How Are You? | Cup of Jo

Cat

April 5, 2018 1:10 pm

What I’m worried about is requiring so much of my focus these days that it’s the only question on this list I can think about answering. So without further ado: I’m worried about the divorce I’m currently going through. I never, EVER thought my future-former spouse and I would be here. In addition to feeling the intense grief of losing my partner (it’s complicated but I feel more like he died — this is not a “congratulations you’re moving on from that terrible person you were chained to” story) I am worried sick about how this will affect my kids (four and seven) both now and going forward. I’m worried that I’m going to spend every penny and more on legal fees and be broke or in debt forever, worried that I’m going to burn myself out trying to be everything to my kids now that their dad is less involved, worried about whether he’s taking care of them when he IS involved, worried that I don’t make enough money now that more of the financial burden is on me, worried that my kids are sad, worried that my kids are mad, worried at whether I’m going to be able to handle teenagers on my own one day, worried that this situation has become a constant stress and source of sadness for my parents and sisters, worried that my friends are tired of talking about it, worried that I’m going to be alone forever, worried that I won’t be alone forever, worried, worried, worried.
I’m lucky that my parents have been married for almost 40 years and until now I had no appreciation for the emotional, logistical, and financial difficulty of divorce — but I know I’m not the only one out there. That in mind, I’ve been wondering if you all would ever do a post on divorce in your relationships series? I was thinking something like your “Raising Teenagers” format would be so amazing for this subject — just to be able to hear from people who have been through it or are going through it would be so helpful, and because the folks who comment here are so thoughtful and supportive I think there would be value for lots of people (myself included, obviously).
Just a thought – thanks for all that you all do.

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Joanna Goddard

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April 5, 2018 1:27 pm

what an amazing idea, cat. that would be an incredible post and deeply resonate with so many people. i’m so sorry about all you’re going through. i’ll be holding you close in my thoughts today. xoxo

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Cat

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April 6, 2018 8:03 am

Thanks Joanna, that means a lot. xo

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Emily

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April 6, 2018 1:57 pm

cat – just wanted to say i’m sorry for what your going through and sending you a warm hug. i’m not married and don’t have children, but i think this post would be very valuable, as it only enhances the empathy we all feel towards those experiencing the type of difficult situation you are doing through.
((((hugs to you))))

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Cat

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April 15, 2018 9:32 am

Thank you so much for your incredibly kind comment Emily — sending hugs back.

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El

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April 14, 2018 9:22 pm

Cat, I’m so sorry to hear that you are going through this. I just happened to fall upon your comment after an especially trying day with my own spouse. We have been together for 16 years (since high school), married for 9, and have had many highs and lows. Divorce has crossed my mind many times, not because of any major issues (no infedelity, addictions, abuse, etc.) but just so many little ones, an endless amount of fights, and I fear an underlying incompatibility. We have two young children, 2 and 4 and I am terrified at how that would affect them and as well as list of other fears that you just stated. I’d also be interested in a post about how you know when it’s time for a divorce and alternatively how to repair a broken marriage and how to tell that it’s beyond repair. Sending hugs your way and to anyone who is entertaining or going through this heartbreaking ordeal. Xo

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Cat

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April 15, 2018 9:30 am

Thank you so much for your note El, and I’m so sorry about your day and the ongoing worry. I think your post idea is a great one — those are questions so many of us struggle with. Will be thinking of you and sending hugs.

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Lucy

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June 13, 2023 10:52 pm

I just read this comment, and it’s five years later. I wonder how you are Cat? I’m sure you did just great and were stronger than you imagined. Xx.

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lena

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January 5, 2024 11:50 am

Cat, happy new year! How are you doing with all of this 5+ years later? Sending you good vibes and hoping you are doing really well,

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Paige

March 19, 2018 10:10 pm

Something delicious you ate recently: It sounds boring, but I made some garlic quinoa and ended up adding bell peppers, green onions, and avocado to it for lunch. It turned out pretty amazing (I’ve been sick for a week and that was the only thing my tastebuds could pick up on).
What you’re looking forward to these days: Any free moment where I can get back to my piano. I’m learning it for the first time, and it’s weirdly helping my creative writing and is keeping me calm.
What’s worrying you: Work, Dad in and out of the hospital, long distance boyfriend in and out of the hospital.
A trip you’d take, if you could go anywhere: Normally I’d probably say Greece or Iceland, but right now I’d really like to be in the Netherlands so I could dote on my boyfriend. I hate that I can’t be there for him.
Your childhood celebrity crush: Leonardo DiCaprio. I was a Titanic girl.

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John Marcone

March 16, 2018 2:11 pm

Just started an interest in blogging during a rough patch and this inquiry is pretty interesting so, let’s!

1. I had a provolone mozzarella sandwich yesterday, but that’s weak for me being in a very traditional Italian household, during finals week I’ve been eating a lot less, I know that’s the opposite of what I should be doing, don’t follow my lead.
2. I’m looking forward to college after this year and visiting my schools that accepted me over spring break, I can’t wait to meet my options and future.
3. I worry about my test scores and my relationships, they’re not as healthy as they were and I can be anxious and impatient.
4. If I could travel anywhere I’d want to head to Santa Cruz or San Luis Obispo, the destination of my two dream schools I didn’t get into and I’m mourning it a tad.

