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Have a Lovely Weekend.

Have a Lovely Weekend.

What are you up to this weekend? We’re heading to the small town of Beacon with a couple friends. Since it’s really snowy, I think we’ll be mostly chilling inside and making mulled wine. Also, I’ve never been to the Dia: Beacon museum, and I can’t wait. Have a good one, and here are a few fun links from around the web…

9 Trader Joe’s staples.

Literally crying with laughter over these kids crashing their dad’s work call. Reminds me of all those years I worked in my bedroom.

A guide to NYC street crying. We’ve all done it!

People are losing their minds over this novel. (Look at all the celebs in the audiobook.)

Do or don’t: bodysuits.

My secret life as an undocumented immigrant.”

Have you seen the statue of a fearless little girl on Wall Street?

25 songs that tell us where music is going. How cool that the Times plays the songs while you read.

Ina Garten’s #1 tip for decorating your dining table.

Seven times Emma Watson’s beauty routine surprised me.

Loving Mott & Bow’s great jeans, especially their free home try-on program since I never go to stores anymore :)

Plus, three comments from readers:

Says Kristen on female anatomy: “I read ‘The Egg and the Sperm‘ by Emily Martin for my Women and Science class, and it talked how the language we use to describe anatomy and conception reflects gender norms. Even in textbook and research literature, the egg is discussed with passive language (just waiting around to be engaged), while the sperm is very active and responsible for conception. New research has shown that the egg is extremely active in the process, even rejecting sperm if the conditions are not right.”

Says Rachel on Toby’s five outfits: “Every single day all through preschool and kindergarten, my oldest son only wore tucked-in button downs (buttoned up to the top!) and khakis. And he would slick his hair down with water and comb it to the side.”

Says Amanda on 7 instagram illustrators: “Absolutely love this one entitled ‘People Who Have Seen My Boobs‘ by new mom Anna Denise Floor.”

(Photo by Ana Kamin/Instagram.)

  1. Haylie says...

    Lincoln in the Bardo is one of the best books I’ve read in *years* And I think it comes at a particularly good time, when people are scared and sad and angry and looking for something spiritual and secular and weird and funny and also, you know, sad. I couldn’t have loved it more.

  2. Joanna Tsay says...

    I’ve only been to NY once when I was in grad school studying architecture, so Dia:Beacon was one of the places we visited along with PS1 and the MoMA. Dia:Beacon was my favorite, it was the first time I saw works by Bernd and Hilla Becher, Sol Le Witt…and it was snowing then too! Hope you liked it.

  3. Erica says...

    I’ve street cried in Boston too – no one gets involved. It’s weirdly cathartic.

  4. annie says...

    It’s not just a work call… it’s an interview on the BBC! aka a newscast seen around the world!

  5. Rachel says...

    I had to stop mid-post so I could say that I’m a big HAYELL NO on bodysuits. Ever since I had a child I cannot fathom wanting anything else to bother my crotch like that. I’m frowning just thinking about it.

  6. Shannon says...

    My sister and girlfriends were body suit obsessed crazy teenagers in the 90’s. I recently rediscovered them at 40. It’s simple: bodysuits are amazing! I want one in every color.

  7. The video of the dad and the kids is hilarious. My favourite is the mom scrambling to get them out of the room and then crawling back to close the door!!

    http://thedianaedition.com

  8. Katie says...

    Thanks for sharing that 25 Songs piece! It was fascinating to read, and I loved learning some great new songs!

  9. Carmen says...

    That ‘kids walking in on dad working’ video makes me feel really uncomfortable and a little sick. What is everyone finding so funny?
    I’m really disturbed by the behaviour of the dad and then the woman once she’s realised what’s happened (presumably due to how it will be handled afterwards.) I assume she is the nanny. If she’s the wife it’s much worse; I understand her frantic action as an employee, but not as his partner – that would he worrying.

    No to bodysuits. I had them, but wouldn’t have them again.

    • Sarah says...

      I agree I really didn’t like how he was shoving her back.

      It’s a mistake, he should have elaughed it off and asked for a second to sort it out.

    • Anna says...

      I think what people are relating to and finding funny is that when you are a parent, a professional, and work from home, you spend every video conference/phonecall hoping that your children won’t blow your cover (i.e., that people will realise in actual fact that white wall in the background is your bedroom wall and not that of a slick corporate tower corner office). I think we are just all cringing at the context in which it happened to this poor guy!. ;-) what an awkward moment!

