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Have a Great Weekend.

Obama dancing

What are you up to this weekend? We’re soaking up this summer weather, playing heated rounds of Uno, and eating all the tomatoes we can get our hands on. Hope you have a good one, and here are a few fun links from around the web…

Love Katie Sturino’s celebrity fashion posts.

Japanese schoolchildren ride unicycles during recess. (New York Times)

The best kids’ shirts, hands down.

Fig caprese looks delicious!

Busy women share the TV shows that help them unwind. (What are yours?)

This headline made me laugh out loud. (New Yorker)

My hair used to get super frizzy in the summer, but this magically solved it.

Walking, an easy super power.

Oooh, the curve of this vintage lamp!

“I will never get over this photo shoot of plus-size Asian women.”

Embroidered temporary tattoos.

The teeter totters at the border are incredibly moving.

Plus, two reader comments:

Says Megan on do or don’t: clapping when a flight lands: “In Uruguay, the whole plane erupts in applause every time the plane lands. Who’s going to judge enthusiasm and eagerness to be home? We also clap on the beach whenever the sun sets over the water. Life is hard enough! Let’s celebrate every chance we get.”

Says Olivia on Lulu’s beauty uniform: “I usually read beauty uniforms hoping to learn something that will help me (someone with not much beauty sense and a passel of kids) make the best of what I’ve got. I feel a sense of community in them, because other women’s perspective on beauty often includes the same anxieties I have about my body, the search for magic potions, the long list of things to do to look and feel okay. But Lulu! It felt like she took my hand and said it’s also okay not to bother with all of that. Next time I want to feel beautiful, I’ll try making tea and cake and calling someone ‘darling!'”

(Photo of Barack and Michelle Obama dancing with Malia at a basketball game, 2012, by Alex Brandon.)

  1. Jackie says...

    I’m obsessed with that Murano mushroom lamp!

  2. Bonnie says...

    On frizzy hair … Lorraine Massey who coined the Curly Girl Method loves saying, “Frizz is a curl [or a wave] waiting to happen.” Over the past couple years of going all natural with my hair care products, I can testify to this! Frizz is just a sign we have naturally textured (vs. straight) hair and it’s thirsty for moisture! The game changer for me was actually eliminating products like Color Wow which is loaded with silicone (basically a plastic coating that builds up on hair strands to give the appearance of healthy, smooth, shiny hair) and going with all natural products. It took a while to detox my hair of the silicone and other buildup, but it’s been so worth it!! Now I have no frizz and natural curls and beach waves with no more styling tools. PSA – Innersense Organic Beauty is my favorite natural haircare line. Not the cheapest, but high quality and super concentrated, so a little goes a long way.

  3. Nina says...

    Nothing unwinds me like RuPaul’s Drag Race and a glass of wine

  4. Mimi says...

    How come there are absolutely no photos of Michelle Obama pregnant?

    • Rose says...

      Why would there be? She wasn’t in the public sphere when she was pregnant

  5. I know watching subtitled content is not a way to “unwind” for most people, but I really love Hyori’s Bed and Breakfast on Instant Netflix. Watching this former k-pop idol and her husband turn their home on Jeju Island into a bed and breakfast (along with the help of current k-pop staff!) for people is so therapeutic for me! It makes me feel like I’m on vacation and a guest at their house as well. I’m rewatching it just so that I can write down all the food they eat. And I just love all their interactions with their guests.

    • cg says...

      ^^^^ I LOVE that series!!! They’re so soothing and relaxing. I love watching Korean variety shows, they make me laugh so hard. The best thing about subtitles on video is you can rewind and pause. After some practice, it’s second hand. In fact, I was about 15 minutes into a You Tube video before I realized they were all speaking English but I still had the captions on and was reading it. Hahahahaha!

  6. K says...

    I know it can be seen as “shaming” but it did disappoint me how most of the shows the busy women chose were trash tv. I’ve watched these shows, and for the very most part, like processed junk food, I don’t see any good reason to have them in the world. It’s not reality (tv) if it’s sliced into a story arc, or they play musical cues to tell you how to feel.

    I understand the argument of how one just wants to “space out.” just want a guilty pleasure with no judgement. But I think it speaks more about the culture if we’re so overworked and so emotionally fried or perhaps avoidant that we would rather plug ourselves into this junk than anything else, or how we’re not questioning at all how these shows do insidiously affect the rest of society.

