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How One New Yorker Created Her Solo Living Dream Pad

Haley Nahman house tour

Man Repeller editor and cheese enthusiast Haley Nahman shares a one-bedroom apartment with her cat, Bug. “People are constantly like, WHERE’S THIS COOL SHELF FROM, and I’m like, it’s literally Ikea,” she says. “The trick is just making it fit in with the rest of your stuff.” Here, she takes us on a tour…

LIVING ROOM:

Haley Nahman house tour

Sofa: Interior Define. Coffee table: Houzz. Media console: vintage. Chair: Nova. Rug: West Elm.

On debating moving in with a boyfriend vs. living solo: My boyfriend’s lease was up around the same time as mine, so the idea of moving in together came up very organically. Debating whether to do it felt like one of those memorable fork-splitting moments. On the one hand, I’d long dreamt of living alone and now finally I had the chance; on the other, the cohabitation path offered more excitement and financial appeal. I went back and forth a lot — I was so drawn to the romantic choice! — but when I listened closely, I could hear a more honest internal whisper, begging me to honor my newfound independence. And, after learning one too many times what it feels like to ignore that whisper, I decided to listen.

On moving in: The decision felt anticlimactic at first, but once I got the keys to my new place and lay on the empty hardwood floor, I wanted to scream with joy, and maybe did.

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Sofa: Sloan in Sapphire Mod velvet. Flurry pillow nicknamed Benji: West Elm.

On a velvet sofa: I spend most of my time on the couch when I’m home, and it’s so comfortable I whine to nobody for three minutes whenever my life or job demands I leave it. I love sectionals so much I will squeeze one into even the smallest of spaces!

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On hanging bags on the wall: When I first moved in, I had tons of wall space, a bunch of bags, and very little art. I told myself it was a placeholder, but of course it wasn’t. (I’ve moved about 10 times in the last ten years and can confirm: It’s never a placeholder.) But so far I haven’t minded. I love how they give my walls dimension and that I can change them out easily.

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On fairy lights: I feel so cheesy for having string lights! But I keep buying them from Amazon anyway. I’m an ambiance junky — I will literally cook in the dark just to preserve a vibe — and nothing beats the warm, diffused glow of patio lights. I put them up everywhere and avoid turning on overhead lights at all costs.

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Bookshelf: Ikea.

On trusting your gut: I didn’t decorate intentionally with this apartment. In past homes, I found interiors I loved online and copied color palettes — this time, I didn’t look for that stuff. I wanted my decisions to be informed only by what felt right in the moment. So, this apartment has a much less distinct interior design point of view, but the hodgepodge feels true to me.

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Desk: Floyd. Chair: vintage.

On home scents: My favorite candle is Tree House by Byredo, which I got as a housewarming gift from my best-smelling-friend Steph. It’s pretty much gone, so I need a new cozy house scent! Taking recs.

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On the poofiest companion: I got Bug almost four years ago with an ex-boyfriend when I lived in San Francisco. One move to New York and a sad breakup later, it was just the two of us. Fortunately, taking a cat on a cross-country airplane was a breeze in that it was not at all. But we made it! I tell him he’s my favorite cat every time I leave the house even though he’s never said the same to me. That’s love.

KITCHEN:

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On hosting friends: Whenever I have people over, I always assume we’ll watch something, but then I get overzealous with snacks and drinks and we end up just talking instead, which is probably more restorative anyway. I love crackers and cheese. (Have you heard of crackers and cheese?!!) I’m also a kettle corn freak, and I like to get Tate’s cookies.

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Shelf: Urban Outfitters. Vase: Group Partner. Art: Sofia Bonati.

On a friendly neighborhood: I live in Bed-Stuy, an old New York neighborhood filled with tree-lined streets and families that have lived here for generations. I’ve found everyone to be so inviting and communal, and I do my best to respect what was here before me. It’s far from my office, with a 45-minute commute that regularly makes me stress-sweat, but I wouldn’t choose differently.

On the apartment’s quirks: The comically awkward position of my kitchen sink; the way all of the doors swing shut or open (whichever is the opposite of what you want); how the seal of my windows don’t quite work such that I can hear, at full volume, any conversation going on outside. But honestly, I can’t complain.

BEDROOM:

Haley Nahman home tour

Bed: Floyd. Bedding: Parachute. Shelf: Ikea. Bedside table: Costzon. Table lamp: Ikea. Planter: Mkono. Rug: vintage.

On neatness: People are always asking me about how I keep the shelves so neat! The truth is they go in and out of tidiness, but I’ve found that having them central to the room motivates me to not let them get out of hand. Clothes appear to multiply when not squished in a drawer. My carpenter friend Danny built the shoe shelves by my bed. They make me feel less like I’m sleeping in a closet.

