Relationships

Do You Pee in Front of Your Significant Other?

Ok, we’ve talked about enough intimate stuff on Cup of Jo that I think I’ll just go for it today and ask the big question: Do you pee in front of your significant other? My answer…

…is no way.

My friends tease me for being crazy because I don’t let Alex (and haven’t let any past boyfriend) come near the bathroom when I pee. Since our apartment is small, I even run the faucet so he won’t hear anything. (And we’ve been married for almost three years!) The few times I’ve been in the bathroom when Alex pees, I have gotten the giggles like a five-year-old. So immature!

But, seriously, I once read a quote in Oprah Magazine that said something like, “You wake up one day, and you look at your spouse and realize you’re relatives.” That stuck with me. Can’t you imagine growing so familiar that you feel more like comfy relatives than romantic partners? Don’t you need a bit of separation and mystery to keep the sparks alive? Alex hopefully figures that I only use the bathroom to brush my teeth and apply lip salve. :)

One exception: When I was pregnant, I started peeing in front of Alex (simply because I peed all the time). And he started peeing in front of me. And it was fine. But after a while, I was like, this has got to stop! Now, if one of us forgets and leaves the door open, the other jokingly shouts, “Relatives!”

I like having some separation in our marriage so that we still feel like two separate people. But maybe I should be more laid-back and just keep the door open? There’s something sexy about that, too–just being super open and natural with your body.

So, tell me, do you pee in front of your partner or keep the door closed? Haha, I’m curious! (Update: I’m getting this app!)

P.S. Another marriage tip, and a funny intimate question.

  1. Blues Thompson says...

    I am a 56 year old man who lives in New York City, New York, USA and I would like to find a woman who is at least 18 years old, does not mind if I see her peeing, will also see me peeing, and with whom to pee with.

  2. Austin says...

    I have peed in bushes and now pee with the door open in the men’s room. If was legal to walk naked and pee if desperate to pee and no where near a bathroom I won’t mind if people see me piss. We see people’s penis and pussy on porn sites so why not for real in person

  3. I have peed in front of my husband lots of times
    Our house has one bathroom so if my husband is shaving and I have to pee I just do it.
    Out in the woods we have peed together.
    I find some wildflowers to pee on and my husband can see me peeing
    Out on the boat there is no hiding. My husband has seen me pee over the side hundreds of times with my bare rear over the water

  4. I think it boils down to whether you notice the sound. When I lie in bed, I like to listen to the wind outside or the birds chirping in the trees. If my husband were to get up out of bed while I’m romantically listening to nothingness, then I truly resent having to hear him pee with the bathroom door open. It breaks the silence of my inner thoughts with s really gross sound. I can even see him through the crack in the door, how he stands with one arm bent on his hip, probably looking down to make sure his pee doesn’t fall on the floor. I just don’t llke this anymore. I think he should close and lock the door when he pees and I’m in the room, because I do not want to wake up every morning to the sound of piss, and that’s what it would amount to like clockwork. I guess it boils down to how sensitive your ears are to sounds. Other than this, it’s okay to pee once in a while with doors open, but after many years I’m just sick of it now. I don’t want to hear him gargle, spit, or cough either. It’s either pleasant sounds or go live somewhere else. I like my peace and quiet lol.

  5. My partner has a fetish which we’ve done a few times now.She likes to hold onto my penis while I have a pee. It didn’t do anything to turn me on but she stood there last week frigging herself while I peed into the toiler

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  7. I hate to say I find it a bit rediculous to be uncomfortable peeing in front of your S/O. I prefer to do my #2’s with the door closed simply because I feel the need to “concentrate” and he distracts me, lol. We are more comfortable with each other than anyone in the world. I don’t pee in front of my relatives, except my mom, so if anything, sharing potty time with my fiance makes me feel like he’s less of a relative. I don’t go pee in front of my uncles! Being so comfortable with my fiance makes our relationship more exciting and rewarding. He has helped me become comfortable with myself, bcs I never was before we met, so it’s ony natural that I would be super comfortable with him. We love being so close and being able to share everything. We’re lovers AND best friends, and I wouldn’t change that for the world!

