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Have a Fun Weekend.

Have a Fun Weekend

What are you up to this weekend? I’m thinking about taking the boys to Beauty & the Beast, which they’ve been begging to see. Have you seen it? Did you love it? (Also, do you think it would be too intense for two slightly-easy-to-scare little guys?) Hope you have a wonderful weekend, and here are a few fun links from around the web…

How to pack for a trip. (Busted.)

This lovely film about a young girls’ questions made me smile, but this film about her little brother made my heart split open.

Whoa, a house completely covered in ice.

Friend idea: A nap hangout.

So, don’t kill the messenger, but… scrunchies are coming back.

Career questions from Friends, Jane Austen and Gilmore Girls.

Would LOVE to try this eucalyptus scent.

The surprising secret weapon of the best basketball players.

Scary things often don’t turn out to be that scary.

A secret to a happy relationship: Reinvent date night.

Digging this rug.

Plus, two great reader comments:

Says Emily on a very easy dinner party: “Anything looks fancy once you put it on a platter. I have a friend that sliced a Snickers bar and laid the small squares out on a silver plate – everyone went nuts for it.”

Says Katie on describing your family: “Jaclyn, I’m so glad you commented about your divorce – you are not alone, even though it might feel like it sometimes. I’m so sorry you’re going through this right now. My parents got divorced when I was 17, and it was very hard. We go through it, though, and I am happy to say 20 years later that my parents are happier apart and I am so close to each of them individually. That’s why I defined my family growing up with the words ‘passionate and perseverance.’ Surviving a divorce is no small feat, and hugely rewarding, sooner or later. Keep reaching out and staying kind to yourself. It’s okay to feel raw and tender. Sending you a big hug and lots of love from Oregon.”

(Photo by Jenna Park. Scary link via Swissmiss. Ice house via Girl of a Certain Age.)

  1. LT says...

    I saw it, I loved the original in middle school. Way to intense for little ones. Mine is 4.5 and is years from being ready to see it.
    It was charming for me tho!

  2. Betsie says...

    Love that rug! A friend of mine recently launched a rug business – she sells rugs that she buys directly from dealers and artisans in Morocco, Afghanistan, and Iraq. They are amazing! http://www.safiavintage.com/

  3. Tyler says...

    Ha! my bestie and i used to always nap together.

  4. We skipped on taking Luna to watch Beauty and the Beast because I think it would be wayyy to scary for her. She’s already going through the whole—I am scared of everything so I am climbing into your bed every night! We don’t want to add to that conundrum! haha! Did you end up taking the boys?

    xo Lendy
    http://www.twoplusluna.com

  5. Kate says...

    There’s nothing like accidentally taking a nap with a friend to cement the fact that you were destined to go through life together as BFFs. My dearest girlfriend and I have taken multiple naps together throughout our friendship and I imagine it’s what having a sister is like?

  6. Love Katie’s quote on her family’s experience with divorce. My parents divorced when I was about 1, so I didn’t know any better or different than what I grew up with — two mature, cohesive yet independent, parents. It was the ultimate example of seeing through your commitments.

  7. Andrea says...

    I have spotted scrunchies on the teenage girls I volunteer with. Also choker necklaces :(

  8. melissa says...

    How funny!! The house covered in ice is the town I live in; it has been a crazy few weeks here! That house is a few minutes away from ours. We had a devastating wind storm, then a blizzard which left the house you see covered. I love the beauty of nature even during such devastation. THank you for sharing this link. xo

    • Marissa says...

      I grew up in Webster! This reminds me of the ice storm in ’91, one of my earliest memories!

  9. Polly says...

    Not just scrunchies, but the ones you are picked out are VELVET. bleh. Though I’m not sure amazon is the proof of high fashion…

  10. Janine says...

    I saw Beauty & the Beast yesterday, and a little girl who looked about 3 years old began crying during the Gaston-Beast fight towards the end. However, the row of small children behind me were really into it. I guess it’s a crapshoot, but you know your little ones better than anybody, and if you’re concerned, then maybe wait for it to come out as a digital download.

