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Four Fun Things

Have you been watching the new season of Girls? I’ve loved the scenes in Tokyo and secretly want to be best friends with the actress Aidy Bryant. Here’s a fun video showing the behind-the-scenes.

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This morning, Lexi walked into the office wearing this Madewell shirt, and it looked so great (lightweight and soft, and the pink color feels really fresh) that it’s now at the top of my wishlist. Which makes me ask two questions: a) thoughts on the shirt? and b) do you dress like your co-workers?

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Can three words turn anxiety into success? Instead of saying, “I am anxious,” think “I am excited.”

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These spoof Dad Magazines. Because get off the highway an exit early, we know a way.

P.S. Also, this dating story! I cringed and then laughed so, so much.

(Photo of Yves Saint Laurent in Paris, 1986, by Abbas/Magnum. Dad Magazine via Michelle Neuffer.)

  1. Kristy says...

    That date story!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Hahahahahahahahahahaha

  2. I’m living in Japan, and they apologize for everything here! ha!

  3. I can’t even handle how funny this poo story is… I just laughed until I cried while I read the entire thing to my boyfriend, who laughed as well. Great one!

  4. My business partner and I are just like permanently twinning at this point. It’s never on purpose, but we often show up in either matching or coordinating outfits. I guess we’re super on brand?

  5. Abi says...

    My coworkers and I dress the same all of the time. Sometimes the exact same outfit, other times we look like we came from the same collection.

  6. I’m going to Japan this fall and this season of Girls has got me even MORE excited than I was before!

  7. I love the new season of Girls, I definitely agree with the scenes from Japan, it’s so fun!

  8. It took me a while to get down with Shoshana’s character but I am ALL THE WAY INTO HER RIGHT NOW! Not only is Tokyo perfect for her character, but she’s also facing some real shit that I feel like I’m facing right now!

  9. I DEFINITELY dress like my coworkers. We’ve actually all ended up wearing variations of the same thing on the same day too many times to count!

  10. Love that Madewell shirt! Really I love anything Madewell. Thanks for sharing!

  11. Prudence says...

    Will keep in mind thinking about being “excited” rather than feeling “anxious”! Great psychological tip…

    Prudence
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  12. tammy says...

    Working with 95% women, I have noticed that we’re slowly wearing very similar outfits. Our work dress code is very casual and leaves lots of room for self expression (yoga pants and college sweater? pencil skirt and silk top? flannel button up and torn up jeans? scrubs? YES TO ALL). When someone decides to ‘step it up’ and put on makeup or a new dress, it seems to carry throughout the workplace, and all of a sudden, everyone seems to put in more of an effort. It might be for themselves, for others, but whatever the reason, it’s inspiring to see these amazing, strong, busy women all working together, and influencing each other in a positive way.

  13. Taylor says...

    I’m in my third year of law school and I work at a tiny firm with one attorney and a paralegal (both women, under the age of 40). They dress very casually (and pretty boring): black jeans, old boots, cardigans. When I first started working there I was kind of disappointed that I wouldn’t need to “dress like an attorney.” I’m in my early 20s and I like to look really sharp, especially at jobs, because I’m nervous I don’t come off super professional because of my age.

    But now that I’ve been working there for a few months, I’ve found it’s actually kind of nice to have days off of “looking cool” too! This may sound weird, but sometimes just throwing on some boring clothes that are comfortable and sitting in an office with other women who don’t feel the need to dress hip or conservatively is really great.

  14. Sarah says...

    Man Joanna, totally nailing it on this post! Best season of Girls yet, I’m in love with Shoshanna’s Japanese story line. I wish Abigail would move to Tokyo and become Shosh’s roommate/support system in their candy shaped apartment building. And the anxious-excited swap is something I’ve tried to implement for years since hearing about it during the Landmark Forum. Rock on!

  15. Britt says...

    You secretly wish to be friends with Aidy Bryant and yet you almost never post links to clothing sites that carry an item of clothing she could fit into. I love your blog, Joanna, but I’m always so sad when I click on your gorgeous clothing choices to see they only go up to size 10… :-(

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      that is a great point, britt. i am going to start scouting some different places right now. what are stores that you like with sizes above 10? i know asos curve is great, and modcloth. anywhere else you would recommend? thank you so much for your comment.