  8. I hate to say I find it a bit rediculous to be uncomfortable peeing in front of your S/O. I prefer to do my #2’s with the door closed simply because I feel the need to “concentrate” and he distracts me, lol. We are more comfortable with each other than anyone in the world. I don’t pee in front of my relatives, except my mom, so if anything, sharing potty time with my fiance makes me feel like he’s less of a relative. I don’t go pee in front of my uncles! Being so comfortable with my fiance makes our relationship more exciting and rewarding. He has helped me become comfortable with myself, bcs I never was before we met, so it’s ony natural that I would be super comfortable with him. We love being so close and being able to share everything. We’re lovers AND best friends, and I wouldn’t change that for the world!

  9. I’m not too sure about the peeing in front of the significant other thing at all. Not really comfortable, but I do appreciate how natural it is, but definitely that RELATIVES thing resonates.

  10. I seldom pee in front of my boyfriend. I like that in secret.

  11. My husband and I totally pee in front of each other but that’s it. As far am I’m concerned I’d like to think that’s the only bodily function my husband thinks I do. I don’t pass gas, burp or do #2 in front of him, we’ve been together for almost 13 years and I’d like to retain some mystery (and to me doing #2 in front of anyone is a gigantic NO-NO, I would die!!!).

    Having said all of that, he’s the only person I’ve ever peed in front of, so I guess it’s a sign of trust and intimacy for me, lol! I don’t blame you for being modest about it though, as you said you don’t want to just see your husband as a relative but a romantic partner.

  12. Of course we do! I pee in front of my husband all the time and he does in front of me. We are human beings not robots. I agree with what a reader said earlier, “If you’ve exchanged bodily fluids then you can exchange bodily functions”. We DO NOT poop in front of each other but peeing is no big deal. I mean my husband watched me give birth to our son. He’s my spouse not the next door neighbor. If I lived a life where I had to turn the faucet on every time I peed that would get ridiculous. Maybe it also has to do with the fact that I grew up with 4 sisters in a small house and privacy didn’t exist.

  13. I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost three years and yes we pee in front of each other. We never used to, until we went on holiday in a lodge and the toilet and bath were just there in the bedroom at the end of the bed, so we had no choice but to pee in front of each other. Ever since then though we have felt perfectly comfortable sharing the bathroom at the same time and peeing in front of each other.
    Me and my closest friends all pee in front of each other too!

  14. Running the faucet? How wasteful! Why not hum a tune instead?

  15. K. says...

    So… if you pee ON your husband, that counts, yeah?

    ;)

  16. Absolutely not! I grew up in a household where my parents had separate bathrooms. I came to revere this. Fortunately, my partner and I have unspoken rituals to keep bodily functions and bathroom-related (even some grooming) situations in private.

    Best way to lose any modicum of romance or attraction is to let yourself slip by revealing too much, when it comes to bodily functions!

    We do not have kids, though, and I can imagine as parents we may not have the luxury to be so private with these things.

    Cin Cin.

  17. its so funny to me to think about that topic like that :) Its interesting how are people sensitive to things that are really pointless if you compare them to those others that happen in life.
    I never go peeing with an intention to be seen by my man. That would be weird. But if it happens, that he’s in the bathroom and is shaving or bathing and I need to go to pee, I go. We really dont mind what we do, we dont pay attention to that.
    If I pee, I automaticly close the the door, he too. Anyway we are really simple and relaxed…and are having a really good time together. we like to joke. we are childish and silly when we are feeling so :)

    ps: thats kind of normal tho for western people…to be ashamed or narrow minded about things that are realy natural in its nature… :) I can understand those questions, but I think we should concentrate on things in intimate relationships that are REALLY IMPORTANT and make deep and firm concections and makes us fulfilled.