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Swimsuit art: Permanent Press Editions.

On a bedtime routine: Shower, five-step skincare routine, brush, floss, mouthwash, bed, book or ASMR video, sleep.

On a good book: I recently loved the novel How Should a Person Be? by Sheila Heti. Lots of highlighting.

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Dancing art: Leah Reena Goren. Side table: Ikea. Mirror: Ikea.

On self-discovery: This has been a great opportunity to learn more about myself. If you’re the type of person who has molded your personality around how the world reacts and responds to you, living alone gives you the opportunity to exist in a vacuum. I eat weird snack combinations and talk to my cat about how our days went and what it’s like to never get to go outside. I’ve learned a lot about myself as a person. If you have the opportunity, it’s worth exploring.

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Thank you so much, Haley!

P.S. On living alone, and more beautiful home tours.

(Photos by Julia Robbs for Cup of Jo.)

  1. KAT says...

    OMG I LOVE HALEY! I am so happy you featured her here and we get to see her cute digs (for the cutest gal!).

  2. jacey says...

    I LOVED living alone, and will do it again as soon as I can leave this horrible relationship! Break up account closing in on activate!

  3. Judit says...

    Haley talking to Joanna is the most comforting match of my favourite writers ever! I would love to read more interviews with her and vice versa! 💃🏼

  4. Heather says...

    It just looks like that’s the cat that *should* be her cat, you know?

  5. Lea M Sanders-Wilcox says...

    I have the same exact sofa and I love love love it (their customer service was phenomenal too)! It was my first purchase when I made my own solo home after separating from my child’s father. I love my home and it is exactly me.

  6. Kate says...

    the house looks nice but the fact that shoes are inside the bedroom, right next to the bed always strucks me so hard!! not just the smell, but all the dust and dirt that shoes carry.. and you breathe that air throughout the night.. Hope she cleans the shoes as soon as she comes into the house!

  7. Bianca says...

    Hello Hayley, Cup of Jo lovely ladies and all the awesome readers, I love this blog, it is a really nice place and look forward to reading the comments. As some have said if you can live alone at some period of your life grab the experience with two hands, you will learn a lot! I always craved to live by myself and was able to at 26 (I am now 41!!!!). I didn’t set out with this as my long term living arrangement. I had some dreams of finding a nice partner and having kids. I adore it and as the years roll by I have accepted that I am a single lady and a happy one, that such a thing does exist and it is okay.

    • Allison says...

      I’m a little different (I always knew I didn’t want marriage or kids) but I share your joy in having my own place. I often walk through my apartment, with the decor arranged just the way I like it and the temperature set to exactly what I want, and take a deep breath and listen to the quiet, and glory in the fact that I live alone. I love it so much. Sometimes I say out loud, “I love living alone SO MUCH!” I just said it last night actually. I love to visit my friends and family and enjoy their company, but when I return home it’s like coming back to my own little sanctuary.

  8. Claire says...

    I like that velvet sofa. And Bug.

  9. Katherine says...

    I particularly love the home and fashion tours of these women because they have great style and they are so confident. If you looked back on my home decor (or outfits or makeup) from 10, 5 (LBH even 2) years ago I would be first horrified and then shocked at my own evolution. But the women you profile seem to have timeless taste and – more importantly – take pride in their choices. Rock on!

  10. Kiely says...

    Not in a weird way, but definitely in a real way, I have gone down a rabbit hole checking this girl out since this post. Her apartment (!!), but also her style. Good god, goals (GGG, for most Coj house posts).

  11. Panda says...

    Love her watch!! Any idea who makes it?

    • Haley Nahman says...

      It’s Casio! You can get them for like $20 on Amazon!

  12. Lo-lo-loveeee her apartment and so excited to find out she lives in Bed-Stuy! SO DO I!!!! And I love it here. Actually, I just opened a cafe in Bed-Stuy with my boyfriend, called Skål (www.instagram.com/skalbk). Haley, Joanna and everyone else should come by <3 <3 <3

  13. Courtney says...

    Home scent rec: patchouli & amber by Detroit Rose. Also, her instagram is amaze. Also, she’s my sister and an amazing human / female small business owner.
    :)
    https://www.detroitrose.com/candle/

  14. Jaime says...

    Omg where are those pretty grey felt storage bins from? Need!

  15. Abesha1 says...

    I like the open shelves, but my hands are itching to go organize those clothes by color… hahahah

  16. Jo says...

    Would the intel on her amazing jeans be possible?!

