Relationships

Do You Still Talk on the Phone?

Audrey Hepburn, 1954

The phone echoes throughout the house, ringing once, twice, three times. She stops in her tracks, eyes wide with fear…

This is not the opening scene of a horror movie, but what happens every time my iPhone rings. Even with caller ID, I wonder, ‘Why is this person calling me?’ ‘Is it an emergency?’ ‘Am I in trouble?’

As a teenager, I cherished late night phone calls with crushes and spent my 20s with a receiver to my ear overanalyzing everything. But somewhere between my first gray hair and the invention of Instagram, I got spooked.

Of course, some people enjoy it. “I love to do a face mask and call a friend,” says Lizzy in New York. “I don’t love FaceTime, though. Sometimes I pee or pick my face — things no one needs to see.”

But, as a millenial, Lizzy is in the minority. Forbes reports that people in her generation are texting more and talking less and less. The average adult American spends about 26 minutes a day texting, compared to six minutes on voice calls, says the Chicago Tribune. More than 75% of adults in the U.K. own a smartphone, but according to the Guardian a quarter of them never make any calls.

I don’t take it that far. I still talk to family. My dad gets worried if more than a week goes by without a chat. But if too much time passes between conversations, I get a lingering dread about making the call.

“It’s harder for me to call friends and family if I have to spend the first 15 minutes playing catch-up,” says Sarah, from Los Angeles. “It’s daunting. I definitely need to call my mom more — I make this promise a few times a month and always come up short.”

Mother-of-two Cathryn is constantly asking her mom (who lives in the same town) to text and not call. “A phone call feels as invasive as someone knocking on your front door uninvited,” she explains. “If you’re going to call me, you’d better text me first and tell me why!”

For Sam, texts have enhanced her marriage. “In our 13 years together, I can count the number of times we’ve spoken on two hands,” she says. “Phone calls are usually rapid-fire questions from me with long pauses from him. I can actually hear his slow-blinking. On the other hand, our text conversations are productive and affectionate. Emojis added a new level of communication to our relationship — if he sends me a kiss face/peace sign/bullseye, I know exactly what he means.”

But for older generations, a call can be the highest form of flattery. My friend Shawn talks to his grandmother on the phone every Saturday morning. “She waits for my call every weekend,” he says. “She helped raise me while my mom was working two jobs, so the least I can do is regularly say hi. She says thank you before we hang up — it makes me feel good.”

Your preference for calling could depend on where you live — and how much you drive. My friends in Los Angeles are all on Team Call. “In L.A, everyone’s car is a phone booth,” says Liz, who recently moved there. “In New York, my phone rang at most once a day, usually from a telemarketer. When I moved west, I couldn’t understand why my phone was constantly ringing from people I actually knew. After two months, I’ve fully succumbed.”

Talking on the phone can also be an anchor. A friend who has battled addiction spends more than an hour every day speaking to people from her 12-step program. “I didn’t call anyone for a few years because of my desire to crawl into a cave,” she says. “But now I talk to at least three friends from recovery every day. It’s the best way for us to support each other.” She prefers talking over texting with people outside the program as well. “I admire people who take the time to call — it feels like a courageous act in this day and age.”

My heart rate still spikes if I hear an unexpected ring, but I have taken my friend’s words to heart. The other day, I was trying to convey something via text and it was coming across all wrong. So, I took a deep breath and texted my friend: “Can you talk?”

Are you a texter or a talker? Who do you still talk on the phone with?

P.S. A genius friendship tip, and phone rules.

(Photo of Audrey Hepburn, 1954. Tweet at bottom by Emery Lord.)

  1. Lisa says...

    Omg never the phone!! If I have to call a restaurant to order, because they’re not on seamless- I will choose another restaurant! hahah it’s that bad. Its shameful i know. I will only call my mom while I walk to and from the subway:)

  2. I do but rarely. Only in cases of emergency or when someone needs a listening ear. Other than that, no thanks!

  3. I totally relate to your first sentence! I just turned 40 and I dread talking on the phone with anyone other than my parents.

  4. Imme says...

    Last year I spent five months in Yaounde, Cameroon. Calling is much more common there; texting is expensive and, compared to where I come from (the Netherlands), people make more time for social interaction in general. My new friends would call me every day, sometimes just to ask what I had for breakfast! It took some getting used to at first, but it made me feel so welcome – and now I’m back home, I’ve picked up the habit to call my friends randomly as well (:

  5. Sarah says...

    SO, I have recently found I mostly DISLIKE phone calls. Like.. my mum had to REMIND me to call a new boyfriend when I was overseas visiting them (now an ex – surprised?)

    However… My work place – LOVES THEM. So I embrace them strategically and use them similarly, even though I’d much prefer a chat message or email if I was ‘receiving’. I work with trade staff, and I think it comes from that. I hate that I get distracted by the computer screens and phone screens I’m not on. But I can’t turn them off!? I therefore will call ‘for a chat’ when driving, and then I love it. It’s not interrupting screen time.

  6. I’m a caller with some people, a texter with others. I talk to my parents several times a week because they love it and it’s such an easy way to make them happy. Plus I enjoy catching up with them and they make me laugh. I call my brother too but not as frequently. I talk to one of my girlfriends every week and a college friend every month or so. Randomly, I make almost all of my calls in the car b/c I love bluetooth! With day to day friends, I usually text and then we’ll grab a drink or coffee to catch up. Talking to people I love makes my day better.

  7. Trish O says...

    I call my mom every day. I call my sister. I call my husband. Text has its place, but I want to hear a person’s voice. I also send my grandmother letters, on paper, in the mail.

    • Harriet says...

      Same here! I’m 34 and I speak to my Mom everyday, sometimes for hours. I also have five siblings, and whilst we have a group text, I talk to at least three of them every single day for several minutes. I also FaceTime the siblings with children, so I can see their children and talk to them.

      I feel as though I never miss a beat with my family members because we’re always on the phone. Sometimes, when I call one sibling she’ll be on the phone with another sibling or my Mom and as the conversation progresses more siblings call and get added and we’re there after an hour or two still yapping. I love it and plan to always call. I call my close friends too. Always.

  8. Kerry says...

    I’m dating for the first time in 20 years, and a guy I’ve been seeing called me recently. I literally threw the phone across the room in a panic.

    But once I got it together and called him back, it was actually kind of nice — reminded me of being a teenager again, with marathon phone calls to the boy I liked.

  9. jules says...

    I’m in my 40s with a toddler. My partner of 17 years and I talk briefly on the phone at least 1x per day while we’re at the office and always have. I often call a friend I haven’t talked to in a while if I’m driving or walking the dog to “hang out” since I can’t do HH as frequently as I used to.

    Workwise, I often find a 10 minute call can save 2-3 days of emails.

  10. Claire says...

    My phone accidentally called my best friend the other day and she immediately texted me “OMG. YOU JUST CALLED ME ARE YOU OK?”

  11. Sophia says...

    I mostly text as a 30-year-old millennial, but catch up via phone or Skype video chat with good friends and family. I schedule these ahead of time because we live in different time zones (we have a 3- or 6-hour time difference!) and if it’s not in my calendar, it doesn’t happen. While texting is convenient and quick, I love slowing down, hearing a loved one’s voice, and knit during catch up dates; I find it’s an effective way of moving a friendship forward even if we’re far away from each other and can’t visit each other on a regular basis.

  12. Jordan says...

    Group texts are the new 3-way call! I love the group chat my 3 best long-distance girlfriends and I have, especially during bachelor/bachelorette nights. It’s a nice way to feel in touch and connected despite being a few thousand miles away from them all

  13. Loz says...

    My friend and I text constantly, but if we ever need to call one another we start the conversation by saying “no one’s dead, everything is ok!”

  14. B. says...

    I’ve always had phone conversations at least once a week but that was with my family because for the past 4 years I have been living in a different country from them so we make a point to call. With other people, though, it sort of filled me with not dread… but boredom. I would rather get back to someone’s message when I feel like it, not have to sit down for an unknown period of time and actually talk to them!
    However, I’ve recently started dating an Italian who is very passionate and affectionate, and when I send him a text message, he will reply with a phone call so I am slowly starting to get used to the idea.

  15. I only want to talk on the phone with specific people, immediate family. Anyone else, text or email. I’ve always had a hard time hearing exactly what people say on the phone. I’m super visual, so I actually have to close my eyes and plug my other ear if I want to really hear what the other person is saying. This is why I love text and email. I can actually understand what the other person is saying. The advent of text has been huge for me! Kind of a game changer, especially when important information is conveyed.

  16. ALI says...

    My Mom would start regular fights with me about lack of communication – I actually hate BOTH texting and calling and would just prefer to catch up with her in person. However, obviously texting and calling are amazing ways to make sure that gap between physical catch-ups doesn’t feel like a huge chasm.

    Since last year I’ve taken to calling her every morning on my way to work to chat and our relationship is EXPONENTIALLY better! She is so grateful for the call that she tried to keep it under 5 minutes because she still can’t quite believe we talk so often and she doesn’t want it to stop.

    So to all the non-texters and callers, it’s been a great reminder to me to think about the preferences of your family and besties – it’s truly been a life changer for me.

  17. My friend and I were just talking about this the other day. I’m not a big phone person but when I want to catch up with a friend, I prefer to do it over the phone, like a real conversation- not texting. Nowadays, it feels like I need to make an appointment to call friends. Somehow it feels intrusive. My biggest pet peeve is when I call, don’t get an answer but moments later I receive a text message, “Hey, what’s up?” Ugh! Please tell me I’m not the only who gets this…?

