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Have a Good Weekend.

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What are you up to this weekend? We are watching old episodes of Curb Your Enthusiasm, reading our book club pick, and listening to lots of the Rolling Stones. Hope you’re hanging in there, and here are a few fun links from around the web…

This question made me laugh forever. (What do you think?)

Snack plates are the low-key dinner strategy we need right now.

We are so happy to be supporting small businesses that we love. Today, Nisolo is offering Cup of Jo readers 25% off their purchase. (Love these slides.)

Humans of New York — at home — is crushing it.

Wes-Anderson-style social distancing.

Puzzles!

Six pretty things to wear this summer.

Oooh, what a lovely bedroom.

Working-from-home-during-a-global-pandemic bingo.

This grandmother warmed my heart.

And just a reminder about this beautiful Mother’s Day collection! xoxo

Plus, two reader comments:

Says Ellen on what weird things do you do to feel better: “I put on my ballet slippers, blast Swan Lake music and flit, prance and kick about the house. (I was two classes into a Ballet for Adult Beginners workshop before shelter-in-place began, and I have the bug!).”

Says Lane on what weird things do you do to feel better: “My husband and I have been painting our nails every week. He’s an elementary school teacher in a conservative southern town, so a male teacher with painted nails would never fly during ‘normal’ times, but he loves it! So every week we sit out on our back deck, file our nails, trim our cuticles, soak our hands, and then take turns painting each other’s nails.”

(Photo of Mick Jagger.)

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  1. Sam says...

    Jo- I feel like you would appreciate knowing the British version of FMK is called Cliff, Shag or Marry (push off a cliff, shag once or marry forever)

  2. Annie says...

    I think they mean lunchable.

  3. Taryn says...

    Thank you for posting the Slack conversation. Made me laugh out loud. I definitely imagined sex in the marriage option and I read the entire slack chat rooting for the people proving this point that never once crossed my kind before a few minutes ago!

  4. Claire says...

    I have been noticing that Humans of NY has been especially poignant and wonderful lately. (What a fun job it must be to work there!)
    My husband and I especially love snack plates for dinner in the summer when it’s too stinkin’ hot to cook.
    Thanks for the Nisolo discount- I may splurge on the mules.
    And what i think about that FKM game is that I just really don’t like it at all and never find it funny, no matter how much I try to be a good sport about it. Too degrading and disrespectful, and I just can’t bring myself to talk about other human beings like that.

  5. Lindsey says...

    I’m so interested to know how Millie and Lulu are doing during this pandemic. Has Millie sewed 1000 more pillows? How is their marmalade stash? Would love an update. Hoping they are both staying well. xoxoxo

  6. Stephanie Powell says...

    This blog makes me happy cry like every other day and it is the best thing ever. Thank you.

  7. Quinn says...

    I agree that snack plates are a good idea, but this Bon Appetit article offers some questionable quarantine upgrades. When I see the words “low-key” in the title, I don’t expect to be linked to a page that suggests “frizzled curry leaves”, “sumac, Tajin, or Aleppo-style peppers” and “piquillo peppers and, when she has it, leftover cold milanesa.” While I’m sure these are readily available for some people, I don’t have the ability to go wandering around looking for ingredients that I haven’t had before, nor do I have the money to order them for delivery. But perhaps this article wasn’t written for someone like me.

  8. Milka says...

    The very last purchase I made– before the coronavirus cut my work trip to America short and sent me home to New Zealand– was a gorgeous pair of Nisolo mules. I haven’t had an occasion to wear them in public because all I wear now is slippers or sneakers. But when the world starts up again, I am really looking forward to putting together my first “work outfit” that will definitely include these stunning shoes!

  9. Ancy says...

    Joanna
    Firstly, thank you for this amazing space you provide for us. I have been reading since before Toby was born.
    I am writing to request you to post anything from your aunt Lulu. Maybe a outfits of the week post or even a write up on her rituals that we have not explored yet.
    I have her Beauty Uniform printed and read it whenever I need a pick me up. Love you and your family (immediate and extended).

    • Suzanne says...

      If there’s one thing we need during this pandemic it is aunt lulu!!!!

