What’s Your Spiritual Age?


This morning, I read a fascinating article by a mother who spent a year in Paris, hoping it would transform her two young sons into model citizens. The entire article was gripping (needless to say, things did not go as planned), but this line jumped out:

Once, when I was eight or nine, [my mother] told me her theory that everyone had two ages, an actual age and a spiritual age. “For example,” she said, “I’m always going to feel seventeen.” She glanced at me through cigarette smoke. “And you’re always going to feel 40.”

How old are you (truly), and what’s your spiritual age? For some reason, I always secretly think I’m 27. Three-year-old Toby acts like a 15-year-old guy in his high school theatre program, and Anton is an 80-year-old trapped in a chubby baby body.
(That’s Anton:)

P.S. Articles club, and why French kids eat everything.

(Thanks, Devin. Top photo by Keri Herer, and bottom photo from WHMS)


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  2. I’m spiritually 25 and I’m glad to hear I’m not the only one who feels two ages!

  3. I’ve always felt 27, too! The weird thing is, I’m 27 now, so I guess I’m at my true age? I kind of thought it would feel magical somehow, but it just feels normal.

  4. Love this! I have always felt older than my age, even today as I approach the big 50. My mother told me when I was 7 that she trusted me to always do the right thing, make the right choice, and to be sensible, because that was just who I was. I felt very old when she said that to me….

  5. I love this! My husband has always said I’m like an 8-year-old boy and 80-year-old woman all at once. Luckily he finds this endearing. (On a side note… Have you ever seen that Conan interview with Aubrey Plaza where she says she can’t wait to be old? I totally get that.)

  6. Kari herer is my wedding photographer! Love that you shared one of her photos :)

  7. I’ve never thought about this before! I was born 27 years ago, and I am pretty certain my spiritual age is 30. I agree with the first commenter, Dani, that 30 feels grown up enough to worry about budgets and family life and responsibility, but still young enough for it to be okay to not have it all figured out yet. Funny that they’re so close in years (maybe that’s why it took me a minute to figure this one out!).

  8. My spiritual age is 30. I’m 22 now, I’ll be 23 in less than a month and spiritually I remember being 30 or 31 since I was 6. As I get older my spiritual age will probably become younger ;).

  9. At 33, I still think every person that looks the least bit over 20 is older than me. Spiritually, I’m about 23.

    Ace has 19-years-old written all over him, but baby Beau appears to be quite the wise lady.

  10. I’m 30, have always felt & said I’m 80!

  11. I’m not quite sure how to figure this out, but I’ve been thinking about this very idea lately and might have come up with a way… Growing up, I always thought I was really mature and had things together, but at some point in the last few years, I’ve realized that I no longer consider myself mature when compared to my age… so maybe I have physically passed my spiritual age.

  12. my mom always says she’s feel much younger, too, and can’t believe she looks in the mirror and sees an older woman.

  13. As a little girl people would often comment that I was 3 going on 15, or 13 going on 30. Now I’m 25, but I’ve always felt more 28-30. I’m especially curious about how I’ll feel when I’m past that age.

    Great post!

  14. I loved the article and I also love your question… I’m 22 but my spiritual age is 30 or more. I’ve always been way more mature than my same-aged friends, even more mature than people who is ten y.o. than me. I get along very well with people who is forty or fifty too, except my mom, who is 53 but 15 in spirit… which is pretty confusing and not really my idea about what parenting should be.

  15. This made me giggle, and I totally agree.

  16. I’m 29 but in my mind I always believe I’m closer to 22. I can never remember how old I actually am! My mom is 62 but says she’ll always think of herself as 18!

  17. I also always think I am 27! I have no idea why. I am 29 in real life but this has gone on from before I was 27.

  18. This is fascinating! I’m tempted to say thirty, although my actual, physical age is really nineteen. I fret about my family, budget everything, shop at mommy-stores, and feel like the best part of the week is settling into bed early with a cozy cup of decaf. Thirty is the ultimate age of fabulous and responsible, where you really come into yourself, so I want to be that forever.