    • Yulia says...

      “A little nonsense now and then is relished by the wisest men.” –Roald Dahl

      I think junk food is absolutely wonderful sometimes. In moderation. Hot, salty french fries fresh from the drive-through window in the middle of a long road trip. A cold, sweet, cherry popsicle at the end of a hard run. A plate of hot wings and a pitcher of beer on a Friday night with true-blue friends. Crispy, creamy, cheesy nachos for a solo dinner when you feel lonely and not a little lost in the world. A fun, silly “reality” TV show at the end of a brutal workday when your heart is tired and your brain is fried. There is great solace and deep comfort in the trivial. Small things are the stuff of life, too.

  7. Ann says...

    Now that I have a 2 year old I get to clap when the plane lands. As someone who is an anxious flyer, it feels very celebratory for me to arrive at the destination. Now my daughter and I clap on every flight. We never end up clapping alone.

  8. T says...

    As someone with a disability, I wish walking were such an “easy” superpower.

  9. MeMe says...

    Yes to the reader comment on clapping on planes. Love it. And so agree!

  10. Ridie Ghezzi says...

    I’m so happy Lulu’ beauty uniform came up again in the comments! She is a total breath of fresh air. I read her interview and felt myself take a large deep breath. She’s got it down, and Millie is wonderful! They are so lucky to have each other. Thank you, Lulu, for sharing ❤️

  11. Rounds of Uno and tomatoes sound like a fantastic weekend! Also, life *is* hard enough! For that reason, I love Megan’s comment about celebrating “every chance we get.” My plans for the weekend include writing thank you cards for everyone that attended our wedding, and now likely picking up some tomatoes. 😄

  12. Kay says...

    I finished watching all the Great British Bake Off episodes Netflix offers yesterday and afterwards I just wanted to sit on the couch and have a long ugly cry because I am going to miss this show so much. The British countryside with soft rain outside the tent, Mel and Sue looking out for the contestants, the contestants being kind to one another with no expectations in return, Paul showing bakers how to knead bread, and no matter how awful the bake looks, Mary Berry would always find something nice to say- a delicious sponge, lovely flavor. In a world that is becoming uglier and uglier by the day, we need a show like this.

    • Claire says...

      I couldn’t agree more. I love Great British Bake Off also. They’re making more episodes so we’ll have it back soon <3

  13. Sarah says...

    Just sitting here drinking my coffee and thinking about how my number one dream would be to read a Beauty Uniform featuring Michelle Obama. Sigh. Wouldn’t that be magical? Any readers out there have some strings Joanna could pull? Hah!

    • Sasha L says...

      Week of outfits would be just super too!
      Also parenting advice…. Advice about being resilient in the face of criticism.
      I love your idea! She must have a BFF that reads COJ right?! 😉

    • Anonygirl says...

      Yes! And a week of outfits!!!!

    • Alex says...

      Or a Meredith Koop (her long-time stylist!) week of outfits ????

  14. Kay says...

    I just finished watching all the Great British Bake off series that Netflix offers and I wanted to sit on the couch and have a good, long ugly cry because I’m going to miss everything about it. The rain in the countryside outside of the tent, Mel and Sue helping contestants out, contestants being kind to one another with no expectations in return, Paul Hollywood’s eyes sparkling when it’s bread week, Mary Berry, even when the bake has gone horribly wrong, will still mention how soft the sponge is or how lovely the flavors are. I wish our world could be a bit more like GBBO.

  15. Laura C. says...

    The lamp is amazing indeed!

  16. On walking: I don’t know if it counts but I recently bungee-corded a plank of wood to an inexpensive treadmill at work and try to walk 30-60 minutes a day while I work on my computer. Aside from the repetitive noise of my shoes/the machine, I love it! Have a great weekend, Everyone!

  17. Natalie says...

    Obsessed with the photo. Made me smile. Simpler times.

  18. Rebecca says...

    I just read an essay by Briallen Hopper about how the first 5 seasons of Cheers are cozy perfection. It made me really want to hunker down and watch.

  19. nadine says...

    I have a karaoke planned for tomorrow night, that New Yorker’s article is spot on! hahah

    • Alice says...

