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Have a Cozy Weekend.

Have a Cozy Weekend.

What are you up to this weekend? Alex is taking the boys to test drive a Tesla tonight. It’s basically their childhood dream come true! And I’ll be brainstorming our Thanksgiving menu — what’s on yours? One thing I’ve decided so far is that we’ll have roast potatoes versus mashed. Hope you have a good one, and here are a few fun links from around the web…

I just got this cheery coat and am loving it.

The Sorta Marathon — just like a real marathon, but only .2 miles long — made me laugh.

Swimmer Diana Nyad: “My life after sexual assault.”

A lovely studio apartment with a twin bed.

This movie looks great. (Love Frances McDormand.)

What’s the one thing I can do today to improve my mood?”

Score! The best wine glasses are only $5.

Who wants some tater tot hotdish?

A spoof: The 13 questions that lead to divorce. (“Where’s the Apple TV remote?”)

Such a cozy sweater for the fall.

Plus, two reader comments:

Says Meg on 14 reader comments about dating: “On knowing if a person is ‘the one,’ my mother once described it like light. For some people, it’s like a lightswitch. Boom, light! Boom, you know! And for others, maybe it’s more like a sunrise. Indistinguishable at first. Light coming so gradually that you almost don’t notice until all of a sudden, you find yourself in the full bright sun. I always thought that was a beautiful and patient way to think of love and ‘knowing.’ The great love in my life was a sunrise.”

Says Julia on kids in conversation: “My eight-year-old son recently stated, “I hate math.’ I said: ‘Really? Is it so bad? Don’t you like it a little bit sometimes?’ He said: ‘You know, kids can only LOVE or HATE things.'”

Have a good one. xoxo

(Photo by Nico. Sorta Marathon via Manhattan Users Guide. Improving mood via 3 Chairs.)

  1. Amanda A says...

    Late to comment, but Diane Nyad was a motivational speaker at a work conference I attended about 10 years ago, when I was 25 years old. I didn’t know of her at the time (it was before her attempts at swimming from Florida to Key West). She was training for her first attempt and it was indeed motivating to hear about her hard work and dedication. However, about halfway through her speech, she began talking about her sexual assault experience and the mood in the room completely shifted. It was the most powerful speech I’ve ever witnessed in person. Several women in the room became visibly emotional, while I noticed many men grow visibly uncomfortable. It sparked many conversations at dinner that night and has stayed with me as though it happened yesterday. I think it was the first time I realized how many women had gone through similar experiences… and how many grown men were in denial/completely uncomfortable facing this reality. What a strong, amazing woman.

  2. Meg says...

    Aww thanks – I hope the light imagery brings solace and perspective to the hearts of others, as it did mine.

  3. TJ says...

    ‘The great love in my life was a sunrise.’
    OH my GOODNESS, that phrase made me hurt, it’s so beautiful.

  4. Mandy says...

    Please someday do an article on ‘How to Ride a Bike’. You seem good at it! Safety tips, hacks, and anyway to make it easier to balance are WELCOME!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      i would love to, mandy!

  5. I loved that Studio apartment. It is beautifully organised.

  6. Joanna Schuth says...

    My Trivia Team (http://www.90fmtrivia.org/) has been doing the Point Marathon for three years now! There’s a break on the second day to read everyone’s scores and we take advantage to stretch our legs a bit. Once again, Midwesterners are making the trend!

  7. Hannah says...

    I keep almost buying that everlane coat but am concerned it’s going to look too bulky on me. Have you experienced this, Joanna? And what size did you get?

  8. I read that energy article off Medium a few days ago and wrote an entire post about my observations of my own energy issues based on it! It was a great read. I find myself turning to Medium often for well-written articles. Benjamin Hardy is always a favorite. :)

  9. Christina says...

    Interesting. When did Nordstrom start selling Everlane?

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      they have a little pop-up capsule right now!

  10. I love tater tot hot dish. I grew up in Minnesota so it was present at many get togethers and makes me nostalgic whenever I make it out here (I live in NY now). I use a can of cream of mushroom soup instead of the soup mix, cayenne pepper to spice it up a bit, I put a layer of shredded cheese under the tots, and I would highly recommend anyone use crispy crowns vs. tots. They have a better crispy outside to mushy inside ratio. Basically they are just more chip like tots.

