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Have a Great Weekend.

Dinner at the Long Table

What are you up to this weekend? I’m going for a night with a few lady friends to Long Beach Island in New Jersey. I’ve never been! Looking forward to eating cheese and doing puzzles and not parenting. Hope you have a good one, and here are a few fun links from around the web…

Nora Ephron’s amazing graduation speech.

How to keep guacamole from turning brown.

The new romantic comedy Always Be My Maybe looks great.

Help! Trying to decide between this one-piece swimsuit and this two-piece. Thoughts?

Raspberry crumble tart bars.

There are two types of airport people. Which are you?

Oooh, an English countryside honeymoon.

Let go of your grudges. (NYTimes) Reminded me of these wise words.

How to stop being shy in 13 easy steps, haha.

Loved this Instagram caption: “It’s so strange that we make up superheroes when we have women.”

Plus, two reader comments:

Says Emily on 14 thoughtful gifts for hosts: “Years ago, a friend from Chicago visited me for a long weekend in San Francisco. As a thank-you gift afterward, she surprised me by shipping a pack of Lou Malnati’s deep dish pizzas! (Apparently that’s a thing!) To this day, I still think it’s the coolest host gift and such a creative way of returning the favor with a little piece of her city.”

Says Rachel on what has surprised you about your life: “I never thought I would end up with someone who wasn’t a reader, someone who wasn’t as pretentious about grammar as I was. NEVER. What would we even talk about?? But I did end up with him. I married him. And the kindness and love he has added to my life is something I couldn’t have even pictured before. I pictured a snarkier life. I pictured reading the New Yorker side by side and rolling our eyes at reviews. I pictured much more insecurity in my soul. Instead, I got a home where I never question my worth. A life where kindness is king and laughter reigns. Heading to the mountains in our VW van is our favorite adventure. Love has shown up in ways I didn’t know existed, for which I am breathlessly grateful. And I almost dismissed this guy because of his misuse of ‘there.'”

I also loved this smart comment. Lots of love to you and yours. xoxo

(Photo from Dinner at the Long Table by Michael Graydon and Nikole Herriott; more in this post.)

  1. Anna says...

    Rachel, did you mean, “About what would we even talk??”

    (J/k. Lovely comment.)

  2. Amy says...

    One piece suits make me feel like Sally O’Malley from SNL. I feel unstoppable. Like I could roundhouse kick someone without spilling my Pina Colada.

  3. Molly says...

    Long Beach Island, my happy place! My family has been going there for as long as I can remember. Nothing feels better to me than driving over the Causeway on a Friday afternoon, windows down and Bruce Springsteen on my radio (yes, always Bruce when driving to the shore). It’s hard to put into words how much LBI means to me – it’s where I learned to drive, and where I fell in love for the first time. In my twenties, weary from late nights at the bar with my friends, I went to LBI for dance parties at dusk with my nieces and nephews. My husband proposed to me underneath the most beautiful LBI sunset, and years later, I cried as we drove our newborn son over the Causeway for the first time, thinking of all of the memories still ahead for him. A wise man once said “never fall in love at the Jersey shore”, and he was correct. You don’t fall in love at the shore…you fall in love with the shore, and it’s the love of a lifetime.

    I’m a little late to offer suggestions, but I hope your visit to LBI was magical :)

  4. Jackie says...

    Two piece for a confident, strong, stylish mama!

  5. Nicole says...

    Always Be My Maybe was LOL funny. So good.

    And re: Rachel’s comment- this is me! I am a huge reader and a stickler for grammar/spelling. I was always so judgmental of those who misused or misspelled words. And then I met my (now) husband, who is dyslexic. He has never read a full book in his life, definitely does not know the difference between your and you’re, and can’t spell to save his life. But, gosh, do I love him!

    • Nicole says...

      ETA: man, do I miss Nora Ephron. What a jewel.

  6. Nina says...

    What a lovely quote about having a home of love. In law school I had a friend who dated a guy – going to medical school – who was awful to her. And she dated a guy who hadn’t finished college – who cherished her. And I was like “why are you even questioning who you want to be with? the guy who treats you like a queen!”

  7. Laura says...

    I am always, always early for my flights. Like, earlier than I really ever have to be. However, I recently had a connection from an international flight in Newark, NJ, and getting from one terminal to the other and going through security again took forever and I was one of those crazy out of breath people racing through the airport to make it to my next flight! Sometimes you do your best planning but you can’t control everything!