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Lindsey

March 4, 2018 6:55 pm

Something delicious you ate recently: I made gluten-free avocado toast topped with salted and roasted spaghetti squash seeds, a fried egg, and some crushed red pepper for breakfast at home today! Yummmm
What you’re looking forward to these days: I’m visiting Peru this summer which is exciting in and of itself, but I’ve also started hiking locally most weekends in preparation for the trip and I’m absolutely loving the combo of exercise and being out in nature.
What’s worrying you: I may travel overseas for my next work project (could be up to 6 months) and although it’s an exciting opportunity and I love to travel, it will be hard to be away from home and my husband for that long.
A trip you’d take, if you could go anywhere: New Zealand is near the top of my list, but in all honesty I could say that about so many places.
Your childhood celebrity crush: Oooo, hmm, I’d say Leo DiCaprio was a favorite crush for quite a while, and still is! ;)

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Kate

March 1, 2018 11:00 pm

Something delicious you ate recently: shrimp tacos and way too much guacamole on a recent girls trip!
What you’re looking forward to these days: personal growth
What’s worrying you: scholarships :/
A trip you’d take, if you could go anywhere: everywhere, definitely
Your childhood celebrity crush: Alan Alda when he was Hawkeye…swoon

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Lauren B.

March 1, 2018 11:01 am

Ate: just got back from Mexico where we ate our weight in fresh shrimp and fish ceviche, guacamole and fresh mangoes!
Looking forward to: warmer weather and planting new spring flowers! also, i’m going to get a massage later today and can’t wait!
Worries: I own a small business and it’s always tough just navigating what’s next; hiring new staff, how to grow and change and keep things fresh, etc.
Trip: would love to go back to Barcelona and take my husband. I studied abroad there TEN years ago and have been aching to get back ever since!
Childhood crush: I grew up dancing and would go to dance conventions around the country where I met and subsequently fell in love with Wade Robson. He did choreography for a ton of music videos in the early 2000’s and is, allegedly, the person Britney Spears cheated on JT with. *drama* Google him and watch him dance; you’ll see why he always had screaming/crying 13 year old’s following him around at dance conventions :)

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sasha

February 28, 2018 7:39 pm

1. Vegan dumplings in amazing curry, my husband brought home from a trip to Calgary.
2. Excited to be opening my own tiny home play school for children.
3. Worried about my kids, always. And #2.
4. Trip straight back to Costa Rica, even though my husband and I just went last month. It was magical.
5. Tom Cruise of Risky Business vintage. And Patrick Stewart. Still love Captain Picard.

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Jenna

February 28, 2018 1:43 pm

I’ve read so many of the comments here and thoroughly enjoyed them! What a fun post. Now pushing myself to post my own.

1. Something delicious you ate recently: Leftover pad thai for lunch :)
2. What you’re looking forward to these days: Despite everything, I’m feeling optimistic about 2018 and the future. Last year was tough but also provided a lot of learning, so Im excited to take what I’ve learned and make 2018 even better. And Im looking forward to relaxing and watching a new Law and Order: SVU tonight :)
3. What’s worrying you: Im interviewing for a job I really want right now and I’m hoping I get it! And my boyfriend and I just applied for a new house to rent and I’m on pins and needles waiting to hear if we’re approved. Fingers crossed!
4. A trip you’d take, if you could go anywhere: I miss Paris. There’s so many places I want to go that I haven’t been (Portugal, Vietnam, San Miguel de Allende) but Paris has been calling my name recently.
5. Your childhood celebrity crush: Jonathan Taylor Thomas all the way! I remember watching Man of the House so many times as a child and just loving him.

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sasha

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February 28, 2018 7:34 pm

I hope you get the job and house ?

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jullie

February 28, 2018 10:48 am

Something delicious you ate recently: my homemade puttanesca – I’ve served to all of my friends and family and the chefs I work for and people beg me for the recipe. I have a secret ingredient.
What you’re looking forward to these days: therapy & recovery.
What’s worrying you: recovery. my marriage. guns in schools.
A trip you’d take, if you could go anywhere: turks & cakes ;)
Your childhood celebrity crush: Peter Horton (is that weird? I was a kid with a crush on a “thirty something”

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Emily

February 27, 2018 7:22 pm

I love these check ins, which also allow me to check in with myself :)

Something delicious you ate recently: “Volcano” shio ramen. SO spicy and so delicious.
What you’re looking forward to these days: I’m heading home to CA this weekend for the first time since I moved out east in late 2017. I miss home and my family so much, and can’t wait to be back even just for a few days.
What’s worrying you: nothing big, currently! I did recently have a performance check-in at work and am working on a few things there, so that’s adding a little extra stress to my day to day life, however.
A trip you’d take, if you could go anywhere: I’d love to be in the Meditarranean right now, basking in the sun next to an olive tree. ha!
Your childhood celebrity crush: oh, I had so many! My first, though, was Orlando Bloom AS Legolas in Lord of the Rings. A friend of mine (who was later one of my first boyfriends in high school, haha!) gave me a poster of Orlando Bloom for my birthday in 2nd grade. I was secretly disappointed that it was him and not Legolas. LOL!

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Jessica Martin @ Rock That Lemonade

February 27, 2018 4:45 pm

Something delicious you ate recently: Parmesan Grits
What you’re looking forward to these days: Mom Prom in Charleston next week! Going to be a little mini reunion for me since I moved last year!
What’s worrying you: My girls’ dad is looking for a job where we live. I hope he finds one because he lives 8 hours away.
A trip you’d take, if you could go anywhere: Greece and Rome
Your childhood celebrity crush: Leonardo DiCaprio & Justin Timberlake ha

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Cate

February 27, 2018 4:34 pm

Delicious: Goat curd and beetroot with figs and some kind of bitter leaves in a flatbread at Borough Market in London
What you’re looking forward to these days: A night when I’m not procrastinating about doing the work I’m meant to be doing!
What’s worrying you: my daughter’s anxiety
A trip you’d take, if you could go anywhere: Costa Rica, the cloud forest, with my husband and 4 kids
Your childhood celebrity crush: Richard Beckinsale (Kate’s Dad) in Porridge, prison-based UK comedy from the 70s. I thought he was lovely. I was about 4. Then I moved on to Han Solo for the next 40 years.

