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Have a Great (Long) Weekend.

Nicole Franzen

What are you up to this weekend? We are taking the boys for Indian food tonight, and I’d also love to go see a movie with Alex, something we haven’t done together in ages. Have a great one, and here are a few links from around the web…

Martin Luther King Jr.’s words feel more relevant than ever.

Does your daily routine have white space?

This footage of Greta Gerwig directing LadyBird made us smile from ear to ear. (Skip to 2:43.)

A cute twist on a striped shirt.

Busted, haha.

The best gift for parents who say you don’t visit enough.

I made the pizza cinnamon rolls from Mario Batali’s sexual misconduct apology letter.”

Last weekend, we showed up on time for our dinner reservation, but they didn’t have any open tables. The host was so nonchalant about it, and it made me laugh remembering this Seinfeld scene.

Obama is cool even when he’s uncool.

A beautiful reminder that there is good in the world.

This was one of my favorite Christmas presents, hands down.

Plus, two great reader comments…

Says Jill on relationship pet peeves: “My husband does this thing called a ‘salmon flip.’ He’ll be sleeping on his side facing one way, and then, while asleep, he’ll launch into the air, flip, and land facing the other way. The first time it happened, I thought there was an earthquake. He doesn’t even wake up!”

Says Jenny on nameless feelings: “Utepils is the Norwegian word for a beer drunk outside. I love that – being out of doors somehow makes the beer taste so much better.”

(Sending so much love to California; photo by Nicole Franzen.)

  1. The two comments from readers about the salmon flip (made me actually lol) and the drinking beer outside were so wonderful! Cup of Jo improves my life every day!!

  2. Jamie Patton says...

    My husband does the salmon flip! We call it “jolting”. I have woken up more times than I can count, breathless and wondering what the hell just happened.

  3. Marlena says...

    I absolutely love the idea of utilizing the “white space” method with our mind space. I am a huge proponent of staring at a wall for a few minutes every day. Clears the mind… although my children hate that it results in them being allowed to be bored sometimes. God forbid!! So, that article was wonderful and a great way to think about that quiet space in our heads.

  4. Lucy says...

    I laughed out loud, at my desk, at Jill’s “salmon flip” comment. It was so perfectly written. Keep being amazing, CoJ readers.

  5. Sarah says...

    A cute twist on a striped shirt model definitely resembles Contestant Krystal.

  6. Jen says...

    I have re-read the ‘salmon flip’ comment a few times, because it’s cracking me up at work and making my eyes tear… I have a salmon husband!!

  7. Olivia says...

    Omg the salmon flip! My fiance does it and I call it the BREACHING WHALE.

    Disclaimer: He’s 6’4″ and I am 5’3″ and this is terrifying.

  8. Great roundup as usual. The article on the pizza cinamon rolls is fantastic!

  9. Kristiana says...

    HA! Remember reading that comment on the salmon flip on the original post and died laughing. Love that it was appreciated! 😂 Xx

  10. deb says...

    Heartstrings tugged today, loved the Greta Gerwig joy in her directing and then water leaked from my eyes with the happy instagram post. Wonderful to share my cup of jo with you today!!

  11. Katie says...

    Oh my gosh, watching the movie Away from Her WRECKED me.

  12. Alison says...

    OMG!! My husband does the Salmon flip too!!! its insane!! Scares me every time!

  13. shopgirl says...

    I laugh out loud right now about that “salmon flip”. ha, ha, ha!

  14. Nys says...

    Omg!! The salmon flip! My boyfriend does that! I was crying with laughter reading it out to my boyfriend “its you! ! The salmon flip”
    Its so bewildering because you’ll be asleep then your upper body gets launched into the air as he crashes back down into the bed. I’m wide awake startled and he’s happily sleeping away. First few times I punched him in the arm to wake him but he’s so oblivious now I just kinda shrug and turn away.

  15. My daughter and I went from a small leather couch to a much larger cloth couch, recently. We discovered the fun of being on a warm, comfy couch under a wool blanket! So her request was books, movies and, “huggles, cuggles and snuggles” on the couch.

  16. Seona says...

    Amen Jill! My partner also does the same thing and it scares the absolute beejeezus out of me. He also does this mini scissors with his feet when not yet in a deep sleep. The other night he did it often enough I patted him to sleep like a baby – totally worked! lol

  17. Anna says...

    Love Jill’s comment!! Thank you Jill and Cup of Jo for the laugh.

  18. Claire says...

    We would love to have your team take on a long-term service project!

  19. alanna says...