  8. Anonymous says...

    I legit laughed out loud while reading “How to stop being shy in 13 easy steps.” The entire time. Haha!

    Also, Rachel’s comment was really beautiful.

    Thank you for sharing.

    • Danielle says...

      The pizza story!!!

  9. Kari says...

    Always Be My Maybe is SO good!! My husband and I were both laughing out loud (Sasha’s dinner date… omg I died laughing).

    I am somewhere in between the two airport categories. I of course never want to be late, but I hate killing time at the airport. You check in, clear security, and have an hour or more to kill with nothing more than a news stand and an overpriced bar – worst. So my goal is to arrive and reach my gate with just enough time to grab a drink or snack to-go before boarding. I joke that I want to clear security and walk directly onto the plane ha.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      i’m so excited to watch the movie!!!

    • nicole says...

      OMG, the best cameo! Do not google it. Just watch it. So great!

  10. Tamara M says...

    Hi everybody! I wasn’t sure where to post this/ask this (hope this is okay). I’m looking to buy my niece her first ever lunch box! Does anybody know of a good recommendation? She will be starting daycare so I was thinking of something cute and durable.

    Thanks everybody!!!

  11. Mar says...

    Definitely the two pice is more pretty, but anyway, with which one you feel most beautiful?
     

  12. Kathleen says...

    Can I make a request / suggestion?

    I was clicking through to the Zen Shorts link, and also the spring reads post from a few weeks ago, and I notice that all of the links go to Amazon — even though I know you’re a huge lover of local, indie bookstores! Could you consider linking through Indiebound? It will send all of us readers — no matter how farflung — to local, independent bookstores. If people still choose to reroute to Amazon, so be it. But it just might encourage more people to support, or even discover, a local favorite!

    Thanks for considering :)

    • Kathleen says...

      Also, thank you for the book rec (purchased at my local bookstore for my kiddos) and for any link to Nora Ephron (always appreciated)!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      yes, thank you os much for your note! we are striving to do a mix nowadays — for example, the spread reads post had amazon, indiebound and books are magic (our neighborhood bookstore), but will will keep doing more and more! thank you again xoxo

  13. K says...

    Just finished Always be My Maybe! Such a fun rom com. I enjoyed it. Love Ali Wong and Randall Park! They are hilarious.

  14. Veronica says...

    Please tell us you went with the two-piece, Joanna!

  15. that bikini is so cute! And as a guacamole lover, I’ve never heard of the water trick until now, but that’s a game changer!

  16. Mollie Whalen says...

    I think this would really motivate me! I am a late-airport-arriver, and my husband is an early-arriver. I should tell him this fabulous idea :).

  17. Cait says...

    Two piece!!

  18. Kelly says...

    Joanna, you NEED to go to Ferrara’s Island Bakery! Their boston cream donuts and apple fritters are unreal! My mom would always wake us early one day of vacation to get donuts to eat on the beach at sunrise.

  19. R says...

    Get the two piece! My gf has that one (and I have a J. Crew two piece as well) and it looks ~100~.

  20. FGB says...

    Who are these people with leftover guacamole?!

    • Brooke says...

      Haha FGB, same thought here! 🤣🥑🤤

  21. I used to push it at the airport and then I had a terrible experience where I got stuck in traffic and had to rush, rush, rush and they were holding the southwest flight for me and then when I got on everyone clapped for me. It was MORTIFYING and I was totally wheezingly out of breath from sprinting and I just said, never ever again. Now I have a fun ritual to eat a leisurely airport meal at a sit down restaurant once I get through security. Then I go pick out a new book for the flight. It’s infinitely better! Time is an illusion anyway, so I love the peace of mind. :)

  22. Beth says...

    How about a Winki Suit? Two of my close friends (who have now ended up becoming sisters in law!) recently launched their range of swim suits! They have poured their hearts in to making these fun, functional and sustainable suits (they also help support women who have been victims of trafficking!) https://winkisuits.com so many mutual friends have pitched in to test and model and photograph and brand! It’s been amazing to see the process!

    • t says...

      Thanks Beth! I just ordered a suit from them.

    • Beth says...

      I hope you love it T!!

  23. Sarah says...

    Rachel’s comment made me tear up because that’s exactly what I thought when I read that post! My partner is so different from the imagined person I thought I would end up with, but now that we’re here, I wouldn’t have it any other way.

  24. lomagirl says...