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sasha

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February 28, 2018 7:42 pm

Re Costa Rica, go ziplining if you get the chance!
And Han Solo, yep! Have you read Carrie Fisher’s book, where she tells all about their love affair? Riveting!

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Holly Warner

February 27, 2018 11:36 am

Something delicious you ate recently: deeply roasted brussel sprouts with Parmesan
What you’re looking forward to these days: I’m getting married this summer!
What’s worrying you: money per usual :)
A trip you’d take, if you could go anywhere: Egypt
Your childhood celebrity crush: Zachary Ty Bryan

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Leigh

February 27, 2018 10:56 am

I made three delicious Indian dishes last week. A butter chicken, a muttar paneer, and a chana masala. Still having leftovers now!
All I look forward to at the end of winter is my next holiday to the beach. (Southern Europe, normally)
The future of the world and US is worrying me these days. Also, the complicated relationship with one of my kids, age nearly 9. Is 8 a “difficult age”? Please say it is so for others. : (
If I could go anywhere right now, Morrocco, South Africa or Southern India.
Child hood celebrity crush: I really loved one of the guys from “Dead Poets Society” but can’t quite figure out now which one it was.

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Lily

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March 1, 2018 10:57 am

Robert Sean Leonard? He was my personal pick ;) It’s all in the eyebrows.

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Megan

February 27, 2018 10:09 am

Something delicious you ate recently: vegan cream cheese toast with the Trader Joe’s Everything but the Bagel seasoning. I’m obsessed.
What you’re looking forward to these days: Some time off work to visit family. My MIL and SIL are finally going to meet my daughter.
What’s worrying you: trying to be a good parent to my brand-new daughter while applying for a huge promotion
A trip you’d take, if you could go anywhere: back to Mykonos, Greece and to see the other Greek Isles
Your childhood celebrity crush: Jonathan Taylor Thomas. Sigh.

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Carol

February 27, 2018 8:13 am

Something delicious you ate recently: A Greek dish called Riga Lamb, hearty and perfect for winter
What you’re looking forward to these days: Spring! I’m so over winter.
What’s worrying you: Going back to work next month after 9 months of maternity leave with my son (although I know I’m quite lucky to get this long here in the UK)
A trip you’d take, if you could go anywhere: Anywhere warm with a beach
Your childhood celebrity crush: Nick from the Backstreet Boys (I’ve never been cool haha)

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laura-london

February 27, 2018 8:06 am

Something delicious you ate recently: Made some broccoli falafels on the weekend – amazeballs
What you’re looking forward to these days: Spring to make its entrance
What’s worrying you: my health (recovering from molar pregnancy), my infertility, 20th anniversary of my then-boyfriends passing. Been trying to make a book of memories for his family and it’s proving to be so, so hard to collate
A trip you’d take, if you could go anywhere: home to Aus, to let my mum cook for me, my dad’s chat to wash over me like a wave, to walk along the beach and just clear the head and heart, to get some sunshine and heat
Your childhood celebrity crush: John Stamos

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Kiki

February 26, 2018 9:23 pm

Something delicious you ate recently: After working from home (finally got some writing done) I made slow cooked flank steak with turmeric and garlic potato fries. Wine from this weekend’s big grocery hunt too.
What you are looking forward to these days: Not feeling guilty about not painting or drawing. Being in the moment.
What’s worrying you: I hope friendships stay strong through a big change at work.
A trip you’d like to take: Japan for a ramen tour
Your childhood celebrity crush: Benny from ‘The Sandlot’ 4ever

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Jessica

February 26, 2018 9:19 pm

Something delicious you ate recently:
Gluten-free blueberry pancakes smothered recklessly in butter and maple syrup.

What you’re looking forward to these days:
Celebrating my 30th birthday in NYC (my former home) with my family and best friends this summer. I’m grateful to age. Grateful I feel like I’ve lived a million lives and versions of myself in the past 30 years. Grateful to be healthy. Life feels ripe!

What’s worrying you:
Whether or not my period will become regular + I’ll get pregnant now that I’m off the pill and trying. I’m trying to play it cool with my emotions and “not stress” but that’s also an annoying piece of advice. I liken it to someone saying “care less.” It’s hard to practice patience when you feel ready, but then again I’m telling myself to enjoy this phase–travel and autonomy and wine (ha)–and trust the timing of my life.

A trip you’d take, if you could go anywhere:
A week with the royal family, living their day to day life. I’m obsessed right now after watching The Crown. I feel so despondent that season 3 won’t arrive until 2019.

Your childhood celebrity crush: Devon Sawa in “Now and Then.” I could still blush.

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Kelly

February 26, 2018 7:41 pm

Something delicious you ate recently:
Homemade roasted cauliflower mac n cheese. It’s like cauliflower cheese and macaroni and cheese all in one … so good!

What you’re looking forward to these days:
Spring and planting my backyard garden. I can’t wait to spend more time outside, and to enjoy the foliage.

What’s worrying you:
An upcoming appointment with a fertility specialist. We’ve been trying to get pregnant for nearly two years … no results and no clear idea why. I’m looking forward to getting answers, but also anxious.

A trip you’d take, if you could go anywhere:
Sailing around New Zealand!

Your childhood celebrity crush:
JTT :P

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Mrs D

February 26, 2018 7:33 pm

I always love these and spend WAY too much time reading all the wonderful, interesting comments!