    • Ashley says...

      I agree! It’s one thing if they’re like, “Hey, I’m at brunch — what’s up?” but another when they just clearly don’t want to answer the phone.

      I’m 23 and team phone! I like hearing people’s tone (which is totally lost over text) and pacing my house. All of my best friends from college ended up all over the country, but I talk to each of them every week!

  18. Jenny says...

    I’m a millennial (30 years old), and I actually would rather have a phone conversation with the MVPs in my life. I have a weekly call with everyone in my family. I usually do these calls while walking my dog. I have several monthly calls with life-long friends in different time zones. Sometimes we do Skype, sometimes not. One friend and I have a monthly bake & skype date – where we bake the same thing while chatting. I will say, this has been a HUGE (fight inducing) point of contention in all of my relationships. I’d much rather talk to my SO on the phone rather than texting. I feel like texting should just be used to confirm plans, send funny things, or short convos. I absolutely hate texting someone for hours and hours – it’s exhausting and so annoying. You also cannot really get to know someone if you’re just communicating via various forms of text – text messages, Facebook, instagram, email. You’re not truly communicating at all those ways, you’re not learning each other’s personalities or preferences or inflections. There’s something just so much more intimate about an actual conversation. I think you also retain the info exchanged better – Like at work, you’ll remember what was discussed in the Skype meeting over the 10 email thread you skimmed through. I’ve been made fun of several times by new friends and ex-boyfriends for my preference, but the way I see it – If I’m important to you, you’ll give me that time to truly interact with me. A text is something anyone can receive.

    • Jinny says...

      AMEN.

  19. Alex says...

    My best friend and I are big on Facetiming. We FaceTime at least a couple times a week and just chat! We’re pretty low-key about it. I’ll change clothes, use the bathroom, eat, whatever, which might be weird for some people (all she sees is my face!) but I like having the kind of friendship when you can be like that with someone and have no judgement.

  20. RBC says...

    Can we talk about voicemails?! They are SO annoying to check that if you’re leaving me one, it’d better be worth it! Haha!

    But seriously if I miss your call, just send me a text.

    • Sarah says...

      i have VM solely for mother. Who ALWAYS SAYS ” Hi… ### it’s mum’ That is almost always all, so much so, the ex could echo it!

  21. t says...

    When I started dating my wife this was a huge issue. I am totally a text-only person and she is absolutely a phone-only person. we had endless discussions about it and had to compromise that she would coordinate or communicate with me over text every day and I would talk to her on the phone every day. We are so used to it that we both use phone and text to communicate with each other. BUT i don’t talk to anyone else on the phone (except for business and even then I am now texting often) and she really doesn’t text anyone else except when she is trying to coordinate play dates with several moms.

    And to the cool-girl comment I don’t think that is the issue. It’s just whether you enjoy small talk or not. I do not b/c I am a no-bs type of communicator and when I am on the phone I can come off sounding rude because I am trying to cut to the chase. I am so bad, i will let calls ring through to my voicemail, read the transcription of the voicemail and then text back in response.

  22. Sarah says...

    Most of my friends live out of state, so I’ve resolved to call one friend a week to catch up. The calls are usually long-winded (1-2 hours) to catch up on all manner of life’s excitements, but lately I’ve been calling my friends as soon as I get off the train, dropping my bag at home and changing my shoes, and then going for a walk! I’ll do laps around my neighborhood as the sun sets. It’s been the most soothing ritual for the end of a work day, and I got a whopping 10 miles/day in two days this week. Good for my body and my soul!

  23. Katie "probably comments too much" Sullivan (: says...

    All I want lately is a big old cream colored kitchen phone, fixed to the wall, with a hella long cord. Rotary dial. Makes me miss my Grammy & our long chats of yore!
    I still call my parents, and my sister who lives in Ghana (I’m in Oregon), so me & her kiddos are way into WhatsApp & FaceTime. It helps bridge the distance so much (plus I love my 10 year old nephew’s genius photo-bomb Face Time cameos!). My neice & I are pretty heavy into Instagram DM’s.
    But.
    What I love most are cards and letters. In the mail. Both my parents are really great about this, at least once a month, and I do the same for them. My Dad’s parents were both deaf, so mail was always a big deal with them (can you imagine how liberating FaceTime is for deaf people today? So great.)and I think that’s why he still communicates a lot this way today. E-mail, too, but it’s not the same.

    • Claire says...

      oh, I love this. cards and letters are such a treat!
      And sometimes I miss the days when phones were fixed to the wall and stayed put.

    • Agree totally, cards and letters are precious. So much communication is lost now – many a brilliant texted conversation has disappeared into cyber space. I’ve taken to printing email chats when they’re special and wish there was a way to do the same with texts.

  24. Roberta Williams says...

    These cool-girl-posts make me feel like a 27-year-old grandma. I call my mom, dad, brother, friend-across-country, old roommate, partner, doctor, counselor, local pizza shop etc. ad infinitum. I’ve never felt terrified about a ringing phone–but expect a text back within the day of reception, and I’ll insist on a phone call to sort out expectations.

    • Nikky says...

      !!! I am so happy you said this !!!

      I love phone calls – 27 as well.

      Actually hate texting.

      Got rid of my smartphone two years ago.

  25. bridget says...

    i am a hardcore texter, but in college, my dad called me 1-3x a week. usually to talk bills/finances etc. but then it became our catch up and to just chitter chatter. after college, i started calling my mom more, she always said “oh dear, I never wanted to bother you! plus, you talked to dad and i got all the info from him” ;) now i dont go more than 5 or 6 days without talking to my parents. one of my best friends lost her dad this year suddenly, and i have become even MORE intentional (maybe paranoid?) on talking on the phone with my parents. the only other true phone conversation i have on a regular is my best friend from kindergarten – we called each other AT LEAST 5 times a day in college (“i spilled grape juice all over my outfit before class!” kind of shit), and now we talk almost every day. it’s the best. having bluetooth in my car with the ever-growing portland traffic is also v helpful! ;)

  26. Maranda says...

    I would say I’m in between. I talk on the phone once a week with my parents, and I also talk to my boyfriend on the phone regularly too (we live together though, so it’s mostly short conversations of us letting each other know we’ll be home soon/asking what’s for dinner/etc).

    I only speak to one other person on the phone and that is my former college roommate who lives several states away. We don’t talk very regularly, I would say about once or twice a month, but it’s enough to keep in touch in addition to texting and other social medias. I will say that if anyone else calls me I do find it a little odd (besides professional calls). I remember, another friend from college would call me semi regularly. I had graduated and gotten a job whereas she still had time in school so our hours were VERY different- she would call me right in the middle of the work day or while I was eating dinner/decompressing after work. Unfortunately our phone calls have died out since then since we could never get our schedules to sync up.

  27. Marie Pier says...

    My mom passed away when I was young. And you know what? I wish I could hear her voice again. Not texting her.

    • Aideen says...

      Got me in the heart x

  28. aga says...

    Yess!!! Before texting was a thing, or at least before smart-phone texting, (anyone remember having to hit 7 four-times to get that S?!), I didn’t realize that I hate talking on the phone is because I’m super awkward on this medium. So, when the boy that I had recently started to date and who I *really* liked would call, of course I picked up! …….I really shouldn’t have. I’m pretty sure the relationship fizzled (ie he left me for someone else who he had long, effortless phone conversations with) is because I was not myself over the phone. I still cringe thinking about the idiotic things I said, and his shocked silences, during which I’m sure we were both thinking, Who are you?!

  29. Jeanette says...

    Mostly texting, but also epic, multi-year email threads with my girlfriends from undergrad.

    But always, ALWAYS phone time for Mama!

  30. Julie says...

    It’s just like the lost art of writing cards/letters/notes. I’m 35 and text more than I call these days….but I’m wondering if we will look back at this time in society/technology and really regret how we communicate with each other. My son is almost ten and my husband and I were telling him how we used to call our friends at their houses, possibly talk to their dad and ask if our friends were available to talk, and then if your family did not have a cordless phone, pretty much everyone in the house heard your end of the conversation. He couldn’t fathom it! We decided we needed to make it a priority to teach him how to talk to adults and just people in general- look them in the eye because we are PEOPLE, not computers. (Of course I recognize how technology has opened so many doors for those hearing impaired and it is amazing!)

  31. Anna (in Colorado) says...

    I love talking on the phone. I connect with probably 2-4 members of my extended family (who are spread out across the country) everyday. No joke. I love feeling so connected despite the distance.

  32. Loved this article. How did we wind up like this?

    I, like you, loved long conversations at night with either my girlfriends or my boyfriend when I was a teenager! Now, when my husband calls while traveling, our conversations are short. So funny how time and technology changes things!

  33. elizabeth says...

    This article made me laugh. I am not a big phone-talker, but I’m not a huge texter either. I keep updated with my friends mostly via email. I laughed, though, because the non-phone people that were interviewed sounded so silly, (especially as compared to the normal, likeable phone-users who call their grandmas and friends in recovery): “if you’re going to call me, you’d better text me first and tell me why!” LOLLL.

  34. Claire says...

    texting works ok for logistics and coordinating, but I don’t find it a substitute for conversation, especially with people I care about, or want to know better or well. It’s like we’re waving from a distance, or giving a passing high-five. Which is ok sometimes, but I like voices- the timbre, breath, music, ups and downs, all the undercurrents and emotions, the energy of it. I like to hear the nuances, have some back and forth, give and take, hear in someone’s tone how they really are. I like the presence and creativity of a conversation. I like to hear all the words, laughter, frustrations, questions, and thoughts. I like to go deeper.