    Also, please do a week of outfits with Haley! Love, love her!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      i’ll ask her!

    • Joaquina says...

      Pro tip: Agolde jeans, made and designed in L.A., have super cool distressed, high waisted styles! Also vintage Levi’s, similar to hers in the photos, are sold at Anthropologie. I highly recommend Agolde’s jeans despite the higher price point. They have 100% cotton which is my preference. I am not affiliated with them in any way, I am a jeans enthusiast and spread the gospel about pairs that I fall in love with!

    • cam says...

      I think they’re by Moussy. Pricey, but one of the only companies I’ve seen that nails the vintage Levis wash/distressing. Remember reading about them on Man Repeller, I think?

  17. Steph says...

    Beauty routine and week of outfits please! I adore her style and cheese and crackers!

  18. K says...

    I can so relate! I love living alone ( with my cats)! The only sad thing is that it took a really shitty ex-boyfriend to discover how awesome living alone is. I had always been scared of living alone, thus had always shared with my boyfriends or once with roommates. My last boyfriend was so unbearable in the months before we broke up that I felt such a huge relief when I moved out and into my own flat. Never looked back. Love Haley ‘s story and all the amazing and helpful reader comments about cat litter boxes :D

  19. K says...

    I always wanted to live alone! Never did. I’d be good at it though.
    I love to coziness of the apartment and I think I need open shelves for clothes instead of a dresser.

  20. Julie says...

    Loved this tour! I got married young, and never had the opportunity to live on my own. While I’m extremely happy my husband and I got together when we did, I’ve since wondered what it would have been like to have my own place and what that sort of independence would have felt like. Good for her for following her inclination to live on her own!

    • Margaret says...

      I’m happily married woman with 3 kids and I’m literally wondering how I could have that moment… but of course love my life. I guess I’ll live vicariously through my kids one day! Ha ha …

    • Meg says...

      Also named Margaret. Also have three kids. Also wondered how I can swing living alone at this point – just for a moment!

    • Anne says...

      Same!! Except my name:-)

  21. Nina Nattiv says...

    I am so happy you chose to live alone! I always assumed I’d be married by my mid twenties. Then I graduated from grad school- single- and decided, finances be damned, I was going to live on my own. It didn’t occur to me until about a year later how happy I was. Now I’m married with kids and I am so grateful for that time. Just being able to decorate without considering someone else’s input is so freeing! And your place is beautiful!

  22. Kristina says...

    Its so helpful for me to read about Haley’s experience and to see all the lovely reader comments on the joys of living alone. I’ve recently separated from my husband and am living alone for the first time in my life in a space that he and I previously shared. I dread going home after work and have been doing my best to stay busy so I don’t have to spend time alone in my apartment. It’s all terrifying right now, but I know in time I will get to a place where I can make the apartment my own and enjoy the solitude and quiet. Little rituals (palo santo/morning yoga followed by coffee/reading) have helped tremendously :)

    • Laura says...

      Same! Solidarity. Sending you warm wishes as you transition.

    • Becca says...

      I also just began the divorce process and am living with a roommate – but feeling ready for my own place in the near future! <3 we've got this, here's to new and brighter futures.

    • Nadege says...

      been there. it’s hard, but it gets better. Move the furniture in every room. Create new alignments. Take down/put away the things you never really liked and let there be open space. little by little you’ll fill that space with your own things, your own colours. ask friends to make you new playlists so the place sounds different. bring a new scent into the space whether a new dish soap or deodorant, something new. buy a fucking huge plant. it gets better.

  23. nas says...

    Living alone was quite honestly the best thing I did for myself in my 20s. I bought a house (in Atlanta – super affordable) with a fenced-in yard for my pup, Blue, and we lived there, just the two of us for 2 years before meeting our very favorite human, my now-boyfriend (on tinder – Blue was also on my profile) and moving cross country (to NYC) together (me, man, dog) after almost a year of dating. Most liberating two years of my life. I’d previously lived with a partner and moved out on my own following our breakup, so it was a time of immense growth, learning, growing into my own skin, sitting with myself, feeling lovely, sometimes feeling lonely, dating lots, watching Friends re-runs on repeat, and eating Japanese sweet potatoes every freaking night because they are so delicious. So happy you got to do this, Haley!

  24. Amanda says...

    I love that she chose to live separately than move in with her boyfriend. A sense of independence is so important! I’ve always lived with someone in my adult years, and while I love my husband dearly, I wish I had lived on my own at some point in those early years.

    I highly recommend the Embers scent from Pickwick & Co. candles, especially for the colder months (https://pickwickandco.com/). It smells like the fireplace and the holidays without being too strong.

