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Have a Lovely Weekend.

What are you up to this weekend? Our friend is having a 40th birthday dinner tomorrow. (It’s happening!!! One by one, we are all turning the big 4-0! Mine’s coming up in January, and I’m just the littlest bit in disbelief;) Hope you have a good one, and here are a few fun links from around the web…

I’m the food expert. But my kids love my husband’s cooking.”

Excited for Ellen’s new comedy special!

An awesome present for kids, if you need a last-minute one.

Is it ever okay to take home the wine you brought to a party? (The artwork made me laugh.)

Psst, my friend says this sex dust really works.

The other day, I gave Anton and Toby sweaters as an early Christmas present. To manage expectations, I told them, “This present is kind of boring, but you’ll get toy presents later!” They ripped open the wrapping paper and flipped out in the cutest way. “I’ll be warm EVERY DAY!” said Anton. “I can’t believe you said this was boring!” said Toby. Their surprising response made my heart swell — and reminded me of this funny video, where a dad gives his kids a banana and an onion to see how they’ll react.

A wonderful interview with Julia Louis-Dreyfus. (New Yorker)

When half the table goes meatless.

My beauty editor friend swears by this.

This story about ultra-marathoner Courtney Dauwalter, who runs 200+ miles at a time, was GRIPPING. Totally worth reading. (NYT)

And congratulations to Jenny on her affordable print shop!

Plus, a reader comment:

Says Kerri on what is romance, really: “On a walk one evening, my 17-year-old boyfriend told me that when his first child was born he planned to wear a suit because that’s what you wear to all of the special celebrations in your life. Teenage me was definitely hoping to be the one to have his babies after that! Fast forward almost a decade, I assumed he would have forgotten but, nope. That tender-hearted husband of mine walks into the delivery room with a tie peeking out from underneath his scrubs.”

Finally, here’s our full holiday gift guide and winter guide to NYC. Have a good one. xoxo

(Photo by James Ransom.)

  1. That reader comment is the CUTEST!! oh my gosh!! What a sweet gentleman!!

  2. Maywyn says...

    Kerri’s birth quote tears me up in a wonderful way.
    Happy Birthday to the 40!

  3. The sex dust is fun! I love Moon Juice products and have purchased many of them. But the magic potion is: maca root powder. You can buy it at Whole Foods and add it to your morning smoothie. It absolutely works! ;)

  4. Kate says...

    Oh my goodness, the reader comment about wearing the suit to the birth of his child *swoon* That is everything.

  5. Isabel says...

    Can we just discuss that Courtney Dauwalter, the ultra marathoner in the link above ran a 238-mile race, which took about 58 hours and…”She said a one-minute nap on the side of the trail the second night of the race revived her and pushed her to the finish.”

    People amaze me!!

  6. Judy says...

    Loved this quote from the Louis-Dreyfus article in the New Yorker:
    “When you have children, which is in so many ways a glorious endeavor, part of it is about constantly separating. Even when they’re born-I remember thinking, Oh, God, I miss that movement in my body. And from there on that story continues: they crawl away from you. They go to school, It’s a constant. Separation has been a theme in my life, something that I’ve really struggled with.”

  7. Anon says...

    I am not sure if you ever covered opposite sex friendships.. I think that will be great topic to discuss under relationships.
    It would be interesting to know how people navigate these friendships after marriage and kids etc..basically after college

  8. Katie says...

    Awww you ahould do a post on 40th birthday celebrations

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      yes!! will do :) :) :)

  9. jane says...

    YOU NEED TO WATCH the “Books for Christmas?!!?!?” YouTube video……. where the parents give the kid books for Christmas. He flips out. It’s hilarious and amazing – so funny. They post another video 1 year later :) to capture his reaction 1 year later :). Here’s the original: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sv4Hpz-GI3g … Here’s the 1 year later: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qcDPnTqiocM :)

  10. Sasha L says...

    The dinner a love story post about finding happy dinners for all the various eaters in a family made me smile. It’s tough isn’t it??

