Have a Good Weekend.

the Teen Vogue post about therapist advice is gold. It makes me want to nurture my inner lost earnest jaded teenager, as well as share it with all my loved ones.

Regarding reparations:
As the Talmudic saying goes “don’t give a man a fish, teach him how to fish”
Giving money is finite, there is a limit, but creating opportunities where people can learn how to provide for themselves in a way that will last generations, by improving schools, providing training programs, etc. that will have a much longer lasting effect than some cash.

Insecure season 4 was the BEST!!! And such a mind game ????why couldn’t we have the happy ending!?!

I LOLed at the advice from therapist’s. I’m a therapist, and I can’t tell you how often a patient will repeat something back to me that I “said” (that I definitely did not say!) that they perceived to be helpful advice.

It’s not my job to give advice, but people still have a way of finding it.

My mother also did the odd and even thing! It worked out perfectly for us — my birthday is an odd-odd-odd, and my brother’s is an even-even-even, so everything fell right in line. She got sick of us arguing over who had to get up first to shower on school days and who got to sleep in, so this was her solution. Ours also evolved over the years, but the school day wake-up remained constant.

While I appreciate the balloon art and it’s play on tension, balance, etc.

I ABHOR BALOONS SINCE THEY QUICKLY BECOME MICRO PLASTIC AND HARM THE PLANET AND OUR FELLOW BEINGS AKA: WILD CREATURES.

We need to discern between things that are creative/nice/beautiful…whatever and look beyond what it looks like or the feels it gives us, and look deeper to see what ‘it’ is made of.

Love our home which is our planet.
Walk our talk and be our word.

My local university is offering a free course about COVID-19. Here is a brief description, “To try to imagine a future after COVID-19 is to acknowledge that we’re not there yet, that all of us—whether we catch the virus or not—are still affected by this pandemic. Moreover, none of us are affected in quite the same way. Each of us experiences this pandemic differently, and part of the work of this class will be to better understand those differences among us and our responsibility to one another when this pandemic is finally over.”

I just wanted to let people know about the resource.
https://emu.edu/academics/covid-course

When speaking of her experiences as a young Hollywood starlet, Jane Fonda said, “ I never knew ‘No’ was a complete sentence.” A very powerful lesson, especially for teens and young women in uncomfortable or threatening situations.

re: reparations, some reasoning in complete support of community building, but not necessarily cash payments–

https://quillette.com/2019/03/17/reparations-and-ta-nehisi-coatess-pyrrhic-victory/
(if anyone is skeptical of the possible bias of the site itself, I hope you don’t mind giving the words a chance)

if you prefer to watch:

Reparations Hearing June 2019 (clip) : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F5AQyWAWHU4

Reparations Hearing (full): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fXCwZeKOp2E&t=7530s

I look forward to Tiny Love Stories every week. <3

What’s the code?!? —-“Nisolo is having a huge sale – up to 40% off, plus an additional 20% off for Cup of Jo readers. (!)”

The advice from my therapist I find myself repeating (to myself and others) most often is “don’t fall in love with potential.” People can change, of course, but you should love the person as they *are*, not as they could be.

That art exhibit and the artist’s words moved me to tears!

My mom did the even and odd thing for my brother and I, and it worked great. My only complaint, and the one tip I give my friends when they have kids, is to make an exception for birthdays. My birthday is on the 13th and my brother’s is on the 9th, and so he got both of our birthdays which I still, to this day (and I’m 42), don’t think is fair. :)

I’m not saying things don’t need to change, but regarding reparations, we’ve been here before.
https://www.history.com/.amp/topics/1960s/great-society

Thank you SO MUCH for linking to the brilliance that is Nikole Hannah-Jones always, but most especially this piece. The way she so skillfully lays out the story…it’s a masterpiece and I.am.here.for.it!

I do the odd/even thing for my kids and it is really the best. One has an odd birthday and the other even so works and is easy to remember. It’s crazy how quickly who’s turn it is for teeth brushing went from crying drama to okay mama.

CoJ readers, please take a look at this. Eloquent beyond words: https://www.nytimes.com/2020/06/26/opinion/confederate-monuments-racism.html?action=click&module=Opinion&pgtype=Homepage

Thanks for the link about reparations! But why not link to the original story, written by a Black woman, rather than a blog post endorsing it, written by a White man? If the NYT paywall is the issue, you could always link both, noting that one includes a block quotation of the other.

Teen Vogue for the win! They have totally transformed in the last few years, and their focus on activism and social and emotional health makes me feel excited for my daughter’s future! How awesome. Many of the things the kids described learning in therapy were things I learned in therapy in my thirties! I can not even imagine how helpful and life-transforming therapy would have been for me as a young teenager, or even in my early twenties. So proud of how our young people are so open to such life-giving practices. I am totally inspired.

Those balloons are so cool, and I had no idea that they are so versatile. We have been seeing all of these super cool balloon sculptures popping up in our neighborhood over the last few months. Once I found out about the company (Luft Balloons – instagram.com/luft.balloon/), I realized they are also trying to do good in the world-through balloons.

Those balloons are so cool – I had no idea that

That odd or even parenting advice= MASTERFUL

In addition to that reader comment— we did something similar in our house. There were 4 of us and we all had 2 different numbers between 2-9 (we didn’t count 0 and 1 so those were random). But then we’d look at which day of the month it was to help us. I still remember my numbers being 4 and 2. When the oldest sibling left, we then had 3 numbers each between 0-9 excluding 1. Fond memories of how fun it was to look at the calendar and see it was the 14th of June, for example.