  35. Sarah says...

    I talk on the phone to close friends and family…but most of our conversations occur in person or over email/text. There is one exception: my best friend and I speak exclusively over the phone and have done so for the past 8 years. It’s done wonders for our friendship. We live on opposite sides of the country and rarely get to see each other. That weekly phone call is what’s held us together all these years.

  36. Katherine says...

    With a few exceptions, if a girlfriend shows up on my caller ID, I assume she’s pregnant. This actually happened Sunday night. A friend who I usually text called me, my husband said “she must be pregnant,” and indeed, she is!

    • Kara says...

      omg this is hilarious

    • Megan Cahn says...

      Haha, this is hilariously true!

    • anon says...

      this happened to me last week with a good friend I almost exclusively gchat with or see in person, and I’m about to do the same to her next week!! can’t wait.

    • Stephanie says...

      My friends (jokingly) assume some one died or I’m moving if my number shows up! I’m 43 though. Baby train has headed out.?

    • Amanda says...

      I was old fashioned when I got engaged and waited about a month to put it on social media so I could call my family and friends… about 50% of them knew exactly why I was calling before they picked up :)

  37. nicole says...

    I mean calling a phone call invasive is taking it a bit far.

    • Carrie says...

      Not when your family knows how much you hate it and they still call. Or when employees call on week nights and weekends!

    • Claire says...

      Carrie- oh no! sorry to hear about the employees calling on the weekend. that is no fun at all.

  38. Only if I absolutely have to! Phones ringing, even if it’s someone else’s, make my heart race. I have no idea why! Once I am on the phone it’s always fine but the ringing freaks me out. Even if I am on my phone and the ringer is silent and a call comes in, just watching it “ring” on the screen silently makes me panic.
    Same with any kind of door-knocking. When people come over I always text them and tell them to just tell me when they are here and tell them to please, please don’t knock on the door; it makes me so jumpy! But I have had several experiences with unexpected/uninvited people showing up and knocking and causing chaos (long story) so that one makes sense.

  39. Carrie says...

    After a glass of wine, maybe, but my job is comprised of answering the phone, and any calls to my cell typically mean trouble. At one point the association between my ring tone and work problems became so strong my stomach would instantly sour when I heard it! I had to change it! Now I take Rhodiola and the stress no longer gets to me the way it used to!! :)

  40. Cynthia says...

    While I receive texts from both of my daughters, they will call and chat, particularly if they need to vent about something. When my mom was alive, I called her several times a week and when she picked up the phone, she would usually say, “I knew it was you!” Because I’m a teacher and can’t use my cell phone during the day, my husband will e-mail me at my school account. I might find a text after school asking me to pick up something from the store on the way home or letting me know he bought yogurt so I don’t have to make a stop. My elderly neighbor a few doors down often calls to tell me how much she enjoyed the barbecue or whatever we took her. She’s a big fan of my husband’s barbecue.

  41. Celeste says...

    This is an interesting discussion to me, because honestly, I would rather call to catch up or discuss involved plans. I’ll text out of habit or because I’m in a rush. I’m 26.

    Like you mentioned, things come across wrong when texting, but more likely it’s such a temptation and distraction from those who we are actually with. My husband will get frustrated with me when I’m texting and he’s trying to talk to me or spend time with me but a phone call is a clear stop in our conversation and I always give him a heads up when someone is calling that it may be awhile.

    I just feel more connected when I call someone. Plus, the more you call, the less invasive it feels.

    • Kate says...

      Hear hear, Celeste! I couldn’t agree more with this sentiment. I’m 28.

  42. I am from Mexico and i think for the most part people here use their phones maybe like 60% texting/social media and 40% talking on the phone.
    I like talking on the phone with my friends and my family especially when texting would take longer than a simple “yes. no. i’m on my way.” but I absolutely hate calling or getting calls from others mostly because usually it could be solved with an email (like job interview type things, if it can’t be solved with an email, send me one to make a face to face appointment)
    I’m 24, by the way, but I have clue if this affects my phone usage more or the being in Mexico thing, lol.

    Great post!

  43. Nectar says...

    31, and I still talk to the same 4 people on the phone for the past 10+ years but rarely no one else.

    When it comes to dating, sometimes even before we meet, I usually talk the guy into talking on the phone with me, and 8 out of 10; they really enjoy it.

    • Megan Cahn says...

      My friend has a rule with online dating where she has to talk to the person on the phone first before they meet :)

  44. Laurel says...

    We are in the minority and still have a landline. I have an irrational fear that something will happen to a babysitter and the kids will be without a way to communicate (how silly is this? we have about a million neighbors). One unexpected thing that’s happened since my kids have gotten older (9 and 6), is that they will actually call me on my cell phone when I’m away. While this can be annoying (think “mom, he took my iPad”), it’s awfully sweet to hear their voices sounding so grown up :)

    • Same! Nobody ever calls the landline except telemarketers or the doorman, but it makes me feel better knowing it’s there.

  45. I’m 100% still a phone call-er, which I think takes people aback nowadays. With some of my friends, it’s easy. We love to talk on the phone and will call and talk for a few hours every few weeks. We text in-between so we always know what’s going on, but the call adds an intimacy. Maybe it’s just because I’m a musician and love hearing people’s voices though. I also call my mom almost every day. I even call guys I’m dating to iron out plans—if we’re texting for too long and trying to work something out, I’ll just ring them and we always sort it out much faster. I think they’re always surprised, but at least they can hear the tone of my voice and know I’m genuine, lol.

  46. Kate says...

    When I was in my twenties I left my phone number on the back of a receipt for a cute server at a pub in my neighborhood. It was something I had never done but my friends encouraged me to so I stepped out of my comfort zone and did it. Two days later he CALLED me! I wasn’t expecting to hear from him at all and if I did I was assuming it would be via text. Something about the fact that he called instead of texted made him seem even more charming and, mature, perhaps? Cavalier? I can’t quite put my finger on what the feeling was but it set him apart from other men I had met. Although the relationship didn’t last, his first impression certainly did and it still makes me smile when I reminisce about it.

  47. Katie says...

    I moved to a new town at the beginning of high school. So when I moved to NYC from Mississippi after college 12 years ago, I was already a pro at keeping in touch via phone. I’m probably the only person many of my friends in the South speak to on the phone, but it’s just the best way I know to keep in touch long distance. We text all the time as well, but only about whatever thing prompted the text. Those in depth conversations can’t really happen over text.

  48. Jo says...

    My book club recently read the book “Reclaiming Conversation: The Power of Talk in a Digital Age” by Sherry Turkle. I think the book had some really great points about why conversation is so important (although I also think it could have been about 1/3 of the length and still gotten the point across). I’ve made a conscious effort to spend face to face time with people close to me without my phone in hand, and also to spend time on the phone with those I can’t see in person (my dad, friends across the country, etc.). I think conversation is undervalued but it is also a struggle for me as an introvert – sometimes after a long day at work the last thing I want to do is get on the phone and chat with someone!

  49. Jane says...

    I’ve recently vowed to call people more, especially when thanking them for something. I was raised to write thank you notes, so I still do that, but I’m trying to call even when someone does something small, like mails me a greeting card. I do talk to my mom several times a week. My best friend lives 3 time zones away, so it’s harder to chat with her on the phone. But whenever we do talk, my mood is instantly lifted, so I try to call as often as I can.

  50. Annie says...

    I’m 24 so I’m definitely more comfortable texting my friends. However, I talk to my family on the phone a lot. My sister and I usually talk on the phone for about an hour a week about anything and everything. Our Mom was diagnosed with cancer a little over a year ago, so I’ve started calling her almost everyday on my way home from work as well. I probably actually drive her crazy but it’s nice to talk to her about my day and I think she enjoys having a gal to talk to (since she and my Dad are empty nesters).

  51. I really miss wanting to talk on the phone! Now that chatting/texting is a thing, I don’t ever want to be on the phone, ever.

    • Carrie says...

      Agreed! I loved to talk on the phone when I was a teenager. I could do it for hours!

  52. Mouse says...

    I’m 57 and still have a clamshell phone. I will not text, except in unusual circumstances. I travel for work, and my husband I speak at least once a day, even if only “hello, what did you have for dinner, I love you, goodbye.” (Sounds grimly boring, doesn’t it? When I was younger I swore I would never be that person, but now I like it)

    One reason I don’t want to text is that I don’t want to become one of the hordes of people walking around with their heads down looking at their screens. I want to be IN the world, to see the world as I walk. No one looks at each other anymore.

  53. Amanda says...

    I am a (bit) of an introvert, and I hate talking on the phone. Work calls don’t bother me, that is different somehow. I also get the feeling of dread when my personal/house phone ring, but for no real reason other than the thought of having a casual conversation makes me kinda’ sick…I have NO idea why :-/ A call from Mom or Husband is always welcome <3 , but I won't answer the house phone if not one of them. I. just. can't.

    • Amanda says...

      oh.. and I haven’t had a conversation w/ a friend just to chat (even for 5 mins) in like over 5 years…

    • katy says...

      Same here. I won’t answer the phone unless it’s my mom or husband. Very introverted and I can’t stand to hear or see my phone ring. Not b/c I may have to answer it, I know I won’t, but the fact that then the lingering possibility of a return phone call will sit with me. I have to assess if i can just text them back, of if I have to call them back. Which would be the worst, but at least I can be prepared and it’s on my time.

  54. Laura says...

    I think it’s sad that some people have an aversion to phone calls. They can be far more intimate and rewarding than texts. Although I’m a speedy typist and texter, I can accomplish far more in less time on a phone call than by texting. I fear that we’re becoming robots – just look at people on the street with their technological devices in their face, failing to interact with the world around them.