Something delicious you ate recently: a buttermilk friend chicken burger with fermented coleslaw
What you’re looking forward to these days: yoga
What’s worrying you: EVERYTHING at the moment (not currently in an ideal head space) but mostly my son’t first year of school (four weeks in) and my health (40+ hormones are holding me hostage)
A trip you’d take, if you could go anywhere: Iceland with my family
Your childhood celebrity crush: Larry Mullen Jr (U2) OMG reminds me how damn fine he was/is…

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Mrs D

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February 26, 2018 7:36 pm

Euuuggh so many spelling errors, ha!

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Amy

February 26, 2018 3:21 pm

Hiya! I love these:

Something delicious you ate recently: Today’s lunch of roasted brussel sprouts and butternut squash with apple-chicken sausage
What you’re looking forward to these days: Heading off for 3-4 months of field work in Africa and Asia!
What’s worrying you: I’m in a blossoming romantic relationship that is deep and real and feels good, and I’m worried about how long distance will affect it.
A trip you’d take, if you could go anywhere: New Zealand!
Your childhood celebrity crush: The original green ranger from The Power Rangers T_T embarrassing but true!

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Lynn

February 26, 2018 2:57 pm

Something delicious you ate recently: Cheese steak!!! Yummy
What you’re looking forward to these days: sleep!
What’s worrying you: recently had a mole removed from my scalp and the doctor said she was “concerned”.
A trip you’d take, if you could go anywhere: only 6 hours away to Charleston. Never been, but would love to go.
Your childhood celebrity crush: Michael Bivins from the group New Edition.

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Riley

February 26, 2018 1:36 pm

Something delicious you ate recently: lemon crumb cookies- my husband and i used lemons from my grandma’s garden to make lemon cookies for the first time. they were amazingly delicious and we can’t wait to make them again for friends and family.
What you’re looking forward to these days: my 25th birthday in april. my girlfriends and i are going to paso robles, ca to wine taste and eat delicious spreads!
What’s worrying you: timing with school, work, social life, anxiety, health. just trying to zen out, find my peace and balance.
A trip you’d take, if you could go anywhere: italy! my husband and i are actually going in june to celebrate our anniversary. it’s always been a dream of mine to visit where my family stems from. we can’t wait!
Your childhood celebrity crush: justin timberlake in his n’sync days!

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Caitlin

February 26, 2018 1:28 pm

Something delicious you ate recently: Mexican Food (I was hungover so it was extra delicious!)
What you’re looking forward to these days: An upcoming trip to California
What’s worrying you: Money and gun laws.
A trip you’d take, if you could go anywhere: As a New Englander, I am longing for warm weather and sunshine . . . Florida
Your childhood celebrity crush: Andrew Keegan :)

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Cora

February 26, 2018 11:29 am

Something delicious you ate recently: We went out with friends a few weeks ago and I had a great truffle risotto. Still thinking about when I can get back to that restaurant.

What you’re looking forward to these days: We’ve been seeing peeks of spring in New England which makes me excited for warmer, longer days.

What’s worrying you: My mother’s health has been declining in recent years and she just had surgery. I’m hopeful she’ll be on the road to recovery, but realistic that she may stay the same.

A trip you’d take, if you could go anywhere: African safari

Your childhood celebrity crush: Corey Haim

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Lisa

February 26, 2018 10:45 am

Something delicious you ate recently: vegan wings! honestly it’s the first time I’ve had any (not something I miss as a vegetarian)
What you’re looking forward to these days: spring days and fire pit nights
What’s worrying you: applying for jobs (it’s a bit comforting to see so many people working on the same thing here. i love how someone said it’s a concrete action forward. i’m going to try and look at it like that) and our electricity bill. it’s abnormally high and it turns out google will only get you so far.
A trip you’d take, if you could go anywhere: we’re planning our honeymoon (for our year anniversary) to spain and portugal and it can’t come soon enough. if i’m really dreaming here though… I’d take off to Australia!
Your childhood celebrity crush: this would have to be JTT or Freddie Prinze Jr.

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Kelly

February 26, 2018 10:28 am

So fun reading the comments!
-My husband and I made homemade sushi for the first time and it came out better than expected (not always the case with a new recipe!) We rolled them with jasmine rice, purple cabbage, carrots, avocado, tomato, green onions & spinach.
– I’m looking forward to Spring. It’s warmer than usual in New England lately, but still, I’m anxiously awaiting more sunshine, flower buds and less layers.
– I’m worried about whether or not I’ll be a good mother.
– Top of my travel list is South Africa & Japan!
– Childhood Crushes: Aladdin & Kel Mitchell (from All That and Kenan &Kel)

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els borghart

February 26, 2018 9:10 am

Something delicious you ate recently: spinach, almonds & feta filo pastry pie – healthy, fresh, crunchy, homemade and delicious with a nice tomato salad on the side.
What you’re looking forward to these days: sitting outside in the sunshine again
What’s worrying you: neo-capitalism, increasing rent, feeling like we will all have to work even more
A trip you’d take, if you could go anywhere: glacier kayaking in Alaska
Your childhood celebrity crush: the cookie monster

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Caitlin

February 26, 2018 7:52 am

in my amazing hot yoga class on sunday, the teacher asked us all to consider our ’emotional temperature’ at the beginning of class – she said she’d read that term somewhere recently. of course at the end of class i asked – do you read a cup of jo?! we excitedly talked about our shared interest in your blog for a little after that :) i thought the yoga class was such a great incorporation for emotional temperature gauging.

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Trishita

February 26, 2018 5:31 am

Something delicious you ate recently: An Apple Streusel with Butter Crunch Ice-cream! (My mouth’s watering just thinking about it!!!)

