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Have a Lovely Weekend.

Have a Lovely Weekend.

What are you up to this weekend? My BFF Gemma is having a birthday, so we’ll be hanging out, drinking wine and eating cheese — no husbands or babies allowed! Hope you have a good one, and here are a few fun links from around the web…

Ladies who lotion, haha.

If you want to follow your dreams, you have to say no to all the alternatives.

This new heist movie looks great.

Is this the secret to covering pesky grey hairs???

When a mom tries to get some alone time. Made me laugh.

Beautiful bubble portraits.

Loving this book right now.

33 things I learned from this season’s cookbooks. “Do as the Neapolitans do and never use cooked tomato sauce on pizza — it will overwhelm the toppings. Crushed raw tomatoes (with a little fresh garlic and olive oil) adds a brightness I had no idea I was missing. I can’t see ever going back.”

Would you live in a super modern tiny home?

A “yes” sign!

You could make this place beautiful.”

Plus, two great reader comments:

Says Maddie on pet peeves: “I cannot stand it when a meal is over and everyone has stood up and someone grabs their water glass to take one last sip. For me, it’s like, ‘Nope, sorry, you had your chance to drink that water the whole meal, and now your time is up.'”

Says Katie on perfume smell test: “My mom has worn the same perfume since I was born, and when my brothers and I were little, we would get upset when she didn’t smell like ‘our mom.’ When I moved away from home (across the country), she gave me a little bottle of her perfume so I could smell it if I missed her. I’m almost 30 and I still smell that bottle when I’m homesick.”

(Photo by Yossy Arefi/Instagram. Yes sign via from Jocelyn Glei.)

  1. M says...

    I appreciate all these comments about finishing. Your. Water. It’s so disturbing to see people in the States throw out fresh drinking water for a few seconds of convenience – just drink the water! Have some foresight and turn down the refill! People make excuse by referencing large-scale water waste in agriculture and industry, but it is not so difficult to be responsible for what’s in front of you. It’s one of those smaller gestures that you DO have complete control over, and that reminds you to think about broader issues of water scarcity, access, and quality that affect people all over the world AND in the U.S. (https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/morning-mix/wp/2017/06/06/flint-official-used-racial-slur-blamed-water-crisis-on-blacks-who-dont-pay-their-bills/?utm_term=.a8d78494d342).

  2. Those bubble paintings are really, really beautiful!

  3. Jaclyn says...

    LORD- I thought I was just crazy. My dad yell sneezes and it drives me nuts. NUTS. It’s like an instant volcanic release of hot burning rage. It makes me feel guilty! I have never brought this up to him. Now I know I am not alone! Also- the slam of cupboards. I have metal cupboards now and it doesn’t do anything to me, but it’s those 80’s hollow sounding slammy ones. UP. A. WALL.

  4. Katie Larissa says...

    Is it just me, or is that the…oddest pet peeve ever?? Taking a last sip of water?? Laughing out loud over here.

  5. Annelies says...

    Ha, I have the opposite pet peeve from Maddie, actually reminding people to drink their water before leaving the table. I’m like, stay hydrated, folks, don’t waste this precious water ! :)

  6. i sigh-ed out loud upon reading “… pesky grey hairs” i can only hope to live as long to have a full head of gray dominant long –patti smith– type hair i know im in the minority and im beyond ok with that lol :* xo

  7. Kara says...

    I look forward to your Friday post each week! Lots to love this week. I always wonder.. should I be lotioning up before bed like all these women. hahaha! Really made me laugh.. I’m not the only one wondering this.

  8. megan says...

    I am always, always that person at the end of dinner. No matter how much water I’ve had, it’s basically guaranteed that I’ve had more wine and polishing off the remaining water is (in my own head) extra insurance against feeling it in the morning.

    • Maria says...

      Ha! I’m so with you, and seriously, anyone who has a problem with someone doing something as inoffensive as taking a last sip of water probably shouldn’t be going out at all.

    • Lauren says...

      ME TOO! Lol.

    • Summer says...

      TOTALLY AGREE! It’s never just standing up and leaving – it’s standing up, people collecting their things, talking about how good everything was and how we should do this more often. Yeah, I’m going to need another sip while we’re making small talk. I can assure Maddie that I’m not just then taking a drink either; I like water (in general, but esp after wine)!

      I think my pet peeve is someone taking offense to an actual basic human need. :P

  9. I agree alternatives distract you from your goals. A complete motivational read.

  10. Em says...

    That poem is beautiful.