    I was in a long term relationship for 6 and 1/2 years with someone who salmon-flipped. But not in his sleep, he was fully conscious and just felt it was the most efficient way to rollover. I tried to calmly explain how disturbing it was to drift off to sleep and all of a sudden a 180lb man launched himself into the air and then came crashing down on his other side. By the end of the relationship, I became enraged every time he did it.
    I described it to my current significant other as something that I hate…now he’s started doing it and I don’t even think he realizes.

  20. Alice says...

    Those fathers, so uplifting. And white space, yes! A different way of looking at something we all know to be true but just ignore.

    Those two reader comments were my favourite of the week too! The salmon flip had me rolling with laughter! I’m so glad you shared those :)

  21. Rachel says...

    In the break room at work….I work at the police department…and LOOOOL’D at that salmon flip reader comment! Thanks for a good laugh and a burst of energy half way my 10hr shift at 1117pm.

  22. Sheila says...

    Thank you so much for sending your love to California. I live in Santa Barbara; my house is three miles from the devastation in Montectio. It is heartbreaking and tragic for this community and has physically and mentally affected everyone here. It’s brought a great cloud of sadness and hopelessness over the region— and of course, it has also brought the community together. This has been a reminder of how fragile life is and has made us hug our loved ones a little tighter.

    • Sheila says...

      Montecito. Not Montectio (the uncle of Montec?). It’s been a rough week. Thanks for this blog, it’s brought me so much joy for years.

    • Christi says...

      Hi fellow Santa Barbaran Cup of Jo reader!! <3 Hugs to you.

    • Christina says...

      Hi Sheila- I live in Santa Barbara too (downtown) and feel exactly how you describe here. Sending you a big, big virtual hug.

    • Sheila says...

      Hi Christina!

      Big virtual hug to you too!

  23. Kerri says...

    Oh my goodness, my husband does the “salmon flip” too!! So much so that the bed has moved away from the wall 😂

  24. Catie Curran says...

    I am on Mario Batali’s mailing list and replied to say how inappropriate it was to include a recipe. Fuck him.

  25. edie says...

    they didn’t have your table?!? weird!

  26. Steph says...

    My 11 year old daughter and I watched the dream speech together tonight. Thank you.

  27. Janel says...

    I watched the movie “Away from Her”, it left me raw, wounded and a snotty mess. I was not at all prepared for this story, but it sure did leave me stunned and thinking about it for days. It is so well done, you cannot help but feel as if you are part of this couples story. It is beautiful, brutal and so touching. If you watched ” Boy in the striped pajamas” I would compare them both to the “bullet to the chest” these two movies leave you with.

  28. Celeste says...

    Every time you post “long weekend”, I have to look at the calendar and say, “oh, mjk day” “Columbus day” and go to work on Monday anyway. Enjoy your time!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      oh, bummer, celeste — do you not get any federal holidays off?

    • Juliana says...

      Same thing in our house. Before we had kids, I worked at a hotel and my husband is in law enforcement, so long weekends don’t exist for our family. Holidays are sometimes early or postponed too, but we always make it special.

    • Jane says...

      I agree!! Federal holidays don’t exactly apply to a lot of healthcare workers. The worst is working on St. Patrick’s Day and all the old men think it’s a good excuse to pinch your bum (side eye emjoi)

    • Francesca says...

      As someone living in Europe, when I read “Have a Great (Long) Weekend” I am always surprised and think: again? Somehow it feels like you have a lot of them, but maybe it’s just me being sad because no posts on monday! :-(

    • Alli says...

      Yep, same. Food industry over here, and literally have 2 days a year when the business is closed (Thanksgiving and Christmas). I often wonder why I chose this industry for my career!

    • Celeste says...

      Most people that work for private companies don’t ;)

  29. Kristin says...

    Oh my gosh…salmon flip! My daughter does that. I hate sharing a bed with her when we travel!! Of course, our son smacks his lips loudly in his sleep (he’s done it from birth, and was banished to his own room after a couple of nights in ours), so maybe salmon flips aren’t so bad.

  30. Claire says...

    I DO THE “SALMON FLIP”! I never really realized it but I shared a bed with my sister on vacation and she HATED IT. She called it a “whale jump.” I assumed that’s what people meant by the tossing in “tossing and turning.”

  31. Libbynan says...

    Love the comment about “nameless feelings”…….it’s a fact that even the best hot chocolate tastes 100% better drunk outside in the cold.

    • sasha says...

      And smores are no good inside.
      So true.

  32. Sarah says...

    The truth of the blog post about the cinnamon rolls has brought me to tears. I’m so sad for us. For us as women, as men, and as a society.

  33. Hannah says...

    I can’t stop laughing at salmon flip 😂😂😂

  34. Amanda says...

    I read “The Bear Came Over the Mountain” a few years ago in The New Yorker, a prelude to Away From Her. Ah! What a heartbreaking and beautiful and tender and loving story. I watched the movie this past weekend and it’s at once lovely and devastating just like the book. Have a good one!

