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Four Fun Things (Father's Day Edition)

“An overwhelming amount of dads have an overwhelming amount of love for the art of making omelets,” says food writer Valerio Farris. So, here’s how to make a perfect omelet, according to five fathers. Plus, more fun things…

Four Fun Things (Father's Day Edition)

A website dedicated to dad jokes.

In the past five years, stock photos of fathers have shifted from including stereotypically masculine activities, like football, to more domestic roles, like cooking and reading to kids. According to Getty Images, searches for “dad and baby” are up 91% and searches for “dad cooking” are up 83%. Bravo.

Dad Suggests Arriving At Airport 14 Hours Early

The Onion headline, “Dad Suggests Arriving At Airport 14 Hours Early,” makes me laugh.

Have you seen this StoryCorps video? While growing up on a dairy farm in rural Washington in the 1950s, Patrick Haggerty began to realize he was gay. His father offered some advice.

P.S. Confessions of a new dad, and remember Dad Magazine?

(Omelet photo by James Ransom for Food52.)

  1. C.C. says...

    My 94 year old dad was never much of a cook. As the only child of a very traditional Italian mother, he has left the cooking to the women in his life. Now that I’ve moved back to my home town to look after my dad, one of the greatest pleasures of his day is when I visit him (almost daily – until I find a job here!) and make him a ham and cheese omelette. A simple 2 egg omelette: blend the eggs with some salt & pepper, cook on one side in a small non-stick frying pan. Turn over in the pan to reveal the cooked side, then add a slice of ham and some pieces of cheddar cheese, then after about 20 seconds, fold onto a plate. Add some slices of fresh tomato and 2 slices of toast on the side. Delicious! And it makes me happy to make him happy!

  2. LB says...

    My mom never liked to cook so my dad often ended up making dinner, most frequently cheese omelets, with a sprinkle of basil and a square of that kraft sliced cheese [product] melted inside. I still love eggs in any variety and can’t resist breakfast for dinner at least once a month.

  3. That StoryCorps video has always been the GOAT. Makes my heart burst.

  4. Toni says...

    I love these so much! Father’s Day can be hard when your dad is up in heaven but I love to take a moment to write down a memory that makes me laugh each year.

    When I was little, every single Saturday was daddy day. We went out on adventures (parks, the pool, movies, etc.). There was a good 10 year hiatus during the “I’m-too-cool-for-this” years. But we picked up the tradition again when I graduated college with monthly meet ups of just me and my dad (theater, dinner, etc.).

    But back when these first started, I was a klutzy little one (probably at the age of 3 or 4). I’d inevitably spill something on my clothes. And dad would come to the rescue with a coca cola to “take out the stain.” As an adult, I always wondered why he never picked up on the ever-accumulating stains on my play-clothes! Recently I asked my mom. She said she corrected my dad once (seltzer, dad, or even sprite could do the job!) but never had the heart to do it again because she didn’t want to take away any bit of the magic from our carefree Saturdays. After all, what’s a little brown splotch when you’re having the time of your life?

    I’d give anything for another daddy day.

    • Heather says...

      Aw I love this!

    • Em says...

      Lovely. Thanks for sharing. Hugs!

  5. Annie says...

    Another fun thing: My husband shared Chris Grady’s Lunarbaboon comics with me yesterday, featuring a super positive dad/parenting/life model. Really needed it this week. See https://tinyurl.com/y8zpkn2j. Will definitely trigger a CoJ deskcry.

    • alexis says...

      Love these! And no, my eyes didn’t water at all . . . nope, that’s just my allergies . . .

    • Mirella says...

      Wonderful! Thanks for sharing.

  6. liz says...

    Random dad comment – when we would call “Daddy” he’d reply “Whaddy?”
    Silly dad moments.

    • My dad did this too!

    • K says...

      Mine too! And I haven’t thought about that in years so thanks for the smile this morning :)

  7. Kate says...

    I wish my dad showed up to things early!! We joke about arranging it so that he arrives late to his own funeral, so as to not shock anyone when he actually gets somewhere on time for once.