What you’re looking forward to these days: Going home! (MIni-holiday)

What’s worrying you: Summer! I’m dreading the heat, the humidity and the hell it makes us go through until October. (CONTEXT: I’m from India, so summers are SULTRY!)

A trip you’d take if you could go anywhere: My answer to this question would always be ‘Anywhere in Europe’ or New York!

Your childhood celebrity crush: A New Zealand Cricketer called Daniel Vettori and perhaps, Brad Pitt at some point.

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jess

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March 1, 2018 3:19 am

YES to Daniel Vettori!

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Ashley

February 26, 2018 3:05 am

Something delicious you ate recently: A simple lentil soup topped with yogurt, toasted seeds and garlicky sauteed greens. Closely followed by a delicious chocolate brownie.
What are you looking forward to these days: Dressing for Autumn (I’m from Sydney, Australia), a family trip to a mountain cabin for my mums 60th.
What’s worrying you: The political climate of the world, work.
A trip you’d take: Vietnam or New Zealand, looks so beautiful.
Your childhood celebrity crush: Not sure if I had a childhood crush, but in my late teens, Columbus Short.

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Little Miss

February 26, 2018 1:12 am

Something delicious you ate recently:
its been a few days since i ate anything at all because of stomach issues due to anxiety.i haven’t had these since my engineering school years but life has been pretty hectic so no…nothing delicious!!!
What you’re looking forward to these days:
relaxing moments on the sofa…maybe in april!!!
What’s worrying you:
family health issues and financial issues
A trip you’d take, if you could go anywhere:
i would love a trip around europe
Your childhood celebrity crush:
hmmm…maybe Luke Perry from 90210?oups…just revealed my age??hahahah

cup of jo team,please also share your answers!!!!

xxxx

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Katy

February 25, 2018 6:48 pm

Something delicious you ate recently: leftover rice, brought to a boil in milk, maple syrup and a sprinkling of salt.

What you’re looking forward to these days: When it’s daytime, I look forward to reading after my son’s bedtime. When it’s night, I look forward to my spending time with him before taking him to kindergarten.

What’s worrying you: The future – what this country and world will look like in 5, 10, 25 years. Raising my son to be a feminist, anti-bias good guy.

A trip you’d take, if you could go anywhere: Hawaii. I’d move there tomorrow if I feasibly could.

Your childhood celebrity crush: Sean Astin in the Goonies.

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Alison D.

February 25, 2018 5:24 pm

Something delicious you ate recently: Made pizza on Friday night with all the toppings
What you’re looking forward to these days: After years of dating hell in NYC, I started dating someone I actually like. He just asked me out on a third date.
What’s worrying you: The world. More specifically, trying to talk to my students about the gun violence that happened last week.
A trip you’d take, if you could go anywhere: Greece!
Your childhood celebrity crush: Kirk Cameron from Growing Pains.

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Marisa

February 25, 2018 4:26 pm

Something delicious you ate recently: The amazing vegetarian lasagna recipe posted on here a few weeks ago. I made it for my husband for Valentine’s Day and he loved it so much I am making it again tonight!
What you’re looking forward to these days: Hopefully starting a new career and seeing my family in a few months.
What’s worrying you: Finding that job in a new career.
A trip you’d take, if you could go anywhere: I would love to go to Portugal and Spain or South Africa. I would be happy to travel pretty much anywhere though.
Your childhood celebrity crush: Josh Hartnett all the way!

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WoSu

February 25, 2018 3:42 pm

Looking forward to spring – some heat, sun, anything hot please. London’s spring has been delayed.
Recently had the juiciest crunchiest lobster dim sum at Duddell’s in the shape of goldfish!
Childhood crush – Prince Eric from The Little Mermaid!
Troubling me – wanting to be perfect at work even I know it’s impossible..

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jane

February 25, 2018 2:48 pm

Something delicious you ate recently: THIS –> https://www.acouplecooks.com/salmon-en-papillote-roasted-potatoes/
it’s my go-to dinner party dish. Easy but tastes amazing
What you’re looking forward to these days: getting off this island (living on Oahu) in a few months. Island fever is real y’all! I can only drive 45 minutes until I see the ocean again.
What’s worrying you: Finding a full-time job
A trip you’d take, if you could go anywhere: New Zealand for all the wine!
Your childhood celebrity crush: Josh Harnett in Pearl Harbor
“What’s your emotional temperature?”: Hopeful (for the first time in a long time)

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Stella

February 25, 2018 1:49 pm

‘Emotional temperature’. Thats so clever. Thank you. Puts everything in perspective.

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Lucy R

February 25, 2018 6:16 am

Love these posts! Look forward to reading some of the comments… Here’s mine:

Something delicious you ate recently: Elenore of Earthsprout’s Chocolate & Black Bean mud cake. Delicious! And a sneaky way to get more protein/general nutrition into our carb-loving picky eater.

What you’re looking forward to these days:
A four-night stay in the woods with my sister and her family. Classic UK break at Center Parcs.

What’s worrying you: The FREEZING weather forecast for the week ahead for our break and how we’ll get the two babies to sync their naps…. or take them at all with two crazy four-year-olds around!

A trip you’d take, if you could go anywhere: West Coast California. My husband and I did this same trip before we had kids and I’d love to do it again one day just the two of us ❤️

Your childhood celebrity crush: Jordan Catalano from My So-Called Life. I had to interview Jared Leto years later when working for a guitar magazine and I was a jibbering mess! He wasn’t wearing the plaid shirt, unfortunately (!!).

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sasha

Reply to Lucy R

February 28, 2018 7:58 pm

You met Jared Leto!?!

LUCKY!!!!!!!!!

