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What are you up to this weekend? Anton has been sick this week, so I’m staying home to take care of him, but the rest of the Cup of Jo team is in Mexico City! Have you visited before, or do you live there? The city looks so beautiful, and I’m excited to see all their photos. Hope you have a good weekend, and here are a few fun links from around the web…

Do you think this hangover cure really works?

What your tone should sound like in tricky work conversations.

I’m a food writer — with some food issues.” (Loved this.)

What a sweet wedding photo.

Bonfire eggs.

I keep hearing great things about The Let Down. Have you seen it?

This couple looks forward to therapy more than date night.

Cool temporary tattoo.

The one word to avoid when buying rosé.

These women rejecting marriage proposals still make me laugh.

Five more Mother’s Day gift ideas for moms or mother figures…
A heartfelt card.
A book you tore through.
A magic product to make her skin glow.
A cheerful umbrella.
Knotted slippers for padding around the house.
And a walk, a talk, a hug. xoxo

Plus, two reader comments on three words that changed my parenting style:

Says Jill: “I learned the phrase ‘tell me more’ during my training in palliative care. So often our everyday conversations consist of hopping from iceberg tip to iceberg tip, leaving us guessing about the hidden stuff under the surface. I always love hearing how people respond to this invitation. With my patients and my kids, it lets them know that I’m listening and that I care about their internal world.”

Says Chloe: “My favorite parenting advice is, ‘If they are crabby, add water.’ This has served me well over the years and believe it or not, with a 14, 10 and 8-year-old, I still use it. Run a bath, take a shower, water the garden, wash the dog, have a hot drink, have a cold drink… just add water. It works 99% of the time.”

(Photo by Nikole Herriott.)

  1. Elise says...

    I just finished “Educated” after seeing this post and I did indeed tear through it! Wouldn’t it be great to have a Cup of Jo book club… I wonder how that would work… x

  2. Alyssa says...

    The Food52 Article was awesome. And so accurately describes my own struggles with food and weight. Because let’s be real. I love food. So that’s where I’m choosing to live.

  3. Cora says...

    Just add water is perfect. We so often put our kids in the tub or the sprinkler when things start to go south.

  4. ‘These women rejecting marriage proposals’ Haha!! The pictures are really funny… :D

  5. Cara says...

    Both my husband and I loved the Letdown! We are in the States, but enjoy Aussie humor and could relate. Our baby just turned 11 months old, so the jokes about the first 3 months made us smile! How is it possible that those moments were less than a year ago, but yet feel like they were also forever ago? I’m mourning the fact that almost a year has gone by so quickly. The old adage that they days are long but the years are short seems to ring so true.

  6. stephanie says...

    Along the lines of “just add water,” our mantra when the kids were small was “change of scenery.” That usually meant going to the park, but there were all sorts of versions, including just moving to another room with a different activity. It especially helped my husband, who tended to follow the kids down their rabbit holes of insane arguments/tantrums. It’s just another form of distraction, but with a location component.

  7. Chloe is so right. I watched a woman single handedly calm down someone else crying 10 year old by giving them a cold glass of water. It was amazing.

  8. Molly says...

    The “If they’re crabby just add water” advice reminds me of my favorite quote by Isak Dinesen, “The cure for anything is salty water; sweat, tears, or the sea.”

    • When I moved into my apartment (a SF gem with a lease that has been passed on through many people over a number of years) there was a small piece of paper with this Dinesen quote written out by a typewriter taped on the refrigerator. It is one of the things I have never moved from it’s place, because it feels like a bit of wisdom that a former resident left for our home for years to come :)

  9. Sara says...

    The rejecting marriage proposals photos reminds me of my daughter’s comment to me (she was about 11) that she “really hoped when someone proposes to her it’s someone she actually likes.” I explained that for the most part, people don’t propose without knowing that their relationship is strong and they are both on the same page and that she could and should decline if she didn’t want to accept. She was shocked — she didn’t know you could say no, explaining she thought that all of the women who cried during proposals in movies, on tv, etc. were sobbing because they were obligated to marry the person who asked and didn’t want to. It was equal parts funny and a bit heartbreaking to think she’d been stressing about the idea of having to accept a proposal from someone she didn’t want to marry.

  10. Lucy says...

    Reading this in the Food52 article was a revelation: “Like most parents, mine always told me that lying is bad. But it didn’t take long to figure out that they meant to say: Lying about your actions is bad. Lying about your feelings is polite. Like, if you said you did your homework when you didn’t: bad. But if you said you’re well when you’re actually tired: good.”

    I have never consciously thought about this before, but it’s true. Note to parenting self: stop minimizing my children’s feelings. Tell them it’s always ok to be honest about how they feel, even when it’s hard.