  8. Amanda G. says...

    Holidays like Father’s Day can really stink if you don’t/didn’t have a present, loving father in your life. My father never came to a single one of my swim meets or school events my entire young life, and I’ve never know if it was because he was more dedicated to his job or because he just didn’t take a particular interest on me. For the record, my parents aren’t divorced, so it’s not like he was avoiding my mother or had moved away.

    For a brief while in my senior year of high school, when I decided I wanted to follow in his footsteps and become a park ranger, he was almost giddy and absolutely invested in me and my future career, but when I took an EMT class and decided to pursue a medical career instead, he dropped me cold turkey, and we’ve been estranged for my entire adult life. Luckily, my fiancee’s father is a kind, generous, and sweet man who loves me like his own kid, and I can’t wait to *officially* join their family in just 16 short days!

    Not looking for sympathy, but sending love to all the people out there who don’t know what it’s like to have a loving and supportive father in their lives. As I’ve learned from experience, family is what you make it, and biological ties are never the strict defining line.

    • Meg says...

      I admire your compassionate and hopeful perspective. <3 The lovely tribute to your soon to be father in law reminded me of my mom. Instead of in-laws my mom always referred to my dad's parents as her "Father-in-Love" and "Mother-in-Love". She deeply cared for them and they for her. In laws are always played out as evil annoyances in pop-culture (and I know the classification can be true at times!); however, I'm thankful my mom instilled in me a love and appreciation for what those extended relationships can be. I'm so happy you too found a Father-in-Love!

    • Robin S. says...

      This really spoke to me. My husband has the same issue with Mothers’ Day… His mother is quite abusive, but she never shows “outsiders” this dark side of her. In fact, she preaches “unconditional love” to anyone who will listen. (Literally… she’ll talk to a cashier for an hour.) People always get extra hard on my husband around Mothers’ Day, saying, “You only have one mother… You aren’t even going stop by for a quick visit with her?” or “I really hope you find it in your heart to work it out.”

      It saddens me that people take a day that’s already extremely difficult for him and then add a layer of guilt. I wish people would accept that there may be things going on that they don’t know about. He doesn’t discuss the abuse, and a person doesn’t “owe” a parent something simply because they gave birth to them. Sadly, not all parents choose to give love behind closed doors.

      Sending love right back your way, Amanda! Congratulations on your upcoming wedding! XO

    • Amanda G says...

      Meg, that is just the sweetest comment and sentiment! Don’t mind me, just crying at my desk. My fiancee’s big, loving family has honestly been one of the biggest blessings in my life, and I am thankful for them every day. They truly are my family-in-love :)

      Robin S., so sorry to hear about your husband’s relationship with his mother. My mother is actually very similar (she and I have been estranged for almost four years) so I feel his pain, which is one of the weirdest and most poignant pains to have. The helpful (?) thing I’ve come to realize is that the more open I am about my struggles with my parents, the more willing other people are to open about the dysfunction within their own families. I think there is a lot of shame (at least there was for me) in admitting that my family isn’t perfect, and that my parents choose not to be involved in my life, because it makes ME feel like there’s something wrong with me! And I think a lot of people feel the same way – that feeling that if your parents don’t love you the way society/social media says they should love you, that it’s somehow your fault for not being a good kid. But I’ve realized that these kinds of parental relationships are not entirely uncommon, and sadly, that makes me feel a bit of relief because I know we’re not alone.

  9. Andrea says...

    I hate the run up to Father’s Day. I wish it were over already.

    • Maria says...

      I know what you mean. My dad was physically abusive to my mom, my siblings, and me and has never apologized for it. He is a narcissist and has anger problems. My mom ‘abducted’ us to move away from the environment of fear that he put us under. To this day he sees himself as the victim. He lives in his home country, away from us, but expects us to take care of him now that he is losing his vision and mobility because of diabetes.
      Father’s day is a reminder to me of this messed up situation. A reminder that he put himself and his job before his family in a selfish and destructive way. But, I still call him on Father’s day. He had his good parenting moments too. He is one of my people, as broken as he is and as much trauma as he caused me. It makes me glad to know that not all fathers are like mine, and they should be celebrated and cherished. Anyways, your reasons for hating the run up to father’s day are probably totally different than mine. But, I feel you.

  10. Gem says...

    I just love that Storycorps video!