    Thank you, Rachel. Your “Reader’s Comment” put your life surprise so well. I, too, married a non-reader – and I the most voracious of readers imaginable. Instead of sharing novels and magazines, I have learned so much about other ways of living- and my life has been enriched with his differences. My sister asked me how I could marry a man who didn’t read- and I didn’t know- but I did it.

  25. Mek says...

    Rachel’s comment moved me so much. I too, pictured my “perfect” life with an intellectual who would match me toe to toe on intellectual pursuits. But the person I got is so unlike that, so real and “earthy”, and I feel so loved and accepted by him. I now picture my imagined life being very clinical.

  26. Shannon says...

    I just laughed out loud through that airport article. I am definitely a type b flyer (and person in general). I get to the airport an hour before scheduled departure and if I don’t make it, then it wasn’t meant to be. And guess what…I’ve never not made it! And my home airport was O’Hare!

  27. Sasha L says...

    I was at a hot springs resort over spring break this year and saw similar two piece suits. They seemed universally flattering on everyone wearing them. My daughter and I couldn’t help noticing how smart those bottoms look. Maybe it’s just that women feel extra confident in such a cute (and practical and comfortable) suit?

  28. Caitlin L. says...

    Rachel’s quote <3<3<3 love it SO much.

  29. Jessica says...

    That two piece is gorgeous!!

  30. Get the gingham! I just bought it and wore it to the beach last weekend. It was a hit!

  31. Mims says...

    I’m all for thoughtful hostess gifts. I think many things that usually make these lists (and many I have been gifted to or from myself) by well meaning guests are actually burdensome, at least to me. I am not interested in flowers or candles, or some tschotke that I then need to deal with. I definitely don’t want pizza (the carbon footprint of flying frozen pizza! I dont even eat wheat or dairy). It’s like giving a box of chocolates on a diet or has diabetes. I try to gift consumables that are local, low carbon (locally made condiment, coffee beans, tea) taking into account the recipients tastes and eating habits. I also like gifting linen dish towels, gift card to local theatre or restaurant. Try to keep the money in the local economy.

    Maybe I sound jaded, as I am purging for a cross country move and so many things going to the Goodwill are things gifted me. I know the givers would feel terrible if they knew there “gift” actually represents a lodestone to the recipient. So just wanting to promote less tangible objects or food gifts that wont get eaten.

  32. Gaby says...

    I love that one piece. Like a comfy onesie and less places to have to sunscreen, lol. Those are great hostess gifts. Recently gave a friend a sweet potato cake from a famous cafe in my city. She moved away a couple years ago and was so happy to have a slice of home. Have a fun with weekend!

  33. Jessica says...

    The incomparable punster Ariel Edwards-Levy – the polling editor at Huffington Post – had a genius tweet the other day saying everyone has an airport/plane personality type:

    E/L = early/late
    A/W = aisle/window
    R/N = recline/no recline
    P/Z = peanuts/pretzels

    I’m an EWRZ. I have no idea what that says about my personality in general, but I’m sure the twitterverse will come up with a whole book about it soon enough!

    • Owl says...

      Lol! So am I! Haha.

      Interestingly, even though I am a person who generally struggles to be punctual (and pulls it off, but through a very conscious effort!), I actually love being early for flights. I love being at the airport, anticipating the flight, watching people come and go … all of it. :)

  34. Patty says...

    The two-piece. It’s going to make you look and feel like a 1950’s movie star!

    I needed the article on grudges today. In my thirties, I find it much easier to do so. I even had my heart broken recently and was able to recover quickly and not hold it against him. But today is the wedding of a friend that I believed I was close with, yet I’m the only one not invited out of our whole group of friends. I don’t really know why since we never had a falling out or anything. All of my friends keep texting me, “Are you going to the wedding?” or “See you at the wedding!” I’m now feeling insecure about the reason behind it and keep making up stories. The truth is probably simple: we’re not *that* close anymore and weddings are expensive!

    So, after reading that, I’ve decided two things: I’m going to make a list of all the things I DO have and I’m going to go for a hike in the woods and release my grudge into the universe!

    • Amber Grady says...

      Hiking > wedding :)

    • Amy says...

