What Drives You Crazy About Your Partner?

These are the BEST comments, I’ve spent far too long (though never too long right?) reading them and cracking up. After 8 years of marriage and just over 10 years together, definitely some things that really drive me crazy. He will spend all this time “cleaning the kitchen” – will wash the dishes, load the dishwasher, put them away…but always, always leaves food in the sink and a dirty counter, and then says “I cleaned the kitchen”, well no, not really, I now have to go in for round 2. Another thing…I’ll mention that something needs to be fixed or hung or whatever (he’s SUPER handy), and he’ll go get the tools often right away and then I’ll be forced to drop whatever I’M doing to tell him where/how to hang the 8 frames – I hadn’t planned on spending the next 45min doing this task! But gosh I love him, despite this.

I laughed at your “Toes!” because I do the same to my husband, except it’s “Knobs!” He somehow, without realising it, ends up rubbing his knobbliest knobs (ankles, knees, toe knuckles) against my knobbliest knobs (ankles, shins, kneecaps – which are the worst, he makes me feel as if my kneecap is sliding off my knee). I guess it’s the same way a cat digs its claws in when purring, but boy is it uncomfortable for the knobbled.

It feels annoying to have your mother call you so frequently. But embrace her calls now. My mother passed away two years ago, and I cannot express how much I miss her voice, and her funny observations over the phone.

Apparently my husband is hilariously frustrated by the “slack jawed noise” my throat makes when I’m falling asleep (cross between a snort and a loud breathy noise). Sometimes he’ll even go and sleep in the other room because once he hears it, it’s all he can focus on!

Sometimes it’s something pretty trivial, sometimes it’s super serious. My wife cannot stand my snoring. There have been times I have had to snore alone in a different room.

I love to bake. My trivial complaint? I leave my hot pads out on the kitchen counter so I am ready to take things out of the oven. When it’s time to take things out of the oven, where are the hot pads? Already put back in the cupboard. So annoying! So, she keeps things too clean and complains about my snoring problem. Other than that, we’re good.

When I pass something to my Husband, his hand is there to receive, but just before the object touches his skin, he moves it away, and the object falls to the floor.

He does the opposite to me.

When he passes me an object, I go to grip it, but he has already let go and it falls through my fingers/palm.

You will hear me yell….. GRIP!!!

I’ve been with my partner for 3 years and the one thing that I’ll miss so much if something ever happens to him is how he’ll be falling asleep and slightly twitch all over. It’s how I know he’s really falling asleep (a hard task for him) and it’s strangely annoying and comforting at the same time.

I just had a fight with my husband last night over some of of our annoyances with each other!! So this post and all the comments are so therapeutic and reassuring!

When we’re just about ready to go somewhere (and I have gotten the three kids and myself ready and he’s barely managed to get himself together), he will suddenly urgently need to do a random task like change a lightbulb or take out the trash while we are standing at the door in our coats, fer cryin’ out loud.
He turns on the lights in every room that he walks through – not doing anything in the room, just WALKING THROUGH. And doesn’t turn them off, natch.
He will start washing the dishes and suddenly leave them – the dish drainer is not full, there are still dirty dishes in the sink, but he will just walk away. What switch has tripped that makes him suddenly bolt from the task?? It is a mystery.

I leave cupboard doors open in the kitchen when I’m actively cooking and working, which drives him nuts. I also don’t mind crooked pictures on the wall, which makes him insane. He would say I keep the heat too low and the kitchen odd-utensil drawer too full so that he can’t open it and jerks really hard, breaking a utensil that was stuck (I think I’m the only one who knows the mystery of how to get them to fit).

Seriously? After 25 years, some happy, some not, I have the ability to ignore small things that used to annoy me. Just tune ’em out. My sister inlaw just told me it makes her crazy when my brother puts the rubber band around the newspaper on a doorknob. Jeeze. Get over it.

I’m convinced that I’m not the only one trying out this toes rubbing while reading these posts, only to feel what sensation I might have missed…

My husband was raised with much better manners than we were. He knows where all the forks and spoons and knives go and eats with his hand in his lap, etc. But still…the guy slurps soup and coffee and it drives me BANANAS. And you don’t even want to see him eat fried chicken.