    As a vegetarian I would advise against serving something like that yummy taco pie to vegetarians unless you know for sure they would be ok eating a pie that had pork in it, even though their piece doesn’t. It’s a bit like picking pepperoni off a pizza. I’m sure lots of people would be fine with it, but I wouldn’t. And I also would find it awkward to explain why if someone expected it to be ok for me (and honestly, bless them for being thoughtful). It feels rude for me to explain to a group of meat eaters that I find meat repulsive and won’t touch anything it has touched. Even though not judging their choice, it sounds very judging to others and creates awkwardness. If I was cooking, I’d just make two smaller pies in separate dishes.

    • Jenna says...

      I agree with this advice completely! Its just a difference in experience and opinion for most, but as a vegetarian I also am not thrilled to eat something where I “picked the pepperoni off”, so to speak, but I’d also never refuse and create a fuss (and those meals are served with the absolute best intentions!)
      Some moments in life when I’ve felt most loved or thought of is when someone prepares a smaller meatless dish for me, or orders something I can eat off the menu. The first time I met my boyfriends sister, we traveled to her house where she had ordered food in. The restaurant was known for its famous bacon fries, and she instead ordered us all fries without bacon. Such a small thing, but I could’ve started crying on the spot!
      Food is a bit of a love language for me :)

  11. Lakshmi says...

    My 40th is in January as well. :) So many friends celebrated their 4-0 birthday this year.

  12. Katherine says...

    I have a friend who has wrapped up a potato for his kids for Christmas every year for about ten years now. It’s partly just the kind of sarcastic thing you’d expect of him, but then every year they DO something with the potato, like making stamps, cooking, growing a plant from it… It’s both exactly his sense of humor and also very sweet.

  13. ewlake says...

    Wow! I never expected to find a shout-out to ultra running on Cup of Jo! How cool! Yes, Dauwalter is The Bomb.

  14. Amanda says...

    Regarding that pottery wheel gift idea for kids, please don’t. Every one I’ve seen has been junk. I got my first one 25 years ago as a present and it had such a weak motor that nothing would really work with the eager dry clay included in the kit. Ten years ago, as a college student, I got nostalgic and bought one. Giant fail again. These things don’t really work. Want to enchant a crafty kid? But them a few packages of Crayola’s Model Magic (light weight, air drying) or some sculpey or FIMO (heavy, oven baked), or even better, clay that turns into an eraser after being baked, like this stuff: https://www.amazon.ca/Sculpey-6130-Amazing-Eraser-Ounce/dp/B00CO9MUPI/ref=asc_df_B00CO9MUPI/?tag=googlemobshop-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=292998552471&hvpos=1o2&hvnetw=g&hvrand=12958280726424762130&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=m&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9001397&hvtargid=pla-318948961819&psc=1 . Crafty kids will love it!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      these are great suggestions!! we got the pottery wheel for anton this summer and he LOVED it. he spent a month making bowls and vases :)

    • Sasha L says...

      My preschool kids (18 months-5) play with homemade playdough more than any other lesson, by far (ok, sleds might be a very close second right now).
      https://www.mckenziesfoods.com.au/recipe/playdough/
      This recipe is so easy, always turns out and is open to endless variation (I never put in the food coloring). I usually make a half batch at a time.
      We do seasonal: for summer, knead in dried rose petals or dried lavender or chopped dried rosemary. For fall, cinnamon and other pumpkin pie spices. For winter, peppermint essential oil, or pine or eucalyptus oil. To go along with the play dough, a small wooden rolling pin, some cookie cutters, cinnamon sticks, star anise, acorn caps, glass stones, shells and tree cones for making imprints.
      Right now the children love to cut out tree shapes in peppermint dough and decorate with fancy gold and silver buttons.
      This dough doesn’t get moldy and lasts a really really long time. I keep it in left over talenti ice cream containers, doesn’t have to go in fridge.
      Playing with play dough is great for sensory input (especially if you make it scented), open ended, helps with proprioception, hand strength, fine motor skills, cooperation (pass me the roller please!) and even clean up is fun. Children can use a little dust pan and broom to tidy up and make sure all the bits and pieces go in the right baskets.
      A little set of dough and a few fun items to go with makes a wonderful gift for a little friend.
      I’m a play dough evangelist 😉

    • Whitney Morrison says...

      We got this one for my 8 year old daughter and she was over the moon! she has made a lot of great creations out of this one!