      I agree that he could have perhaps managed it differently, but I imagine he just panicked!

      Most people who work from home go to great lengths to provide the illusion that they’re not. They have to – otherwise their work will usually be undervalued. As a society I think we still see work and family as two very distinct facets of life that aren’t to be combined – work produced in a family-based space (even a separate home office when the children are being looked after by someone else) is generally not considered as professional or high quality or deserving as that produced in an office – even if the outcomes are exactly the same.

    • Tiffany says...

      Because the kids were so at peace walking in Dads office, I don’t get the impression that he is normally uncivil or curt to them. The older one is literally bopping along, checking in on Dad, like it’s her/his normal routine. “Ah, it’s 2p let’s check in on Daddy”… Kids will be kids.

    • Same! My husband and I were watching it and he said, “look at his reaction…he’s going to fire the nanny. Why doesn’t he put the kid on his lap and continue the interview?”

    • ez says...

      It is the mother/wife. Odd that everyone keeps thinking its the nanny – a wife can’t panic that her husband’s “serious” interview on the BBC is being interrupted? Just so odd to me that people are making comments that the nanny will be fired or that she’s in trouble & judging parenting skills based on how two people (who are not professional TV presenters) acted in an unexpected situation on live national broadcast.

  10. Alex McKellar says...

    The secret life as an undocumented migrant is heartbreakingly beautiful. Feeling for so many families at the moment.

    • Anna says...

      I really loved this too.

  11. Wow! That’s awesome. The guide to NYC street crying is perfect.

  12. Clare says...

    I say “don’t” on body suits. I wore them in the 90s. They were uncomfortable, inconvenient, and all around uncomfortable. Who wants to unbutton their shirt just to go to the bathroom? There’s a reason body suits went out of style, let’s let them Rest In Peace.

  13. Bianca says...

    Hey Jo, I dont know if you’ve come across this yet, but Bill Gates read Paul’s book and had only good things to say! I read it a few months after you talked about it here on the blog and I must agree! Here ia the link for his comment:

    http://ti.me/2msozGC

  14. Mary says...

    On your way up stop by my favorite vintage store in Tarrytown,NY…
    Pretty Funny vintage.com
    80 South Broadway
    Tarrytown,NY
    Right on route 9

  15. Cathy says...

    Oh wow I remember reading that article about “The Egg and the Sperm” in medical school. I forget which class it was assigned to us, but I remember everyone, myself included, thinking it was the most ludicrous and absurd read ever. I guess just coming from a medical / science standpoint, it seemed like such a completely frivolous and irrational argument. I think because the sperm is a mobile cell, traveling to the egg for fertilization, the language and imagery used in textbooks and scientific literature are just exactly what anyone would have used trying to practically describe the process of reproduction. None of us thought it was at all indicative of sexism or perpetuation of gender norms… I remember being specifically dismayed after reading it. I have always been a feminist, and I felt like that article was just so un-scientific and illogical, that it was almost harmed feminism. I think it encouraged a lot of the “crazy feminist” stereotypes that people often peg strong feminist women with. It was written by a person who clearly didn’t understand the science very much and from a medical standpoint, seemed so hypersensitive about something (the language to describe reproduction) that did not warrant it at all… anyway, it’s funny – never thought I’d see that article again, but boy does it bring back bad memories.

  16. Barbara says...

    As an academic and a Korean American woman, I found this video hilarious! The white American male professor who is the western media’s go-to “South Korean expert” (because there are not enough native SK political science scholars in SK); the two adorable and hilarious kids sauntering into their daddy’s room; and the mom who clearly is thinking, “damn, I just had my back turned for a SECOND…!”
    I didn’t think the dad was mad though; millions of SK citizens have been protesting for months to get President Park impeached. They wanted her out of the office, and they accomplished it peacefully. They organized the equivalent of the January Women’s Rights march EVERY weekend. In the past, South Koreans were arrested, imprisoned, and/or killed fighting for democracy. I understood it as a very monumental moment in SK history, an it’s hard for your brain to go from talking about something so serious and so unprecedented on live television to having the anchor point out that your child is behind you, right?
    What disturbed me was that so many people assumed that the mom was a terrified nanny! Lots of assumptions about Asian women there.
    Love to these mortified parents and their sassy kids for making us laugh in empathy, and to the SK people for accomplishing the impossible.
    Happy weekend!