  11. Megan says...

    Hah to that Oliver Emberton link – not because of the content but because my last name is Emberton and when my brother and I were kids we would google (not even google … Netscape?! I don’t even remember) “Emberton” and so we’ve been intimately familiar with Oliver Emberton’s website and his little “about me”/bio for a long time. ? I like Emberton so much I refused to change it when I got married a couple years ago.

  12. Sally says...

    I totally get it about the mum-smell!
    My first few months of university, I was horribly home-sick (I was home-sick, really, for the whole 3 years, but I learnt to deal with it)
    When I was home for the holidays, I’d always take one item of clothing back to University with me, that I had no intention of wearing. And when I was particularly sad I’d take it out and smell me. And it had the smell of our families washing powder. It would take me right back to hanging out in our living room, while my mum did the ironing and watched TV. Just that fresh washing smell made me feel safe and less alone.

  13. No to the tiny house. I watch them on TV and am amazed that someone would choose to live in such a small space, especially after having lived in a big house. Granted, my NYC apt is quite small but I’m single and solo. I’ve seen people say they’re going to raise their families in those tiny houses. Whoever said space was overrated hasn’t shared a cramped space with children.

  14. Shannah says...

    You make this place beautiful, Joanna.

  15. Well that poem made me sob in bed…thanks :)

  16. Mariah says...

    Yes! I’m reading The Nix right now and loving it – brought it on vacation last week and allllmost finished it ;)

  17. Laura says...

    That poem brought a tear to my eye. I think a great poem will make you feel something before you even fully comprehend the words. It’s like your soul understands it before your brain does.

  18. Good bones is one of my favorites. Thanks for sharing. xx

  19. It’s so weird that you’d post the tiny home thing! I literally watched one video on YouTube about one, and now I’m seeing like a thousand recommended videos/articles about them now. I’m not complaining – it’s amazing what people can build! Def not for me though :)

    http://objectsicantafford.com

  20. JJ says...

    I love to drink water after I stand up from a meal. It’s *my* water, my meal and my pace. Who says I’m on a time limit? Life is too short to worry about annoying someone because I feel like having a last sip of water.

    • Dawn says...

      Totally agree with this. Why can’t someone have one last sip of water? It isn’t like they are grabbing one more steak after the cutlery has been cleared already. Of all pet peeves to have I would never have understood this one.

  21. Lindsay says...

    I guess I’m an optimist. As I read “you could make this place beautiful”, I almost said aloud “No way!” I thought how I wouldve written it in reverse…for every bad there is so much good. I truly believe that with my whole heart❤️

  22. Lauren says...

    The Mom Interrupted video hit WAAAAAYYY too close to home. The insane looking bedroom with the boppy strewn on the end of it. Gosh, it’s my life right now. I have a three year old and a 12 week old.

    “Desitin or A&D?”

    “It doesn’t MATTER!”

    Much needed laugh.

    • JessicaD says...

      I have a 13 year old and a 7 year old and STILL a boppy by the side of my bed. WHYYYYYY? Getting rid of that thing now. (It’s actually cozy to snuggle into sometimes.)

  23. I harvested our first raspberries today. Yum!
    I totally understand Katie. Nothing like smell to bring back a memory. One brother asked for a worn shirt when my mom died. And her perfume. Same here. I smell her perfume and it’s as if she’s present, giving me a hug.
    One of the greatest gifts you can give your kids is to have a classic perfume that they can turn to forever.

  24. Maranda says...

    I loved the poem by Maggie Smith. I can’t even put into words how it made me feel but it’s something I’ll return to again and again.

    • Ashley says...

      I completely agree.

  25. Anna Rafalski says...

    The “Good Bones” poem just kills me.

  26. Vicki says...

    The world is *not* a shithole. Some people are sad, or mean, or sick, and they do shitty things. But most people aren’t, and some people are really kind and brave and generous. One man in Portland was a villain, but three were heroes. Does that make the world a shithole? Or do we just need to look consistently for ways to make the world a more beautiful place?

  27. Mags says...

    I really hope so many of those comments on the pet peeves list (especially the water drinking you featured here) were written half in jest. Does someone really get physically upset about someone else drinking water from the table? There are so many really terrible things in the world and the things listed were so minor and often something that a person can’t help (sorry I’m a loud sneezer and I also always sneeze three times in a row and I cannot help it). Can’t we try to love our neighbors more? Instead of celebrating the things we hate about those around us? I started reading the comments like I often do on your posts and they just made me so, so sad. Let’s try to be more open to loving those around us instead of hating on them.