    • rebecca says...

      I totally agree, Laura. It is so disturbing to me to witness everyone on their phones so often – many think they’re checking in with the world and staying in touch, but they’re actually missing the world around them and disengaging from their surroundings.

      Most of my friends are on their phones way too often, in my opinion. (I am 30 years old). They know when we go out to a restaurant or come over to my place to not sit their phones on the table because I will point out how it makes me feel like they’re not invested in the conversation.

      I love phone calls. It’s so much more fun to hear a friend’s excitement over a new job/guy/baby/house/vacation etc. than it is to reading it through text.

  55. As a Houstonian I spend too many hours of my day in the car, which is the perfect little phone booth. I call my best friend daily on my commute to pick up my daughter from school. There was a brief moment where I wondered if it was too much, and then I heard Diane Rheam share about her daily calls with her best friend. I love our 5-30 minute daily calls. It’s so nice to have someone to share the mundanity of life and the big questions and the neurotic social anxieties and everything in between.

  56. Carolyn says...

    As a 25 year-old, this is an issue I constantly discuss with my friends. Most of my friends are in the texting camp, but I still like phone calls. Texts are great to make plans and ask quick questions, but I live far away from my parents and college friends. It’s easier to catch-up over the phone and find out what’s going on in a person’s life, instead of texting each other. I also try to make an effort to call people on their birthday. It’s more personal than a text and shows you are thinking about them because you put in the time to call.

  57. Charis says...

    I love both. However, I prefer to talk on the phone for 3 reasons. I get an immediate answer from people I know will not answer my text fast enough, when I am talking to the right person at the right time it’s magical and I have great memories of talking to my best friend in elementary school as soon as we got home from school.

  58. When my father calls me I answer and he immdiately opens the call by saying, “Nobody died.” That’s where I am. Nothing NOTHING is scarier than a phone call from dad.

    • Lindsey says...

      Yes! My dad once called me on my work line and I completely panicked! I was so sure he was about to deliver bad news that, even when I realized he just wanted to chat, the whole conversation was ruined.

  59. Julia says...

    I definitely prefer making quick phone calls when I’m organising something and like to collect all the details as fast as possible (when do we meet, what shall we bring, where do we go etc. ). Discussing all those questions simultaneously by phone is so much more economical to an impatient person like me than texting back and forth. My step-daughter never calls her friends, though. WhatsApp is her only choice. She would rather keep waiting for hours until a friend texts her back and I’m like: Well call her and then you know about your plans tonight. Is that normal when you are 15? I guess so. ;-)

  60. Rachel says...

    I barely talk on the phone anymore. With two little kids and a job it is nearly impossible to find time to talk on the phone without constant interruption, but it’s easy to sneak in a quick text. However, this is also a season of life that has made me feel more and more disconnected to friends and family. My mom has been chronically ill most of my life and is house bound and alone most of the time since my dad passed away. She remembers the craziness of life with little kids so she tries not to “impose” on me by calling. I realized about a year ago that to encourage her and maintain a long-distance relationship with her I needed to pick up the phone. About a year ago we established a weekly phone date on my commute home one day a week. Sometimes we have a lot to talk about, sometimes we just say hi and sit quietly with each other. It has made a huge difference for both of us: we feel more connected, I don’t have as much guilt being a long-distance daughter with a sick mom, and she feels like she is able to support me better because she knows what’s going on.

    I’ve become a firm believer in staking out solid phone time with a few people. It would be unrealistic to try to talk to everyone on the phone, but it’s been invaluable to building a few much-needed relationships in this crazy busy time of my life since I’d like to have a few friends left when my kids get old enough to go out with their friends!

  61. Maggie says...

    My mom is my go-to car call. If my drive will take more than 10 minutes, I call her and catch up/ask what she’s making for dinner/vent about life. We have a rule, though, that either of us can interrupt the other or stop abruptly and say “Gotta go!” and hang up quickly if we need to, no hard feelings.

  62. Lauren E. says...

    I remember when my husband and I first started dating (seven years ago) my sister-in-law was absolutely baffled that we talked on the phone, but I thought it was so romantic. My husband is a stand up comic and he’d call me on his way home from shows late at night just to say goodnight. SWOON. Even now if we’re apart for a few days we definitely talk on the phone.

    And I really only have one close friend that I talk to on the phone, and it’s because she’s super diligent about it. As much as I usually hate phone calls with anyone else (even my parents – sorry, mom), I always always always feel happier after I talk to her. So I can’t say that I ever mind too much.

  63. Erin says...

    being deaf — means I’m a texter. but i will facetime with my parents a couple times a month if they’re in florida. every now and then I’ll facetime with my niece because that’s the only way i get anything out of her. other than that I honestly dread talking on the phone and i have to do it for work — using the relay. I really hate calling and making appointments, like come on people make it easier on me, set up online appointments!

    • Nancy says...

      I wrote my comment before seeing this, but I’m deaf too and yes, I always want companies to enter the 21st century and do everything online.

  64. Laura says...

    I’m so-so on the phone issue. On one hand, I have phone anxiety (my old career as a journalist was a little rough, lol). I also think that idle/routine questions are best handled via text. So much more efficient! I also chat with friends and my husband online during the day, so there’s never a need to actually call my husband and ask him to pick up milk. But at the same time, I regularly talk to both my parents over the phone a few times a week, and it’s something I deeply enjoy. The secret: talking during my drive home from work, when I can talk via my car’s Bluetooth. Driving can be super boring and idle chit-chat is a great way to pass the time. Plus, no hands! When my parents try to call when I’m in the middle of something at home, and I actually have to hold the phone, I’m much more likely to keep things brief.

  65. Charli says...

    There are a few people I talk on the phone with – my parents, my sister, and two of my best friends who live in another state. Otherwise…nope. My pre-iphone friends will get phone calls and anyone I’ve met in the last few years only get text messages. There is just something really comforting about having a real conversation with someone you are close to, and if you can’t do that in person the phone is the next best way.

    On another note, have you heard of the Marco Polo app? That’s been keeping my long distance friends in touch for the last couple of months. It’s a video messaging app that strikes a balance between facetime and text messaging. We call it “snapchat for olds” because it’s easy to use and the messages don’t disappear. Us older millennials are still a little nostalgic I suppose and like to go back and look at the old videos from time to time. :)

  66. I absolutely LOVE talking on the phone. When I left NYC to study in DC, my single mom said I had to call her everyday, and if I didn’t or forgot to, she’d ask, “What, you don’t have give minutes to spare to talk to the woman who raised you?” (This is v true and I immediately feel guilty.)

    Aside from that, I still love talking to friends on the phone. When I call a friend out of nowhere, it usually means that I’m thinking of them at that moment and I miss them. We can talk for HOURS during an impromptu call. Even for friends close by, I’ll call them right before we’re about to meet up for lunch, so that there’s no texting back and forth if either of us are lost or need to find the other.

    Another thing I love about calling is that I can get an immediate answer. If I want to know if a friend or family is coming over for dinner, I’ll call them and they can answer right away, instead of me waiting for their written reply. That can be really nerve racking sometimes!

    And lastly, I honestly just love hearing the sound of the person’s voice. It reminds me that yes, I’m speaking to a person, and not just talking to a machine.

  67. Kirsten says...

    This post made me laugh. I definitely get that twinge of “oh my gosh why are they calling??” when my phone rings, especially if it’s not a family member or friend. But I do remember those days where my family had to get call waiting explicitly because 13 year old me was on the phone essentially 100% of the time.

    I still talk on the phone, but pretty much exclusively to my family, in laws, and my best friend who lives across the country. I like it! There are certain things you just can’t have a conversation about in text, and I love it as a way to stay connected. My mom, in fact, cannot STAND texting and if a text conversation goes on for more than three texts, she will call, regardless if there is anything more to say. I’m not a huge fan of FaceTime, but I’ll do that occasionally–but I really feel like most people spend more time checking out what they look like talking into the video camera than they do actually looking at the other person…

  68. Veronica says...

    I text when I am at work or when I need a quick answer from a particularly loquacious friend; otherwise, I tend to call. I’m not sure why exactly, but I got in the habit of calling my friends. I find talking on the phone or skyping to be more comforting (I’m 27, btw).

  69. I am definitely a texter, but I do FaceTime with my boyfriend every day because he’s deployed for work 700 miles away. He’s really the only one I want to talk to on the phone. For whatever reason, for everyone else it feels invasive.

    I used to love talking on the phone to my friends in middle and high school, but somewhere along the line texting took over. Now that I’m 28, I do kind of miss the idea of talking on the phone, but the execution of it is almost always torture.

  70. O says...

    That statistic is so interesting re: smartphone owners never actually using their phones to make a call!

    I’m from rural Ireland, and a family that calls each other a couple of times a day- sometimes just to say ‘I’m on the way home, see you in a few!’

    When I moved to Dublin I was really lost and quite unhappy. Coming from a culture of driving everywhere I used to hate the morning commute on the bus, so my Dad would ring me every single morning and chat to me for about twenty minutes or so to shorten the journey. He would be up in the fields telling me about the animals or what he had planned that day and I would chat about what was going on with me. I loved our chats, and really felt like it was one-on-one time that I wouldn’t have had otherwise. My mum agreed, -feeling a little left out!- so she would ring me at lunchtime for a couple of minutes and again when they had finished having dinner, it was really lovely to stay connected. My siblings knew that if they dropped by at that time they’d be able to chat with me too, the same way we would when we used to all have dinner together.