    Roasted potatoes sound good! I’ve never been a big fan of the traditional Thanksgiving meal. I don’t like all the mushiness, it’s like we’re eating baby food! As for Thanksgiving this year, I’m bring a tomato and mozzarella salad with balsamic vinegar and roasted brussel sprouts with a spicy honey glaze.

  11. Laura says...

    Who makes the fabulous shoes in the top photo? I need them in my life! And on my feet. Hope you had a great weekend!

  12. K says...

    I grew up in an Italian family where you celebrated every holiday with pasta. That’s one tradition I am more than happy to continue, and one that can be accomplished beautifully even in my vegan household.

  13. Alice says...

    I love Frances McDormand too, and that film looks fantastic. I only saw the trailer but, wow, what script!

    • Sabrina Izaguirre says...

      I LOVE Frances McDormand, isn’t she the best!
      Can’t wait to see this movie, I was roaring with laughter…

  14. jeannie says...

    I will be making the Barefoot Contessa’s potato-fennel gratin for Thanksgiving!

  15. Ali says...

    Would love to do the Sorta Marathon. There’s a t-shirt for a one kilometre Fun Run and the tagline is “Let’s Not Overdo It” :-)

  16. Jess says...

    That Diana Nyad piece. That. Diana. Nyad. Piece.
    I am not a survivor. I’ve never been truly bullied, attacked, stalked. But I’m a mom of two kids under 4 and have been thinking more and more about what I can do to help protect them from the assaults of life. We live in rural Virginia, and honestly, my greatest fear for their safety comes from guns. That they’ll go to a friend’s house. The family will inevitably have guns. And hell will ensue. But now as they’re getting older and branching out from our family even more, I’ve started thinking about how to talk to them about inappropriate touching. By an adult, another child, whomever. I wonder if you might do a post on some of these difficult conversations we have to have with our kids, the parents of other kids, etc? It could be really helpful. I’d love to hear others’ experiences, successes/failures, and the like.

    • Rae says...

      I would really appreciate a post about having these discussions as well.

  17. Sarah says...

    All the sexual assault information right now is great – and freaking me out 1,000%. I have a brand new daughter. While i was never abused, my mom is a an abuse survivor and raised us with a fair amount of paranoia. And now i just feel it exploding out of me. Paranoia about everyone. How do i keep my daughter safe in this crazy world without also thinking the worst in everyone?

  18. Test driving a Tesla in Red Hook was probably the most fun my husband and I had this year! Hope Alex and the boys had a blast as well!!

  19. Oh,. I wish they had a ‘sorta’ marathon in London. Even I would manage to finish it. Pen x

  20. I know the Sorta Marathon is supposed to be funny but I am not amused. I have finished 3 Boston Marathons and this is just a ridiculous stunt by a generation that wants an award for no work and literally nothing.

    • Alissa M says...

      Congratulations on your three Boston Marathons!

      I think you’re talking about Millennials here, and I’d like to share a word in their defense. I am not a Millennial, but I work with many, and in my experience they aren’t a generation that is looking to be recognized for no work. Not any more than my generation or my parents’ generation (both of which have been similarly criticized). In fact, most of the Millennials I know would feel absolutely terrible to think that their playful joke made you feel that they were minimizing your huge successes.

    • Sara says...

      It’s a lark, a goof, a spoof, and not a comment on an entire generation of people. Deep breaths, Kristina B. This joke does not diminish your hard work and dedication.

    • jackie says...

      I am a millennial. And I recently ran the NYC marathon last weekend. I actually find the sorta marathon hilarious. It’s not like the shirts and awards say “marathon finisher” on them. They say “sorta marathon”. it’s a joke!! meant to be funny!

  21. Denise says...

    So many good things in this Friday post. First, the article by Diana Nyad is powerful and enraging and it unfortunatley reflects similar stories for nearly every woman I know. I have two little nieces now and I worry about when (I truly hopes it’s ‘if’ and that they escape the ‘if’ but more realistically it’s ‘when’) this will happen to them. I worry about their current and future potential interactions with their religious leaders & church members, their coaches, their boyfriends, their college experience, their coworkers, their bosses, their relatives, their husbands, their military cohorts & CO’s, their casual interactions with male friends, their online presence, their nurses & doctors, their eventual carers for the elderly. How can they possibly make it through the gambit of life and escape such a pervasive male entitlement to female subjugation through sexual violence? I hope they do. Secondly, immediately after reading that article one should watch the Frances McDermott movie. The rage is real. It feels better to curse and fight and say exactly what you think. Also, I really love that tiny studio apartment with all the happy plants. Happy Rageful weekend!