    Also: Bug is adorable.

  25. Nina says...

    so I don’t really like the feel of velvet clothing but…the couch…I kinda want one.

  26. “And, after learning one too many times what it feels like to ignore that whisper, I decided to listen.” <3

  27. J.D. says...

    I love the bag trick – looks intentional + cute – I must do this too! also love the notes about living alone :)

  28. Christina says...

    I love this apartment tour! And Bug – so cute. I tell my dog, “I love you the most” every day as I leave the house. My boyfriend called me on it once, and I told him it’s because I will always pet any dog I meet (thereby bringing the scent of other dogs home), so I want my dog to know I love her the most. (It’s also because I love her more than him, but that’s okay too. Animals don’t live as long as humans, so they need more of our heart while they’re here.)

    • dana says...

      I always tell my pup that he’s my soul mate and kind of wonder what my husband must be thinking. Now I have a rational explanation if it ever comes up: “Animals don’t live as long as humans, so they need more of our heart while they’re here.” Plus I just love him the most.

    • Maggie says...

      Oh my gosh, I love this so much. I tell people that my cat is the light of my life and I feel people thinking “Uhhh, what about your boyfriend?”

  29. Meg says...

    I feel so maternally proud of Haley creating an indepedent woman nest for herself! I did the same for myself 15 or 16 years ago, but I don’t think I relished that moment in time nearly enough. Reminds me if the slices of happiness post – we need to luxuriate in the places and times that give us pops of joy. I look forward to seeing my young daughter make her own nest someday too!

  30. Lauren E. says...

    I met my husband when I was 25 and so broke, so I was never able to live alone. We moved in together after only a year of dating (thanks, NYC rent!) and I always say, he is by far the best roommate I’ve ever had. He is so clean, respectful, fun to be around, and gives me lots of the alone time I crave. I’d love to have lived alone at some point (and now I hope I never do…) but I feel like I have the best of both worlds now.

  31. loved everything about this and her.

    Favorite cozy home candle, found while away at the best ever mountain retreat in Hunter, NY, Scribner’s Lodge, Amber & Smoke by Paddywax.

  32. Abby says...

    Haley – if you are reading this would you kindly share some links for the ASMR videos you recommend/enjoy the most? Thanks!

    • Franny Eremin says...

      Hi Abby! Haley said she enjoys Peaceful Cuisine. xo

  33. Abby says...

    A lovely post, and like everyone above, lots of love to Haley (a beautiful, warm writer, so good at putting words to all sort of slippery & important feelings!!). I know it’s a bit personal, but I wonder if these posts could include how much people pay in rent? Living alone is such a dream of mine, but it just seems like it will never be financially viable, and I love to know what people are paying per neighborhood just to add that extra bit of realism!!

    • Sarah says...

      I did a Craigslist search for one bedrooms in her neighborhood, Bed Stuy, and they are about $1800-2000 per month for a one bedroom.

  34. Hannah says...

    Haley!! Love her writing so much and love to follow her on IG. Thanks so much for featuring her and would love to see her writing here sometime!

  35. I love that she chose to live alone versus move in with her boyfriend! Strong choice. And she is hilarious.

  36. Liz says...

    this was my favorite apt tour so far!! love it!

  37. S says...

    Love this story and her beautiful apartment!

    I moved to NYC after a breakup and lived alone for 2 years in an adorable (yet tiny) apartment in a brownstone on the UWS in Manhattan, with 2 cats in tow! It was an incredible time of freedom, self-discovery and awareness and learning the importance of alone time (+ learning to cook in a mini kitchen and the luxury of just having cereal for dinner!!)

    My grandmother gifted me antique bronze candlesticks, so my ritual was to come home after work and light the candles on my mantle, even in the middle of summer! The glow of candlelight in the evenings is so peaceful and restorative. Now , I happily live with my fiance and all of the chips fell into place at the right time. We fell in love in my old apartment and had many memories there together. I highly recommend everyone to take the opportunity to live alone for a period of their life as it’s an amazing experience that you will never forget, and then the next steps in your life will unfold as they may!

  38. Sandra says...

    I love that she followed her gut and lived alone. I spent many years in my 20s and 30s living in a tiny 11 x 17 studio, and it is the best thing I’ve ever done. You learn so much about yourself by living alone. And I’ve seen way too many people fall into marriage just because you’re already living with someone and you get to be the “right age” and meh, it’s easier than moving out. Now I live in a house with my husband and son and I love that too. But I look back on those single days with a lot of fondness. I also remember some lonely times too, which make me remember to appreciate my husband and son even when I’m kind of annoyed.