  17. tara says...

    to note: DIA is closed a lot during winter hours because of how much of the design is related to light streaming in! just a head’s up!

    also highly recommend bank square coffee house, the taco shop across the street AND beacon bread co. bbc has brioche french toast (ordered every morning we were there!) and i still dream about it.

  18. Claire says...

    Thanks for all this. Can’t wait to read the book, and I never shop at Trader Joe’s but will check it out. Great video of kids interrupting their dad- I laughed!
    But I have to say that I don’t think that those jeans are really jeans. They are denim colored leggings. I gave up on pants years ago when skinny jeans took over. I don’t know why all pants mostly look like tights these days. I find them to be not always comfortable or flattering. I love that wide-leg, high-waist styles are starting to be fashionable again.

  19. Aga says...

    Love Emma Watson!

  20. Elizabeth says...

    I would love if you would share your mulled wine recipe! Wintry weather days are perfect for mulled wine-making.

  21. Shari says...

    If you ever went to a bar or pub in the early 90’s you may have noticed a strange phenomenon that happened after midnight. Girls who had too much to drink would lose the ability to do up the bodysuit after using the loo. They then go to dance and the back of the bodysuit would work its way out of her jeans and be hanging. The realisation that this easily happened was the demise of the bodysuit where I lived. It happened to most people I know at least once.

  22. Lori H says...

    I am 54 and it always cracks me up when styles from my youth come into fashion again. I had some really um, groovy bodysuits back in the day, and no way would I ever wear them again. The whole “snaps between the legs” makes me think of baby onsies. You haven’t really experienced a bodysuit until the snaps un-snap mid-day and sproing! For the ladies who like them, more power to you, but I am not going through that particular fad again!

  23. jaclyn says...

    THAT IS MY FAVORITE PLACE IN THE WHOLE WORLD! There is a lovely little coffeeshop on the main street and a little thrift shop! I was there like 10 years ago and again last year and it has lost none of its charms. The view from the train is like travelling to another universe. Enjoy! Buy some property!

  24. Anon says...

    No illustration from Mari this week?

    • Rebecca says...

      I saw on Instagram that she’s in the hospital!

  25. Crosby says...

    I work for Dia:Beacon, we would LOVE to see you all there!!

  26. Alice says...

    I work from home and I was working in my bedroom today and had two sets of palms banging away! I so know the feeling, and the glorious way kids prance, or boldly wheel, in. Loved the light nature of their approach.

    So it was sad to see it squashed as she was pushed back – I was pretty uncomfortable watching his reaction and my husband was downright horrified. He could have just turned and talked…especially as the presenter was the first to mention it. All too serious, on his part.

    • jen says...

      The dad was trying not to laugh, but also trying VERY hard to remain professional while on LIVE tv. It’s not like this was just a Skype call with the office, it was being broadcast to millions of people. Trying desperately to keep her out of frame, but wasn’t harsh – and definitely not the time to try and have an on-air conversation with a toddler.
      I bet next time he remembers to lock the door.

  27. Heidi says...

    Perfect timing for a Beacon trip; it’s Hudson Valley Restaurant week and the Parade of green tomorrow! Plus, there are soooo many great restaurants in Beacon: Kitchen Sink, Ziatun, Red Pepper diner, Roundhouse, Homespun, the list goes on! Have so much fun!

  28. I like bodysuits for women with good bodies. If you’re not fit or toned I don’t think they look good. Just an opinion. I have one and really like it.

    -Kirsten // http://www.porkandcookies.com

    • Sarah says...

      Are you fit and toned then? 😉

  29. I felt so embarrassed for the family in that interrupted conference call! The poor kid is dragged out, the mother is crawling on the floor and the husband is trying to look professional. I’m glad to hear you thought it was funny though, as I was a little worried about the argument that might happen later that night! The poor mother was probably just trying to use the toilet when the kids escaped her!! Time to install a lock! Haha.

    Wonderful links! Have a great time in Beacon!

    http://www.shessobright.com

    • rach says...

      I agree! I think he could have handled it a lot better. Just excuse himself and pick up the toddler, and lock the door behind him… no biggie, most people watching prob have kids and would totally understand.

    • Jessica says...

      I have the same reaction. Feel totally panicked about what will happen later, don’t like the way he pushed his daughter aside. Feeling nuts but my mind is like,
      “Why is he pushing his daughter aside?