  11. One thing I got from my dad is that I’m the first to laugh at my own jokes.

    Now I crack myself up more often than he cracks himself up. The student has surpassed the master. Drives my husband both crazy and deeper in love with me at the same time.

  12. katie says...

    I see my dad so much in all of these! Corny jokes. Showing up to events 30 minutes early, because you know, it’s family. His love of breakfast foods. Allowing his three girls to play dress up with him, and by that I mean putting barrettes in his hair and makeup on his face.

    I know dad’s get a bad rap a lot of the times. I’m so happy I was fortunate to grow up with a present dad who enjoyed hanging out with his kids! And he still likes to take care of us. Last Christmas, my four day trip home turned into seven because I was too sick to travel back. Day three, I was finally able to eat something and my dad wanted to be the one to make my soup. He insisted. I’m 38.

    • paula says...

      TEARS. love this.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      what a love. thank you for sharing, katie. xoxo

  13. VP says...

    Story Corps makes me cry. Every. Damned. Time.

  14. Heather G says...

    The airport comment has me cracking up…just so spot on! My dad once insisted we leave at 10am (with a brunch stop, but still) for a 5pm flight because “you never know with Detroit traffic” and “you need to be there at least two hours early, you know.”

  15. Molly says...

    Oh my goodness – I can’t watch a StoryCorp animation without thinking of the Danny&Annie episode. Such a beautiful tearjerker…

    https://youtu.be/WNfvuJr9164

    • Crying at work here! Thanks for sharing.

  16. Lesley says...

    The airport dad is MY DAD. Every damn time.

    • Debbie Thackeray says...

      Mine too. Plus mine loses his wallet, every.single.time.

  17. Olivia says...

    My dad always said, “Olivia, if you’re going to to be a rebel be a rebel with cause,” whe’d pick me up from school and I was wearing fishnets and blue lipstick.

    So I got myself causes. And now I’m a huge liberal, ridiculous, protesting and fighting, a feminist activist. I found my cause, and I think about his words often. If you’re going to go against to grain, KNOW what you’re going against the grain for.

    • JT says...

      My dad use to tell me, “always have an opinion because women and girls should have opinions”.

      He may have gotten his money’s worth. Now I don’t just have opinions, I share them, generously and with much conviction and get argumentative about it. :)

  18. Brianna says...

    That blurb from The Onion is my dad in a nutshell.

    • Mine, too!! His motto was, “Better to be 5 minutes early than 5 minutes late.” Anything involving an airport kicked that whole thing to another level.

  19. Amanda says...

    Watching the video and sobbing over my stuffed pepper. Thank God for good dads.

  20. Suzieq says...

    The “Don’t Sneak” video is something that I have watched again and again. I can’t figure out quite what about it makes it so incredibly compelling to me, but it is.

    • Liz says...

      Agreed. It warms my heart every time I come across it

  21. Eliza says...

    Happily forwarding niceonedad.com to my dad who especially loves to (STILL!) relay Chuck Norris jokes in the family chat while all five of us adult-kids respond with eye-roll emojis.

  22. Sarah says...

    Thank you so much for sharing that video. I’m 35 (and I know our generation is far from perfect) and I struggle a lot with how people in previous generations let such shitty things happen (like slavery, discrimination, not letting folks other than white men vote, etc) and this video made me feel somewhat better. Not everyone is awful.

  23. Anna says...

    Glad to hear my Dad isn’t the only one suggesting we arrive at the airport obscenely early! We didn’t fly often as kids but on the occasion that we did, we were getting there at least 3 hours early, no one was ever allowed to check a bag, and your carry-on bag had to have at least 2 of those little hand written paper luggage tags on it in case it was lost (??). And then of course my Dad would go up to the counter and ask if the flight was overbooked and volunteer us to take a bump (EVEN IF THEY HADN’T OFFERED IT) just hoping to get us airline credit to use later. Oh, Dad.

    • Kate says...

      I am laughing so hard at this comment!!

    • Helen says...

      This made me laugh. Your dad sounds like an awesome guy!

    • Lauren E. says...

      This is hysterical. My dad is typically overcautious, except for when it comes to airports. Now when I visit my parents, my dad rolls his eyes when I suggest we leave early. “Oh, Lauren, you can breeze right through security and be at the gate in 5 minutes!” Cut to me panic running through the terminal.