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Laura

February 25, 2018 5:22 am

Something delicious you ate recently: Tuna tempura at this great sushi place in Vancouver. It’s the best!
What you’re looking forward to these days: Nothing and everything.
What’s worrying you: I bit my nails too much tonight and now they hurt. Tomorrow I may or may not see someone I used to love very much and it’s breaking my heart all over again.
A trip you’d take, if you could go anywhere: I would do the Tour D’ Afrique and bike across Africa. One day I will.
Your childhood celebrity crush: Patrick Swayze.

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Bailey

February 24, 2018 8:19 pm

These comments just make me happy.
-Made a delicious Barefoot Contessa recipe for potato-pancetta-basil frittata (which contains more cheese by volume than eggs) and i’m making it again ASAP. SO good.
-Looking forward to a trip to Rome with my husband and warmer days here
-Worried about debt and affording to live and start a family in CA :/
-If I could I would turn this upcoming trip into two months all over Italy –Sicily, Puglia, Piemonte, Lake Como are top!
-Childhood celebrity crush was…wait for it…Benny “The Jet” Rodriguez from The Sandlot, NO QUESTION. Although I once wrote Josh Hartnett a fan letter where I basically told him repeatedly “you’re so hot” (never sent and found years later. still mortified for myself)

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Kate

February 24, 2018 7:14 pm

Something delicious you ate recently: Salted caramel French butter cookies

What you’re looking forward to these days: Going to Los Angeles and Palm Springs in a week!

What’s worrying you: I need to get blood work done. I’ve lost some weight recently for no reason and my doctor suspects it’s probably nothing or possibly thyroid issues, but I fear the worst. Also, the colon hydrotherapy place I went to 2 years ago was recently in the news for being shut down due to unsanitary conditions and the public health unit called all past patients. I was advised to get tested for Hepatitis A, B, C and HIV. Could you imagine??

A trip you’d take, if you could go anywhere: I really want to go back to Paris with my sister, but we were just there in September! :)

Your childhood celebrity crush: Devon Sawa in ‘Casper’ and ‘Now and Then’

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Genevieve

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March 13, 2018 7:03 am

Kate, hoping for the best possible news for you regarding your blood work.

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dani

February 24, 2018 6:40 pm

Like others, I love this little check in and reading all the awesome comments…my answers would be:

Something delicious you ate recently: belgian waffles with blueberry compote and lemon curd
What you’re looking forward to these days: baby cuddles with TWO different girlfriends’ newborn baby boys; finally seeing the ring that my fiancé and I customized and eventually getting to wear said ring <3
What’s worrying you: how i'll memorize all the lines for a lead role i got in a local play…especially because some of them are in português! and just performing in general after years of being off the stage.
A trip you’d take, if you could go anywhere: south america with my bestie and backpacking europe with my love
Your childhood celebrity crush: AC Slater and Orlando Bloom & Viggo Mortensen in LOTR

love and hugs to this extraordinary community xo

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sasha

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February 28, 2018 8:01 pm

Oooh, the Blouse Man in A Walk on the Moon. ♥️ Viggo ♥️

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Julie French

February 24, 2018 5:53 pm

Delicious: ALWAYS the Bon Appetit’s salted chocolate chunk cookies- I have to make them at least once a month!!
What you’re looking forward to these days: Warm(er) weather (live in Nor Cal, but it’s been chilly!)
What’s worrying you: How sick my family has been this season- I’d like it to be OVER.
A trip you’d take, if you could go anywhere: Right now, Costa Rica and Portugal are high on my list…
Your childhood celebrity crush: Didn’t have one!

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Michelle

February 24, 2018 5:46 pm

Something delicious you ate recently:
Piping hot Kale and ricotta calzone dipped in marinara and anchovy sauce

What you’re looking forward to these days:
Weekends, free time

What’s worrying you:
Work, work, work.

A trip you’d take if you could go anywhere:
A long, extended round the world trip no plans just time ahead of me.

Your childhood celebrity crush:
Heath Ledger always.

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Kim

February 24, 2018 5:40 pm

Something delicious I ate recently:
Madagascar Vanilla pudding from this place:
http://chartreusekc.com/

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Mimi

February 24, 2018 5:13 pm

Something delicious you ate: apple fritters with cinnamon sugar and vanilla ice cream
What you’re looking forward to these days: warmer weather!
What’s worrying you: having just started back at work after baby #2, I’m worried about balancing it all, mostly making sure my time with hubby doesn’t come last in the priorities list
A trip you’d take: camping in Sardinia in the fall with the whole family
Childhood crush: Leo DiCaprio

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Nigerian Girl

February 24, 2018 4:25 pm

Something delicious you ate recently: Plantain patties with shrimp sauce.
What you’re looking forward to these days: An email and/or a phone call with incredible life-changing good news.
What’s worrying you: My book-in-progress.
A trip you’d take, if you could go anywhere: Paris, baby. Let’s do this.
Your childhood celebrity crush: None. As a child I had a crush on a certain boy in my class (who was terrified of me hehe), not a celebrity.

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Erin

February 24, 2018 3:07 pm

I’ve been reading all of the wonderful comments for the past two days, and finally decided to contribute as well!

Something delicious you ate recently: I made Smitten Kitchen’s chocolate stout cake for my husband’s birthday last week. That was pretty darn delicious.
What you’re looking forward to these days: A warm weather vacation next week with my husband, 2 month old, and my parents and sister.
What’s worrying you: Other than the obvious (the current state of our country, gun control, etc.), I’m worried about my maternity leave ending and returning to work in a couple of weeks. I have so many emotions surrounding the whole thing. I started crying just calling our prospective daycare to set up a visit this past week…
A trip you’d take, if you could go anywhere: This changes on at least a biweekly basis, but currently it’s Monterey/Carmel/Big Sur
Your childhood celebrity crush: Josh Hartnett in Pearl Harbor. Swoon.

