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Rosato wines on a table

It’s almost summer, guys, and apparently, if you like rosé, you should consider trying rosato! The pink color tends to be darker, and the flavor is fruit-forward, savory, juicy and warm. As Bon Appetit’s wine editor says, “I freaking love rosato right now.” (Her new book is awesome, too.)

Seinfeld episodes from the point of view of the girlfriends

Seinfeld episodes from the point of view of the girlfriends. “Dolores is dating a guy who is so self-absorbed that it’s almost like he sees even the most boring details of his life as material for a hit show called ‘Jerry Seinfeld.’ It’s extremely clear to her that he’s forgotten her name when they plan a date and he says, ‘See you then…’ then trails off, grimaces, and finally settles on ‘champ.’ Dolores and her friends decide, over coffee, that she should troll him by dropping very oblique hints to what her name is. She tells him that her name rhymes with a part of the female anatomy. It takes Jerry five hours to remember the clitoris.”

Have you seen Wonder Woman? The new movie is breaking box office records left and right. Says Gal Gadot, the Israeli actress who plays her, “What’s so lovely about Wonder Woman is yes, she has the strength and power of a goddess, but she has the heart and mind of a human. So I play her as I think a woman like me would act in the situations she’s going through — a normal woman who happens to be fantastic and almighty.” Also, this tweet.

Dog in the bath by India Hobson

A good tip if you’re stressing about an awkward interaction: Give it seven seconds. “Do not, under any circumstances, think about any interaction you’ve had with another human being for longer than seven seconds. So you got weird at your office Christmas party. Give it a full seven seconds, and release it. Yeah, you did make a weird noise with your mouth when you were alone with someone in the kitchen, and? Laugh about it to yourself for exactly seven seconds and then never think about it again. Anything longer is too long.”

P.S. More fun things, and the weird thing we do on vacations.

(Dog photo by India Hobson.)

  1. i before not so much interesting with wonder woman movie, but visit its website, i begin change my mind. i will try to watch

  2. I think, wonder woman is a good movie. Beautiful and full of action.

  3. Wonder woman is really a wonderful woman. I like this sentence “she has the strength and power of a goddess, but she has the heart and mind of a human”. She is a special woman

  4. wow, i admit that american movie its the best in the world. iam very excited

  5. same here, great movies by the way :)

  6. Clearly whoever made the 7 second anxiety rule does not have social anxiety. 7 seconds? I freaking wish…

  7. Michaela says...

    Oh man, that 7 second tip is good. I’m almost 30 and just realized I still sometimes think about awkward things I did in high school. Well past time to let those moments go!

  8. Katherine says...

    Three cheers for Wonder Woman! I felt like a badass just watching it. I’ll admit I whooped and hollered “Hell yeah!” and fist pumped several times during the movie, I couldn’t help myself. Get it, Gal!

  9. wow, i admit that american movie its the best in the world. iam very excited

  10. i before not so much interesting with wonder woman movie, but visit its website, i begin change my mind. i will try to watch

  11. I work at D.C. COMICS and we are so excited and happy that with the success of Wonder Woman. I am so happy there is finally a film about a FEMALE superhero, directed by a woman and played by a woman. GIRL POWER. It truly has made history.

  12. LV says...

    7 seconds. Awesome. No one cares!!!

  13. Mikaela Fuchs says...

    I saw wonder woman, it was great! I just learned that Gal Gadot (who truly is a goddess) was PREGNANT during part of filming, and 5 months pregnant during reshoots, during which time she had to wear a special costume with the belly cut out and a green screen over her bump! Crazy!

  14. I’ve been giving things way more than seven seconds. Things that probably aren’t even embarrassing to begin with! Thank you so much for that. And you know I’m all over the rosato! :) xx

  15. aga says...

    Haven’t been to the movies in years and years, but I can’t wait to see Wonder Woman!

  16. Yesterday I took my mom on a date to see Wonder Woman and eat ice cream and it was the best. My mom doesn’t usually like superhero movies but by the end she kept saying how good it was.

  17. I actually read that seven seconds article earlier this week, and then this morning I totally trashed talked a coworker (which is something I never do…it’s so unprofessional and immature, but I’m having the worst day EVER…and there I go with the excuses) only to find out she was in earshot, and it is eating me up inside. I wish I could devote only 7 seconds to that, but I think in this case I need bask in the horror of what I did.

