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Have a Lovely Weekend.

Have a Lovely Weekend.

What are your plans for the weekend? Our team is in Dallas for a conference, and I’m wearing this for my presentation. Wish me luck! We were laughing about how I’m not scared of the usual things (like public speaking), but instead completely freak about random things (elevators, swallowing pills, the dark). What about you? Anyway, hope you have a good one, and here are a few fun links from around the web…

Barack being Michelle’s Instagram husband is the best thing you’ll see all day.

What a beautiful painting.

Adding this one sentence makes any book instantly better.

Sofia Coppola’s new movie looks creepy and great.

The ingredient-in-a-tube that will apparently make your food taste better.

Running may be socially contagious.

Two gorgeous apartments in Paris. That wallpaper!

How pretty are these mules? Each artisan woman in Italy hand makes just six pairs a day.

CEO Rick Goings shares his career advice, including: “When you go on job interviews, always be nice to everyone. ‘I like to check with the driver, our receptionist, and my assistants on how the candidate interacted with them. How you treat others means the world.”

How to read a whole damn book every week.

Do you ever initiate sex?

Finally, and most important: Gather for Goats. (More on this next week.)

Plus, three great reader comments:

Says Amy on delivery room guests: “We adopted our sweet little boy, and we met his birth mom for the first time the morning of her induction. She invited us both to stay in the room while she was laboring but after a while my husband got too nervous (and modest!) and stayed down the hall for the actual birth. I held her hand while she pushed and it’s one of my most precious memories.”

Says Donna on summer reads: “I recently read and can’t stop thinking about The Hate U Give by Angie Thomas. My hands trembled while reading certain parts. It made me laugh, cry, sick to my stomach, and, most of all, angry. This book should be required reading for everyone.”

Says Anna on first period stories: “I went to the Nutcracker with my 7th grade class and wore my favorite khaki corduroys and white turtleneck (peak early aughts outfit right there!). When I got home, my sisters and mom were out, but my older brother nonchalantly pointed out that my khakis were covered in something. Desperate and mortified, I begged him for help. I’ll never forget his walking up to me with a pad, opening it, and sticking it to the wall with a loud ‘thwap’ and saying, ‘That’s how you do it.’ Bravo to him for not making me more embarrassed. What a good brother.”

(Photo by Ben Wagner/Instagram. Sofia Coppola trailer via Ashley. Sentence link via Emily. Book-a-week link via Kottke.)

  1. I totally agree with Rick Goings! It’s sooo important :) I love the idea of your blogpost. It’s such a lovely round-up xx

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  2. Ashley says...

    I am so looking forward to your post about #GatherForGoats. This opportunity speaks to me in every way. It’s perfect and I’m excited to participate!

  3. Stephanie says...

    I read The Hate U Give last week, and loved it! Amazing for all audiences – it was hilarious, eye-opening, and important. Can’t wait to read what Angie Thomas writes next!

    • Hi Stephanie! Definitely one of the best books I’ve read so far this year! I can’t shut up about it.

  4. Celeste says...

    That is my brother’s VW bug! #rodgerSF

  5. Celeste says...

    That’s my brother’s VW bug! #rodgerSF

  6. Alane says...

    Love the Paris apartments, the wallpaper in the first apartment is from Rifle Paper Company which is the best US made paper products right here in Winter Park Florida. Annie Rifle is so creative – love that they are using even in Paris!

  7. Taylor says...

    Not to sound stalker-ish but I was visiting my boyfriend in Dallas this past weekend and I was hoping to have the same moment you had with Anne Hathaway, but with you… I know its creepy but I was on the lookout ha!

  8. Sarah says...

    As a newly divorced 39 year old navigating sex and dating, the NY Mag article on initiating sex was so timely! Super insightful, well researched and clever. Right on the money…
    P.S First time commenting, long time devoted reader.

  9. Cgw says...

    Fish sauce!! It’s made of anchovies, most awesome thing around in the kitchen. Use it in regular cooking, in dressings and dipping sauces, and even in marinades. It’s a mainstay of Southeast Asian cuisine.

  10. That article about reading a book a week is spot on! I started this goal for myself at the beginning of the year (oddly not a NY resolution but I suppose it applies) after taking a long break from my hobby of reading. I read unbelievable amounts through to high school, but stopped at university when I had to give so much time to reading textbooks. I began to really miss it.

