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Have a Great (Long) Weekend!

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Happy (almost) Fourth of July! We’re visiting my grandmother, and the Cup of Jo offices are closed for the rest of the week, but we’ll be back on Monday with some fun new posts. Hope you have a good one — take care — and here are a few links from around the web…

Love these temporary tattoos.

The Tinder bio for every Myers Briggs personality type, haha.

A serene 400-square-foot studio apartment.

Holy potato salad!

Finding humor in family travel. “Impromptu family meeting about ‘adjusting our mood’ in a corner of the Getty Museum.”

When you’re truly good at your job, you want to hear the ways you suck at it.

Into the Dutch reach. (NYTimes)

For summer beauty, I’ve been walking around with this in my pocket.

Keanu Reeves as every Disney prince.

Three big sales this weekend:
* J.Crew is up to 50% off with code FIREWORKS.
* Madewell is 25% off summer styles with code FIREWORK. (How cute are these?)
* Everlane is having a choose-what-you-pay sale.

A case for throwing away your to-do list. “Once a week I write down everything on my to-do list…Then I throw it out. I figure whatever I can remember from what I’ve written down is what I really have to do, and everything else is kind of bullshit.”

Plus, two reader comments:

Says Abbey on my packing list for our England trip: “After a trip, if I packed well, I take a photo of the clothes for inspiration for the next trip. If I overpacked or hated all my choices, I will take a photo of what I *actually* wore most of the time. This serves as good reference, based on reality, when it comes to packing for future trips.”

Says Jessica on advice for new parents: “1. Humans have been to the moon and we understand quantum physics. If there were one right way to get all babies to sleep all night, we would know it by now. Don’t let anyone convince you they have THE ANSWERS. 2. The other day I asked my mom, who raised three of us as a single parent on a low income, how she did it (I have a partner and a two-income home and I’m struggling) and she responded, ‘Easy — no internet. I just did what I thought I should do, cooked what I thought I should cook, cleaned when I thought I should clean and I had no idea what anyone else was doing!’”

(Photo by Marcel/Stocksy.)

  1. Azlin says...

    Loved the comment on new mums! Can we have more features on how to survive as a single mum or newly/long time divorced mum? Would love to know how all the wonderful women did it ❤️

  2. Kelly says...

    having just returned from family vacation those pictures (and captions) made me laugh and FEEL SO MUCH BETTER! we had, esp on one particular day, many impromptu meetings about adjusting our moods! the release i feel in knowing it’s not just us is just great, thanks for sharing!

  3. lauren says...

    can you provide a disclaimer for nymag pieces like you do for nytimes? their pieces are behind a paywall as well and I want to save my clicks! Thank you!

    • Helen says...

      I would love if you did this as well!

  4. Coleen says...

    The link article on ‘you want to hear the ways you suck at it’, resonated with me. It gives me a new perspective and increases my self-awareness. We are lifelong learners and evolves everyday.

  5. Emily says...

    Yes Abby and her mum, wise words!

  6. LB says...

    I recognize myself in that family vacation story’s older daughter. I laugh yet cringe thinking of all the family trips I (and my little sister, she can have some blame too haha) ruined as kids and horrific teens. Sorry, parents. But thanks for still trying to take us to see the world! It’s appreciated now.

  7. Oh my goodness, Jessica’s comment on parenting advice. It blows everything I’ve ever read, worried about, written out of the park. I want it on a postcard print to hand out to all of my friends! Have a fabulous weekend, Katie x

  8. K says...

    Abbey is next level organized. And Jessica’s parenting advise is Spot On! I don’t even have kids and I appreciate the sentiment. We are all winging it. Happy 4th :)

  9. I always love these lists, Joanna! I am totally going to talk to everyone I know about the Dutch Reach concept. And those Myer’s Briggs dating site profiles were spot-on for both my husband and me. I once heard a joke that there are really only two types of Myers-Briggs: those who know their types and those who don’t. I totally know my type! Wishing you and your staff a great long weekend!

  10. Sanna Nilsson says...

    I loved Jessica’s mother’s quote here. So refreshing.