  11. Ciara says...

    I was dead set on bringing our two boys (aged 6 and 4) to see Beauty and the Beast but ended up going to an evening showing first with friends and I was SO GLAD I didn’t bring them. Our boys are used to watching cartoons and were fine watching the animated version but haven’t watched many live action with scary scenes. I think the Beast at the start would have really scared him, as well as the wolf scene and (spoiler alert! haha!) when Beast is shot at the end. I was dreading telling them that I thought it’d be a bit too scary for them but when I told them they really didn’t mind that much. Turns out there’s plenty more fish/movies in the sea. Hope that’s helpful!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      yes, so helpful to hear! thank you so much xo

  12. Lyn says...

    We use the app common sense media when we are thinking about watching a movie. It Has been incredibly helpful in choosing movies. It gives ages based ratings and tells parents what they think we should know about the movie. It even provides questions to discuss after viewing!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      thank you so much, lyn!!

    • Laura C. says...

      We went to see “Kong: Skull Island” last Saturday and I had to look away in some scenes. There was a family of four near to us and their yougest seemed to be 7 or 8 years old, and he didn’t look very well at the end of the movie. I hope he didn’t have nightmares. I wonder why some parents don’t get informed before.

  13. I took my 7 year old niece to see BB and do not think it’s too scary for kids. But I am of the mind that a little scariness in movies is not a bad thing for kids.

  14. Shonna says...

    I took my 6 year old daughter to Beauty and the Beast. We had prepared by watching every clip and preview I could find. She’s really sensitive, and the movie was definitely scary but we made it through and she enjoyed it.

  15. Rachel says...

    Why do the houses on either side of the ice house not have ice on them? The trees are bare as well. Seems like someone did that to the house on purpose.

    • Lauren E. says...

      That ice house is in my hometown! So funny it’s been making the rounds in the blogosphere. For all the skeptics, it’s entirely possible a huge wave came and hit the house and that’s why it’s the only one on the block covered like that. They also had 80+ mph winds a few weeks back which would’ve added to the extreme nature of it.

  16. Mallory says...

    We were able to see Beauty and the Beast last weekend and it was such a wonderful film! I grew up loving the original animated version so I was really excited to see it with my two girls, ages 6 and 3.5. Overall, I loved it! I did think the end fight scene between the Beast and Gaston was much scarier than the animated version. My 6 year old was crying quite loudly during the fight scene and after the film declared she didn’t like the movie because of it. That surprised me. Gaston uses a gun in the live action film and it’s very loud and intense. It is a quick scene but I was disappointed how scary it was, it felt too real to be in a movie that was intended for a more general aged audience. I wish I had a heads up about that part so I could have prepared them. I kept telling her she knew how it ends and the Beast doesn’t die, but she was pretty distraught anyway. Just wanted to share that from one mom to another!

  17. I am dying of curiosity about that ice house! why aren’t the other houses around it also covered in ice? Is it abandoned with no heat? did someone spray a hose on it during a cold snap? So many questions!!

  18. I am actually happy to hear scrunchies are coming back. They look great with natural curl, so I’m in!

  19. Jess says...

    I LOVE these posts! As always, thanks for curating such a fun and thoughtful list of weekend reads.

  20. I just bought a 2-pack of scrunchies – navy and black waffle knit cotton – and it has brought me such joy for less than the cost of an iced coffee. 10 years of off-limits hair accessorizing will make a girl forget just how darn NICE they are! They don’t tangle after a sweaty yoga class, they don’t put dents in my hair, they look adorable on my wrist when not in use, and they don’t get lost like the sea of black elastics, orphaned throughout my home (and car, and work…). Haters gon hate.

  21. Hannah says...

    Every time I show up to my hair appointment with a regular hair tie around my wrist my stylist immediately throws it away and tells me to buy a scrunchie already. They’re better for your hair! I have held out until now, but might have to cave!

