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By the wonderful Grace Farris.
P.S. Mother’s Day-adjacent things to do this weekend and this year’s Mother’s Day gift guide.
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Love these. And adding “Spending time with my son” to the list! :)
I’m the one introducing my daughter (Hazel) to pictures of my late mom (Hazel). Mother’s day is certainly bittersweet
I for one treasure Mother’s Day. I am blessed to have a marvellous mother. I didn’t realize how lucky I was growing up. I was often embarrassed and couldn’t understand some of the things my mother did. We learned a few years ago that she was born with a cyst in her brain that was growing larger every year of her life. Suddenly things started to make sense. She had surgery to remove the tumour. Things got worse, but she has never lost her determination, optimism and joy to be alive and to be with the people she loves. Her children are her world. Teenage friends of ours that struggled, and didn’t have a safe place found a safe place in her home.
Currently she is on a ventilator that she will never come off. She has a feeding tube, and she can’t speak, but we read her lips. Still, she is full of joy and gratitude to be alive and to connect with the people around her. She wants to know everyone’s story and she wants them to know hers!
When she is gone I will continue to celebrate her, and to feel gratitude that I got to be Diane’s daughter.
To all the mothers out there who need this day, in the immortal words of Tupac, ‘Dear Mama, You are appreciated’.
For those that don’t have FB, I believe this is the same write up from Lamott.
https://www.salon.com/2010/05/08/hate_mothers_day_anne_lamott/
For my first Mother’s Day she is writing exactly how I feel. It’s cringe worthy and I hate it. On the plus side we’ll see how long the baby lasts while antiquing. (Crazy? Probably.) Due to deception and lies I’m currently not speaking to my own mother out of self care. Happy “Mother’s” Day.
Yes, hoping.
I found out yesterday I am very likely to miscarry after my fifth frozen embryo transfer. I expected to either be pregnant or not on Mother’s Day. Mother’s Day has been complicated for the 3+ years I’ve been dealing with infertility, but this limbo is a whole new world.
My husband and I are on the wait list with a surrogacy agency and I hope beyond hope that we will have our baby safely growing or earthside by next Mother’s Day.
Hugs Kristin. I hope by next May your family feels just as it should be. ❤️
I’m so sorry Kristin. That sounds so very tough. Sending you love.
Unpopular opinion but I wonder if Mother’s Day does more harm than good. As a new mother, sure, I appreciate the recognition, but I think even more about how I felt during years of loss and infertility, grieving my birth mother, grieving the complicated relationship with my mom, and with my husband, grieving his mother who passed away 12 years ago. If it made a difference, I’d gladly forego my recognition to ease someone else’s pain.
For anyone else grieving this weekend (and every day), I see you <3.
I love this because we are down to one car right now while my husband’s is in the shop, and he’s taking the kids OUT of the house for four hours – and for part of that, I’m going to ride to the local bakery for a sandwich outside :D (And #bathleisure everyday ha)
I love the inclusion of “hoping.” That’ll be me this Mother’s Day – hoping that next Mother’s Day may look a little (a lot) different.
The “remembering” picture made me tear up. How sweet and true. Thinking of all the people missing their moms on Mother’s Day <3
Adding croissants to my list!
Love the inclusive range of motherhood situations here.
On Mother’s Day I always love to thank women in my life who aren’t mothers but invest so much in my motherhood and the lives of my children. Friends, aunts, neighbors….I always feel extra grateful for all these women on Mother’s Day as they’re usually unsung heroes.
I lost my mother last year and so this will be the first Mother’s Day without her in my life. It makes me realize that these holidays commemorating others can be heartbreaking for those who are experiencing their loss. So while this terrible year has provided me with a newfound sensitivity, its price has been very high.
Oh do buy flowers or a candle or a something your mother would have appreciated and keep it in memory of her… This is like an anniversary of her death, it is so hard (my mother died 5 years ago, it’s still sensitive but doesn’t hurt).
Lovely comic! Although I will never understand the bath thing – I can be in the tub for all of 5 minutes and then I feel gross. Husband’s exact opposite, though, and loves his bath bombs, hahaha.
Happy mother’s day, everyone – and especially to you who fill the “mother” spot but aren’t always thanked directly: aunties, sisters, mentors, and friends. It takes a village.
Thank you, Sage! As an auntie, sister, mentor, and friend, I gladly accept your kind wishes :-)
What a great idea to show old mom photos to your kids. I’ll see if I can find some.
oh! In France it’s always the last sunday of may. I always feel embarassed by mother’s day; I loved it as a child, but I have no mother anymore. And I don’t really feel like I should be celebrated as a mother, it’s not really something I deserve. I became one because of biology and choice, yes, but why should it be celebrated? I don’t know, I’m probably weird! (I will take the flowers and anything from my child anyway). Also in France, at school, they don’t make children prepare anything for mother’s day anymore, because some children don’t have a mother, and I quite like that sensitivity. But I love love love your drawings, I really want your book if ever you publish one! Happy mother’s day every one! Agnès from Paris
Anne Lamott has an excellent and profound Instagram post about the conflicted implications of celebrating Mother’s Day.
oh my gosh, yes, here’s Anne lamott’s post: https://www.facebook.com/AnneLamott/posts/321351226020057
Thanks Claire and Joanna, for the reference, what a strong text! yes, that’s how I feel. Thank you, we’re probably a lot feeling that way actually! And I’m quite happy for my friends to enjoy that day but it’s not for me.
We should do a Happy Cup of Jo day!
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