      Someone needs to iron their lamp…a sentence I’d previously have thought improbable

  20. Charlotte K says...

    I am loving two completely different shows right now on Netflix:

    a) The IT Crowd, with the incomparable Chris O’Dowd and similarly hysterical Richard Ayoade as IT nerds (ALL the stereotypes) managed by a clueless young woman. I think I love it so much because once upon a time **I** was that clueless young woman (and the guys that worked for me were as funny as these two
    b) Rita, a Danish series about a complicated and fascinating school teacher. EVERYTHING about this show is complicated and fascinating, her children, her co-worker, her love life, but most of all (if this is representative, and I have no idea) what Danish schools are like! I want to start all over again, going to Danish school!

    • gracemarie says...

      I discovered the IT Crowd in college and still love it! It never gets old. You may have seen Graham Linehan (the writer) in the press though for his recent transphobic comments. It does give me pause. But YMMV. Enjoy the show nontheless! And if you like Richard Ayoade, his show Travel Man is THE BEST!

    • Shannon says...

      IT Crowd is one of my favorite shows. I think Moss may be my soulmate.

    • Nicoline says...

      I’m Danish and I don’t remember middle school being quite as dramatic as in Rita, but who knows what goes on in the teachers’ lounge ;-)

    • Colleen S says...

      I came across The IT Crowd when it was airing on IFC. I have since seen every episode, and still find it uproariously hilarious.

    • Claire says...

      I LOVE The IT Crowd. It’s my go-to show when I’m grumpy or need cheering up.

      And I agree with Gracemarie-Travel Man with Richard Ayoade is so great!!

  21. Lana says...

    I can’t be the only person who laugh/cries every time they see a pic of Obamas, right? Good golly I miss them and am so ready for this nightmare to be over. I know we don’t all agree on politics but can’t we all agree that we miss the joy?

    • Susan Y. says...

      Absolutely!

    • Charlotte K says...

      It actually causes me heart-pain. I can’t believe they were in the White House and now those low-lifes are staked out there. By the way has anyone seen Barron in months? Do they even parent?
      The Obamas kept their girls out of the limelight but we did know they were actually living in the WH, going on vacations, Xmas shopping together, swimming in Hawaii, etc, etc. I miss Michelle’s MOM too!!!!

    • Maggie says...

      Agree.

    • Sasha L says...

      I miss the optimism that they represent. The idea that America was getting closer to living up to it’s ideals. And just the general sense of decency.

    • Catherine says...

      Encourage the Democratic congress to fix the Border situation. And perhaps this time my comment/suggestion won’t be deleted by whoever is screening the responses. #FreedomofSpeech

  22. t says...

    Am I the only one who isn’t totally in love with the border teeter-totter art installation? I can certainly see the joy (a wonderful thing) and the give and take (also wonderful) and of course the beauty but on the other hand it is distracting from the main issues and almost diminishing how serious our border crisis is.

    My question: is it centering the wrong thing?

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      thank you so much for these notes and links. i thought it was a good, loving way to bring attention to the border and help people remember that everyone is human and encourage people, more than ever, to help facilitate/donate/fight for ethical immigration practices. i don’t think it distracts as much as reminds people through even more media attention that this is all still happening and to keep standing up for human rights. but i hear all these points and am thinking deeply about them. thank you!!

    • Colleen S says...

      I don’t have an issue with it. What’s distracting anyone from what is happening down there is the constant diversionary tactics being used by several Republican lawmakers and officials drawing attention away from things that need to be focused on. Trump seems to know that he can remove our attention by pulling some crackpot move. It makes those of us who dislike him focus on that issue, and those who think the sun shines out of his butt laugh because we’re constantly changing our focus onto whatever BS he’s currently pulling. Sorry, this topic gets me riled up.

    • Emily says...

      Came here to make a very similar comment. I personally would feel borderline (no pun intended) arrogant to use it…I can appreciate how it brings people together, but I think it’s also a little tasteless. This border is highly contested, and given our current political climate, it reeks of our privilege as Americans and I couldn’t imagine what it would feel like to be on the other side of that see-saw even if it all is in good fun; the difference in the condition of the ground between the two sides is louder to me than the happy people using it ever could be.

    • E says...

      Lindsey, thanks for centering indigenous voices here. The point that these seesaws imply equal distribution of power was especially meaningful to me. As is the fact that this desecrates indigenous land as much as the wall does.

      I love love love this blog and Joanna, I hope they’ll work on their thinking about this (slash about indigenous experiences more generally). I say that from a place of optimism— I have so much trust in the thoughtful ethics and values that I’ve seen on display in this blog for a decade!