  15. Jules says...

    I turn 40 in January too! Are you doing anything to celebrate??

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      yes! having my female friends over for dinner — and hopefully a magician! :) we will see haha.

  16. Amy says...

    I am so in love with this list. Maybe my favorite ever. Sweet Anton & Toby warmed my heart & then the onion/banana video is in my hall of fame of best things on the internet. Kids are just the best. I remember when my Lila was three, I put a small bag of Cheerios in her stocking & when she saw it she said “It’s truly wonderful!” I teared up a little because mine are big now (14, 11) & I miss those sweet little voices so much. But they’re still the best & always so appreciative of gifts.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      awww the sweetest :) :) :)

  17. Bonnie says...

    That tie beneath the scrubs made this pregnant mama tear up! How sweet.

  18. Sheryl says...

    We gave a small point and shoot camera to our 6 year old daughter for Christmas last year. It was one we hadn’t used for a few years and so we wrapped it up in a small lemon pie filling box. Upon unwrapping the gift, she exclaimed “pie! I love pie! What a great gift!” It warmed my heart that she was satisfied with a box of pie filling! (We had to encourage her to look inside the box. Ha.)

  19. anna says...

    yes that blush is amazing. Just a teeny dot on both apples will do ya. I take the extra from my finger after blending and run it across the bridge of my nose. It’s a trick I picked up from the beautiful Alex Noiret.

    I HAVE to add though that the Dr. Perricone eye shadow is my hg makeup product. It is easy and lovely.

    I prioritized buying back ups of these two items for myself this black friday.

  20. diana k. says...

    So excited for the Courtney Dauwalter piece. She did a podcast on Joe Rogan about her experiences with ultra marathon running that left me speechless, she is so down to earth and inspiring.

  21. Kristie says...

    I just wanted to say thank you COJ team, I love these weekend links. I open them in new tabs and go through them slowly over the weekend, knowing that I have to wait allllll weekend until more COJ posts! I’m always saying to my friends Oh I read this interesting thing, or did you see that … They think I’m so well read, so thanks for that!

  22. Karli says...

    This seems like a particularly awesome week of lists. I hope the boys are cosy and warm x

  23. Thank you, friend! SO thrilled you shared our print shop here. What a wonderful way to start my weekend. I love how supportive you are of other women. Long live Cup of Jo! xo

    • Sasha L says...

      Jenny, everything in your shop is absolutely amazing! I don’t know how I’ll ever choose, but saving your shop for next time I need a gift. It’s a candy shop for my eyes.

    • Joanna says...

      What a delightful find! I am ordering digital downloads right now for some last minute Christmas gifts, and an engagement gift I needed to snag!

  24. Nicole says...

    Oh my goodness that romance story has me tearing up in the back of my Lyft. <3

  25. Claire says...

    So I want to see these sweaters!

  26. Julie says...

    Years ago, I believe it was for your 34th birthday, you shared that a woman said to you, “34. What a beautiful age.” I think about that for each birthday that passes and feel grateful to have lived another year, every year.

  27. Cara says...

    Someone recently showed up to our house for a dinner party and we asked everyone to BYOB (we had beer & wine and hosted all of the food, of course). I answer the door and he says “I have some beer in the car, do you want me to go get it?” It was so. awkward. Don’t do that. Don’t be that guy.

    • Sarah K says...

      That is so awkward!! What did you even say?

  28. Sex dust, huh? Sounds interesting. Thanks for the tip, Joanna!

  29. Katie says...

    Complete swoon over Kerri’s comment!

  30. Jewel says...

    That’s the sweetest quote!

    (Horny goat weed is one of the ingredients in sex dust and about $10-15 per bottle on amazon.) I used to work in a natural foods store ages ago and a LOT of people (mostly older men!) would swear by that stuff.

  31. Mallory says...

    That is romance! Tears welling.

    • katie says...

      Seriously. That warmed my heart. What a wonderfully sweet story.

  32. Alexandra says...

    I could listen to that little boy say “a banana!” all day long.

    What a sweet reminder that little kids don’t have much in the way of expectations for the holidays and can still be utterly delighted by the littlest things.

    • Carrie says...

      I just came here to say that!! “A ba-NON-a!” Gah, I’m smiling ear to ear after that one.