  10. Sarah says...

    The grandmother was so sweet, but I felt like her son was being condescending, like a game I’d set up for my toddler! Anyone else?

    • Em says...

      I think sometimes activities for individuals with dementia may seem this way, but they can truly add a source of comfort and familiarity for them.

    • B says...

      No, I didn’t get that vibe at all… Having dealt with dementia in family members, it is often a lot of repetition, assurance, confirmation and finding comforting activities that are familiar.

  11. Alice Misciagna says...

    Lane’s comment made me realise I’d love to see a post about what you’re supposed to do with your nails. File? Trim? Foreign words to me :)

    • Barbara Jane says...

      I DIY my nails all the time, but I’d love to see this anyway! It’s relaxing and easy, and you likely have the tools at home. A perfect quarantine activity!

    • Suzanne says...

      Yes!!! Please advise!!!

    • Lane says...

      Haha! I honestly didn’t know about most of this stuff until the last year or two. All the women in my family are super low-key, tomboy, gardening types who never had a manicure, so I totally started researching it online.

      You want to soak your hands (and feet if you’re doing a pedicure) in warm water, preferably with bath salts to soften your nails up. Then use a cuticle removing gel per the directions on the back, soak your nails a little while longer, and that should make them easier to clean up. After that, dry your hands and very gently buff your nails just to get a little bit of grit on your surface, which will help the nail polish stick better. My husband shapes his nails beautifully, but I just trim mine really short. Then use a clear basecoat, a gel color of your choice, and a gel topcoat. We really like the Essie brand nail polish. It seems to last a long time even if you’re hard on your hands, like I am.

      Anyway, thank you all so much for your kind words. It’s made both of us so happy! I’ve been following Cupofjo for 10 years now and this has definitely been the highlight of my month!

  12. Thea says...

    One of my aunts works in an old people care facility and they also have iPads now to let the people skype with their relatives. When one lady with Alzheimer’s had her skype session with her son, she looked at the screen, and remarked: “Oh, he looks just like my son!” Then she took the iPad in her hands, and after a short moment, added: “But he feels different to the touch!”

    • Rusty says...

  13. Sana Nilsson says...

    Lane and her husband painting their nails is one of the sweetest things I’ve read. I used to pain my son’s nails until som cranky parent commented something nasty to him. To help him get over that, my husband started painting his nails. He is a part time farmer and drives tractors but cries with big tears at att Disney film, even on the 3rd re-watch. We have’t painted each other’s nails in a while and this was a sweet reminder.

    • this brought tears to my eyes! what a tender father-son experience. hope you all are safe and painting your nails in whatever colors and style you fancy.

    • kath says...

      you are an awesome mom and your husband sounds amazing!
      xoxo

    • It stinks that the world puts so many limits on humans – what’s masculine, what’s feminine, etc. Let’s all just do what we want and tell critics to buzz off!

    • Elisabeth says...

      I love this so much. Good parenting — you and your husband both! It makes me so sad and angry that some parent would comment on a child’s nails (or a male teacher’s painted nails, for that matter). Whatever happened to mind your own beeswax? Why is masculinity so fragile for some folks?

    • Lane says...

      We have a 11 year old and 4 year old boy – the 4 year old wants to paint his nails like his daddy, but the 11 year old is too growny for it. It breaks my heart that he’s been so touched by this toxic masculinity from outside our home! But what can you do?

      It’s so excellent to have gentle, loving, emotional men!

  14. Agnès says...

    Have a good week-end every one. It is so strange that I need the week-ends even more… We do “apéritif dinatoire” a lot, it’s a drink with snacks, like drinks that turn into dinner but you don’t need to set the table or cook. So last night: red wine, raw carrots and cucumber, bread with vegetable spreadings, pizza leftovers.

  15. Emkate says...

    I just want to thank you so much for bringing joy and a little consistency in this very unpredictable time :) your friday posts have been such a comfort to me.