      I feel incredibly pathetic about this, but at our wedding we completely missed sending an invite to one of our friends from one of our circles. A total mistake which we realized too late and felt awful about when we discovered it at our wedding, when everyone from that circle was there but her, and when we asked where she was there was a whole lot of awkwardness among everyone while they hesitated to explain. I could blame the hectic weeks that followed as we moved immediately afterwards, but really, embarrassment prevented us from ever explaining it to her directly (although hopefully a friend did), which 10 years later I still regret. This could be the case for you; they simply thought you got an invite and you didn’t.

  35. D says...

    I love Rachel’s comment so much and feel like I could have written it myself. The process of surprising myself with my choice of life partner has been delightful and revealing… I also thought I would marry an intellectual or a poet. Instead of reading the New Yorker together we chop wood and work in the garden. It feels closer to who I am…

  36. Kristin says...

    Wow, that Nora Ephron speech gave me chills! Thank you for that.

  37. MJ says...

    Wow, Rachels comment really speaks to me. One of my big flaws is my tendency to intellectual snobbery. Being priviledged enough to have a good education I was always sure I would end up with someone who has a similar academic background. My SO is an electrician, his grammar is atrocious. But he is so kind and wonderful and in every respect just right for me. He is exactly what was missing in my life before. And he is adorably proud that he scored the “smart” girl. Which is a rather weird sentiment when I am the one who just can’t wrap her mind around what he does each day, I just don’t get electricity, programming and everything that he can do.

    • Cait says...

      This is adorable <3

    • KC says...

      I LOVE this comment. Thank you for sharing, MJ. My SO also relishes in knowing that he scored the “smart” girl (really not that smart, just woke). He adores me and that’s all I need in life. If my heart beats any faster it will explode.

  38. Wow! “porridge with whiskey for breakfast” (from the English countryside honeymoon piece) is a totally new concept to me, but sounds kind of awesome.

    Really love Rachel’s comment too – prioritizing a life where kindness is king and laughter reigns.

    P.S. Get the two piece! It’s so fun, and you’ll look gorgeous in it.

    • The two piece for sure!

  39. L says...

    From out your heart cast every grudge, and let us drink together.

  40. I’m actually going to the movies by myself this weekend which I’m pretty excited about. I used to have this mindset that going places alone was just sad but I actually enjoy having that time by myself from time to time.

    Have a great weekend.

  41. Meghan says...

    I love the 2 piece!

  42. Shannon Gander says...

    I tried that one piece on at Nordstrom and it is perfection!

  43. Kate says...

    Since you have a Nora Ephron link today, go for the two piece swimsuit.

    “Oh, how I regret not having worn a bikini for the entire year I was twenty-six,” Nora Ephron wrote in I Feel Bad About My Neck. “If anyone young is reading this, go, right this minute, put on a bikini, and don’t take it off until you’re thirty-four.”

    Make that 44 at least!

    • Cyn says...

      I was just thinking the same. Rock that bikini for as long as you can!
      Love Nora :)

    • Jo says...

      That particular book of Nora’s is one of my favourite books (I’m starting to understand the ugly neck thing! yikes!) I AGREE: go for the two piece swimsuit Jo! Last year I returned to wearing a two piece at 57 – probably 30 years of wearing a one piece – and wow did I ever feel free!… so I guess I’d say, make that whatever age you feel good about it!

  44. Emily McKinnon says...

    LOVE the 2 piece suit!

  45. Sandhya says...

    Two-piece swimsuit, all the way! It’s totally counterintuitive, but I realized that two pieces give you more latitude to tug and extend wherever you wish on a particular day — whereas with a one-piece, you’re pretty limited, and let’s face it, the so-called “coverage” is anything but.

  46. Wendy says...

    The reversible one-piece is tempting but the two-piece is just too cute! Gingham for the win!

  47. Sheena says...

    I’ve learned to value kindness above all other qualities after many years in a toxic relationship with the things I thought I wanted in a partner. My current partner is so nice and isn’t who I would have normally paired up with in my twenties. Now in my mid-thirties, I just want someone who is nice to me, and kind to others.

  48. Def the two piece! It’s so cute!

  49. I have spent countless summers in Long Beach Island (LBI). As a pre-teen, with my family trying to be cool on the beach with my cousin, talking to boys. And now, as a mom, with my extended family. Cousins and brothers all piled into the same rental now for 5 years. We have built many memories there. I hope you have fun!

  50. Anna says...

    The two piece! I’m a sucker for a retro bikini!