      Is this mom?

      Why is she yanking the kid?

      Why is she crawling?

      Why is the baby in a walker–is it 1983, those have been basically banned for a long time.

      Is the guy American or British?

      Why doesn’t he smile?

      Are they going to fight after this, poor wife. Just trying to do her best. ”

      Okay, way too much mental energy on that viral video. It’s Friday, time to log off!

  30. Love that sculpture of the fearless girl! I hope it stays permanently.

    My mom just started a small business, Postcards for Protesters, and launched on Etsy for International Women’s Day. (The first pack is the Women’s March Edition.) I’ll be helping her with sales this weekend :)

    https://www.etsy.com/shop/Postcards4Protesters

  31. sarah says...

    hooray for beacon! i live in this lovely town with my husband and one year old and we will also be at the dia this weekend…it’s my son’s favorite place to run around and wave at strangers when it’s too cold to be outside – i hope you love it! for a cozy drink and snack try the lounge (not the restaurant) at the roundhouse….beautiful views of the waterfall, modern design in a renovated factory space, warm fireplace, and kid-friendly (like most places here)

    • lizzie says...

      I live just 20 min away from Beacon…a great little town with a big personality. I second the bar at the Roundhouse…and the Dia – so awesome.

      Enjoy the freshly fallen snow in the Hudson Valley!

    • Also for a family friendly cozy warm pub try the Dogwood!

  32. The swagger of the first kid walking in like he’s making his daily rounds, followed by the baby just rolling in…priceless.

  33. The excerpt of female anatomy is fascinating, never really thought of the egg as active at all.

    Shruthi
    http://nyambura.co

  34. Caroline says...

    The statue of the girl is adorable but it’s also deeply problematic and has the opposite implication to what its creators apparently intended.

    A bull market is a very good thing – it means the market is barrelling ahead strongly. You don’t “face down” a bull market, you egg it on to go faster or at the very least get the heck out of the way and let the bulls run. So what’s the message here, invite females into the boardroom and they will block wealth creation due to their ignorance? And why on earth are the women invited into the boardroom being infantilized by making them children instead of strong, powerful, knowledgeable women? Troubling message all around.

    • rach says...

      Very interesting perspective! I didn’t think about all the implications

    • Zoe says...

      Interesting! To me it represents standing up to unmitigated capitalism, and perhaps some of the issues that we currently have and have had since 2008 and leading up to 2008. I think women have an important role to play in bringing in new ideas. However it’s a decent point I hadn’t considered about it being a girl – but it also shows me that it represents hopeful things for future generations of women, not necessarily the actual woman in a boardroom now…

    • Caroline says...

      Yeah absent the stated intent of the campaign I wouldn’t have thought twice about it. Maybe if she had been fearlessly *riding* the bull it would have been better aligned!

  35. Bethany says...

    Dia Beacon is one of my favorite US museums I’ve been to. I’ll look forward to your pictures. Enjoy!

  36. Lindsay says...

    I was disturbed by the video of the kids crashing their father’s phone call. He seems so angry and aggressively pushes his little girl away. And I also felt like the woman who came to fetch the children seemed scared and frantic and literally dragged them out. I felt nervous for her and wondered if she was punished after the interview was through.

    • Sarah says...

      Yes, exactly!

    • Emilie says...

      I agree – the reaction to this video as funny is something I am having a hard time understanding. The father refuses to acknowledge his kids and the nanny is absolutely panicked in her reaction. What is there to laugh at here?

    • rach says...

      I totally agree. Could have been handled so much more tactfully!

    • Lizzie says...

      I thought it was adorable. Of course the children wanted to go to the off-limits spot, and did so joyfully. And yes-there are some places children aren’t supposed to be at times- that’s OK- boundaries are important!! (And apparently can be hilarious to see fall apart.)

    • Francesca says...

      Same thought here!

    • jackie says...

      People that are horrified at the video must have never worked from home and had to deal with family while also trying very hard to remain professional.
      He does try to keep his daughter from the screen. It wasn’t aggressive. His wife seemed scared and frantic and literally dragged them out because he was on LIVE TV. You bet anyone charged with watching the kids would be scrambling and frantic trying to make sure your partner can hold on to some semblance of professionalism. If you watch closely, you can see that initially the professor is holding back a smile….but yes, why does everyone assume he’ll greet them with a smile and invite them to sit on his lap? He’s at work, this was an off-limits room. Kids need boundaries and they need to be told no. Having a conversation with his child on air isn’t the time or place. I love my children, but I absolutely would have been FURIOUS to have something like this happen.
      I doubt his wife was “punished”. I’m sure they were both horribly embarrassed. And now they have to go through this exchange being viral and everyone become armchair critics of their parenting.