  22. jlhbhat says...

    Lots of great links, as usual! The Ask a Manager ones are very interesting, and I wonder if you are including them because you are now managing a team, and learning how to be an effective leader? Whatever the reason, thank you for sharing them. The pieces of “deathbed advice” from last week (I think it was last week) were especially good. Also, I always think that tips about managing people can be applied to how one parents kiddos.

  23. Mallory says...

    Comment 2 so perfectly encompasses the community this blog has created! When my day feels overwhelming, I read this blog. It is, however, the reader comments that keep me supported throughout the day – late at night, I can check back and read more. So grateful.

  24. Jenn says...

    From the perspective of a fellow “slightly-easy-to-scare”, I grew up scared of Beauty and the Beast until I was about 12 or so, haha. I think this real life version would have been even scarier for 5-12 year old me. The scenes they added for backstory are not happy and a bit dark and would probably leave an impression. Maybe wait for it to come out on DVD so you can watch it in your living room in a brighter setting or fast-forward if they’d like? Sometimes the setting makes all the difference over what is or isn’t scary! I did love how true to the animated version it was and thought it was much, much better than the Cinderella remake!

    • I so agree with this. The wolves, which are incredible and so important to the story, immediately came to my mind as something I’ll have to shoo away at bedtime for my easy-to-scare 8 year old. The cinematography is exquisite and amazing on the big screen, so if covering eyes can work….

  25. Cait says...

    My mom never stopped wearing scrunchies, haha! Not sure I’m going to pick it up….
    I can’t wait to see Beauty and the Beast, but I know I won’t be showing it to my five and three year old yet. My oldest is scared of almost every movie, which makes family movie night, her favorite new tradition, really hard!! We have an impossible time finding kids movies that are not even a tiny bit scary. The newer ones are all intense and the older ones are dark too. And we’ve made the terrible mistake several times of watching something my husband and I hadn’t seen before, with a hopeful guess that it would be ok, only to end up with frightened kids and appalled parents! Just for the record, the Postman Pat movie is SCARY!! Yikes. That was a mistake. Last night we watched the original Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory, and they absolutely loved it, though we should have covered their eyes in the tunnel scene.
    Anyway, I’m just now feeling that my five year old could handle watching the animated Beauty and the Beast with me….even then I know she will be nervous, but she knows the story and I think she will love it over all. The live action would terrify her I’m sure.

  26. Jean Page says...

    Watched the 2 films which I loved, but the one about Teddy and Emma was so moving, and I found myself crying as I watched and listened to the narration of Emma and her mother, but not because I felt sorry for them, but because of how clearly Emma loved Teddy and of how they interacted with each other on the film and how happy Teddy appeared when Emma played with him. Then as the piece ended, and the scenes were of Teddy playing in the leaves and of close ups of his sweet little face, I realized I no longer had tears running down my face, but had a huge smile plastered there instead. Loved the questions of the girls’ on the first film also!

    • Cheekie says...

      Oh i felt just as you described and then forwarded it to my sister a paediatric chiropractor

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      yes! jean page, i felt the same way. i loved how well she knew him and how she was so unquestioning and unconditional xoxo

  27. Driving to the coast to take photos, it is a beautiful day today in NW England, finally some sunshine and blue skies.

    • Emily says...

      Well that just sounds lovely!!

  28. Beauty and the Beast is such a great movie. I still can’t get over it. The soundtrack is on repeat.

  29. Kara says...

    My 5 year old boy who loves scary anything definitely put his jacket over his head multiple times. However the intense/scary moments never lasted too long. That said we didn’t stay for the entire movie because we went to the 7:30 showing which was a rookie move on my part. My only regret is I didn’t get to see the entire thing!!

  30. Theresa says...

    The video about Teddy and Emma was absolutely beautiful in so many ways. Loved it!