Thank you for this post, how comforting to know we all have our gripes!

My husband has always chewed nicotine gum, and I supposed always will. I find those little plastic wrappers EVERYWHERE. In the laundry, on tables and counters. I even found them, like 5 of them, in our driveway when I was snowblowing last week (ps, snowblowing is really fun!). The chewed gum finds its way onto the top of things as well. I asked him if he is saving it for later, and he’s responded, “Not really, I guess I just take it out when I’m tired of it.” ….? He never puts empty seltzer cans in the recycling, I feel like the counter-to-recycling fairy. If he does laundry and my clothes get in with his, he’ll fold everything but my stuff. Hardly ever does dishes but thinks of himself as the one who cleans everything. OMG will occasionally put a wet towel on MY side of the bed, never his… What else? Chews with his mouth open at an alarming rate of speed. Sometimes I want him to eat in front of a mirror so he can see for himself. It’s shocking. And lastly, OMG when he spits out his toothpaste, he does it from full 6’3 height. and makes a sound like someone is gagging him. It’s very dramatic and our sink and mirror end up a wreck!!!!

Wow, I’m really venting!!!!

He would complain that I am oddly comfortable driving with my gas tank on empty. I don’t finish room painting projects 100%. Or even 10% (our bathroom has been 10% repainted for about 4 months). I use all three blankets on our couch so he has to ask to use one one them. LOL

I’m guilty of a variation of the toes: i have long toes and enjoy curling them and scratching them on something (like a friggin cat), on bed sheets or, worse, on my partner’s leg! He REALLY loves that! Ha!

To add to that, don’t you think that if this had happened on the first dates, you would probably have found it cute?
This post reminded me of a “black mirror” episode from the last season, where someone’s boyfriend exhales loudly in pleasure every time he drinks something (even after going down on her!), and she is sooooooo annoyed!
Thanks for keeping it real- once again!

These comments are so endearing and moving! Way to pull the tide in Joanna!

Us: He leaves used floss dangling on the toilet seat, almost in the toilet – but not. I can’t wash my face or brush my teeth without leaving a puddle behind, and I am now Princess of puddles. Can’t help it, you know? It evaporates?

xx

This post and it’s comments is everything! It made my day a whole lot better and funnier! My husband is the most gentle kind man in the world and I love him deeply but there a few things he does that drives me completely nuts. #1: He has no idea what doing anything quickly is. He takes his time to do everything and even when he tries to rush that is not even close to doing anything quickly. It drives me insane! #2: Every single night he washes and dries the dishes but he never ever puts the dishes away. I get home to a kitchen where there’s pans and pots and cups everywhere! #3: Even if it is to go to the next door bakery to buy a loaf of bread, the man has to get all dressed up and put his hair together! I go nuts!

Even though he does annoy me quite a bit, I guess I love him even more because of it!

Things I d i know drive him nuts:

#1: I always forget to replace the garbage back in the garbage can (I take the garbage out and can’t, for the life of me, remember to go back and put another bag in the trash can)
#2: I walk barefoot everywhere in the house and for some reason he hates it so much.

My Husband and I are approaching our 10 year mark, and just like your situation with Alex – he rubs his toes together AND he also does this weird clicking thing with his fingers. At this point in the relationship I just look at him and he knows. With that being said, I’d rather deal with his irritating quirks over anyone else’s … Even Thomas Shelby.

I got your back on this one, Alex. I rub my toes (and feet sometimes) together too. It is just a comfort thing! Drives my husband crazy.

He leaves dishes next to the sink and not in it.
Falls asleep with t.v on every single night.
Leaves a pot to soak by sink and never finishes the job.
Leaves out the vacuum as if to say ” look at me over here I did some vacuuming”

My husband will scoot all the food on his plate into a pile and cut it all up at once. Like he’s cutting up food for a kid. He stabs it and drags his knife across the whole plate in different directions. I find it so embarrassing, especially when we eat out or at someone’s house. At home alone it makes me cringe so bad I can’t even watch. I get unnecessarily angry. I’m sure he gets annoyed at my paper piles that sit out for a while as I try to organize. (Then the piles BECOME the organization.)