  39. Sarah says...

    The solo life is such an essential one. After years of living with roommates and my boyfriend (because solo living is nearly impossible in the Bay Area due to cost), I finally had the opportunity to live by myself last year during grad school, before my husband and I got married. Over the six years of our relationship, I had a very real fear that I had lost myself once with him. Without his companionship, what was *I* like? What time did I go to bed? How did I fill my (much more ample, albeit lonely) spare time? What weird things did I eat? How big did I let my piles get before picking them up? (big shocker: I could no longer blame him for being the messy one). It was a revelation and a gift to relearn who I was before joining with him more permanently, and to focus on cultivating that now that we’re cohabiting again.

  40. Amanda says...

    Wow, this is one of my favourite home tours on COJ! Reminds me so much of my old apartment. Lately I feel I’ve gotten too caught up in wanting to “theme” and overly coordinate my home decor, I’ve lost the air of myself in my home. This tour has reminded me to let go of that need to put a popular or polished style over my own. Great post as always!

  41. Kate says...

    This is making me miss my little studio apartment SO MUCH!! I lived there for 5 years before moving in with my boyfriend-now-husband. Of course I love our life together, but I don’t know if I’ve ever been happier in a living space than I was in that apartment. I could keep it as clean or tidy as I liked, cook and eat whatever I wanted without sharing, re-watch episodes of the Office as many times as I wanted….I’m sure there were downsides, but 6 years out I can’t remember any of them!!

  42. Cindy says...

    beautiful, Haley! I’ve been craving solitude lately and contemplating telling live-in boyfriend that I want to be at my own place a couple nights a week. You are spot on that you learn a lot about yourself when you live alone. I feel I need to get to know myself again, after a major life interruption earlier this year. Lovely apartment, I want to curl up on your sectional with a good book and my pup. Thanks for sharing your home with us. <3

  43. Kathy T says...

    100 percent charming!

  44. Julia Christensen says...

    I really need to know if she is serious about watching ASMR videos before bed. I can’t even get past a few seconds because they send pricklies up my spine!

    • Kelly says...

      I can’t speak for her but listen to them 3-4x/week. They’re spine-tinglingly calming, in the most delcious way. :-) Maria, Gentle Whispering, is my favorite.

  45. Porkchop says...

    Does Bug have an Instagram account?! He’s so dreamy!!!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      Yes! @bug.tv :)

    • Lisa says...

      Yay! I’ve been following Haley on Instagram and loved seeing Bug in the background, now I can follow directly

  46. Laura C. says...

    The two years I lived alone were lived with complete liberation, and although I couldn’t decorate it myself, I loved the way it was- it was just a little studio in a residence with other rooms. I was friends with the woman who cared for the residence, the experience was very freeing. Sometimes I miss it.
    Lovely apartment and lovely Haley (lovely lovely Haley), but- and I apologize here- it’s my impression that a LOT of apartments featuring this blog are essentially the same??
    Love to you all, CoJ and readers.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      Thanks for your note! I’m happy to say that they are actually really different if you look through the archives — we work hard to scout and feature a mix of styles, budgets, locations, family structures, etc. here are a few of you’d like to see!

      A family house in the Ohio cornfields, and they have chickens and do homeschooling:
      https://cupofjo.com/2018/08/ohio-house-homeschooling-tour/

      Two sisters living together in a color explosion:
      https://cupofjo.com/2018/04/hollister-porter-hovey-home-tour/

      An architect couple living in a spaceship building (!) in the Connecticut suburbs:
      https://cupofjo.com/2018/02/spaceship-guilford-house-tour-rustam-mehta/

      A colorful Hudson valley cottage with a a lovely story to tell:
      https://cupofjo.com/2018/01/colorful-hudson-valley-cottage/

      A high-rise Brooklyn apartment that magically feels like a cabin (and is filled with the most beautiful wallpaper):
      https://cupofjo.com/2016/06/liz-libre-home-tour-brooklyn/

      There are many many more — Mexico City, Provincetown, Copenhagen, Paris — and single women, same-sex couples, people talking about divorces; and different careers and styles and budgets and sizes of home. I warmly invite you take a look if you’re interested! :)

    • Heather says...

      I have to say, I think I commented a couple years ago that if I saw one more white walled, mid-century modern furnished Brooklyn apartment with a fiddle leaf fig tree, quirky art, and one random lucite thing, I would scream. But I’ve definitely noticed since then much more variety on locations and type of homes/decor, which I have SO appreciated. Still not over John Derian’s home tour!