    I met my best friend through work, but when I changed jobs I realised how much I missed her so we would call each other after work and have a little rant each, usually ending up meeting somewhere in the city. You don’t text your location but when you’re chatting on the phone crossing the street you tend to be more descriptive so it turns into “Oh, I’m only a few minutes walk away, fancy a quick coffee?”

    Now I’m about to emigrate for a year to DC, and feeling slightly nervous about moving to a city where I have no connections, but so glad for WhatsApp Calls – when I travel for work whether it was Europe/Africa/Middle East, WhatsApp really closed the distance for us.

  71. Diane says...

    My husband and I are old school. Me more so than him. We use our iPhones for everything, ordering pizza, making appointments, scheduling a repairman, follow up medical for ourselves and our pups. I like a voice on the other end of the phone rather than just words on a screen. It’s the best form of human connection there is…. real conversation where you can hear the emotion of a loved one. Technology is wonderful, but there is simply no replacement for hearing a voice that is filled with excitement or joy.

  72. Trisha says...

    I call my Dad, who still lives back home in Southaven, MS. about twice a week on my way home from work. I used to love talking on the phone! I would stay on there with friends and boyfriends for hours and until the sun came up. But now, since I have a kid, I cannot find the time or quiet to make 1 phone call! So the commute will have to do. I do worry I text waaayyy too much. But it’s so easy and I enjoy being able to answer at my own pace and with emojis and bitmoji. lol.

  73. Lo says...

    I will literally pick up the phone to anyone and everyone. It’s never been something thats bothered me, and something you can only convey what you’re trying to say voice to voice.

    Lo

  74. Mo says...

    I am currently in Rome, and it seems like Italians of all ages talk on the phone. From business to gossip, it’s common to see an Italian in a serious conversation on the street and wildly gesticulating with classic Italian hand gestures. Since the Italian language is so beautiful, it’s like hearing music everywhere. :)

  75. I’m definitely more texter but I don’t mind with phone calls! I used to love phone calls. When I was in middle school, the only thing that exciting me was phone calls from friends. We would talked hours and hours. And I also loved making call to a radio show!

    But yes, digital era changed the perspective of phone calls completely. My best friend hates phone calls. We talk a lot whenever we meet each other, but when it comes to a phone calls, it would be very weird! Thus, we never called to each other hahaha

  76. Shari says...

    I talk/gossip to my best friend on a landline 4-5 times a week around 5pm . At this time we are both wrangling children, bathing them, feeding them, sorting out their fights. These phone calls keep me sane and give me a laugh. My friend and I are very 1970’s obviously. We often drink wine or gin and eat crackers at the same time.

  77. Ramona says...

    After a job as a receptionist, I am no longer a “talker.” And I still have a landline so I screen my calls. I don’t even have my voicemail activated on my smartphone. If people need to reach me, they know to text me. It’s just the way I roll.

  78. Brianna says...

    I only make phone calls to make appointments and for work-related things. I’m required to call my mother seven days a week, but those calls last thirty seconds or less (just long enough for her to not send my father over to my apartment/not call the cops). But to just call a friend to chat? Never. I used to, but everyone’s lives are so busy, there’s rarely time to just sit on the phone and chat.

  79. Thank you for this!!!! Im so relieved to hear im not the only one…. I am def on team phone anxiety. My really good friends and I text and hang out (okay that is a stretch. We bump into each other at the store and talk while our kids yell at us to leave). I’ve found that certain people who really want to talk on the phone, are in a completely different life stage than me, or they have very different expectations (cough… very high expectations… cough) about friendship that I can’t quite keep up with. I think that is what causes my anxiety. I need almost all of my down time, at least at this point of my life, to be alone time, or to be spent with my husband or mom lol. Or a puppy. I think women are often expected to be super on top of all and any relationships, and I get frustrated when I’m expected to keep up very regularly with all of them. To some extent, I’m proud and happy that I don’t make myself available all the time even though it means I get comments a lot like “oh Nurit never answers her phone don’t even try”. When that happens I think to myself- I wish people didn’t think of that as a cop out, but rather than I’m setting boundaries. Boundaries like, I just put my two toddlers to bed and I’m going to eat a handful of chocolate chips and pretend like no one needs me right now because otherwise I will lose my mind… thank you again for this post!!

  80. B says...

    Ooohh great topic! I HATE talking on the phone! Actually, I don’t mind talking to my grandparents on the phone, and do that semi-regularly… hmm okay here’s what it is – I hate receiving a phone call. I find it intrusive and jarring to my day! I don’t like being available to people 24-7 which is what smartphones feel like. If you text, then I’m at leisure to reply when I’m able to (once the kids are asleep, usually). Plus if you call me during the day I’m wrangling three little ones and my conversation is soooo stilted cos I’m trying to do one million things at once… I just want the bare facts! Which a text can deliver nicely :) haha! I’ve been known to reply to my husbands missed calls with a text saying ‘DON’T EVER EVER CALL ME’ ??

    And for the record I’m 30 and live in Australia… I am an introvert tho so maybe that’s part of it?

  81. Em says...

    I’m firmly on team DON’T CALL ME. I hate talking on the phone. I have a standing Sunday phone call with my parents each week and I don’t mind that. But any other time my phone rings, I automatically assume something awful has happened! I picked my doctor based on the fact that the office does online scheduling and I don’t have to call to make an appointment.

  82. Jen says...

    My closest girlfriend moved away and we talk on the phone once a week or once a fortnight for an hour or so. It’s never long enough.

    But there’s some people I only ever text and then feel very weird if I find I do need to call them. Not sure what that’s about?!

  83. Kate says...

    I still talk on the phone all the time! My husband and I talk every day at lunch for at least ten minutes. It’s not unusual for me to talk to my mom several times a week for thirty minutes or more during her commute home. And I have marathon conversations (in the thirty minute to hour plus range) with at least one of several good friends most weeks. I am obviously a talker! That said, I live far away from most of these friends & family members and without phone calls I think I might feel quite lonely. (Or be forced to make new friends, ha!) I know it’s not “cool”, but I love phone calls!

  84. i setting ringtone my phone for special person as: (my family a ringtone and friend ringtone) :) :)

  85. Agnes says...

    Talking on the phone to my sister right now as I look online at websites! Just had to comment.. Hahahah!

  86. SheetalR says...

    I have a customary three minute call with my mother every.single.morning.
    She gets worried if the call gets delayed by 15 mins.. :D

  87. alison says...

    I just got walloped with an out of the blue break-up and the phone has been a lifesaver for talks with long-distance friends. With my two BFFs living on opposite coasts from me (I’m stuck in the midwest), hearing their voices has been the best medicine.

  88. Tessa says...

    For my friends that are text crazy and refuse to answer their phones, I text them my landline phone number. For some reason, the glowing underlined blue number is so tempting that they can’t help themselves.

    • Megan Cahn says...

      Genius!

  89. I’m hearing impaired so I text like a maniac. I always knew that if talking on the phone was easier for me, I’d be one of those people who was always on the phone! After I got my cochlear implant, I was calling people like crazy!! I was so excited, my friends were excited, my mom was amazed, everyone was totally into it. These days, I’ve been voxing, using the audio message feature on iMessage and totally making real phone calls when a text just won’t do!!

    • Thanks for this comment. My daughter has cochlear implants and regular calls work for her but are a little difficult. We are totally going to look into voxing!

    • Nancy says...

      Amara, if your daughter has an iPhone, she can get a bluetooth adapter (called a phone clip) and stream phone calls right to her processor. I’m able to do it with Voxer too but with Voxer, it’s not as efficient because the phone clip doesn’t reconnect fast enough to keep up with the pace of Voxer so I just do without and use the transcription feature if I can’t figure it out.
      (I guess for Android, too, maybe but I don’t know…).

    • Nancy says...

      Amara, feel free to email me if you have other questions. My sister is also deaf and she is a lawyer, so she is always on conference calls. I can tell you how she has her phone set up to stream to her hearing aids (works the same for a cochlear implant). nancy.brodsky AT gmail.com

  90. A says...

    Lol this is so good. I hate talking on the phone. Some people in my life need to read this

  91. Kim says...

    I program a different ring for each of the people I regularly get calls from (mom, dad, husband, cousin, etc.) so that I know exactly who’s calling from across the room and I can decide whether it’s worth it to get up! If it’s a regular ring from no one in particular, I never get up. If they need something from me, they can leave a message or text and I’ll get back to them on my time.

    • Megan Cahn says...

      Omg, love this!

    • Dsnsei says...

      This is exactly what I have done. If its not one of those ring tones its not someone I know and they are welcomed to leave a message. I do the same for texts.

    • Jules says...

      I do the same thing! Part of my plan to spend less time looking at my phone.

    • Kirsten says...

      I love this…but I also hate checking voice messages! For some reason unknown caller voicemails make me even more stressed out than unknown calls.

  92. stephanie says...

    call: my lover, my dad (that looks really awkward, typed out…), my best friends
    text: my husband, my children, my boss

    • jen says...

      Wait, are you having an affair??

    • Sarah says...

      Okay, this is intriguing! I think we need a follow up from Stephanie.

  93. Angela says...

    I never liked talking on the phone even when it was still a thing. Lol However, now that I live 1000 miles away from my family, I do spend a few hours a week talking on the phone or Facetiming with my parents and grandparents. Like you mentioned in the article, my Mamaw looks forward to my Monday morning calls and we usually talk for an hour to an hour and a half. I love it!