    • Britt says...

      Joanna, thanks for responding!

      I love the plus sections at Nordstom and Lord and Taylor, etc.. I would suggest when you do posts like “summer dresses” or “our favorite jeans” you include an item that either goes up to larger sizes OR an item that is from a plus sized section of a dept store. City Chic is a nice plus shop :-)

  16. Melissa says...

    RE: The poop story. I remember a similar story that a girl phoned in on talkback radio here in Australia a few years ago. She had a one night stand with a guy she really liked, he went to work the next morning leaving her in the house alone. She did a big poop in the toilet which wouldn’t flush, and not wanting to leave it there to find when he came home from work she fished it out and put in a plastic ziplock sandwich bag to take with her. She then left a note on the kitchen bench saying what a great time she had and her phone number and let herself out. As soon as the door locked behind her she realised she had left the bag with the poop sitting on the bench with her note! Needless to say the guy didn’t call he back. MORTIFYING!

  17. Carrie Rotenberg says...

    OMG Joanna I am dying looking through those Dad magazines. thank you.

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  18. love the shirt! I’ve come to the conclusion that i just can’t do button ups, unless it’s a baggy flannel. this one looks like more of a mens cut, though. so maybe it would work! it just screams america to me, maybe for july! hah

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  19. Samantha says...

    Love that shirt. That dating story was so, so funny. The comments are even funnier!! Thanks for sharing.

  20. It has been awhile since I laughed so hard as I did at the date story. Could. Not. Stop.

    The Dad Magazine is also gold.

    Thanks for pepping up the afternoon! We need it here in the Denver Blizzard!!!

  21. I recently started teaching Xtend barre. Man, did my anxiety start to rear it’s ugly head in those first couple of weeks. (I should mention this is my first job post staying at home with my kiddos. The pressure!) Anyway, heading to class one day I heard an interview of a comedian on the radio. He talked about all the crazy physical feeling he had before a show – many of them I could relate to. However, he put it in the context of being excited. That little blip on the radio changed my whole perspective. From there on out I would tell myself what I was feeling was excitement. It totally worked!

  22. JD says...

    Please do a story about dressing like co-workers! I think its such a weird/funny social thing that organically happens in a closed social environment like a workplace.

    • Jane says...

      I agree – I’d like to hear more about this. My coworker and I dress alike and it is driving me crazy. Every time I get something it seems like it’s just a matter of time before my coworker gets the same thing.

  23. Carolyn says...

    The poop story. I have carried my own poop story in secret for 45 years. I have never told a living soul. But at last the taboo has been broken. I was 14 and babysitting. While the baby was taking a nap, I pooped and for the life of me could not get it to flush. I panicked. I finally dug it out of the toilet, wrapped it in toilet paper, and buried it in the back yard. I have always wondered if I was ever found out. Feels good to finally release this secret!

    • Carolyn that is hilarious!! Thanks for sharing

    • Hollye says...

      Oh Carolyn I just want to give 14 year old you a hug right now!

  24. I was just thinking how much I love Aidy Bryant. I wish Girls would add her as a regular character!

  25. Sasha says...

    I haven’t watched an episode of Girls before but watching that clip was funny! I might have to start watching. Everything that they say about Japan and Tokyo is true, I loved visiting that country and its easily my favourite country. So many things to do and see and the food was the best!

  26. Parker says...

    My whole office has been laughing hysterically at the Dad Magazines…”By Dads, For Dads”. Thanks for sharing!

  27. Tricia says...

    I am laughing way too hard over that dating story. I. Can’t. Stop. Laughing. Absolutely hilarious!

  28. Amy L says...

    Cute shirt! But I’m mostly loving the necklace on her. I don’t really dress like my coworkers to be honest- there’s a lot of leggings as pants and Ugg boots and messy ponytails whereas I feel like that look is too “I just rolled out of bed” but not in a good way ;) That being said, I am guilty of dressing like my friends and showing up in the exact same outfits as them to events without trying!

  29. Rach says...

    I love GIRLS!