    • Laura C. says...

      Of course, Jo! I know! My favourite one was the one in New England, if I’m not wrong (edit: Johnd Derian’s home!) It’s more the impression that there are some of the American apartments that I have seen are look-a-like. Maybe that’s my impression because to me I see a more American style in this apartment; just a bit as Heather says. Here in my country decoration is more different.
      Please don’t let me be misunderstood; I do know that you work very hard to offer us nice home tours. I didn’t mean to sound hostile or picky. It’s not my mood.
      <3 <3 <3

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      you’re so sweet, laura! thank you!

  47. Abby says...

    Avoid overheadlights at all costs! Yes, totally me too!
    Also very timely on the wanting to keep living solo. Currently debating whether to find an apartment together with my boyfriend because we are both moving to a new city (different country even!) for the jobs, but also have this tiny voice in my head saying “but you love your solo apartment so much”. Thanks CoJ and Haley for the insight!

  48. I lived alone for awhile in London and I can relate to a lot of this – you’ve done an amazing job to make this space yours – thank you for sharing it!

    Rebecca xx

  49. Kate says...

    Those handbags on her bottom shelf….swoon!

  50. Johanna says...

    I love Haley – I’ve low-key stalked her since those “Hanging with Chelsea and Haley”-videos on ChelseaWears’ youtube channel years ago. I’ve lived with roommates (one of them my brother for 6 years) since I moved out of my parents’ house 11 years ago and I am so ready to get my own place!

  51. This might be my favourite house tour yet! I love the rainbow light in the last photo.

  52. Faith says...

    Where is that great little girls-in-swimsuits painting from?

  53. hanna says...

    Wow I love everything about this so much. Haley has a fantastic, witty sense of humor and I identify completely with her comments about living alone and discovering your true self and not going outside.

  54. Lindsay says...

    It’s nice to hear I’m not alone in my obsession with mood lighting. I can’t even enjoy myself at a restaurant if the lighting bothers me. I’m currently replacing all my bulbs with a great “hd reveal” bulb I found at Target, it’s a bright cooler light but not at all flourescent. I’m slowly collecting nice lamps as well. Gotta great that hygge atmosphere!

    • Diana K. says...

      My friend and I fight over lighting all the time. He drags to me to the DARKEST bars and he complains when I take him someplace thats just a TOUCH brighter. We bond over a mutual hatred of Edison bulbs.

  55. This space is so dreamy! I wish my house looked that put together. Right now, it looks like a toddler-sized tornado has torn through the place. I have so many things I want to get for my ‘new place’ as I’m planning on moving in a few months. A girl can dream, right?

    xo, Victoria

  56. Really enjoyed this and chuckled to myself (favorite pastime) several times — Haley’s personality is so smart and fun. The photos of her space are just gorgeous. So much bright light throughout, and I love the idea of openly displaying clothes/shoes.

  57. Brooklyn says...

    Love everything about this set-up, inviting and intimate all at the same time!

  58. Erica says...

    So cool <3

  59. lala says...

    The day I first peed with the door open in my own apartment was the day I knew Freedom.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      Hahaha yes!

  60. Anna says...

    What is ASMR?

    • Laura C. says...

      A whole new world, Anna. Just check it for yourself, on YouTube ;)

    • Stasha Ashton says...

      autonomous sensory meridian response: a pleasurable tingling that usually begins in the head and scalp and moves down the neck and back, triggered by soft whispering or rustling sounds
      ASMR videos – which claim to induce a tingling feeling in the viewer – have quietly become an internet phenomenon.
      Click on the link she provided and watch one of the videos – it’s intriguing!

  61. Rae says...

    I’m already a big Haley fan from Man Repeller. She can WRITE!

    “I went back and forth a lot — I was so drawn to the romantic choice! — but when I listened closely, I could hear a more honest internal whisper, begging me to honor my newfound independence. And, after learning one too many times what it feels like to ignore that whisper, I decided to listen.”
    Loved this and the whole piece. Only part way through reading did I realize that I have never lived alone and I’ve never considered it. I wonder how typical this is?

  62. TJ says...

    I am all about this. Love that Haley chose herself and her little voice. There is plenty of time to share bills and bathroom cleaning chores. Enjoy your time to reacquaint with your bad self.

    P.S., love your bangs, your attitude, and your stripes.

  63. Lisa T says...

    I love your home and your cat! I hate overhead lights too but I live with my kids and husband who LOVE to put the overhead lights on in the family room of all places:( I have 4 cats now but when I lived in NYC many moons ago, we had our Babysat who I would talk to all the time. Best of luck in your home:)

    • Lauren says...