    • Lucia says...

      I felt the same way. Sad that people get so angry all the time (and at such insignificant things). It made me glad to be an easy going type who has no pet peeves! Sorry people, I take another sip of water after I stand up. Because Im still thirsty. I think people must have some anger management issues or something?

    • Jamie says...

      Agreed, as an already shy/quiet person, reading those comments was starting to make me nervous. Like okay, I already go out of my way to not embarrass myself with my words, now I have to try to not make any noises ever?

    • Jenny says...

      I hear your point. I think that’s why they’re called “pet peeves” though. They’re insignificant annoyances in the grand scheme of things that, nevertheless, irrationally get under people’s skin. We all have them. We’re all flawed people – sometimes we’re the annoyer and sometimes we’re the annoyee (new word?). I think the key is to keep things in perspective and not let the pet peeves overwhelm the more significant good things.

    • Laura says...

      Same here! Some of the comments were so nitpicky. I kept thinking, “whoops, I do that all the time!” Sure, gum-chewing gives me the icks, but that’s my problem, not anyone else’s!

  28. My birthday is today! Tell Gemma (from a random commenter) that I wish her a lovely one! I hope y’all enjoy your weekend celebrations! :)

  29. Meghan J says...

    Hmmm, I have a personal resolution to never walk away from a glass of water which was poured for me (unless my bladder is truly about to burst)….even if it means dumping it into a water bottle in my purse or quickly chugging it before leaving! It’s water and it’s just going to go down the drain! Plus it’s likely cold, and filtered, which is more than I can say for my tap water at home :)

  30. Alex says...

    Thank you for the Maggie Smith poem. Boy did I need that. I think we probably all did.

    • Hillary F. says...

      Agree. It made me cry.

  31. DJ says...

    I use and love the color stick. It is so so easy and helpful. I’m all for aging gracefully, but I also love the dark hair I’ve known my whole life and am not ready to say goodbye yet :)

  32. Linds says...

    I just read “Good Bones” (having never read it before) and had a truly visceral reaction–it took my breath away and brought tears to my eyes. I read it as being so hopeful in such a dark time. I just printed it to carry around with me–it is a poem I need to be close to for a while. Thank you.

  33. Jessica Latour says...

    Why buy a color stick?? I use black or brown mascara to cover my greys if I’m feeling particularly self conscious that day. Otherwise, rock the greys! :) There are few things sexier than a woman owning up to her aging beauty.

  34. Abby says...

    The gray hair color stick!! I love the non-permanence of it – it feels like makeup. No woman should feel pressured to keep her grays secret, but sometimes you feel like switching up your look! I mean, some days I wear lipstick, and other days I leave my lips naked, and nobody bats an eye. Why can’t it be the same with gray streaks?

  35. Kellie P. says...

    Haha. After pushing in my chair at a restaurant, I almost always grab my water and slam as much as I can. Who has time for water when you are talking and eating (and drinking wine?!).

  36. Kristie says...

    Super disinterested in the idea that the natural process of my body (in the form of hair changes over time) is “pesky”. I am what I am. I am not interested in perpetuating the idea that the beauty of youth is the only beauty. One of the things I like about Cup of Jo is that it has less body-shaming than most women’s sites that have some fashion. At 47 I’m older than your average reader, I think; I encourage you to embrace your aging now while you are young, because if we are lucky enough to live, we just keep aging. Celebrating it rather than fighting it makes for a better quality of life!

    • Alex says...

      Love this!

    • Patricia says...

      Amen!

    • Jeannie says...

      I agree, this is wonderful advice, thank you <3

    • Sarah says...

      “If we are lucky enough to live, we just keep aging.” I love this. As a 34 year old starting ALL OF A SUDDEN to go very obviously gray, this is a really great dose of perspective.

    • Jules says...

      Hell yes!

    • Elizabeth says...

      Agree completely!

  37. Jules says...

    That mom perfume thing is so perfect. When I was little, if I was nervous about sleeping over at a friend’s house, my mom would spray some of her perfume on one of my dad’s handkerchiefs so I could smell it when I missed them. Worked like a charm.

    • Shannah says...

      What a sweet idea. I’m totally going to do that when my daughter is old enough for sleepovers.

  38. Jenny says...

    I loved that poem by Maggie Smith. Lately I’ve been feeling overwhelmed with sadness by everything that’s happening in the world. Every day brings a new onslaught of political upheaval. And a week ago 2 people in my town (Portland, OR) were murdered for standing up to a man spewing racist vitriol at 2 young girls (one of whom was wearing a hijab) on public transportation. This poem captures how I’ve been feeling – completely heartbroken and yet still enduringly hopeful. Despite all the hate, we can still make this place beautiful.