  16. Sara says...

    Snack plate is what I have been doing for my kids (8 &9) for lunch. It’s the only thing saving my sanity and cutting down on the 10,000 dishes we seem to be using every day. I put a snack plate together for them around 11 when I have a break from my work Zooms and they can eat it whenever they get hungry in between their distance learning assignments. Our new favorite combo is Boursin cheese and the rosemary raisin crackers from TJ’s.

  17. Lane Hokanson says...

    OH MY GOSH, I’VE NEVER SEEN ANOTHER LANE! Congratulations on your husband and your manicures! Love, Lane

    • Lane says...

      AHH! Yes! there are more of us, Lane Hokanson!!!

  18. Gina says...

    I am as conservative as you get and I don’t care if men paint their nails. I encourage the couple to take some time during this downtime to get to know their neighbors, maybe they are assuming things about them that aren’t true. Just a thought, always think positively of others unless you know otherwise.

    • Lane says...

      Hi Gina! As a point of reference, my husband is the first man to ever work at this school who wasn’t a custodian. He’s been told not to let little boys (4-year-olds) in his classroom play with babydolls because it will make them gay. The administrators didn’t want to give him a turquoise and pink school shirt because they thought it would be too feminine for him to wear. The dress code for the entire district precludes hair being colored an ‘unnatural’ color for students and teachers. So trust me, when I say it’s a conservative school, I’m not just making assumptions about how they would react.

  19. The snack plates remind me of lunches my husband and I would have in college. We got married before senior year, and to make packing lunch to eat on campus feel more special, we would have “Bread, Cheese and Fruit” inspired by what I was learning about French culture (I minored in the language). We’d have an artisan bread and tear it apart as we ate it, a wedge of some delicious cheese, and grapes or apple slices or what have you. Our friends were actually jealous! That was 15 years ago. I feel like we need to reinstate Bread, Cheese and Fruit during quarantine.

  20. Allison says...

    I’d love recommendations for comfy shorts for quarantine summer. Nice enough that I can wear them outside next summer, but soft enough to wear inside this summer.

    • Abbey says...

      Madewell makes some elastic-waist shorts (they call them “pull on shorts”) and I absolutely lived in them last summer. Very comfy, fun colors, and they don’t look frumpy. Hope you like :)

  21. Nicole says...

    Ahhh, I do so love a good FMK game. My friends and I would play it for hours! I never, ever thought of the whole sex part of marriage, rather that the “marry” choice was like a friendly, nice person you could spend time with. Too funny.

    Also, love the grandmother. So touching.

    • Cynthia Miller says...

      I’m with you on the FMK. I don’t really play this- but the I think the idea is someone you really want to spend time with- but F is just attraction.

  22. CS says...

    Thanks for all the great links. I like the idea of a snack platter at supper. Thanks for the reminder, I haven’t done this in ages, yet it’s such a lovely was to enjoy an easy meal. :)

  23. Rae says...

    FMK – we typically play with only the very worst options. Which means, K is easy. Then you have to decide between the 2 left, who is the one you can stand the most to marry, including having to have sexy time with, every once in a while.

  24. Em says...

    When I was painting my nails the other night I was wondering if people who normally can’t paint their nails for social reasons now have the freedom to do so. Thank you for sharing this!

    • Vero says...

      I love this too. Not for social reasons but my best friend is happy to be able to paint her nails now. She’s a massage therapist so can never have nail polish when she is working and doesn’t usually bother painting them on Friday and taking off polish on Sunday. I love that this fella can have his nails painted!

  25. Andrea says...

    That apartment is very cool, but the bed makes it look like he’s a serial killer who just covers over the bodies.

    I have a problem with lumpy bed covers.

    • Eliza says...

      Hahaha – I didn’t look at the link until after I read your comment and now that’s definitely all I can see.

    • Amy says...

      My first thought was “I guess that’s how you deal with downsizing; just throw a blanket over the extras that aren’t photo-worthy” ;)

    • Cynthia Miller says...

      Maybe a game of FMK gone wrong?

    • Olivia says...

      Oh my god how did his bed get like that? What’s even in there?? Hahaha

    • Sasha L says...

      Cynthia, well done. 😂👏

  26. GM says...

    Where exactly are any of us going to wear the six pretty summer things :(((

    • b says...