  94. Esvee says...

    I don’t like talking on the phone anymore… But I attribute a lot of my dislike to how it feels to talk on a cell phone vs a regular old landline. I miss cradling the phone against my shoulder etc. With a cell phone I kind of barely want it against my ear!

    • Tessa says...

      I totally agree Esvee! I kept my landline for that very purpose. I feel that I grew up watching my mom with a phone cradled in the crook of her neck while she talked to my grandmother. Now here I am with a baby on the hip, cooking supper and a phone cradled up to my ear talking to my mom.

    • Rachel says...

      There are old-fashioned receivers that plug into audio ports! I have one from Native Union. It’s so much nicer than holding a blocky smartphone to your face.

  95. Savannah says...

    I talk to my mom for hours on the phone. My best friend and I, after years of best friendship, have just gotten to the phone level of our relationship and will be upgrading to Skype now that I am moving a few states away. I can’t imagine insisting anyone text me though – cold.

  96. I still talk on the phone quite often at work but rarely outside of it, and then the only person is usually my mom. I almost always have my phone on silent and am horrible about actually answering it because it so rarely rings, and when it doesn’t it’s a telemarketer more often than not.
    We also haven’t had a home phone for years now but my parents still have theirs. If it rings when I’m over it always freaks me out!

  97. With so many forms of communication these days it depends on who the person is for how I communicate with them. When it comes to my mom I find myself saving things I want to tell her and my week ends with one long phone call, as my mom sends way too long of texts and I can explain things better on the phone with her. I have friends in college who I see in classes during the week so besides talking in person we communicate through Snapchat, aka silly faces and pictures of things that remind me of them. I have one friend who regularly communicates with me by tagging each other’s name in Facebook videos we think the other person would appreciate, even if i don’t actually see or talk with them otherwise, I still feel like we are connecting. But through all this I mostly text everyone, it’s convenient and everyone seems to be on the same page with this form of communication.

  98. jd says...

    I almost always let unexpected phone calls (via mobile) go to voicemail. Unless my mom or husband call, at which point i assume something is wrong and will pick up immediately. I’m somewhat similar with texts…I think its because the smartphone has made me unwillingly available all the time and most often I’m not in the right mental/physical place to have a conversation.

  99. Kristy says...

    I don’t mind talking on the phone, and sometimes I actually like it because I can do other things at the same time. It’s much easier to move your mouth than to move your fingers. Even for work, sometimes it’s easier to talk it out than to type back and forth.

    And as for the people I really care about, I miss hearing their voice.

  100. Taylor Jacob says...

    Team Call, mostly because I drive so much. When I call my mom on my way home from work she sometimes asks to call back in 5 minutes, which I’d usually half an hour and I’m home already in which case I don’t answer because I’m usually busy or already engaged in my Netflix show. The car really is my phone booth!
    -Taylor

    • Suzie says...

      I actually hate it when friends call me on their commutes, since it seems like that’s the only time people usually call – when they’re trying to kill time. I think it’s different with your mom, obviously – she’s probably happy to hear from you anytime. But the commute time is also so inconvenient for me – it’s the time I’m making dinner or feeding someone. Since I’ve had a child, I just can’t talk during the commute times of others anymore and ask them to schedule a different time with me when my son is asleep. I feel like those conversations are better, when neither of us are engaged in something else that requires a lot of concentration. I have a very good friend who I’ve tolerated the commute call from before, and our conversations have been interrupted by her parking issues, her stopping by the pharmacy, her stopping to pick up dinner on the way home, etc. It’s too much!

  101. Candace says...

    I’m on gchat with a college friend of mine daily. We are dear friends, but if she gets a phone call from me or any other friend w/o prior warning, she has told me her reaction is to assume something **terrible** has happened. She would MUCH rather text. I have two very close friends in other countries who I’ve been Whatsapping with for years due to time differences, etc. We rarely talk and now it’s almost strange when we meet in person! That said, I have another friend that I call routinely to chat with on the commute home and she has no aversion to the phone. We’re all mid-30s and finished college in 2005. For me, if I don’t know the number, I’m not answering my phone. I don’t like the uncertainty/inconvenience of having to immediately deal with an intrusion into my day, I guess. How strange :)

  102. Emma says...

    I mean there are a lot of occupations where people still need to talk on the phone …..
    I’m a rehab case manager and am on the phone talking to clients all day, between actual face to face meetings. What do phone hating people do if the phone rings at work?
    The woman who needs a text before someone phoning makes me feel sad and disturbed all at once, spontaneous visitors and phone calls can be fun or inconvenient but you know, you deal with it.
    Oh and I’m a younger gen x if that counts, although judging from these comments it’s not generational so much as it’s personality based (I think someone sad that above and I agree).

    • L says...

      I’m a phone hater but I, of course, answer phone calls for work. I used to have a job where I spent a ton of time on the phone so I was especially phone adverse in my personal life after spending all day talking on the phone. My current job requires way less phone time and now I’m a lot more likely to pick up an unexpected call on my cell. I imagine that someone who is a lot more phone adverse than me would not be happy with a job that requires a ton of phone time and would probably pursue a different field.

  103. Rachel Adrianna says...

    I’m 27 and most of my friends from college live in different states. Thanks to social media- Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat- we can be aware of what is going on with each other’s lives (assuming we all regularly update these platforms!) from day to day. That way when we want to call one another we can skip the “what have you been up to?” conversation and get straight to the point :) It does seem more time consuming to make a phone call sometimes, but it feels more personal and more reminiscent of living in the same dorm, hearing their voices all the time.

  104. Colleen S. says...

    Yes, I still talk on the phone. My mom calls sometimes several times a day, even though we literally live a five minute walk from each other. I prefer talking to texting sometimes, because I don’t like send multiple texts to convey something I could call someone about. I also don’t FaceTime, just won’t do it.

  105. Amy says...

    I’m not on any social media so talking on the phone is a way for me to learn about what family and friends are up to. I talk on the phone with my mom every day (I’m 33) and regularly talk with my best girlfriend (who lives in another town) and my sister. I have other phone calls too, but they’re less regular. Texting is definitely a thing for me, but I can see a big difference between the way I text with my same-aged friends and my 25-year-old friend. She has full-on deep “conversations” via text. Sharing secrets and everything.

    Facetiming is fun and also a thing for me. I schedule wine dates with girlfriends, and just last week my sister and I Facetimed for two hours while enjoying made-at-home cocktails! :)

  106. Rose says...

    I can’t really relate to this, I have to say. I would much prefer to talk on the phone than text- to friends, family, whomever really. The only thing that is annoying is when you keep missing one another’s calls! But then it’s great when you finally do connect. I’m actually making a conscious effort to call people more – texting has started to annoy me that much. I agree 100% with other commenters re: the emotional connection that comes with hearing one another’s voices. It’s so important. I find communicating in written form all the time (whether email, text, whatsapp, whatever) rather isolating and makes me feel like I don’t really know what is going on in people’s lives. If someone asks me over text how I am, I’m ‘good thanks, how are you’. On a call I can actually say how I’m feeling. Also all the back and forth about plans drives me crazy- on the phone you can make joint decisions more quickly.

  107. Amy says...

    I’m a texter. The other day I saw my husband texted me twice while I was in a meeting, then he called so I picked up the call thinking now it was serious. It wasn’t. And I was annoyed but he was like, I was just trying to reach you but it’s not an emergency! So yeah a ring seems much more dire. :)

  108. jillygirl says...

    I’m 50 and even to me it feels extremely laborious to actually have to speak on the phone. This is amazing when you stop and think about it. I do notice that I am far more present though, when actually talking on the phone.

    What this means for the future I can only imagine – my hope is that we all become telepathic, eliminating the need for any device at all!

  109. Marie says...

    Text before a phone call to let someone know you are going to call them??? What is wrong with our generation? So much anxiety.

    I think the text vs. phone issue isn’t as generation-specific as it is personality-specific. I’m too busy to text–this is the conversation that goes through my head: “How long will this take me to type out in text? How long would it take me to just say it? Okay, I’ll just call.”

    I usually spend at least 30 minutes on the phone daily catching up with family, most of which live in the same town that I do and that I see all the time! I guess it’s part of being in a big family where we’re all in each other’s business (in a good way).

    • L says...

      My family tends to do a text before a phone call because otherwise we end up playing phone tag all day and never actually speak. But if someone sends me a “what’s a good time to talk” text, I can reply quickly between things or when I’m in a place where I can’t talk but can text and we can work out a time when we’ll both actually have some time to talk.

  110. Rebecca says...

    Megan’s posts always make me feel that I have nothing in common with younger women (I’m 38). I guess because it’s true?

    • Megan Cahn says...

      Sorry to hear that Rebecca, but we’re actually not too far off in age. I turn 36 next week. This phone aversion started in my 30s. Funny thing is I enjoy talking on the phone when it happens, it’s answering and making the call that is the problem. Ridiculous, I know :)

    • Shelly says...

      I’m 40 and I too feel really old after reading this post. I prefer to call – I’m a pediatric nurse practitioner and I like to call my patients to see how they are doing. Much better to talk to them!

    • Stephanie says...

      I’m 43 and I completely relate! Maybe it is more personality related?!