    • Lucia says...

      Bad things have always happened – it’s just we now see It all in the news. I wish they would also report all the good and beautiful things happening more.

    • Jenny says...

      You’re absolutely right that bad things have always happened and that the 24-hour news cycle means we have access to more news more often. However, there has been a notable recent increase in hate crimes in the U.S., for example (I linked one of many articles on the topic below). It’s ok to let ourselves be heartbroken by it all. As the poem points out – all the heartbreaking stuff doesn’t mean we can’t still strive to make the world a beautiful place.

      http://www.nbcnews.com/news/us-news/u-s-hate-crimes-20-percent-2016-fueled-election-campaign-n733306

    • Jenny says...

      I’m I agree – I wish there was more coverage of all the good as well! We can use all the good news we can get!

  39. L says...

    I actually like that tiny house! I still don’t think I could live in a tiny house for more than about 6 months before I would turn it onto a hoarder-type situation, but if I was going to stay in a tiny house for a while, that setup seems pretty perfect.

    I also added that book to my ever growing list. For every book I read off of my list, I think I add about 10 in its place.

    • L says...

      Also, I just read through all the cookbook lessons and I was surprised by this one:
      13. In France, you will get disapproving looks if you walk down the street eating a sandwich. The French do not eat while walking, driving, or working. They respect food and food rituals.

      I understand the idea behind it; when I studied abroad in Spain I often wished I could just get a cup of coffee to-go on my way to class, but the coffee ritual is so important. But when I was in Paris last year I remember being pleasantly surprised by how many people were walking around eating pastries, sandwiches, or crepes folded up in little paper cones. It was way more common than I ever see here in DC.

    • aeb says...

      I observed the same thing as you in France: people eating everything, everywhere, all the time.!

  40. brittany says...

    that mom trying to be alone is seriously me. and every mom.

    xo, brittany
    weekend links + steals on my blog today!
    http://www.notablob.com

  41. Lori! says...

    The Night Lotion Instagram is hilarious… I’ve always wondered if women actually do this… too funny!

  42. Janice O'Kane says...

    The color stick cracks me up! Who has the time to, as per the directions, “Stroke it on like a lipstick and blend in with your fingers.”? Because I need a longer morning routine. Not. I’ll love each and every gray hair and accept myself for who I am! :)

  43. That night lotion account killed me. Lol!

    Briana

  44. Julie says...

    Currently rocking my son to sleep but I keep accidentally disturbing him as I LOL at Maddie’s pet peeve!

  45. Tori says...

    About the water pet peeve- I am that person. Every time. I keep water with me at all times, and I always feel like I just need one more sip. My friends have deemed it “thirst anxiety” which is just one of the quirks of my real anxiety. Thirsty girl forever.

    • L says...

      I’m that person sometimes. I honestly never even considered that to be something that might annoy people. It’s not something I feel like I need to do, it’s just that sometime I want another sip before I go, but now I’m probably going to be self-conscious and wondering if the people I’m eating with notice or are peeved about it.

    • Rebecca says...

      I’m not that person (I never drink enough water!) but I am on your side! I have a new pet peeve after reading this: people who are annoyed by people who drink water after a meal is finished.

    • Marie says...

      I actually skipped reading the comments on the “pet peeves” post because I didn’t want to add to the list of things that I worry about during social situations. It’s like, I’m already trying hard enough. I don’t want to have to wonder whether something as innocent as taking an extra sip of water is going to annoy the people that I’m with.

    • Kay says...

      Ha, I do it, too, sometimes! I feel like I always realize once I’m standing up that I didn’t drink enough water during the meal (this is usually when I’ve ordered a beer/wine/cocktail instead of just drinking water). Seems fairly harmless and quick to sneak one last sip?!

    • Alli says...

      Ha, yes! I’d say it’s a bigger peeve when people leave full glasses of water on the table- at least where I live. Being in California, I am consistently thinking about drought – save every drop of water! Or just ask the waiter not to pour you water in the first place, rather than waste it.

    • Jamie says...

      I commented above but what Marie said here is exactly what I was trying to say. I’m already nervous enough in social situations.

    • Amy says...

      What Marie said – I gave up reading the comments on that post because I realized it was just going to make me anxious the next time I was out with people, wondering what on earth their random, unpredictable pet peeves are!