    Dont bother about that, Joanna ;)

  18. its so funny to me to think about that topic like that :) Its interesting how are people sensitive to things that are really pointless if you compare them to those others that happen in life.
    I never go peeing with an intention to be seen by my man. That would be weird. But if it happens, that he’s in the bathroom and is shaving or bathing and I need to go to pee, I go. We really dont mind what we do, we dont pay attention to that.
    If I pee, I automaticly close the the door, he too. Anyway we are really simple and relaxed…and are having a really good time together. we like to joke. we are childish and silly when we are feeling so :)

    ps: thats kind of normal tho for western people…to be ashamed or narrow minded about things that are realy natural in its nature… :) I can understand those questions, but I think we should concentrate on things in intimate relationships that are REALLY IMPORTANT and make deep and firm concections and makes us fulfilled.

    Dont bother about that, Joanna ;)

  19. I’d like to see the answers to this question … do any of you masturbate in front of your boyfriends/husbands?

  20. I’d like to see the answers to this question… do any of you masturbate in front of your boyfriends/husbands?

  21. I’d like to see the answers to this question … do any of you masturbate in front of your boyfriends/husbands?

  22. This is a great post, my girlfriends and I have discussed this question before. I do not pee in front of my husband. We have lived together for over 5 years and I will not. I agree that some separation is important and I always want him to find me desirable. That being said, he has no problem peeing in front of me and when he does I often leave the bathroom.

  23. My boyfriend is like a cat. He can’t deal with any doors being closed. He’ll just stand outside of the bathroom talking to me until I open it and then he’s as happy as a clam in the other room. Sometimes he just needs to walk in and talk to me, though, so the answer is yes: I pee in front of my significant other.

  24. Absolutely NOT! I find it weird to even use the toilet with the door open when no one is home. Plus, I don’t need our curious puppy poking her head in to see what Mama is up too…
    My husband usually uses the bathroom upstairs and I think he leaves the door open thinking I can’t hear him peeing… ha! Makes me giggle.

  25. I love this post. Personally, I leave nothing to the imagination. I never close the bathroom door. However, sometimes I wish I was more of a private person. Watching someone go to the bathroom can’t be attractive.

  26. I do all the time! We backpack/hike a lot and I think because of this we aren’t that shy about peeing in front of each other… I mean, someone has to be the lookout.

  27. We do more then just peeing. Some people find it weird and the end of romance, but I can’t imagine it any other way. I suffered with ulcerative colitis for a few years and now living with no colon I could not imagine how it would be like to hide n.2, noises etc from my boyfriend. It’d get absolutely uncomfortable. It’s enough when you are out and about or at friend’s, but in your own home I think you just have to relax.

    The app is so cool and the fact that is was created by brazilians with the aim of saving water reminded me of this campaign about peeing in the shower: http://www.xixinobanho.org.br/

    you have to check it out :)

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  29. A lot of women are so weird about peeing. Most of us guys just pee, in front of women, each other, whatever. The fact that so many of you women commenters need to do it behind closed doors smells like repression to me, some remnant of the 1950’s. Guess what? We know you pee. And it doesn’t bother us. In fact, you’re kind of cute sitting there. Now let me in there to brush my teeth!

  30. I do prefer to have the bathroom to myself, but if it has to be done then it has to be done. . . He knows I’m human, he knows I have bodily functions – and to pee or not to pee is not the key to the spark – at least not in our relationship haha.

  31. Liz says...

    I have to comment…. I’ve been with my husband for almost 10 years. He is my best friend, and my lover, and we are VERY intimate. He knows everything, we have no secrets. We have 3 children, and he helped deliver one. He’s seen every inch of my body. We go no.1 and no.2 in front of each other and almost always have the door open to the bathroom. What would you do if something happened to you and you became unable to take care of yourself? I can guarantee my husband would be the one taking care of me. And I would NEVER pee in front of my relatives. My kids yes, but I make them turn around because they’re getting older. My husband I share everything with… that’s just my opinion though.

  32. Brittany says...

    Haha this is hilarious! I never knew there were married couples that didn’t pee in front of each other. As soon as my husband and I were married, neither of us had a problem with it. We don’t ever sit and watch each other pee, we are just comfortable. If anything, being so open and familiar with one another’s body keeps the spark burning even stronger! The only exception is going #2. The door definitely stays shut for that one.