  51. Julia says...

    the two-piece for SURE

  52. Daphne Phillips says...

    Both suits are adorable but I cannot spend that much money on a swimsuit, I don’t know why. I am the sale-table girl, the postseason clearance girl — swimsuits are important but they are like bras — why so expensive??!! This comment is neither here nor there, I’m just bemoaning the state of swimsuit costs. Seriously! Swimsuit and bra people: please!

  53. Anna says...

    The J. Crew swimsuit looks perfect

  54. Kelsey says...

    I just made those raspberry bars, but added 1/2 rhubarb to the fruit mix (because “rhubarb-bar” is more fun to say with a four-year-old) and they were delicious! Horrat for spring and fresh fruit from our CSA!

  55. Anna says...

    I loved Rachel’s comment. So happy for her!

  56. Jemma says...

    I am habitually early for flights. If they say be there 3 hours before the flight, I’m there 3 hours early at a minimum. I have mini panic attacks if I think I will be late.
    I did get to experience the heady rush of running for a plane while traveling from Australia to New York. It requires a connection at LAX where one is supposed to disembark, get luggage from the airline, go to immigration, return luggage to said airline, navigate security and somehow make it back onto the plane. It’s a feat most airlines expect you to complete in under 30 minutes?! In LAX?!?!?
    The last time I did this, our flight into LAX was running late, my jet lagged 2 year old was DONE with flying, and security just couldn’t work out if I needed to do the full body scan or not. It was pure stress. Sprinting (with 2 year old in tow!!) to my connecting flight, with airport staff cheering us on and my daughter laughing at how FUN the whole thing was, I suddenly found that the sheer panic of missing my flight had turned into elation and I was SMILING and LAUGHING as I charged through the gates and onto the plane.
    Having said that, I’d still rather be 3 hours early.

  57. K says...

    Rachel’s comment ❤️ It makes you really think and focus on the good. So so beautiful!

    Also, my vote was for the one piece, loved it! But after seeing the price tags maybe the two piece is better haha

  58. Michelle says...

    Go for the two piece!
    Also I had an amazing friend in college who worked at the Show Place on LBI. Go get an ice cream and a serenade!

    • Eloise says...

      YES!! (“Hallelujah, lemon something, lemon something”)

  59. K says...

    Oh my gosh! That article on airport lateness, I feel so heard! I am punctual, my husband is not. I can’t even count the number of times he has had to run for a flight. His most recent international flight included multiple sprints through airports he lost his wallet, his bag didn’t make the transfer, and he had to get one of those airport buggies to get to his connection on time -I was in Australia and had to order him uber eats to his air-bnb in Canada because he had no wallet!!

    We are planning a trip home in a couple of months – its a 2 layover trip, at least 26 hours travel time and we are taking separate flights. I have leisurely 3-4 hour layovers at each stop… he has 1.5 hours in each stop. We will see who makes it home with all of their stuff.

  60. teresa says...

    Please read Nora Ephron’s commencement speech. It’s both wonderful and horribly prescient….see Alabama, Missouri, Indiana, Louisiana. It ends with a good and heartfelt challenge.
    (Sigh). I miss Nora.

  61. C. says...

    I vote fort the one piece swimsuit!

  62. Kim says...

    I loved the Nora Ephron speech and the Lindy West piece. Thanks for sharing these!

  63. Sabrina says...

    2-piece swim suit is a must!

  64. Lorna says...

    +1 another vote for that two piece! You’ll look fire in it!

  65. I’m still processing all the nuggets from the Nora Ephron 1996 graduation speech. I take so much comfort in, “You can always change your mind: I’ve had four careers and three husbands….you are not going to be fixed and immutable you forever.”

    I am printing a copy for me and a copy for my children. Thank you so much for sharing this.

  66. ND says...

    I LOVE the two-piece bathing suit. It’s very retro in a good way. If I could get away with that, I would wear it! The other one is a bit boring in comparison…I think the nicest gift is something a bit decadent that you know they wouldn’t buy for themselves or bake for themselves. Expensive cheese is a winner!

  67. Rhonda says...

    Reversible one piece?!! Genius. It’s like getting a twofer! So adorable.

  68. Courtney says...

    Go for the two-piece. It’s just special.

  69. Madison says...

    The 2 piece swimsuit!

  70. Katie says...

    There’s a third type of airport person, me. I try to arrive at the gate 15, maybe 30 minutes before boarding.

    I always make my flight, but I cut it just close enough that if there is a wreck, or something is wrong in security, I’m screwed. At the same time, I have just enough time at the airport to use the restroom before boarding and fill my water bottle. I don’t want to wait more than I have to though.