    • Caroline says...

      No, with you on this. It’s purely performative. @vrye on instagram posted on this. Worth looking.

    • CM says...

      The Border Crisis is serious. I can’t understand why people are not demanding better of the Democratic Congress??? Are you afraid to hold them accountable? They are responsible. They have ignored the situation, referring to it as a “manufactured crisis.” Are you clueless??

    • K says...

      Wow, I hadn’t thought of this at all. The links Lindsey provided were eye-opening.

      it makes me think:
      1. yes I agree, it might naturalize something that shouldn’t exist in the first place
      2. do we value art more than people.
      3. are non-marginalized groups’ narratives of the whole thing crowding out other voices (re: the JR article and how he romantizes his vigilantism of having a “picnic” that wasn’t shut down when in reality because of who he is, it wasn’t much of a risk compared to if an undocumented immigrant attempted the same)
      4. It *is* very uncomfortable to see the possible lopsidedness of the teeter-totter, one side is free and able in most of the ways one can be. One side is born to a much less fortunate life with little choice to change it at the moment, especially the babies.

      Thankful to have seen this other perspective.

  23. Abbie says...

    Remember when the White House was home to a lovely family you wanted yours to be like? Where the members smiled at each other and looked like they genuinely enjoyed being together? I felt like that about the Bush family in high school, too. I miss those days.

    • Sarah says...

      Amen to that. I miss both the Bush and the Obama families. I hope we can get back to that soon.

  24. Laura says...

    Let people like reality TV! If you don’t, “Good for her! Not for me.” Let people enjoy things.

    • Heather D says...

      YES! I love trashy reality tv to unwind and relax my brain. No shame here. People need to relax and just focus on what they enjoy instead of tearing others down.

  25. Sarah says...

    GBBO! For an introvert like me, it is so refreshing at the end of a long day to get absorbed in drama that has absolutely nothing to do with messy interpersonal relationships. Everyone else can share their surprise over who went home on the Bachelorette; I’ll just be sitting here, enjoying my light panic when a cake tower looks precarious or someone’s caramel starts to crystallize!

    • Charlotte says...

      Wow, Sarah! That’s a good point! I never considered that introversion might play a role in how much you’re into those kinds of shows. Now you really have me thinking about my TV choices. Thanks for sharing!

  26. Caitlyn says...

    Just found the best show! It’s called Portrait Artist of the Year. It’s a British competition show that selects the “best” portrait artist. It’s soooo good! (I like it more than the Great British Bake Off Show, but I love art so YMMV). There are a bunch of seasons on Youtube (free without ads).

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      Sounds so good!!

    • Jen says...

      Yes i agree, it’s such a good show!

  27. Justine says...

    I love, love, love those embroidered temporary tattoos. If I ever get another tattoo, that is definitely a style I’d explore.

  28. Lindsay says...

    Gosh I’m busy and trashy shows are of no interest to me. Bachelor, kardashians? Since I have little personal time, I definitely try to fill it with quality. Sure sometimes you just want easy, uncomplicated shows but there are plenty to choose from that are not crap.

    • J. says...

      While the Bachelor/Bachelorette franchise might not be the height of sophistication, I don’t think it’s necessarily poor quality or a waste of time. I’ve honestly been impressed lately by the show’s thoughtful handling of one contestant’s experience of sexual assault and seriously believe a lot of young women may have learned some valuable lessons in the latest season about what a toxic relationship and woman with genuine confidence in herself can look like. I also think entertainment aimed at women (shows focusing on dating/relationships, the entire romantic comedy genre, movies with central female characters) are too often written off as fluff or trash.

    • Alice says...

      Have to agree, I do get drawn in though and afterwards feel like I’ve just scarfed. Macdonald’s and now feel a little/lotta bit sick, should’ve just made a sandwich.

      My personal favourite is ‘first dates’, sure, it’s constructed reality television but it’s thoughtfully done and nobody is made the villian.

  29. Charlotte says...

    I cannot for the life of me understand how people find Keeping Up with the Kardashians relaxing! It just makes me think of wealth inequality and how disconnected our society has become from genuine happiness. Give me British Bake Off any day! Finding joy in simple pleasures, that’s where it’s at. Is that just me?

    Also, Michelle Obama– could we have a better example of true grace of spirit? Her beauty and joy is so palpable. Thanks for posting.

