Have a Lovely Weekend.

I just got this game last weekend and really enjoyed it. The cards are beautiful, it’s competitive but not attack your friends competitive. Good conversation starters as well as you look at the cards/parks.

https://www.amazon.com/Keymaster-Games-KYM0501-PARKS/dp/B07SVNZXY4/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2CK593YTU2JAD&keywords=parks+board+game&qid=1580125675&sprefix=parks++%2Caps%2C228&sr=8-1

Thanks for the bathing suit post. Those suits were great and it really hit home the reality if I want to good swimsuit I’m really going to have to increase my budget.

Moreover I wanted to chime in on swimsuits in general. I’ve been wearing bike shorts and sports bras for the last two summers and it’s been great. I also added a full body “swim skin” (think of a full wetsuit but made of bathing suit material). I feel so comfortable and unselfconscious. I feel totally empowered to run, bend, play, swim, and USE MY BODY in/near the water. I used to go to the rivers in my town and stand there in my bikini and think “I’m basically in wet underwear in front of all of these people.” Now I I feel powerful. BTW, the body suit swim skin makes me look amazing.

I completely understand the “I love you” link. I’m not one to express love or affection freely in most relationships, but with my preschooler I can’t seem to hug him or tell him I love him enough. I want him to know that I love him, but I also feel like I have to say it all the time for myself. It’s like a pressure valve to release the intense amount of feeling I have for him and around motherhood.

I’m usually a really cheerful person, but once I was having a particularly hard personal week, and a designer I was working for was being pretty terrible, and after a phone call with her I hung up the phone and I just started weeping at my desk (in an office I shared with several other people). My coworkers immediately went in to “Who hurt our sweet cinnamon roll!? THEY WILL PAY!” mode in a way that was endearing and hilarious and instantly made things a little bit better.

Disappointed to see not so much as one sentence wishing a happy Chinese New Year to those who celebrate the Lunar New Year ? this weekend, being that it is the most significant cultural celebration of the year for Asian communities around the world. I know I can’t expect CoJ to be everything to everyone, but after all their efforts to be inclusive to all, including the Asian-American community — especially in the period around the release of Crazy Rich Asians, showcasing writers like R. O. Kwon, etc — I’m surprised that CNY got zero mention here. Representation matters, and it shouldn’t taper off just because the big cultural zeitgeist moment (the release of big Asian-American led Hollywood movies like CRA) has seemingly passed. Heck, even Disneyland is making a huge deal out of the upcoming Year of the Mouse.

To any fellow Asian-Americans reading, may the year of the mouse bring you and yours lots of prospe-Rat-y, health, wealth and blessings galore! Gong Xi Fa Cai! ???

Aaaah, our wedding favor was a bagel & a copy of the Sunday Times for the next day! (we got married on a Saturday night at BAM!)

When I am angry, I am prone to cry, for sure, so, at work, instead of crying or raging at someone (regrets regrets), I immediately open an email, address it to myself, and then type up that strongly worded email-o’-fire to the person who dared to upset me. Sometimes I send it to myself, read it, and then think ‘wow, I am pretty damn articulate in my rage’, hit delete, and move on.

I love these Friday round-ups.

Love the dancing twigs and wish I could buy a poster to hang in our living room. It’s chill and cheerful and quirky.

Also, not sure what this says about the kind of mother I am, but I shamelessly root for one team over another and invite my kids to do the same! Ha!

Oh, and re those hoop earrings from J. Crew, I love ’em, too, and bought a very similar pair a few years ago. BUT, being brunette (with shoulder length/longish hair) I found that I can only wear them with my hair up or they get lost. It’s like the tortoise shell is camo and my hair is a big forest or something ;).

I love Aday! I have a few pairs of pants, and they are flattering but incredibly comfortable (as in, no need to change into sweatpants or leggings at home comfortable). They’re in a kind of athleisure-esque fabric, which makes them practical enough that I don’t bother to change when I get home from work and wear them to take my toddlers to the playground. Highly recommend!

My luggage went to a theme park without me?

We used to have a place on our whiteboard at work that said, “It’s been X days since Parrish cried at work.” Not ashamed of my emotions at all!

I am a nurse and have cried at work more times than I can count! Sometimes out of interpersonal conflict or frustration, and sometimes after being particularly touched by a patient/family/situation. The older I’ve gotten, the more comfortable I feel with letting my eyes well up in front of patients/their families and not necessarily hiding those emotions. I’m sure this is different in other professions and I enjoyed reading other perspectives!

The lactation room at work is pretty much a tear fest on the daily. And what happens in the lactation room stays in the lactation room, there are 7 of us currently using it and often in there at the same time, many secrets have been revealed about job frustrations, spouses/partners, babies being assholes, and the neverending tug-of-war between work responsibilities and parenthood responsibilities. We’re also all on the rollercoaster of postpartum hormones with its ramped up empathy, so one cries, we all cry. No shame, just solidarity.