    Now I live in New Zealand, and without a car, I maximize my 25 minute bus commute reading. Like the writer said, this is often enough time in itself to finish a book! I’ve been staying on track so easily, even if I take a break and listen to a podcast one day instead.

    Also the library!!! The library is an incredible institution most people forget about! I love that I have an impending due date, access to so many books, and I’m finally reading certain “classics” that I never read (like Catcher in the Rye!). I don’t have to “treat” myself to buying a book, I can read whatever and if I don’t like it, back to the lib it goes! Most of the time I never read a book twice anyways, but if it’s really special then and only then will I buy it. I’m saving so much money (books are very, very expensive here – upwards of $30 a lot of the time) that I can use for travel instead. I love the library, there’s nothing like having a physical book in your hand (although I do admit the kindle app on my phone is perfect for travel).

    Thanks for sharing!

    • Brianna says...

      The book article was so inspiring. I don’t have a Kindle anymore. My first generation Kindle keyboard finally went the way of Kindle heaven, but I can use the Kindle app on my iPad, and although I vastly prefer physical books, they are pricy and I am NOT a re-reader of books so purchasing them is not practical, with few exceptions, so the library and e-books are the way to go.

  11. Kim says...

    Anchovy paste is the truth. It’s that thing that’s been missing from your Caesar dressing. Unless of course you are using actual anchovies, in which case, you are winning.

    • jen says...

      Yep. I have to have half the pizza have anchovies. If the place has them.

  12. Your lists are always so good! And I love the slug bug image.

    I love Equipment blouses! :)

  13. Baily says...

    I’m interested to learn more about the Gather for Goats initiative. I’m sure that Lifting Hands International does amazing work, and the fact that they are filling a gap and providing individualized care is so needed. What is troubling is that one of the reasons described for choosing them was “low overhead” with “nearly every cent donated goes directly to life saving projects.” Focusing on overhead without considering other critical factors does more damage than good. In fact, many charities should spend more on overhead — overhead costs include investments charities make to improve their work: investments in training, planning, evaluation, and internal systems— as well as their efforts to raise money so they can operate their programs. When we focus solely or predominantly on overhead, we can create what the Stanford Social Innovation Review has called “The Nonprofit Starvation Cycle.” (http://bit.ly/2fjuB98) We starve charities of the freedom they need to best serve the people and communities they are trying to serve.

    If you’re interested in learning more, I would suggest watching this TED talk by Dan Pallota, its called – The way we think about charity is dead wrong – http://bit.ly/1e680K1

    • Brianna says...

      I adore Dan Pallota – he is everything that is right with charity work these days. All of his TED Talks are on his website.

    • annemarie says...

      Also paying their damn support staff! My husband does IT for an international nonprofit and he gets a lot of verbal thanks, but… not so much a comparable salary for his massive workload. But without him the whole organization is useless. (I have Feelings on this topic.)

  14. Ginelle says...

    Dear Jo & team,
    Your words have provided so much light, love, & comfort to me since the beginning of college. I am nowfinishing up my masters degree in special education & just accepted an offer to teach a moderate-severe class for my dream district. I start in a few months and absolutely cannot wait to meet my kiddos (I just love them already.) I just wanted to thank you, your team, & your many beautiful readers, for your gorgeous presence and for being there for me at so many stages in my life. Wishing you all a love-filled weekend & rooting always in your corner,

    All love,
    Ginelle

  15. Angela says...

    I’m curious what you wore with the pretty Equipment blouse (I love the cropped reboot of their signature)! Did I see on insta stories something that looked similar to the Everlane wide leg cropped pants? Hope your presentation was great!

    • Rebecca says...

      I saw them. They were the Jesse kamm pants!

  16. The goats! My town! The people we love! Thank you for posting this. Please come say hi if anyone makes it out to Mafraq!

  17. Laura says...

    Amy’s delivery room story is amazing. What a beautiful picture of motherhood!

  18. Thank you for sharing all these great links!
    Today we celebrate the Earth Day :) Have a lovely weekend!

  19. Kate says...

    These delivery room stories are making me well up! Women are so, so strong.