    • Adley says...

      Couldn’t agree more with all of the above.

    • Ro says...

      Definitely not just you. I personally love the Kardashians and GBBO, though, and find both shows relaxing for different reasons. GBBO obviously for the slow pace and charm. And the Kardashians because it’s so different from my own life, so it feels like a nice break.

      I don’t watch them and think about their wealth or anything. They’re famous so of course they’re going to have extra money and huge houses. For me, it’s like flipping through a fashion magazine but in TV form… it’s nothing I’d ever buy or have or want for myself. But it’s kinda fluffy and fun to look at.

      Also, the Kardashians have matured a lot since the early days of their show. It definitely used to be more like traditional reality TV, but they’re grown women now. They do lots of charity work and support good causes, talk about their families, and are building careers. The show follows that side of their lives, too, which I really appreciate it.

  30. Jenna says...

    Friends, Seinfeld, Frasier, and Parks and Rec on repeat! Also, Happy Endings for spice and variety. haha.

    • gracemarie says...

      I love Happy Endings!! It is seriously underrated. I could watch it over and over. Jane and Brad are relationship goals! :)

  31. Ruth says...

    I MISS THE OBAMAS SO MUCH!

    • Joy says...

      Yes!!!!!

  32. Erin says...

    Thanks as always for the time and thoughtfulness you put into these lists of links. I wanted to call out that the piece highlighted here called “Walking, the easy superpower” is incredibly ableist. The premise that our brains do not work as well when we don’t walk is very reductive and can be hurtful to disabled people who do not walk. There are many people for whom walking is not “accessible” or “easily woven into every day life.” My jaw dropped at the Nietzsche quote insinuating that people who do not walk cannot have valuable thoughts. I understand that the piece is meant to be a celebration of walking for those who can easily do it, but it’s important to remember that there are many, many people who do not fall into that category and ableist commentary like this frames them as lesser.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      Thank you so much for this thoughtful and important point, Erin. I hear you, and you’re absolutely right. I appreciate your taking the time to write.

    • Anonygirl says...

      I agree 100% with everything you said. Walking is my main mode of transit, besides the bus and ride sharing, and I don’t take for granted that I can manage all of those things on my own.

    • Ellen says...

      It apparently is good for our brains when we weave “white space” into our lives–but it’s definitely problematic to suggest that walking is the only way to achieve that.

    • ANDREA says...

      Erin–please go back and read the article. He’s not insinuating that people who can’t walk don’t have valuable thoughts. He’s stating that walking or physical movement and deeper thinking may have a link.

      It’s not the best argued article, for sure, but I think his larger argument is: 1) our brains are engaged when moving 2) our brains may have evolved to be especially engaged when having to navigate physical movement through a landscape 3) he has experienced engaging in deeper thought while exercising. I would have nuanced his argument a bit to point out why movement and deeper thought is helpful (your body is engaged with something on the surface and your thoughts can wander/do deeper work; you may not be stuffing your mind full of other input/content) and that it’s one way to get there (people likewise have insights when meditating, showering, doing the dishes, driving to work). He’s not stating that you need to be 100% physically able to think.

  33. Chandra says...

    I know we shouldn’t live in the past but I just missing having a, like nice, joyful commander in chief. Regardless of your politics, it’s clear that our current president is just, well, mean and a big bully. Happy weekend y’all in any case.

    • JS says...

      I just finished Becoming by Michelle Obama and that thought was in my mind the entire time I was reading! To the point that I even cried a little about it.

    • ANDREA says...

      Chandra: It’s like your kind and loving dad died and now your Mom is dating a narcissistic psychopath.

  34. Alex says...

    I love the reader comment about Lulu! More beauty uniforms like that please. Maybe you can do @katejbaer (whose poetry I was introduced to by you!). She just posted about not letting weight dictate her joy, in a way that really resonated with me. I think she’d be a lovely person to learn more about and learn from!

    • Adley says...

      Oouu, yes, yes, yes! What a wonderful idea!

    • Madeleine says...

      Yes, yes, yes! Aunt Lulu, thank you, darling.

    • Laura C. says...

      @Alex, Thank you for remember her IG, I didn’t notice her and I like her poetry! And yes for her Beauty Uniform!

  35. Carrie Tipton says...

    Just came here to say–I miss having this lovely, elegant, smart family in the White House.