I put one on my list immediately upon return. The one you featured is so pretty! I’m eying limited edition free Sezane totes on Poshmark…another observation from Paris!

  69. AY says...

    Just devoured both seasons of Fleabag over the weekend. Is there anything better? How can anything follow? When will I stop thinking about it? Last night I literally googled “What to watch after Fleabag???”

    I feel like we’ve been broken up with. Not a mutual decision! Yet such a perfect, beautiful, happy, sad, ending.

  70. Yes. Fleabag is amazing – funny and arresting all at once. And thanks for reminding us about the Grand Canyon trick – I have a teen that can use that! :)