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Lorena

February 24, 2018 11:13 am

Thank you for these check-ins! It is fun to read how everyone is doing.
Delicious food: I made a salmon, veggie rice bowl. Sounds basic, but it was great.

Looking forward to: A dinner date with my husband. Hooray for grandmas who babysit.

Worried about: Cold and flu season. My husband, 3 year old daughter and I have been sick on and off for 2 weeks. Looking forward to healthier times.

I would travel to Spain!

Childhood Celebrity Crush: Jordan Knight from New Kids On The Block.

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Lara

February 24, 2018 10:01 am

Something delicious you ate recently: Korean Tofu Soup
What you’re looking forward to these days: Trip to Amsterdam and Berlin
What’s worrying you: Applying for jobs
A trip you’d take, if you could go anywhere: Italy
Your childhood celebrity crush: Matt Damon

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Claudia

February 24, 2018 9:51 am

My husband went to Providence a few days ago and picked me up a traditional gyro with everything from East Side Pocket and it was incredible. Incredible!!!

I’m feeling a little curmudgeony about this cold weather and my toddler is going through a tough phase so I’m looking most forward to warm spring weather, that seems like a cure all at the moment.

My toddlers tantrums are worrying me and making me feel like I’m doing it all wrong; he’s slightly speech delayed, bangs his head when he’s frustrated, and has been waking up at 4 am for months. But when he’s happy, which is most often, he’s loving, empathic, funny, and delightful.

I’d love a trip to Cape Town with just my husband. Warm, beautiful and kind people, amazing food, need I go on?

Patrick Swayze was my dream man at way too young an age. I still swoon when I see his old films.

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Ruth

Reply to Claudia

February 25, 2018 2:59 am

I used to live in Providence — East Side Pockets is so good, isn’t it?? :)

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Saz

February 24, 2018 9:45 am

Something delicious you ate recently:
Sadly, I’m struggling to think of anything! Thing is, I love to cook, and I know the recipes for loads of delicious things… Clearly I need to get back into it!
What you’re looking forward to these days:
Longer Spring/Summer evenings. On of my favourite things to do when the evenings draw out, is to drive home, park, and then go for a walk around the neighbourhood. It takes about 30 minutes, and I love to look at the people out and about, and gaze into people’s windows.
What’s worrying you:
Work. Kind of. I seem to get along really great for a couple of months, and then have some sort of drama! It’s tiring and frustrating. I’m in a drama phase at the moment, and when this happens I really have to put my head down and commit to it. And then I don’t have time to Human and I end up getting tired and sick.
A trip you’d take, if you could go anywhere:
A week on a sun-lounger in Cape Verde sounds perfect. I went there two summers in a row in ’15/’16 and both times it was perfect. I slept naked on my top-floor hotel room balcony, under the stars, with the noise of the ocean nearby, and I’ve never felt more… animalistic… and… part of the universe.
Your childhood celebrity crush:
Jason Donovan and Bryan Adams.

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Joanna

February 24, 2018 9:04 am

Deliciousness. Homemade new England clam chowder last night
Looking forward to spring and the Sun
Worrying. My current vacation ending
Crush Johnny depp.

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PJ

February 24, 2018 6:05 am

Something delicious you ate recently: sweet potato black bean tacos with mango salsa
What you’re looking forward to these days: spring and gardening
What’s worrying you: school shootings
A trip you’d take, if you could go anywhere: Seattle
Your childhood celebrity crush: The Beatles, all of them

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kate

February 24, 2018 1:51 am

It strikes me how much we all have in common! Wish we could talk some of these things out over coffee :)

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Sonya

February 24, 2018 12:41 am

Something delicious you ate recently: A slice of peach pie with a huge scoop of vanilla ice cream
What you’re looking forward to these days: Reading my book after work (Pachinko by Min Jin Lee is breaking my heart), trying out new recipes, seeing my sister and her kids (they’ve just moved to town and my nephew has just started to walk!)
What’s worrying you: Whether we can afford to have a baby (we’re starting to think we’d like to but worry about money)
A trip you’d take, if you could go anywhere: Italy! Mainly to eat :)
Your childhood celebrity crush: Taylor Hanson

This was fun! Love reading all of the responses. Thanks Jo!

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Lisa

February 23, 2018 11:48 pm

Something delicious you ate recently:
Belgian dark chocolate with coconut filling.

What you’re looking forward to these days:
Winning the lottery and other thin slices of joy…

What’s worrying you:
Mass shootings in schools.

A trip you’d take, if you could go anywhere:
The Galapagos on the newest best Cunard ship in the best stateroom with my family. (Why I am looking forward to winning the lottery)

Your childhood celebrity crush:
Maverick from Top Gun. Remember ?…

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Chantal

Reply to Lisa

February 26, 2018 7:27 am

If I can make a recommendation on this one – go to the Galapagos on a smaller ship!! They can get around to more places, and with only 12-16 people on the ship, you can do a lot more activities. We did a trip through the islands on a 16 passenger boat, and we got to explore most of the islands we wanted to, and always had time to stop and snorkel around at least once if not more times a day! It was glorious… It felt like a private tour!

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Jessica

Reply to Lisa

February 28, 2018 4:26 pm

I second the Galapagos on a smaller ship! We went on a ~12 person ship, and it was the greatest! Also it tends to be a lot cheaper and you still have a guide on your boat (all boats are required to) so you can have frequent conversations with the guide!