    I had a little baby girl on Monday night and I said to my husband before the birth, I wish you could request a sweet, calm, encouraging midwife. I’m so happy to say that’s exactly what we got, the kindest person you could meet. She really talked me through that final stage when I was mentally and verbally talking my self out of it. She got me over the line and holding that little squirmy baby in my arms in no time.

    • Cait says...

      Congratulations, Kate! So glad you had that experience!

  20. Libby says...

    I’m a long time Australian reader but a first time commenter. Had to say that I’m totally with you! I’m completely comfortable with public speaking, but have to be alone in a room standing over a sink when swallowing tablets! And I am forever asking my 3 little boys not to wobble their teeth until their dad is around, because the thought of dealing with teeth is horrifying to me!

  21. Yes to anchovy paste! Actually, I switched from anchovy paste to fish sauce because I found it easier to work with and the secret POW is the same. My signature salad dressing has a little splash of fish sauce.

  22. Alanna says...

    The trailer for Beguiled inspired me to find the trailer for the 1971 version of the same movie (starring Clint Eastwood) and you have to see it. The whole thing is narrated and it’s hysterical and a little bit unreal,

    “Consider the possibility; is he a helpless victim to be threatened, teased, enticed, loved at their will and pleasure? Or is he a man? Aggressive, wooing, demanding, who must love to stay alive.”

  23. Liz says...

    The shoes look amazing! Have you personally tried this brand out? Worth the spend?

  24. Laura says...

    …Instantly disappointed by shoes instead of beautiful donkeys.

    • Sasha says...

      Your comment made me spit out my tea!! I’d rather see donkeys than shoes too.

  25. I’m loving that comment about the brother helping out with the pad..can’t get any better than that. And, Anchovy paste? ! Yes! So getting some! I often use anchovies in dressings and pasta sauce to give it an extra kick, but I hate opening an entire can. Brilliant. I live for your Friday posts.

  26. Em says...

    How do you deal with your elevator phobia while living/working in NYC? I have the same phobia and it really impacts my life. I’d love to hear some tips, if you have any. Or maybe some funny/relatable stories of the times you’ve avoided meetings in tall buildings? (Not that I’ve EVER done that :P)

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      oh my gosh, i’ve TOTALLY avoided meetings, and i’ll choose a dentist or whatever because their office is on the ground floor! my friend used to live on the 21st floor and i would walk up the stairs to her apartment (the doorman was so confused). when i really have to take an elevator, i’ll do it (i’ve been taking elevators on this work trip to dallas, for example — my talk was on the 17th floor), but if i’m alone, FORGET IT! alex makes fun of me for basically structuring my life around not taking elevators — moving to brooklyn, choosing an office with stairs, etc. nyway, em, i’m sorry to hear your’e dealing with the same thing. it’s so distracting and no fun at all. xoxo

    • Emily says...

      NYC tip: Never, ever go to the 1 train station at 168th street. I used to have zero elevator fears but I started going to grad school up there and it’s so terrifying that I structure my travel so I can get off a stop early and walk the 10 blocks to school.

    • Brianna says...

      I don’t have an elevator phobia, but I get where Joanna is coming from. I won’t take elevators in old buildings by myself for fear of getting stuck. I got stuck in an elevator on a cruise ship by myself once and had no way to reach anyone. It was after we’d sailed, so we couldn’t use our cell phones and it took FOREVER for staff to rescue me.

  27. Margaret says...

    Sofia’s movie is not new…it’s a remake…of a pretty good movie.

    • Rebecca says...

      Her movie is new though?

  28. I always read more than one book at once! I have one on my nightstand for before bed, one in my bag for work and one at my desk at home. Keeping track of it all on Goodreads also gives incentive to read more.
    PS any public speaking tips?? I would rather swallow a pill in an elevator in the dark than do public speaking!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      hahahaha i laughed out loud at your comment. hmmm, i guess i prep a lot and also just slow way down when i’m on stage so it feels less jittery — but i’m not sure other than that. i’m just not really nervous about it overall, although i’m so phobic of other things. i wish i had better tips! i’ll try to ask around and see if anyone has some good ones.

    • Lisa says...

      The best tips I got about public speaking: Talk with a slightly deeper tone of voice than you’d like to, as we tend to speak with a higher pitch when we get a bit nervous. Also speak in a much slower pace – for the same reason. I watch ted talks and other presentations with great public speakers and try to mimic them.

