The other day, a reader wrote in with a question, and I’m curious to hear what you think…

Hi Joanna,

I’m dating a new guy, and I want to get some nice lingerie, but…eesh. I don’t know where to begin. It got me thinking: What does the modern woman wear for special sexy times? Do women still wear garter belts or the thing that attaches your underwear to your stockings? Or is that just in the movies? I’m curious to hear the perspective of you and your readers.

Thanks! Molly

Hmmm, these days I’m wearing pajamas with socks to bed (WINTER), but for special occasions and trips, I’ve always liked Eberjey, which I’ve mentioned before—their chemises are soft and pretty. On the fly, you could just grab one of his button-down shirts and pair it with lacy underwear (like these!); it’s always a sexy look. If you want some inspiration, Lonely Lingerie has beautifully real models. And, just for fun, you could always try one of these “cheerleading” skirts from American Apparel;)

Please share: What do you guys wear? Garter belts? Slips? Regular old underwear? Help a lady out! xoxo

P.S. Did you have sex on your wedding night? Plus, an easy way to have more sex.