      Truth. The only summer things I’m buying are pajama shorts and short sleeve tees. It’s already getting too warm in San Diego for sweats and yoga pants.

    • Emily R says...

      I still like to wear nice clothes even in the house.

    • Denise says...

      I’ve been working out early and then taking a shower and purposely putting on something besides sweats. I’m in north San Diego County and it’s been pretty warm this week. Cute shorts and a tank top makes me happy, even if I’m sitting on my own patio.

    • katie says...

      I wore jeans the other day, the first time in nearly four weeks. Really I wanted to make sure they still fit.

      They do! With a little room. The not eating out is likely the culprit.

  27. Lisa says...

    I started the book! And can I say that, while I generally prefer reading books rather than listening, I am absolutely loving the audio version of this book. It brings such a richness to the characters and text. Highly recommend!

  28. Becca says...

    I hope I’m not a killjoy, but I’m completely unable to participate in any game of “F, Marry, Kill” lol! I end up getting nervous and just saying, “I just want everyone to be happy!”

    • Beca says...

      omg my name is also becca and that is also my response to this game haha!

    • Louise says...

      This really made me laugh 😂 Good for you Becca!

  29. Joslyn says...

    I agree that humans of NY at home is absolutely the best thing on the internet right now. The most recent one about the mom finishing an Ironman had me sobbing.

  30. Sasha L says...

    That snack plate article was full of great and yummy ideas. Tomorrow I’m going to make some Buddha sauce for peas and broccoli and cabbage and carrots (Buddha sauce is garbanzos, lemon juice, PB, olive oil, nutritional yeast, salt all blended up).

    That Grandma was so sweet. My grandmother had Alzheimer’s too. She loved to hear my grocery list and what I was making for dinners. Also she wanted to know the prices of things, like a bag of potatoes or a dozen eggs, and she always complained the prices were too high. She also loved that my children would sneak her candy. My grandmother had a dramatic personality change as the disease progressed. She became kind, gentle, smiling for the first time I’d ever seen. As I child I only feared her, as she was capable of cruel, cutting sarcasm. She delighted in pitting siblings against one another and playing favorites. My only happy memories of her are as an adult, after she was in a care home and no longer really herself. But this is the only way my children ever knew her. I find it beautiful that they fell in love with her and remember her fondly. My own feelings were only ever obligation.

    • denise says...

      Oh my gosh I NEED your Buddha sauce recipe please!

    • Sasha L says...

      Denise,
      Buddha Sauce
      1/4 c olive oil (a little less is fine)
      1/4 c PB
      1/4 c garbanzos
      2 garlic cloves (just peeled, whole, if throwing in food processor)
      1/4 c water
      3 T lemon juice
      1/4 c nutritional yeast
      1/2 tsp turmeric (I use a couple tsps)
      Pinch salt.

      Blend all in a food processor. Probably could smash it all together with some serious upper arm strength and a potato masher sans food processor.

  31. Mary W. says...

    That grandmother reminds me of my mother. Yesterday we talked to the manager of my mother’s assisted care facility about her status. She has Alzheimer’s and is doing very well despite the restrictions. He attributed a lot of that to sticking to her routine. Her facility had a fairly well publicized outbreak of a respiratory illness last summer and used the lessons they learned to lock down very early. We’re very lucky she was able to move there.

    • Mary W. says...

      BTW, the facility provides iPads and we’ve been able to visit her via FaceTime. I’ve also been writing letters and including old photos. The weekly letters allow me to reflect on what’s happened since last time. There’s never any big news, but that’s OK. People just like getting letters.

  32. Jen says...

    If there is no sex in marriage then the game would be F&@$, Friend, or Kill. The point is…someone you could spend a night with, a life with or couldn’t stand to be with at all. IMHO of course. I will stubbornly continue to play this way!

    • Meg says...

      Agree, this is how I’ve always thought about it! I’m surprised that people interpret it any other way but now that I think about it, I’ve never really spelled it out with people either…

    • Erin says...

      I’m similarly surprised! Who are these people who don’t plan to sleep with their spouses? lol.

      I refused to play the game because I find it soooo uncomfortable, but the meaning of the three options seems very obvious! I would have never even thought to ask someone what they thought ‘marry’ meant.