  11. Gemma Morgain says...

    The Let Down is ace, an honest and very funny look at new motherhood. I am partially biased as an Australian :)

  12. Nicole says...

    I second the loving couples therapy! My husband and I would always be in such a good place after visiting ours and learn and grow so much! It was amazing. We don’t go regularly right now (it was pricey), but I did fantasize about her being our best friend. On our drives home, we would always wonder about how amazing her husband must be too…

  13. Allyson says...

    Lots of gems in this week’s roundup, and I particularly liked the couple’s therapy link. I’m in a happy relationship but feel that we could go to therapy for the same reasons that the couple in the article does – to lay the groundwork for inevitable challenges ahead.

    But… how do I find a “good” therapist? I’m in the Bay Area.

    • LBintheBK says...

      Great idea for a post! How to make the decision to go to therapy / what to do once you decide you want to give it a go (finding the right therapist, etc)!

  14. Annelies says...

    Hi Joanna, my bofriend and I are going to Miami and South Florida in November. Can you please do a travel guide on where to go and where to eat? We are coming all the way from Europe so would be much appreciated!

  15. em says...

    I rejected my boyfriend’s marriage proposal and let me tell ya- it took some pretty hard convincing to get him to still stay with me (haha, but I did it!)

    Also, my best hangover cure is a milkshake. Or anything fatty. Though I haven’t been hungover for couple years now. Woohoo, thirties!

  16. Viv says...

    The hangover cure that really works: Take an effervescent tablet with different minerals (magnesium, calcium, etc.) and drink 2-3 glasses of water BEFORE going to bed. No hangover on the next day! Normally minerals help your body to absorb water which doesn’t work that well when you drink alcohol. Hangover is kind of your body’s sign that it’s dying of thirst. Only drinking water wouldn’t help in this case, but the minerals support the process. Bonus point: It only contains stuff that is good for your body anyway, not medicine which harms your body. Not sure what those minerals tablets are called in the US? Here in Europe you get about 20 tablets for 0.5 cents – best deal ever! Needless to say, it won’t help that well when you’re really really drunk. But in case you had quite a bit of wine (which normally makes me feel kind of knocked out on the next day) it’s perfect!

  17. Umaimah says...

    I’m 20 and nowhere near becoming a mom and i absolutely love The Let Down!

  18. Laurel says...

    Thrilling to see a mention of The Let Down. She’s a friend of a friend and it’s so exciting to see her success go international!

  19. Hope Anton is feeling better.

  20. I spent 7 weeks in Mexico City when I was 21 years old. I was on a mission’s trip with a group of college kids and did a lot of the interpreting. I had the most amazing time. I feel like I didn’t even make a dent in the mile-long list of things to see in that city, so I definitely long to go back. One of the biggest impressions it left on me was this feeling of belonging. Although I am originally from San Diego, so I was often around Mexican and Chicano culture, there was something special about being in the Motherland and being surrounded by fellow brown people. In high school and college, most of my friends were Caucasian, so I was a bit “exotic” with my darker skin. But in D.F. I blended right in with everyone else. Not to imply there aren’t fair-skinned Mexicans (my mom and sister are very fair), but in the neighborhoods I was in during my trip, I felt very much at home.

  21. Lindsay says...

    Yes! I watched the entire 1st season of the let down. It almost reminded me of Catastrophe but an Australian version. My heart breaks for Audrey as she struggles as a new mom. I wanted to hug her!

  22. Kate Bentley says...

    I watched the Letdown in 1 night and my husband actually came in to ask me what in the heck I was laughing so hard at!!! Totally worth a binge!!!

  23. Kristi says...

    Thanks so much for the random egg recipe! We are building a firepit in our backyard this summer, and will be adding this to the to-do list (after the digging, leveling, patio block laying, etc)!

    Hope Anton is feeling ok! He is so brave to get an IV!

  24. Ismah says...

    I didn‘t like The Letdown that much. It seemed kind of „hostile“ towards the baby. Like the episode when the main character tries to sleep train her very young baby and falls asleep with her headphones on while the little baby is screaming. Not funny or relatable.

  25. NatalieDU says...

    The Letdown is great! I loved it (but I’m an Aussie so perhaps not quite as funny to an international audience). As someone said earlier – it’s so real and just normal, without being thoroughly depressing. And it’s hilarious. Though probably good to watch it when your little one is at least 6 months. Might cut a little close to the bone otherwise! We had just done sleep training at 7 months when we watched it, and I’m glad we didn’t see it sooner! Enjoy it!

  26. Laura C. says...

    I hope Antoni is well now! He’s such a cutie! Mother’s Day here is tomorrow so I got my gifts from my daughters yesterday, they make some handcrafts at school and I totally love it. I got a customized fan and a customized keyring with a beautiful handmade card from my eldest- I think I’m going to make a card for my mom too, along with a bunch of flowers. Flowers are always good.

  27. Ha, after living in SKorea (famous for its abundance of hangover remedies) for a year I’m glad to see the US is getting into the hangover cure arena. The one you chose is probably my favorite though because you just add it to water, making it very easy on the stomach. I just saw the trailer for The Letdown and it looks sooo good!
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  28. Jessica says...