  22. Bren says...

    Absolutely love the sunrise analogy! I can’t wait to tell my husband this. For him, our love was a light switch. And for me, it was the slowest sunrise ever :)

  23. Andrea Manz says...

    Three Billboards was filmed in my town the summer before last! It was a BIG deal for a tiny mountain town like Sylva, NC :) It was cool to drive through downtown and see all the signs changed to reflect that it was Billings.
    They also used the hospital I interned at as a filming location (sadly, I wasn’t an intern there yet).
    I also LOVE Frances McDormand so I am stoked to see it!

    • Andrea Manz says...

      *Ebbings :P

  24. Annie says...

    I’m crying after having read Diana Nyad’s story… A coworker assaulted me, and while it was not as horrific as Diana’s story, I find it heartbreaking and dispiriting that most survivors’ first instinct often is to say “it wasn’t as bad as someone else’s experience” – Diane also does that when she downplays her horrific experience by saying she did not experience Holocaust… There’s always someone who has it worse, but it’s no excuse to tolerate abuse!

  25. Annie says...

    I’m crying after having read Diane Nyad’s story… A coworker assaulted me, and while it was not as horrific as Diane’s story, I find it heartbreaking and dispiriting that most survivors’ first instinct often is to say “it wasn’t as bad as someone else’s experience” – Diane also does that when she downplays her horrific experience by saying she did not experience Holocaust… There’s always someone who has it worse, but it’s no excuse for abuse!

  26. Emma says...

    I absolutely agree with the article about finding things that give you energy. That’s the way I describe my job. I look after children with cancer at a children’s hospital. “How can you do that?”, people often ask me. The way I think of it is simply, I leave work at the end of the day with more energy than I started with. My cup has been filled.

  27. I bet your 3 boys will all love the Tesla. My husband took one for a test drive with his step dad and they were both in awe :-)

    We’ve just started planning our Thanksgiving menu, and taste testing cocktails (my favorite part!). We’ve settled on a rum spiked mulled cider to kick off the festivities. You serve it warm, it’s easy to make in a big batch for a crowd, and it’s not too expensive. Win win win. Here’s the recipe, if you’d to check it out: http://www.thislifeisbelle.com/home/2017/11/10/holiday-cocktail

  28. Melanie says...

    Just a nitpick on the title of the Lovely Studio apartment link: It’s not a studio — it’s his bedroom. He mentions a roommate.
    With that off my chest, I have to say how much I love these weekend links. It has become my Saturday morning ritual to start my weekend with coffee and Cup of Jo, curled in the velvety corner of my favourite couch.

  29. Mama says...

    But why must you choose? Roast potatoes AND mash. Do it. You know it makes sense!!

  30. Sarah says...

    I recently ran into Frances McDormand here in California in the small town I work in. I had just finished a call with a livid, confrontational customer and was meeting my mom for lunch right after. It was the first time in over a year at my new(ish) job that I finally cracked and cried at work. I was devastated and sad and feeling utterly vulnerable as I stepped into the bakery to meet my mom. Poof! I was wiping away tears sitting at this communal table and this adorable little bakery, and there was Olive Kitteridge herself! Frances McDormand, in the flesh. I’ve seen famous people here and there in my life but had never felt compelled to actually speak to one before then. Maybe it was the mid-day rose, the tears, the look in my mom’s eye as I told her someone was so mean on the phone; whatever, I told Frances how much I loved her work in Olive Kitteridge, how it was just spectacular and delightful and that she should be so proud of it. She said, “Thanks! Yes. Well, it’s what I do.” It was lovely little flicker-of-a-moment with someone truly spectacular. She drank her lemonade and read the SF Chronicle; I ate salad with my mom and cried again at the communal table. I’ll remember that lunch for a long time.

  31. Hi, I love the Sort of a Marathon. It made me laugh. For this weekend, we are hitting some nature trails. I can’t wait. I haven’t given Thanksgiving much thought though. Have a good one!

  32. Wow Meg’s words are so inspiring. I had to take a screen shot to file away– this is definitely something I’m going to be coming back to.

    On that studio apartment: my goodness it’s adorable! I live in a pretty cramped space as it is and I love seeing how people utilize their spaces.