  18. Megan says...

    Thank you for posting the Seinfeld link! My fiance loves Seinfeld and we are watching it on Hulu. Nearly every episode I find myself vocally rooting for the girlfriend- “You can do better!” “Why are you with this shmuck? There are so many other guys in New York.” “Punch him!”

    • girlfriends who know they are ..

  19. We saw Wonder Woman last night and during one of the opening scenes, to my surprise, I started crying. I was baffled. Until I realized that I’m 38 and this was the first time I’d seen a huge budget movie like this– with twenty or so minutes of JUST women, a female protagonist who is the MAIN character, and who’s love interest is cool, but the sidekick.
    I write books for kids and think about representation in the media a lot. I’m a white woman, not exactly hurting for role models. But this hit me so hard. On a personal level I hadn’t realized it was missing until last night.
    Explaining to my husband I said “Imagine all the movies you had ever seen up until tonight we’re exactly like that one…”

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      that is amazing, gaia. that is really powerful to hear.

    • Rebecca says...

      I had the same reaction!

    • It completely blindsided me.

      Rebecca: RIGHT? Glad I wasn’t the only one:)

    • Vivian says...

      Gaia, you definitely weren’t the only one! I’m the type of person who almost always cries at movies, at moments both joyful and heart-wrenching, but this was something different. I’ve always felt that film and media needed more gender and racial diversity and representation so to watch such a knockout film that not only was lead by a female actress but included many other women (women of color!) as strong Amazons…. I didn’t know exactly how much I needed something like this until I saw it. And it was glorious.

    • Beverly says...

      You are definitely not the only one! I’ve been taking my boys (now adults) to superhero movies for decades (which I also enjoy – don’t get me wrong) but there is something special about this one!

    • I felt the same – the power in seeing a movie through the female gaze rather than male was so intense, I was frequently in tears.

    • Molly says...

      Me too! I was inexplicably bawling for nearly the entire film (when I wasn’t laughing!)

    • Gen says...

      Gaia, I have yet to see Wonder Woman, but I cried multiple times during the Ghostbusters reboot, in particular every time the ladies worked together to get the ghosts – pointing their beams in the same direction, fiercely concentrating, being strong, using powerful machines they invented, and COOPERATING WITH THEIR FRIENDS AGAINST EVIL! When have we ever seen this before? NEVER! I was literally sobbing by the end. I feel you. I’m sure I’ll do the same through Wonder Woman.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      omg looks amazing!

  20. Em says...

    I like the idea of only thinking about your embarrassing moment for seven seconds. It’s sort of like giving yourself permission/forcing yourself to let it go. While it may not work perfectly with true social anxiety, I can see how the habit of purposefully thinking about something else might help you to feel less uncomfortable — or at least serve as a gentle reminder that nothing truly shameful is going on.

  21. Wonder woman is really a wonderful woman. I like this sentence “she has the strength and power of a goddess, but she has the heart and mind of a human”. She is a special woman.

  22. I cannot wait to watch Wonder Woman and I secretly hope it will be my daughter’s new favorite.

  23. I saw Wonder Woman yesterday and loved it! I honestly would love a prequel with her mother and the initial fight amongst the gods. Anything to get more stellar Amazon fight sequences!

    • Me too!!

  24. I’m definitely going to need to master that 7 second rule haha

  25. Wonder woman was so great! I want to see it again!

  26. Molly says...

    Would love to read more on social anxiety! It’s something that I struggle with for sure and it helps so much to know I’m not alone in that! It would be amazing hear from an expert on what’s really going on when you’re experiencing social anxiety, ways to cope, etc. It can be really tough!

  27. Elyse says...

    I had social anxiety when I was younger (and still sometimes in foreign settings). I have 2 thought processes on it. First, I am my own best friend and so I tell my (best friend), yeah you said something silly or screwed up in whatever way but you are still interesting, kind, and funny and those people get to make mistakes too. Second, I temind myself of my favorite quote “Those who matter don’t mind & those who mind don’t matter.”

  28. Tanith says...

    Wonder Woman is really good – by far the best of the DC Universe films since The Dark Knight. Patty Jenkins directed the film, and she directed other women-centric projects like Monster, and The Killing.

    Somehow they pulled off an altruistic, optimistic, do-gooder with layer to her personality who isn’t boring. (Though I’m really more interested in seeing a film where she isn’t clueless about half of what is going on!)

  29. jeannie says...

    OMG, I totally want to see wonder woman. Especially after that tweet!