    • jillygirl says...

      Watch Trevor Noah’s comedic impression of Nelson Mandela teaching a young Obama how to speak as a leader…funny but good tips too!

      https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M8cBZOMkmHo

    • Jeannie says...

      Prepare and prepare well ahead of time, rehearse (alone) also for looong time before the engagement. When I feel that the words flow freely from memory, I am much less nervous. Envision yourself succeeding! Remember that EVERYONE wants you to succeed, too! The crowd is rooting for you, even if they’re just silently looking at you (but listening intently) while you speak :-) Good luck! Oh and it gets easier when you do it more. Coming from a formerly very public-speaking-phobic person. I still get a flush of color and blush hard though….I’d LOVE tips on how to manage THAT.

    • Sarah S says...

      I took a public speaking class in college and the best tip that saved me was to practice in front of a mirror. Sounds weird but totally works!

    • Not the most professional tip, but here goes: My husband often has to speak in front of large crowds of important people in his field, and he swears by drinking one glass of Scotch beforehand. No more than one, but it’s just enough to take the edge off!

    • Hahah I love these. Thanks for the tips ladies! :)

    • Sasha says...

      Hannah, such good tips here already. Here’s a couple more (I used to be terrified). Take absolutely every opportunity you can to speak, the more you do it, the easier it gets. Run cold water over your inside wrists before you go on, it calms you. Write out your talk, with () that say (breathe) (slow down) (look up) (almost done).
      Finally think of the hardest thing you’ve ever done, I guarantee that was bigger than speaking in front of a group. Remind yourself over and over “I can do hard things”.
      Best of luck! When you over come a fear, it’s the best feeling in the world.

  29. I can 100% vouch for anchovy paste being the best secret ingredient. I add it to so many recipes, from pasta dishes to stews to gravies. It adds that wonderful ‘umami’ flavor.

    Great tips on how to read more books. I always choose books I think I should read… you know, challenging, intellectual ones that aren’t necessarily that appealing after a long day! It’s so counterproductive. I should just pick up books that I’ll actually enjoy!

  30. justine says...

    Those Paris interiors were amazing. Some people just decorate with guts. Love it. Good share!

  31. brittany says...

    amy’s delivery room story is so beautiful. also- i just love barack obama. love him! can we have him back yet??

    xo, brittany

  32. Every link here is absolutely perfect! I already shared Barack being Michelle’s Instagram Husband with my own husband – hopefully it makes him feel better. And I am SO excited for Sophia’s new movie – her films are always so feminine and artistic, I can’t wait for the colors and music! Good luck on your presentation!!

  33. Liza says...

    Have you considered bahvioral therapy for the anxiety around swallowing pills or the dark since they are a huge part of everyday life?

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      oh, i’m okay with those two — it’s not too bad (i chop up tylenol, and i crack the curtains at night), but the elevator thing is the huge deal to me. i should try behavior therapy, but honestly i’m too nervous to do it!

  34. My worst fear is what the ocean looks like on Google maps’ satellite view!

    • Andrea says...

      Oh my gosh yes!!! Whenever I accidentally get “stuck” in the ocean on google maps it terrifies me! I thought this was just me!

    • Carrie says...

      Gah yes to this!! I’ve gotten enough weird looks in my life trying to explain that looking at a map (not even satellite! Just regular old Google maps!) with no land in sight gives me the worst feeling that I’ve simply stopped. I remember experiencing that fear for the first time as a kid playing Flight Simulator. I’m sure someone has come up with a name for this. It’s nice to not be alone, in any case!

  35. These seem like some great links! I hope you have a lovely weekend!! X

  36. Brianna says...

    I so wish that painting wasn’t $350. It feeds my floral obsession and fits my bedroom decor perfectly.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      it’s so gorgeous! you might email her and see if she’ll be running a sale or anything soon? her pieces are really beautiful.

    • Brianna says...

      That’s a good idea. I think I’ll do that.

  37. Cara says...

    Anna’s period story was my favorite of them all- I read it to my husband and he was cracking up with me because he grew up with 2 older sisters and can relate!

  38. kay says...

    Omg @ Amy’s delivery room story. That is so beautiful.