  30. Kali says...

    I have that Madewell shirt and adore it. You will not regret it. You may, however, regret not buying it. I coveted a necklace my coworker had (also from Madewell, shocking) and didn’t buy it because I didn’t want to copy her. So instead I bought something … similar, but not as great. She has since left my work and while I wear the necklace I did buy frequently, every time I put it on I so regret not just buying the one I really wanted. When I confessed this to her later she told me it was silly and to buy it, it didn’t bother her. Turns out all the weirdness was in my own head. We’re not in 5th grade anymore, buy and wear whatever the hell you want. Imitation is the most sincere form of flattery.

  31. Stephanie says...

    The poop story was amazing. Made me think of this
    Broad City episode !

    • Danielle says...

      Me too!

  32. Lily says...

    OBSESSED WITH AIDY!!! Also that shirt is adorable.
    xxx

  33. Liza says...

    One of the cardinal rules of friendship: do not buy something your friend bought first! She may be your employee, but that is seriously uncool. I get so pissed when someone goes out and buys something exactly like mine. It would be one thing if you both bought Bean Boots or Longchamp bags or the same skinny jeans, but a top like that? Not okay.

    • adrienne says...

      I totally disagree – especially with co-workers. I wouldn’t buy something that a close friend who I see often wears, but a co-worker or girlfriend in another city I totally mimic their style and they see it as a compliment!

    • Gaby says...

      I disagree. I think it’s a huge compliment when someone likes something I bought and wants to also wear it!

    • Lexi Mainland says...

      Aw, I respectfully disagree. I am always compelled to buy the great things my friends and colleagues wear (I nearly shed tears when I discovered Caroline’s new Birkenstocks are sold out in stores) and I am so flattered when any of them like my finds enough to buy them themselves! Joanna asked me first, but I wouldn’t have cared if she didn’t.

    • Totally agree with Liz!!!

    • Kate says...

      I’m with Liza. I have a friend who always copies so much of what I wear and while I love her and would never say anything, it deep down bothers me. I totally get that it’s fun to get inspiration from others (I do it too!), I think style is an individual expression and to go out and get the exact same thing is not cool.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      I totally hear you guys — I would never get a special dress or something that a friend had. But we have a joke in our office that we all dress the same way. I got everyone Everlane anoraks as a gift last year, and we all wear the same Madewell jeans, and we have the same Hobes shoes and Converse, and it has become a big joke. I asked Lexi if she would mind and she laughed and said absolutely not. So in this case, I feel fine about it, whereas I totally agree with you in many other cases. Thanks for starting this interesting discussion!

    • Yes! You beat me to it:)

  34. Laura C says...

    The dating story has made my day. Thank you Joanna.
    Also, now I am very anxious and I’ll try your trick.

  35. I am CRYING laughing at my desk at the poop story. The texts to her sister!

    • Tricia says...

      Me too! Killing me. The texts to her sister, by far the reason I’m laughing so hard. (Insert tears)

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      me too! i keep laughing just thinking about them.

    • MW says...

      Me too. I kept laughing out loud when I went to bed last night thinking about it. My husband was like shut up already!!
      WHAT IS HAPPENING
      I sent that story to my sis-in-law as a b-day gift. :)

  36. Answering your question b. Yes, Im that kind of person! When I see someone wearing a piece that I instantly like, I fell like bying it the other day. If the person is part of my day, who cares? :-P

  37. Heather says...

    omg… sitting here with my jaw dropped over this poop story!!!!

    also I am LOVING this season of GIRLS. I don’ t know if I’m just getting more used to lena’s humor, but I am busting out laughing way more than I ever have.

  38. Lizzie says...

    I wish reframing anxiety worked for me! As a musician I’ve struggled with performance anxiety my entire life, even when logically I know there’s no reason for it. I’ll be well-prepared for a performance and be looking forward to it, and as soon as I take the stage, my heart starts pounding and my like I’m in the middle of a dead sprint. I even think, “Come on, heart, there’s nothing to freak out about.” No dice. It must be such a hardwired response in me (and probably others) that overriding it takes more than some self-talk.

  39. Him: You’re the most amazing woman ever
    Me (in my head): I have poop in my purse

    OMG. OMG I DIED. So good.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      i know!!! hahahahaha i was laughing out loud through the whole thing. i loved the sister.