  30. Gen says...

    Wonder Woman was SO good. One of the best movies I’ve seen in a while, and I’m more of a TV person! I seriously appreciate Chris Pine as his and Gal’s roles were reversed- similar to Mad Max: Fury Road, HE is the supporting actor, when usually actresses are the ones supporting male heroes. Also that scene when he is attempting to flirt/seduce the chemist at the gala–normally in a James Bond movie, this is where the woman would flirt/seduce ostensibly to get what she wants. Loved it! Highly recommend Fury Road for a similar heroine movie, if you haven’t seen it.

  31. Em says...

    I am so curious about social anxiety. It seems so much more prevalent with women I know in my age group (I’m 33). I have felt social anxiety from such a young age..I always wanted to talk to my friends’ mom’s more than my friends because I was so anxious! They seemed more accepting, or there was less pressure maybe?

    I wonder, though, is this a “new” age of social anxiety or are people just more open to discussing it?

  32. Vicki says...

    My husband has a great trick for anxiety: Set aside time to worry — however long you think you need (or however long you think is reasonable). Then, when it is worry time, just go bananas. Worry like crazy! Freak out! — Just until your worry time is up! And until then, when you catch yourself worrying, you can just remind yourself “it’s not 3:45 yet!” and move on with your regularly scheduled activities. I started using this trick when I realized I would get upset with my kids for interrupting my internal worry fest.

  33. Today I spilled balsamic vinegar all over my pants and had a mini freakout. After about 10 seconds of anxiety, I shrugged it off and proceeded to eat my lunch (& walk around with stained pants all day). It felt so good to not care!

    • Lexi Mainland says...

      That is awesome!

  34. Lee says...

    What about if you’ve said something you regret to someone you only meet on rare occasions? Something that was offensive and you wish you could take it back. Would you bring it up or let it go?

    • Celeste W says...

      The trick with anxiety is that sometimes your brain Is like “holy shit! I can’t believe I said that! So rude! I’m so awkward! And embarrassing! Ug” But in reality, the other person probably didn’t read it that way, or wasn’t listening, or heard it in the way you intended, or was thinking about how they needed to trim their nails, or trying to spot their toddler in a sea of kids at the park. No one is paying as much attention to what you say as you do. ?

      So that said, In your situation, Lee, I think the first thing I’d do is go to a good friend and confirm that what I said was actually offensive. I have a close friend that I sometimes get reality checks from-she’s willing to listen to me break it all down and end with “and then I said ‘yeah, I’m totally insane about getting my kids to bed on time’ but it was after she said her kids were staying up super late. Do you think she felt like I was judging her parenting choices??” She’s honest with me, and more often than not it’s my anxiety sparking things up, and not actually a real thing. Sometimes it’s not, and I’ve said something dumb, or worth readressing and I suck it up and talk about it with the pertinent party.

  35. Anna Kleinfeld says...

    Dolores made me alol at work. Too good.

  36. Emma says...

    re: social anxiety. I tell myself whatever past interaction I’m fretting about, the other party has forgotten long, long ago. Even if they haven’t, who cares. We all make gaffes, and I always forgive and forget. Don’t you? I’m sure the other person does too.

  37. Annie says...

    I just wanted to say thank you so much for the anxiety posts you do every so often. I’ve used both the Grand Canyon and the Stop sign tricks before, and they really have helped when I’m up late at night and can’t go to sleep because I’m obsessing over something I said or did. This 7-second trick is another one to add.

    A lot of other bloggers will say they have anxiety, and some might even post “tips,” but I’ve never found tips as relatable and easy-to-deploy as yours. So thank you for that! At some points they really feel like literal life-savers!!

  38. Laura says...

    that’s one of the issues with social (or just general) anxiety! i don’t *want* to think about it for longer than seven seconds, but i can’t help it. for me, the more i try to not think about it, the worse it is. i just accept it and acknowledge it without judgment for as long as it wants to linger, and that’s what’s helped me more.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      yes, i hear you, laura. great tip.

  39. molly says...

    Clearly whoever made the 7 second anxiety rule does not have social anxiety. 7 seconds? I freaking wish….more like 7 days.

    • Cara says...

      LOL I was thinking the same thing. Cool, I’ll think about it for seven seconds and then release it again… for maybe 5 minutes when I think about it again for another 7 seconds and then again and again for 2 weeks until I finally maybe let it go.

    • MK says...

      The other day I was on a conference call with like 7 people (inherently awkward) and blurted out a response to a question that was NOT directed at me. I FELT SO WEIRD FOR LIKE DAYS.