    • JRay says...

      100% agree! A whole lifetime of togetherness in all ways…that’s the M! For better and def worse!

  33. Dot says...

    I love your site so much and you have had such nuanced content in the past about gun violence. I may have missed your coverage but Canada had the worst mass shooting in our history this past week and I don’t think there has been any mention of it here. I realize you are an American site but it would have been so neighbourly and comforting to see some of your thoughtful coverage.

    • b says...

      Dot, I am so sorry to hear this. I’ve been avoiding the news because it just ramps up my anxiety, but I didn’t even see anything on social media.

    • Rusty says...

      It’s been on all the news here in Australia!
      Love to our Canadian ‘cousins’ from Oz. xx

    • Heather says...

      Fellow Canadian here..agreed..my heart breaks for the families of this tragedy at such a crappy time in our world..❤️

    • Kristin says...

      Dot, I have been thinking of you all this week and am sincerely sorry for what you all are going through. Sending you lots of love from Wisconsin.

  34. E says...

    OBVIOUSLY
    Marry= want to be with for life
    F= one night

    Everything is allowed with both, but M is long term.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      i never thought of the marriage category as involving sex, really — i always thought it was more a question of, who would you want to hang out with forever? so funny.

  35. Kim says...

    My husband has been playing with YouTube ALOT lately & ran across a great piece with the Stones & Muddy Waters at the Checkerboard Lounge in Chicago from 1981…..definitely worth checking out. A great little time capsule..
    https://youtu.be/P3qfTk730Cw

    • Lauren Hardy says...

      Thank you for sharing this treasure!!

    • Joaquina says...

      Love this, thanks for the link!

  36. laura says...

    this could be seen as weird but…

    does anyone else play ambience videos on youtube while being home these days? they’re so comforting! it’s one of youtube’s rabbit holes, but so good. when working from home, reading, etc, you can play an “ambience” video and be anywhere in the world. there’s a ton of fantasy inspired ones (like from harry potter), but even if you’re not into that, the sounds that accompany them provide pleasant background noise. i suggest checking it out! right now, i have on what seems like a 20s, nyc apartment with a gramophone playing, and it sounds like someone is sorting through papers and cooking. the content creators do an amazing job of recreating other worlds, whether real or imaginary.

    • Britt says...

      I love this – have been listening to white noise to drown out my new office mates. Haha. This sounds lovely!

    • Kimberley says...

      We do! I put them on for my kids mostly, but when I told my husband, he got into them as well. We visit Ambient Worlds to see imagery and soundtracks to movies. It calms and focuses my kids.

  37. Margaret says...

    Please make a Mother’s Day gift guide! I’m super stumped this year and you guys always put together such thoughtful ones

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      for sure!

    • Sasha L says...

      We’re doing the Hero flower arrangement from The Bouqs for mil and a gift card to Duluth Trading Co (great practical clothes + some really cool gardening stuff) for my mom. I’m pretty sure I’m getting nothing this year, and I’m 100% ok with that. I’m just glad both my adult daughters are actually ok right now.

    • Amy W says...

      Yes. How can we make Mother’s Day special especially for the grandmothers who we have no idea when we’ll see again?

    • annie says...

      I’m getting my mom herb growing kits with 9 different kinds of herbs. It’s something she can do indoors to keep her a little busier during the quarantine and I’m sure she’ll look forward to watching the herbs grow and be useful for her cooking.

  38. Kay Lynn says...

    Hello! I went right over to order a pair of those beautiful Nisolo huaraches, but the discount isn’t applied automatically at checkout…at least it doesn’t seem so. Should I reach out to them or do you have any tips? Thank you!!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      thanks for your note! it should apply automatically through the link — i’ll check on this and get right back to you! xo

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      hi kay lynn, the discount link wasn’t working temporarily, so they added a code in the meantime: COJ25 for 25% off site wide! xo

    • Justina says...

      I’ve been wanting Nisolo shoes forever. Does the Nisolo discount code work for the Garmentory too? That’s the only way to get Nisolo shoes shipped to Canada.