    The Let Down was so good! Highly recommend.

  29. Stephanie says...

    “I pound Jager until I end up in some strangers bedroom dressed like a drag queen.” That was the first review on that hangover cure. ???

  30. Heidi says...

    I always tell people, if you like NYC and you like Mexico, you will LOVE Mexico City. Huge and crazy and colorful and with all possible extremes: the best and worst of the country in one place. Oooh, the food alone…. yum. And the modern art galleries are enough for me to make a visit worth it any time!

  31. Kristin says...

    We are moving our daughter home from grad school! I intend to do my best to enjoy every minute she is home before she gets a job and moves out (unless that drags on for a year or more!!), especially since her younger brother just found a summer job at his university, nine hours away. :( I hope Anton’s mystery is solved and that he is well and stays well.

  32. I visited a friend of mine in Mexico City last summer, I luuuuuuved it ! Such an interesting and colorful place :)

  33. Emily says...

    The Let Down is hilarious! I had my first baby six months ago and every episode of the show felt so spot on. Even had my husband cracking up!

    • Caitlin says...

      I have a 6 month old too! Guess I have to try the show :)

  34. Vicky says...

    My gosh yes! I accidentally stumbled onto the let down and devoured it. It is very good and probably so far the most realistic show about becoming a parent that I’ve ever seen, but kind of sweetly, not grimly realistic, not overly edgy either. Like I thought a similar thing about Catastrophe too but in comparison it was trying a bit too hard to make us get that those are cool dudes who swear a lot and have lots of sex and are just not boring . The let down is so sweet in that people in it don’t need to be cool, but are also not trainwrecks wither. Just normal people.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      i love that, vicky! what a great description. can’t wait to watch it this weekend.

    • Elise says...

      oh man… the champagne scene at the birthday party… totally something I would do!

  35. Emma says...

    The Letdown got me through many a feeding session with my little guy, Fergus, when he was a newborn. So, so good and so relatable. A little too funny to watch when you’re trying to settle them though – too many suppressed laughs.

  36. i already see The Let Down… 3 or 4 episodes, it’s good but like something is off to me, i cant get hooked to this series like binge watching hooked.

  37. Alex says...

    The Letdown is excellent. We live in the same part of Sydney as the main characters and it’s great to see it showcased. My partner loved it too! Yay for Aussie comedy!

  38. anne says...

    I spent time there after college in 2001 – it felt a little scary but incredible in terms of history, food and importance. I’ve heard it’s changed a lot since then and I’m actually going back in June!!! I’m so excited and also looking forward to seeing your upcoming post to maybe get some good restaurant/neighborhood tips : )

  39. Meghan says...

    Going to Mexico City in a few weeks and would love some recommendations from the team! Food, things to do, places to see…everything please!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      for sure!!! they’ll be posting a recap on tuesday!!

  40. Rae says...

    Thank you for the thoughtful Food52 article. I needed that today.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      thank you, rae. i loved her honesty.

  41. Jess says...

    The Let Down is amazing. I’m an American expat in Sydney, had my son here 15 months ago and this show was like looking in a mirror! Well worth the watch, even if some of the cultural nuance is lost or some of the local slang is confusing for a non-Aussie viewing audience.

  42. Cathy says...

    The Let Down – yes! Did you watch Offspring? Both so great.

  43. Michelle says...

    I have been telling all my mom friends to watch The Let Down! Seriously the most accurate(ly hilarious and depressing) representation of parenting I’ve seen on tv. Loved it!

  44. Audrey Johnson says...

    I have to say that adding water does always seem to work when kids are crabby. Not sure why but it’s true.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      my friend’s mom once said, “no one ever fights in the pool.” i loved that :)

    • Abbie says...

      Awwwww i wish that pool comment was true for Florida kids :(. Mine live in the pool and fight there as if it were the regular playground.

    • bp says...

      Also just getting them to drink water! So often super crabby also = dehydrated and a glass/bottle of water does wonders!

  45. Em says...

    I liked The Letdown!! Super quick watch, only 7 episodes so not much of a commitment which is good for me.

  46. Leah says...

    “Tell me more” – I love that. I plan to use it with my 16 year old son immediately. The parenting advice on CoJ is the best!

  47. Tammy Sutherland says...

    I use the water one all the time! I read it on a Sark poster long before I ever had kids and it lodged itself somewhere in my brain. Now, when someone is stuck at home sick, I schedule an epic bubble bath in the afternoon. My girls will stay in there for an hour!

    Also, my husband and I are working on “Aim for yes!” Love it!

  48. That is so cool that the Cup of Jo team is in Mexico city! It is such a beautifully diverse place with so much to offer! I don’t live there (live in Monterrey up north) but I have visited several times and you never never never run out of things to see and do and eat! Mucha suerte en su viaje, Equipo de Cup of Jo!