  31. Holly says...

    Oh my word the nap hangout ?? my best friend and I did this all the time as teenagers. It was just a given that at some point while hanging out we’d both crawl into bed and pass out for a bit. Our parents would call around looking for us and someone would find us asleep every time. Now I’m 30 and have a toddler and a newborn and those days seem like the epitome of luxury. I’m all for reinstituting the nap hangout ANYTIME ??

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      hahahaha that sounds awesome!

  32. Mei says...

    Just saw Beauty and the Beast today and it was so good! I even liked the new songs. It was long (~2 hours) and there are three scary scenes (two wolf scenes and final fight scene) that would probably be scary for under 8 year olds…however they’re short enough that they could maybe cover their eyes?

    Also I’ve definitely seen scrunchies around! Might be tempted…

  33. Kat says...

    Hi Joanna, I just saw beauty and the beast and I think it’s definitely for the kids. A little kid scary but I don’t think they should be too spooked.

  34. I think Beauty And The Beast might be a bit scary for T & A… but if you do take them to see it, let us know how it goes!

    A nap hangout sounds like a fun idea… daytime naps really are the ultimate luxury after all!

    http://www.thislifeisbelle.com

  35. Kathryn says...

    The last time I had a nap hangout I ended up with drool all over my shoulder. It was not my own drool.

  36. Ellen says...

    We saw Beauty and the Beast this week and loved it! I honestly think it’s too scary for kids 8 and younger. My daughter is 11 and she was scared at some moments. I agree with the fact it’s not animated it makes it more realistic which is more scarier for little ones. If your boys are scared easily don’t take them!

  37. We just came back from seeing the movie tonight. My three year old son, after the wolf scene: “That was awesome!”
    My seven year old daughter: “The movie is scary!” But she said she felt better after the ending.

  38. Sara says...

    My husband and I played hooky today to see “Beauty and the Beast.” I’m so glad we didn’t take our 8 year old, who doesn’t scare easily at all. It was too dark and, yes, scary. Ages 10 and up, I would say.

  39. Eva says...

    I went to see it today with my three kiddos (7,6,4) who all scare easy, even in animated movies. There were definitely some slightly scary parts that made them jump a little but they didn’t leave thinking it was scary. It was beautiful and so so amazing so I think maybe thst over shadowed the slightly jumpy parts

  40. Beauty & The Beast was absolutely incredible! Everything about it was enchanting – the scenery, acting, dancing and singing. I loved it all. I do think some of the scenes might be a little scary for your boys, it was a little dark in places, the scenes with the wolves and the horses but anything with animals can get to me. One of the best movies I’ve ever seen…. and I’m 54!

  41. Kattia says...

    I went to see you and I have a 3.5 year old not that easy to scare boy & I wouldn’t take him. Too scary for preschoolers!

  42. Scrunchies?! And that rug is delightful… but the price of rugs always has me looking like the shocked emoji. I hope if you do go to Beauty and the Beast, that it’s only a lovely experience!

    http://www.thewefiles.com

  43. Katia says...

    I adore that eucalyptus deodorant! It works like nothing else I’ve ever tried, never leaves marks on clothes or pits, and smells lovely! My husband steals it sometimes, too. It is so worth every penny. Oh, and it lasts forever.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      good to know, katia! your comment pushed me over the edge. #ordered :)

  44. My boyfriend and best friend have both come to my house to “nap hangout” and are both asleep as I read this article.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      awwwwwwwww :) :) :)

  45. Christine says...

    Took my daughter who is a week younger than Anton and she enjoyed it. The original is her favorite movie so we went after a friend gave me her opinion after seeing it. I think some of the scarier parts went over her head (based on the original movie, Gaston is her favorite character because she thinks he saves the Beast at the end!!). A few times I thought the wolf scenes were too scary, and I could hear her making noise, then realized she was quietly howling like a wolf. I think Toby could be scared by more parts because he’ll have more awareness – they added a few new scenes, all of which are scarier/sadder than the original. Since my daughter is so familiar with the original, I kept reminding her that the end was the same and everyone would be fine. That said, she was VERY scared by the Pirates of the Carribean trailer that aired before the movie. I thought we were going to have to leave before the movie even started.