  40. i don’t watch girls, but i might have to because of this! i’ve always wanted to go to tokyo

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  41. kash says...

    my favourite little trick for anxiety came from my mom, when I called her in the middle of a full-blown anxiety attack once. She said, “you will be so proud of yourself once you’ve made it through this moment.” I repeat that to myself when I’m feeling really anxious about doing something! It helps to make myself feel like it’s a challenge that’s worth overcoming and not an insurmountable road block. And then, of course, you have to make sure that once you’ve made it through your anxious moment that you do stop, take a minute, and think “I am really proud of myself for doing that.”

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      i love that! that is such a sweet way to think about it. your mom sounds awesome.

  42. Cortney says...

    That is so funny! In this last episode of girls I was thinking the same thing…I want to be Aida Bryant’s friend too! She makes me so happy. She’s a doll.

  43. Alice Quin says...

    Yes my female colleagues and I dress similarly nowadays, same jeans and tops and same overall style. Your style rubs off on each other right? We joke that it is like getting on the same monthly cycle.

  44. i don’t dress like my colleagues, but my bestie and i almost always have on outfits that coordinate in some way, shape, form or fashion.

  45. I do not dress like my coworkers. They’re mostly men in their 50s-60s and they ALL wear pleated Dockers, and boat shoes with no socks. Some wear fishing shirts, or Hawaiian shirts, some wear polos, and the fancy ones wear button ups. I can’t even type that without cringing! I’m 32 and arguably style conscious, so I definitely don’t dress like them, but maybe I should start!

    THAT POOP STORY OMG I’M DEAD.

  46. Alyssa Leister says...

    I work in the Art Department at a large theatre in PA. It is a department of mostly men, who dress in very typical artist attire: flannel, jeans, sneakers. Funny enough, that while I enjoy wearing skirts/dresses/heels and being more girly on some days, I’ve totally adopted an “artistic uniform” after these guys. Many days we will realize that we are all dressed in the same color pallet or that my flannel matches one of the boys minus the fit and possibly a bit of color added. :) I love it honestly.

  47. Lauren E. says...

    Oh my gosh, the dad spoof. I’m dying.

  48. Jenny says...

    Definitely going to try that anxiety trick. We’re taking our 4-month-old baby, who is not even close to sleeping through the night, on an 11 hour overnight flight next week and I. Am. So. Anxious. I’m anxious for the whole trip, because sleeeeeep! I can’t take any less than the minimal amount I’m getting now. But, I’ll try to re-frame it as an exciting adventure and see where that gets me. Also- the poop story, oh my god! Was feeding said baby as I read it and laughed so hard she popped off my boob! And simultaneously pooped, ha.

    • If it makes you feel better I’ve found the worst part about flying with kids to be the anxiety beforehand! They have always done so much better than I expected, and at 4 months she might even sleep better than usual because she’ll be snuggled with mom with boobs ready to go! You probably will be super tired, but you’ll also feel really proud of yourself when it’s all said and done! Good luck and enjoy your trip!

    • Sarah says...

      I agree with the previous comment–enjoy when you can nurse through the flight as opposed to having a toddler who wants to run around like crazy! A piece of advice: you may want to get a pillow (I think I saw a travel size Boppy) so you don’t get stuck having to hold up your baby the whole time. Also you may want to bring a change of clothes for you in addition to the baby, because there’s nothing worse than being stuck on a flight with spit up/throw up all over your clothes. Good luck, and the anticipation is definitely worse than the actual flight. Most people are understanding.

    • Jenny says...

      Thanks for the encouragement, ladies! And travel boppy- that’s genius! Just ordered one :)

  49. Sadie says...

    “Get off the highway an exit early! We Know a Way” Hahahha! I thought it was just my father-in-law!

    I cannot get enough of Aidy Bryant. I have never loved SNL so much as the last couple of years! Not even (dare I say it?) the Tina Fey years compare. I cry with laughter every episode.

    • Alice Quin says...

      LOLed at that line too!

  50. Amanda Phillips says...

    Ah so great! Love Dad magazine and have been really digging Aidy Bryant after listening to her on Lena’s Women of the Hour podcast and her role in Horace and Pete. She seems like she would be awesome to hang out with for months.

  51. Mandy says...

    LOVE the shirt ( I have a similar one from Tommy ) and no, I do not dress like my co-workers as there is about a 30 year age difference between me and them :-P