    • Marie says...

      I see it like Lizzie does. I thought he seemed nice actually, patient and smiling…. Weird how we can such drastic perspectives. And why be scared about a parent scolding a child for doing something they shouldn’t be?

    • Comments on viral videos are always so interesting to me. To some people, “the nanny” appears “scared” and the man’s terse expression seems to betray barely-contained anger, and yet to other viewers the wife is utterly mortified and husband is all deer-in-headlights as his career-defining moment on international television gets photo-bombed. It’s the same video but people read it so differently based on their different backgrounds. I think it’s important to remember, when viewing 44-second snippets of people’s lives via YouTube videos, that it’s almost impossible to infer very much about the context from where we sit, a world away… It really did not occur to me that the Asian woman would be the nanny or that she looks scared…

    • ez says...

      Agreed with Anna Lee – I was actually way more disheartened by the amount of responses that just assumed she was the nanny and that she’s in trouble, than the “pushing away” of the child. The parents only had minutes to respond in a high-pressure situations, whereas people’s comments are deliberate. Is this how people view asians and when two people of different races are together?

  37. Oh my goodness, my sister sent me that video of the kids crashing the call and it is the best thing I’ve seen in weeks. I hope this goes viral on the “Charlie Bit My Finger” level. The mom crawling in and grasping for the doorknob is just amazing.

  38. claudia098 says...

    Welcome to the Hudson Valley. Beacon is actually a city. If you’re looking for small town, come across the river to Cornwall!!

    • Nina says...

      yes, beacon is def not a tiny town; it’s a small city roughly 60 miles from NYC, but there’s lots to see and do. enjoy!

  39. heather says...

    I just saw this blog recommended in a comment on the Trader Joe’s piece (did you follow that?) and I’m already loving it:

    http://www.whatsgoodattraderjoes.com/

    God bless you, internet.

  40. Louise says...

    I’m going to Dia: Beacon for the first time in a few weeks and can’t wait! What are other fun things to do there?

  41. virginie says...

    Just watched this video at the office, and we are still laughing so hard!!!

  42. Lindsay says...

    Sounds like a hyggelig time :)

  43. Lauren E. says...

    That video where the man is interrupted had me in tears. The ninja mom grabbing her kids! Just incredible.

  44. Carly says...

    Enjoy Beacon! I live about 20 minutes from there and we love to walk around and pop in the shops. If you’re going to eat there, we really love The Hop! Cold Spring, which is the town next door to it, is also really cute and has some nice shops.

    • Michelle says...

      The Hop closed!! Such a bummer. Owner’s decision so the cooks and mixologists all headed to the newly opened Beacon Hotel Restaurant, which is very delicious and cozy.

  45. Mollie says...

    Ok can someone enlighten me on the virtues of the bodysuit? I feel like wearing one would cause bathroom trips to be just as annoying as peeing in a romper (I totally related to that instagram illustration btw)

    • Marianne says...

      I had a few in highschool (early 90’s) and they gave you the worst wedgie in the world!! Maybe they’re better now. To answer your questions they were a bit annoying when using the bathroom, not quite as bad as the romper though. It’s pretty annoying fumbling with snaps at your crotch when all you need to do is pee!

  46. Anne says...

    As someone who works from home 90% of the time, that video made me laugh out loud! You’ve got to close and lock the door (especially when the kids are at home on someone else’s watch!).

  47. My husband and I just listened to that book on Audible and I have to say, neither of us were huge fans. We got it because of the amazing cast full of celebrities and the rave reviews, but both of us had a hard time following along. There are quotes from primary sources throughout which made it hard to follow and we both had a hard time getting into it. I think my husband was more into it by the end than I was, but we were both disappointed that we didn’t walk away loving it.

    • Crosby says...

      I second Red Pepper! Delicious and so friendly!

  48. Leah says...

    Oh noo, are we no longer treated to Mari Andrew’s lovely Friday morning cartoons?

    • Jamie says...

      I looked at her Instagram, it looks like she’s in the hospital! Hope she’s okay!