  11. Rosalie says...

    So surprised when I saw this “have a nice weekend!” post on a Wednesday, totally forgot about the 4th of July since I’m not American! Will you be watching the women’s world cup final Sunday? USA-NL😍(I’m Dutch so I’ll be rooting for NL😄)

    • Sasha L says...

      Better luck next time 😉
      Great game!

  12. Kristy Lin says...

    Omg unrelated to the weekend links but I just watched season 2 Fleabag 2x through the past 2 weeks and I really need to discuss the ending! I need someone to change my mind about it maybe because it’s been really bothering me lol. I’ve been googling reviews and recaps and nobody seems to share my perspective!

  13. Danielle Manson says...

    The Dutch Reach, never heard it by this name, but it’s genuinely incredible. As a cyclist in London and formerly New York, I count myself lucky to have dodged a few near misses with a door. You have to think about doing it for about the first month, after that it’s muscle memory and you never open a door the same way again. Because amazing brain!!

  14. Nataša says...

    Jessica, that advice from your mother is a good reminder that sometimes less is more. I really love it.

  15. K says...

    Had a good laugh at the Tinder bios for Myers Briggs personality types, especially reading the comments. I am an INFJ, and it’s so true that I can have a deep conversation with a stranger but in reality have two friends (although acquaintances often think I’m their good friend). Loyal like crazy to them though! My husband is an ENFJ and the description was so spot on! Cuddly like a teddy bear!

  16. talia says...

    no way jose on the to-do list throwaway. all those library fines and dead houseplants!!

    • Liz says...

      Totally. I would never pick up a prescription without at least one reminder note.

    • Amy says...

      Yeah throwing out my to-do list would make me stressed and mentally scattered. A better option for me would be scratching 1-2 less-necessary things off each day’s list and intentionally saying no to them.

    • Sasha L says...

      My better idea is make to do list, but add to it all the extra stuff you do through out the day, so at end of day you have a monster long list of things accomplished.

      For example:
      Actual To do:
      Make cat haircut appt
      Get ingredients for anniversary cake
      Acupuncture appt
      Lunch date with Joy

      But add to:
      Cleaned stove
      Made bread pudding
      Returned items
      Picked up new sunglasses
      Dog poops
      Dog hike
      Smooches for hubbie

      When you add in the random stuff that list gets way impressive.

  17. Emma says...

    Oh God, the ‘no internet’ comment is SO TRUE. Personally, I think it’s so hard to develop your own instinct for babies now. We’re surrounded by all of these images and information that don’t translate to our own unique realities. The minute I chose to switch off and develop my own instinct, life became infinitely easier. That, and a whole bunch of antidepressants.

  18. sue says...

    That Kate Lewis comment!! It just resonated with me SO MUCH!
    Time to throw the lists away!!!

  19. K says...

    That potato salad looks so much better in pictures. I made it, and I realllllly missed the vinegar like the classic potato salad
    The chips are great though ;)

  20. Char says...

    I clicked on the Everlane link just because I was so intrigued by what in the world a choose-what-you-pay sale would be. I read about it and I’m still not fully understanding the what the deal is. I still have a hard time understanding how $77 covers the basic development and production of a pair of a single pair flip flops. And why someone would opt to pay more to cover future product development and overhead for a for-profit company? Obviously if that extra money was donated to some charitable cause, that would be different. Is anyone else confused by this?

    • Lindsay says...

      Yes :)

    • Heather says...

      One thing I like about Everlane is that they do show the true cost of production, if you scroll all the way to the bottom of each product page. For the flip flops, it says that they spend $21.24 on materials, $20.65 on labor, $4.19 on duties, and $1.40 on transport, for a total of $47.48. So I guess the other $30 is for the development and fulfillment parts of the equation? I agree, it seems strange for a for-profit company to ask you to pay more for a sale item to cover their overhead and future product development – almost like a Kickstarter/CSA mindset.

      If I recall correctly, in the early days, they were transparent about the fact that their retail prices were 2x the cost of production. Then it crept up to 2.5x the production cost, and now it seems to be on its way to 3x, which is a bummer.