      Haha I’m usually good at compromising and letting things go. . . but I
      would NEED to get my own way with that lighting! Overhead lights OFF in the family room!! :P

  64. Calla says...

    Love it! When I was living in DC in a bad roommate situation I jumped at the chance to move into a microscopic “studio” in a row house that was priced way below market rent. The place was falling apart at the seams. You entered via a weird hobbit door placed halfway up a staircase, the “kitchen counter” was a board balanced on a radiator, the bathroom had a plastic accordion door because there wasn’t room for a regular one and the kitchen sink was about 6 inches too tall. It also had no AC (a real treat during DC summers). Despite all that it’s probably my favorite place I have ever lived. This post reminds me so much of dealing with that apartment’s quirks and packing all my friends into the tiny room to sit on the floor and eat cheese and crackers!

  65. Amanda says...

    I lived alone for a year and loved it. After that year I moved in with my then-boyfriend. He is my now-husband so obviously that worked out just fine. But, I kind of wish I had continued living alone for another year.

  66. ericat says...

    Haha “honk if you’re boring!”

    Getting that Byredo Treehouse candle asap. I’ve used up these two favorites multiple times, so you might enjoy:

    Le Labo Palo Santo 14
    Goop Edition 01 – Church

  67. Mullica Zudsiri says...

    Thank you for the idea to use those ikea shelves. I have been looking for additional clothing storage and haven’t found anything I liked so far and I think that’s a great solution and will pair well with the other ikea stuff i have.

  68. Ro says...

    Love this space! I’m also an ambiance junkie. If it’s not a salt lamp or fairy lights then I’m not interested. I’d rather stumble around in the dark and stub my toe than turn on a fluorescent or overhead light. They’re such vibe killers.

    • Kate says...

      I’m the same way! The salt lamp and fairy lights I have in my bedroom make me SO happy.

  69. I lived alone between the ages of 23 and 25 and even though I am happily married and would not change any of my life at all… I still miss it sometimes! It’s so freeing!!!! I love Hayley and I love this down-to-earth, realistic home tour!

  70. Ava says...

    I love this. In a few months, I too am moving into my own place, after 26 years of living with between 2-33 other people all my life. I know that living with a roommate is financially more sound, but the idea of living alone just sounds so freeing, and once you’re married or have kids, the chance is gone. I absolutely can’t wait.

  71. I love Haley and her writing on MR. Great tour! And also, sick jeans :)

  72. Loved this! It was such a cool collision of worlds to have Haley on here! Also that couch is divine.
    Allie

  73. First off: LOVE HALEY! I feel like I’m regularly living vicariously through her via Instagram because she is basically living the life I wish I had lived back in my early 20s. SIGH.

    I lived alone at 23 for 1 year and it was hard for lots of reasons (no money, hated my job, no friends close by), but now that I’ve cohabitated with my partner for almost 9 years (with a baby, 3 cats, and a dog thrown in!) I am unapologeticly nostalgic about that time living alone, just me and my dog. I love my husband and family, but I still miss the solitude and a space that was just MINE!!!

    • Sid says...

      Oh, I completely get you Stacy. Intellectually I know I was poor, lonely and hated my job but I sometimes I desperately miss when it was just me and the dog…

      Haley: smart move – you won’t ever regret this time. Thanks for sharing!

  74. Sadie M Arneson says...

    We need her daily outfits this winter!

    • Mullica Zudsiri says...

      AGREED! MORE HALEY!

    • cam says...

      check her out on manrepeller.com.
      lots of outfits and so much great writing!

    • Good call!

  75. D. Wilson says...

    Haley! Love your space. Love that couch! I have wanted a velvet couch for so long but I think it would be a nightmare scenario with my 18 lb ginger maine coon. Are you constantly lint rolling? Do you just embrace Bug’s grey fur on the sapphire upholstery? Thanks :)

    • Sherri says...

      Haha! I was wondering the same thing about having a velvet couch and a fuzzy cat. I have a 15 lb Norwegian forest cat-rag doll mix. Lint rolling is my life.

    • Mika says...

      Have you not yet discovered the Chom Chom roller? It’s life changing- we have a 23 lb Maine Coon :)

    • Zoe says...

      The one thing I will say about velvet (and velvet-like materials) is that they can’t get their claws into the weave to scratch and pull out fibers. I have 2 cats and a (non hideous) microsuede couch and they haven’t been able to scratch it at all! I think that’s totally worth excessive lint rolling, personally.

    • Franny Eremin says...