  46. Julie says...

    Oh my goodness, I had such a visceral reaction to that little falling illustration on The Non-Consensus. The idea that the beginning and fear of something unknown is way,way worse than the actual unknown thing rings so true! Definitely bookmarking that for future anxiety-inducing, but in reality probably not actually scary, decisions!!!

  47. You always have the best round-ups of links! Don’t have time to look through them all now but coming back for sure. ;) That cut up snickers on a platter comment is hilarious and – to be honest – GENIUS.

    Happy weekend!

    http://www.wonderlandsam.com

  48. cynthia says...

    Scrunchies!? Just no. There are many things from the 90’s that just do not need to come back. As a 45 year old I have plenty of embarrassing pictures of wearing those many years ago and it was just not a good look..

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      omg how awesome!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      hahahaha i don’t remember that scene! good call :)

  49. Vicki says...

    Ewww, scrunchies.

    I really found that the live-action B&B was creepy, not magical and sweet. A real-life talking clock, as it turns out, is pretty eerie. Same thing goes for a spiderwebby, dilapidated castle. Gaston and a mob of angry, frightened townsfolk? Super frightening! I was thinking about taking my own kids and decided against it: it’s just not a good enough movie (in my opinion, and compared to the original) to merit the ticket price! The absolute best part (and this part is completely swoon-worthy and heartbreaking and all it should be) is when the Beast watches Belle ride freely back to her father, and he sings about how she’ll never actually leave his heart– and (who knew?) he sings in this delicious, manly, rich voice that made my knees all wobbly. So … probably not a high point for your kids. Maybe Toby, he sounds like a romantic :)

  50. angela says...

    Too scary. Extremely loud. Dull autotuned performances.

  51. J.C. says...

    I took my 9 year old daughter to see it in 3D last weekend and it was A-MaH-Zing. She wasn’t scared at all but actually wanted the Prince to turn back into the Beast at the end! My husband couldn’t join us and now wants a special date night with our daughter for a second showing. If you are concerned, then I definitely wouldn’t recommend the 3D movie for the little ones. But go and be transported. One of the best of Disney! Enjoy!

  52. Hannah says...

    Hi! I highly recommend watching this video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lEmVZfChzuQ by a woman with a deformity. In it, she references Beauty and the Beast in addition to other books, movies, and media. The discussion revolves around the trope of villains as deformed. Really insightful!

  53. Oh man I am shocked people are saying the B &B wouldn’t be scary for Toby and Anton. There was a ~7 year old girl next to me who leapt — whimpering — into her moms arms multiple times and I kept thinking “that kid is going to have the worst nightmares.” It’s dark! And violent at times.

  54. Kate says...

    I feel like a “nap hangout” was suggested at some point in college and I woke up with a boner in my back and hot breath on my neck.

    • Leslie says...

      HAHA yes – best comment award.

  55. Interested to get input on Beauty & The Beast. My 6 and 4.5 year old boys scare really really easily too…

  56. Hillary F. says...

    We need to fight those scrunchies like we did the ACA repeal.
    #resist

    • Robin says...

      Ha. Amen sister!

    • Colleen says...

      My golden rule: if you’ve already worn a trend in your lifetime, say no. The 10 to 20 year old’s can rock it.

  57. Becca says...

    <3 the links this week! My Brother, Teddy was so moving. Annnnd printing out the scary things cartoon to put near my desk at work to look at when i have to make phone calls home to my students' parents.

  58. Laura C. says...

    Scrunchies are coming back?? No they don’t, they’re trying to, but no way José (at least here, they are showing up every season but actually I don’t see them out there on ladies’ ponytails (and I thank God for that!)