  35. Anne says...

    I was teaching India when my oldest friend was getting married so just before I left they put me in a bridesmaid dress and took photos. They made a life sized cutout and brought it to the wedding (even seating her at the table with the bridal party!) and then she showed up at various events for years afterwards. I hadn’t thought about that in years but it makes me laugh even now. I will have send my friend that article!

    • sasha says...

      That is awesome!!

  36. Elise says...

    I’ve loved the film “Away From Her” for years, and have followed Sarah Polley’s career ever since. While her most recent project is the Alias Grace Netflix series, one of my favorite movies ever will always be her documentary “Stories We Tell.” Brings me to tears every time!

  37. Bridget says...

    I have inflammation around my lung rn from being sick, it feels like broken ribs, it’s one of the most painful things I’ve ever experienced!!! When I read the “salmon flip” reader comment I was DYING laughing. And it hurts sooo bad to laugh, haha! SO funny, a quirky trait, something I could imagine my fiancé doing LOL. Can’t stop picturing it in my head… but I better before I die from the pain!

  38. Roxanne says...

    OMG I miss Color Me Katie! I wonder if she’s somewhere else now?

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      i actually hung out with her a couple months ago! happy to report that she is as funny, smart and adorable as ever. :)

  39. Laura C. says...

    Oh my, you brougth back Katie Sokoler! I remember visiting her blog many years ago but then she stopped posting. It was a pity because I really enjoyed her colouring and beautiful lifestyle.
    I’m not sure I like the striped t-shirt. Help me.

    • Charity says...

      I felt the same about the shirt…

    • sasha says...

      Nope, shirt seems silly?!

  40. olivia says...

    such a sweet story

  41. sarah says...

    I appreciate the link to Martin Luther King Jr.’s words. It feels really hopeless.
    How can trump be our president? I don’t think anything is going to save us from him. How is our country going to survive?

    • Lisa says...

      You expressed my thoughts exactly. How is our country going to survive???

      Lisa

    • sasha says...

      I am on vacation right now, in Central America, and yesterday had the most beautiful conversation with an 82 yo fransciscan nun, from the states. I asked her how she felt about the Pope, we both agreed his compassion is inspiring, and then she shared “that’s what we are supposed to do, approach every person and situation with compassion.” And the heart of compassion is understanding for another person’s experience, and love. She hugged me and thanked me for sharing with her. I’m not even a Christian, but there we were, sharing together, on a beach, in a place that is most certainly not a shit hole.

      I don’t know how we, as a country, are going to survive the mess we are in, but I do know that this kind lady is 100% right. And we can kept spreading compassion, no matter how vile the president. Please don’t give up hope.

  42. Valentine says...

    Thanks so much Cup of Jo for radiating hope, fun and meaningful insights!
    Side note: thank you SO much Jill…. the salmon flip just got me laughing so hard I might never stop !

  43. Katie says...

    The story about volunteer dads made me choke up. I was a kid who needed a volunteer dad. I’m so happy to now be parenting with a guy who will not only show up for our kiddos but would be a volunteer dad as well.

    • Andrea says...

      It makes me sad, too. I remember how many men I tried to draft into this role.

    • t says...

      This makes me so sad. My four year old just asked me this week “is it fun having a dad?”

      My heart broke- he has two loving moms so it is a different situation but he’s the only guy in the house. He has continued the theme by pretending he has a dad. Like in the car on the way to school he said “my dad says it’s ok if I have a treat after school” and yesterday he said “my dad said he really likes this show.”

      As soon as he’s old enough I am signing him up for boy scouts. Any other ideas?

    • Katie says...

      Andrea – I love your use of the word draft, that’s exactly how it was. Glad to know someone else was in the same boat.

      T – I think my best advice would be to recruit on your son’s behalf! Draft a couple of good guys who are going to be willing to be in it to win it, not just there for one thing, but who will happily adopt an uncle/volunteer dad role for the duration. If possible find someone who can make it to daytime events because so often the times a “dad” is invited or wanted to show up is at like a 4 o clock soccer game or a 10 am on a Tuesday school breakfast. It sounds like your kiddo is incredibly lucky though to not have just one but two loving mamas! My 5 year old just received a second baby brother and asks everyone who has a sister what THAT is like so it could just be part of that age where they are so curious about the path that isn’t their own :).

  44. Diana McNeill says...

    Have you heard about the devastating mudslides in Montecito, CA near Santa Barbara? You have such a large following, I hope you can perhaps post ways to help as you have in the past when other natural disasters occur. People are still missing and dozens are injured and the fatality list is growing. So heartbreaking! They were just scorched by raging wildfires and now this!

    • Lily says...

      They did at the bottom!