    • Mollie says...

      I am the same way! I have been perilously close to missing my flight- but I have never actually missed one before.

  71. Larissa says...

    I love the one piece swimsuit – gorgeous!

  72. Carissa says...

    I vote for the 2 piece!! I bought it for a recent Bahamas vacation. I was surprised to find the bottoms were a little cheeky, I felt so flirty in it. Can’t wait to wear it all summer!

  73. Liz says...

    “A life where kindness is king and laughter reigns” how simple and powerful and what we should all strive for!

    My vote is for the two piece! Have a great time with your lady friends this weekend, isn’t it so life-giving to be in a group of awesome women?

  74. Shannon says...

    Yes to LBI! My husband grew up there and this CA girl had no ideas what I was missing out on. You must go to…

    Black Eyed Susans in Harvey Cedars (make a reso!)
    Old Causeway in Manahawkin (great any time of the day, get the deviled eggs)
    Black Whale (dinner or happy hour!)
    Parker’s Garage (sunset on the bay)
    Bird and Betty’s (for a good time!)
    The Local (for coffee and treats)

    It’s such a special, special place. Enjoy!

  75. Amy Fallon says...

    I love the one piece suit!

  76. Elisa says...

    Oh, Rachel’s comment is so lovely and real. I too thought I would marry a reader. Books have been my constant and tender companions for nearly 30 years. With marriage I pictured rocking chairs and hot coffee and worn out, well-loved classics. Reading together, being together. But instead – I married a partner who finds joy in music, sports, and mastering new skills. His interests have broadened my world, not limited it. Together we provide a space for the other to honor and cultivate the things that make us “us”. Now, I value my love of reading as something deeply personal and sacred. It’s my own private sanctuary.

    • Angela says...

      Yes.yes.yes. Tell me your first job was at the local library and we may be soul sisters.

  77. AH says...

    I named my daughter after Nora Ephron, and that speech is just a reminder of why I did. TEARS!

  78. Nora says...

    Go with the 2-piece! Live the bigger life! ;-)

  79. Tracy says...

    Ordinarily, I prefer the chic sleekness and sun protection of a one-piece, but that two-piece is so cute and gets my vote.

  80. Patricia says...

    I fly overseas every six months to visit my mom in Brazil. I usually leave to Jfk 4 hours prior to my flight. I like having plenty of time for the ride, checking and what not!
    Once I check my luggage and pass security, I truly don’t care how long I wait. It passes super fast for me. I read, make phone calls and just relax. It is me time. I would hate to be held in traffic or anxious not knowing, if I will make it. It is a long trip and I plan so many things here for my absence and what to do during my stay there that missing a flight is not an option. I do the same thing coming back. I may even lie about the returning flight time, so I don’t have to hear my family comments on how early I like to be. The extra hour or two I stay home (doing nothing productive) is not worth my anxiety of missing a flight.

  81. Mary says...

    What a fabulous speech by Norah Ephron that was. As pertinent now as them. I feel a little better about the trouble I’ve caused now haha. Also both swim suits are gorg but the two piece is extra special. Have a fabulous weekend Joanna! And everyone on the CoJ team and readers! 💖

  82. Nadya says...

    I’m a professor at Wellesley and graduation for the class of 2019 was this morning! The student speaker referenced Nora Ephron’s speech to the class of ‘96. Let’s go make some trouble, indeed!

    PS- Anita Hill was the guest speaker:)

  83. Allison says...

    Love LBI! We go every summer. We stay on the northern part of the island at Barnegat Light. If you’re up that way I highly recommend Off the Hook for a yummy lunch or casual dinner, and the Daymark for a nicer dinner. Scojo’s in Surf City is good for breakfast. Also How You Brewin’ for coffee. Have fun!

  84. Meg says...

    Oh Nora Ephron. I will always love you.

  85. Cynthia says...

    I’d go with the two-piece suit! I’ve always liked gingham. It would look great on you, Joanna.

  86. SJ says...

    Wow, I love Rachel’s comment.

    Also, one piece!

  87. Justine says...

    Ooooh, the two piece! You’ll look like Midge in The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel.

  88. STEPHANIE O says...

    Nora’s commencement speech and the Times article to let go of your grudges. Thank you for sharing these with me.

  89. ANDREA says...

    My husband and I are two opposite airport types. Many years ago he made a deal with me that, if we arrive in time to get a drink, he will always buy me a drink at the airport.

