Remember that episode of Seinfeld when Jerry says that only 5 percent of the population is date-able? Elaine asks, “Then how are the other 95 percent getting together?” Jerry’s response? “Alcohol.”

When I was single, I felt the same way. I was meeting lots of people–but no one I really wanted to date. And the guys I did like already had girlfriends (or just weren’t interested, sad). My mom kept telling me that I would definitely end up with someone fabulous and that I shouldn’t worry so much. She said she was 100% sure and that it was normal to worry but that I didn’t need to. But it was easy for her to say–she was already blissfully married! And I was 28 (which felt old to me at the time). Plus, New York seemed like the roughest place to date: You’re always surrounded by models (honest-to-goodness perfect-skinned, long-legged, 6-foot-tall Ukrainian models), and the guys you meet seem to either be married or a little nuts.

Once I met Alex, I realized that I was silly to have worried so much. We’re all such smart, funny and wonderful people, and so many people would be lucky to have us. Why does it often take a relationship to realize that? Plus, as my mom says, “It only takes one person to have met the love of your life!” A while ago, I heard another great quote: “If you knew you were going to meet the love of your life in one year, how different would that year be?” That awesome quote reveals how much we sometimes worry about our dating lives when we could be relaxing and enjoying other parts of our lives.

What’s your relationship status? What are your dating woes? Do you ever worry that you’re never going to find your soulmate? Do you think your city plays into it? If you’re in a relationship, how do you feel now? I would love to hear… xoxo