  59. A nap hangout?! That’s awesome! Kind of like the “grown-up” version of building forts ;)

    xo, Sofia
    http://www.thecozie.co

  60. Erin says...

    Oh hell no! (scrunchies)

    • Lauren P. says...

      Ha! My exact response.

  61. Robyn says...

    I saw the movie last weekend with my 8 and 10 year old nieces and we all loved it! I considered being my 4.5 year old son and I’m glad I didn’t – it’s scarier than the original (especially in a theater setting) and I think it would’ve been too much for him.

  62. Katie H. says...

    Beauty and the Beast was wonderful, and probably ok for your slightly-easy-to-scare little guys. There are a few scary parts where the wolves jump out and try to attack first Belle’s father and then Belle later in the film. You may just want to be prepared for those scenes. As always, thanks for the links… perfect end to my Friday!

  63. Rebecca says...

    Scrunchies???? Well I’m willing to try!

  64. Hi Joanna! Happy weekend and happy spring! ? I haven’t seen Beauty and the Beast yet, but I want to. The original is one of my favourites from back in the day! Can’t wait to hear your thoughts.

    Thanks so much for sharing that link on leaving the 9 to 5 behind. I have met sooooo many people who are going that route lately! And before I clicked that link about the house covered in ice, I thought “this must be in Canada” ha.

    Enjoy your weekend!

    Donna

  65. Susheela says...

    I saw Beauty and the Beast — It’s visually stunning and fun to see it brought to life if you grew up with the animated movie, but it’s stuck pretty close to that original Disney movie (though there are some kind of weak attempts to rationalize some bad behaviour), so a lot of the messages are, uhhhh, somewhat questionable, haha.

    But it could be a great way to start a conversation with kids? I’m not sure.

  66. Diana says...

    I took my 9 year-old daughter to see Beauty and the Beast and we LOVED it! That being said, some kids were crying towards the end. The fight scene between Gaston and Beast were kind of scary and dark. Some kids were screaming. So you might want to cover their eyes?

    • Laura says...

      I don’t know why while I was reading this comment I thought, “oh no! spoilers!” as if I didn’t already know the entire storyline hahaha.

  67. eg says...

    I eat PB&J for breakfast sometimes and it helps me win national championships* as well!

    (*not necessarily in basketball or anything anyone besides me is aware of, but still).

  68. M says...

    Beauty and the Beast is super not scary, the only part that I could see being scary was the wolf chase scene, but that lasted all about 2 minutes. And I definitely loved it (I’m 23!) – Dan Stevens is HOT! lol

  69. Katie says...

    I went to see Beauty and the Beast with my mum on a trip home. I thought it was fun and sweet (perfect nostalgic mother-daughter fare), but perhaps a bit too scary for little ones. My son is two and I think, depending on the child, it might be better to wait until 7 or so.
    The film kept quite faithful to the Disney animated classic. Do you remeber those scenes in the darks woods on horseback and Belle/the Beast being attacked by wolves? They are all there, but feel much scarier because it’s real people and not animation.
    Having said that, they are fairly brief and some kids might not be bothered. The rest of the film is quite light and there is nothing else inappropriate.
    Just my two cents, but if you do end up taking the boys I hope you enjoy it! :)

  70. S says...

    My 6 1/2 year old love Beauty and the Beast but was a tiny bit scared at moments. My 3 1/2 year old would have been scared, but I think only because it is “real life” and more realistic for him – he loved the Lego Batman movie and wasn’t scared at all…

  71. Kirsten says...

    That comic about scary things cracked me up and made my Friday. I just made the decision to walk away from a graduate program to pursue something totally different, and that link illustrated the exact feeling that I had walking out of my advisor’s office yesterday after discussing it with her! I spent so much time worried and terrified and imagining terrible scenarios only to walk away feeling amazing and silly about how much I had been worrying…

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      congratulations, kirsten!!!!!!!!! :)