    We have rarely missed a flight since.

  90. Meg says...

    Regarding the “Two Types of People at the Airport” article. I recall a while back when you did a post on Simple Pleasures, I commented that my simple pleasure is being at the airport with enough time to leisurely have a glass of wine before boarding to go on a trip. So I think that tells you which of the two types of people I am! I find travel days to be already exhausting and annoying so I can’t fathom adding an extra dose of stress into that day on purpose.

  91. Alex says...

    That speech by Nora Ephron was at my commencement! We were outside in the Academic Quad on our beautiful campus and it was pouring down rain, and our caps and gowns were soaked, and we still loved every bit of her speech. We’re all still out here making trouble on behalf of women.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      Oh my gosh no way! That’s amazing!!!

    • Angela says...

      Yay! Immediately after finishing I was immensely curious of the women of your class went on to be. Bravo!

  92. Eliza says...

    Slightly off topic but related to Rachel’s comment: I LOVE good spelling and grammar, but I’ve decided I love (most) people more. I decided it was just a jerk thing to do to correct someone’s grammar or spelling unless they’ve asked (i.e. help wording a professional email or school assignment) – and if you’re using someone’s spelling, grammar, or appearance as an insult or a counterpoint in an argument or twitter/IG/FB “discussion”, you really aren’t winning anything. I’m also not an expert despite my love for literary propriety so how can I judge my partner, who never uses any punctuation in his loving texts?

    • Suzanne says...

      This is such a good point! I also enjoy good grammar, but find the over zealous grammar policing comes across very classist/xenophobic. Am I judging someone’s value as a person based on their command of the English language? Seems really silly when you think about it! Great food for thought!

    • Daphne Phillips says...

      This is very true, but I can’t help myself and always correct their grammar. Usually only in my head – I do have some manners! Unless the person is a jerk. Then all bets are off! It doesn’t help that my partner is an editor and professional proofreader and together we eviscerate badly-written menus everywhere (which is a complete joy).

  93. Joaquina says...

    I have problems with that quote, “It’s so strange that we make up superheroes when we have women.”
    Being a woman does not inherently make one a superhero.
    After all, many white women voted for Trump, women politicians vote for anti-pro choice bills, someone like Laura Inghram spews racist tirades in the media,
    and Betsy De Voss is an abhorrent example of a leader in the education political field.
    Trans women, LGBTQI, and women of color are often left out of the narrative about “women heroes”.
    Regardless of gender or sex, anyone fighting (with their voices, actions, and money) for reproductive and civil rights in this nightmare of an administration, is a hero.
    So I implore us feminists to be a bit more picky about who we celebrate.

    • Justine says...

      Signing on to this comment.

    • Jess says...

      This! Thank you.

    • Lia says...

      Amen!

    • Kim says...

      It is just using a compliment for her family member having a baby. I am pretty sure she wasn’t thinking about all of that.

    • Renee says...

      Exactly!

    • Jill says...

      I do not consider myself a feminist but I love ALL women. I am against abortion but I don’t judge any woman who has had one. I think all of our voices matter, not just the ones that agree with you. I don’t judge people on their gender, race or religion. I am a republican. Women can have different viewpoints and still be good, worthy people.

    • Emily says...

      Wow Jill. Love that you commented here. Refreshing to see someone speak like this. I am similar to you in my beliefs, so your words resonate with me. We all needed to hear your voice today, and may we all continue to learn from each other.

    • Caroline says...

      Your point Joaquina is true but I think a little off topic. I believe the caption was referring to childbirth. The post was by a person who was celebrating the childbirth of a family memever. The act of childbirth/pregnancy/postpartum is a beautifully heroic act and endevour. If you’ve ever experienced it first hand, you 100% agree. As a culture it should be celebrated as such. And we should celebrate any and all who who go through the ordeal.

      If the photo was of a white cis woman the caption was simply, “women are heroes” and ended there, yes we could complain and have a fit. But it wasn’t and it didn’t.

  94. Katherine says...

    2-piece bathing suit looks amazing! Do it!

    • Tania says...

      I agree – two piece!!

  95. Amy says...

    I’ve been using that guacamole with water trick for years. Salsa also works great because then you can just stir it in or eat it!

    • Allison says...

      I love the idea of putting salsa on top!

    • Kelsey says...

      Amy, you are so clever! I’m adopting that salsa trick TODAY.