  111. I never liked talking on the phone, but since moving to Guatemala, I absolutely HAVE to. Everyone calls here- they’re all about getting information, fast. If I don’t answer my phone, it’s a big deal and kind of considered an insult. I think it’s part of the culture here that everyone seems to be very well connected. For example, I told a friend that I was looking for a couch, and they had their friend on the phone who owns the furniture store down the street in 30 seconds flat :)

  112. Kate says...

    I don’t HATE talking on the phone, but it’s definitely not my favorite, however, I recently started seeing someone new and right after our first date, my employer sent me across the country for 5 weeks for a project. I was super worried that my guy would lose interest or the spark would be gone after all that time, but he ended up calling me nearly every evening while I was away and it turned out to be the most lovely way to get to know each other. A week in, I was getting giddy every time the phone rang, just like all those nights as a teenager waiting for my crush to call. When I finally returned and we were reunited I felt so comfortable with him and I feel like our new little relationship is lovely thanks in part to those long phone conversations.

  113. Laura says...

    I miss talking on the phone! Especially in high school when I’d get to talk to my crush. I wish people still talked like that (i’m 25). I still talk to my family but even close friends, not really.

  114. Meg says...

    I mostly text, with 2 exceptions. I talk to my parents about once a week on the phone, and I have a date on the 22nd of every month to talk to my closest friend who lives in a different state. When we separated for college, many months would go by without us being in touch at all, and we decided that was unacceptable. It’s so easy for life to get in the way, and setting a date was the easiest way for us to prioritize time to foster our relationship. If something exciting happens, we talk on other days as well, and we usually text at least a couple times a week, but the phone call happens even when we’re too busy for those other check-ins or when life is boring, and it’s a fun thing to look forward to! It also usually happens during one of our commutes.

  115. Jen says...

    I talk on the phone or facetime with my long distance friends. With my close girlfriends here at home, we’ve sent about 100 messages in our chat group so far and it’s only 3pm. I almost never pick up my phone when it rings and my husband knows now to never leave me a voicemail.

  116. Megan says...

    I’m 25 and hate talking n the phone, I almost never pick up, including my work phone. I would much rather text (which I am usually horrible at replying to) or just talking face to face in person. Me any my boyfriend who live together, talk about our day and all the little details. After being with him for so long, I find that I only need or want one person to do that with. Thinking about calling my sister or mom on a weekly basis just sounds exhausting to me, and I dread the idea of having to tell the same story over and over.

  117. I’m 30, and the big thing in high school and college was AIM (AOL Instant Messenger), so even though it wasn’t texting on a phone, people my age got used to talking through words. Y’all should do a post on old AIM screen names! My first was slimjimgurl13. *Cringe.*

    I call and/or FaceTime my mom every day, and aim for at LEAST a thirty-minute phone chat with my best friend every two weeks.

    (My husband usually hates talking on the phone, but every now and then he’ll call me on his commute and will talk my ear off. I LOVE IT.)

  118. jen says...

    I just got off the phone after talking to my best friend for 40 minutes. She’s the only one I talk to longer than two minutes tho.

  119. S. says...

    I’m laughing because I just got off a 1.5 hour gossip/catch up phone call marathon with my best friend from college. We do this every 1-2 months, with texts in between here and there. The only requirement: call when husbands AREN’T in the house. So much more fun to chat freely like in the college days!

  120. I called my 17 year old daughter yesterday to ask her a question and she was completely flummoxed. She said “Why didn’t you text? Whenever you call I think I’m in trouble”

  121. Katy says...

    Phoning my best friend [defined as: the one person who understand everything without me having to explain it, emotions, rage levels etc] is my favourite part of the week. I’m 28 and we haven’t lived in the same city since we left university 7 years ago but hanging out with her on the phone removes the distance. I am always genuinely interested in the tiny minutiae of her life and vice versa. It’s now at the point where i keep a running list of things to tell her :)

  122. Ali says...

    I’m 33, and I talk on the phone constantly. I have long meaningless conversations with my parents, grandparents, in-laws, husband, sisters, best friends, co-workers, daily. I will talk to my mom on the way home from work or talk to my boss while she is one car behind me driving to work. I’ll talk to my husband when I know he has a few minutes free in his day. I can’t imagine a day without talking to someone (anyone will do) on the phone. I currently live in the Midwest but was raised in the South, so perhaps this is a regional thing? It seriously irks me to imagine any future kids I have will be anti-phone!

  123. Joanne says...

    As an introvert I feel like texting was created for me. I know quite a few people who still like to call instead of text, but unless you are my mom, my twin sister, or my bff I would much rather text you! I do feel kind of panicked when I hear my phone ring and it isn’t one of those people. And if I don’t recognize the number, I just don’t pick up.

  124. Annie says...

    It kind of bothers me that some of these comments seem to assume that anyone that doesn’t like talking on the phone obviously has their face in their smartphone all the time. I have never owned a smartphone, am completely free of this particular problem that seems to be sweeping the country, and I also hate talking on the phone.
    I have a friend who lives far away who is going through a rough time but I can’t make myself call her. I am very shy and have horrible social anxiety, even with close friends. I have a feeling she’s not a phone person either (she’s sort of quiet like me) so that doesn’t help.
    It’s odd to consider, because like many I spent many many hours talking on the phone when I was a teenager.

  125. Amanda says...

    I am loving all of these “old millenial” comments – I’m definitely in that camp. I just moved so most of my friends and family are a state away, and while I love being able to stay in touch via text (or Snapachat for my early-20’s siblings!)…. there’s something so uplifting about spending 30 minutes on the phone catching up! Maybe it’s because I’m an extrovert, but I really do love that exchange of energy vs. reading a message. Even for non-long distance people, sometime’s it’s easier to have a 2 minute conversation than exchange 15 texts! I’m a classic “Can you talk”-er ;)

    Also, I have known my husband since college, and while we were still (v. flirty) friends we both studied abroad. We exchanged emails and kept in touch, but one night he called my temporary cell phone…. that was ten years ago and I am sitting here with butterflies thinking about laying in my host family’s hammock and chatting with him for a couple of hours. While I loved his newsy, funny and friendly emails, hearing his laugh and the softness in his voice reassured me that he hadn’t forgotten about our deeper connection.

  126. daria says...

    I’m in my early thirties now and I hate talking on the phone. I do it voluntarily when I’m away from my husband but on other occasions, it’s mostly forced on me by friends, family, and yes, telemarketers. It always feels like they’re interfering in my day to day. People complain that I never call but I’m perfectly satisfied with texts and WhatsApp chats. What I hate even more is videochat – I have to be 100% there, while with phone calls I can at least have some privacy. Don’t get me wrong, there was a time (before texting became affordable) that the “free minutes” on my subscription plan were never enough, and even a time (before we had cellphones) that I was calling my deskmate the moment we got home from school. And how cute were phone pranks… Those definitely don’t work as texts.

  127. I do both regularly. I live with my parents still (I love it, if I could get married and live here like in Moonstruck I would be so happy), but if I have a question I need an answer to asap (like the Hulu password) I’ll call my mom. I also usually call her when I’m leaving work (the time can vary) to see what she’s up to, if she has dinner plans that way if we need something from the store I’ll grab it, or save any errands I have until she’s out of work and we can go together. I also have one friend I call regularly. We both drive a lot and if we have something to tell each other we call! But no other friends really, so I’m not sure why this one relationship has evolved to include long-ish calls! We see each other weekly so it’s not even playing catch-up! I’m also in a semi-long distance relationship where my boyfriend lives an hour and a half away. If one of us is feeling disconnected and we feel like we need it we’ll have a phone call. Sometimes we don’t even talk much, but just hanging out on the phone together feels a little bit closer than texting (we do also send a long goodnight text every night that’s basically like, I love you so much! so that whatever happens we get that).

  128. kristin says...

    Yes to this. In my twenties I would talk to one friend in particular most every day. Now, in the thirties, I don’t have the same time or energy or desire for this level on in-touchness. I’ve tried to give her hints (taking my time calling back, for the most part) but she’s not getting it. Oftentimes she’ll just keep calling. It’s hard. I cherish her friendship but her expectations aren’t mine anymore. I worry that if I tell her this she’ll be crushed. Phone time can be so fraught!

  129. C.C. says...

    People: Please stop staring at your phones all the time.
    Talking on the phone is something I still enjoy, especially with friends and family that live far away.
    I think people need to have real conversations – voice to voice – where real emotions (not emoji) are expressed and heard.
    I watch people waiting in lines, walking down the street, standing in the elevator, and even going into bathroom stalls with their eyes glued to the phone. It’s becoming a social disorder: the inability and discomfort to just be somewhere without the action of staring at one’s phone or texting on it.
    So, yes, I still talk on the phone! (and Skype with friends out of the country).

    • lauren says...

      Texting and snapchat has allowed me to stay in regular contact with a group of friends that is now living across the country. I feel really close with them, something I was worried about when we all moved. To an observer, it might look like I am mindlessly staring at my phone, but to me, I’m laughing at a joke one of them just texted or giving advice about a job interview. To each their own!

  130. I definitely still talk on the phone, but I’ve been Face-Timing more and more. My twin sister and I are regular texters throughout the day, but about tenth months ago we started FaceTiming a few times a week. We never did it through college (we were in different time zones), but now that we’re both out west and have the same work schedule, it’s easier.

    I LOVE it, and I think it’s strengthened our (already-close) relationship. We’ll both set up in the kitchen and chat while we cook. Or we’ll prop our iPads in our living rooms, and my roommate will join the conversation. Before meeting my sister’s roommate, I had Face-Timed with her so many times, that when I actually met her…we felt like old friends.