  49. Sarah says...

    Am I the only one that’s bothered by that video of the kids crashing the phone interview? The guy being interviewed seems extremely angry and the woman (who the internet tells me is his wife) seems terrified. The kids are adorable but I get an uncomfortable feeling whenever I watch the video.

    • Lindsay says...

      Yes! I felt the same way.

    • bebe says...

      Same here. The father aggresively pushes the child away and could have asked the child to leave. The women appears manic and scared and drags the kids out. I am pretty sure they were not laughing afterwards.

    • Karyn says...

      I know what you mean. I also laughed at the beginning because we’ve all been interrupted by our kids… but he’s on TV! — but I thought the end of the clip we see becomes very uncomfortable when someone comes to remove the kids. Everyone in my facebook feed who was sharing it this morning seemed to assume the woman was a nanny (also problematic).

    • I get the idea, but I think it’s a pretty unusual situation and I would feel pretty frantic if I was on live TV or was the one realizing I had let the kids manage to get into the room with my spouse or boss on television or even in a business cal. Yeah, he could have turned to the child and asked them to go out, but it totally does not have to indicate their normal family dynamic.

    • Bitsy says...

      Yes, Cait! I agree with you. When I have been interrupted on a conference call or Skype call, etc by one of my children – well, let’s just say I’m not smiling and gently ushering them out the door. :)
      You feel frantic and embarrassed. It’s not a “typical family moment” and I think we should be gentler on this father.

  50. freya says...

    i was riding the train this morning and a girl burst into tears at something she was looking at on her phone. she would pick up her phone look at it and start crying again. it seemed so heartless to ignore someone clearly suffering in front of all of us in such close proximity – people just kind of glanced at her and averted their eyes. i had to get off at the next stop but still thinking and wishing i asked if she was ok.

  51. That video of the kids interrupting their dad’s interview — priceless! I saw it on CBS This Morning and couldn’t stop laughing. The guy seemed peeved at the time, but I can’t help but think he had a good laugh afterwards. Also reminds me how excited I am to get an office one day! ; )

  52. I don’t like the idea of body suits because it just seems unnecessarily complicated to go to the bathroom in one, BUT I have a friend who loves to wear them while climbing (with pants to go over) so that her “shirt” stays down covering her tummy & back.

  53. Abbie says...

    Lincoln in the Bardo was so unbelievably good–the only way I can describe it is that it just crushed me. I read the whole thing in basically a day and it broke my heart. I cried so hard (multiple times)–it made me reflect on having a son, on the importance of having a good man with a strong moral compass as our president (ahem), and just parenthood and death in general. Pregnancy hormones may have played a part, but no one does it like Saunders.

    I’ve never read a book like it and I doubt I will again.

  54. Fran says...

    The female anatomy is such a funny thing. Even as a nurse, female anatomy makes me nervous because “not everyone’s hood is all good.” By that, I mean, places where you expect things to be tend to be different with women, especially the grannies. One time I was putting in a Foley catheter on a cute little grandma and for the life of me, had such a hard time. I tried several times even with the help of a colleague, and the lady was making moaning noises. one of my many worries was I was causing her pain. After several attempts and loud sounds I realize that I was giving her an orgasm. The doctor that I had to call wouldn’t believe it and when he came in to do it himself he was blushing as well (he gave her an orgasm too) we realize the area where we were trying to find was not where we “usually” find it. Needless to say, granny got a 2 for one deal that day. Haha

    • Laura C. says...

      I can’t believe this, I just can’t!! XD This comment is gold!

    • This comment really horrified me. All sorts of concerns about consent and humiliation of elders. It sounds funny at first but I found it quite callous, unprofessional, and potentially triggering. Ug.

  55. Trader Joes makes the best hummus.

  56. Rebecca says...

    Thanks Joanna! Quick question about the Elle article you hyperlinked, this woman is now a legal citizen of the U.S., along with her family who came here from the Philippines in ’86, so what specific policy are they fearful of? I’m not trying to start an argument or get into a debate (I swear!), just honestly trying to understand why anyone who has immigrated here and has gone through the process to attain citizenship would be fearful because the only policy I see that has been proposed (regardless of whether I agree with it or not) is directed at undocumented individuals living in the U.S. illegally. Like I said, just trying to understand because the national debate seems so black and white, yet so cloudy, at the same time. Thanks in advance.

    • Lauren says...