    My first time stopping by and I think I’ll be sticking around :)

  33. Eliza says...

    My whole body is clenched with rage and my blood is boiling after reading Diana Nyad’s story. I know there are a million (literal) stories like this and am I the only one who can’t help but wonder which seemingly-lovely well-respected person they know is an offender? Have any of the men I regard and love ever done this to someone? I trust my husband. I trust my father. Presumably, this “coach” had children and a wife who trusted him.

    • Mel says...

      This weighs on me too. The boss who sexually assaulted me was not only married, but everyone always talked about how crazy in love he was with his wife. I find myself wondering all the time who the predators are among us. Honestly, I don’t trust anyone 100% and it makes me really sad, and it makes me really fearful for my children.

    • Laura C. says...

      Same. I’m raising two girls and I am always scared for them.
      Diana Nyad is a terrific woman. So brave. Prayers for her.

  34. Angela says...

    The real question, I think, is: “Who DOESNT want some tater tot hot dish?”

  35. Megan says...

    Ha. Hotdish must be having a moment. I *just* made it for the first time last weekend using a “Food and Wine” recipe. My Minnesotan friend was proud. And I can’t believe I’ve lived this long with out it. It was like chicken pot pie with taster tots. Um, yes please.

  36. Oh my, Meg’s words were beautiful, especially that last line: “The great love in my life was a sunrise.”

    • M says...

      I was going to say the same thing! Wow. I absolutely love this analogy. Thanks, Meg :)

    • Celeste says...

      Mine was like a whisper over my shoulder the first time we met, like, “pay attention to this, this is important.” My father told me he had the same feeling when he met my mom.

  37. Maria says...

    Joanna, all, the divorce-Apple-TV link did was make me NEED to know: have you found your remote? And if not, (how) did you sort out the hidden TV conundrum?
    P.S.: Just spent a couple of hours (seriously) looking for the remote for the TV sound thing – it was basically like watching a Chaplin movie, except not fun at all. We found it in the end!!!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      hahahaha we haven’t found it and are still in limbo with that crazy box. will keep you posted!

    • kiki says...

      wait wait wait. i thought the lost remote anger was a spoof because you don’t need a remote anymore! you can use your phone! and one spouse was frustrated with the other for not living in 2017 and asking for a remote. LOL. you don’t need to search! just download a remote app! hahaha

    • Rachel says...

      I was JUST telling someone — who wanted one of those TV boxes — about “this woman on the internet” who can’t find the remote!

  38. Sherri says...

    I love that your boys are so excited to ride in a Tesla! My husband works at Tesla, and we had one of the cars on loan last weekend – it was such fun to ride in it! I had that roller coaster feeling in my stomach each time my husband gunned it :)

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      how cool!

    • Katie says...

      Last weekend a friend and I took his down into Bears Ears National Monument. The last super charger we used was solar powered, it felt so great! It’s such a funny car, because we’d be out on dirt roads and thinking these people probably wonder who’s bringing a sports car on a dirt road, but at the same time, of course these eco-friendly people are out seeing our national monuments! I love that roller coaster feeling! Also I like it in Bond mode.

  39. t says...

    I am so glad to see the bravery in all these people coming forward with their stories of sexual harassment, assault and rape but I am surprised that no one is tying in the spate of female teachers that have been accused, arrested and charged over the last several years of the same things.

    Obviously men have historically been in more power positions leading to these occurrences but in schools there are more women in teaching roles (power) than men.

    Why are so many people in our society using their power and control to gain validation (is that it) through sexual assault? What is going on?

    • Rae says...

      Women who are accused of sexual assault and harassment makes national, even international news, because it is just that, news — rare and noteworthy — even when neither the assaulter and victim are famous. Male teachers who assault often make only the local news and it leaves the headlines quickly because it is sadly so very, very common. No assault should be excused but statistically assaults by men hugely outnumber assaults by women.

    • Andrea says...

      Rae
      I don’t know if this is correct, or just not reported or looked at. I know many men whose first encounter was with a neighbor lady. That’s misuse of power as much as what Weinstein did.

  40. erin says...

    Went to the premiere of 3 Billboards and can confirm it’s the best movie I’ve seen in a long while. Frances deserves an Oscar.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      so glad to hear!

    • Sarah says...

      I loved her performance in olive kitteridge and her straight-talking, down-to-earth vibe overall.

  41. TjP says...

    Hotdish is one word, J. #Minnesotan

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      haha, thanks! i’ve never had it but REALLY want to.

    • Alissa M says...

      This is the best comment of the day.