  21. Amanda says...

    Thanks for the sale tips! Just got myself a cute summer-y Loft dress for a steal :) Bonus: they are currently offering free standard shipping as well! If that + 60% off isn’t convincing, I don’t know what is!!

  22. Ashley H. says...

    I made that potato salad this past weekend and it was pretty great (and then ate the leftovers for lunch the next day)!

  23. Loesie says...

    About the Dutch reach: I (Dutch) first read about it on a US website. I don’t recall ever having been taught the manoeuvre in driving school (which is almost 20 years ago so maybe things have changed..) plus I had never heard of it before. I read it was designed in our country bc it is so often windy here and the wind just opens your car door like a rocket.
    But for me personally, the professor saying it’s second nature to all Dutch drivers is something I don’t recognize at all. Hubby doesn’t either.
    I do try to use it every time, ever since I read that one article at first. Plus I think it’s a great idea. I just never see anyone else use it here.
    Plus, for a land with so many bike riders, I am honestly appalled by the fact that it is not compulsory for children to wear helmets on their bikes!!! I just can’t get over that.

    • M says...

      I took my driving classes here in NL 16 years ago (feeling ancient) and I was taught the method (although my dad, a very safety-aware man already used it). Same goes for my husband who was taught in a different city. What i believe is most important, however, is it generally being more ingrained in Dutch traffic and infrastructure, maybe also caused by government sponsored awareness campaigns about ‘dead corners’ you have as a driver and that others, especially trucks, have, to take into account as a cyclist.

  24. Joaquinq says...

    THANK YOU for including the “Dutch reach” NYT article.
    We drivers can be way too careless when exiting our cars and in general in sharing the road with cyclists. I like the tip to tie a ribbon around the inside door latch as a visual reminder.

    Also the sunscreen-in-pocket is so timely. Just this morning I started carrying my (Elta MD) sunscreen in my purse. We can never be too vigilant in sun protection.

  25. Anna says...

    Oh my gosh the taking a photo of what she *actually* wore on a trip to remember for next time! So smart, Abbey!!!

    • Loesie says...

      I usually make a sort of shopping list before I actually start packing.
      I used to really dread all the packing, walking around my house and then realizing I needed something from the room I was just in, it took forever and drove me crazy!
      So now I sit down and make a list with what I need. Then when the list is made up, I start the actual packing. Then I cross through things which are in the bags/suitcases, and I put a giant circle around the things that we will still need to add on the morning of leaving.
      Then when I have packed those, I cross them off the list as well and I put the list in the bag.
      Then when we pack up our stuff from the hotel room to go back home, I check that same list to make sure I’ve packed everything back up again.
      Works for me!

  26. Lisa says...

    On the “finding humour on family travel” post – one of the greatest gifts my in laws gave me was showing a video of a holiday they went on with my husband and his older sister when he was about 11 years old. A trip so horrific with fighting that my mother in law still visibly flinches when talking about it. There was this awesome scene (thanks father in law and your devotion to holiday film making!) where my husband is sobbing and complaining to his mom on one street corner, and his sister is on the opposite side, scowling and arms crossed. Funniest video I’ve ever watched

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      Hahahaa love this!

  27. Sisi says...

    Would it be possible to get the recipe for that lovely quiche you posted on Instagram a few days ago. Looks so good…

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      Thanks for your note, sisi! I asked my aunt and she said she picked it up at the town bakery! It has salmon, tomato and green pepper. Was really good and I bet you could add those things to a standard quiche recipe and it would be v similar. Sorry I don’t have a better recipe! Xoxo

    • Sisi says...

      Thanks, Joanna! Enjoy the rest of your trip!!

  28. Hope says...

    omg, I have been waiting to buy the cocoon coat from Everlane for months and I just got it for $100 cheaper!! Thanks, CoJ team! xoxo

  29. Paula says...

    That to-do list suggestion sounds like something Michael Scott would say haha

    Have a wonderful holiday, CoJ team!!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      Hahahaa so true

  30. Lauren E. says...

    An old boss told me the same thing about having babies pre-internet. She said, “My older sisters had kids so I called them, and other than that, I had Dr Spock and my intuition.” Such a novel idea :)