      Hi D.! Here’s what Haley said:

      “It’s surprisingly not a problem! I do lint roll it when I’m doing general house cleaning, but it’s not a huge issue. That may be because Interior Define’s velvet is actually a modified velvet that is pet-friendly!”

  76. Maia says...

    Was loving the apartment pics then scrolled to the cat and passed out. Just too cute. Also, Haley, can you be my bff?

  77. oh. my. god. it’s my former apartment almost EXACTLY. Down to the shelf, the hanging lights, the acrylic coffee table and novogratz blue couch – and just about every piece of furniture urban outfitters sells.

    This is so creepy.

    Nice apt though! ;)

  78. Katie says...

    Highly recommend living alone to young women. Most of my friends went straight from roommates to live-in boyfriends, so I’m the exception, but how else do you know who the uncompromising you is if you’re never alone with yourself (and your cat)?

  79. Ugh I LOVE Haley which feels weird to type as a stranger on the internet but her instagram stories are always so fun :) and I’m a big fan of her writing for Man Repeller. Yay Haley! So cool to see you featured here! All the exclamation points! ! !

  80. Michaela says...

    And I immediately stared searching for cat adoptions :)

    • Sarah says...

      Yay! Adopting my cat 5 years ago was the best self-care decision I’ve ever made. I love all animals and hope to have a dog too someday, but I just have to say that cats are such special companions!

  81. Lynn says...

    kudos on the choice to live alone! i did it for 5 years. those days are gone for for the foreseeable future and i wish i cherished them, and documented the details, much more. also, thanks for reminding me to put a velvet couch (in emerald for me) on my home-styling bucket list.

  82. Hannah E Davis says...

    As someone who also lives alone with a cat, this is my dream apartment! I love the shoe shelves on the wall. Somehow it looks so artsy and neat!

    Also, can you ask Haley what type of litterbox she uses? Small apartment/cat lady problems!

    • Emily says...

      I have a small apartment and 2 cats and use a simple box for my two (quickly growing) kittens! No lid. The best litter I’ve found is World’s Best, it really masks the smell to the extent that most of the time there isn’t one at all. I scoop it every single morning and change the litter as a whole every few weeks so that helps mitigate smell as well.

    • Zoe says...

      It looks the modkat flip litter box.

    • Laura says...

      I recognize her litter box – it’s the modkat flip! I recently got a cat in a small space (also my first time living alone!) and have been considering buying one. Haley, do you love it?

    • Emily says...

      Have you heard of the Breeze litter system??? It’s a little pricier than a normal cat litter situation and a little more wasteful but it’s a game-changer. Your cat won’t track litter dust around your apartment and it BARELY smells compared to traditional litter. You have to get a new litter box… basically there’s a tray of extra large litter pellets on top (like the size of guinea pig food, if that helps!), and then underneath there’s a pad that absorbs liquids. The pad traps cat pee SO well and seriously, barely any smell. So all you have to do is scoop solids off the pellets, and change the pad out once a week or so. Then refresh the pellets every… month? Anyway just Google it. I try to tell all cat owners about it, I’m SUCH a fan!

    • Sally says...

      Agree 100% with Emily – The Breeze system saved my relationship LOL! The smells of the box are majorly lessened. I got mine on Amazon after staying with a friend and not being able to tell where the litter box was. PS I have an Exotic Shorthair Persian rescue with a squished face like Bug! <3 <3 <3

  83. would love to know more about Haley’s skincare/beauty routine.

    • Sarah says...

      Was just going to ask this! Was interested in finding out what the five step skin routine was:)

    • Sandra says...

      Me too!

    • Wendy says...

      Yas, and what fragrances are on her
      table!

  84. Mary says...

    I may or may not have gasped when I saw Haley’s face! I have never met her, but I feel like I have from all of her lovely articles on MR. Seeing her apartment has taken my already vast trove of Haley knowledge to a new level, so this was a dream crossover. Her clothes arrangement game is truly aspirational. Please don’t take out a restraining order on me after reading this comment, Haley! ;)

  85. mcf says...

    I love Haley! I can’t pinpoint exactly what it is about her, but she’s so down-to-earth in a unique way. I really dig her type of confidence.

  86. b says...

    This was fun! Thanks for sharing!

    I love when people share book recs. Would it be possible to compile at least a partial list of the books recommended in posts over the years? Not going through the comments, but the books suggested in posts like these and in your book roundup posts.

  87. LAURA says...

    I love Haley! I’d watched her IG stories on moving into her apartment (am I creepy?) so this was a great find. Her stories on Man Repeller always make me self-reflect on my own life. Thanks CoJ!

  88. Swedish Sally says...

    1st comment – cute place x