      I can’t speak for them, but perhaps it’s not a policy but the atmosphere that creates the policy and also supports it.

      “‘But to them we’ll always be immigrants,’ she replied.”

      Have you not heard about the violence that minorities all over the US have been facing since Trump got elected? Many of the victims aren’t even immigrants, illegal or otherwise.

    • Rebecca says...

      Totally understand where your question is coming from! Often or not, if you are an immigrant your citizenship always have a chance to be revoke. Even though you may have gone through the legal process of obtaining citizenship – technically speaking it should be permanent, it isn’t. Take for example in Canada (where I’m from), Bill C24 under Stephen Harper. It also allowed the government to revoke citizenship from dual Canadian citizens convicted of terrorism, treason or espionage. The bill states the government can revoke citizenship without the presence of a lawyer thus stripping the immigrant’s rights.

      As an immigrant, I understand the concerns of the article as it is a very legitmate concern. Given who the president is, laws and policies can easily be overturned or changed. I believe that is also the fear with Trump being president.

      I hope this help makes more sense? Just my two cents!

      From one Rebecca to another :)

    • NSU says...

      People are afraid of being singled out as immigrants, legal or not, due to the recent wave of hate crimes where “go back to your country” has been a refrain.
      I was born in Nashville, TN to citizen parents, but I feel as though, as an Indian American, this could happen to me– because growing up in all-white areas in the middle of the country, I’ve heard that refrain throughout my entire life.

    • t says...

      I agree. And although I am absolutely NOT a trump supporter I would go as far as to say that what trump is proposing would potentially reduce the likelihood of that gray area / limbo the author experienced for many years as an undocumented immigrant.

      Of course it would be reduced because less immigrants would be able to get here at all…

      I’ve been reading a good deal of narratives on being an undocumented immigrant and how terrible for many that experience is because you don’t feel like you belong anywhere. It has broken my heart and makes me realize that our immigration policy DOES need a huge overhaul and hasn’t been in a good place for a very long time. Let’s get more people here legally and give them a sense of belonging.

  57. Love all these! Especially the Trader Joe’s one! I *love* TJs and they have so many great things you can get in store! I especially love when they come out with their lobster ravioli.

    xo, Sofia
    http://www.thecozie.co

  58. yael steren says...

    I can’t believe it’s snowing today and that it was 60 out yesterday! Crazy!!! I’m meeting a new client this weekend that I’m doing a style makeover with so that’s always fun! Other than that I think I’ll also be staying in and just spending time with my dog and relaxing!!! Hope you have a great time in Beacon! xx yael
    http://www.yaelsteren.com/blog

  59. Emily says...

    I just read Lincoln in the Bardo. It took me quite a bit to get into it. I think I read there were 160 characters! I felt like I was back in college in a POMO class! I’m glad I stuck it out. I particularly enjoyed some of the absurdity and the tenderness of a dad’s love for his son.

    I enjoyed Saunders’ short fiction more. Tenth of December was amazing.

  60. Colleen says...

    My Trader Joe’s favorites are the tree tree shampoo and conditioner for $4 each and the lavender scrub for $6. And, since I wore bodysuits in 1993 as a teen, I’ll never go back!

    • Laura C. says...

      The same for me and bodysuits. The had their time, I’m done!

  61. Jennie says...

    OMG Joanna that is ADORABLE! I work from home often, but am always so paranoid that if my son interrupts that people will think I am not taking my career seriously. I guess it’s time to let that go!

  62. Kelcey says...

    DIA Beacon was a highlight of my trip to New York in 2010. Have a great weekend!

  63. Oh man, totally snagging that book for my upcoming vacation! And as a nursing mom, I totally feel that comic. Who hasn’t seen my boobs these days??!

    Xo, Brittany
    http://Www.notablob.com

  64. Jennie says...

    That video is really making the rounds and I can’t help but wonder how it would have been perceived if it was a woman working who was interrupted by her children.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      oh my gosh, i think it would have been just as hilarious. i had SO many moments like this when i worked from home — from being on a conference call and realizing that everyone could hear my breast pump in the background, to toby walking in naked when I was on a video call (thankfully with just one other person!).

    • heather says...

      I’ve had that same thought, Jennie. My answer is that it wouldn’t be a viral video. I think that’s part of why it’s so hilarious to me, because it demonstrates how enduring the perception is of “serious” men’s work being somehow impenetrable by the realities of managing a home and family.