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Ann-Marie

February 23, 2018 8:24 pm

Something delicious you ate recently: Still dreaming about the steak and broccolini from Mediterranean Exploration Company here in Portland a few weeks ago. But last night’s beef stew I made was pretty good too. ;)

What you’re looking forward to these days: Launching my new website soon and getting more clients!

What’s worrying you: A few things, but I try not to dwell on them.

A trip you’d take, if you could go anywhere: Somewhere warm with turquoise water. I’m not picky: Maldives, Greece, the Caribbean…

Your childhood celebrity crush: Brad Renfro. RIP. (But honestly there were like 100 others).

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RB

February 23, 2018 7:07 pm

Something delicious you ate recently: An entire mini box of See’s chocolates on Valentines Day #noregrets
What you’re looking forward to these days: Summer :)
What’s worrying you: Work :( I channel that worry into applying for new jobs. Even if I never hear back, I know I’m taking concrete steps to improve my situation.
A trip you’d take, if you could go anywhere: Alaska!
Your childhood celebrity crush: Josh Hartnett and Leo (still, always)

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Sarah

February 23, 2018 5:56 pm

Something delicious you ate recently: just had some triple cream brie and huckleberry jam on Triscuits, leftover from entertaining a visiting friend last weekend
What you’re looking forward to these days: A trip to Mexico City with my fiancé in two weeks!
What’s worrying you: finding a job, planning my wedding, a couple deadlines I have tomorrow (yes, three deadlines on a Saturday, #gradschoollife), whether my new anxiety meds are working (after years of ignoring mental health, I decided to try medication for 3 months and take it from there), whether the fact that I’ve gotten a headache at 9pm the last two nights is a side effect and whether that will happen again tonight.
A trip you’d take, if you could go anywhere: Uruguay. I was just talking to a friend from there this morning (he’s from there), and he was describing the food culture. It sounds amazing!
Your childhood celebrity crush: I didn’t really have any. I wasn’t really the boy-crazy type. But I would have died to be BFFs with Lindsay Lohan after the Parent Trap!

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Michelle

February 23, 2018 5:56 pm

Something delicious you ate recently: Halloumi drizzled with honey
What you’re looking forward to these days: Not being constantly sick with the winter cold
What’s worrying you: My daughter starting kindergarten in fall
A trip you’d take, if you could go anywhere: the lavender fields of southern France
Your childhood celebrity crush: Eddie Vedder – still is! ;)

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Pamela

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February 23, 2018 11:53 pm

YES Eddie Vedder then and now.

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Rachel

February 23, 2018 5:49 pm

Something delicious: Trader Joe’s “everything but the bagel” seasoning
Looking forward to: multiple upcoming girls’ weekends with family and friends
Worrying me: Will I ever find a fulfilling career?
A trip I’d take: Venice
Childhood celebrity crush: Orlando Bloom (specifically, Orlando Bloom in Pirates of the Caribbean – totally swoon-worthy for 13-year-old me. And still swoon-worthy for 25-year-old me, if we’re being honest.)

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Martha

February 23, 2018 5:47 pm

Something delicious you ate recently: Love and Lemons falafel burget
What you’re looking forward to these days: Looking forward to sunny days in Seattle. Winter days here are brutal because of the lack of sun, so I love it when we get a glimpse of sun
What’s worrying you: the polarization that’s happening in our world (liberal or conservative, man vs. female)
A trip you’d take, if you could go anywhere: Road trip thoughout Spain and Italy.. eating every bite through.
Your childhood celebrity crush: Channing Tatum

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Katie

February 23, 2018 5:46 pm

Homemade banana bread
The surprise trip I planned for my husband for our wedding anniversary
We’re trying to immigrate (so long, America!) and it’s a long, stressful process
Back to my favorite city, London <3 Can't believe it's been 7 months since I've been there.
Orlando Bloom in Pirates of the Caribbean haha (don't judge)

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Theresa

February 23, 2018 5:28 pm

Fresh baguette with butter!
Seeing my daughter’s face when we surprise her today for preschool pick up. The surprise is, my Dad is visiting and she’s been counting down the sleeps. She thinks he’s not arriving until after dinner, but he’s going with me to pick her up from school!
The state of our country is worrying me. My husband being a teacher and school gun violence worries me. Being able to save money for a family vacation worries me and being able to maintain being a social worker…burnt out. Sigh
Turkey or Iceland
Michael Jackson and any of the lads from Menudo.

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Nina

February 23, 2018 5:24 pm

Hello beautiful – so happy to check in.

Something delicious you ate recently: chocolate covered almond. I’m trying to cut back on sugar and one of this is so delicious and filling.
What you’re looking forward to these days: getting some more freelance jobs.
What’s worrying you: not having more freelance jobs.
A trip you’d take, if you could go anywhere:
Your childhood celebrity crush: haha McGyver. and Sean Connery. But as I grew up they both seemed to be so rude irl so…no more crush.

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Alanna

February 23, 2018 5:20 pm

JTT FOREVER

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S

February 23, 2018 5:03 pm

Hi Ladies! I hope you’re all well. Sending you love and hugs.

Something delicious you ate recently:
The shrimp buns and Momufuku. I’m a regular at the CCDC location and every single trip requires an order of the shrimp buns.

What you’re looking forward to these days:
I start a new job that is a big promotion. I’ve been working for this moment for a long time and might I say I am really proud of myself for finally getting here.

Also looking forward to letting having one of those super emotional cries with tears of joy.

What’s worrying you:
The prospect of introducing babies into my life. I love where I am and can’t imagine it being any other way. I have an incredible (the man is a saint) significant other who is planning to propose any day now; I suspect. We want to have kids but I am terrified I won’t be able to be a great wife, mother and professional.

A trip you’d take, if you could go anywhere:
Mauritius

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