    Living far from family (especially my twin) can be tough, but these modern conveniences make it feel like we’re all together again.

    xx

  131. I’ve been in a long distance relationship for the last year, and our phone calls are so special to both of us. He gives me a wakeup call most mornings, and we chat every night before bed. And I do love FaceTime for quick chats with friends and loved ones, but holding my phone at a flattering angle for more than five minutes? No thank you! #TeamNoUpperBodyStrength

  132. Sarah Beth says...

    I talk on the phone with my parents, my grandma, and my husband (but usually just about logistics with him,) and that is literally it. Even my very best friends are text or chat or in-person, and I get super nervous to call them! my best friends!
    A really strange and funny thing, though, is my toddler is OBSESSED with talking on the phone the old fashioned way. She calls it the telephone, and even when we video chat with my parents, she’ll hold the phone up to her ear instead of looking at them! I assume she learned it from my in-laws, who take care of her a couple of days a week, bc I don’t think she’s ever seen me talk on the phone like that! Even when I do talk on the phone, it’s usually on speaker in the car or with earbuds. It cracks me up every time, bc she’s definitely more old-fashioned about the phone than I am!

  133. I’m an “old millennial,” which means I made it all the way through college without much texting. It existed, but people didn’t really use it…it was expensive! I came of age during the free nights and weekends period where I would talk to my college boyfriend for HOURS, but only after 9:00, and I credit those conversations with him being my husband now. When we started dating I thought it would be a quick fling with a dumb, hot, jock who was kind of a jerk, that would last only until he went home for summer. Instead, we kept in touch all summer and talked every night, without the possibility of sex. That’s when I discovered he’s actually brilliant and sweet, and that I was misreading his shyness as being aloof. We totally fell in love that summer. I don’t think we would have survived on texts alone!

    Now, though, I am text all the way. I hate talking on the phone, and I only do when it’s absolutely necessary. I even avoid it at work (I use the excuse that I like to have everything documented in email, which is valid in my profession). The only person I talk to on the phone is my mom, and my dad when she puts me on speaker phone. It’s not my favorite weekly activity!

    • Jessica says...

      I’m also an “old millennial” and fondly remember those free nights and weekends!!

      My husband and I met when we were 23, in 2007. Cell phones were fully a thing by then, but people didn’t text. When my girlfriends are talking about decoding dudes’ text messages or “why didn’t he text me back?”, I literally cannot relate to them! I have only ever dated in a text-free world. Which makes me sound way older than I actually am, but damn!

    • jen says...

      Awwww, I remember hours longs conversations with my now husband. We talked a lot more then! I remember waiting for it to be 9 p.m.!

    • Kate says...

      Old millennial! LOL Me too. I remember my slightly younger boyfriend trying to convince me that it was time to start texting!

    • RBC says...

      Haha me too! 1984 baby here and I feel the same way! Although I didn’t even have a cell phone in university (partly because I split my year between Canada and the states and international plans were crazy expensive back then). I still talk to my parents, siblings, and husband (when we’re at work or he’s traveling) on the phone but that’s pretty much it. I used to talk to my closest girlfriends occasionally but now that we have an ongoing whatsapp group chat, I rarely do that.

    • Cara says...

      I’m an old millennial too and you just reminded me about the free nights and weekends! So funny, I’d completely forgotten. In high school, we didn’t have cell phones yet so my best friend and I had this binder full of binder paper that we would write notes to each other in and then hand it back and forth between class for the other one to write notes in. It was our old school e-mailing, I guess.

  134. Jade says...

    I call my mum everyday on my lunch break just to ask how her day is going. She was a stay at home mum for so many years and doesn’t have anyone at home anymore so I feel the least I can do is a quick hello. I never know what tale she will tell me and sometimes on a stressful day it is really grounding to hear her tell me to remember to take a breath.

  135. I’m 24 and love talking on the phone! My sister is 22 and moved 7 hours away to Nashville last year, and we text and snapchat each other almost every day. Every few days we’ll talk on the phone for HOURS about nothing – while I walk my dog, when she’s painting her nails, while we make dinner, etc. We joke that we talk more now that she lives in a different city than we did when we lived 15 minutes apart! I love that we don’t have anything specific to catch up on because that’s how you really get to know someone – when we share our little observations and tidbits throughout the day that don’t necessarily make it to the highlight reel. It usually ends up about what we had for lunch, what we almost bought in a store, or what dogs we’ve seen in the past few days!

  136. SuzyQ says...

    Risking a comment without an auto thesarus; I am a Dane, 51 years (!) and thus remembers before and after the mobile/cell; and may not have the habits of the younger(!) generations:)
    Still loves to talk on the phone with friends (bff) – have had the most meaningfull and enlightning conversations with my best girlfriends; not being able to see each other makes the tone of voice, speed of talk so much more meaningfull/indicative.
    But texting w my husband is sooo much better than a phone call – dispite he does have the BEST voice on the phone (really what I fell for)

  137. Emily R says...

    I still love chatting on the phone (I’m 37). The woman who wants her mother to text before she calls makes me so sad!

    So many of my closest friends live far away, and although I email and text daily, a few times a month a phone call is the best.

    Agreed with Alexandra about phone calls in my dating life. It’s nerve wracking at first – but really, so sweet!

    Plus, you can’t cry over text!

  138. AJ says...

    Mum, once or twice a day; sister once a week; partner and small handful of close friends- will call if want to check something quickly, locate them quickly, etc, but proper phone chats with friends aren’t frequent these days. Can totally relate to this though, it’s weird how we’ve become anxious around personal phone calls. I used to chat non-stop with friends after school! We’d have been at school together all day but still somehow had things to discuss!!! But now… so strange. Is it out dwindling attention spans?!

  139. fmbe says...

    This fear /dread of awkwardness is a plague. Grow some whatevers and CONNECT with each other. Talk on the phone, smile at strangers, make small talk in line instead of burrowing into your phone. You are missing out on LIFE!

    • Emily R says...

      YES!

    • Amy says...

      To avoid the dread I try to focus on the person I’m calling ( what did they tell me they were doing at the weekend? Can I ask them about that at the beginning? ) and not another thing for me to be self obsessed about (oh no! I might sound like an idiot. etc.) because all that thinking about me and how I come across gets in the way of actually enjoying the chat! And I love a good chat! Like most things when I actually do it the awkwardness fades into the background and I’m laughing away, sucked in for hours!

    • jules says...

      THIS!!!

  140. Steph says...

    This is so accurate! My friend asked for a girls number last year…and gasp…called her to ask her out the next day. Her friends STILL make fun of him for doing it, but we’re from the phone call generation (they’re in their late twenties and we’re 35) and I think it’s so great that he did that instead of text. Also, my boyfriend loves to chat when we’re apart, even if its for 10 minutes, and I think it’s sweet, even though we text throughout the day.

    • Lora says...

      My husband is the same way, Steph. He always finds time to call me when he’s traveling. It never gets old.

    • Essss says...

      The first time I spent time with my now husband he picked up the phone and invited me instead of texting. I was so impressed. Obviously it worked, since we’re married now.

  141. I personally really love talking on the phone. I have better relationships with people when they do, too. The only hard part is I recently moved to the West Coast and my friends and family are on Central Time! It’s hard to coordinate an appropriate time for us both! :'( My number one favorite person to call in the world is my grandmother. She can talk for hours and gives me updates on all our extended family! I love her to death!

  142. Carol says...

    I am in my mid 20’s and also love phone calls if they are from the right people! My ex boyfriend used to call me pretty regularly, even though we lived in the same city. I thought was so charming and personal. It was also much less anxiety producing than wondering how long to wait before texting someone back, or trying to think of something witty to say in the text message. In other words, it was much easier to just act like myself. I don’t do a proper phone call per se with my new boyfriend, relatives or friends but when we are due for a catch up it is almost always over FaceTime.

  143. Amy says...

    I used to dread talking in the phone. There were so many potential pitfalls: would I talk out of turn; how would the person know I was listening (did I need to make hm sounds the whole time?); what if I said something sarcastic but it came off as mean because the person couldn’t tell my tone see my body language? As I’ve got older and lost a little of that insecurity I’ve come to love talking on the phone. Texts and WhatsApp endlessly punctuate my day but often feel like they’re just a conversation in my own head, and I don’t give the person at the other end enough of my time. I like that I’m less polished on the phone and more silly (no chance to edit myself to be more witty/coherent!) .

  144. Kara says...

    I’m 30, and I do talk on the phone, but it’s a planned thing with long distance friends. We schedule phone dates like you would a coffee date. It’s very formal, including a check-in text the morning of, to make sure the timing still works. The only person I talk to casually on the phone is my mother, and that’s because she’s in her 70’s and its just how she operates. She’s the only person who leaves me voicemails, and they all start with her reminding me that I still haven’t recorded a custom greeting.

  145. Lora says...

    I’m 47 and live in Louisville. My only sister, a few years younger, lives in Chicago. While we text daily (mostly applicable-to-our-day movie or Seinfeld quotes), we like to catch up over the phone at least 2-3 times a month. It’s therapeutic to actually hear her voice instead of reading her words.

  146. Jules says...

    I talk to my mom and two sisters on the phone every day, in addition to texting. Most days I talk to my dad and best friend (who I text every day) too. I FaceTime more with my three brothers.

    I like talking on the phone with people I’m close to, but when I’m chatting with an acquaintance, I often feel awkward and like we talk over each other a lot.

    I make other calls when I have to, but have never liked having to call businesses, haha.

  147. Alexandra says...

    I’m 23 and I love phone calls! I call my family every week and my best friends almost as often. I went to college in St. Louis but after school ended most of my friends scattered all over the country (and even world) for jobs or grad school. Phone calls (and sometimes FaceTime/Skype) are a great way for us to stay connected and remain a big presence in one another’s lives even if we’re far away in distance. I’ve also found that I like phone calls in my dating life too; things feel so much easier and more straightforward over a phone call rather than text.